Weight Loss Support - I cheated today & feeling very guity and bad about it :(




tinkerbelll
06-26-2011, 11:54 PM
SO I started my "new lifestyle" 11 days ago & as of this morning I am exactly 11 lbs down (YAY:carrot:)

But I don't know what happened after I steped off that scale today.

For breakfast I had 2 cups of honey nut cheerios w skim milk & strawberrys, not soo horrible but that 2 shudda been 1

then went out food shopping w my boyfriend &got a bag of big marshmallows, & had about 16 of them & then threw the bag away bc I didnt want to eat anymore about 1/2 c. peanut butter, 3 wheat rolls (dunno wtf i was thinking!!:?:) 4 more slices of wheat toast earlier with butter spread, coffee with extra cream & 2 donut stix(the little debbie ones)

I dont know what came over me!!! & I'm feeling sooo sad,guilty,discouraged,gross,extremely large & feeling like how I used to feel & how I've made so many mistakes & promised myself I wouldn't mess up no more that this was it & here I am 11 days later screwing up! I really want to be 200 (im 244) or under by October bc thats my mothers wedding & i know I can do it if I stop screwing up!!

How do you deal if this happened to you? & how did you bounce back?
Thanks so much for reading :hug:


Serbrider
06-27-2011, 12:00 AM
Girl... you are doing GREAT. 11 days in... 11 pounds down... that is AWESOME. Just because you messed up a bit... don't freak. You honestly hadn't eaten as much as I have in one day before... this is where you pick yourself up... smile... say "you know what... those things were good... but losing weight is better". Stick a picture of a dress you want to wear to your mom's wedding, or find a quote and remember it.

Doesn't mean you won't cheat... but every day is a new day. You can do it... I can do it... we can do it.

It happens to everyone. The key is not letting it destroy your life... and moving on. Good luck!

keller237
06-27-2011, 12:05 AM
You don't ever have to wait til tomorrow to pick yourself back up. Just tell yourself that you can do it and jump back to eating right on your next snack or meal.

You can do anythign you put your mind to!


krampus
06-27-2011, 12:08 AM
Binging is a natural response to dieting for a lot of people, and I think seeing a new low on the scale triggers a weird self-sabotage reflex in a lot of us. Just get up and keep going, you'll have screw-ups many more times after this one, but as long as you have more "good" days than "bad" days you'll still keep losing weight.

Don't give up!

kaplods
06-27-2011, 12:15 AM
In my experience diet guilt, shame, self-recriminations only ever inspired me to eat. So I gave it up.

You didn't smack a baby or kick a puppy.


Weight loss is tough. It's something most people who try, don't accomplish, largely I firmly believe, because they make themselves feel so guilty and so lousy that giving up makes the best logical sense (at least being fat is better than the constant misery).

But when you take away the misery, you also take away the reason for giving up. Or so, I've concluded.

I've been on thousands of diets in my life (I've been dieting since kindergarten, so 40 years), and I've never lost as much weight or kept it of as long as "this time." There are a few things I've discovered to do differently, but one of them is getting rid of guilt and shame and hopeless thinking. I "failed" of all 90 lbs. I made more mistakes this time than any other, the only difference is that I didn't feel bad about those mistakes, I didn't beat myself up for making them, and I didn't brainwash myself into thinking that mistakes (even tons of them) guaranteed or predicted failure.

There's nothing wrong with trying to lose weight for an event, but sometimes that puts on so much pressure it actually makes it harder to do. The wedding doesn't matter nearly as much as the rest of your life does. No even matters as much as the rest of your life.

How quickly can you lose weight? Who cares? Mistakes happen. You will make mistakes. Maybe a lot. Maybe only a few. You learn, by moving forward and by not deciding that you're useless and hopeless for making them.

You may not lose the weight you want to , in the time frame you want to, but that doesn't mean you've failed. Every pound you lose and keep off is success. Building on success tends to work a lot better than beating yourself for failure.

tinkerbelll
06-27-2011, 12:30 AM
Thanks so much ladies!! You all are making me feel much better :hug:
& krampus i think your right about the self sabatoge, it was weird, I saw a few lbs down and I didnt feel happy?? But instead wanting to kinda punish myself??? SO odd.

kimicat76
06-27-2011, 12:42 AM
:hug: just a tiny bump in the road! you are doing soooo well!!! took me a long time to lose 11 lbs so 11lbs in 11 days is AAAWWEESSOOOMMEE!! :carrot: i had a lil hiccup yesterday and had almost half a bag of andy capps cheddar fries and a whole small hoagie roll in addition to what i normally eat.:?: idk what came over me either.

alaskanlaughter
06-27-2011, 02:03 AM
i can self-sabotage my weight loss like none other LOL...when i see a new low on the scales i decide to "relax" my eating habits or just "treat" myself to something yummy...last summer i saw 202 on the scale (new low) and almost immediately jumped off the wagon and never regained my momentum...lowest weight i've seen in my adult life is 198 about 7 years ago...right now i'm sitting at 204 and i know i might see new low numbers soon

i KNOW that my problem is that, with weight loss, i'm very afraid of being noticed....by other people, by other men besides DH...and i am as shy as they come...most people wouldn't think i'm shy because im' involved with alot of things and i manage a program full of students and staff all school year...but i am as shy as can be and DO NOT want to be noticed anymore than i already am!

warning: reincarnation ahead :) in my most recent past life, being noticed led to me being killed...i was just a kid but i was caught in the wrong place at the wrong time during a jungle war (not in the U.S.) and was shot and killed...i know that i equate being noticed with very deadly results....anyone else want to talk reincarnation with me sometime?? :)

OhThePlaces
06-27-2011, 08:49 AM
We've all been there! The key is picking yourself up and getting back on track. One bad day isn't a big deal in the grand scheme of things, but so many of us have let it completely discourage us to the point where we're not able to get back to healthy eating for an extended period. Be kind to yourself.... making a lifestyle change isn't easy and there will be bumps along the way.

indiblue
06-27-2011, 09:01 AM
Many people have given you great advice about the emotional side of "cheating," overeating, and self-sabotage.

Just a tip from the nutritional side of things- whenever I eat lots of carbs (e.g. two bowls of honey cereal + strawberries) I am prone to overeating, especially of more carbs (e.g. toast, marshemallows, sugary peanut butter, doughnuts).

Perhaps consider lowering your sugar/carbs significantly. Perhaps start with a breakfast of bacon and eggs instead of cereal. A huge omelet with lots of veggies and a bit of cheese will keep you fuller longer than a bowl (or two) of cereal.

Good luck!!

Lori Bell
06-27-2011, 09:40 AM
I can only imagine how crappy you must feel after a binge on nothing but pure crap...lol 16 of those big marshmallows have enough sugar in them to bake an entire sheet cake!... You probably feel more guilty binging on all the junk you ate than if you would have consumed a prime rib dinner with all the fixin's. Sugar/carbs/fat combo is like a drug to many of us and guilt is a normal response after getting high.

My only advice is to move on and don't forget this feeling. Because the next time you do it you'll feel just as bad, but the next time you might not be able to pull yourself together and get back on the wagon...(like you WILL this time). The next time might end up being the "end" of your diet...don't let sugar beat you down.

Proatthis
06-27-2011, 09:58 AM
Just remember how bad you felt after eating what your body doesn't want. No guilt and move forward! You can do it. It's not about being perfect everyday. Way to go on the 11 pound loss.

poshibd
06-27-2011, 10:41 AM
"Mama said there'll be days like this,There'll be days like this Mama said
(Mama said, mama said)"

First, one day like this is not going to ruin your plan- 365 days like this will. :-) We are all going to one day wake up and say, "To he// with it!"

Second, instead of feeling guilty, try and figure out why you binged. Eleven days and 11 pounds is AWESOME, but is it possible that you are feeling deprived?

In my experience that is about the time that I totally fall off the wagon because I have cut too much out of my diet too fast. Is there a way that you can work in each day a small portion of your favorite treats? It may slow the weight loss a bit, but it could help you be more successful in the long run.

Third, recommit. Just for the next meal. And then for the meal after that and so on. I have sort of discovered that this is a little like AA- one meal at a time. Good luck!

blueheron777
06-27-2011, 07:37 PM
Have a pity party and then move on. Let the guilt motivate you to do better, and put the incident behind you--today. Get right back on track.

As previous poster said, I'd recommend building into your eating plan some treats, so that you don't feel deprived. My plan has room for cookies, cake, pizza, etc....they belong there so I don't have to "cheat" to eat them. The word "cheat" isn't in my lexicon any more, because everything is legit.

That having been said, you still have to watch your portions. But take it easy--losing the weight is only part of the goal. Re-educating yourself about healthy and balanced eating is the other part. You'll get there if you go slow and steady.

greenlove62
07-01-2011, 04:46 PM
Tinkerbell you just told my story!!!!

Wow!!!! DoingGood that article really hit the nail on the head!!!

The lady in the article story is my story and Tinkerbell's story too! So many of us do good only to get a false sense of confidence that lead to us to fall off the wagon HARD!

The article talk about SOLUTIONS and ANSWERS, which is what we all need!!! I look forward to getting my first email!!!

Thank you for the information! Keep on DoingGood :)

Everyone who want to stop thE vicious cycle of self-sabotage - Please, Please, Please read this article - Weight Loss Management Psychology by Malcolm Baptiste!!!

I love this forum where we can share our successes and failures, encourage each other, and get answers!!!!


Here's to all of our sucess!!!!

rawbanana
07-01-2011, 11:35 PM
YOU have to find what works for YOU. I know alot of people say 'all things in moderation' and if you want a cookie, have a cookie or you'll deprive yourself long enough that when you DO have one, you'll eat the whole bag.
Well, for me, there are several foods (most all sugary) that ONE bite will lead me to eating SO much that I start to feel sick. Cinnamon Toast Crunch is one of those foods. In all seriousness, its like CRACK to me. I get all shaky when I start eating it and can NOT cram it into my mouth quick enough. Others are potato chips, cocoa krispies, m&ms and I am sure there are more.
So for me, I cant even take ONE bite. I think I am very very addicted to sugar.
I do all the grocery shopping and it is very VERY hard to resist the ho hos, ding dongs, twinkies, candy bars at check out etc....but honestly, since I have made a DELIBRATE effort to do this the last 3-4months, its getting SLIGHTLY easier. I have to talk to myself in my head and say 'Now, if you BOUGHT that, you would most likely hide them and eat them all yourself in one or two settings and feel MISERABLE about it' and also 'skinny feels better than THAT tastes' and 'is that going to help your goal or not? there is no in between'....
It has been a HUGE mental and emotional struggle with me and food...
But dont beat yourself up about it. Tell yourself it was ONE day, remember how you feel and remind yourself of this feeling if you feel yourself slipping.
Today is my one year 'runniversary' and I can look back NOW and say 'I am SO glad I started a year ago'....IMAGINE how that will feel for you 365 (or maybe 354?) days from now!?
YOU. CAN. DO. THIS!!!!!

~Anna
PS I read a GREAT book from the library called 'The Body Fat Solution', I heard about it on here and I HIGHLY recommend it!

love2b150
07-02-2011, 12:32 AM
indiblue please more meals from you please ... I often have a carb issue also thanks

I don't know how many times I fell off the wagon at exactly 11 days. Once it was 11 total inches that I had lost going to Curves. I am so much like Anna with the buying things and putting them away to call myself treating myself and then blowing it. I too have 5 children so I will toss whatever it is on the table and tell them to finish them. Please don't beat yourself up and do catch yourself when you fall. Me, if I don't catch myself the next day may catch me and that is what happened in the last few months and I too feel bad, but I know it is all me. You can do this, We can do this :hug:

Thank goodness for the friends I've made on 3FC that keep me coming back and attempting to eat right

mlgibson
07-02-2011, 12:33 AM
SO I started my "new lifestyle" 11 days ago & as of this morning I am exactly 11 lbs down (YAY:carrot:)

But I don't know what happened after I steped off that scale today.

For breakfast I had 2 cups of honey nut cheerios w skim milk & strawberrys, not soo horrible but that 2 shudda been 1

then went out food shopping w my boyfriend &got a bag of big marshmallows, & had about 16 of them & then threw the bag away bc I didnt want to eat anymore about 1/2 c. peanut butter, 3 wheat rolls (dunno wtf i was thinking!!:?:) 4 more slices of wheat toast earlier with butter spread, coffee with extra cream & 2 donut stix(the little debbie ones)

I dont know what came over me!!! & I'm feeling sooo sad,guilty,discouraged,gross,extremely large & feeling like how I used to feel & how I've made so many mistakes & promised myself I wouldn't mess up no more that this was it & here I am 11 days later screwing up! I really want to be 200 (im 244) or under by October bc thats my mothers wedding & i know I can do it if I stop screwing up!!

How do you deal if this happened to you? & how did you bounce back?
Thanks so much for reading :hug:

I have been through that before, I know how you feel. This is what I do. I think back and try to figure out why. Was I hungry? Was it a sweets craving? Was I bored and eating because of that? Was I stressed or emotional? Identify why and recognize it in the future.

Something else I do if I have a craving. Lets say I have want an ice cream bar. I make myself look at the calories to truly realize what I am eating, the amount of sugar, etc. Then I go drink a big glass of water and occupy myself with something for 15-20 minutes. If I am still craving it badly after that I think to myself, this is a temporary happiness that will end with the last bite. But how I feel when I step on that scale and see numbers drop, clothes fitting better...that lasts forever. Then if I still feel I need it I might eat the whole thing, or half and toss the rest. But if you eat it, savor it. Eat it slowly. It can always be your treat for the week.

There is no need to feel discouraged, or guilty. That is how, to me, diet fail. I give up, tell myself I can't do it. So stop thinking of it as a diet but as a change in how you eat. And everyone deserves a day once in a while where you can eat what you really like.

Don't give up, your loss has been amazing!!!

Sunshine87
07-02-2011, 01:00 AM
First let me tell you that what you ate truly wasn't THE WORST THING EVER. I have eaten a lot more than that on a bad day and I did bounce back. You just started your diet and hiccups occur. In fact, they are to be expected and it is your response to them that determines your success.
Last Friday I slipped up and had one He** of a night. Not only did I overeat but then my sister-in-law's brother, who I only see every few months walked in on me eating ice cream while in a bathing suit! I mean, talk about humiliating!
I will tell you that by Sunday I was feeling good and the last few days I have felt on top of the world (for more reasons than dieting success).

Last Saturday I started a list concerning learning experiences. Last Friday I learned that I cannot entertain my family members in the kitchen while they eat if I do not have any calories left because at this point in my journey, I give in. Every night I read this list and add something if appropriate. We are to learn from our mistakes but I have found that I forget so I am using this list to remind myself daily.

love2b150
07-02-2011, 01:21 AM
Sunshine I like the list idea ... I'm gonna add that to my list of things to do on this journey ... thanks

Gibson I also like the idea of drinking water and then waiting 15-20 minutes. I have heard of this but I have never tried it. Maybe now's the time to give it a shot this holiday weekend

mlgibson
07-02-2011, 01:48 AM
Sunshine I like the list idea ... I'm gonna add that to my list of things to do on this journey ... thanks

Gibson I also like the idea of drinking water and then waiting 15-20 minutes. I have heard of this but I have never tried it. Maybe now's the time to give it a shot this holiday weekend

I find it works for me. Sometimes I forget I wanted it, other times by the point that 15-20 minutes is done and I'm still hungry...I reach for a banana instead.

I think for me, is that my body is used to sending a hunger signal and getting sweets or junk. So when it sends that signal now...I think 'oooh....junk fooood....', lol.
If I wait and get ahold of my cravings then I can choose a much better option or realize I am not hungry.

love2b150
07-02-2011, 11:34 PM
Gibson I used the water trick today and it did work some what. I still had to much sodium though and my husband talked about how many times I went to the restroom while we out. :D Thanks