General chatter - FitGirlyGirl, are we aunties and uncles yet?




cbmare
05-23-2011, 01:41 PM
I hope you are very close to getting B1, B2, G1 and G2. When will you know?


FitGirlyGirl
05-24-2011, 09:15 PM
Actually, we are pretty sure that the 3 little ones have been adopted by the foster family they were already living with. We are still trying for the 12 year old, but we have no idea when we will know something.

cbmare
05-24-2011, 09:38 PM
Aww. Too bad they will be separated. Good luck. I love the fact that you are so willing to open up your heart and home for them.


Coondocks
05-25-2011, 09:42 AM
Awwww . .. . I hope the foster family didn't have all 4 and only take 3, that would be just devastating to that little girl.

Im curious, if that is the case and you end up being able to have the 12 year old with you - does she get to maintain any kind of ongoing relationship with her siblings?
Im really not at all sure how it all works, just curious.

FitGirlyGirl
05-25-2011, 01:36 PM
No, the siblings are staying together. The older girl is not related to them and was not living with them. We were just interested in adopting both the older girl and the 3 little ones, that's all. I have told our case worker to keep an eye out for other sibling sets that might be a good match for us.

Coondocks - When they do have to split siblings up then they try to allow for contact as long as it is not detrimental to any of the kids. So for most normal sibling sets, yes. Basically if there is a child with some issues and they were abusing their sibling then they aren't going to make the abused sibling visit their abuser.

Coondocks
05-25-2011, 02:16 PM
Thanks for the explanation, makes sense to me now:)

I hope you and hubby get to have everything you've worked hard for, any child would be lucky to have your loving home as their own and such a wonderful person to call Mom.

FitGirlyGirl
05-25-2011, 09:16 PM
Awwww, thank you

bargoo
05-25-2011, 09:19 PM
It will be wonderful if you adopt the 12 yr old as so many people don't want to adopt older children.

FitGirlyGirl
05-27-2011, 09:45 AM
Bargoo - That is part of our reasoning bargoo. We want children for all the reasons people typically want children, but we'd also like to provide a loving forever home to children who might not otherwise have one. That's why we are looking at older kids and sibling groups.


Well, we are scheduled to meet with the caseworker on Tuesday. Hopefully then we will be scheduling the first visit of the homestudy. They have to come twice before our house can be declared "open" to children. Then we will get the larger case file for the girl we are interested in to make sure we are still interested after reading it. If so, she gets to find out things about us and see a photo album of us, our home, and our family and decide if she is interested. If all that goes well we start supervised visits. If everything goes smoothly we could be parents in a month or two.

bargoo
05-27-2011, 09:53 AM
FitGirlyGirl, I am praying for a happy conclusion for you and your new daughter.

cbmare
05-27-2011, 12:44 PM
FitGirlyGirl, I am praying for a happy conclusion for you and your new daughter.

What she said.