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Icey21
09-13-2011, 10:38 PM
I really have a hard time making time/finding time to work out let alone eat right. I am a stay at home mom to a very very active 1 year old little boy who keeps me so busy. So between taking care of him and the house I cant seem to make me time. I try to work out when he is down for a nap but then I feel bad for working out and not cleaning. My boy friend works so hard so I dont have to go to work so I feel as if I should keep the house spotless and all you moms out there know how hard it is just to keep on top of everything and still make "me time". So I guess my question is how do yall make time for yourself to be able to work out, eat right, and still stay on top of everything? I really feel as if there are not enough hours in the day!


Ryler832
09-13-2011, 10:45 PM
You should make time for yourself no matter what. Work out when your son is napping. Don't feel bad about not cleaning. Being a SAHM doesn't mean you have to slave your days away.

abbysue715
09-13-2011, 11:01 PM
I'm a SAHM too. I have a 6 month old and I also watch three two year olds during the week. I totally get where you are coming from about the house and don't consider it slaving the day away either. I workout when I can. My goal is 3 times a week but its usually only one or two. It's a work in progress. The way I look at it is if I am making this a lifestyle change when its the hardest then its only going to get easier. I'm kidding myself if I say we are on a schedule. Between Landon and the toddlers I like to say its controlled chaos. Do the best you can everyday and start each day on a clean slate.


Ryler832
09-13-2011, 11:08 PM
I totally get where you are coming from about the house and don't consider it slaving the day away either.

I am a SAHM as well. I have a 13 month old and also babysit my 2 year old nephew. I know it can be hectic but you have to make time for yourself.

indiblue
09-13-2011, 11:39 PM
Full disclosure: I am not a mom so I can't claim to understand how tough you guys have it :)

Maybe shift your perspective from "work out (presumably at the gym)" to "be active." It sounds like you have great opportunities to be active. Running around with your boy, taking him to the park, taking him on walks in a stroller or sling- these are great ways of getting yourself moving and keeping him active and engaged.

Housework, well, it's not necessarily fun, but it kills two birds with one stone in that it IS activity AND it gets your house clean! I like to listen to NPR/the news while I do the dishes or other cleaning to help keep it from feeling like boring labor.

Maybe buy some resistance bands to keep around the house. When your baby goes down for a nap, do some exercises with free online videos. Or pushups or other bodyweight activities that don't require equipment. Just do them when you can throughout the day- 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there.

You don't have to find 1 hour of uninterrupted time to drive to a gym and workout. Exercise and activity can be sprinkled throughout the day, and can be incorporated into playtime or house chores.

Eating right... cooking healthy foods doesn't necessarily take a lot of time. A lot of baked fish/chicken recipes take only a few minutes of prep and then the rest is cooking time. Casseroles can be assembled ahead of time (when your baby is sleeping, or after he has gone to bed) and frozen for weeks for a quick thaw/reheat when you need it. Breakfast can be a quick batch of eggs or oatmeal with berries, or Greek yogurt.

good luck :)

April Snow
09-13-2011, 11:47 PM
I'm a mom - not SAHM, I work full time and then am a single mom to a very active 7 year old. I try to get in activity with him on weekends, walking to the park and keep moving while there. Weekdays, I can't leave him alone to go to a gym so I use my Wii Fit or do exercise videos. He thinks it's fun to watch me or I do them once he's in bed.

You have to make the time and put your health and fitness as a priority in your day, and yes, that beats a spotless house. There should be enough time to keep things reasonably neat and tidy but still find 15-20 minutes at a time for some activity for your health. You don't have to do 30-60 minutes all at once, the bits and pieces over the day add up too.

tkdtara84
09-14-2011, 12:16 AM
I'm a SAHM to a 17 month old. I actually don't consider myself to be that busy, but I suppose that's a state of mind-- I feel like I have so much control over my days now that I'm not working because I get to schedule what I want when I want.

I am very lucky that my husband doesn't mind watching our son, so for now I go to the gym in the mornings (he works second shift), and he'll stay with him for about an hour and a half. Honestly he likes it-- gives him an excuse to sit around or play with him and not feel like he shoudl be doing something else. We're remodeling, and he's doing the work himself, plus he works a lot of overtime at his job, so he gets tired. When my son starts walking, I'll be able to take him to the daycare at my gym, and I'll start going in the evenings when my husband is at work.

Is a gym with daycare or a Y an option for you? Aside from getting your workout in, it gives you a little time to yourself. it isn't as big of an expense as you might think-- here it's around $30/month-- well worth it, IMO.

Other than that-- you need to let go of keeping your house spotless and just keep it clean. How does your bf feel? Is a spotless house important to him, or would he be happy with just "in order"? Most of the time it's the woman who imposes the more rigid expectations on herself. Maybe you need to work on letting go of perfection. My house is clean, not perfect, but I wouldn't hesitate to let a friend in at any time. However, I've let go of a lot of my prior expectations for my house.

Also, when your son is awake, what do you do? You don't have to focus every minute of your time on him. I do a lot of cooking and cleaning while he's awake and playing nearby. I use his naptimes for things I need to concentrate on or need him to stay out of a mess, or sometimes I just take a nap myself! Of course, I still play with him, but he seems to have just as much fun playing with spoons and bowls while I'm puttering around in the kitchen. As for exercise while he's awake-- you can always go for a walk with him in a stroller when it's nice, and when it's not, there's the mall.

Another big time-sucker is the computer. I'm awful with this one, and I keep telling myself I'm going to set a time limit, but I haven't yet. Seriously, I probably spend HOURS online a day, but it's not all at once, so it doesn't always feel like I do that. I could really get so much more done, though, if I limited my time online.

And finally-- have priorities or a to do list for the day. If you take time to organize yourself a bit, you can decide what you can let go for the day in order to get a workout in. Unfortunately, diet and exercise take TIME. They're worth it, though.

I would also suggest talking to your bf to see if he has suggestions. Sometimes others are better able to be objective about where our time is spent. He also might not mind watching the baby while you workout.

JayEll
09-14-2011, 07:02 AM
Being a SAHM doesn't mean you're a servant. Taking care of a child is a full-time job and more. Even though your boyfriend works all day, he can help with some chores. And you don't have to keep the house spotless in order to be doing your part.

It sounds to me like you are putting cleaning the house above your own health and well being, and that's just nuts! It is OK for you to take time to exercise while your child is napping. And it's OK to ask for help with the housework if you need it. And, shockingly, it's OK if everything isn't spotless every day.

Good luck! Please think of yourself more!

Jay

OhThePlaces
09-14-2011, 07:10 AM
Hi and welcome! :hug:

I'm a SAHM to an active 2 year old boy and an 8 month old girl! For me, I don't feel like it takes more time to make healthy food choices... you have to take the time to stop and eat either way... you know?

As for exercising, I decided to join the Y and have worked it into our everyday schedule. After breakfast, we head over there and I drop the kids off at Stay&Play (the Y's onsite childcare) and I have up to 2 hours to workout by myself! Getting daily exercise and a bit of "me time" helps me to recharge and I feel like a more patient and fun mom because of it! Oh and I have more energy! I still get most of my housework done while the kids nap (IF they nap) but if something doesn't get done, I don't feel guilty... I'm only human!

sacha
09-14-2011, 07:12 AM
My son is also 1 (15 months) and I am a SAHM. I put working out before housework. In the long-run it is better for my health and more important to have a little 'me' time. I also use a good sling and wear him on my back for vacuuming/cleaning.

OhThePlaces
09-14-2011, 07:24 AM
My son is also 1 (15 months) and I am a SAHM. I put working out before housework. In the long-run it is better for my health and more important to have a little 'me' time. I also use a good sling and wear him on my back for vacuuming/cleaning.

Yes, a good baby carrier has been essential in getting things done around my house! I also where Ruby around the mall/zoo, etc while pushing my son Ezra in the stroller... I tell myself I'm burning extra calories. :D I highly recommend the Beco Butterfly 2. http://www.becobabycarrier.com/

Aletheia
09-14-2011, 07:35 AM
I am not a mom, so I can't understand the time challenges of moms in particular.

However, I can wholeheartedly recommend the book, 168 Hours by Laura Vanderkam. It's about time management and how to get the most out of the 168 hours we get each week. It's helped me tremendously! And, although I didn't read those sections closely, there is quite a bit on balancing having kids, keeping house, and having adult time to exercise/socialize for parents!

lin43
09-14-2011, 08:08 AM
Full disclosure: I am not a mom so I can't claim to understand how tough you guys have it :)

Maybe shift your perspective from "work out (presumably at the gym)" to "be active." It sounds like you have great opportunities to be active. Running around with your boy, taking him to the park, taking him on walks in a stroller or sling- these are great ways of getting yourself moving and keeping him active and engaged.

Housework, well, it's not necessarily fun, but it kills two birds with one stone in that it IS activity AND it gets your house clean! I like to listen to NPR/the news while I do the dishes or other cleaning to help keep it from feeling like boring labor.

Maybe buy some resistance bands to keep around the house. When your baby goes down for a nap, do some exercises with free online videos. Or pushups or other bodyweight activities that don't require equipment. Just do them when you can throughout the day- 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there.

You don't have to find 1 hour of uninterrupted time to drive to a gym and workout. Exercise and activity can be sprinkled throughout the day, and can be incorporated into playtime or house chores.

Eating right... cooking healthy foods doesn't necessarily take a lot of time. A lot of baked fish/chicken recipes take only a few minutes of prep and then the rest is cooking time. Casseroles can be assembled ahead of time (when your baby is sleeping, or after he has gone to bed) and frozen for weeks for a quick thaw/reheat when you need it. Breakfast can be a quick batch of eggs or oatmeal with berries, or Greek yogurt.

good luck :)


I agree COMPLETELY with this. For many years when I embarked on a weight loss program, part and parcel of that was carving out a designated time to work out at the gym or even at home. Only thing is, I'm really busy (and if I don't keep my house clean, my husband certainly won't, and I don't like living in clutter and dirt. So, the responsibility is mine). Eventually, I would throw in the towel and give up on working out because other aspects of my life were being neglected; inevitably, I would give up on eating well since working out and eating well always used to go hand-in-hand in my book.


This time around, I decided that I would not commit to working out. I would only commit to doing at least one hour of some kind of activity most days of the week. I'm very efficient with my time, so I like to multi-task. I figured out a way to do that and get my one hour of activity. For example, I will vigorously clean the house (e.g., mopping floors on my hands and knees ---wearing knee pads of course :) ) for an hour. I even track my activity, and there is an option to track housework on the app I have. When I first started tracking housework, it was so great to see those calories I burned on my app tracker and to realize I had actually gotten something done as well.

Also, ---and this sounds nuts, I know---I had my husband create a "tread desk" for me (Google it). I do a great deal of work from home on my computer, so with my tread desk, I walk anywhere from 3 - 6 miles per day while still getting my work done.

My ideas are specific for my needs, but the point I'm making is that you can think of things that you can be active with without it being formal exercise. The only formal exercise I do is weight training and even that is bare bones (push-ups, squats, sit-ups, tri-cep dips).

Also, eating healthy is just a matter of a bit of advance planning on what to buy. Broiling, roasting, and grilling foods is convenient and easy. When I'm rushed for time, I put a piece of fish (I like rainbow trout fillet) on a cookie sheet, throw on some grape tomatoes, slices of onions, jarred peppers, and some frozen veggies, spray the entire thing with olive oil and broil. You can't get easier than that. It takes me just a bit more time than it would take to heat up a Lean Cuisine (yuck!).

I hope that helps. Do what you can do for now. Even little changes add up over time.

sacha
09-14-2011, 08:54 AM
Yes, a good baby carrier has been essential in getting things done around my house! I also where Ruby around the mall/zoo, etc while pushing my son Ezra in the stroller... I tell myself I'm burning extra calories. :D I highly recommend the Beco Butterfly 2. http://www.becobabycarrier.com/

I use an Ergo but I've heard great things about the Beco! There's no such thing as too many slings :dizzy: I might get one in the future too!!!!!! I love them so much I haven't used my stroller yet and we're at 15 months/30lbs! LOL!

I also prefer to do my housework during his awake time - we sing the "clean up" song and make games of it

Thighs Be Gone
09-14-2011, 09:22 AM
Your nutrition is going to make up the vast, vast majority of your weightloss. Learn what foods you need to buy and pre-plan your shopping trips.

You can get your activity in. What if you held a position that required you to be on a conference call every morning at nine a.m.? Same thing goes for your exercise. You insist that come hail or high water, you must exercise at that time without fail.

I am also a SAHM. I started this lifestyle about 3.5 years ago. I had to move myself to the VERY top of my to-do list. Otherwise, I never got to ME! Before I did anything at ALL for ANYONE, my sleep, exercise and nutrition had to be in place. I didn't feel guilty either--still don't.

runningfromfat
09-14-2011, 09:32 AM
Multi-tasking. ;) 1 years old is a really hard age because they're getting into everything but are still to young to be left on their own to play much.

One rule that I've had for awhile now is to NEVER clean when DD is sleeping. That's my me time. If the dishes need to be done due them when he's awake. Have you tried using a baby carrier? He can ride around and be right there with you while you're cleaning. You can actually do a lot when he's on the floor playing, things like sweeping, picking up, folding laundry etc.

At that age I also used the jogging stroller to get a run in with DD. Sometimes I'd make sure the half way point was by a playgroup so she could get out a bit and run around before we finished the run. Normally the best time for me to get a workout in was right after she went to bed, I'd pop in the 30 Day Shred DVD so I could get in a quick 20 min workout.

Also, like others said, what you eat is something you can easily change that isn't going to cost you more time. I try to involve DD in the cooking process (or at least let her play with measuring cups) while I'm cooking.

Munchy
09-14-2011, 11:51 AM
I'm a single mom to a four year old and I work full time, many hours beyond my coworkers. I will not allow time and how it's dictated to me rule my diet - I create my diet and let time work for me! :)

This is cross posted:
I make a lot of easy meals to supplement the more time-intensive meals that I freeze into portions on weekends. I cook big batches of tomato sauce, jar them, and freeze to have on hand. I do the same with zucchini turkey meatballs, curries, spicy beans, casseroles, burritos, portions of soup or chili for daily lunch, and all kinds of things that I'd want to eat. I often make instant brown rice to mix with some of the aforementioned meals.

-Make a little chicken when you can - grill, bake, crockpot, whatever. It helps to have it cooked when you're going for quick

-Salads are always easy, and can vary

-Soups with some veggies, broth, maybe pasta, maybe rice, maybe chicken (that you would have already made). All kinds of chili - chili is filling and can be incredibly healthy.

Asian noodle bowls are another variation. I use tofu noodles, but you can use rice noodles or anything around, some sriracha, hoisin, etc, and mix with your veggies and sauce.

-Flatbread pizzas. Take flatbread (I use flatout), bake, cover with toppings of choice, bake. I've made BBQ chicken, Thai chicken, regular pizza varieties, buffalo chicken.

-Tuna cakes - like crab cakes, but with canned tuna

-Roast your veggies. It's simple and tastes delicious with little to no prep

-Quesadillas are easy and delicious - I use Trader Joe's low carb

-Sandwiches and wraps

-I use barley as a "pasta" and mix with veggies and tomato sauce, maybe a little Parmesan.

-I make cheese sauce (for homemade macaroni and cheese) and even cook a little extra pasta to have on hand to make cooking even faster.

-Loaded microwave "baked" potato (roast your broccoli, maybe crisp up a chopped piece of turkey or center cut bacon),

-stir fry over quick cooking brown rice - you can even use the chicken that you've already cooked! Trader Joe's has a nice frozen stir fry mix in which the veggies taste much better than some of the others.

You can do this! You may not have an extra hour everyday to cook, but you can cook three meals in an hour when you DO have the time.

Also, you can incorporate your child into exercise. My daughter and I walk together around a local reservoir with friends and their kids (she can't do the entire four mile walk I use a stroller), we also take a parenting through swimming class together, and a child/parent yoga class. I also hike with friends when I can. I have a gym membership, but I don't always use it since it's more fun to be active out and about than in a gym.

How much time do you spend preparing your meals now? I bet you can use that same exact amount of time to make something similar and even healthier!

Beach Patrol
09-14-2011, 01:22 PM
You have to make the time and put your health and fitness as a priority in your day, and yes, that beats a spotless house. There should be enough time to keep things reasonably neat and tidy but still find 15-20 minutes at a time for some activity for your health. You don't have to do 30-60 minutes all at once, the bits and pieces over the day add up too.

^^THIS^^ :D

Also keep in mind that you don't HAVE to "exercise/work out" in order to lose weight. I'm not saying that you shouldn't exercise- because I believe that exercise is good for the body, mind & spirit! But maybe use this as a general guideline... "DIET for weight loss; EXERCISE for fitness"

My suggestion is that the best/easiest/quickest/least expensive exercise you can possibly do is to put your child in a stroller & just walking around your neighborhood. Walking is GREAT exercise. Plus, you get the benefit of being outdoors & with your child at the same time. :woohoo:

ChickieChicks
09-14-2011, 02:39 PM
I'm a SAHM of a 3 and 5 year old.

Jogging strollers rock. You can often fidn them on consignment. Even if you do n't jog, i didn't, it gets you out and about. Stroll your neighborhood. Drive to the park and stroll down a path or two.

A 1 year old, most kiddos take 2 naps, which can feel binding, since it's hard to leave the house between 9-11 and 1-3, etc. Take advantage in the morning, if you are early risers.

Can you go to the Y? It will take a few PAINFUL tries to get him used to the childcare, but the more you go, the better it will be! Make going to the Y, or taking a walk, or cruising around the zoo, etc...part of your daily routine. It doesn't always have to be formal excercise..just get moving. Pick up that sweet baby and dance around the house to your favorite music. He'll think your moves rock! :-)

Ditto to the poster who doesn't clean during naptime!!!! That is your time. Relax. Eat lunch alone. Go to the bathroom ALONE. LOL Do a quick worjout video and then take a speedy nap! Enjoy a blissful cup of coffee and read a trashy magazine!

I lost myself in my kiddos and gained all my weight from feeling the need to be Supermom and Superwife. It took me many years to realize they aren't passing out martyr medals for who sacrifices the most and has the cleanest house! LOL I am happier than I have ever been (post kiddos), and that is b/c I am fit, I prioritize my "me time" and I find ways to work out...no matter what.

My 3 year old often gets the dreary task of helping to weigh down my bike so I can get a harder workout. LOL They go to the Y, even on days when they fuss about wanting to stay home. IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT THEM!!! Seriously.

The biggest thing is to cut yourself some slack and realize that beig a SAHM can be so tiring, emtionally and phsyically, so don't go crazy. Try to thing of ways to enhance what you are currently doing, without setting yourself up for failure. The kids WILL get sick. You WILL have a bad, stressful, no-good day. Try to be flexible.

Icey21
09-14-2011, 02:52 PM
Thanks every one that is a lot of help i am trying my hardest to make time for myself and i have the last 2 days! I feel like my house is a wreck but if feels good to have some time for myself!!! and to answer yall questions i dont have anywhere to walk and i dont go to the gym, i workout at home. See i thought i was doing really good right after i had my son cause within 2 weeks i was back to a smaller size when when i got pregnant so i was so excited i also didnt put on much weight till the end. Then when i went on birth control that is when i put on 20 lbs in less than 4 or 5 months. So i am not trying my hardest to get that back off. I also feel really down about the fact i had to have a C-section so i feel like i may never have a flat stomach again. Has anyone else had a c-section and got there belly tight again? But i am going to work hard for myself! Also the problem i have is working out when my BF is off work cause i wont workout around him for some reason i cant do that abound him!