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09-28-2011, 01:57 PM
Thought I would see if any other SAHM's wanted to have our own thread. I have a almost 7 month old little boy. I am still breastfeeding. I also watch three two year olds. I love getting to be here for all of his milestones but today these other kids are making me BONKERS!!

So how many kids do you have and what are their ages?

09-28-2011, 02:36 PM
I have 3 16, 2 & 4. My 2 year old and 4 year old drive me crazy most days lol. I can't imagine taking care of additional ones.

09-28-2011, 02:37 PM
Well, I guess I hardly count as SAHM mom now since both my kids are in school full day, but I have a 6 year old with autism (asperger's) and a 15 year old with strong ADHD. Believe me, those two wear me out - as does my 76 MIL who lives with us (I do all the cooking and cleaning).

But today is the FIRST DAY in a week that I found an hour to myself to watch something on TV... so I'm still way busy!

Hang in there - those young years are tough!

09-28-2011, 02:42 PM
I have a 4 and 6 year old.

09-28-2011, 02:43 PM
I have a 6 month old and a 3 year old. I stay at home with them now, but will probably go back to work in early 2012.

09-28-2011, 02:44 PM
What are you guys doing for diet and exercise?

Berry- I figure if I can get the hang of a healthy lifestyle now when its so hard that its only going to get easier right? I want to live somewhere where are the cooking and cleaning get done for me, where do I sign up? Lol

To both of you, Was it hard to have such a huge age gap between your first and second kids?

I focus on whole versus diet food and move as much as I can wherever I can fit it in.

09-28-2011, 02:45 PM
I'm a SAHM to a 3 yr old and a 10 month old. Some days are really rough. Hubby doesn't get it though. I tried to explain it to him once:

"Imagine you were at your job 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Maybe you're not as busy as you are now, but every hour you need to spend at least 15 minutes working. Wouldn't that ever wear you down? Knowing that you could never leave your job to go home? Knowing that you would be there, at work, every moment of your life?"

He still didn't get it.

I'm grateful Hubby has a good job so I CAN be a SAHM. I love my children and treasure the moments that we have together. But it can get frustrating sometimes. That's just part of parenthood, I think.

The most important thing for me is to carve time out for myself. Sometimes that means leaving the kids with Hubby so I can get my haircut or go grocery shopping. I find that an hour or two of peace can really help me recharge.

09-28-2011, 02:47 PM
I have 3 children. 5 yo girl, 3 yo girl and 1 yo boy. I am still bf my baby. My oldest goes to school and so I try to run with my youngest two in a stroller but there has so much rain that it is hard to get out.

Finding time to work out is definitely the biggest challenge. My baby loves me times k-zillion (as in really only wants me even though dh is fantastic). It makes getting away to work out difficult to do after his work and needing to make dinner and getting the kids to bed.

09-28-2011, 02:52 PM
I am a SAHM to a 2.5 year old girl, and we are going to work on baby #2 starting next month. I enjoy it, but it is definitely an adjustment--I taught high school before I was laid off when she turned 1, so I've been a SAHM for a little over a year now. I'd like to continue this until my kiddos are older, but we'll definitely need more income once my unemployment benefits run out. I've been thinking about maybe getting a night job part-time, or weekends and/or seasonal work, so I can be here for my kids. I don't want both of us to work full-time while we have little ones.

But I think the financial sacrifice is way worth the amount of time I get to spend with my daughter.

09-28-2011, 03:24 PM
What are you guys doing for diet and exercise?

Berry- I figure if I can get the hang of a healthy lifestyle now when its so hard that its only going to get easier right? I want to live somewhere where are the cooking and cleaning get done for me, where do I sign up? Lol

To both of you, Was it hard to have such a huge age gap between your first and second kids?

I focus on whole versus diet food and move as much as I can wherever I can fit it in.

It will get way easier. HOnestly, I couldn't have done it with a little one - they didn't sleep, so I didn't sleep and lack of sleep with me means bad decisions. This is only possible for me now because I have some control over my life.

And the age gap? Well, for now, I love it. I basically have two singletons. They don't compete for our attention almost ever. I can't compare or choose favorites because they are at such different places in their lives. However, when my 15 year old goes to college, that will be weird. And he will go young as he has an August 29th bday and is a baby in his class. He'll be still 17 when he leaves for college! Just three years away and I'll have a 4th grader. Keeping that sibling bond will be tougher, but both kids are really attached to each other. We were lucky in that way - they were both just born very loving kids.

09-28-2011, 03:31 PM
I am currently a SAHM. I have 2 that are 8 years old and 14 months. I will be going back to work when my daughter turns 2. She is very humble and laid back. Does what she is told. No tantrums, no crying, no nothing. I always have to find things to do because she doesn't keep me on my feet like most babies do.

09-28-2011, 03:40 PM
I am a SAHM too. 2, 9 and 12. I worked up until the last one. I thought I would love being a SAHM but I really don't. Me and my husband keep trying to figure out if I should go back to work or not. I am a better person when I have time away from the family. I need adult time and I feel like I never get it. I have been home for 2 1/2 years now. I thought I would like it by now. LOL.
For exercise, I push her in the stroller alot, or wait for my oldest to get home and do a couple quick laps while he stays with the baby. I have been doing mini workouts (10 min vidoes) when I can fit them in. If I am watching tv, I try to do standing abs or squats or something for a couple minutes a few times a day. But when you r home all day, it is the not snacking part that is the hardest for me.

09-28-2011, 04:11 PM
I am a SAHM too, he is 16 months old, he still has acid reflux and I'm up 2-4x a night with that but he is otherwise now a happy boy :) Very colicky when younger. Snacking is a problem for me too, because I get bored. I don't speak the local language so it's not so easy for me to go out and meet other moms.

09-28-2011, 04:28 PM
Banananut- my dh is the same way. I really think he believes that since I dont leave the house i have it so much easier. Wrong!

Miatutu- you have to do what's best for you. I believe ONE of the best thing for kids is to see their parents happy and enjoying life. If working outside the home does that for you then be it.

Fatty- I totally agree about the financial sacrifice being worth it. My mom always says "They are only little once."

Not snacking is really hard for me too. So is cooking dinner. Especially when the baby has been real fussy or i haven't gotten much sleep. But progress, not perfection right?

I have decided its WHINY WEDNESDAY! I think the two year olds lost their talking voices.

09-28-2011, 08:50 PM
I have a gym membership but NEVER use it. What a phenomenal waste of money. I have a whole stash of exercise DVD's a treadmill (never used) and a stationary bike. I used to wait until nap time but now I just tell them mommy's working out and to go play lol.
It worked great for me with the age gap with the kids. I did have to deal with a little jealousy from my oldest as she was used to being an only child for 12 yrs. It's much harder with the 2 children closer in age, but more fun as well.

09-28-2011, 09:28 PM
It will get way easier. HOnestly, I couldn't have done it with a little one - they didn't sleep, so I didn't sleep and lack of sleep with me means bad decisions. This is only possible for me now because I have some control over my life.

THIS IS MY LIFE. I give major props to the mommas who can juggle small kiddos and take care of themselves. I was just too stressed and we moved several times and went through several deployments. Food and caffeine kept my "mostly" sane, but that's when I put on all my weight. Only now that my kids are 4 and 6, can take care of their basic needs by themselves and at least go to preschool a few days a week...I found the time and energy to take care of myself!

09-28-2011, 10:22 PM
Yeah it can be really hard and I'm not saying I stick to plan perfectly because it is far from it. I mess up and quite honestly sometimes the junk food just helps calm me. I know its bad and I'm working on it.

What's your typical schedule like? Is it the same everyday?

09-29-2011, 06:41 AM
I'm a SAHM right now. My oldest is 7 and he's in 1st grade so I'm mostly home for my 13mo DD.

My schedule has been pretty crazy lately since I messed up my sleep rhythms, but usually it's get up at 8am, get DS to school, feed DD, play with DD, nap, feed DD again, wake up DF, play with DD, take DF to work (sometimes), pick up DS at 3:30pm, feed both kids a snack, make dinner, help DS with homework, eat dinner, watch a little TV/play the Wii, then both kids get a bath and in bed by 8/8:30. Stay up until DF gets home at 11:30 then I try to go to bed by 2am. That hasn't been happening lately, though. I haven't been getting much sleep.

09-29-2011, 10:04 AM
I am a terrible mom in that we don't have a "routine." Meals, naps... pretty much everything is on a "whenever you want it" schedule. I should definitely establish a better routine, but it just isn't part of my nature.

I've been totally off exercise and diet for quite a while now. Need to get back into the swing of things, but just can't find the motivation. My first type of exercise, though, will probably be just walking. I will wear the baby on my back and push the older one in a stroller. I can pretty much do this any time of day, so it'll work out ok.

09-29-2011, 11:56 AM
I'm a SAHM! :)

I have an almost 2.5 year old boy and an 8 month old girl. I'm also a military wife, so my husband is gone a lot. I recently joined the Y so we're able to go in the mornings after breakfast and the kids play in their "classroom" while I have an hour or two to workout. It helps keep me from feeling stir crazy and relieves stress. I hate the expense ($88 a month) but it's worth it to get "me" time. Next spring I'll begin teaching Stroller Strides classes (fitness for moms that includes cardio and strength training) and I am SO excited to have a part time job that will also help me to stay healthy and I can bring my kids along!

09-29-2011, 04:45 PM
We don't stick to a strict schedule here either. I mean lunch is at the same time everyday followed by nap time but everything else is pretty laid back. I don't know how anyone that's breastfeeding can have a strict schedule.

What are your goals?

Mine are
-to maintain or lose every week
-eat healthy 90% of the time
-no talking bad about myself
-workout 3x a week

Arctic Mama
09-29-2011, 05:41 PM
I'm a SAHM to a 4,3, and 1 year old. We're homeschoolers, so it's not changing anytime soon, either ;)

Still breastfeeding the youngest, and yes, very busy. Working out is done on an exercise bike or with a workout DVD before the kids are woken up for the day. I find I have to maintain a pretty strict daily schedule to get everything done and stay on top of chores, cooking, AND caring for myself/my husband. A little discipline with my time has gone a long way :)

RJ 1980
09-29-2011, 07:58 PM
I'm a SAHM, I have a four year old son and a 5 month old daughter. Staying home is what caused me to gain almost 70 pounds within the first three years of it! I call it my "adjusting to being a SAHM weight". ;) I was stressed by my colicky son and would binge at night to relieve the stress. Also I hardly was out to see people so I didn't worry so much about what I looked like. I went from about 125 to 195. :(

Currently I calorie count, but have been on hiatus for a few weeks now, first b/c of vacation but now I'm finding it hard to get back on track. My 4 year old is having a rough period and my baby is a heck of a lot of work! I'm finding myself falling back into that 'eating to relieve stress' cycle at night.... ahhh!

I love being able to be with my kids all day instead of having to put them in daycare, but it does get very frustrating at times! For me the worst part is that everything you want/need to do depends on your kids. My husband can know that he eats lunch peacefully at the same time every day at work.... I get to eat whenever an opportunity presents itself, and I have no idea how long I have and most of the time it's interrupted. It's the unpredictability that wears on me sometimes, but still I wouldn't trade it. I just need to work on finding a way to eat healthy no matter what the day throws at me!! :)

09-30-2011, 01:36 PM
I'm a long term SAHM. I have two in school, 7 and 11 year old boys. They are great. I've been looking for a job for a while now.

Anyway, as Berry said, I'm finally able to take care of myself. To all those with babies, I applaud you. I just didn't have the stamina when they were little. Those years were so exhausting.

09-30-2011, 04:32 PM
It's not that I am not exhausted! Just determined. Motivated on somedays just do it on others. I think I will get more serious about exercise the older he gets but I have to eat regardless so I'm just doing my best to make healthy choices and use portion control.

09-30-2011, 04:44 PM
Rj- its Sooo hard for me ro get back on plan if I take off anymore than a day. It's such a headgame. It's not really physically hard to get on plan but mentally its a trip.

Arctic mama- do you use a certain program for your kids? I would love to eventually homeschool but my dh is not a fan. I have some time to convince him though!!!