Pregnant - Nursing - 5 weeks along and my parents want me to stop excercising




fattymcfatty
12-05-2011, 03:25 PM
How can I put some babyboomers with their 2nd grandchild on the way at ease with this? I want to be more active with this pregnancy, I want to keep running on the treadmill until I am no longer comfortable doing so. I'm at their place eating dinner and they both say, "Don't you think you should stop running since you are pregnant? We don't want you to pull something or hurt yourself".

Ugh. I told them how exercise is great during pregnancy and that I want to stay active, but I could tell they are seriously paranoid.


Ashley777
12-05-2011, 03:40 PM
Congrats on the pregnancy, after I had my son I joined a gym he was 4 weeks old and one of the arobics instructors was pregnanat and taught classes right up till the very end. This was in the 80's when arobic were in full swing and that meant alot of jumping and running inplace kinda stuff. And there was a story not to long ago of a lady who ran some big marathon in the U.S and gave birth afterwards.

peanutt
12-05-2011, 04:07 PM
Congrats! I would reassure them that I had spoken with my doctor/midwife/trainer/whatever applies and was working with them to ensure a safe and healthy pregnancy for both you and the baby. Maybe give them some of your biggest reasons for wanting to stay active and healthy (feel better, stronger, recover quickly after birth, etc) so they can understand a bit better where you're coming from.

Wishing you a healthy and happy 9 months!


Glory87
12-05-2011, 04:16 PM
If they are uncomfortable with it, can't you just stop telling them about it? Or say you're walking at a nice pace on the treadmill?

sacha
12-05-2011, 04:35 PM
I trained with weights until I was 41 weeks with my first.

I did nothing (literally bed rest) with my 2nd and lost it at 10 weeks.

A healthy baby is a healthy baby.

Research has shown that reasonable exercise is completely safe. It's even shown that strenuous exercise is barely a risk as well (not that I'm advocating anything outside your 'norm' but to illustrate how strong a healthy fetus actually is).

Since it's #2 for you, I guess you are well aware of people always butting in their opinion as suddenly your body/choices/baby are all their business now too! Do what you feel is right and what is good with your doctor.

And of course congrats on the new baby :)

Emme
12-05-2011, 05:01 PM
I would just not tell them what kind of exercising you are doing...my parents would be the same way. I run and plan to run until it is uncomfortable, but I probably won't tell my parents that I'm running. My dad told me he saw a pregnant woman running a few months ago and he almost told her to stop because it could be harmful to the baby...yeah, I don't need to deal with that. :)

zenor77
12-05-2011, 05:21 PM
Why do they need to know? You're an adult. That said...It used to be thought that exercise was bad during pregnancy, but times have changed. If they keep pressuring you, maybe take your Mom to an OB/midwife appointment? That way your provider can put her mind at ease and she can tell your Dad what they said.

My midwife pushed exercise when I was pregnant and walking wasn't enough. She wanted me doing enough cardio to sweat. The only thing I was told to stay away from were exercises that were a fall hazard. No bike riding, horseback riding, skiing, team sports, roller skating, etc.

Running is fine and you should do it as long as you are comfortable.

fattymcfatty
12-05-2011, 08:01 PM
Yeah, right now I do keep it to myself. The reason they know about it is that they have been over/stopped by when I've been on the treadmill (they were early getting here on Thanksgiving morning and I was just about done when they arrived). I definitely plan to keep it on the downlow and just tell them I'm doing a brisk walk on the treadmill, etc., if they ask.

I told them my nurse practicioner reccommended me to run up to the due date and was giving me info on a belly band support device for mothers so I could run in the final months and their jaws about dropped! They can't believe someone would tell a pregnant woman to run or do any excercise.

I told them I might do some swimming (I am a former competitive swimmer) and my Dad completely freaked out. I chuckled and told him he doesn't have to worry about the baby drowning in the pool. He didn't think it was funny...

Goddess Jessica
12-06-2011, 01:14 AM
See, I am a bad daughter... I would just keep talking about it to drive them crazy...

Emme
12-06-2011, 11:32 AM
I told them I might do some swimming (I am a former competitive swimmer) and my Dad completely freaked out. I chuckled and told him he doesn't have to worry about the baby drowning in the pool. He didn't think it was funny...

That. Is. Funny.

butterflymama
12-07-2011, 04:19 PM
Yeah my grandmother is still convinced the prenatal aquafit I did during my first pregnancy is why my daughter died. Ignoring the fact that everyone else in the class went on to have healthy babies and my son was perfectly healthy even though I did aquafit, yoga and ran (in the first trimester) with him. Oh and the fact that she had a genetic mutation that caused Spinal Muscular Atrophy which is the reason her lungs didn't develop properly.

I find it very insulting that people would think that I would purposely put my baby at risk. Seriously I research everything I do and confirm with my midwife the safety before I do anything in my pregnancy.

I was waiting to convince my son because I was training to run my first 5km run but i met with my OB who delivered my daughter and he told me not to put of conceiving and that it was perfectly fine to continue running in pregnancy. I was 9 weeks pregnant when i ran my first 5km race. I couldn't push myself as hard as I could not pregnant and it was hot so I didn't get my best time but I finished it in an ok time and I felt great. I stopped running at 11 weeks when I almost fainted when out on a run. I planned to go back to running in my second tri but lost my motivation.

Anyway I think you got good advice. The only other thing I would suggest is just sitting down and having a very serious talk about how you would never do anything to harm your baby and you have done all kinds of research and confirmed with your Dr. the safety of exercising, incl running, and until they can provide you with factual evidence as to why you should not exercise during your healthy pregnancy then you are done discussing it with them.

Good luck.

shcirerf
12-07-2011, 07:31 PM
The pool comment was funny!;)

You probably won't convince them, though for the life of me I can't figure why people get so worried. What did the pioneer women do? Or even further back in time than that? Bite stick, have baby, sweep cave, butcher mammoth.

Those babies are in their pretty darn good or the human race would not have survived this long.

kirsteng
12-07-2011, 08:07 PM
I had a high risk OB with my first pregnancy... which is kinda funny considering that I went on to have another baby the next year plus one at almost 41 years old at home with a midwife.. but I digress.

I had the high risk OB because I was 35 with my first baby, and also that I'd had thyroid cancer 3 years previous and had my thyroid removed. So my doctor was the cadillac in my city.. very young, very intelligent, VERY careful with his moms-to-be.

I was an exerciser, despite being obese in my pregnancy, and had been for a long time. I went to aerobics and jogged 3x a week, and the other 3x a week I lifted light weights. My doctor had no misgivings regarding my exercise level. He said if I was already doing it prior to pregnancy, then absolutely no problem. Don't stop. The only caveat was to keep my heartrate under 150 bpm, which is actually pretty high anyway.

I exercised right up until the week I delivered, including weights, and I delivered a healthy 7 lb 1oz baby at 40 weeks, after only 4 hours of labour. I gained 45 pounds in the pregnancy, but a lot of it was fluid retention. At 3 weeks postpartum, I'd lost almost 40 pounds.

So exercise away... I think it does both mom and baby a world of good! :) GL!

sacha
12-08-2011, 08:39 PM
Yeah my grandmother is still convinced the prenatal aquafit I did during my first pregnancy is why my daughter died. Ignoring the fact that everyone else in the class went on to have healthy babies and my son was perfectly healthy even though I did aquafit, yoga and ran (in the first trimester) with him. Oh and the fact that she had a genetic mutation that caused Spinal Muscular Atrophy which is the reason her lungs didn't develop properly.


I am SO sorry that you hear that from your grandmother. I can't imagine how much that hurts.

I lost my 2nd at only 9-10 weeks but my FIL's girlfriend said it was my fault for going shopping and walking too much (as I said before, I did weight training until 41 weeks with my 1st). I spent days crying that someone could accuse me of putting shopping ahead of a baby's life.

It is outrageous that despite obvious genetic reasons for the death of a baby, people continue to butt in with their outdated/incorrect perceptions and 'blame' the mother. As if losing your child to circumstances you could not control was not enough, it is honestly the nastiest thing someone can say to a woman that it was 'her fault' her baby died.

shoeless
01-11-2012, 01:29 PM
Hiya

Sorry to butt in, but your post caught my eye I thought I'd chuck in my tuppence worth.

I've just qualified as an Exercise in Pregnancy specialist, and honestly the benefits of exercising in pregnancy far outweigh the risks (such as they are). Provided your BP is normal, you haven't got a history of MC, you're not having any bleeding or pain, you're fine to continue to exercise.

There are a couple of things you should take into consideration though (you probably know all these, but for anyone else lurking who's interested!) - current guidelines suggest that (particularly in T2&3) you shouldn't be doing any cardio for longer than 30 minutes at a time, and you should be aiming for an interval approach (eg, 3-5 mins higher intensity, 1-2 mins lower intensity - they say '3 for Mum, 1 for baby'). Also, if you do swim, current thinking is that you should avoid breaststroke legs. Similarly, with any classes you do do, aqua, or aerobics for example, you should avoid twisting through the hip. This is because it can exacerbate SPD and pelvic pain as your joints relax. Try and make sure you keep your hips aligned and facing forward whenever you're working out.

Running can have a similar effect on SPD, with pressure on the pelvis from baby bouncing up and down on it, and strain on ligaments that support your bump, which can take a long time to get back in to shape. That support band sounds really interesting though!

And, of course, no sit ups!! :) No exercises lying on your back after about 16 weeks, as it can obstruct blood return to the heart and make you dizzy and even cause you to black out.

The key thing, though, is that you listen to your body. You mentioned that you're an ex-competitive swimmer, so you're no doubt well aware of your limitations, and when your body feels 'wrong' and 'right'. Plus you've been pg before. So, trust your instincts! If something feels wrong don't do it. If it feels OK, go for it. Just don't push yourself too hard, and if you need to stop don't beat yourself up, after all, it's only a few months and you'll be back on it before you know it. :)

Good luck, and here's to a lovely healthy and happy pregnancy for you!

X shoeless

Fat Pants
01-12-2012, 10:54 PM
I suggest reading "Exercising Through Your Pregnancy" by Dr. James Clapp. It highlights (through research) the tremendous benefits of exercising while pregnant (pre-pregnancy, antepartum and postpartum).

As an aside, I ran until I was 36 weeks pregnant, including several 5 and 10ks and a marathon relay. I used the support belt later on and it does work well while running. I had a very easy pregnancy, labor and delivery and a healthy baby girl who is doing great. I highly recommend exercising. It really kept my sanity and stress in check during pregnancy, and it sure helps with those postpartum hormones afterwards! :)

mandalinn82
01-12-2012, 10:58 PM
I'm still doing cardio 5x a week and lifting weights 2x a week. Midwife says that is just fine, except she'd prefer I modify so that I don't put weights over my head (mostly so I don't topple over from balance issues as my belly gets bigger).

Baby boy is doing well, growing perfectly, and gets lulled to sleep every time I'm on the treadmill (midwife says it's all the bouncing!)

Exercise is really, really good in pregnancy. I'm also happy to give you all the research I did.