General chatter - Who all knows your real true weight?

08-09-2011, 08:19 AM
How open are you to share it with others? My doctor knows and my BF's.Heck, even my drivers license doesn't know the right number,but NEVER my DH! Last night he asked if I was about done losing weight. I said no, that I am still over weight and maybe another 10 lbs or so, then I'll reevaluate the situation.He didn't believe I said I weighed about 168, and got on the scale to prove it. He was shocked and said he really thought I was about 20 lbs lighter.(Gosh, I love that guy! :hug:)

Mama Bee
08-09-2011, 09:02 AM
My husband guessed that I was 140 pounds when I first met him... I was 170. He apparently didn't notice that I had gained any weight by the time we got married (I had gained 20 lbs). He also does not believe that my pregnancy has brought me up over 200 lbs now... I just said over 200 last time he asked... not 220!

My doctor is the only one who knows my true weight I guess, because my husband told me our scale was broken last time he used it (it is not, but he is also in denial that he has gained weight... lol)

08-09-2011, 09:33 AM
From the way I carry my weight, and the fact that I have a large frame, I don't "look" like I weight 185. I look a good 15 lbs lighter. Even the nurses at the doctor's office think I am around 15 lbs lighter when they weigh me. I just told my mom last week that I was up to 206 last March and that I'd lost about 20 lbs and she was surprised that I weigh as much as I do. My body is very solid, and I carry my weight all over, and am fairly muscular, so I can see why people are fooled.

Aside from my mom and my husband, no one knows my true weight, except for the chickies here.

08-09-2011, 10:03 AM
Everyone knows my exact number. I am open about it and also post a scale pic on facebook every Monday.
Hiding my weight from people got me to 285. Not doing that again!

08-09-2011, 10:20 AM
I list my weight on my blog almost every day and I write about my weight-loss project once per week with an official weigh-in. My blog is linked to my Facebook and open to the public - so in theory, anybody could know.

08-09-2011, 10:20 AM
Everyone knows my real weight. EXCEPT DH....
He still thinks I weigh 140, well now when I told him I need to lose another 20-30 lb and he said "What? Weighin 110 lb isnt enough for you?" LOL Yeah I love that guy.

I only told him I will tell him my original weight when I'm done.
I'm sure his jaw will drop!!

I also carry my weight really well, but at 215 i did look obese...unfortunately, or as much as I wanna lie to myself, it wasnt nearly as nice as it is now. :)

08-09-2011, 10:27 AM
I agree about letting everyone know you number.. If anyone asks I will tell them the right number.. I currently weigh 261, I am borderline morbidly obese..I have a disease and I need support.

We live in a world of illusion..everyone thinks smaller numbers..basically we are all in denial that the world is dying from OBESITY... a plump frame has become acceptable, an unhealthy body is the " NORM" ...

Being OBESE should never be normal.. its deadly.. we need to help this denial and speak the TRUTH!
Give testimony of our actual that we can change our world and save our friends and family!

08-09-2011, 10:29 AM
I don't go around announcing my weight to everyone or anything, but if it comes up in coversation I will always give my current weight accurately and I'll give my high weight about 80% of the time. For me, being open about it was part of my loss process... I couldn't pretend like it wasn't a problem anymore. Ignoring it didn't make it go away -- owning the situation forced me to deal with it.

08-09-2011, 10:31 AM
You guys know, and that is it. Totally a personal thing to me, even if I weighed 115 lbs, I wouldn't tell. I made my kids cover their eyes when I weighed myself on the Wiii, but they peeked and are under strict instructions to not tell anyone.

08-09-2011, 10:43 AM
My husband knows my but he did not before. I have no problem letting people know at this weight.

08-09-2011, 10:50 AM
Other day, i saw dr phil's program about blended family. He said you should dicipline your kids and he shud dicipline his kids. You shud show love and affection to all the kids and it is true for him.
Do not segregation as his and mine. The kids will do that and they have right to do that. You have to be patient with them.
Try to do small small project with them. Try to trust them
Lots and lots of luck to you and your family.
You are a winner, you have succeeded in weightloss game and you will succeed in family game also!!!

08-09-2011, 11:51 AM
Very few people know my current weight or my starting weight. My doctors, my husband, my sister and a friend - and I only recently shared the numbers with my sister and my friend. My husband has known from the start, as I really needed to be able to talk about it once I made the decision to DO something about it, and his support has been so essential. I tell him every time the scale moves down, and whether he is just feigning excitement or not doesn't matter; it just feels wonderful to have him tell me how proud he is of me.

I do share with people the number of pounds that I have lost when they ask, though at some point I'm going to have to stop doing that as it will become clear just how high my weight was to begin with! I don't know why, but I'm still embarrassed to have people know that - even though I'm sure it was obvious.

08-09-2011, 11:56 AM
Just 3FC!

08-09-2011, 12:36 PM
I don't hide my weight. It doesn't ordinarily come up in conversations with strangers (though it has on once or twice).

I'm not ashamed of my weight, and I strongly believe that the culturally endorsed shame and pressure to be deceptive regarding weight, especially for women has contributed to the obesity problem.

The reason no one "looks" their weight, is because no one knows what real weight look like. If most women (even at a healthy weight) shave off 10 to 25 lbs off their real weight, is it any wonder that people are shocked and don't believe when they're told real weights.

When people used to say "you don't look that big," I used to take it as a compliment and say "Thank you." Now I smile and say, "Yes, I do, this is what 30X lbs looks like."

I say that because I know that I don't "carry my weight well," anymore. When I was younger and much more active, I could convince myself that I did look smaller than I seemed because I probably had more muscle than many people my weight. I don't have that bit of denial anymore, because my health issues make me extremely inactive. I know I don't have a high proportion of muscle, it's all fat - so I know that I'm taking up about as much volume as a person my weight can. So when people think I don't look like I weigh more htan 300 lbs, it's because they don't know what 300 lbs looks like.

I think the culturally obligated denial and shame is killing us. People delay getting help because of the shame or because of the denial, thinking they look thinner than they do, so the problem can't be all that bad.

I think it's extremely important to remove the stigma attached to weight, so that it's not a struggle that has to be hidden.

Latchkey Princess
08-09-2011, 12:44 PM
Some of you are so lucky, I look every pound of my 220ish (except in my face, where I lose first so I look a bit thinner there).

My dh is the only one who knows, besides you all. We're weird, but we keep tabs on each others weight and weight loss, so I also know exactly how much my dh weighs. I suppose I would tell other people, but no one ever asks. My mom and I talk in sizes instead of weight, and the only number other people seem to want to know is how much I've lost. So I don't care if people know, it just never seems to come up.

08-09-2011, 01:46 PM
I really have no problem sharing my weight, if asked now but except for my family, friends and you ladies - NO ONE KNOWS MY TRUE AGE. LOL.

08-09-2011, 03:00 PM
DH knows my true weight (he has to hear about every pound that I lose ;) ), my mom asked once so I told her, and my best friend knows roughly my BMI but not the actual number. It's not that I'm super secretive about it but locally most people here have never seen me at my highest weight and might not even realize that I've lost quite a bit of weight.

I also just haven't bothered much with photos recently (besides progress pictures) so my facebook friends probably don't know really either. I figure I'll just post a picture after most of it's off and let people figure it out themselves.

I understand that weight doesn't need to be supersecret but my weight loss has been a very personal journey for me. There's been a lot of mental work that I've had to do along the way and it's not something I really wanted people knowing about because of that. Also, I know many have a lot of misconceptions about dieting/execise (you can only eat salads, you must lose quickly or it's pointless etc) so I didn't really want the added pressure of living up to others false perceptions. Instead I've enjoyed losing weight at my own languid pace in peace and quite. :D

If asked, I do try and explain how I did in a genuine manner but I'd rather do it after the fact than during...

08-09-2011, 04:11 PM
Hmm .... nobody except me really .... oh my personal trainer does ...

I'm not that secretive but I don't really think anybody is that interested if they asked I'd probably tell them. A few people have asked me how much I've lost ... and I usually say about 12kgs since Christmas

My dh thinks I'm the perfect weight and seems only concerned I don't lose all the curves .... which I'm a long way from ...

08-09-2011, 09:51 PM
Only my DF and the people here know my true current weight. And maybe DS if he overheard me tell DF. But he's only 7 so who cares? Lol i'm just not ready to talk about hard numbers. My SIL is my friend on myfitnesspal so she knows how much I have lost, but not where I started. Once I get closer to goal I might share my starting weight.

08-09-2011, 11:04 PM
My husband, my doctor, and 3FC.

It's not that I'm ashamed or anything. It's more that my actual weight isn't a topic of conversation, and I don't go around wearing it printed on a t-shirt (Although that would be a fun day "I'm 5'9", 28 years old, size 24, and weigh 294 pounds" There! It's all out in the open :lol:)

08-09-2011, 11:54 PM
You guys. And the DMV. I had to get my driver's license replaced recently, since the layers of laminate in the old one were finally starting to separate. I put my then-current weight on the form. I don't think they care how much I weigh, and I was honest about both weight and height, which may be a rarity there :lol:. Hopefully I'll have to get it replaced again to show a much thinner weight and picture within a year or two. I've given my parents enough info for them to make a ballpark estimate of what I weigh, but I haven't given them specific numbers.

08-09-2011, 11:59 PM
the weight is public is my age. Ask me either, I tell the truth...but, I do like to lie about my height ;)

08-10-2011, 12:03 AM
Just 3FC. My boyfriend is 175 and he knows I'm happy to weigh less than him now, but he doesn't know an exact number ;)

08-10-2011, 12:09 AM
i am naturally a very private person...i dont share my stresses, challenges, drama or anything else with hardly anyone except my DH and sometimes my sister or mom

the only ones who know my true weight are my DH and my sister...i havent been to the dr in so long that he doesnt know my true weight anyhow lol

08-10-2011, 01:28 PM
Hum, like everybody. XD I don't care.

08-10-2011, 08:52 PM
interesting thread! I feel like it's personal, and like it's been a personal struggle. My bf knows and my doctor. I don't feel comfortable discussing it with friends or strangers or those in between. My size is obvious, and I have to deal with that all the time. It's not like I'm hiding the fact that I'm quite large -- not that I could even if I wanted to! ha. what purpose does it particularly serve to tack on a number to it other than to satisfy the nosiness of someone I don't know (or don't know that well).

08-10-2011, 08:58 PM
I'm going to go with "no one" on this. I don't really discuss my weight - it just doesn't come up. I don't tell people when I'm dieting either...

I would be a little weirded out if someone asked for a specific number, to be honest.

08-10-2011, 11:33 PM
My sister does. I think my daughter knows too because we had went to Panama City Beach a few weeks ago and in order to get on some of the stuff at Wonder Works they have to weigh you and she was standing beside me. Yeah, it was very embarrassing being weighed by skinny teenage boys & girls! Oh, I guess I would have to include them in with some of the people who knows how much I weigh. Man the word is getting out! LOL!

08-12-2011, 12:10 AM
I don't really talk about how much I weigh so no one but me really knows. I think people are guessing I am a lot lighter than I actually am since I recently gained all this weight.

08-13-2011, 10:27 AM
I have always been weird about telling people what I weigh, possibly because my mom started demanding to be told every morning from the time I was five or six. Yeah, crazy but she meant well. So I know, the nurse who wrote it down knows, and whoever looks at my chart. That's it. My drivers license has had the same weight for 15 years...and it hasn't been correct for about 13.5 of those.

08-13-2011, 10:54 AM
Totally agree with kaplods - men in particular are so used to being lied to by women and hearing on tv that everyone is 120lbs that larger numbers shock them!

People are also polite - they will never tell you look bigger than your weight! I had lulled myself into a false sense of security about my weight by thinking it was fine and I looked curvy - but then I looked up the health consequences if having a Bmi that was nearly obese and decided to do something about it!

08-14-2011, 05:17 PM
I don't talk about it outside of family, unless somebody notices and asks. I figure most people have been on diets (and struggled) so I don't want to come off as a showboater. Plus I might slack off again anyway, and jinx the progress. It's not my first try, after all.

I will tell family though, when I've chipped off a few pounds, and where I currently am. I want the ability head off concerns that "I'm getting too thin" by putting my actual weight in context of what I weighed at other times in my past.

Showing the world on an anonymous Internet forum is a different matter, of course! :)

08-14-2011, 05:19 PM
I'd have to say the people on this forum (naturally) and then a few of my closest friends/family members. People I barely no would have no business asking how much I weigh nor would I consider telling them. I haven't told my closest guy friend, though, cause he's naturally thin. I've told him how much I've lost. And like someone else mentioned, I've gotta decide what to do when I lose even more weight cause then it'll be obvious just how much I weighed before. I mean given that I'm 5'6", it wouldn't be hard to figure out that if I lost 60 lbs then I'd have to have been more than 170 or 180 when I started since 110 or 120 on me would look skeletal. I know its ridiculous to be so ashamed of where I started on this journey since I've worked so hard to get it off, but there you have it!

Then again, when I get to goal I might not care and will be completely honest about how much I weighed before. We'll see when the time comes! :)

08-14-2011, 05:21 PM
ugh...just realized I should've said people I barely KNOW....I promise I do know correct grammar/spelling/word usage.

08-15-2011, 12:10 PM
The lovely people here know :) other than that, just my best friend and my mum! If anyone else asks, even close friends, I just casually dodge the question. I won't have a problem telling them when I hit goal though!

I find it interesting what some people have said about how everyone thinks that chubby is normal now. I agree! People are always saying "Have you seen (insert celebrity) lately? She's far too skinny!" I admit that often certain celebrities could do with gaining a few pounds, but just as often they are a perfectly healthy weight! I think people are too accustomed to seeing the overweight people around them, that when they see someone who's very slim it surely CAN'T be healthy! I think maybe this is why so many parents are over-feeding their children nowadays. A doctor once told me that at a healthy weight, you should be able to clearly see a ten year-old child's ribs!

Sorry that I went a little off-topic there, reading all your posts got me thinking!

08-15-2011, 12:29 PM
Not one soul...until I hit GOAL....

08-15-2011, 01:04 PM
I Am not embarrassed to tell people how much I weigh because I'm losing and getting smaller. Heck I used to weigh 230 pounds! so 157 seems small to me lol. I even bust out my fat picture on my phone if they are in

I talk to my friends,family, random people I meet at the gym.. haha.

08-16-2011, 11:34 PM
Let's see... besides my fellow chickies? My mother -.- and.... my one of my closest friends. :P

08-16-2011, 11:47 PM
Only all of you!! :P Seriously. Only all of you lol.

08-17-2011, 09:03 AM
How open are you to share it with others? My doctor knows and my BF's.Heck, even my drivers license doesn't know the right number,but NEVER my DH! Last night he asked if I was about done losing weight. I said no, that I am still over weight and maybe another 10 lbs or so, then I'll reevaluate the situation.He didn't believe I said I weighed about 168, and got on the scale to prove it. He was shocked and said he really thought I was about 20 lbs lighter.(Gosh, I love that guy! :hug:)

Just me (And everyone at 3FC, because it's in the sidebar, LOL!). My doctor doesn't even know because I put on weight since my last physical. My Dh knows I have recently started positing here. But he knows how sensitive I am about my weight so he won't look.

08-18-2011, 10:31 AM
My husband, my sister and the weight recorder at TOPS. No one else cares.

Precious Little
09-10-2011, 07:01 AM
Anyone on 3FC, my dr, my therapist, my family and a couple friends. Other than that IRL I don't tell unless I'm asked.

09-10-2011, 02:13 PM
for many years, up until about last december or so... absolutely not one single person, even me... knew.

now, pretty much anybody that cares to, knows it. it is still a horrifying and embarrassing feeling... but there is also a certain release that comes with letting go... being honest about how much i weigh with people in my life became part of the whole process. it wasn't easy... but it was important.

09-10-2011, 02:19 PM
This forum and the counselors at my weight loss center. I was a little nervous to put my weight up on here and didn't when I first signed up, but then I saw how most here have there’s up and I thought "Wow, they are awesome!" I still felt like hiding my weight, but here I don't feel ashamed or embarrassed to show my weight. I look at it as a work in progress. =)

09-11-2011, 12:59 PM
My mom and DH are the only people who truly know my weight, pretty much at all times. My husband and I are both losing weight, so every time we lose anything we immediately tell each other. And my mom and I talk every single day, so I tell her pretty much everything. It keeps her connected to me from states away.

Plus, you lovely ladies know! I don't really bring it up with anyone else unless they ask.

09-12-2011, 07:23 PM
only me and all of you!

09-16-2011, 03:14 PM
Hmmm, when I first read this thread, I thought how my BF knows, but she doesn't really. We know each others sizes, but not the exact number. Kind of shocked me to realize that. I don't think I'll be telling her either. So other than my doctor, no one.

09-16-2011, 04:21 PM
My doctor and me. That's it. My boyfriend knows the general range but not the exact number and I'm not telling him!

09-16-2011, 11:31 PM
Noone! lol. Just you guys :lol:

09-19-2011, 04:21 PM
I'm fairly open about it to anyone who asks which, thankfully, has only been a handful of people. Only two people are actually kept up to date, and they also happen to be doing a weight-loss program with me: my fiance and best friend.

09-19-2011, 04:37 PM
Depending on if any asks I will tell certain family members and or friends. I don't have anything to hide. Honestly though no one really cares, no one asks, never comes up. My daughter knows because we talk about everything and i tell her when I weigh. I've told my sons and husband at one time or another and my mother as well. Other than them, the doc and everyone here that's about it.

09-19-2011, 05:05 PM
I'm super proud of my weight, even though it's high, it's nearly 100lbs less than it was, so if someone asks, I tell them without blinking an eye.

It was hard to finally tell my bf the weight, but once I did, I said....I was pushing 300! The 180s are nothing to be ashamed of.