If my posts seem a little smug today please forgive me! It's because I've reached the closest thing I ever had to a goal - as of today I've lost 100 pounds. I'm feeling pretty good about it!
If you're wondering, it's taken me two years to reach this milestone. Yep - two years. That averages out to about a pound a week. I learned a lot about patience and long-term thinking. I wouldn't have it any other way.
I tend to be the sort of person who gives advice, rather than seeking support. I haven't poured my heart out much here during the times of doubt and frustration, but rest assured I have had them. I have had temper tantrums and complained that it wasn't fair. I have wanted to throw the scale out the window. I have overeaten and binged. But with patience and consistency - getting right back on the horse after those times of weak resolve - I've managed to make this happen.
You can too.
I still have a bit left to go - I'm really don't know how much, but I'll say 25 pounds or so. It might take me another 6 months or another year to get there, wherever "there" is. Still, I feel like a new person - I can say I have felt that way since I hit 85 pounds gone or so, and it's a really great feeling.
Like anyone else who's done this, I can go on for hours about what worked for me, how I did it, what kinds of mental games I played with myself, etc. But that's pretty much what the rest of my posts here are about. So I'll shut up now, and just say this: thanks to every member of this community for support, ideas, advice, data, and everything else you offer. This community has helped keep me focused and interested in this massive two-year renovation project.
08-23-2011, 02:55 PM
:carrot: Congratulations! :carrot: You have a lot to be proud of! Weigh to go! :)
08-23-2011, 03:15 PM
:bravo: and :thanks: back atcha!
What an amazing feat and yes, you should feel a little smug! ;)
08-23-2011, 03:30 PM
I am so happy for you! Biggest congrats EVER! :)
08-23-2011, 03:41 PM
:cp::cp::cp: Way to go Carter!! :cp::cp::cp:
08-23-2011, 03:59 PM
congratulations!!!!!! What an incredibly achievement :)
08-23-2011, 04:01 PM
Congratulations Carter!!! Your post does not sound smug, although you have every right to feel a little smug today! Go look in the mirror at all that you have accomplished.
08-23-2011, 04:02 PM
08-23-2011, 04:06 PM
Congratulations! What a wonderful accomplishment. You should be so proud of yourself.
I am right there with you. I have a two-year plan to take off 100 pounds as well. My mantra is, nice and slow, off you go.
08-23-2011, 04:14 PM
Congratulations! You deserve to be smug!
08-23-2011, 04:23 PM
Congratulations! That is a wonderful milestone!
08-23-2011, 05:09 PM
08-23-2011, 05:45 PM
Congratulations!! That's awesome!
08-23-2011, 05:50 PM
08-23-2011, 06:42 PM
This a wonderful accomplishement!
08-23-2011, 06:59 PM
Congratulations! You are proof that "slow and easy wins the race," only we all know it certainly isn't EASY ! ! ! Best of luck for your continued success.
08-23-2011, 07:02 PM
Your story is wonderful! Congratulations on your persistence. As I face a more-than-100 pound journey myself, this is truly inspiring. Thanks so much for sharing!!
08-23-2011, 07:33 PM
That is awesome for you!!!!! You should be smug and proud!!! Heck...I'd be calling everyone in my phone book to tell them!
08-23-2011, 07:35 PM
Way to go Carter!!! What a fantastic accomplishment! :carrot: :broc: :carrot: :broc:
08-23-2011, 08:17 PM
08-23-2011, 09:31 PM
Sitting in a class. M&Ms were provided by the instructor. No problem declining them when reading about your success!
08-23-2011, 09:34 PM
Grats Carter!! :d
08-23-2011, 10:29 PM
I'd be smug too, if I were you! Amazing job!
08-23-2011, 10:34 PM
Congratulations! That's great!
08-23-2011, 11:21 PM
Congrats!!! Woot woot!
08-23-2011, 11:40 PM
Great work Carter! Congratulations!!
08-24-2011, 12:03 AM
You're such an inspiration! Your patience and understanding and ACCEPTANCE of the process is amazing.
08-24-2011, 12:10 AM
You did it all EXACTLY right! Great job. Be proud. I hear no smugness at all. You deserve to be proud and happy with what you've done.
08-24-2011, 11:11 AM
Thanks folks, you are all very kind.
I can't emphasize enough the importance of patience to my process. (Yesterday I almost lost my temper here at someone with far, far less to lose than I have, complaining about only losing a pound a week. I restrained myself.)
Patience is what has allowed me to have a balanced life and eat healthy most of the time without having to give up occasional celebrations, indulgences, dirty martinis, and so on. I can include these things in my plan now and again because I know it's not the end of the world if I don't see a huge loss every single week. It's what allowed me to say "nah, not today - maybe next time" to most of those very tempting eating opportunities that we are all faced with all the time.
My way probably won't work for everyone but it's hard not to be evangelical about it when it has worked so well for me. :) I've done the flawless-execution, 100% focus, lose-10-pounds-a-month thing in the past, and I've always fallen off the wagon after 30 or 40 pounds of loss, and gained it all back with interest. This time, I didn't.
08-24-2011, 11:19 AM
Yay!!! :cheer: You rock!!
08-24-2011, 12:14 PM
WTG carter Im so happy for you!!!!!!!!!!
Slimmer Down Now
08-24-2011, 01:23 PM
Wow! I'm new here... and reading your post is absolutely inspiring! I am starting this journey with the mindset that I've got to be happy with the small losses - because they ADD UP! People so often get discouraged because they only lost a pound or two... but those add up to 100!!
GOOD FOR YOU!! Don't appologize for smugness (which you weren't btw), but ENJOY YOUR MOMENT!! Now I need to look at your other posts to see what your plan was!! :) CONGRATS! :carrot:
08-24-2011, 10:58 PM
WooHoo!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!! So exciting!
I too am losing approx. 1 pnd/week and it is such a slow process, but it works for me. SO happy to see someone else who has done something similar, stuck with it and been successful. Now, where are the pictures?! :)
08-24-2011, 11:06 PM
GOOD FOR YOU! Great job. Thank you for posting this and inspiring us all.
08-24-2011, 11:13 PM
08-25-2011, 12:02 AM
08-25-2011, 12:41 AM
Congratz! Do you have any pictures?~ :D
08-25-2011, 06:41 PM
Thanks for sharing and giving us all HOPE ;). Congrats on a big milestone.
08-25-2011, 06:51 PM
I am ashamed of myself. I just completed around 3 months and i have started doubting my plan. Till now i am doing all proper things.
I will have to hang on another 9 months i guess as i have
Two 1 month vacation planned.
But, can you be little more elaborate a nd tell us what did you observe
What worked for you and which carbs did you have. Etc ...whatever you think will help.
God bless you.
08-25-2011, 07:32 PM
That is a BIG DEAL ! Congtats ! Wonderful Job !
08-26-2011, 01:00 PM
Great post. Thanks for sharing and CONGRATULATIONS!!!
08-26-2011, 01:16 PM
wow, so happy for you! that's quite an accomplishment :)
08-26-2011, 02:10 PM
08-26-2011, 03:16 PM
All right, a few folks asked for pictures so here you go. The inset picture is May 2009, a couple of months before I started my process. The big picture is earlier this week, at 175 pounds, strong and still built like an ox. ;) I am not a delicately built person and I have a big bust and a fair amount of muscle. I doubt I'll be able to comfortably get as low as 160, but that remains to be seen. I don't have a goal weight yet.
A few people also asked about my plan. Well, like always, there is a short answer and a long answer. The real short answer is that my plan is "Eat less; exercise more - the rest is commentary." That is, the rest is the strategies and the tactics I used to achieve my goals of eating less and exercising more. So here comes a long post about all of that!
I count calories, but not super-rigorously; I don't record my calories every day. Instead, I have developed a routine around a number of go-to meals and snacks that I eat over and over again. I have a good idea of the calories in each of them and I eat within my calories that way. Every month or so, I do a few days of more strict calorie counting and recording, just as a reality check and a way to prevent portion creep.
I love food and I love fine dining. I go out to dinner about once a week, usually for a fine dining meal. (Previously, I went out for fine meals about twice a week and ate take-out frequently as well.) When I am at that once-a-week fine restaurant meal, I order carefully (a cocktail or a glass of wine instead of both, salad starter instead of the cheese plate, fish instead of steak frites, coffee instead of dessert), keep my fingers out of the bread, leave over fattening accompaniments (or ask to substitute them), etc. It just takes a little will and discipline.
Some people might not have room in their plans for that sort of thing. I am sure I could have lost faster by cutting out the restaurant meals entirely or counting calories strictly every day. But as I said above, I have done that before and never made it past 40 pounds lost. So, I'd rather lose a little slower and keep at it long enough to lose all the weight, than lose 40 pounds in a hurry and then fall off the wagon completely.
Other than that one meal, I do a lot of cooking. Like everyone else, I am busy and tired during the week. So I cook on the weekends, making extra portions of protein (like fish, chicken, or lentils) so that all I have to do when I get home from work during the week is saute up some veggies, and I am never more than 15 minutes' work from dinner. And by the way I eat a LOT of vegetables. I love to eat, I love big piles of delicious food, and the way I get that on my plan is to eat heaping portions of tasty vegetables with every meal. I often pass on sides like rice or potatoes - even though I'm not on a low-carb diet, and they aren't objectively "bad" in any way - because they are too calorie-dense to be worth it to me. I'd rather eat two cups of vegetables roasted in a little olive oil than half a cup of rice.
Finally, there are the mental games. The big one for me is "not today." I did not really approach this process thinking about a "lifestyle change" but I seem to have succeeded in making one, one choice at a time. When I am faced with an eating opportunity, I remind myself that it's not my last chance ever to eat whatever delicious treat is tempting me. There are cookies at work every Friday - I can say "eh, not today" because I know they will be back the next week. There is my favorite tres leches cake on the menu at that Cuban restaurant - I can say "eh, not today" because I know it rotates on and off the menu periodically and it will be there another time. You get the idea.
I have basically "not today"ed my way down 100 pounds. Some discipline too, to go to the gym most days when I don't have something else planned in the evening, to do the cooking I need to do on the weekends when I have time to do it, and of course the discipline of "not today" as well.
Okay, that's way more than enough about me. I promise you, I am about as lazy and weak-willed and food-loving as anyone out there. What it took for me was some self-discipline, some determination to be better than my tantrumming inner-three-year-old. I know you can all do the same.
08-26-2011, 04:48 PM
you look GREAT! not today is a great way to approach it, I'm trying to stick to that more. thanks for posting the pic, inspirational