Hi Claire!
You go girl! You let those guys know what they can't see! There's a sexy beast inside of everyone. :P
First off, how much is your health and weightloss worth to you, emotionally and financially?
Best plan of attack - Join a gym that has classes (aerobic, weights and resistance) and JUST GO. Get the class schedules and write a timetable (with your other commitments) with you going to the gym at least 4 -5 times a week - multiple classes a day would be awesome. STICK TO IT!
On top of that you could also get a personal trainer, but it isn't completely neccessary if you're commited to classes and using proper technique.
I find a good way to get motivated - something stupid - but actually going to a sports store and getting some cute workout outfirst - get 4-5 sets.
If you splurge on this you'll be even more commited and motivated to to it.
Weightloss is kind of 10% exercise and 90% diet. When I say diet, I don't mean starving yourself.
Just eating healthily. There's a lot I can go on about. But this is a plan....
3 main means, 2 snacks a day.
2 pieces of fruit a day - more and it's too much suger, fruit is best for a snack, or for breakfast.
Don't eat boxed cereal for breakfast if you can help it, it has lots of hidden carolies, unless you are planning on eating bran, with fruit. Porridge is awesome - add prunes, grated apple, cinnaomon and a bit of honey.
Fit in vegies everywhere! Salad, boiled, roasted, stirfried (little oil).
Protien - fish, beef, chicken, lentils, beans, eggs. - portion for lunch and dinner.
Lay off the carbs as much as possible. Don't have more than a cup of rice, noodles, pasta, potato a day. If you have carbs have it for lunch so you have the best opportunitiy to burn it off through the day.
LOTS OF WATER.
Cut out the sugar and fat.
Think of a healthy "naughty" snack food to replace the reaaally bad ones. I love greek yoghurt with nuts, or boccinchini cheese.
It's ok to fall off the wagon, just get straight back on!
That's alot of info....!
Goodluck!