100 lb. Club - such a long road!!!




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rubidoux
08-22-2011, 04:56 PM
I started losing in April and I've been working at it slow and steady, but omg, I am starting to get sick of it! Up until the last couple of weeks I had been pretty excited and motivated, well very excited and motivated. But recently I have run out of steam and I'm feeling like I wish I was closer to goal so I could relax a little. I am happy to see that I'm still able to stay on plan, though, even when I'm not feeling so excited and when I'm not seeing a whole lot of progress on the scale. I kinda new this would have to happen somewhere along the line in a hundred pound journey and was scared that would be the end.

Does anyone have any encouraging thoughts that help when they're feeling this way? I have been telling myself that this is the hardest part but if I hang in the best is still to come -- and it will get easier again. I think.


PreciousMissy
08-22-2011, 05:05 PM
4 months and you're already down almost 40lb? That is awesome!!!!! Great job!

I can understand being burned out...that's how I re-gained all my weight last time I lost it. I've seen some suggestions here when people get burned out they should switch to maintenance mode so they don't revert back to their old ways. Just be careful if you chose to do that...it doesn't mean that you can go back to your old eating habits...which is what I did.

Someone has in their signature: being fat is hard, losing weight is hard, maintaining is hard...pick your hard.

TransformingMyself
08-22-2011, 05:12 PM
Congrats on your weight loss so far! You are doing great! I know it can discouraging. Keep moving forward. It will eventually come off. What type of exercise and food are you eating?


NEMom
08-22-2011, 05:20 PM
Oh, I feel your pain. I have so been in the "I'm sick of this and losing motivation" mode. In fact, the whole month of July was pretty much a wash for me, I did not go up but did not really lose either.
I have added in regular exercise and have held myself to the NO EXCUSES allowed not to do it. I also started a blog here. I do not blog every day but sometimes, I find just getting the words out helps.
I have had battles with my scales but I am getting so close that I can see light at the end of the tunnel and that has kind of rekindled my determination.

There is also a post I have printed out called "One Year From There". If I can find it I will post it for you.

Keep going girl! You are doing GREAT!!!

luckymommy
08-22-2011, 07:17 PM
rubidoux, congrats on all of your progress! Just know that it's normal for motivation to come and go....as you get closer to goal, your motivation will probably increase and you'll be so glad you didn't let a lack of motivation stop you from staying on plan. What other things have helped me in the past? I like to try on clothes that are too big for me or looser than they were before. That's super encouraging. Sometimes, I take small breaks from weighing and just focus on sticking to my plan like crazy glue! ;) I come here and read success stories and ask for help (well, you've already done that). Another thing I do is dress up and do my hair and makeup. I find that it's very motivating. I'm less likely to binge on food if I"m all dressed up. If that doesn't work, I chew gum, go for a walk, do squats, crunches, push ups, etc. Mainly, I don't always have motivation. There were times when I posted something similar to what you posted here and I'm sure I"ll do it again....but I hope we can just remain consistent because it's all about consistency (not perfection).

Trazey34
08-22-2011, 10:14 PM
I know how you feel hun! I'd roll my eyes at people who said it was all about "commitment" blah blah blah. I "committed" to weight loss every Monday morning of my adult life it seemed. Once I got a bit of perspective, figured out WHY I got so fat, dealt with things, it was easier. I still resented not being able to eat what i wanted when i wanted it - but that was all part of the 'growing up' phase for me. No one gets what they want all the time right?

Something I always found motivating - days when I wanted to give up,etc., I'd put 20 (or 40, 55, wherever I was at) pounds of flour, dog food, anything, into bags and carry them around -- for about 1/2 hour til I was sweating and sore and uncomfortable. Then I'd go "ooohhhh riiiiiiiiiiiiight" hahah and remember WHY i was doing all this !!

Sophronia
08-22-2011, 11:01 PM
I sometimes watch documentaries on the super-obese. Not in a "Wow - am I better than them" kind of way, but a "I'm well on my way to being there" kind of way. I never could maintain. I'm either getting fatter or thinner. I need for it to be thinner.

Pacifica Bee
08-22-2011, 11:21 PM
This board has helped me tremendously when I needed motivation. I have gone through the goals, mini-goals and maintainers photos more times then I will admit to ;)

goal4agirl
08-23-2011, 01:56 AM
Oh wow do I feel your pain! I felt the same way- lack of motivation because the scale was not moving as fast as it was in the beginning. I went off plan the month of June and I gained 9 Lbs. back. I was scared to weigh. All it took was to see that weight gain come back so quickly to wake me up again. I just don't want to go back. I can gain weight so quick. I have been working very hard to get back off that almost 10 Lb. gain.
That was a new motivator for me. So hang in there girl- you have done a fabulous job losing in a short amount of time!

jitterfish
08-23-2011, 04:04 AM
Everyone goes through this. It might seem like a long time, but that time is going to pass - so it may as well pass with you getting healthier and hotter! Make sure you have those small goals and that you really are celebrating them. Not just going yay I lost 10lb. But I lost 10lb so now I get to buy xx. My next goal I'm off to get a facial, its so darn close I'm excited!

rubidoux
08-23-2011, 09:28 PM
I can understand being burned out...that's how I re-gained all my weight last time I lost it.


This is good for me to hear because I can see how easy it could happen. I'm happy you're back now!

Congrats on your weight loss so far! You are doing great! I know it can discouraging. Keep moving forward. It will eventually come off. What type of exercise and food are you eating?

My plan is a little onerous, which is probably not helpful. I eat once a day at around 7 pm. For most of the last four months, I was eating 2 g of carb a day, but now I've added whole milk yogurt. Because of my diabetes it is *really* hard for me to lose weight and I don't lose at all on normal diets. My endocrinologist told me that he has never seen a type I lose weight, so I feel lucky to have stumbled on something that works. I don't exercise for weight-loss at all, though I have started walking for fitness. :)


I have had battles with my scales but I am getting so close that I can see light at the end of the tunnel and that has kind of rekindled my determination.

Keep going girl! You are doing GREAT!!!

Thank you! I had some set-backs in july, too. Ugh! But I am thinking that in another 20 pounds or so I'll start feeling like I have turned that corner, too. I have a mini-goal of 135 because I was at that weight for a long time in my early 20s and felt good there. So, I'm trying not to see 114 as my destination so much as icing on the cake. It's my "low goal" or something. But I will be so excited to see 135, so it's not *that* far away, right?

Luckymommy, I like to try clothes on, too! lol I do myself a little fashion show here about once a week, usually with a couple of pounds or so in between. I feel goofy to do it, but it's exciting to see how things drape on me now. I have thought about now weighing everyday, but the idea scares me! Like what if all **** breaks loose somehow, or what if I excitedly look forward to my end of week weigh-in and it's not very impressive? Gah! It may end up being part of this journey at some point, though. Anyhow, it's comforting to hear that someone who has done as well at this as you have also had low moments.

I still resented not being able to eat what i wanted when i wanted it - but that was all part of the 'growing up' phase for me. No one gets what they want all the time right?

Something I always found motivating - days when I wanted to give up,etc., I'd put 20 (or 40, 55, wherever I was at) pounds of flour, dog food, anything, into bags and carry them around -- for about 1/2 hour til I was sweating and sore and uncomfortable. Then I'd go "ooohhhh riiiiiiiiiiiiight" hahah and remember WHY i was doing all this !!

Yes! I am very good at the "hunger is not an emergency" idea. But not as comfortable with the "you can never sit down and eat all that you want whatever you want again" idea. So, I'm okay with going without for some period of time, but good grief, I need a meal with some chocolate cake at the end. lol And that's a great idea about carrying the heavy stuff. I always think of my 25 pound toddler and it amazes me that I used to carry that much plus 15 more around all the time. Wow! It does make me wonder what it'll feel like in another 50 or 60 pounds.

I sometimes watch documentaries on the super-obese. Not in a "Wow - am I better than them" kind of way, but a "I'm well on my way to being there" kind of way. I never could maintain. I'm either getting fatter or thinner. I need for it to be thinner.

I just watched that juicing movie today and it was really motivating. I sure wish I could run out and start juicing, but the carbs would not be my friend. I should look for more movies...

This board has helped me tremendously when I needed motivation. I have gone through the goals, mini-goals and maintainers photos more times then I will admit to ;)

Your mini-goal (not so mini imo) thread is amazing! And very motivating. I like looking at those, too.

Everyone goes through this. It might seem like a long time, but that time is going to pass - so it may as well pass with you getting healthier and hotter! Make sure you have those small goals and that you really are celebrating them. Not just going yay I lost 10lb. But I lost 10lb so now I get to buy xx. My next goal I'm off to get a facial, its so darn close I'm excited!

Yes! I've been thinking that I want to get some really great underwear soon. Not like sexy underwear (my kids co-sleep :dizzy:), but just some nice underwear that fit me well and look like something a young person with a sound body would wear. I am so sick of ill fitting underwear! Right now the 3 pack of XL's are just a smidgen tight on me, so I'm going to try to wait until I hit 170 and then go for it.

jitterfish
08-24-2011, 04:26 AM
Yeh I need new underwear too. New bras, argh, they're so expensive -LOL- Next purchase will be a good sports bra but I tell myself that is a practical expense not luxury item ;)

time2lose
08-24-2011, 08:38 AM
You are doing great! I understand losing motivation. It comes and goes. That is why commitment is more important but motivation does come back.

I think that you have given yourself the best possible advice when you said,
"I have been telling myself that this is the hardest part but if I hang in the best is still to come -- and it will get easier again."

Hang in there!

hpnodat
08-24-2011, 08:48 AM
Oh wow! You've done such a great job so far, just hang in there! Change up your routine if you have to. Find something to get excited about. Do what you have to. You can do it!

Thighs Be Gone
08-24-2011, 09:25 AM
I agree about changing your routine. Find something the shake up in your routine to get your remotivated! Healthy cooking classes? Rock climbing? Hiking during the coming Fall weather? I find doing something way out of my ordinary helps me keep going. With the weight you have lost I am sure you are getting compliments and noticing how your body is changing. Maybe a makeover could motivate you as well!

rubidoux
08-24-2011, 01:55 PM
I should mix things up a bit. I have done that before with my eating plan a couple of times and it has made me feel more into it. Maybe I'll add some work with free weights. :)

GonnaTurnHeads
08-25-2011, 10:00 AM
Keeping up with the motivation is *hard* and there are definitely times when I slip and my weight will stall for a month. Its miserable!

Here are the things I do to keep my motivation...

- I stand nekkid in front of a mirror everyday.

- I try on my "skinny" jeans that do not fit once every few days and I leave them on top of my dresser.

- I have "fitspo" pictures as my wallpaper on my laptop, phone and tablet. Fitspo are pictures of women who are in shape (not skinny like most thinspo).

- I have videos from youtube that show before/after weight loss bookmarked and downloaded.

- When I am at the gym, I watch music videos, dancing videos, etc... with women who look *great*. It keeps my eye on the ball.

- I log in here every few days remind myself that I am *not* alone.

- I weigh myself twice a day.

- I have hype songs that I listen to. "Yes" by LMFAO and "Good Morning" by Chamillionaire. Songs that make me feel GOOD and HAPPY. I like the "Yes" song because the chorus says "Everyday I see my dream." - and it helps me keep my head in the game, so to speak.

- I watch TV shows about super obese people and their struggle. The show "Heavy" is on instant watch on Netflix. It reminds me of what I was on my towards and what I don't want to go back to.

- Go to the "GOAL!" forum here and look at people who have actually done it. As weird as this is probably going to seem - I have downloaded several people's before and after photographs and I have them on my phone... When I am feeling an urge to go pick up some fast food, or skip the gym - I look at those photos.

.... The reality is there is really very little in life that I want more than to be a fit woman. I want to turn heads. I want to walk into a store and be able to wear what I think is cute. I want to sit down without worrying about my shirt getting caught in my fat rolls. I want to be healthy.

--- The only way for me to do this is to wake up everyday and recommit. And if, everyday, I get up and go back to the gym. And everyday, one day at a time - if I decide to put down the fork, drive AWAY from the fried chicken... then everyday - a tiny chunk at a time, I get closer to my goal.

No matter how frustrating, boring, slow... whatever - it gets. If we keep going back, then one day when you look into the mirror and see a waist (I just found mine!) or hip bones (I'm dreaming of finding those!), it will all be worth it.

Just find your motivation, or your power animal, or whatever - and put it in your face all the time and just keep going back, everyday.

kwigg619
08-25-2011, 08:03 PM
How on EARTH do you only eat ONE time a day?! Is that healthy? Did I read it right?

Obviously I'm no health expert but I would check with your doctor... maybe the way you're eating right now is doing more harm than good. I know that you have to keep your sugar in check but I know that the diet for a diabetic is to keep you stable and eating more often would help that.

I know that for me personally I eat a bunch of times during the day... just a little each time but it keeps me from feeling hungry which is when I get the most frustrated about being on a "diet". Maybe if you re-evaluate your eating habits you will find a second wind of motivation.

linJber
08-25-2011, 10:59 PM
You've done a great job so far. You have a great attitude and I think you'll soon realize that this is a way of life, not a diet. Once that sank in for me, my whole attitude changed. It was like, "Well, this is how I have to eat FOREVER if I want to lose and then maintain. Might as well get used to it and be happy with it." Obviously there are off plan days - now and after all the weight is lost. But this is it for the most part. It does get easier. Hang in there. Be very proud of the fact that you found a way to lose in spite of the obstacles you have with diabetes.

Lin

rubidoux
08-26-2011, 02:56 AM
How on EARTH do you only eat ONE time a day?! Is that healthy? Did I read it right?

Obviously I'm no health expert but I would check with your doctor... maybe the way you're eating right now is doing more harm than good. I know that you have to keep your sugar in check but I know that the diet for a diabetic is to keep you stable and eating more often would help that.

I know that for me personally I eat a bunch of times during the day... just a little each time but it keeps me from feeling hungry which is when I get the most frustrated about being on a "diet". Maybe if you re-evaluate your eating habits you will find a second wind of motivation.

I believe that it is healthy. It is at least much healthier than what I was doing. :o And I actually think it's very healthy. My husband was also kind of freaked out about it. Not so much about the once a day part, but more about the fact that I go for weeks at a time with no veggies or fruit. (When I cheat I almost always go for a salad! lol) But after the first couple of months he completely changed his tune. We've been together for 22 years and he is AWED by the energy I have now and he's jealous about it. He was a wannabe vegetarian before I started this and had been for many years, eating very little animal products, but looking at me now, he wants a little bit of what I got. :D And actually, when we went home in july for 10 days to visit family, what everyone kept saying to me was not "wow, you've lost weight!" (they hadn't seen me at my highest, anyway), but "you look so young!" And seriously, I cannot imagine worrying that this is not healthy given how I feel.

Also, the original reason that I started eating this way was to help with my blood sugars. The once a day thing was a natural evolution from that. Eating small meals more often does not keep a type I stable (I don't think it would do that for a type II either, but I have not BTDT), but puts you on a roller-coastery up/down cycle which is very exhausting and not great for your long term health. It has been WEEKS since my last low blood sugar (just realized that now, I haven't even thought about low blood sugars in like WEEEEKS!). And low blood sugars used to happen many times a week. Usually if you have one in a day, you are more likely to have a second. So, even though I didn't have them every day, I think it was pretty common for me to have them 6 to 10 times a week. Not having low blood sugars is probably really helpful for my weightloss, because when you have a low, your brain thinks it's starving and every cell in your body is screaming for the junkiest carbiest muck you can get your hands on, and lots of it.

I actually rarely feel hungry eating this way. The problem is that I still have the *habit* of food. I assume for some people food is a good habit. They eat for nourishment and energy. Not me, though. I eat because I love the taste of crap, I love the way it feels going down, I love that overfull feeling (even if I also hate it). I have been that way for many years, and a couple of months of eating better isn't enough to get over it. I think it is probably going to take as long, or longer, than getting over the habit of smoking took. I don't know exactly how long that was, but it was years. I quit 15 years ago and I no longer feel even a little bit of that habit. So hopefully it will go that way with that unhealthy sort of eating, too.

You've done a great job so far. You have a great attitude and I think you'll soon realize that this is a way of life, not a diet. Once that sank in for me, my whole attitude changed. It was like, "Well, this is how I have to eat FOREVER if I want to lose and then maintain. Might as well get used to it and be happy with it." Obviously there are off plan days - now and after all the weight is lost. But this is it for the most part. It does get easier. Hang in there. Be very proud of the fact that you found a way to lose in spite of the obstacles you have with diabetes.

Lin

Lin, I have been thinking so much about that these last few days, about it being a woe for life. I have to say it is so unfair that it takes so long to lose! It just seems like once you prove you're serious and putting in a good effort your slate should be wiped clean and you should be allowed to proceed as a normal healthy person. Gah!

Anyway... I feel like part of what was/is making me feel like it's such a long road is wanting to be thinner. It feels like there's a lot of work and time between here and there. But ya know, I've been thinking about why I want to be thinner and if that is really so important to me and whether or not it's just icing on the cake. I feel so much better now than I did six months ago. I have changed in HUGE unforeseeable ways. An important one for me was that because I had never been able to lose any weight before, I was afraid I would just get bigger, and bigger, and bigger. And I feel free of that now. I don't have the fear I used to have.

And physically I feel so much better than before. I am running after my kids in a fun way. I'm not avoiding physical play with them and I'm not making myself do it because I should. I'm enjoying it and them! And there's a dozen other reasons, I'm sure that I am very grateful to be right where I am, here at 175 pounds.

It would be great to be thinner, but I think maybe I need to put that on the back burner for a while. I think it's quite possible that further weight loss will be easier and maybe even faster if I stop focusing on some goal weight and start focusing on how I'm going to live my life. Kwim? Because living my life on this eating plan is really liberating and wonderful for me in itself. In every way except for the fact that I don't get to eat chocolate cake and pints of ice cream. And I think if I choose it for just for the benefits it gives me TODAY, I will be in a better position to choose to do it each day.

Ok... sorry that was so long you guys. I've been doing a lot of thinking about this. ;)

Oh, and GonnaTurnHeads, you said some very interesting things! :D lol First, thanks for recommending the show "Heavy". I gotta say it is a terrible show! But also very motivating. I only watched the first episode, but I think I will have finished the first season in a matter of days. :dz: Anyway, you talked about looking at other women's bodies in several different contexts -- the before/after pics, the fitspo, music videos of fit women, shows like Heavy. That's really interesting to me because I have found looking at women's bodies in the last year a really enlightening thing. I started with naked pics of fat women online, they were much more arty than porn, I swear! :lol: But they really made me feel more normal. Like, I think in our culture we learn not to really LOOK at fat women. I don't think I really knew what other fat people looked like and I was so surprised to see that there were other people who looked like me and I wasn't a freak. And then I looked at a lot of the "fatshionista" stuff, which I love -- fat women embracing it and dressing it up, just awesome, because we deserve to feel good no matter what our weight is, imo. And then there was the museum of fat love http://love.twowholecakes.org/ , which might be more awesome than all the rest. And now I find myself drawing a lot of inspiration from the before and afters and other stuff along those lines.