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gagalu
12-20-2011, 11:57 PM
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i feel really insecure -- almost more so than when i was 100+ lbs heavier, because at least then i knew for a certainty that i was fat. i still feel fat, but i have family members telling me they think i'm getting too skinny and i'm a size 10 now, and i thought that i would look and feel so much smaller at that size.

i'm just so confused! i honestly feel humongous, but i can now share clothes with one of my best friends who i've always thought was tiny. it's freaking me out! maybe it's the loose skin, or maybe i'm "skinny fat"?

i thought i'd feel better after having lost a lot of weight, and i do a little, but i still have very little self esteem and i guess this is all compounding into a bigger issue because i got a profile on a dating website a while back at the behest of my friends because i'm moving to ny, and i started talking to a guy on there and we were gonna meet this week because i'm spending xmas break here but now i feel like backing out because i just feel so HUGE and like it'll be disappointing or awkward. so, idk, i don't know what to do!

wow, that was ramble-y. i'm sorry, i'm just so effing nervous and i don't feel like i have anyone irl who would understand any of these things in the least! i guess i just don't really know how i look in relation to other people anymore, and it's really freaking me out. i don't know how others perceive me, and i don't trust my friends or family because, well, they're friends and family! it's their job to lie to me, loool.

idk, i guess i just thought my mind would be caught up with my body by now. i feel so fat at 166 lbs, but i'm only 7 lbs overweight. that doesn't seem like a lot to me because of how much i've already lost, but that's a lot to normal people, right? DGHAJ

this is so frustrating!!! can anyone else relate?


Lambiechop
12-21-2011, 12:01 AM
I think you look great!!!

BeachKitty
12-21-2011, 12:09 AM
I wish I could relate haha. Girl you look AMAZING!!! Listen to me you are far far far from being huge. Your waist is soooo tiny! What you're dealing with is only psychological. I wish I could help you out more than telling you my honest opinion though. Your family is not lying to you at all.


Alwaysbeenbig
12-21-2011, 12:12 AM
I think that you look wonderful and that all the hard work that you have put into getting yourself healthy has definitely paid off. As to your question "do I look normal?" I would say yes.

I think that with weightloss it can often take a long time for your head to catchup with your physical changes and this is why it is so important to have a strong, stable and honest support network.

Mommywannabe
12-21-2011, 12:46 AM
OMG you look amazing! We're about the same height and I hope I look half as good as you do at 166!

fitterchick160
12-21-2011, 01:13 AM
You are absouletly beautiful! It's all mental, you mind can't always process whats in the mirror and remember you are rocking' that dress!

redlight
12-21-2011, 01:37 AM
You look fantastic!!

Mimzzy
12-21-2011, 01:42 AM
You look flipping fantastic! Holy crap. In all honesty I know how you feel, at 135 I still feel huge and disgusting. I can't see much of a difference in my body and everyone else seems to be able to. It really bothers me so I can feel your pain but you look so thin! Its so amazing!

JohnP
12-21-2011, 01:57 AM
Is part of your problem that you're comparing yourself to some ideal image in your head?

From a male perspective I'd say you most certainly look normal and then some.:D

January Snow
12-21-2011, 02:03 AM
First, I have to agree with everyone else in saying that you look great. I was really glad that you posted some pictures because I'm pretty much your measurements only shorter (lucky me). Sometimes I feel like a bit of a freak being this curvy. I'm so glad you posted some pictures because I can be a bit dysmorphic, and it was a good reality check to see what my measurements actually look like. If you're like me whether or not you feel "fat" can depend on what body part you're focusing on. It's tough for me (and probably you) to find clothes that fit, and I often have to size up to accommodate my hips which doesn't exactly make me feel good. Anyway, I think part of the body images issue you're having might be linked to being an atypical body shape.

Also, you're definitely not "skinny fat". What you're probably seeing as fat is just excess skin from losing tons of weight in a relatively short period of time. For what it's worth, I would have guessed your weight to be in the low 150s, so you don't look "overweight". If you're ever doubting the amazing progress you've made, pull up your before and after side-by-side and step back and look at them as you would if they were someone else.

So are you "normal"? No, definitely not. The average woman is no where near as hourglassy as we are. Fortunately for us, our body type is generally considered guy hot. I've been this body shape for my entire adult life, and, trust me, (most) straight men dig curves. I've also found that men often overlook a few extra pounds on a woman who's waist to hip ratio is still low especially if she's also...ahem...well-endowed. So don't worry about what this guy's going to think. If he's like the majority of men I've encountered, he's going to probably going to think your body rocks.

Unna
12-21-2011, 02:16 AM
I wanted to ask the same question as JohnP: what does your ideal in your head look like? (seriously, I am interested in your answer).

jayohwhy
12-21-2011, 02:37 AM
you look hot.

gagalu
12-21-2011, 02:52 AM
wow, guys! thank you all so much for the kind words!! i really needed that pick me up.

@Unna and JohnP - now that you mention it, that's definitely a part of the problem. my mom and sister were tiny when they were my age -- like size 3-5, and i really admire that body type. my hips are so big, though, i will probably never be smaller than a 6-8! i know that's a tiny size and i'd never look at a size 6-8 or even 10 and think, "wow, they're big girls", but i think i'll still feel like one because i'm not living up to my imagined ideal. maybe i'll grow out of it? :)

@January Snow - i am DEFINITELY like you!! i fixate on my upper arms and thighs, because they really are large in comparison to my torso, wrists, and ankles. it makes me feel so weird and huge focusing on those body parts, but i feel better remembering that my waistline is the same measurement as my size 5 roomate. thank you a lot for everything you said!! your post in particular made me feel sooo much better, probably because you know exactly what i'm talking about given the similarities in our measurements!

indiblue
12-21-2011, 03:18 AM
@January Snow - i am DEFINITELY like you!! i fixate on my upper arms and thighs, because they really are large in comparison to my torso, wrists, and ankles. it makes me feel so weird and huge focusing on those body parts

I'm totally the same, and learning to be okay with these proportions! It's nice to be reminded this is just one of many, many very normal body types right? :)

Unna
12-21-2011, 05:37 AM
gagalu: I think it is okay to fantasize about having a particular body weight/size - it gives you something to shoot for.

At the same time, don't forget that, objectively, you have a very nice figure, and you don't look one pound overweight. The majority of the population would say : she looks healthy and has nice proportions.

So, keep aiming for more and trying to reach your ideal, while, at the same time, being really happy with what you do have! Hope that makes sense!

kykaree
12-21-2011, 05:50 AM
You look amazing. If you were walking down the street I certainly wouldn't think "oh she must have lost weight" you look like you've always been skinny.

A strong strong word of advice, work on that headspace or you are going to gain your weight back. I lost 60lb a few years ago, was convinced I didn't look any better, and I've gaines 50lb of it back.

It is hard when you've always been a high weight to realise when you've "made it", so work on it.

You are here honey, this is what thin feels like. Confusing, and a bit unsettling, but you'll get used to it!

sacha
12-21-2011, 07:17 AM
OP, I've maintained for 8 years. The truth is that sometimes we believe losing the weight will "fix" the image problems. We are so focused on the scale # that we think it is the cure. It is not. When overweight, we can never understand why "skinny" people feel they have flaws - why would they? They are skinny? There is no reason to have any flaw. Well, that train of that is flawed too :) The truth is that it takes a long time to grow into a "new" body.

There are days I feel "fat". I have loose skin on my stomach from my baby, I will never wear a bikini despite being a size 4. Most maintainers have some hang ups (and I don't know any of them that don't). Weight loss does not fix self image. It helps, but doesn't fix it. What fixes it? I suspect body acceptance and time most of all - I don't know many old grannies that are too obsessed with their looks, it takes time to realize how much wasted energy is put into that.

Remember how subjective this all is. For example, I am 30lbs less than you, yet I look at your picture and all I can think is "gee, if I had a shape like that I wouldn't complain! I wish I had nice hips & boobs!" - perhaps you would look at me and think "gee, I wish I was ....... like her". We all nit pick.

And go on the dates, I promise that men won't complain about how you look!

runningfromfat
12-21-2011, 07:44 AM
You look amazing!!!

I agree 100% with January Snow. I'm also curvy (well, more of a big bust now, since I've lost a lot off of my hips, but my butt is still hanging in there! :lol: ) and I too carry a lot of weight in my arms to the point that a top will fit everywhere but there. :mad:

Check out the blog http://www.thinandcurvy.com/, I started looking at blogs for other curvy women and it REALLY helped with my body image (and now I write one myself). At my highest weight I had actually forgotten about many of my body image issues when I was younger because I was so focused on being fat. However, as a teen I remember realizing that I'd never be "thin" in the sense that I'm large framed and have a large bust/butt no matter what I'm not going to look like a waif at a small weight. That being said I can still look great but I need to take special care to find clothes that fit my body type because when you have a large bust/bottom and a small waist you can't wear baggy clothes otherwise it adds a lot of pounds. Then again every women has her "issues" with her body and has certain body parts in mind when dressing that's just the way of life.

I do think there are definitely those out there who don't understand the difference between curves and weight. It doesn't help that plus-sized women are referred to as "curvy". I know I've even had a doctor tell me recently that I was "really big" (at 14lbs overweight). Then there's this philosophy the curvy women should just be happy buying up sizes even though it doesn't fit anywhere else. The confusion is incredibly frustrating and lacks a very basic understanding of body types. I find it great that many companies are starting to recognize this and you can now find curvy jeans and companies like Pepperberry and BiuBiu exist where you can buy shirts/dresses according to your bust size. Definitely a step in the right direction.

Ok, after all that rambling, I wanted to say hold your head high. You look great and you've put in tons of hardwork! Many women would love to have your body type. I'd suggest taking measurements and lots of pictures to help you get a realistic body image in your head. Also maybe look at pics of other curvy celebs (Sophie Vengoria and Christina Hendericks) to get a better idea of what you want to look like at your goal, comparing yourself to someone like Gweneth Paltrow (for example) is just going to frustrate you to no end.

JessLess
12-21-2011, 07:47 AM
You don't just look normal, you look hot!

berryblondeboys
12-21-2011, 08:42 AM
Gagaula. You look great and you do not have 30 plus pounds to lose. I've looked at your 130 weight for a 5'7" woman and was worried for you about that number.

It is hard to be a bigger girl in a family of tiny women, but that is because we get fixated on sizes and numbers on the scale. Women are funny in that way. But really a larger framed person looks just as thin or good at a size 8 as a small framed person looks at a size 3. It's all about how much fat is covering the bones versus muscle.

And I'm sure saggy skin is part of the insecurities. It looks like fat, but it's not. And... It will continue to shrink up. I'm noticing that even on my 42 year old body and you definitely should on your much younger body. It just takes time for the skin to catch up with the Rest of the body.

sontaikle
12-21-2011, 08:45 AM
First off, you look hot! :D I would have to agree that maybe you don't need to lose 30lbs. What is your frame size?

I think some of the problems with losing weight is that we get this image in our head—maybe we think we'll look like a swimsuit model—and it's hard to get out. We keep chasing that ideal or we keep chasing a number on the scale without stopping and realizing what we've already achieved. Take lots and lots of pictures and compare. I'm betting that just taking this picture and looking at it that you were shocked! Does the you we all see in the picture match the you that you see in your head?

Also, I know how you feel. I'm a smaller size than one of my friends who I always thought was skinny (she's a size 6, I'm a 2/4) and yet I still feel huge sometimes. It doesn't help that I have broad shoulders so sometimes I have to go up on tops :/....

When I was 200lbs I always imagined myself as a small, physically fit person. Just before I hit my goal weight I looked in the mirror and couldn't help but stare for 10 minutes or so because I realized that I had reached what I had pictured myself as. I never pictured myself as a swimsuit model, but rather as a curvy, physically fit person...so why was I trying to get to a perfect body anyway? :joker: I don't even know. I guess sometimes we're chasing something we've already caught.

ArtyKay
12-21-2011, 10:31 AM
You look amazing!! Congratulations on the loss. I agree with everybody else that this weight looks really good on you. I mean, if you want to go lower that's your choice to make, but maybe you should take a maintenance break first and give your skin and your mind time to catch up with your body?

You have such a tiny waist and such a nice shape!

And you definitely look much smaller than a size 10, IMO.

fruitlooper
12-21-2011, 01:00 PM
This site has probably been posted a million times here, but you should probably check it out mybodygallery. I'm not allowed to post links yet, but it's easy to find.

I have lost a substantial amount of weight over the years and have a very warped image. Once in awhile I head to this site to give myself a wake up call and remind myself I really do look normal.

fruitlooper
12-21-2011, 01:03 PM
And I also meant to say, you look awesome. You look much better than normal, you have a smoking body!

Make sure you make men treat you right. I was a disaster with men once I started getting attention from them, I wasn't used to it and I went a bit crazy for awhile. I'm not saying you will too, just be aware of it. :)

Daimere
12-21-2011, 01:29 PM
A strong strong word of advice, work on that headspace or you are going to gain your weight back. I lost 60lb a few years ago, was convinced I didn't look any better, and I've gaines 50lb of it back.
Word. I still felt like I was a fat person condensed and I gained it all back....well most.

gagalu
12-21-2011, 07:47 PM
goodness, seriously you guys, words are not enough! your input has helped me out in more ways than words can possibly express.

@Daimere and the member she quoted, you two are both definitely right! i lost 100 lbs in high school and gained it all back for those very reasons. that, and i wasn't ready to face at the time that i had an honest to god eating disorder. now that i'm aware of it, i've learned how to deal with binge eating and i've a much healthier relationship with food because of it. if i gain any back, it definitely won't be all 100+ lbs again, and i'm going to try very hard to make that none at all! i love my new body, and i love all of the clothes that i can wear now!

@runningfromfat thank you for the link to that blog! i can definitely relate to those posts! especially the clothing guides. i think one of the problems i'm having is how IN baggy clothes are. urban outfitters and american apparel both have so many gorgeous baggy styles, and they stick them on rail thin models, and i'm just so disappointed that my body will never look like that in those clothes! i guess i'll just have to deal. :)

@berryblondeboys when you're right, you're right. i've been struggling with that goal number for a while now. that number is more just an ideal, and i think i've been considering it because i'm terrified of maintenance. weight loss, i can do, but i regained everything the last time i hit "maintenance" -- granted i didn't even have a concept of what maintenance was the first time around! but, i'm thinking i'll be a lot more realistic with it. people irl will ask me when i plan on stopping, and i tell them around 140-145. that number is much more realistic, especially since i want to work on acquiring more muscle!

runningfromfat
12-22-2011, 07:40 AM
No problem!!! Oh, and I actually just recently posted a guest blog (http://hourglassy.com/2011/12/weight-loss-with-curves/) complaining about all the loose tops out there at the moment. :mad: Ugh!

I have found that those blogs (and if you go to my blog listed in my signature I have a ton of links to other curvy blugs) have helped so much with fashion advice, finding brands that works well with my body and self-confidence in general. At the beginning of my journey I was really strong considering a breast reduction when I reached goal and now my mind has changed quite a bit! I still am thinking about a breast lift because I have A LOT of loose skin there but I'm much happier with my actual size. Ditto for my big butt too! :lol:

ICUwishing
12-22-2011, 08:23 AM
gagalu, congrats on your hard work and success! I suggest spending a little time on the Maintainer's forum. We have threads about body image after weight loss, handling relapses, the "fat clothes" issues, and lot of other great advice on the "Now what?" Lots of cool chicks over there and even a couple of roosters. :)

Lyn2007
12-22-2011, 12:09 PM
You look AWESOME! Girl, if I saw you in the mall I would think "what a lucky girl with a figure like that!" I would never in a million years think you had a weight problem. Congratulations, you look amazing!

FatDude
12-22-2011, 01:10 PM
From a guys perspective you look great! The problem is that society hyper-idealizes that a size 2 is where women should be. I think that's total crap. You need to be where you feel comfortable with yourself. I think it's fantastic that the readers of Esquire recently voted Christina Hendricks the most beautiful woman. I agree. She is curvy and beautiful and not a size 2. Give it a little time and you will grow to love your new body. 100 lbs is a huge achievement you should be proud!

sontaikle
12-22-2011, 05:26 PM
No problem!!! Oh, and I actually just recently posted a guest blog (http://hourglassy.com/2011/12/weight-loss-with-curves/) complaining about all the loose tops out there at the moment. :mad: Ugh!

I have found that those blogs (and if you go to my blog listed in my signature I have a ton of links to other curvy blugs) have helped so much with fashion advice, finding brands that works well with my body and self-confidence in general. At the beginning of my journey I was really strong considering a breast reduction when I reached goal and now my mind has changed quite a bit! I still am thinking about a breast lift because I have A LOT of loose skin there but I'm much happier with my actual size. Ditto for my big butt too! :lol:

Running, I really want to thank you for posting links all over 3FC like this :) I've found some great resources because I've evolved into a curvy hourglass shape and I've found it increasingly frustrating to dress myself, especially since I lost another inch off my waist.

From a guys perspective you look great! The problem is that society hyper-idealizes that a size 2 is where women should be. I think that's total crap. You need to be where you feel comfortable with yourself. I think it's fantastic that the readers of Esquire recently voted Christina Hendricks the most beautiful woman. I agree. She is curvy and beautiful and not a size 2. Give it a little time and you will grow to love your new body. 100 lbs is a huge achievement you should be proud!

Um. I resent that. I'm size 2 sometimes and I consider myself curvy and beautiful. :/

EVERY woman is beautiful. It doesn't matter if she's a size 2 or a size 22.

runningfromfat
12-22-2011, 07:25 PM
sontaikle- I really glad it's helped someone! Sometimes I wonder if I'm being a bit annoying but understanding my body type, what bras to wear and how to dress has helped so much with my own body image and confidence I can't help but share. :D

Renwomin
12-22-2011, 08:10 PM
Gagalu,

Honey, you are HOT! Personally, to me you look like you are at your ideal. If you lost much more you would lose some of those beautiful curves.

EMBRACE YOUR CURVES!

They are part of what makes you gorgeous, womanly, appealing, and sexy. I really hope and pray you can accept the fact that your curves are a plus not a minus. It really saddens me to see beautiful women pushing themselves to lose more and more weight when often they look their most appealing 10+ pounds heavier then what they have benchmarked as their "ideal". Especially when it can be so much harder to maintain a super skinny weight.

sacha
12-23-2011, 08:42 AM
Augghhhh this again! SOME OF US DON'T HAVE CURVES! Please stop reminding us that our natural bodies are nto sexy!

InsideMe
12-23-2011, 09:54 AM
Honey I'm gay and your HOT. You need to see how beautiful you are on the inside and out. Concentrate on the parts you love about you and go from there. You have a rockin' body! And you look so much smaller than a 10! Really!

ArtyKay
12-23-2011, 11:45 AM
Augghhhh this again! SOME OF US DON'T HAVE CURVES! Please stop reminding us that our natural bodies are nto sexy!

You tell 'em! :frypan: All bodies are sexy, curvy or otherwise. :hug:

I'm pretty sure I'm going to lose my curves when I lose the weight, and I used to be scared of it...I think it was one of my excuses not to lose weight...I didn't want to lose my boobs or hips. But you know what? I hate the extra fat that comes with it.

Healthy is sexy, no matter what shape it comes in.

Renwomin
12-23-2011, 12:45 PM
Augghhhh this again! SOME OF US DON'T HAVE CURVES! Please stop reminding us that our natural bodies are nto sexy!

Sacha, it isn't my intent to say that without curves aren't or can't be sexy. Sexy is just as much about attitude and people are drawn to different body types.

The reason I am so passionate about this issue is that almost everywhere we look US media/entertainment/magazines are trying to push the idea that being anorexically skinny is the ideal. Perfectly gorgeous and slim actresses are being told that they need to lose weight to get a new role. Models are walking skeletons down the runway. Images in magazines are highly photoshopped to make woman look different from what they really are no matter the size.

There are plenty of women out there driving themselves to an "ideal" that is just as unhealthy or moreso than being overweight.

Skinny does not = healthy. There have been studies shown that moderately overweight people who exercise are healthier than "skinny" people who do not. People can be perfectly gorgeous, attractive, appealing, and healthy at something beyond a size 2. After a certain body fat percentage it is more about personal aesthetics and less about health.

I just wish women would be kinder with themselves in general. That they stop obsessing over trying to make themselves too skinny. Especially when they look perfectly gorgeous and can be absolutely healthy at size much larger than a "2". Their is a happy medium healthwise in all this and we can have ideal health at a wider range than people realize. Woman are also certainly attractive in a much wider range as well.

So when I tell someone to embrace their curves and how appealing they are, it isn't an attack on people who are skinnier but a plea for people to not push themselves to an extreme societal "ideal". It is not my intent to make anyone feel bad about the body God blessed them with.

NellaBella
12-23-2011, 05:39 PM
You look gorgeous and I mean it! I can totally relate to what you are saying though. I've always saw myself much bigger than I was,no matter what weight I was at.

Honey,you are skinny!! And you are working that dress!

sarcruze
12-23-2011, 07:59 PM
U look SMOKIN HOTT girl!!!! I would love to look like that in a dress. Go out there and rock ur new hott self.

PrairieGirl
12-24-2011, 01:32 AM
You look amazing! You seriously have nothing at all to worry about, I would give anything to be your size and I'm sure a lot of women would agree!

sontaikle
12-24-2011, 09:32 AM
Sorry to hijack this thread, but...

Sacha, it isn't my intent to say that without curves aren't or can't be sexy. Sexy is just as much about attitude and people are drawn to different body types.

The reason I am so passionate about this issue is that almost everywhere we look US media/entertainment/magazines are trying to push the idea that being anorexically skinny is the ideal. Perfectly gorgeous and slim actresses are being told that they need to lose weight to get a new role. Models are walking skeletons down the runway. Images in magazines are highly photoshopped to make woman look different from what they really are no matter the size.

There are plenty of women out there driving themselves to an "ideal" that is just as unhealthy or moreso than being overweight.

Skinny does not = healthy. There have been studies shown that moderately overweight people who exercise are healthier than "skinny" people who do not. People can be perfectly gorgeous, attractive, appealing, and healthy at something beyond a size 2. After a certain body fat percentage it is more about personal aesthetics and less about health.

I just wish women would be kinder with themselves in general. That they stop obsessing over trying to make themselves too skinny. Especially when they look perfectly gorgeous and can be absolutely healthy at size much larger than a "2". Their is a happy medium healthwise in all this and we can have ideal health at a wider range than people realize. Woman are also certainly attractive in a much wider range as well.

So when I tell someone to embrace their curves and how appealing they are, it isn't an attack on people who are skinnier but a plea for people to not push themselves to an extreme societal "ideal". It is not my intent to make anyone feel bad about the body God blessed them with.

You know that may not have been your intention, but whenever people start throwing around the whole "CURVES ARE BEAUTIFUL" mantra, it ALWAYS excludes women who don't have curves or women who are naturally skinny!.

It's one of the reasons why I dislike when people throw a size out there "You don't have to be a 0 or a 2!" like it's a bad thing to be those sizes. While I would never in my life thought I would be on the other side of this debate, I can wear a size 2! It really bothers me seeing statements that use my size to compare what "too skinny" is. Look at my goal post if you want some comparison, I'm not skinny, I'm not anorexic looking, I'm actually quite curvy and healthy looking and at the high end of the healthy BMI for my height! I'm short! We look different at those smaller sizes :/

Rather than tell women that they don't have to be a certain size or that curves are beautiful, we should tell women that they are all beautiful. Whether they are curvy, skinny, fat, thin, big breasted, small breasted, apple, pear, banana, hourglass, size 0, size 18...they are all beautiful!

No woman should feel ashamed because of her size, no matter what end of the spectrum she falls on.

Thighs Be Gone
12-24-2011, 09:35 AM
Photos help alot. Also, keep a couple of items of clothing from your highest weight and put them on from time to time. Sometimes, wrapping your head around your new body takes a while. It also takes a while to decide exactly where you want to be weight wise--time and experimentation.

Renwomin
12-24-2011, 01:46 PM
Sorry to hijack this thread, but...



You know that may not have been your intention, but whenever people start throwing around the whole "CURVES ARE BEAUTIFUL" mantra, it ALWAYS excludes women who don't have curves or women who are naturally skinny!.

It's one of the reasons why I dislike when people throw a size out there "You don't have to be a 0 or a 2!" like it's a bad thing to be those sizes. While I would never in my life thought I would be on the other side of this debate, I can wear a size 2! It really bothers me seeing statements that use my size to compare what "too skinny" is. Look at my goal post if you want some comparison, I'm not skinny, I'm not anorexic looking, I'm actually quite curvy and healthy looking and at the high end of the healthy BMI for my height! I'm short! We look different at those smaller sizes :/

Rather than tell women that they don't have to be a certain size or that curves are beautiful, we should tell women that they are all beautiful. Whether they are curvy, skinny, fat, thin, big breasted, small breasted, apple, pear, banana, hourglass, size 0, size 18...they are all beautiful!

No woman should feel ashamed because of her size, no matter what end of the spectrum she falls on.

I don't believe this would be fair to continue here so I will keep this short. Just because someone says one thing is beautiful doesn't mean that they believe other things are not. Again, my intent was to not offend anyone else that doesn't look like the OP, but to make her embrace how beautiful she is NOW. When someone says that one thing is attractive or appealing it isn't an attack on everyone else. The defensiveness on both sides (myself included) likely stems from society trying to force on us an "ideal" that only includes a certain percentage of women.

luciddepths
12-26-2011, 04:14 PM
Smokin! and i LOOVVVEE the sweater/dress!

JanessaFaith
12-26-2011, 05:11 PM
You look fantastic! We have a similar start weight but I'm 2 inches taller. You show me its possible to get there!

I'm also loving all the responses on here! Its interesting to see how many people still have body issues after such significant weight loss. I know I look a **** of a lot better than I did, but I still have a gut that won't go away and am starting to notice flab on my arms and thighs. I'll always have flaws but I know that its better to be healthy!

Keep up the great work, and I hope you go on that date!

KatieC87
12-27-2011, 12:41 AM
This site has probably been posted a million times here, but you should probably check it out mybodygallery. I'm not allowed to post links yet, but it's easy to find.

I have lost a substantial amount of weight over the years and have a very warped image. Once in awhile I head to this site to give myself a wake up call and remind myself I really do look normal.

Thanks so much for listing this site here! I had never heard of it, and it's definitely a reality check to see women with the exact same stats as me. Awesome!