! So glad you found this place! I think you're absolutely right in that food is like a very good friend...even a best friend....but it's a one-side relationship and those are never healthy.
When I first started losing (for the millionth time) ,I felt like I was losing my best friend. It's HARD. I'm an addict all the way. Just put one foot in front of the other and take small steps and you will see that soon they add up to big ones!
Finally, calorie counting is what I do and recommend. It doesn't cost anything. You may wanna check out the Calorie Counters and Chicks in Control sections of this wonderful forum! You can do this!!!