Weight Loss Support - Silly Comments

I have heard my fair share of silly comments from people, but I think my mothers silly comment takes the cake. I was over at her house this weekend for turkey dinner (Canadian thanksgiving). While sitting with my boyfriend she started talking about my weight loss and how I should stop while I'm ahead and I'm getting to skinny (Believe me, I am far from it). I usually chalk my moms comments up to her own insecurity's and dislike for change but all of a sudden she blurted out

"You have lost to much weight, your boobs are sagging to your knee's" :o

I had no idea what to say so I just laughed. My boobs are large 32 J or I, so of course they are heavy and unfortunately are not are perky as someone who is smaller chested. Being only 21 I know this shouldn't be happen already so I try not to think about it much but really? I am over the comment now, hey its a great reason to go get a lift when I hit goal! :dance:

Got me thinking that this probably happens to everyone so what are some of the silly comments you have heard?

Wow, thanks Mom!!
Phew, I hate my F's I can only imagine a J! Here's to a lift once we are done LOL And Congrats, 31 lbs is a huge loss!
I have only lost 15lbs so no one has said anything tacky yet.

:lol: What would she think of me? I've had saggy boobs that pointed down since I got them when I was 12. And I was only slightly overweight then.

:lol:

Maybe it's time to check to make sure your band size is small enough? What does your underbust measure as? I'm something like a 30J/JJ-32HH/J, I know I need a super supportive bra otherwise I look like an old granny. :lol:

BTW, have you heard of Ewa Michalak bras? They have push-up bras in the large cup sizes. ;)

Arrggg i get the boob comment too. My mother (c cup) is always saying to me (e cup) 'you shouldnt have to wear a bra at your age'! (26 yrs)

Er, yes i do! Winds me up no end.

Ive also been told not to lose any more weight off my face, as i'll 'start looking ill'. Like i can pick and choose where it comes off! I wish. Thats mothers for you! Hugs x

All I can say is:

Wow...really?!?!?! :o

Ok, I have more to say...

Why would someone blurt that out in front of company, whether it's your boyfriend or not??? Has she shown him awkward pictures of you when you were a kid yet?

PreciousMissy - My boyfriend and I have been together for 3yrs next month and living with each other for 2yrs. More embarrassing things have happened and he is used to my mom and her outrageous comments lol

My mother is..... outspoken to say the least.

My silliest comment was boob related as well. My sister says "Well how much weight do you want to lose, you should stop, Your chest is FLAT now." Wow, since when has a 42D been flat?

Well I guess the real question is "does your boyfriend like them?" LOL.. tell mom she can get you the boob lift for your Birthday..that would probably hush her up...

While I'm not sure I'd appreciate the comment if it were directed at me, I do appreciate your sharing it! Made me appreciate that my mom is not the only one! LOL

:lol: I spit diet mtn dew outta my nose when I read that!!!!

You know, that would be worth a call to mom today to say, "I think you owe me an apology for talking about my breasts in front of my boyfriend. That was really inappropriate."

Because it WAS, wasn't it? I mean, it's good to be over it and all, but it would also be good to express your feelings about it. I don't mean you should yell--no need to be angry--but just say it out in a nice way. Like you would to a friend who overstepped the bounds.

As for me, my father once asked, at a family gathering during a lull in conversation, "Jay, how did you get so fat?" But he was always saying a*****e things like that.

Jay

I really don't get people sometimes! Especially our family members!!! Like, you wouldn't say that to somebody who isn't in the family, because it's RUDE. What makes it o.k. to say it at a dinner, to your daughter, in front of her boyfriend.

I learned to deal with it by not caring (but we all care to some extent) and doing my own thing.

A couple of years I got quite thin after taking on some less than healthy habits (it wasn't fulblown anorexia, but close), but then started getting bigger. I went to visit my family in Europe. My grandmother who used to be a beauty queen and basically got through her life on good looks, always had something to say about my weight, despite being overweight herself these days. (Comments like: you'd look really good if you lost 70lbs, when I weighed 145lbs). This particular summer I went to visit, I was so happy to see her, telling her about my adventures of the past year. She just looked at me, in the middle of a nice conversation and said

"You got fat this year"

The room went quiet. My uncle and my grandfather both understood that was a rude thing to say. I weighed about 150 lbs, which for my 5'7" and my muscular frame is really a good weight to be. She smiled quite devilishly and asked "Cake?".

I was heartbroken because I haven't seen this person in so long, and also...they're family. Why do they want to hurt us?

Although the comment was rude and inappropriate its not worth confronting her over. She is confrontational and if she has an opinion she will say it and that is that.

MustardFan - I don't think our families are trying to hurt us or be hurtful in anyway but maybe taking insecurities out on us? I know my mom has struggled with her weight almost all her life and sometimes I think seeing me actually do something about it might make her.....Uncomfortable?

Although the comment was rude and inappropriate its not worth confronting her over. She is confrontational and if she has an opinion she will say it and that is that.

MustardFan - I don't think our families are trying to hurt us or be hurtful in anyway but maybe taking insecurities out on us? I know my mom has struggled with her weight almost all her life and sometimes I think seeing me actually do something about it might make her.....Uncomfortable?

That's so odd for me. My mom was raised in a different culture and is not as loving as most American moms. My mom has never been involved in my life (not because she doesn't care but just because it's not what she was raised around), though when it comes to me losing weight it makes her so happy! She is always supportive and even she has had trouble with her weight. Maybe you should ask your mom if it makes her uncomfortable? It would probably help to talk about it rather than letting it go every time.

Seems boob comments are common! lol I had a friend (who is about 100 lbs over weight and very large chested, say to me after not seeing me since I lost weight) say "what happened to your boobs? Your flat chested now." Not even mentioning that I had gone from a size 20 to a size 10....And my boobs went from a D to a B. I just told her I think my smaller perky boobs go well with my smaller, fitter body. And the conversation died there. :)

I just told her I think my smaller perky boobs go well with my smaller, fitter body. And the conversation died there. :)

Love it!

I certainly hope my boobs perk up a bit as I get closer to my goal; I'd be fine with a smaller cup size!

what really helped out the girls, and it surprised me, was upper body weight training. I had done it about 4 months (not trying to have a breat lift effect) and realized that it made a huge difference! I think the chest press and chest "fly" I think that's what its called, are what really helped. ;)

Wow, just wow. Mothers are amazing, aren't they? Mine always commented that I needed to exercise or when eating sweets or crisps that I shouldn't (and she's overweight and prediabetic herself).
Now that I have lost 40 lbs, she commented that enough is enough, otherwise I am getting too skinny or even anorexic (!) (according to my BMI I am still overweight).

Wow, just wow. Mothers are amazing, aren't they? Mine always commented that I needed to exercise or when eating sweets or crisps that I shouldn't (and she's overweight and prediabetic herself).
Now that I have lost 40 lbs, she commented that enough is enough, otherwise I am getting too skinny or even anorexic (!) (according to my BMI I am still overweight).

Hahaha yup! Sounds like my mother. It's so funny.

My former neighbour (overweight, and with an even more overweight husband) kept on making snippy comments when I started dieting, as well as ludicrous levels of food pushing. The best one was, "Now that you're trying to shrink away to nothing..." I did eventually have a serious chat with her about how upsetting I found these "jokes", and she stopped, but the friendship eventually died for other reasons.

wow. I know want to go and hug my mom-- the only thing I get is "You look great! Keep up the good work, I know you can do it!"

and my boobs are a C cup and I've always wanted bigger...thanks for making me not want bigger- haha :P

I hadn't seen my grandma in almost a year because I joined the Army, and when I saw her for the first time after all that time I was six months pregnant. I had acquired my first few stretchmarks on my upper arms, and guess what was the very first thing she said to me after she hugged me hello.... OMG look at your stretchmarks, your husband is going to leave you!