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Lunula
01-14-2003, 08:41 PM
What are your coping mechanisms when you've had a bad day?

I had a rotten day yesterday & it's extending into today... Weighed myself this morning and I gained 3 pounds (which is undoubtedly water weight because I've done really well over the last week - but still!). I wanted to have a great workout tonight, but I made the mistake of trying a new step-aerobics tape and it was awful... too many "cutesy" moves that were hard to follow, too much floor work (I have problems with massive toe-numbness when I workout, step aerobics bother me the least... regular aerobics just kills my feet) and it wasn't long enough... so I was pretty upset by the end of it.

Anyway, so now I'm frustrated in general... that my feet hurt so bad when I workout, that the aerobics tape was so bad, that my workout tonight was awful and that the scale said I'd gained 3 pounds. I need suggestions on how to pull myself out of this funk before I let it go on & on & on... so what do you do when you've had bad days?


barefootgrrrl
01-14-2003, 08:53 PM
ok, well, I know this probably doesn't sound very healthy.......but I generally head home - stop along the way to pick up a mindless mag like People or InStyle, tomato soup, crackers or ice cream if it's summertime and then get home and crawl into bed and maybe call a friend on the phone and/or read my mag or watch mindless TV and hug myself and /or cry and just drift off to sleep depending on how bad the day was........thankfully not too often


Terri

Lamorgan
01-15-2003, 10:34 AM
I'll have a bad day every once and awhile, where I cannot stop eating, I call them Hungry Days. Those are the days I'd walk a kilometre to get a bag of chips or chocolate bar...

I remember when I was doing the Zone diet, and Dr. Sears said if you mess up, you can always start fresh the next meal or I would start fresh the next day.

I'll buy a new WW magazine, some comforting diet food, and make a big pot of soup.

It sounds pretty lame. But it works for me...


Ruthxxx
01-15-2003, 01:10 PM
A bubble bath, a glass of wine, a little weep and then early bed with something light to read. Dog hugging works for me too!

choci
01-15-2003, 03:24 PM
A bubble bath is always in order if I'm not feeling quite tip-top. I'm with Ruth, totally... bubble bath, glass of wine, and a kitty or a warm hug and snuggle from a loved one.

Naps are ace, too.

Hang in there! This too shall pass. I've been in a little slump lately, but I am never giving up, and you shouldn't either. It will be worth it in the end, I promise.

Wanttolosealot
01-15-2003, 03:35 PM
Definitely a bubble bath, with the phone in there so I can call a good friend who I can BITC* to . Friends are great that way, they will just dit and listen to you go off, just because you need to. I also like to light lots of candles, scented preperably and read a fav. magazine or maybe just listen to some classical music, that always relaxes me.
Virginia

wfh
01-15-2003, 04:54 PM
I'm having a bad week and I think I'm just gonna chuck it in and start on WI day.... That's how bad my week was. I was bummed being my first week back and I only loss .8 (I'm a lifetime member of WW's) I'm over my goal by 8 pounds and need to get back down. So, nonetheless I've been beating myself up..... I'm good at that.:lol: Oh well. wanted to vent....
thanks

ellis
01-15-2003, 06:21 PM
Select your sharpest carving knife...

squeaker
01-15-2003, 08:23 PM
Things that help me - comfort food like mashed potatoes, stuffing, ice cream, puddings, pasta. A bath. Warm covers and a good book. Chocolate. Coffee, tea or hot chocolate. :T

Or a friend who has bail money.:s:

ilovemyluckycat
01-15-2003, 09:58 PM
I used to drink to mellow out, but no more.

For me, I know I can go to bed early and wake up to a new day. Also, hugging and playing with my cat really helps, as do calling a friend to vent. The bubble bath sounds good. So is a good cup of tea.

Sandi:halffull:

mauvaisroux
01-16-2003, 12:08 AM
I usually put on my "bum around the house"clothes or pjs, make a big bowl of popcorn and sit on the couch with a blanket watching movies that make me laugh. They are usually older movies like Breakfast at Tiffany's, Auntie Mame, The last Remake of Beau Geste, or the movie Women on the Verge of a Nervous Breakdown which I end up laughing out loud at and forgetting my troubles for a while. :)

Sometimes I just curl up with a magazine or a humorous book and a pot of my favorite herbal tea.

Lunula
01-16-2003, 12:11 AM
Thanks, everyone. :) I forced myself to workout tonight, even though it was ****, it made me feel better afterwards. ALL I've thought about for the past two nights is binging... I'm still holding out, but it's tough. Luckily I don't really have any binge food in the house, unluckily, I live about half a mile from a grocery store, lol.

I think a bubble-bath and a couple glasses of wine with a good book sound about right. Just reading all your posts helps, too!

rochemist
01-16-2003, 01:55 AM
Things I do when I am just feeling bad!

Wear my favorite PJ's and be creative.

I might write for hours in my personal journal about why I feel so blah and then rewrite it in a positive frame, because feeling bad is half attitude.

Or I might start some topic oriented collages and see what comes out when the picture is done. You wouldn't believe what I have learned about me by clipping and pasting pictures.

Have a film festival. I am my favorite movie critic and I love movies. I like to make topic line-ups and analyze why I would group these movies together. Anything with strong female roles is a plus to get me up and going.

Pretend I am not feeling bad and just smile. My largest goofies smile, and sometimes I just find happy again.

Geeze I am a goober:lol:
Miss Chris:cool:

ellis
01-16-2003, 08:08 AM
Someone emailed me this...


Shake It Off And Step Up!

An illustration is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer's well. The farmer could hear the mule "braying" or whatever mules do when they fall into wells. After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer sympathized with the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth the trouble of saving. Instead, he called his neighbors together and told them what had happened...and enlisted them to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery.

Initially, the old mule was hysterical! But as the farmer and his neighbors
continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back, a thought struck him. It suddenly dawned on him that every time a shovel load of dirt landed on his back HE SHOULD SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP! This he did, blow after blow.

"Shake it off and step up...Shake it off and step up...Shake it off and step up!" he repeated to encourage himself. No matter how painful the blows or distressing the situation seemed, the old mule fought "panic" and just kept right on SHAKING IT OFF AND STEPPING UP!

You're right, it wasn't long before the old mule, battered and exhausted,
STEPPED TRIUMPHANTLY OVER THE WALL OF THAT WELL! What seemed like it would bury him actually blessed him all because of the manner in which he handled his adversity.

THAT'S LIFE! If we face our problems and respond to them positively, and refuse to give in to panic, bitterness, or self-pity...THE ADVERSITIES THAT COME ALONG TO BURY US USUALLY HAVE WITHIN THEM THE POTENTIAL TO BENEFIT AND BLESS US!

One Day At A Time...No Guilt and Move On!!!

rochemist
01-16-2003, 08:11 AM
Thats awesome Ellis!

Miss Chris

tamibeep
01-16-2003, 04:05 PM
Yeah, Ellis I like that a lot. But I have one question.

Do you think the mule kicked the farmer once he got out of the well? :dancer:

barefootgrrrl
01-16-2003, 08:43 PM
Thanks for the story Ellis - it is a good one :)

Most days I kick off the dirt and climb - some days I just lay down and whine to myself :lol:

Chris and Mauvais- can I hang with either of you when I get sad? sounds like it would make me feel better! movies! writing and thinking!


Terri

mauvaisroux
01-16-2003, 09:10 PM
Barefoot, you can come over anytime! :) Just be warned that I have the ability to make you laugh despite yourself! :D I generally use humour to cope with stress and bad times :shrug: somehow it works for me :dizzy:

Ellis- does shaking off and stepping up count as exercise? :lol:

rochemist
01-16-2003, 11:18 PM
Come on over Barefoot. And I got to agree with mauvis that humor is a huge coping mechanism. Today has been bad for me, no sleep for 25 hours, and the 3 hour nap I had isn't really making me feel better. Hubby got 7 teeth pulled and his new partial today. He made me laugh so hard.

In First Magazine there was an article called The Secret to Living Happily ever After. My husband says, "Well throw out the bible, the books on philosophy, and quit searching inside yourself. Give first magazine the Pulitzer. They KNOW the Secret". Despite everything today I was in stiches. Absurd isn't it!

Movie marathon heavy sci-fi theme today ;-)
Miss Chris

Lidian
01-21-2003, 11:45 AM
What a great story Ellis! I am going to remember that one and tell my girls the story too...my youngest especially can get a little overwhelmed by things and feel discouraged, and she will love it.

When I am having a stressful rotten day I write in my journal, watch something funny on TV (like Mr. Bean, Blackadder, the cartoon of George and Martha my girls love too, French & Saunders, Ab Fab etc - having tapes on hand is good!). Diet hot cocoa is good, light popcorn, something not too wicked but nice to have. If I can get my kind DH to give me a massage that cheers me up too!

People magazine, Us, In Style - anything light, NOT the awful stuff on the news on a bad day! Or I work on a hobby like crochet, knitting, family history - just to give my mind a vacation. Travel books and shows are good this way too.

Lidian

Sojourner
01-21-2003, 07:46 PM
So thanks to my PMS mood I found myself crying because I was typing out instructions for DH upon the unlikely event that I die in some horrible plane crash en route to Thailand or some other bizarre death event on this trip. I take care of all the finances and poor DH would be at a loss if I weren't to come home... so I thought it would be helpful (and well yes a little morbid) if I wrote out all of the info for him like life insurance and who to pay etc. Well geez, pretty soon I am huddled up on the couch crying and cursing this friggin' PMS and imagining my funeral and never seeing my loved ones again. Ughhh. Of course DH is at work this evening so I have no one to comfort me. Plus my stupid car is broken and I am stuck here. Not good. So I downed my dose of Wellbutrin and ate some fish sticks and am now feeling a little better.

:rolleyes:

Lidian
01-21-2003, 09:36 PM
Oh Sojo, I do that too...I can get very worked up about imagining everyone without me, and I have to be careful about watching soppy TV commercials about dogs and cats getting older too, because then I get sad about our cats (who are only 3 anyway and THE most satisfied healthy spoiled critters ever, but I love them so much, etc etc)...and then I imagine my girls MY age without me maybe -- if/when I tell DH what is the matter he thinks I am pretty overwrought. Probably! A good laugh and a People magazine usally cheer me up, oh and a chocolate mint stick or two would be lovely...

Lidian

ellis
01-21-2003, 10:10 PM
Sojo, I hope you're feeling better, hon!

About once a year when I'm going through a depression I'll dig out my old Nancy Drews. One of those with a bowl of popcorn can be pretty cozy. :D

Right now I'm thinking of a small whiskey to relax my poor stiff old shoulders...

dentrassi
01-22-2003, 02:04 AM
HEY!! Usually I eat. ......and eat.....and eat......and scream at my kids........and cry.......and eat!!! Been practicing a lot lately too!!!

Sojourner
01-22-2003, 02:32 AM
Sigh... ok, I'm feeling a little better. DH was very sympathetic and showed appropriate sadness when I told him about my afternoon. Now that I am over my walk down self-pity lane I am busy packing donated items and my personal things for the trip. Half of my summer clothes don't fit me anymore (too big!). This is a great but horrible problem to have, as none of the stores carry summer clothes yet. :?:

squeaker
01-22-2003, 05:53 AM
A few of the store around here have bathingsuits out already!!

I am glad you are feeling better Sojo and I hope you have a wonderful time on your trip!

:mouse:

ellis
01-22-2003, 07:47 AM
Sojo, I'm glad you're starting to feel better! You must be so looking forward to your trip...

Den, are you alright, sweetie? Hugs...

dentrassi
01-23-2003, 02:07 PM
Sojo...can we all come with you? Your trip sounds like a lot of fun!! I want to hear all about it. Will you have access to a computer while you are gone, or do we have to wait until you come back?

I'm starting to do a bit better, thanks!!

Lidian
01-24-2003, 09:32 PM
Glad you're feeling better, Den.

Ellis, I read Nancy Drews when I need to relax and cheer myself, too! My two girls love ND and so we have a large library of them. I used to have about 50 of the original hardcovers (from the 1970s when they cost $2.50 each and when I got $10 birthday money I could get 4 NDs, the best present ever!)...why did I ever get rid of them? (Or my mom did, or somehow they disappeared...) I am collecting them again, though!

Whisky is good too, especially in a whiskey sour (wish I had one right now, with a maraschino cherry!)

Sojo, I want to hear all about your trip too...

Lidian