Weight Loss Support - Does Any One Want To Lose Weight To Look Hot/Sexy For Guys?




sexychick
08-30-2011, 10:58 AM
Are their any women who want to lose weight so they can look hot/sexy for guys? Or I am the only one?


Scarlett
08-30-2011, 11:16 AM
I am doing this for me. So I feel good about myself, have more confidence and can do fun active things.

With that being said looking good for guys is a secondary motivator.

There is a college guy friend I've had a thing for for awhile. Then things sort of heated up between us 2 weeks ago. I have non-delusional reasons to believe he really likes me. In the back of my mind seeing him in 3 weeks is motivating me to stay on track. Also I think it's so sweet that this started when I weighed 197 pounds and he normally dates thinner girls. This makes me like him even more.

PrincessAmy
08-30-2011, 11:18 AM
Im doing this for me as well..but i wont lie there is A someone who I would LOVEE to impress lol...


sacha
08-30-2011, 11:33 AM
Sorry girls, the troll is strong with this one. Only talks about losing weight to look hot for guys, half-naked sister, and asking women what they do/eat? But nothing about "her" own habits? Whatever.... I'd be surprised if this wasn't a man getting his jollies off.

canadianwoman
08-30-2011, 11:38 AM
I'm single and losing weight for myself....not for any guy.

mzKiki
08-30-2011, 11:40 AM
LOL Sacha you may be right!!

canadianwoman
08-30-2011, 11:40 AM
Sorry girls, the troll is strong with this one. Only talks about losing weight to look hot for guys, half-naked sister, and asking women what they do/eat? But nothing about "her" own habits? Whatever.... I'd be surprised if this wasn't a man getting his jollies off.

My guess is she is just a really young person who does not have much experience with life itself and the workings of the world.

DietVet
08-30-2011, 11:47 AM
I've been thinking the same thing as Sacha. The postings by this person are really weird. Could be an unsocialized young person but I think it's more likely to be a troll.

QuilterInVA
08-30-2011, 11:58 AM
That's probably one of the worst reasons I've seen posted for losing weight. Very shallow. What if the guys still don't come? Get real!

sexychick
08-30-2011, 12:05 PM
Sorry girls but those are just questions I am curious about. I am 19 years old, I use to weigh 200 lbs and lost 18 lbs since January. I ask these questions because I am curious as to what motivates....thank you for hurting my feelings :(

happynottsgirl
08-30-2011, 12:14 PM
Hi sexychick, please don't be repelled by the ageist posts! This is usually a very supportive board.


Yes, of course I want to look great for guys! I love guys, particularly Germans hehe :D

The thing in my case is, that guys tend to prefer my rounder version! So that's one thing that's been on my mind, however, I will continue to lose the weight because (that's what I want) but also I will be more comfortable and attractive at my goal weight, and confident people are more attractive.

Guys are definitely not my priority, I enjoy looking the way I want to look, wearing what I like etc. , but I certainly don't consider it 'shallow' either.

canadianwoman
08-30-2011, 12:25 PM
Sorry girls but those are just questions I am curious about. I am 19 years old, I use to weigh 200 lbs and lost 18 lbs since January. I ask these questions because I am curious as to what motivates....thank you for hurting my feelings :(

I am sorry that your feelings have been hurt. I thought you were pretty young from reading your posts and to be honest I felt exactly the same way that you did when I was 19. I wanted to lose weight to look good for the opposite sex. Not so much now as I am almost 50 years old. I am single and I would like to look good to the opposite sex but that is not my reason for losing weight. I am doing this for my health and to increase my already limited mobility. Losing weight for guys is waaaaay down on my list. You would probably feel the same way as I would if you were my age but I can see why you feel the way you do.

Congratulations on the weight loss and keep up the good work. I hope you succeed. :)

puneri
08-30-2011, 12:29 PM
I too think she is very young. Grow girl. You have to be healthy..that shud be your first aim. you have to look good for your self esteem or your mental health.

Astrild
08-30-2011, 12:43 PM
I want to lose weight for all sorts of vain reasons, but no, guys aren't one of them. I've just never wanted to please males. lol

RJ 1980
08-30-2011, 12:46 PM
The main reason I want to lose is for myself and my confidence. (I can't say health is my number one reason b/c I've never had health problems-yet- so it's hard to care a whole lot about that at this time in my life In the future I'm sure it will matter more.) BUT I also can't wait to look good again for my husband! :) He's been amazing through my huge weight gain, and I want to wear cute outfits again and have him proud to show me off! Not that he's not proud now, but I have no confidence in how I look so it's hard. He's really the only guy I want to look good for though! :D

H82Sweat
08-30-2011, 01:20 PM
I am 43 years old and you know what? I guess I am shallow as all get out because one of the top, if not the top, motivators for me with my weight loss has been looking good for my husband.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to look good. Especially if getting fit and trim boosts your confidence!

So ignore the snark and do what you can using what motivates you :)

sexychick
08-30-2011, 01:30 PM
I do want to be healthy because I know if you don't have health, you don't have anything, but I do feel lonely and want a great boyfriend. Because of the way I look, guys haven't really been attracted to me.

Ryler832
08-30-2011, 01:52 PM
I do want to be healthy because I know if you don't have health, you don't have anything, but I do feel lonely and want a great boyfriend. Because of the way I look, guys haven't really been attracted to me.

The right guy will come along. If a guy is not attracted to me when I am thicker then he is the shallow one.

I am losing the weight for me. There is no guy or man in the world that would make me lose weight for them. My husband loves me just the way that I am but I want to be more confident in myself.

icelandgirl90
08-30-2011, 01:55 PM
I will admit it, I was single for my whole life and always shy with boys because I wasnīt happy with my weight. So my initial motivation to lose weight was to attract guys. After I had lost about 20 pounds I met my boyfriend, I donīt know if it was because of the weight loss or just because I was more confident and put myself out there more.
Itīs just a fact that most guys are more attracted to girls that are at a healthy weight and confident and happy with their shape. Iīm not saying you need to be stick thin, but when you are happy and healthy it shows and makes you more attractive. So yes, attention from boys was one of the main motivators in the beginning, but now that I have a boy Iīve still continued to lose 25 more pounds. I feel so much better and more happy and confident that what started out as my motivator has changed into motivation to just feel better about myself and be healthy:)

cherrypie
08-30-2011, 02:11 PM
I am 43 years old and you know what? I guess I am shallow as all get out because one of the top, if not the top, motivators for me with my weight loss has been looking good for my husband.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to look good. Especially if getting fit and trim boosts your confidence!

So ignore the snark and do what you can using what motivates you :)

:lol: me too

PreciousMissy
08-30-2011, 02:28 PM
The entire human race bases initial attraction on looks...it's just a fact.

When we're out shopping we don't pick out clothes that look hideous hoping they might be comfortable. We pick out colors and patterns that we like, we pick out styles that we like.

I don't see anything wrong with wanting to lose weight to attract a mate.

Amberkkski
08-30-2011, 02:57 PM
My main reason is to be happy with myself and know that i can do this BUT that being said ofcourse i want to do it for guys. Im 21 and honestly im very picky when it comes to guys and im attracted to good looking muscley guys and if thats what i want why should they want to date someone WAYYY over weight??? So to shorten this up YES a big reason is to look good to men

FatNoMore03
08-30-2011, 03:02 PM
I lost all the extra weight mainly for me and my health. BUT the motivation comes from the fact that I owe it to my husband to look good. :)

Aclai4067
08-30-2011, 03:42 PM
I can't say looking good for guys is not a factor, but it's not the only factor. Frankly, even if a guy thought I was the hottest thing on earth right now, I don't feel confident enough to date. So I'm doing it to be healthy and fit and to wear cute clothes and feel confident and yes, to start dating.

kelly315
08-30-2011, 04:18 PM
My biggest worry is that, if I find myself single at a lower weight, that I'll start attracting all those guys which I can't stand and won't be able to differentiate at first. I'm so disgusted by guys that won't date an overweight woman, and I would absolutely hate dating one.

I have no interest in doing this for guys. None at all. I'm in a happy relationship with someone who's loved me through fat and thin, and even if I wasn't, I'm not very interested in changing myself for men.

Mimzzy
08-30-2011, 04:41 PM
I am 21 and I admit that one of the reasons I want to lose the weight is to be more attractive to my boyfriend. Of course I have many other reasons I want to lose weight but I would be lying if I said that was not a BIG one.

I think whatever is motivating you to stay on track is a good reason! Keep up the good work :D

fitmom
08-30-2011, 06:11 PM
I initially started my journey for me and me alone BUT that being said...yeah, at the ripe old age of 39 (lol) does my ego get a kick when my hubby of 14 years can't keep his hands off me and tells me that I look better when he met me at the age of 19? Yes!!!

canadianwoman
08-30-2011, 06:13 PM
I'm so disgusted by guys that won't date an overweight woman, and I would absolutely hate dating one.


That is one of my worried about dating again (when I am ready to). I would let him know (at least on the second or third date) that I was a former fat woman and see what happens from there.

canadianwoman
08-30-2011, 06:15 PM
even if a guy thought I was the hottest thing on earth right now, I don't feel confident enough to date.

I also feel the same way right now. Colin Firth will have to wait a little longer. ;) :D

kelly585
08-30-2011, 06:32 PM
I want to lose weights so I look good but I am a married mother of 2 so my main reason is to feel healthy and not be worried about my health so much. I think though once you lose all the weight it will help build your self confidence and looking hot will be a side effect! You should be proud of the 18 pounds, keep up the good work!

124chicksinger
08-30-2011, 06:32 PM
No.

shishkeberry
08-30-2011, 06:53 PM
I'm not interested in pleasing men. It's not like anything you do will ever be enough for them anyway. I'm interested in pleasing me.

April Snow
08-30-2011, 08:40 PM
I think most people trying to lose weight do in part want to look better as a result. I guess we all define exactly what that means though, and for a lot of people, but not everyone, it includes feeling more attractive to potential romantic partners. But not everyone would define that as looking hot for boys.

I donīt know if it was because of the weight loss or just because I was more confident and put myself out there more. Itīs just a fact that most guys are more attracted to girls that are at a healthy weight and confident and happy with their shape. Iīm not saying you need to be stick thin, but when you are happy and healthy it shows and makes you more attractive.

I mostly agree with this and generally speaking, the majority of people find fit and healthy people attractive. But personally, I think it comes down to feeling comfortable in your own skin, no matter what size you are. I have what I call my "fighting weight" - I've been a curvy size 14 and felt fantastic then, and the men I dated agreed! But when I put on more weight and didn't like my own body very much, how could I expect others to? So my motivation is primarily to get back a body that I feel fantastic in, and as a part of that, I'll look forward to feeling comfortable dating again.

Harriette
08-30-2011, 08:57 PM
Doesn't everyone? and by opposite sex you could mean same sex for those so inclined!

I am happily married and mid 30's. It was not my primary reason for losing weight but hey, it's really awesome when someone "checks" me out these days! Isn't that completely normal? Sure it is healthier to be thin but you have to wonder if our society placed importance on women being big if we would all be here talking about how fat we could get :D

berryblondeboys
08-30-2011, 09:14 PM
I totally want to feel sexy and to look good for me and for my husband and if other guys give me a second look, well, hey, that feels great too! So while it wasn't my main motivation, it's definitely one that's building as I get more fit and thinner.

ringmaster
08-30-2011, 09:20 PM
yes, my weight is the main reason I held back from dating. That and not being able to find clothes that fit properly. Sure it's for my self esteem, but high self esteem is sexy.

sure people can say you are young and/or shallow, but let's face it, in today's world looks do matter. I look at really obese guys and it is a turn off... and if that guy has no plans, desire or isn't even trying to lose weight and get healthy then I don't think I would date him.

Cali Doll
08-30-2011, 09:38 PM
Yup! I want men to think I'm hot.

But, more importantly, I want to be happy w/ myself. I mean, there are men who were attracted to me at 230 pounds. That's not enough to keep me that big, though.

sexychick
08-30-2011, 10:53 PM
Thank you to all for your post I feel much better and I feel very supported :) I'm super glad that I am not alone.

fatferretfanatic
08-30-2011, 11:48 PM
Of course. That's not my main motivator, but I want to look great, hot and sexy to my husband. He's in Navy basic training, and I would LOVE it if when he'd got out, he sees me littler than he has in years and thinks I look gorgeous.He already tells me I am beautiful,but this time around I'll feel beautiful and that means a lot to me.

sontaikle
08-31-2011, 12:15 AM
I think it's silly to lose weight to just please men. For one, you may potentially be shutting out men as some are attracted to larger women! :o

I know women of all sizes who have men flocking to them, and they all have one thing in common—confidence! The more confident you are in yourself, the more attractive you are regardless of how much you weigh. Not everyone is superficial the way we assume they are.

I also know women of all sizes who have trouble getting any dates. Generally they are unsure of themselves. If this happens at any size, losing weight will NOT fix that. You must learn to love yourself before someone else can love you.

In the end, beauty fades. What you look like at 20 will not necessarily be what you look like at 60. If you base your entire relationship on pretty faces, what will happen years later when the looks fade?

IsobelRose22
08-31-2011, 04:32 AM
Sexychick I'm sorry about all the negative posts you've had. Personally it shouldn't matter to other people what your motivation is to lose weight as long as it's keeping you on the straight and narrow and motivating you to lose the weight.

I know exactly what you mean. I was dumped by 2 exes because of my weight. So one motivation is to show those 2 guys exactly what they've lost out on :) Of course my health is important to me, but i'm only 22 and lucky enough to have avoided health problems so far, so my main motivation is the way I look. I am doing this for me, to make myself feel better about myself, but I would like to look good to show those idiots what they're missing.

If it motivates you then its a very good, valid reason to lose weight. It shouldn't be written off as shallow.

My main reason is to be happy with myself and know that i can do this BUT that being said ofcourse i want to do it for guys. Im 21 and honestly im very picky when it comes to guys and im attracted to good looking muscley guys and if thats what i want why should they want to date someone WAYYY over weight??? So to shorten this up YES a big reason is to look good to men

You took the words right out of my mouth. If we expect looks and fitness, why shouldn't they? As horrible as it is, while I do want to show my exes exactly what they're missing now that I'm getting slimmer, they were both really into fitness (one is a physical fiitness instructor at erlstoke prison in the UK) I do understand why they dumped me, if thats what I'm attracted to, then I can't accuse them of being shallow when I put value on the same things (health and fitness)

Its not justn guys that like a slimmer woman, its society as a whole. I have lost out on so many jobs to slimmer, fitter women its unbelievable. My last interview at an Italian restaurant, was a group interview. There were some amazingly qualified people in the room who wouuld have been perfect, some of them were older, some were bigger, and the job went to the slimmest more attractive girl, even though (in my opinion, I could be wrong) she wasn't the most qualified.

Lovely
08-31-2011, 05:13 AM
Nope.

That's not even on my list of reasons, actually.

But, different strokes for different folks.

I'm quite unabashedly selfish about my journey. All of my reasons are about me.

canadianwoman
08-31-2011, 07:48 AM
you may potentially be shutting out men as some are attracted to larger women

You have to tread carefully with those type of men IMO. As a larger woman myself, I have met quite a few who are *feeders* and those are the type of guys you do not want to get involved with.

sontaikle
08-31-2011, 07:54 AM
You have to tread carefully with those type of men IMO. As a larger woman myself, I have met quite a few who are *feeders* and those are the type of guys you do not want to get involved with.

Well of course. There are creepy guys after women of all sizes, so we have to watch out, unfortunately.

I've had men attracted to me at 200 pounds and they've been attracted to me now at 157 pounds. My fiancee finds me attractive at any weight :)

IsobelRose22
08-31-2011, 11:32 AM
You have to tread carefully with those type of men IMO. As a larger woman myself, I have met quite a few who are *feeders* and those are the type of guys you do not want to get involved with.

I ended up 266lbs thanks to one of those men who likes 'bigger women' he was constantly buying me junk and making me feel like he wouldn't stick around or love me if I lost weight. Looking back, I can't believe I was such an idiot to be taken in by him, I'd never ever let that happen again. Men who value health and fitness are the only way forward for me now!

Gabe
08-31-2011, 01:10 PM
Yeah, somewhat, though it's far from being the only factor. My health is way more important, for instance. And, honestly, even though I was really, really big--not that I'm svelte now, mind you, but bigger than I am--I never really had too much trouble there. The best sex I ever had was at my top weight. It's about projecting confidence, and for some reason, when it comes to guys, I can do that.

Still, though, I'm vain enough that it'd be nice to be admired for my looks, even without the sparkling charm and rapier wit.

canadianwoman
08-31-2011, 03:43 PM
I ended up 266lbs thanks to one of those men who likes 'bigger women' he was constantly buying me junk and making me feel like he wouldn't stick around or love me if I lost weight. Looking back, I can't believe I was such an idiot to be taken in by him, I'd never ever let that happen again. Men who value health and fitness are the only way forward for me now!

The same with me. The last guy I was in a relationship with constantly wanted to go out to eat and visit buffets. No wonder that I had regained the 50 pounds I had lost with extra and then he complained when I wasn't losing weight fast enough for him. Geeze. I am glad that he is someone else's problem now and my weight is on a downward spiral again.

MissNikki930
12-05-2011, 12:42 PM
I'm mainly doing this for myself, but I have to admit, I would love to look better for my husband. I often worry that HE is embarrassed to be seen with me because he is so slim. He always says he is not and has never gave me any indication that he is, this is just my own insecurity.

Esofia
12-05-2011, 01:34 PM
I know if you don't have health, you don't have anything

Er, not really.

marigrace
12-05-2011, 04:02 PM
Well....I'm 60, and not yet in the "limited mobility" stage. Call me shallow, but looking great ( losing weight) is a major motivator for me. It about confidence and ( I confess) I am also very interested in keeping my boyfriend on his toes......

DesertTabby
12-05-2011, 04:24 PM
Doing it for myself is the main thing (especially since I found out that I have hypothyroidism and PCOS, and with those being taken care of I actually do have a chance!) But...getting more male attention would be the biggest and sweetest cherry on top.

I did notice that a lot of guy friends started to pay a bit more attention to me after my weight loss. Most of them haven't seen me in six months, where I went from 190 to 160; so it was a rather dramatic reveal if I do say so myself! I was excited for it, but instead of feeling satisfaction when I saw their 'Wow'ed faces and the inevitable traveling of their eyes down my body (I was blessed with an incredible hour glass figure as I lost the weight 36-38 inch D-DD bust, 30 inch waist and 42 inch hips. Just don't make me remove my clothes...) Instead of feeling proud or gloat over their expressions I felt...disgusted. I lost a little respect for them. Heck, sometimes it felt more like what I was doing was out of vengeance; you didn't like me before? Well you are definitely not getting a chance with me now.

I admit I don't like this side of me. I am noticing I have less patience as I lose weight. I am more self-centered and less forgiving. If I don't like something I'd say it far too bluntly or just walk away. A part of me is worried I may end up being one of those 'skinny *****es' that I used to loathe, or worse yet a high maintenance girl. :O

Jojo381972
12-05-2011, 04:32 PM
^haha, great post!

I'm doing it for me first. I'm obsessed with my will to get healthier. The cherry on top as someone mentioned would be to find a hot, and great guy.

I'm finding that many men are shallow and I'll feel exactly like DesertTabby when i get to that weight. I'm also become more self-centered, more upfront and less forgiving to idiots. Confidence is building.. :)

ArtyKay
12-05-2011, 05:59 PM
Yes and no. I want to lose weight so that I can be comfortable in my own body. First and foremost.

DH has no problem with my weight...his problem is that I hate my body. He hates when I put myself down and he hates that I'm self conscious.

I want to look hot/sexy for ME. If he benefits...;) My weight loss is going to be the equivalent of a man giving a woman something sexy as a present. Its for him...but mostly its for me.

aware210
12-05-2011, 09:43 PM
My husband met me when i was thin, and married me when i was fat. He loves me more than anything, so i know i don't have to be skinny for him. To me though its kind of an ego thing, i want him to be able to show me off. Also, he is very fit and extremely hot, so i want to look as good as him. I don't want other girls looking at him then looking at me and wondering why or thinking they have chance because I'm not as attractive, because they don't.

ArtyKay
12-06-2011, 01:45 AM
My husband met me when i was thin, and married me when i was fat. He loves me more than anything, so i know i don't have to be skinny for him. To me though its kind of an ego thing, i want him to be able to show me off. Also, he is very fit and extremely hot, so i want to look as good as him. I don't want other girls looking at him then looking at me and wondering why or thinking they have chance because I'm not as attractive, because they don't.

Same here. Exactly the same here.

Nobody but me has a chance with my husband...whether I weighed 100 lbs or 500 lbs...but I want him to be able to show me off like you. I want other guys to be jealous that my hubby has such a hot wife. :p

ange82much
12-06-2011, 02:55 AM
Well....I'm 60, and not yet in the "limited mobility" stage. Call me shallow, but looking great ( losing weight) is a major motivator for me. It about confidence and ( I confess) I am also very interested in keeping my boyfriend on his toes......

good work marigrace!

i'm 43 and happy for you to call me shallow too - i've always been healthy, so my main motivation for controling my weight is to look better - it makes me feel good, which is pretty much the same motivation as losing to look better for guys.

cfan
12-06-2011, 04:19 AM
Yeah, I agree with most of the others, and speaking as a young person myself (only 22)...I am losing weight for myself first, and for guys...that's just a bonus.;)

MedChick87
12-06-2011, 12:43 PM
I agree with some of the other pp's...I don't think anyone should be able to determine what your motivation for losing weight should be. We obviously will not all have the same motivators, but none are silly or stupid. I have some really "ridiculous" means for motivation, but they work!! That's all that matters right??

To answer the question, I guess I'm shallow too b/c I definitely use guys as a motivating factor...well guy. My bf is very athletic and healthy and I want to be the same! I know he likes me as I am but would also prefer a skinnier version of myself. As would I! So yes, I do use that as motivation to continue losing. And no, I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

rachaelm
12-06-2011, 02:23 PM
I would like to look hot for my hubby. But that is not what motivated me to actually start trying.

JollyGreenSteen19
12-06-2011, 11:20 PM
If I was single, I think my answer would be yes - because right now if I hadn't been in a long term relationship where I gained 80 lbs since meeting him I would be completely unable to go out and pick up guys feeling like i feel now. I know not all men are shallow and that we all have plenty to offer but there are things about an obese person I know are just not attractive to people.

For the most part, fitting into clothes and feeling comfortable in my skin AND some nice clothes would mean the world. Also being able to do things I can't do (like ride amusement park rides) and not worrying about not fitting in airplane or movie theatre seats would just be amazing. If I was to attract Mr. Right, that would just be gravy.

JollyGreenSteen19
12-06-2011, 11:22 PM
I'm mainly doing this for myself, but I have to admit, I would love to look better for my husband. I often worry that HE is embarrassed to be seen with me because he is so slim. He always says he is not and has never gave me any indication that he is, this is just my own insecurity.

I feel that way too. He obviously loves you but I know for me I am always thinking "well he'd never tell me that to my face because he knows it would be rude and would hurt my feelings". Whether or not it's true I don't know. I do wish my husband could have a hot thin wife :(

lm3898
12-12-2011, 12:54 PM
I don't see anything wrong wanting to look good for a guy. Part of the reason I started to loose weight in the first place was because of my husband. He never said one negative word but it got to be embarrassing to watch him to go the gym or run several days a week and eat healthy/in moderation. There I was stuffing my face without watching and not exercising, steadily gaining weight. Yes, I did it for myself, but I also did it for him - because I want to look the best I can for him since I know that's what he does for me!

I really don't want to sound mean but part of attraction IS physical, there are people who like every sort of person out there, but you generally start talking to someone b/c you are physically attracted to them [you can't know someone's personality before you meet them] and the fact is there are people who wouldn't talk to someone because of their weight as they are not immediately turned on/interested in that. I personally don't think that's wrong...just by opinion, not trying to offend anyone.

gagalu
12-13-2011, 09:22 AM
no. my body is not an object for men to be pleased by. i wouldn't endure the things that i've gone through simply to arouse desire in a man who cares only about my physical appearance. i don't exist for them.

that said, my weight loss journey has definitely been centered around self-esteem issues. i don't feel confident when i am fat, for obvious reasons.

kyalpn
12-13-2011, 10:18 AM
I think there is a part of most people that start a weight loss journey because they want the be beautiful to the opposite sex, and I think that is normal. So don't feel bad. I would love to walk into a room and make the men's mouths drop open, and I'm much older than you. :D ;)

But I have to tell you that men aren't only attracted to attractive, sexy women. They are attracted to us for a lot of reasons that don't have to do with weight.

They are attracted to a woman who loves herself and loves her body. They are attracted to women who are confident, who are going places in life, and have some substance to their character, are interesting to talk to, are genuine people.

Please don't get caught up in the lie that you have to look and act a certain way to get a guy's attention. Too many girls have fallen for that and found that sometimes guys (especially younger ones) do what they need to to get what they want, and then they move on, leaving her to pick up the pieces of her heart. Don't be that girl. :hug:

Instead, make this journey about yourself. About finding your own health and well being. About finding things you love, trying new things. Finding the confidence to love and be comfortable with yourself. Then, you will find the man that is attracted to you for all the right reasons.:D

Icey21
12-13-2011, 11:38 AM
Your not the only one... But for him is not the only reason, I have a son i want to be healthy for, and for myself.