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Gale02
04-26-2011, 12:21 AM
I joined our local Y today. As I was getting my tour I noticed that (at least in the 5:30, after work crowd) I was the fattest chick there by a good 50lbs. It might be different when I'll be going (mid morning, SAHM city), but I'm a little nervous. I absolutely won't let it deter me, after all if the fat chick isn't supposed to be there, who is?! But, I don't like being looked at askance - it gets my hackles up - and I'm afraid that's going to happen often.

Any advice?


milmin2043
04-26-2011, 12:31 AM
Like you said...just keep going. I put my ipod in before entering the gym. I'm not there to socialize but to get my workout in. I was the same way. I never saw anyone as heavy as I was at the start of my journey.

Now I'm thinner than most of the people I see in there. It will shift for you too, but DON'T GIVE UP and let perceptions change this great thing you are doing for yourself. You've done a great job so far. You deserve this!!!

Nola Celeste
04-26-2011, 12:35 AM
The after-work, after-school crowd is definitely more buff than the mid-day crowd at my Y (now that I've finally saved up the membership for it--YAY! :D). I take a thrice-weekly yoga class in which I'm about average-sized; it's a mix of men, women, young, old, big, slender, you name it.

I seriously doubt that you'll be the only "fat chick"--and even if you were, chances are extremely good that anyone who sees you is likelier to think, "More power to her!" than "She might wear a double-digit size!" I'm actually surprised at how comfortable I am going to the Y; it's really shown me that everyone's far more into their own head-spaces than they are in mine.

There's more of a commonality of purpose for everyone there than there are differences between us, so I don't think about being "the fat chick" or "the chick with glasses" or whatever it is that might otherwise concern me.

If I do feel at all self-conscious--which happens sometimes even though no one else makes me feel that way--I bury my nose in a book or look into the middle distance and daydream.

Congratulations on joining the Y! I think they are AWESOME and putting aside money to join was the best decision my husband and I have made since we quit smoking. I even bought a bathing suit--first one in fourteen years. :D


juliana77
04-26-2011, 12:44 AM
I find our Y a far less intimidating crowd than any of the big chain gyms.

torta del burro
04-26-2011, 01:05 AM
I am one of the fattest chicks at my gym, but I lift heavier than most of the skinny chicks!

OhMyDogs
04-26-2011, 01:12 AM
Console yourself in the knowledge that it won't be too long when you realize that they are all looking askance at you because they want to BE you (or they just want you ;) ). Let that be a motivator.

Nikki6kidsmom
04-26-2011, 01:17 AM
I am the only chick who sweats at my gym. I have been going since January to this gym and I have never not one single time seen another female really sweating.

I did a intense cardio set at the gym as I do my weight training somewhere else. I leave with wet hair and wet clothes and a soaked towel too. Usually the females are on the phone while doing the elliptical or reading a book on the treadmill.

I think it was the time of day you were there too. But don't let any of it stop you get in there and get your workout on. I honestly go to the gym to destress and zone out, Just me and my ipod.

I wanted to add. I avoid the mid afternoons at my gym as it seems to be mostly elderly people. One time I made the mistake of going and they took up residence on the bike and treadmills and went at a snails pace and chatted across the gym. I tried not to get annoyed as they have their rights but it was really slowing me down waiting for the machines to free up . Ahhhh gym drama, LOL!

geoblewis
04-26-2011, 01:19 AM
I'm the only fat chick in my Pilates class. At first, I felt really super self-conscious. But with time, I advanced and am just as capable in class as nearly everyone. I've become quite friendly with many of my classmates, and if I don't go, they miss me! (I'm also the comic relief in the class.) I'm friends with a few of them on Facebook, one of whom is an Olympic hopeful in swimming.

But I live in a small town. When I went to a big gym in Manhattan Beach, I was the biggest woman in the whole place. I was also the least blond and had the smallest boobs! I worked with a personal trainer. He was super encouraging, and we trained out on the floor in front of everyone. I think I was so intent on not falling over or grunting too loudly to notice if anyone was watching me.

Before all of that, I was living in Indonesia. I felt like I was the biggest woman in the whole country there. The Indonesians were lovely people, but they often stopped in their tracks and stared, pointed at me, laughed and said things outloud like, "Wah! You so big!" I was really super self-conscious about going in to town. After about a year of this behavior, someone explained to me that the Indonesians did this sort of thing about practically everything out of the ordinary, and when they got used to seeing me in town more often, they really only wanted to talk to me and practice their English on me. After that, I loosened up quite a bit about it all. After four years of living with it, I started thinking of myself as a rock star celebrity.

So when I eventually came back to the US, and not nearly as many people looked at me twice, I started missing the attention. Go figure!

When I really just want to blend in with the crowd, I go to Walmart. I am NOT the largest woman there! Maybe the tallest, but not the fattest.

lacey marie
04-26-2011, 01:25 AM
Every one here is right....

Don't worry, it may seem like they're all staring, but really, the muscle heads are all trying to show off, and everyone else are really just worried about themselves. Keep up the good work!!!

Lizz
04-26-2011, 03:52 AM
Hey Gale,

I am in a similar boat as I am trying to desensitise myself from feeling self-conscious at the gym too these days. Some ideas that made me feel a bit better about it:

Observe other aerobic classes, or people filing in and out of other classes while waiting for mine to start. I mean if you take a look, there are so many different shapes and sizes, it is quite amazing! And they all come here to exercise. I may be the fattest chick I have seen there but certainly not the only overweight one, neither the tallest, neither the most ugly, neither the most sweaty and neither the slowest learner in my dance aerobic class. Realising that made me feel much less like an outlander.

I also noticed that I feel far more comfortable in aerobic or pilates classes than in the weight and carido rooms so I try to focus on getting my exercise in those ways but I really think that just going there regularly is the only true way out of feeling out-of-place. Habits are comfortable. Period.

My expectations were far worse than reality in terms of how people treated me, i.e. normal. :) I even had one of the buff trainers come up and talk to me after one class to see how I liked it and to encourage me to come again, go figure. Other times people being friendly in aerobic class or at the reception desk. Not über-friendly, just normal and it is a very nice feeling!

I also keep thinking, if I felt very strongly about being fit and exercising and saw someone new making and effort, I would probably have a very positive and encouraging attitude towards them for making what I considered to be a valuable change to their lives, so why should the people at the gym feel differently?

And honesty, every woman who is thinner than you should like you a lot for being able to make that comparison in her head and applauding herself afterwards. :D

Make it a habit and enjoy the health benefits and social aspects of it too. Life is too short and can be too much fun to do otherwise. :)

JessLess
04-26-2011, 06:00 AM
When I'm working out I'm concentrating on myself way too much to think about how people look. One of the blessings for me about getting older is I no longer care if people are looking at me anyway. I also get drenched in sweat, but I think that means it's working!

gmailjunkie
04-26-2011, 06:53 AM
Hi Gale!

It's so funny- I recently mentioned something about being the only chick (fat or otherwise) in the weight room in a post. I said that I felt that I definitly attracted notice as the only fat chick in the weight room but your post made me reevaluate that. I don't know that I attracted any extra notice. Did the boys (I will insist on thinking of men as "boys) look at me? Sure, but only when I was in their line of vision. There may have been some confusion maybe in their expression but no judgement or disapproval.

You said that you don't like to be looked at askanse and that you are afraid it will happen often...but did it during the tour? Did more than one person look at you that way? If not I don't think its particularly likely that its going to.

Just to illustrate the other side though- here is a list of people I judge at the gym
- people who don't wipe down the machines
- men who grunt loudly while lifting a not impressive amount of weight
- people who match their tennis shoes exactly to their gym shorts ie the exact shade of neon green for both
- people who talk on the cell on the cardio equiptment
-people who watch the food channel while working out

Do I look askance at any of them? Not intentionally. I would feel impolite. If people do judge you for being overweight they probably restrain themselves from an outward expression of it.

GirlyGirlSebas
04-26-2011, 09:23 AM
I've always found the Y to be more friendly than most gyms. Plus, you won't be the biggest one there for long! Hold you head up high, girlfriend.

MiZTaCCen
04-26-2011, 09:46 AM
Ipod will be your best friend, wear baggy clothing and just listen and zone into your music to do your own thing! You might think you are the only "fat" chick there but once you dropped the weight and reach your goal you'll be happy you stuck it out!

runningfromfat
04-26-2011, 09:59 AM
Dh and I are the only remotely overweight people at our gym (in our apt building). We just suck it up and go and ignore everyone there. ;) I've never gotten any weird looks and everyone's been really polite. Besides I'm normally running faster/lifting more than the thinner women there so I figure I must be doing something right. :D

carter
04-26-2011, 10:25 AM
I am always the only fat person at the gym. I've never noticed anyone looking at me. No one has ever made a disparaging comment to me. People are just doing their workouts, they aren't looking around for other people to judge. Just go do your thing. We all tend to feel that other people care about our business a lot more than they actually do.

Smiling_Sara
04-26-2011, 11:24 AM
If there is one thing I noticed, is that nobody really pays much attention to one another at the gym, unless they know the person, or they become a regular there, and start talking to each other.

I started going to the gym at 278 pounds, and I was a nervous wreck, but the more I went, the more comfortable I became, and I seriously feel "at home" in a gym now.

I do notice people at the gym, heavy, little, and everything in between, but when I see a heavier person ( and trust me, I still view myself as heavy ) all I think about is "awesome on them" taking control of their lives and getting healthy.

milliej
04-26-2011, 11:41 AM
I used to go to our local Y, but after a while it seemed like it was a babysitter, poeple would drop their middle school and highschool kids off by the van load. They were loud and would throw things, goof off or just stand around and talk. I bet most Ys are not like this maybe the one I went to had bad management. I joined curves and I love it. It's all woman and I am just more comfortable with that. Sometimes I am the biggest one there and sometime not. I sometime like it when I am the biggest one there, becasue I make sure I am also the one working that hardest :)

PaulaM
04-26-2011, 11:42 AM
I find our Y a far less intimidating crowd than any of the big chain gyms.

same here

Eliana
04-26-2011, 12:31 PM
There are no fat people in my gym at the time I go first thing in the morning. Wanna know why? Because all the newbies started in January (or before) and have slimmed down considerably! :yes: Everyone has to start sometime! I can name at least five (seven if you count my best friend and me) people who came to my spin class fat and are now thin! It's amazing and it's true! But you can't know that the first day you start up. You can't know that until you've been there a year or so, as I have been now.

It feels like you are the only one who has ever walked into a gym with some real work to get done. But it isn't true. You're just the newest.

Nikki, yeah for gym sweat! :D When I lift without doing cardio first I typically don't sweat much, but if I do cardio first I sweat profusely even while lifting. That was me today. I had to wipe everything down after I used it because I was disgusting myself! LOL! No one wipes things down at my gym because there aren't any wipes and I usually don't sweat, like I said. But boy, when I do! :rolleyes: And yeah, if you can read or talk during cardio you aren't working. ;)

JamiSue3916
04-26-2011, 01:19 PM
I am a recent gym rat myself. I've been going about a month now and LOVE it! I think if you get some initial training and have a good routine it will help your confidence levels quite a bit. Having a trainer will get you comfortable with the machines and get going on a nice fitness routine. And having a good routine (especially if it's at the same time and the same gym) will make it easier to become friend with other members as well as the staff. Both of these really make feel like I belong.

With all that confidence...I don't notice whether anyone notices me! ;)

Gale02
04-26-2011, 03:21 PM
You ladies are (as usual!) right again. :)

Went to the gym today and no one noticed me. Or, if they did, I was too busy doing my thing to notice THEM. I did have fun watching the tiny lady on the elliptical next to me keep peeking at my machine and pushing her buttons up and up and then after about 5 minutes walk away. Made me giggle a little inside. :o

I have a trainer tomorrow teaching me how to use the weight machines and will most likely use my next free trainer session for some help with the free weights when I get that confident in my ability to keep good form.

Thanks very much for the tip about wiping down the machines! I never would have known about it and would have been one of those annoying people that don't do it (and I sweat A LOT!)

I am so looking forward to making this part of my routine every morning. Our Y has free childcare so I just have to get the kids packed up and get up there... that's not too hard! And the kids had a great time, too, which makes it even easier for me. :)

cajun moma
04-26-2011, 04:04 PM
I do feel like that sometimes. I go to the gym in the mornings and that helps, but every now and then a really in shape person comes at that time. When that happens I tell myself not to worry about it, they don't have any right to judge me. If I were eating a big mac maybe, but I'm there trying to better myself so let think what ever want.:)

Gale02
04-26-2011, 04:12 PM
If I were eating a big mac maybe, but I'm there trying to better myself so let think what ever want.:)

LOL, that was a super funny visual! Sitting on a weight machine, eating a big mac, glaring at people like "What?! I'm bettering myself by being at the gym!" :rofl:

DixC Chix
04-26-2011, 04:52 PM
Eliana said:
if you can read or talk during cardio you aren't working.

I found this on http://womensfitnesstoday.com/cardio/is-your-cardio-workout-hard-enough/

"During cardio exercise, you should never push yourself past the point where you are able to speak. Not only does this help keep you in the target heart rate zone, it is also a safety consideration."

Gale02
04-26-2011, 05:14 PM
I consider "talking" to be 1-2 word sentences. Any less effort than that and I'm usually not sweating anyhow. :)

Goddess Jessica
04-26-2011, 05:52 PM
I was trying to think of some other gym etiquette that might help you out.

If your trainer has you doing free weights, always re-rack the weights. If you're doing machines, it's consider good manners to set the machine back to zero before moving to the next one (although not everyone does this one).

If someone is waiting for a machine, it's good manners to offer them use of the machine if you're between sets. But I always clarify that I'm between sets like, "Hey do you want to work in between my sets?"

Those are the only two I can think of!

Sounds like you're doing great!

XLMuffnTop
04-26-2011, 05:56 PM
I was super nervous when I started at my old gym but they had a women's only area and I got used to it really quickly. I really only noticed a few people: 1. A couple of women that really didn't work out but just chit chatted and would sit on the machines. They'd wipe them down after you already did and glare at you like you had a disease and 2. This really fit girl would do all these stretches in really really short shorts on the bench right in the middle of the room. It was hard not to glance and I was always afraid something might peek out up top or bottom! :o

I just switched gyms and am back to being totally nervous. I have to go get my access card tomorrow so I haven't been yet. I'm staff at a university so I pay only $175 for an entire year at the student recreation center. This gives me access to aquatics, leisure pool, extended hours (6am to midnight almost every day), free weights, weight machine, cardio, classes, cheap $20/hour personal trainers, you name it. The downside is of course 90% will be college students. This may turn out to be a plus though because I'll end up going at 6 am or 9:30pm so hopefully they'll all be hung over or out partying. :)

Just go and continue to go! You'll feel better, look better and gain confidence. If anyone does actually say something to you (doubtful) just ask them how lonely it is up there on that high horse. :D Good luck! Enjoy the Y.

bellastarr
05-01-2011, 04:14 PM
i take a lot of classes at the Y and it seems i am always the fattest one there too and it sucks but i keep telling myself i will get to where i was before.

when i go into the cardio room at the y there are people there alot bigger than me, in fact there is one woman who has to weigh 500 lbs and she goes early in the a.m. to walk treadmill...i hope people don't say rude things about her, i give her alot of credit for going. especially cause i know how intimidated i feel and i am alot smaller than her..

i agree i do think that people are there to work out and dont notice others but i feel like people notice me cuz i used to be in very good shape just a few years ago and i like lived at the y and now i can't help think people think omg she got sooo fat.

and to the poster who said she is the only one who sweats.. i could be your twin..i am a big time sweater, like dripping sweat... my hair is soaked and so are my clothes when i leave..i used to be embarrassed cause no one else looked that way but i tell myself i am worker sooo much harder than everyone else!!

Gale02
05-01-2011, 06:02 PM
I get really red and sweat a LOT when I'm doing cardio. So, I had just finished up my cardio and was on the weights when this guy who used to be my pastor makes some comment about me sweating a lot and how it's not ladylike (really?!) and then makes a snide remark (and I'm positive it was snide, not just sarcastic) about me being a "manly girl" because I was sweating. There are very few moments in life when I truly have no good response to something and wonder if a person realizes they said what they said out loud. My response was "Well, I'm at the gym. What am I supposed to be doing?"

Some people. :rolleyes:

JamiSue3916
05-01-2011, 06:14 PM
Oh geez. You're a manly woman? What a jerk! I like your response very much!

Ashley868
05-01-2011, 06:40 PM
I'd think you'd get admiration. I go to the gym a lot because I have a small belly I want to lose. I used to be really overweight, and I don't want to go back there. Whenever I see someone there that is really overweight working out I feel a lot of respect and admiration for them. That person is there trying to work off the fat, which is not easy. I know since I've been there. I know a lot of overweight women who whine about being big, but won't do anything to lose weight except crash diets that make them binge later. I have a lot on my facebook who post in their statuses that they are depressed because they are overweight, but yet they won't do anything to lose the weight.

So seeing people actually trying to lose weight, and working out at a gym makes me feel respect for them. I've talked to other people about it, and a lot feel the same way. My first thought is "Good for him/her" and if I wasn't shy, or worried about being offensive, which is the last thing I want to be I'd go up to them and tell them that. However, I know that would probably offend the person, so I keep my respect to myself.

Good on you though, and keep it up.

alicia89
05-01-2011, 06:57 PM
Hi Gale!

It's so funny- I recently mentioned something about being the only chick (fat or otherwise) in the weight room in a post. I said that I felt that I definitly attracted notice as the only fat chick in the weight room but your post made me reevaluate that. I don't know that I attracted any extra notice. Did the boys (I will insist on thinking of men as "boys) look at me? Sure, but only when I was in their line of vision. There may have been some confusion maybe in their expression but no judgement or disapproval.

You said that you don't like to be looked at askanse and that you are afraid it will happen often...but did it during the tour? Did more than one person look at you that way? If not I don't think its particularly likely that its going to.

Just to illustrate the other side though- here is a list of people I judge at the gym
- people who don't wipe down the machines
- men who grunt loudly while lifting a not impressive amount of weight
- people who match their tennis shoes exactly to their gym shorts ie the exact shade of neon green for both
- people who talk on the cell on the cardio equiptment
-people who watch the food channel while working out

Do I look askance at any of them? Not intentionally. I would feel impolite. If people do judge you for being overweight they probably restrain themselves from an outward expression of it.

Lol, wait, what's wrong with watching the food channel while working out??? I watch food network all the time while I'm at the gym! It's actually my favourite channel to watch while working out. Sure, there are a few shows that show people bingeing on unhealthy food (diner, drive ins and dives), but those are the exceptions and the vast majority of shows on the food channel show people cooking healthy, varied meals from salads to pastas to fish, and I find it very inspiring to watch the creative cooking while I'm pounding it out on the elliptical. It doesn't mean that I'm going to rush home and stuff all the recipes that I see into my mouth or that I'm sitting there lusting after food, calculating how many calories I've burned so that I can go home to eat them. I just genuinely love cooking, love watching people cook and enjoy watching the food channel because I find it inspiring and it gives me all sorts of ideas for keeping my own healthy eating from getting boring and gets me thinking about diet, nutrition, and veggies (never would have discovered jicama if it hadn't become trendy on food channel). Then there are the reality shows like Iron Chef and Top Chef which are just truly fun to watch, as are most other non-cooking reality shows. I honestly had no idea it was taboo to watch that channel while at the gym..

XLMuffnTop
05-02-2011, 09:56 AM
I get really red and sweat a LOT when I'm doing cardio. So, I had just finished up my cardio and was on the weights when this guy who used to be my pastor makes some comment about me sweating a lot and how it's not ladylike (really?!) and then makes a snide remark (and I'm positive it was snide, not just sarcastic) about me being a "manly girl" because I was sweating. There are very few moments in life when I truly have no good response to something and wonder if a person realizes they said what they said out loud. My response was "Well, I'm at the gym. What am I supposed to be doing?"

Some people. :rolleyes:

Oh sheesh! If this happens again, stand up and tell him as a pastor he should know that God made you the way you're supposed to be. Unless he wants to talk to God and tell the big guy he made a mistake he needs to shut up and worry more about himself and his judgemental attitude!

Eliana
05-02-2011, 03:24 PM
I found this on http://womensfitnesstoday.com/cardio/is-your-cardio-workout-hard-enough/

"During cardio exercise, you should never push yourself past the point where you are able to speak. Not only does this help keep you in the target heart rate zone, it is also a safety consideration."

Yes, you should be able to spit out a word or two, a majority of the time. It's ok to do intervals during which time you do not want to talk for 20 seconds. However, if you are able to carry a conversation, that's different and I think that's what we're talking about. If you're able to chat and/or read a magazine, you aren't working out to your full potential. :dunno: I'm not sure it's worth the time or effort, in my opinion.

But yes, using perceived effort or a scale of your ability to talk is a good indicator of how hard you are pushing yourself and should be able to put a few words together most of the time.

Kiyoshima
05-02-2011, 07:37 PM
My advice is to get your self a good mp3 player, a great workout play list , and forget about all those other people in the gym! I currently go to a gym on a college campus (my husband get a GREAT discount since he works for the school) and all the girls that work out there are skinny college kids. I will admit I do feel a little uncomfortable in there, but like you said if a fat chick doesn't belong in a gym then who does! Get your work out in girl , I'm rooting for you :)

EagleRiverDee
05-02-2011, 08:35 PM
I guess I'm fortunate that my gym has a ton of people in my situation- obese and trying to get fit. However, there was one woman there that was significantly bigger than anyone- I would guess in the 450lb range- and any time I saw her I was SO PROUD of her. She stopped coming to the gym, and I have to say I miss having her around, because she inspired me. So I was never looking at her with anything negative, but always thinking, "Good for her." Because I knew that it was probably tough for her to be the biggest person there but she was there making that effort. She always worked out alone, also, which can be hard for some people (although I'm a loner as well).

I guess my point is- even if people are looking at you, don't assume they are thinking bad things. They may find that you are their inspiration! :)

twinmommaplusone
05-02-2011, 10:20 PM
I used to be very obese and I used to feel the same way. Especially as a runner on a treadmill.

Now that I'm a gym rat, I NEVER look at people in that way. What I know now which I wish I knew then, as a fit and thinner person, people are at the gym to get healthy and stay fit and they are more than likely admiring your effort. I always smile big at people that are large and getting an amazing sweat on and have been known to let them know I think they are doing an awesome job! :hug:

shcirerf
05-03-2011, 09:52 AM
For the most part, I don't think most people pay that much attention. I don't.

I usually go on my lunch hour, so I'm focused on getting my workout done. Most of the other folks there are the same way. We're on a time budget so we don't waste it gocking around at what anyone else is doing or what they look like.

I live in a small town, and usually know every single person who is working out. We rarely speak, except to say hi, how's it going?

There is one gal who works out who has lost 100 pounds! Ya gotta start somewhere.

JenMusic
05-03-2011, 10:19 AM
For a variety of reasons, I didn't join a gym until I was at 125 pounds. To everyone there, I probably looked like one of the "thin" ones that "belonged " at the gym (until they saw my batwings :lol:!).

One day I was jogging on the treadmill when I noticed a woman in front of me on the elliptical. She was obese, and working hard!

I wanted so badly to tell her something encouraging or supportive, but I couldn't figure out a way to do that without coming off as condecending - the thin girl who says something nice to the fat girl (when I was fat, that's how I would have viewed it).

Sometimes I wish I had a T-shirt that said "I used to be fat." I'm not ashamed of having been fat, and maybe others who see me now could know that losing weight isn't impossible!

Lizz
05-15-2011, 06:15 AM
Sometimes I wish I had a T-shirt that said "I used to be fat." I'm not ashamed of having been fat, and maybe others who see me now could know that losing weight isn't impossible!

I totally love that idea! Makes me wish to get a killer body just so that I could pull that off! lol :D

strngsrvrbird
05-15-2011, 09:12 PM
Gale,

I can really relate to what you are feeling, but like so many others have told you, people are really much more focused on themselves at the gym and not you - trust me! I go to our local Y too, and I usually avoid the 5:30 crowd because it is so crowded...it makes it hard to concentrate, especially with stick thin teenyboppers running around everywhere. But I digress.

I generally go a little later in the evening and just get into my own groove. It's more quiet then. What "gmailjunkie" said was so true...the people getting judged are the ones that are letting their kids run wild or wearing neon green and pink at the same time. LOL. You'll find a time of day that is comfortable for you and it'll click. We are ALL going through are own journey and fighting our own demons - even those skinny chicks running on the treadmill with ease.

QuillysQuest
05-17-2011, 06:23 AM
I am an American living in Sweden and in general, I have to say that there are not many obese people in this country. There are a few, of course, but it seems pretty uncommon to see somebody who is more than a little pudgy here.

Gyms in general are not very popular here either, from what I can tell. Every gym I've checked out here so far is very small, usually has windowless walls and a ceiling that is not quite high enough to help with ventilation, imo. I have to assume that most people here get their exercise either in their normal daily routines (walking and biking are the most common forms of transportation when you don't have to leave your town here) or they are active outdoors in some other way. Also, in general, portion sizes here when you eat at somebody's house or at a restaurant are usually more ideal for balance than they are in the states, so maybe that helps.

But anyway, the point is, when I go to the gym, if the place isn't empty you can bet the farm that I'm going to be the ONLY overweight person in there. And when I'm doing cardio, I'm usually dripping with sweat. lol

Every time the door to that tiny gym room opens, I feel a twinge of nervousness for what the person entering is going to think or do when they see me working out in there, but it always dissolves very quickly because I will meet the eye of the person and give them a big happy smile, like I'm glad to see them, even if I don't know them. (While Swedes are a friendly people in my experience, they don't usually smile at each other much, so when I offer them a big smile, they often seem to be completely thrown by it and they have to look back at me to be sure they saw what they saw. LOL It's so cute! Hehehe But 99% of the time, they will return my smile.)

I think offering a genuine happy smile to anybody who you find looking in your direction might not completely disperse whatever negative thoughts that are going through their mind about you or anything else, but it will certainly lessen them if they are there are all. And if it doesn't, then that is a person who really needed a smile from a stranger today anyway, ya know?

gmailjunkie
05-17-2011, 06:57 AM
Lol, wait, what's wrong with watching the food channel while working out??? Then there are the reality shows like Iron Chef and Top Chef which are just truly fun to watch, as are most other non-cooking reality shows. I honestly had no idea it was taboo to watch that channel while at the gym..

There is NOTHING wromg with watching the food network at the gym. I think I was judging the expressions on their faces - for some reason there was always a baking show on and the food zombies would look like they really really wanted a cookie but would under no circumstances have one. You could see the struggle. Like actually see them shaking their heads at themselves which was sad but also visually comical a little. No need to explain.

'Sides anytime I'm judgy it says more about me than the objects of my judging.