Weight Loss Support - Those who have the dreaded belly "overhang"...




Linsy
04-07-2011, 03:24 AM
Mine is really bad and it seems to have not gotten any better after losing 70lbs! The pooch itself is smaller but it still hangs down in a really gross looking way.

Those of you who have this and gotten closer to goal weight, did it stop hanging? I honestly wouldn't mind having a squishy jiggly pooch there if it didn't hang down. How much loose skin did you have there? I'm a little bit afraid it's going to be a hanging pouch of loose skin once I get to goal which might even be worse than the hanging pouch of fat...of course that won't stop me from getting to goal but I'm just curious!


mandalinn82
04-07-2011, 03:33 AM
Mine was big enough, and my loss pronounced enough, that where fat hung down before, skin hangs down now. It's sort of like a deflated balloon.

I can tell you, though, that it is in NO WAY worse than an overhang of fat. My overhang of skin shows when I'm naked, but isn't visible in clothes or even really in most underwear or bathing suits (the thigh loose skin is way more visible in a bathing suit, as compared to the tummy flap). Fat stuck out. It was impossible to hide - I could wear spanx to try to make it smoother, but it was always visible. Clothed, you can't even tell that the skin flap is there.

So I can't tell you that I have experience with it going away. It does get better/tighten up a bit, but for me, it stuck. But I can tell you that it will matter a billion times less to you once you see it at goal. And as I've read here many times, if you decide that it's REALLY worse than the fat hanging over, you can always gain your weight back. But so far, no one at 3FC that I know of has intentionally made the decision to do so.

milmin2043
04-07-2011, 03:44 AM
Mine was terrible in the beginning, but I would still rather have the loose skin than the fat tummy bulge. Like Mandalinn said, you just can't cover that up.

I have significantly gotten mine to be almost flat (no kidding) with extensive crunches. The type that you do on the machine, where the back isn't there. IYKWIM. I do 100 of them every day. A trainer also showed me how to do them with one arm extended at a time and that has worked wonders. My abs underneath are rock hard now and it has given my tummy new life.

I still wouldn't wear a bikini or half shirts, etc. I'm too old, and stretch marks aren't going anywhere, but it looks 100% better in clothes.


GlamourGirl827
04-07-2011, 08:05 AM
I'm curious if anyone who has kids has had it improve with weightloss...I've had 2 kids and with weightloss its like a deflating balloon. :( Still a lot of skin just less stuffing. Though I've heard it can take up to a year for skin to kind of go back, after kids or weightloss....not sure if that's true.

ncuneo
04-07-2011, 09:38 AM
I still have one and am closing in on a year since goal. It's gotten slightly better over time, but every morning I get up and I just say get over it! You look smokin in clothes! I can't afford surgery so there's little I can do about it and it beats being over weight any day.

pattypaw
04-07-2011, 10:40 AM
I'm pretty sure mine won't be going anywhere since i've had 5 babies all around or well over 9 lb. But i'll be much happier with the flap of skin as opposed to a huge belly!

runningfromfat
04-07-2011, 10:46 AM
I've had two pregnancies with one live birth. However, I have no been obese my whole life (about 2 years due to my pregnancy) and I have noticed that I don't have any overhand anymore. I definitely don't have a perfectly flat belly. I still have love handles and my belly sticks out too but it no longer hangs over.

I would guess this depends on a lot of factors: length of time you were obese, genetics, number of pregnancies, strength training etc. I seem to be one of the few lucky ones in this regard so I just wanted to add that it's not completely impossible to lose it!

Brooklynn
04-07-2011, 06:58 PM
Before I had my third son which is obviously a new factor in the belly hang I had lost 30lbs went from 180 to 150 I had it really bad before I lost the weight it looked like they cut the baby out and my once fat baby belly just hung there but as the 30 lbs started to come off the belly hang got a bit smaller now mind you I didn't get to my goal and was still pretty far away but the little ******* did shrink!

sept15lija
04-07-2011, 10:21 PM
I don't think my overhang is going anywhere. It's definitely like a deflated balloon, there's still fat there too, which makes me think I need to lose more perhaps than the 4 pounds left on my ticker. I've had two average sized babies and have been obese since forever.

icedragon6669
04-07-2011, 10:27 PM
I had 2 kids while being obese, and I must say the flap is still there. But as others said I would rather the loose skin than the fat guts I had any day. I do martial arts and we do lots of push ups, and I hate how my guts hangs down and looking down at my stomach it physically makes me ill to see the skin hanging :(.

I am seriously considering a tummy tuck but fight with the fact I will just have a horrible scar (I scar badly) and whats the difference between a scar and a skin flap , both are unsightly.

The positive is I love the clothes I now wear and its easy to keep it covered and only I need to know about it!

pinkflower
04-07-2011, 10:27 PM
I have 2 9+lb babies, both by c-section. I have that lovely apron of skin and stretch marks and doughy wrinkly belly skin.

I used to think there was nothing I could do about it, but it has gotten tremendously better as I lost weight. I can wear tight dresses, tight shirts and pants, and my stomach looks flat.

However, I do have a large amount of loose skin. If I"m on my hands and knees, it all hangs down like 5 inches. If I lie on my side, my stomach skin sits next to my body like an unwelcome tumor or something! I wear a size or 2 bigger because of my skin (size 8 instead of a 4or6). But thank goodness it is minimized if I stand up. Today I was trying on adorable sun dresses at Old Navy and could not believe my eyes at how my body looked in all the dresses. I am so happy about it, and before I lost weight, there's no way I would have loved that many dresses

Weight loss has made is more wrinkly and doughy looking, but even naked, I prefer that much much more to the full 4 months pregnant look I had before. I simply could not hide my extra fat in any clothes

Linsy
04-08-2011, 02:16 AM
TMI warning!

I mostly dislike the stomach fat because of sex; when I'm on top it flaps against my partner's stomach and makes an awful noise. He told me once that I gave him a rash (gee, so nice right? LOL). He also says it "gets in the way" and it kinda bothers him. Does the skin flap hang down enough that it would continue to rub against his stomach or anything like that? I know it won't look great but as long as it stops being a bother I think I could live with it.

JustSharing83
04-08-2011, 03:00 AM
I can't speak from experience because my "flap" is still pretty full, but my dad lost a lot of weight over 10 years ago and his stomach started out very loose and saggy, but has really tightened up over time. It's still a little squishy, but nothing like it used to be... Hopefully there's hope for us gals as well, as long as we're patient!

MissSMcC
04-08-2011, 07:22 AM
a few years ago when i was 170lbs i still had my belly flap, but it was much smaller. the middle of it was still there but the edges went away and tightened up if that makes sense. i still hated it though, but i've been overweight/obese all my life and had an almost 9lb daughter so i expect it will never fully go away without surgery (which i would definetely get if i could afford it).

losermom
04-08-2011, 08:51 AM
I have 2 9+lb babies, both by c-section. I have that lovely apron of skin and stretch marks and doughy wrinkly belly skin

Weight loss has made is more wrinkly and doughy looking, but even naked, I prefer that much much more to the full 4 months pregnant look I had before. I simply could not hide my extra fat in any clothes

I too have had two 9+ lb babies, but by natural childbirth and I was obese for over 20 years. My stomach still has a skin flap--it's slightly worse on one side than the other. But it looks no worse than my mother's stomach, who had two 7 lb babies, was never obese and has only in the past 5 years become overweight. Like Manda, my thighs are probably the most visible reminder of the excess weight. They are pretty crepey and jiggly. And my upper arms, while toned still have the flaps.

I try not to focus on the negatives. I feel great and I look great in my clothes. And guess what, people tell me they are jealous of my figure (size 6-8) regardless of the loose skin. It's worth it ladies!

ubergirl
04-08-2011, 08:59 AM
I still have a flap, and crepey skin (four babies, 3 over 9 pounds...) Mine really does bother me because I'm one of those people whose legs and arms look surprisingly good. My tummy is the biggest part of my body, and in some pants, the flap crease is visible.

I would LOVE to have a tummy tuck, but I wouldn't consider it unless I got to goal.

pinkflower
04-08-2011, 12:33 PM
TMI warning!

Does the skin flap hang down enough that it would continue to rub against his stomach or anything like that? .

Mine hangs over, but not to bother me or my husband that much while DTD. I'll take a picture if you want. It's not pretty, but I don't mind sharing. I really wish I had before pics too so you could see the difference

Losermom--yup, my thighs too are super jiggly and stretchmarked, and I have batwings under my arm muscles. But I still love my bod too, and I know that in clothes we look amazing and no one else can tell what bugs us :D

berryblondeboys
04-08-2011, 12:42 PM
TMI warning!

I mostly dislike the stomach fat because of sex; when I'm on top it flaps against my partner's stomach and makes an awful noise and rubs against his stomach. He told me once that I gave him a rash (gee, so nice right? LOL). He also says it "gets in the way" and it kinda bothers him. Does the skin flap hang down enough that it would continue to rub against his stomach or anything like that? I know it won't look great but as long as it stops being a bother I think I could live with it.

Well, I can see this is a really touchy issue with you and I can understand that. Sex is the time you feel most trusting and most vulnerable and to feel 'unsure' can lead to not enjoying sex the way you want to and to give up a position you both like, isn't an answer either.

So, here are a couple thoughts. One, can you modify the position a bit to not have the skin flapping or rubbing? or wear something taht holds it on? Crotchless panties or something?

I am pretty convinced that with over time it will get better, but skin takes time to shrink up. It probably won't go away completely (but you are young, so it might), but I would almost give you a guarantee that it will get much smaller - just like pregnant belly skin takes time to shrink up.

And, if it doesn't, start saving up for a tummy tuck and after you've saved up for it, and let it tighten up naturally for awhile, you can then get rid of it (though really, if you are young and plan to have babies, I might wait until after babies), but only if you can REALLY become OK with it and not self-loath.

So... for now... I would suggest look for alternative ways to position yourself or get something sexy to hold it up and in so that you feel better about it and can start enjoying your sex life again.

(can you tell I'm a teacher for healthy sexuality?)

yhahmd
04-08-2011, 12:43 PM
Yeahhh. I got that. It's pretty annoying. It has gotten smaller, though, which is nice. I think I'll always have a little pooch/roll there. I'm okay with it, as long as it comes up more. I hate to be super descriptive because nobody likes that, but as long as it's above my mons, I'm happy.

runningfromfat
04-08-2011, 12:45 PM
About the sex issue... could you get something like a belly band? Get one that's tight so it's hold it in place. It might look a bit funny but then you wouldn't have the rubbing issue. Good luck!

Linsy
04-08-2011, 01:26 PM
I don't have any kids (I'm 19) and don't plan on having any ever...I'm not a kid person. However I can't say that won't change a few years down the road.

Thanks for the advice everyone. Pinkflower--I'd actually like to see a picture! Your high weight was much lower than mine but I'd like to see what it looks like so I can be prepared for what I'm up against.

Arctic Mama
04-08-2011, 03:01 PM
Yup, after obesity and many babies, it can look a LOT better, but short of surgery gravity is going to have its' way with the deflated, inelastic skin. It's not so bad, though. I'm still technically obese and yet it has gotten markedly improved on me, it will get much better with another forty pounds or so. But I'm not expecting miracles :lol:

amandie
04-08-2011, 03:23 PM
Linsy- I noticed in one of your other posts, you mentioned that you lost the first 71lbs without exercise- that could be why you have a current overhang. If you just add in exercise along with strength training/ab work- it MAY get better and/or less "flappy"!

Hang in there!!!! :hug:

Linsy
04-08-2011, 06:34 PM
Hang in there!!!! :hug:


LOL--this was actually kind of a pun.

Thanks for the advice guys! I'm sure I'll learn to live with the stomach skin.

Stopfat
04-08-2011, 06:37 PM
I used this oil "Mother's Special Blend", mostly almond oil, on my skin during my pregnancy--and it advertised itself as being useful for weight loss programs too.

I now use a mix of olive oil and jojoba oil (jojoba is supposedly closest to your body's natural oils) on my belly, since I am trying to lose weight. I don't know if it will help my skin shrink down, but it makes some sense.

amandie
04-09-2011, 02:47 PM
/facepalm @ "hang in there!" I didn't even think of the "connection" at the time. LOL

healingjourney
04-09-2011, 03:23 PM
One thing I have noticed is that my skin toned up fairly quickly 10 years ago - now well I think things will take more time and effort.
:)

prwins
12-25-2012, 12:47 PM
I only sort of sympathize with all of you. I lost all my baby fat, without even trying, after 2 Caesarians 33 and 30 years ago. I am 67 years old today and I've lost 70+ pounds over the last year and a half. My FAT belly still overhangs my C-section scar. I've been told (by trainers and doctors) that, at my age, pretty much nothing short of a tummy tuck will help. (I also now need my wrinkled face filled in, due to both age and weight loss.) I cannot afford surgery and I know that at my age there could be more complications than usual and I would not heal as quickly as others do. I have actually been wondering if anyone else gets rashes and bad odors under the belly flap. I also wonder whether, if I'm getting rashes (crotch rot), no matter what I do, including drying with a hair dryer and then using Gold Bond powder, I might be able to get the belly flap removal covered by insurance....

BreathingSpace
12-25-2012, 03:04 PM
Have any of you tried hot yoga? I'm just saying that because I have found through my weight loss efforts (this is my 4th one) this 3rd and now 4th time hot yoga has REALLY helped with tightening up my body, so much so that I would say I'm the same weight as I was in 2008 but look smaller and more shapely now because I've been doing hot yoga for so long.

It really helps to "tighten" absolutely everything, and I'm hoping it works for my stomach as it has for the rest of my body.

Just something to maybe look into?

prwins
12-25-2012, 03:15 PM
OMG. Just checked out hot yoga. I can't imagine what that would do to my crotch rot under my belly flap (and under my boobs)!

CIELOARGE
12-26-2012, 02:40 PM
I only sort of sympathize with all of you. I lost all my baby fat, without even trying, after 2 Caesarians 33 and 30 years ago. I am 67 years old today and I've lost 70+ pounds over the last year and a half. My FAT belly still overhangs my C-section scar. I've been told (by trainers and doctors) that, at my age, pretty much nothing short of a tummy tuck will help. (I also now need my wrinkled face filled in, due to both age and weight loss.) I cannot afford surgery and I know that at my age there could be more complications than usual and I would not heal as quickly as others do. I have actually been wondering if anyone else gets rashes and bad odors under the belly flap. I also wonder whether, if I'm getting rashes (crotch rot), no matter what I do, including drying with a hair dryer and then using Gold Bond powder, I might be able to get the belly flap removal covered by insurance....


Have you tried diaper rash cream for babies? Powder is not as good but diaper rash cream should help you. I haven't tried it myself on my belly but I did use it once on my inner thights and it was wonderful!

dstalksalot
12-26-2012, 06:04 PM
The diaper cream will help the yeast infections under the belly. Once it clears up, Gold Bond will help prevent it.

scoutycat
12-26-2012, 09:43 PM
clotrimazole cream works well if it's stubborn.