Support Groups - Slow Dancing With A Stranger {4} A Holiday Dance

12-23-2011, 08:31 AM
Hi Everyone :wave:
After much consideration, I have decided to start a thread for a unique group of losers.
Consider the following scenarios. If more than one apply to you, this just might be the thread you've been searching for:

:yes: This diet/lifestyle change is such a slow process for me, even losing 0.5 lbs or 1kg is a struggle.
:yes: I am frequently changing up different foods in my plan because what I ate worked last week, but it's not working this week.
:yes: One week, I ate everything on plan and gained weight, but another week I pigged out and LOST! WTH??
:yes: I've been at a plateau for so long, it's my new middle name!
:yes: I do ____ for exercise, but my body becomes used to the workout, and I am frequently having to switch up my routine to continue to see results.
:yes: I have been On Plan for so many days/weeks/months without seeing a downward scale movement, I'm ready to QUIT!

Well, before you rush right off and toss your stilettos, platforms, pumps, or boots in the closet, come have a "Slow Dance" with me! I often feel like I am a stranger in my own body, because I am constantly having to change up food and exercise and my scale still doesn't budge. This is not a challenge, but more of a daily accountability, support group, & learning experience all rolled up in one!

I will start a new thread every 10 days to reflect progress, accomplishments, and/or set backs! Feel free to post food choices, exercise routines, motivational words of wisdom, or anything else you feel lead to share.

Disclaimer: If you lose weight quickly and easily and have it all figured out, this is NOT the thread for you!

So, without further adieu....
May I have this dance?

12-23-2011, 08:50 AM
Well, with 2 days before Christmas, I would have loved to say I made the healthiest/wisest food choices and rocked my abs like never before!
However, as most of you know, that is soooo far from the truth!

Instead of a loss for Christmas, I got TOM!
This is not a gift! This is a MENACE, except of course, it could be worse! TOM could have skipped out all together for a few months, and we all know what that would mean...oh yeah, things could defo be worse!

Anyway, my mom is coming today and bringing my 7 yr old nephew. We are going to have so much fun baking! I am going to allow him to help me make some magic bars for gifts. :ginger:
Yesterday, I made Peanut Butter Balls ( and tasty--but not something I'd rush right out and order for myself, but AWESOME for gifts!

I decided to throw a "Holiday Dance" into the title of this thread this time around, b/c we will be going thru New Year's with this thread. :yay:

As the year wraps up, what are your goals? Have you set any?
I'd just like to lose this 1.8 lb water balloon TOM brought. I'd like to get back to my exercise routine. I'm realistic and optimistic at the same time. ;)

Happi Friday to each of you. This may be my only post today!

12-23-2011, 07:37 PM
A very Happy and Merry Christmas Everybody!

Best wishes for the New Year as we all continue our journey together.:hug:
Take Care of yourselves, you deserve to be well and healthy.

I will try to check in by Monday if not sooner.

12-24-2011, 09:38 AM

We had our family xmas dinner. went VERY well. No drama! It was actually very pleasant. Yikes!

My damage was 2200 cal! I am fine with it. It could have been worse. I ate a ton of chips and guacamole (750 cal worth)....The rest I ate in moderation and had nothing alcoholic to drink.

I am not weighing in today. -- I am trying to cut my unhealthy relationship with my scale

Happy Christmas to all!

12-26-2011, 01:14 PM
Hello Everyone, I hope you had a good Christmas.

I'm feeling a bit sad at the moment. I don't want to post in the depression thread, mainly because I dont post much on the boards anyway, unless I have something positive to say. I feel like this thread is my group so to speak and I know we all go through difficuties.

12-26-2011, 04:07 PM
Hello, everyone. Just found this thread and it seems to apply to me. I am a very slow loser, with lots of plateaus that can last months! It's very easy to get discouraged, especially when I see people on here with stats similar to mine, except they did it in 4 or 5 months instead of almost 2 years, like me! I am worried that I will never get to my goal weight due to impatience and self sabotage.

forloveofself - I can't really advise you, because I was never good at the dating game myself. However, the only litmus test you can use is yourself. Are you comfortable with yourself? Do you like yourself and your life? If you answer yes to all those questions, you are in a healthy place to start a relationship and see where it goes. If the answer is no and you are looking for someone to "fix" things in your life or make you love yourself, than you are better off being single until you can love yourself without the assistance of someone else. That's all the advice I can offer...

12-27-2011, 12:33 AM
Hi everyone :wave:

I've too had an emotional past couple of days--days where I've wanted to drive myself over a cliff. I think it is in part to this time of year.

LoveofSelf: I am going to have to agree with Guacamole (welcome, btw to our thread). Instincts or not, you are only able to be in a positive, loving relationship if you love yourself first. If you are looking for someone to fill a void in your life, it probably will not happen, as people often leave us discouraged at times. When you look at the other person, ask yourself these questions: Would I seriously marry this person? Are they quick to forgive or do they hold grudges? How do they handle conflict? Are they explosive or do they put a new meaning to the term "silent as the grave"? What is their love language? If you don't know, I'd highly recommend the book by Gary Chapman (Free Online Test (
There are certainly other questions to ask, but this is a great starting place. I feel as though our Creator created us to be in relationships with other people and to live at peace with people as much as possible. And, although relationships are difficult and risky, so is most everything else in life.

12-27-2011, 10:29 AM
Hello Everyone,
Welcome guacamole and thanks for your input.
K9O sorry about your emotional upheval. Emotions get us every time, don't they.

Thanks so much, I appreciate all of you here.

12-27-2011, 01:24 PM
Went home to my parents for Christmas. Has a big NSV the other day. Tried on a jeans I wore in high school, which no longer fitted me last Christmas I was home. Guess what?--- The pants fit me this Christmas, albeit a little tight, I could zip them up while last year I couldn't pull them over my tighs.

I've allowed myself to eat and drink whatever I want during Christmas. (21-31 December) To me this is a lifestyle change and I know that during my post goal weightlife I will allow myself to eat and drink whatever I want during Christmas. However, tomorrow morning I'm leaving for a week-long skiing trip in the mountains and I figure that 6 hours a day skiing should be fun activity, but also will burn some calories.

When I way in January I will probaly have gained a kilo of weight.

2011 was like several of you have written about in this thread---not the best year of my life. Therefore I would like to wish us all a better and happier 2012.:carrot::carrot::carrot::carrot::hug::hug::hu g:

12-29-2011, 12:51 PM
Hi All :wave:

I have been such a slacker for the past couple of weeks. No exercise, 1/2 tracking my food, and not being accountable here :stress:

I figure we will all get back into the saddle next week after New Year's Day. I'm seriously not stressing too much. I haven't weighed, but what's the point when I haven't exercised? I've been eating maintenance calories, not more than 1800-2000 per day--some days way less. But, I am seriously ready to get back into the swing of doing Spike with Jo.

On a great note, as a Happy Birthday/Merry Christmas to myself, I signed up to run the Country Music 1/2 Marathon April 28 in Nashville. So, begining January 2, I will start "Training Mode" w/Hal Higdon! :carrot:
I'm excited and nervous, but I have many friends who are doing it with me, so it should be a great time. I am just praying for "NO INJURIES"!

Hope you all are having a fantastic week. Miss you all bunches!

12-29-2011, 08:54 PM
Almost 2012!!

Husband and I have been doing great what comes to walking outdoors. During the last 7 days we have clocked nearly 35 miles. Over 3000 cal :)

Eating has been totally OP as well. -- I have not been very hungry, which feels great :D I have consumed between 1100-1450 each day.

scale shows no great drop but I am within days of Dear TOM.

Krystal that sounds like fun!! It is always motivating to do it with others.

What are your new year's plans my fellow dancers? -- we have 3 party invites, but I may stay at home. I am doing so well...I don't want to ruin it with junk food and alcohol. -- Actually I have not had anything to drink for 6 weeks or so, and I decided to take year 2012 off, wine has been my downfall...and all those calories.... So staying at home sounds nice to me :)

12-30-2011, 09:26 AM
Official weigh in day; 155. Down 0.5 pounds. I take that! Especially right after x-mas and a few days before TOM :D -- I am expecting a nice swoosh after TOM :) :)

Plan for today;

Keep tracking all my food (as I have) and keep it well balanced and under 1400 calories.

Walk; 6.75 miles through snowy woods ~ calories burned over 600.

Everyone have a fab day!

12-30-2011, 11:13 AM
Official weigh in day; 155. Down 0.5 pounds. I take that! Especially right after x-mas and a few days before TOM :D -- I am expecting a nice swoosh after TOM :) :)

Plan for today;

Keep tracking all my food (as I have) and keep it well balanced and under 1400 calories.

Walk; 6.75 miles through snowy woods ~ calories burned over 600.

Everyone have a fab day!

This is fabulous news!!!
But, where did you find 6.75 miles worth of snowy woods???

12-30-2011, 12:49 PM
For my birthday weigh in, guess what I got??
If you guessed: "Plateau"
You are RIGHT! :carrot:

Hovering 148.8

Geaux Me ;)

12-30-2011, 10:49 PM

12-30-2011, 10:51 PM
We had a nice amount of snow here in Michigan! -- Towards the end of the walk rain all looks yucky! Son is steaming mad -- he wanted to snowboard on new year's eve with his friends as he has done so for the past 3 years...

12-31-2011, 10:49 AM
K9O, belated Happy Birthday!

Happy New Year Everyone, I hope all your HAPPY dreams come true.:cool:

12-31-2011, 11:49 AM
Thank you ladies for my birthday wishes. I had a very nice dinner with family and DH. We went to Benihana--a Japanese Steak house. My FAVE restaurant here in town.

I vowed, promised, and committed to myself that I would NOT binge--and I wouldn't have....UNTIL the waitress brought cinnamon gelato! :drool:
I left a couple of bites in the bowl, but omgoodness was it ever GOOD!
I haven't eaten that much in months--literally!!

:newyear: So, it's NYE!! How is everyone spending it??
I haven't decided yet--yeah yeah I know, it is mere hours away, but with Christmas, I am just NOT feeling "it". I will truly be glad when Monday is here! I am ready for my RL to resume!!

12-31-2011, 09:04 PM
K9O Happy you had a nice birthday celebration.:D

Small non scale victory during a difficult week. I went shopping at Old Navy for blue jeans and tried on the Sweethearts, not only does the size 12 fit, but there is room in the waistband. Hoorah me!:carrot: Not quite a size 10 yet, but getting there. I know there is nice muscle under this belly fat, so just a matter of time.

Have been maintaining this week, only one day when I went over maintenance calories and carbs which was Christmas Day. I had lemon pie, my only real carbs that day, but as you know, white sugar and white flour is a double wham! So a total of 2500 cals that day.
I ate lunch out today, did pretty well and just had soup and tuna sandwich with cheese for dinner, so still a maintenance day. Will try to do better in New Year.
If you pray please pray or send good vibes for my beloved friend MG who suffers from seasonal depression.:(

Again, Happy New Year!

01-01-2012, 04:11 PM
forloveofself Nice victory! -- I am just fitting nicely into my 10's, but I still wear some 12's.

Krystal Sounds like a very nice birthday!

:newyear: to all


We just walked 6.8 miles thru woods. All snow is gone, but it was definitely easier to walk.

I have stayed OP. -- I splurged with tortilla chips (and melted cheese) a few nights ago, but I had burned over 600 calories walking that day and my total calories still managed to stay below 1700 for that day. -- It was my pre TOM craving. -- TOM came for a visit this morning; I am hoping to see a nice drop on Friday's weigh-in :)

I am quite proud of myself for staying OP. It has been a month with OP eating; except X-Mas meal; which was planned off plan day anyways.

Everyone have a FAB day :D

01-01-2012, 08:02 PM
My calorie level is 1400. Today I started 2012 off by eating 2450 calories.
If I keep this up MFP said I'd weigh 3 kilos more in 5 weeks.

And I'm so unmotivated right now. I just want to stay in bed and eat cookies and drink soda all day.

01-01-2012, 09:42 PM
LoveofSelf: Praying on your friend--MG's-- behalf to Christ for His perfect peace and healing.

Kristiina: Awesome job on al that walking, gf! That's just great! And also, WTG on staying OP over the holidays. Funny the things we can accomplish when we set our minds to it!

Isabella: :hug: I hate you have lost your motivation and spark! I hope you get back on track with the new year! You can do it!!

01-02-2012, 02:27 AM
Well, I ate an entire 13 oz. bag of tortilla chips on NYE (I was VERY hungry and my sisters and I had just returned from shopping for NYE goodies). But, then I felt nauseous the rest of the day (couldn't even drink sparkling cider at midnight) and vomited the previous day's contents at about 7am on New Year's Day. I've also been having tummy troubles at my other open end all New Year's (TMI!). Either my stomach was not used to me consuming so many carbs/chips at one time or that bag of tortilla chips gave me food poisoning. Either way, I don't think I will be doing that again any time soon.:joker:

01-02-2012, 09:42 AM
princessgina00 My husband has not eaten sugar nor gluten for 6-8 weeks now. He ate some chocolate, and the sugar really did a number on him. He was in a lot of pain. -- The same thing happened with grain; he had not eaten any bread for 3 or 4 weeks, at that point and had some, he felt nauseous for quite some time.

I guess our bodies are trying to tell us that these things are poison.

I have been off sugar as well. -- I have only gotten 2-5 g added sugar per day (I love italian salad dressing, etc)... I must say, I feel really good and eating OP has become very easy, because I don't have those sugar cravings any longer.

I hope today you have a better day :)


I woke up to a cold morning. Today we are walking a bit less; 5.2 miles :D I will miss my walking buddy once H goes back to work. It has been so wonderful to walk with him each day.

My weight is up :( H keeps saying that I keep shrinking, and my scale does not make any sense. -- I am on my 2nd day of TOM and once I get these hormones off my system, I am hoping that my scale actually shows how my clothes feel. -- I lost 2" of my waist this last month. About 1" off my hips. So I know it is coming off even though the number has not gone down that much. -- My legs feel and look stronger. I guess by walking 92 miles in one month, I built some muscle and shed fat.

Where is Alaska and Jo? Did they say that they were vacationing?

Everyone have a FAB day :D

01-02-2012, 10:01 AM
Hi Kristiina :wave:
As far as I know, Jo took a couple weeks off & Alaskan is out of school/wrk until Jan 4 (I think). But, remember the 3FC site doesn't work @ her house for some reason. Same probs we discussed before!
I'll be glad when everyone returns so the party can continue!
Oh, & 92 miles!! U go girl!! :running:

Larry H
01-02-2012, 02:49 PM
Hi Everyone!!:carrot:

I have been having a lot of trouble posting . The web page keeps crashing :?:

A disasterous holiday season sees me up by 15 lbs :dizzy::(:?::dizzy:
Current weight is 225 as of this morning.:o

I am back on plan!! I just came back from my first bicycle ride since my bypass surgery back in April. My legs feel like rubber but I managed to ride 5 miles out in the Florida sunshine. I feel really good about accomplishing that and it gives me a point from which to increase my distance.


01-02-2012, 05:12 PM
Gina: :hug: I hope you feel better really soon!

Larry: Water weight is tough on you! Hopefully you'll be able to shed those lbs with ease. You've done this before, you can definitely do it again!!

01-02-2012, 07:01 PM
Ate 1317 calories today. Stayed on plan.
I'm still at my parents' house, I tried to jog but it was so slippery outside I ended up not doing it.

Larry: 15 lbs is tough.
K9Owner: thanks.
Sum38: It's possible to lose inches but not weight.

01-02-2012, 07:50 PM
Isabella, I'm glad you had a good day today. We all must do it one day at a time
Larry, Better days ahead I'm sure
Sum I know what you and your DH feel with the nausea from sugar. really bad stuff!
princess I hope you will soon feel better
K9O, thanks for your prayers, the clouds are lifting for MG

Talking of sugar my visual of my weght loss is equal to three 5lb bags of the white sugar I no longer (or very little) eat anymore. Or same of white flour.
What's your visual?

Hello to anyone I may have missed, and thinking of the missing

01-02-2012, 10:27 PM
FF Cheese Omelet: 187
Boxed Cereal :nono: , skim milk, tuna ball, crackers, Chili Cheese Dip & chips :nono: :801
BBQ Smoked Chicken, 1/2 c coleslaw, 1 c Roasted Cauliflower :drool: :345

Total: 1333
1/2 Marathon Training :running: ~396 (My Polar HRM malfunctioned)
Water: 88oz :carrot:

New Thread will start tomorrow morning. I sure hope to see some of our regular members by the end of the week! Miss you all :hug:

01-03-2012, 12:02 AM
Thanks for all of the well wishes. I am no longer nauseous, but my tummy troubles continue. The weird thing is that even with all of the water loss from yesterday, the scale still registered a 1 lb gain this morning.

Larry - I completely understand the 15-lb holiday weight gain. I've gained about 10 lbs in the last two weeks. I do not contribute this to fat gain, since I fit my clothes the same and my sister's scale is rather wonky (I lost one pound after washing my hands). I'm hoping the weight will quickly vanish once I return to my natural habitat.

Sum - why are you walking so much? It's unnatural! ;) And, congrats on the inches lost. I love losing inches! They equal new clothes' sizes.

K9 - good luck with your half marathon training. I once had dreams of running a marathon. They quickly vanished, so I will live vicariously through you.

I'll be glad when the holidays are over (although, technically they are). I've had enough "quality" family time to hold me over until next Christmas.

01-03-2012, 08:04 AM
:lol: princessgina00!! I set a goal to walk 1000 miles this year, and since I am a tad bit obsessive; that means I want to clock 1400 miles :wink: -- I love walking, and my time with husband alone on those walks are precious! -- He is back to work :(, so I have to walk just with my pup all week. I loaded some "books on "tape" " on my phone, and I will listen to those whilst I walk. I love the definition that my legs are getting.

I sneaked a peak on my weight this morning. I am not supposed to be a slave to my scale, but I could not help myself this morning. New low; 154.5 in a LONG time. I am excited!!

I stayed OP all day again yesterday; total calories were 1314. I was a tad bit low and snacked on Macadamian nuts and slice of cheese to get out of 1050 calories...yum!

Larry, nice to see you back...hope that water weight leaves you soon!!!!

Plan for today;
1200-1400 calories
walk 5.25 miles (outside in the woods)
light upper body weights (3 sets of 5 different exercises)

Everyone have a FAB day!!

01-03-2012, 11:17 AM
Here's the link to the new thread!
Slow Dancing With a Stranger {5} (