Weight Loss Support - Anyone's S/O not a fan of your new smaller boobage?




fattymcfatty
06-07-2011, 11:49 PM
Let me start by saying my boobage has been the bane of my existance. I don't like having large chesticles. At my heaviest, I wore a 44D from Lane Bryant, once in awhile a 44DD if it ran small. I am now a 38DD, or 38DDD if I am shopping at Lane Bryant. So most would read this and think I got larger in the top, but no, even though cup size is the same letter, it is a smaller band, so less cuppage. Anyways, I like my new boobies, and they aren't even as saggy as I anticipated.

DH thinks they are small. He's always been supportive, we've been on this journey together, but he said that they were "small" in context to somebody else. This is bothering me now and giving me a freaking complex. I don't even know why. I know I am smaller up top than I used to be, but I feel pretty adequate. In fact, I'm hoping I can get back to a 38D by goal or 36D so I have more options bra shopping. I know he loves me unconditionally, even at my heaviest he has always been attracted to me, and is even more attracted to me now. So anyone go through this? How to deal? (Yeah, I know, I should smack him, :P)


luckymommy
06-08-2011, 12:05 AM
I have an idea! Send him a photo of my tiny, deflated boobies and he'll appreciate your 38DD/D's very quickly! I now have a very small B. My husband happens to be one who loves a large, full boobies, but I know he loves me more. I"m glad your hubby is so supportive and that he loves you so much. I think that he will just have to adjust and it will take a little getting used to. The fact that you'll be here for longer on this earth because of better health is worth much more than the size of your cleavage. Also, I think what you have now is a lot, but that's just me! ;)

gagalu
06-08-2011, 12:06 AM
lollll i absolutely wouldn't worry about it. you're not doing this for him. your boobs are your boobs and you don't need affirmation from him.


Lovely
06-08-2011, 12:07 AM
My husband enjoys my... talent... in the chest area, too.

I like to remind him that there are lot more options for many underthings at smaller sizes. That makes him happy enough ;)

ahyessophie
06-08-2011, 12:27 AM
luckymommy I laughed out loud when I read the first line of your post, hahaha. I wear an A, I don't mind, but I'm hoping I won't drop down to a training bra or something mortifying when I hit goal.

Aren't your boobs kind of relative to the rest of you, though? I would think that as you get smaller, they get smaller, but in more or less the same proportion. I imagine your DDs won't look "small" against your soon to be teeny tiny frame at your GW!

shcirerf
06-08-2011, 12:33 AM
I have always had large girls. They are now a bit smaller, but not much. The DH did comment the other day about the fact that they are bit smaller. Whoopee. Now a 38DD instead of 42DD.

I'm 51 and had kids. The girls are like a rock in the bottom of a tube sock. They are long and floppy. Braless, they beat me to coffee in the morning.:D

We do kid, that when I lie on my back they fall into my armpits and I'm flat chested. Which is true!

But he has grey pubic hair, he's older than me. He hates when I mention that. :D

It is what it is. Quite frankly, large boobage is a pain. In more ways than one. I finally got the point across, by asking "what would you do with a 12" limp winkie? Where would you put that darn thing? Every darn day?! From sunup to sundown and beyond? What about when it's 98 degrees outside, and, it's sweaty, and hot, and squashed, and hanging down one pant leg, with nowhere to go, what are you going to do with that?!!:dizzy: He had no good answer!

I don't get much flack anymore!:D

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bama girl
06-08-2011, 02:00 AM
I don't know if I qualify because I wasn't too well-endowed in the first place, but I can kind of empathize.

At the beginning of all of this, I was a 36D and dating a "breast man". As I started losing, I first stayed the same except my ribs and went to a 34D but they gradually deflated by an inch to a 34C again. Which apparently wasn't big enough for him, because after dating for almost a year, he was decidedly not as physically attracted to me as he was. We broke up several months later for other, more serious reasons.

When I started dating my current boyfriend 8 months ago, I had stayed at a pretty constant 34C. Now I'm down to a 32C and I'm scared that by the time I reach goal I won't have ANYTHING anymore! Haha. Luckily, I'm with a man who is more of a "butt man" than anything (and lord knows I've got plenty of THAT), so I'm not as worried this time around.

...but I still want to get implants after college.

losermom
06-08-2011, 08:02 AM
I'm 51 and had kids. The girls are like a rock in the bottom of a tube sock. They are long and floppy. Braless, they beat me to coffee in the morning.:D

We do kid, that when I lie on my back they fall into my armpits and I'm flat chested. Which is true! I

I'm right there with you at 48 and a 32DD. I know that sounds big but it is mostly skin. :( DH seems ok with them but they make me sad and self-conscious.

berryblondeboys
06-08-2011, 08:25 AM
I was a 40G and am now a 38 DDD (which is just one size smaller in band and cup). I can definitely tell the difference. my husband can too, but they don't LOOK smaller, but bigger as the rest of me has gotten even more smaller - like my waist.

Probably at goal I'll be a DD, but only maybe, but they are still full, just have always pointed to teh ground.

Marmot12
06-08-2011, 08:31 AM
My boobs were quite big when i had was quite heavy but i have lost alot of weight on them and each week i pray that i wont lose anymore!

Seriously there is plenty of other places available to lose weight but it had to go pick there!!

My BF likes big boobs to but he doesnt seem to mind that mine are smaller now! lets just hope they dont get any smaller!!

aimeebell
06-08-2011, 10:14 AM
Ehhh, I'd probably tell him that you have always had a fondness for oversized penis, but he doesn't hear you complain does he? ;0) I just had to go buy new bras because mine were half empty and I LOVE it. I hate big boobs, and I don't care who likes them! LOL

Cheshirecat
06-08-2011, 10:35 AM
I was a 38C when I started and have definitely gone down. At first I was a bit disappointed but now I love my body and boobs. I just had to get use to them. There are so many great things about being smaller too.

My husband did of course notice and makes comments now and again, but I'm so proud of myself it doesn't really phase me and I know he loves me period. I was a bit defensive at first but I like what I have now and who I am so I can't be that hurt of it because I rather have it this way then the way it was.

Blinky963
06-08-2011, 10:41 AM
I love this thread so much!!!!

I wouldn't worry too much. Sounds like he loves you a lot and I'm sure he's super happy you guys are getting healthy together.

I had pretty big boobs at my heaviest weight but when I lost 125 pounds years ago they shrank to peanuts. The sad part was when I gained all the weight back my boobs didn't really grow much. So, I was fat again, mad and sad, and didn't even have a nice rack to show for it. That's just my luck.
I have to say that they filled out some and this time they are just about right. 34/36 C. I can make 'em look nice with a good bra, I can look at them bare without cringing, I just have to remind myself not to look at them.....in motion...because they take on the before mentioned rock in a tube sock look.

bargoo
06-08-2011, 10:50 AM
Those women who are 32AA would love to have your 38DD bra size. Your DH is being narrow minded, he should be proud of what you have done and be happy that your health is improved.

fattymcfatty
06-08-2011, 11:19 AM
Thanks, ladies. Your responses crack me up. I would try making fun of his junk, but he's got more than enough. Maybe I'll ask him why the heck it didn't get smaller since he lost 30 lbs!! Men suck. But, we are smarter. I think I look good. That is what counts!!

caryesings
06-08-2011, 12:46 PM
As a 34G, my chest has always been my most obvious dating asset. Or so I thought. Met the current beau online and he had skipped over the full body picture so hadn't noticed. He swears he didn't notice anything unusual on our first date, but at the beginning of second date we hugged and he went "whoa"! He's not a breast man at all and at age 58 is enjoying the novelty but odd for me that overall, that's not the part of my body that interests him!!

awood14
06-08-2011, 01:02 PM
I started my weight loss as a 38DD and lost 6 pounds and am now a 36DD. First week I lost a whole inch off my bust. My husband too likes large breasts, but I have really felt top heavy with the extra weight. I feel it is my time to feel good about myself instead of worrying what anyone else thinks. It is your body, it matters most how you feel about it.

sacha
06-08-2011, 01:29 PM
I wonder how he would cope with my 32A's. Hah. He thinks those are small? Good lord. That's why I married a butt man, not a boob man!

But in all seriousness, he should be supportive (no pun intended) and at the end of the day, boobs were meant for feeding babies!

pointless2011
06-08-2011, 01:37 PM
thats what I'm afraid of! Right now I am 36C/36D depends on the brand. Tons of people keep telling me if I start losing weight, the first thing that goes are my ta-tas. I do not want them to get smaller! My physical ed professor told me that my boobs will get down to A's before my stomach even starts to go away =( Somebody please tell me thats not true!=/

Beach Patrol
06-08-2011, 03:09 PM
"what would you do with a 12" limp winkie? Where would you put that darn thing? Every darn day?! From sunup to sundown and beyond? What about when it's 98 degrees outside, and, it's sweaty, and hot, and squashed, and hanging down one pant leg, with nowhere to go, what are you going to do with that?!!"

OMG, OMG, OMG!!!!! :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

I can't stop laughing!!!! :D :D :D :D :D

Ferumbras
06-08-2011, 03:40 PM
pointless: There's no rule as to where people lose the weight from first. My girls haven't changed much after losing 30 pounds (and I'm a 36/38 DD, so plenty there to lose), but my stomach and hips definitely have. Some people will see results in their lower body, others the upper. We're not machines. So I wouldn't worry about it. And no matter what size cup you end up being in the end, isn't being healthier the better alternative to being unhealthy but large chested? This is why they invented the push-up bra!

saef
06-08-2011, 05:11 PM
"what would you do with a 12" limp winkie? Where would you put that darn thing? Every darn day?! From sunup to sundown and beyond? What about when it's 98 degrees outside, and, it's sweaty, and hot, and squashed, and hanging down one pant leg, with nowhere to go, what are you going to do with that?!!:dizzy: He had no good answer!

Post of the day. Maybe of the week.

No contest.

catahoula
06-08-2011, 11:00 PM
Im usually a 36G.... I'm currently down almost 30lbs and they haven't changed. Which just looks ridiculous. My fiancÚ has noticed I lost some butt though. I'm hoping I'll go down in bra size, but I'm she he isn't. But that's life!

Lovely
06-09-2011, 07:31 AM
thats what I'm afraid of! Right now I am 36C/36D depends on the brand. Tons of people keep telling me if I start losing weight, the first thing that goes are my ta-tas. I do not want them to get smaller! My physical ed professor told me that my boobs will get down to A's before my stomach even starts to go away =( Somebody please tell me thats not true!=/

Uh... no. Every body is individual and no one knows where the weight is going to come off from first. Not even your phys ed professor.

Arctic Mama
06-09-2011, 12:55 PM
Awe, a D at tht band size isn't large at all! It is a very normal cup size and likely very proportional to your frame. I'd tell your DH to suck it up and deal, because that isn't exactly 28AA-pancake flat!

Mickeypnd
06-09-2011, 01:39 PM
lol my bf tells me the same thing, he keeps joking saying if i lose any of my boobs he'll send me packing lol. I know he's joking but i seriously cant wait to lose mine!

and as long as your comfortable with yourself then that's all that matters!((:

ShyHeather
06-09-2011, 04:25 PM
Let me start by saying my boobage has been the bane of my existance. I don't like having large chesticles. At my heaviest, I wore a 44D from Lane Bryant, once in awhile a 44DD if it ran small. I am now a 38DD, or 38DDD if I am shopping at Lane Bryant. So most would read this and think I got larger in the top, but no, even though cup size is the same letter, it is a smaller band, so less cuppage. Anyways, I like my new boobies, and they aren't even as saggy as I anticipated.

DH thinks they are small. He's always been supportive, we've been on this journey together, but he said that they were "small" in context to somebody else. This is bothering me now and giving me a freaking complex. I don't even know why. I know I am smaller up top than I used to be, but I feel pretty adequate. In fact, I'm hoping I can get back to a 38D by goal or 36D so I have more options bra shopping. I know he loves me unconditionally, even at my heaviest he has always been attracted to me, and is even more attracted to me now. So anyone go through this? How to deal? (Yeah, I know, I should smack him, :P)

Not to swing the subject in a different direction, but this actually scares me! I like my babies right now, they're in a C cup... and everyone keeps telling me when I shrink my boobs will disappear. It actually sent me into a binge once just because I was like Oh my gosh, I cannot let that happen! :(

But anyway, to swing it back in the right direction. A friendly jab in the arm should do the trick ;)

tinamariex16
06-09-2011, 04:34 PM
I can't wait for the day when mine starts shrinking. For the last year or so I've been seriously considering reduction surgery, but before surgery I would need to lose weight.. and if I lose weight I wont even need the surgery.

I haven't even lost them yet and I already know he's not going to be a fan, he is 100% against the reduction surgery and it was requested that I "try to keep the boobs".. because I can pick where I lose weight from and all..

fattymcfatty
06-09-2011, 05:58 PM
TinaMarie, LOL!! Trust me, if I could pick where it goes, I'd just move it from my gut area to my flat butt! I don't know why I thought I'd look good thinner when I am an apple shape, and I want to be pear-shaped! Us, women, we are never satisfied.:dizzy:

VermontMom
06-09-2011, 08:07 PM
:rofl: bonus points to all the hilarious comments, we can be so critical and self-deprecating yet laugh at our poor boobies :D

skinnymcskinny :) I am sure your bf will be just fine with your rockin hot bod! we worry so much but i tell you, all men just go ga-ga at a female naked body, whatver it looks like to us.

and I said it before in another thread about 'changed' boobies...at the age of 46, because I was wearing a hot pink pushup bra under a black fishnet top, I was asked to participate in a wet t contest :rofl: so cute supportive undergarments can help alot!!

AlexaN
06-09-2011, 10:02 PM
Ehhh, I'd probably tell him that you have always had a fondness for oversized penis, but he doesn't hear you complain does he? ;0) I just had to go buy new bras because mine were half empty and I LOVE it. I hate big boobs, and I don't care who likes them! LOL

haha

glassmenagerie
06-10-2011, 01:55 PM
I was a 36DD before I gained weight and now I'm 38G. I hate to see what I am gonna look like once I lose all this weight :\

GlamourGirl827
06-11-2011, 11:50 AM
Um...my DH is so darn happy with my smaller body-age, that he doesn't care that I've gone from a C to a barely B...lol and neither do I. :)

AlexaN
06-11-2011, 06:38 PM
Ehhh, I'd probably tell him that you have always had a fondness for oversized penis, but he doesn't hear you complain does he? ;0)

I wanted to add something funny to this. I had a similar comment from my boyfriend. :( He said something along the lines of "I usually prefer to date girls with bigger boobs...." so I said to him, "Yeah and I have some rules when I date guys, #1 I prefer it Circumcised...... So it looks like I've already broken the rule with you!" :carrot:

Later that night he assured me my boobs were still a 'turn on' for him.... and I assured him that his foreskin was still a 'turn off' for me !!!:carrot:

Havent heard him complain since!!!!

Rachel8
06-20-2011, 08:05 PM
Alexa.... wow, way too much information. haha
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AriesNV
06-29-2011, 07:38 PM
I've always had big boobs (38D). I used to get teased in middle school, because I was 5'9, 125 pounds with big knockers. Boys used to called them "Itchy and Scratchy" because they would "chase" each other when I walked or ran in P.E. class....So, I've always wanted smaller boobs so I could do more physical activities without worrying about them slapping my in the face or hurting from bouncing and/or "chasing" each other too much.

I envy the girls that can wear halter tops too without need for support!

alaskanlaughter
06-29-2011, 07:51 PM
*sigh* mine never seem to change...i was at a 40D years ago before i started any weight loss at all...now i'm in a 38C and have been there for years...even when i gain a few pounds, or lose a few pounds, they still stay at that size so far...hopefully when i drop more and get into weight i haven't seen since i was little, they will get a little smaller too...i dont mind the way they are now, and DH loves them, but they are THE reason i still shop in 2X shirts instead of a smaller size *sigh*

liliesinmycereal
06-29-2011, 08:32 PM
alexa-- LOL!

Rachel8
07-13-2011, 10:30 PM
Alexa I totally have to ask you this, (I tried to PM you but no answer) Ive always browsed this forum but I joined up because I'm almost totally sure that I recognise you from your profile picture. Are you from Edmonton by any chance? If so PM me you will totally know me from classes! (& now I know too much about your BF!! haha)

Sunshine87
07-13-2011, 11:00 PM
I don't want to lose my boobs!!! I am a D now and I hope to be a C when I lose weight. I have had big boobs for so long I cannot imagine not being well-endowed.
Don't get me wrong. They were too big when I was 222 lbs but they matched my too big body.

xxkaleidoscopic
07-14-2011, 03:10 AM
As a bisexual woman, I enjoy boobs of all sizes. ; ) Seriously, not about the size at all.

For comfort reasons, I wish mine were smaller. I'm in a healthy weight range, but they're still 36DDD/F. And it huuurts. I'm hoping I'll drop a cup size with the weight. Two, if I'm lucky, but I won't hold my breath.

starbrite
07-14-2011, 03:35 AM
:rofl: I was a 42DD, now sadly a 36B. DH is distressed by my lack of boobs, but tough on him. I'm half the woman I used to be I weigh 149lbs and have lost 149lbs - something had to give !

AlexaN
07-14-2011, 03:58 AM
@ rachel- Yes!

UrthWurm
07-14-2011, 04:10 AM
Strangely enough, my BF is actually a fan of small breasts! I'm the one who has the problem with them. :p I started out as a 38C, and am now a 36C. However the girls aren't as filled out as they once were. Sag? Yes, we've got that. Laying on my back I practically feel flat chested. I'm hoping some chest exercises and a little hypnosis when I reach goal will rectify that. I've already got the CD's stashed away, as they were passed on to me from a fellow small-breasted woman. Lol! She actually saw a full cup size increase, so I'm crossing my fingers! :crossed:

Snoofie
07-14-2011, 09:50 AM
Well, I'm single at the moment, but I can tell you this: If I did have an SO right now, and he witnessed my hard work in getting to where I am now, but expressed any kind of dissatisfaction with my smaller chest, he'd get a damn earful from me. Your SO probably doesn't mean to sound critical, but you said it yourself: it's given you a "freaking complex."

Tell him that the smaller boobs go along with the healthy lifestyle, and that he's going to have to learn to deal with it, because you don't plan to undo all that hard work just so HE can have your boobs back.

Like I said...I know he probably doesn't mean to be critical or unhelpful, but holy **** does stuff like this ever tick me off.

Arianwen
07-14-2011, 10:17 AM
I'm breastfeeding our son = they're off limits anyway! hahaha