Weight Loss Support - Finally weighed myself - some reflections




lin43
11-29-2011, 10:44 AM
Since the beginning of my weight loss attempt (June), I decided not to weigh myself because I had a tendency in the past to get too obsessed with the numbers, and ultimately, that ended up discouraging me. So, I guessed that my weight was about 180 based on the fact that I was wearing 14's and seemed to be the heaviest I had ever been. Fast forward to now, and I am satisfied with how I look (no, I don't have a kick-a** body, but I'm not willing to put in the time and energy it would take to get it). I've been on what I estimate to be "maintenance" calories for the weight that I thought would be good for me (145). However, for the past month or so, I've thought that I was about 160, maybe high 150's. I decided today that I need to take some of the guess work out of the process and go ahead and weigh myself. So, I weighed at the gym (after having coffee & of course with my clothes on but no shoes), and I am 141. Wow! I'm shocked. On the one hand, I'm pleased. On the other hand, I need to re-evaluate my maintenance calories.

Also, I plugged in the numbers, and based on what I'm guessing my weight was, I must have been losing at a rate of at least 1.5-2 lbs a week to have lost this much weight since June. I was eating 1400 calories for most of my weight loss (up until the last month), so that means that I was running a 750-calorie deficit at least. That's a lot more than I thought I could eat.

So, here's what I've learned about weighing myself (pros & cons):

Pros
1) I did what I needed to do at the time by not weighing myself, and that worked out for me mentally; I just kept focusing on behaviors & didn't give up

2) I focused on size rather than weight & it's a big thrill to go down a size.

Cons

1) In a way, I sort of wish I did have a starting number; that would give me a better idea of the calorie deficit I was at, which would help me determine my maintenance calories.

2) Now that I do know how much I weigh, I think I'll have to keep monitoring my weight. I'm hoping that a once-a-month weigh-in (at most) will suffice. Does anyone here do this?

Thanks for reading. I hope that my experience might help those of us who choose not to weigh.


PreciousMissy
11-29-2011, 11:11 AM
That is awesome Lin!!! It's great that you found what works for you. I think this is also a good reminder to people who live and die by the scale.

Monday I was 4lb heavier than I was on Wednesday (I'm a daily weigher). Although it was unpleasant to see, I knew it was not the end of the world.

You've done a fantastic job!

ArtyKay
11-29-2011, 12:46 PM
That's great!!! I think its an awesome reminder that the scale isn't always the best indicator of progress, though it is a good way to keep yourself in check and maintain accountability.


MusicalAstronaut
11-29-2011, 12:50 PM
Congrats! I've been trying to separate my feelings from the number on the scale, because I weigh myself before I workout. When I get a bad number, it tends to affect how I feel when I workout. It's great to know that you can do so well and not be attached to the scale!

Kahokkuri
11-29-2011, 08:42 PM
You've really done an amazing job listening to your body and staying on a plan that works for you, it seems! Congrats on your successes!

Personally, I'm still a daily weigher, but I've noticed that the bad days are so bad for me that I skipped a weigh-in after having a "big" weekend. I couldn't do once a month weigh-ins, but I like the idea of avoiding the self-hate by giving myself a buffer day or two to get back on track.

Unna
11-30-2011, 04:00 AM
What a good surprise! Thanks for posting.

I'm a once a month weigher- I also don't want to be attached to the scale (its not so good for my slightly obsessive mind).

I really like what you said about focusing on changing behaviors - you should elaborate, which behaviors?

runningfromfat
11-30-2011, 07:09 AM
Congratulations on hitting your goal, that's awesome! I think the biggest truth to dieting is that you have to figure out what works for YOU and stick to it. Major props for figuring that out and sticking to it. :D

Personally, I'm a daily weigher and I was always advised not to weight daily because I'd obsess about the number. I've found the opposite to be true. Sometimes I might get annoyed but it's also reassuring to me to see low numbers on the scale that are infinitely lower than where I started. But, hey, it's what works for me and clearly it's not a universal truth. ;)

It seems like monthly weighing would be just fine or another thing I've heard of people doing (that might work well will your philosophy) is finding a pair of super tight jeans that ONLY fit when you're at your goal weight. Then making sure to wear them once a week so that you know that they still fit. ;)

Congrats once again!

lin43
11-30-2011, 07:40 AM
What a good surprise! Thanks for posting.

I'm a once a month weigher- I also don't want to be attached to the scale (its not so good for my slightly obsessive mind).

I really like what you said about focusing on changing behaviors - you should elaborate, which behaviors?

Thanks, Unna! Believe it or not, I focused on ditching the "all-or-nothing" thinking in all ways. For example, in past attempts, I would start gung-ho with exercise, forcing myself to get up at 5:00 a.m. (or earlier!) to go to the gym and work out on the usual machines (treadmill, elliptical, etc.). Eventually, even though I am a morning person, I would burn out. This time around, I just told myself that I would commit to getting one hour of some sort of activity most days of the week. My husband created a tread-desk for me some time back (Google it), and I'm on it when I work on the computer. However, I decided that even if I'm browsing the internet, I would get on it. That added many minutes (or hours :) ) to my exercise. Also, my house has never been so clean! When I didn't have computer work, I would vigorously clean (and there is always cleaning to do!). Most of the time, I exceed my one-hour goal. Now, I'm taking fitness classes at the gym as well (just because I like to, not because I'm forcing myself). Also, I started moving more in general. For instance, instead of sitting while I'm waiting for the coffee to brew, I'll wash dishes or straighten or dust, or something--anything. I truly believe that the increase in everyday activity made a big difference in how much weight I lost. I've lost weight by calorie counting in the past, and but I didn't lose as fast as I did this time, and it's been at least 6 years since I've dieted (so, I'm older and theoretically, I should lose slower).

Sorry for the long post! I'm just excited and wanted to share.

Personally, I'm a daily weigher and I was always advised not to weight daily because I'd obsess about the number. I've found the opposite to be true. Sometimes I might get annoyed but it's also reassuring to me to see low numbers on the scale that are infinitely lower than where I started. But, hey, it's what works for me and clearly it's not a universal truth. ;)

That's funny---I've heard the opposite. I remember reading that book Thin for Life and learning that most people who have lost weight and kept it off weigh themselves daily. I wish I could view my scale weight scientifically like you and others do because if I could, then weighing more frequently wouldn't be a problem.

lin43
11-30-2011, 07:50 AM
Oh, one more thing I wanted to share with anyone who counts calories and is interested: I start calorie counting for the "day" with dinner. Dinner is my most unpredictable meal, so it helps me to start counting with it as I find it easier to control the calories of breakfast and lunch. When I initially tried it, I didn't like it because I was loose with when "dinner" officially starts. But once I settled on a time (5:00) when the food I eat counts for "dinner," I have been consistent with it, and it has made staying within my range so much easier.

sontaikle
11-30-2011, 07:55 AM
Lin, you've done wonderfully and you're such an inspiration to all of us :) I don't know if I could have lost the weight without the scale, but you certainly show everyone that it's possible to get rid of that and lose weight. I really admire you for ditching the scale and sticking with your plan!

Congratulations on your achievements! :)

ELBS717
11-30-2011, 07:07 PM
I'm so glad you posted this. I was | | <-- that close to posting on here myself, inquiring if anyone has thrown out their scale during their weightloss (and not just out the window because they're fed up!).
Once I'm doing the low-carb diet, I feel good, lots of energy, positive attitude, my complexion is better, etc... but if I get on the scale and see that I didn't lose even one pound in a week, then I get fed up and give up. So this time around, I'm going to chuck my scale (well, have my husband keep our wii balance board in his car, actually lol) and just base my weight loss/healthier life style off of how I FEEL, rather than numbers. It was all too easy for me to get so discouraged and give up after weeks of work... well, not so much work, but weeks of not eating junk! I go back to the doctor in January, so I'll see what happens then. :) Congrats!

loose seal
11-30-2011, 07:24 PM
I'm just starting back but am a once a week weigher. However, the past many, many, many months :rolleyes: I've felt my clothes getting tighter and tighter. Finally broke down and purchased a pair of jeans two size bigger than what I was wearing and am stuck in my 'I'll wear this cause it's the only thing that fits' clothes. <sigh> Looking forward to getting back into my other jeans and getting to the point of having them too loose.

Sometimes the scale doesn't move but your clothes are looser; sometimes the scale jumps down but the clothes feel the same. What a rollercoaster!

lin43
11-30-2011, 07:54 PM
Lin, you've done wonderfully and you're such an inspiration to all of us :) I don't know if I could have lost the weight without the scale, but you certainly show everyone that it's possible to get rid of that and lose weight. I really admire you for ditching the scale and sticking with your plan!

Congratulations on your achievements! :)

Thank you!!


ELBS717, I like what so many others posted on this forum: The only way you can fail is to stop trying.

Looseseal, I know the feeling of having to buy a larger size---it stinks! But it's more important to feel comfortable. Just before I started, I was on the verge of buying new underwear because mine were getting so small that they were cutting into my thighs (I know ---TMI!)

tessilette
11-30-2011, 08:09 PM
I weigh myself everyday. I probably shouldn't, but that is how I like to do it.
If weighing yourself once a month is how you feel comfortable doing it. Then more power to you! :)
Keep up the good work!
I believe in you!
Tessa

sensualappeal
11-30-2011, 09:34 PM
Congrats! That's a great pleasant surprise!
I actually decided to abandon the scale as well because I found myself to become obsessed wit the numbers when I'm dieting and I'm trying to focus on the inner feelings of well-being, body image, and noticing when I'm full and when I need to eat. It's hard but I'm trying and I know eventually it will become second nature (or so the books say..) I am however eating at a calorie allowance of 1200 which is what the weight loss calorie allowance is for my weight and my goal.

twinieten
12-01-2011, 09:58 AM
I admire you scale-ditchers. I live and die by the scale. I weigh myself every morning and sometimes I'll weigh myself before bed, just to see. In doing that, I can't allow myself to get upset about fluctuations in weight, the gains and the losses, and the zig-zag look of my graph and focus on the once weekly official weigh-day and the overall downward progress. As you can see in my signature, the daily weigh in keeps me accountable. When I skip weighing myself for a couple of days, I slack off on my diet (I'm a calorie counter), and I eat too much of what I shouldn't. When I tried to lose without the scale, I failed. I guess I need the reassurance that the number provides, even if it's just a pound or a few ounces.

Lin43, I love how you did it! I love the approach you took and that it worked for you! Tell me more about how you factored in dinner first thing in the morning. Did you count last nights dinner in today's calories? Or did you just consider what you were going to eat in the morning?

Dinner is my box of chocolates too.... I never know what I'm going to get. If I plan my meals in advance, I can consider it first thing in the morning and eat accordingly all day. That's not always the case. I sort of do the same thing, though. I just figure, if I can leave around 700 calories for dinner, then I'm probably going to be OK. Once I know what's for dinner, I will consider portions and serving sizes before I sit down at the table. Dinner will always be my biggest meal of the day so I have to compensate for it. Making it the smallest meal never worked for me in the past.

Thanks for sharing your success!!

lin43
12-01-2011, 03:01 PM
Tell me more about how you factored in dinner first thing in the morning. Did you count last nights dinner in today's calories?

Yes--that's exactly how I do it! I am currently using MyFitnessPal on my android phone to keep track of my calories, and I just put my dinner in the "Breakfast" slot, my real breakfast is in the "lunch" spot, and my lunch is in the "dinner" spot (which is cool since I was born down South & we always called lunch "dinner" anyway :) ).

I love doing it this way. I really believe that it's one of the reasons I've managed to be so consistent with my calories.

Thanks for the good wishes!