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Aunty Jam
06-24-2011, 12:00 PM
Save me!!!! He thinks it's ok because he uses veggie oil :( He does 90% of the cooking in the house and if I don't eat what he cooks I risk a fight. He's wanted a deep fryer for years, why I don't know. So far he's only made fries with it a few times but I'm scared I'm going to come home to an entirely deep fried meal. I can't believe he did this.


VermontMom
06-24-2011, 12:04 PM
ohhh!!! I am sorry to hear this :( It is so hard to resist, imagine coming home hungry to that aroma..and it can either smell great or smell terrible, I know.

why do our spouses torment us :devil:

My DH just does not care about food in/inevitable weight gain. He has ice cream every night. If you do your best to battle the deep fried foods, I am right with you when I resist the ice cream in the house (that he buys).

oh i see the part about risking a fight if you dont' want what he cooks, that sux.

fattymcfatty
06-24-2011, 12:10 PM
Hmmm... I think if it was me, that deep fryer would have an "accident". You know, cut a wire or something in the middle of the night that makes it faulty, LOL!!!


tommy
06-24-2011, 12:45 PM
How about doing one of those tests they used to do for one of the vegetable oil companies where they measure the oil before and after to see how much actually went into the food. They used to fry chicken and showed how only a tablespoon or two was missing from the used oil. If he uses it at the right temp and does not engage in heavy breading you may be able to enjoy fried zucchini or cauliflower or sweet potato fries within reason. Knowledge is power :)

MeMyselfandI712
06-24-2011, 12:55 PM
That sounds like my husband! We have a little deep fryer that THANK GOD he doesn't know how to use properly!
For some reason, my husband likes to "comfort me" by buying me ice cream and fried food when he knows I am trying to lose weight. Seriously? Yeah, a pint of ice cream won't make me feel guilty or anything! *rolls eyes*
In a situation like that where my husband does cook...and it's bound to be a horrible sabotage attempt, I just eat it. If i know he's cooking, I do the 2 boiled eggs for breakfast and a hefty salad with easy dressing for lunch and then eat as little as possible for dinner with him. That way i'm eating it, but not a lot, and I was good the rest of the day....then I tell him not to cook for the next couple of weeks. ;)

WeightForMe
06-24-2011, 01:06 PM
Ruuunnn Forrrrest Runnnn!!!

geoblewis
06-24-2011, 01:18 PM
There are lonely moments in my life when I miss being married, but then I read a post like this one and remember how much X would sabotage my efforts to live healthy.

He's only thinking of himself in this situation. And if he's getting after you for not eating his fried food, then that's a problem you two need to talk about and resolve. You've made great progress to lose weight and you're getting into the final stage when it's really hard to lose weight. You have some alternatives:

Eat what he's cooking and avoid the conflicts but gain back what you've lost.
Ask him to let you know when he's going to use the fryer, eat what he's cooking, but track the calories and compensate by eating less the rest of the day (or save up calories for that event)
Eat just a little bit of what he's made, tell him he is as a god to you, and finish your meal with healthy choices.
Set limits on what you'll eat fried, like tommy suggested.
Address the potential conflict with him and make the choice to avoid the fried food altogether and let him deal with his own feelings.
Do more of the cooking for yourself.Realistically, how much is he going to be frying? He's a man...having to clean up that fryer more than once or twice and he's going to become disinterested. Unless you're the one doing the clean up!

Esofia
06-24-2011, 01:44 PM
I agree with those options. And seriously, are you worried that giving in to someone's attempt to sabotage your diet would hurt their feelings? You're both adults, I'm sure you can negotiate your way out of this.

Meanwhile, I now really fancy falafel.

Lovely
06-25-2011, 12:19 AM
Oh yikes! A deep fryer?! Oh goodness... it almost doesn't get much worse than that, does it?

I can't offer better advice than already given, but keep a few meals frozen on the side in case he decides to fire that thing up on a night you cannot afford to eat fried foods.

PacSunMama
06-25-2011, 01:38 AM
Could you ask him to put some of what he's going to deep fry aside so you can roast it in the oven instead? Say he wants to make french fries or sweet potato fries, or fried chicken- I know it's not the same thing and it would be so tempting to have his, but at least you can have the "same" dinner as him, he can still prepare and cook for you, but you're not stepping into the crazy danger zone of deep fried foods! I think it's a fair compromise- he gets to cook and play, he gets to prepare something for you, and you both get to share mealtime together feeling satisfied with yourselves.

And if he says it's too much work, remind him how easy it is to line a cookie tray with foil, spray the same foods with pam olive oil and let it cook for 10-20 minutes. Not tough and no extra dishes!

astrophe
06-25-2011, 02:50 AM
He does 90% of the cooking in the house and if I don't eat what he cooks I risk a fight.

Why a fight? Can't you just cook your own food? Is he being a food police type? I'm puzzled. Because to me it is like "That's nice honey" and then let it go.

A.

foodmasochist
06-25-2011, 11:18 AM
i'm with astrophe on this one...

additionally, andy's (they make awesome fish breading) also makes a wonderful veggie breading. Once in awhile when i want some indulgence i will make deep fried veggies. They are spectacular! mushrooms? to die for! i don't think He will make you deep fried pancakes for breakfast ;) at least i hope not! lol.

Also fried (lightly) gets my kids to eat fish which doens't happen otherwise, i don't think it is all gloom and doom.

~fm

Renwomin
06-26-2011, 12:04 PM
I've been sitting here biting my tongue, but I feel I need to say this. I don't know exactly what you are facing right now but...

Have a respectful and calm discussion with him about your need for him to support you in a positive way. He doesn't need to make you healthy food or keep unhealthy food out of the house. But if he does need to respect your own choice to bring healthy foods into the house and eat whatever you wish to whether he has cooked or not. It is wonderful that he cooks for you and he deserves kudos for that! You should not though feel obligated to eat anything anyone makes for you if it is unhealthy, especially if it is to avoid an argument or fight. That is an unhealthy dynamic and it needs to be tackled head on. If this can't be resolved in a positive way then you have bigger problems then a few extra pounds.

ddc
06-26-2011, 11:21 PM
Sorry, but I laughed when I read the title of this thread.
Really you don't have to eat the fried food. Keep some alternatives around for when everything's fried.

Maybe he's trying to fatten you back up. Sometimes guys are saboteurs when their wives/so's lose weight.

Serval87
06-27-2011, 03:33 AM
I feel your pain. I remember coming over to my parents' house when my dad had one of his famous "fish fries", and the table was loaded in fish, hush puppies, and french fries all a crispy brown color glistening with grease. We had a small amount, but even with such a small amount, I had the worst heart burn that night and vowed not to partake ever again. I won't even mention the time my dad made homemade, deep-fried corn-dogs. Ugh.

Aunty Jam
06-27-2011, 12:13 PM
Thanks for all of the advice people. I agree... it would be better to go through a few days of fighting then to pack on more pounds (I've already gained back 8 from my lowest weight :( ). We do have some problems in our relationship... one of the biggest is that he's unemployeed and we're all stressed. He's half Italian and like the rest of his family he prides himself on his cooking. Not eating it is kind of viewed as an insult, he's better about this then he was though.

I like the idea of asking him to roast for me what he would fry for himself, I think that's probably the easiest option. I will sit him down and talk with him calmly about not being able to eat fried foods. I really don't like greasey foods anyway.

I think his love of all things fried will die off once he has to clean the thing... I never thought of that but it's true. I will never clean it or even touch it... except maybe for some fried fresh fish.

sdw2is
06-27-2011, 12:23 PM
:)

This is the funniest post I have read all day. Thanks I needed to read it.
Scott

IsabellaOlivia
06-30-2011, 11:03 PM
Only thing to do is to start cooking.

tdiprincess
07-04-2011, 10:58 PM
We had, still have (just don't let hubby know), a deep fryer. I have carefully hidden it away and it is a "no-no" word LOL.. Hubby seems to have forgotten about it.. darn. I do about 99% of the cooking though, so I can do that easily.

Either way though, discuss it with him and see what options there are for you guys. If it gets heated, just take a step back and breath.

ringmaster
07-05-2011, 07:43 PM
nooooooo he should of bought a slow cooker instead :(

theCandEs
07-07-2011, 01:51 AM
I got one for Xmas. It was a "dirty Santa" present. I've only used it one time. I made some sweet potato fries for me, and we had fish, too. It was good for a change. I just don't want to eat it all of the time. Maybe he will get tired of it soon. That's how these gadgets are.

fatgyrl
07-08-2011, 11:20 AM
.... if I don't eat what he cooks I risk a fight....
I feel your pain, and folks that do not live with a man like this can't begin to relate to your statement.

Personally, in this situation I have kept bagged salad and pre cut veggies in the frig and made a crack about being constipated and needing added roughage adding handfuls of salad to my plate and ate less (a LOT less) of the fried food. This left more for him, a win for me and a loss (err gain) for him.

I lived the first 40 years of my life without a fryer and since this relationship we have burned out 2 of them and had a 3rd when we moved back to Canada. We decided not to take it and gave it to friends. I put my foot down that that would be our last fryer, which will only last until he wants another one.

Hopefully if and when this happens Ol George Foreman will still be making his Spin Fryer as my hubby would try that as a compromise.

(At least he hasn't tried to deep fry on the stove since he startedgreasell greese fire between our 2nd and 3rd fryer, actually the 3rd fryer came from the friend that was sitting in the kitchen with him during the flair-up)
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