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willgethealthy
03-28-2011, 08:14 PM
My mind is playing awful tricks on me.
I went shopping last week and got a bunch of cute tops. They looked great in the store and also when I tried them at home after the shopping trip.
Today, I wore one of the tops to go out to meet my friend and looked in the mirror and all I see is a ugly/fat person staring back. I feel awful....

Just yesterday, I was at home in a battered jeans and an old t-shirt and looked/felt very pretty.

Have any of you had anything similar happening?


DixC Chix
03-28-2011, 08:20 PM
You bet! I swing wildly from seeing ugliness in the mirror to seeing progress. Just this morning I got off the scale and thought, "I wonder when I will really start to lose weight."

I can still wear my size 24 capris (stretch waist) even though I wear size 18 jeans. This makes me crazy. It probably also leads to the strange thoughts.

runningfromfat
03-28-2011, 08:21 PM
My mind is playing awful tricks on me.
I went shopping last week and got a bunch of cute tops. They looked great in the store and also when I tried them at home after the shopping trip.
Today, I wore one of the tops to go out to meet my friend and looked in the mirror and all I see is a ugly/fat person staring back. I feel awful....

Just yesterday, I was at home in a battered jeans and an old t-shirt and looked/felt very pretty.

Have any of you had anything similar happening?

Have you ever seen the Seinfeld episode with the skinny mirrors? I feel like that a lot of time so I definitely get what you're talking about. Once I bought this dress that I thought I looked so wonderful in, when I was in the dressing room but then when I brought it home yikes! :(

Just hang in there because the skinny looking days make it all better. ;)


icedragon6669
03-28-2011, 08:29 PM
Definitely happens to me! I have had days I get dressed look in the mirror and think WOW! I look awesome. Then a hour later I see my reflection and just feel fat :( and miserable. Some days I still have full days where I feel like I am still morbidly obese, yet I know I am not and I just cannot shake it.

I even have some days I crave being fat again (I used to have a bmi over 40) I often wish my fat was a suit I could wear at will. No I hated my fat self physically, but my fat self had an easy life as she could sit out and not participate and pretend not to care)

mind games. The fat may be gone, but the mind still plays games with me.

ShanIAm
03-28-2011, 08:32 PM
I detest skinny mirrors. I almost want to lug my full length mirror from home with me to the store. The other thing that aggrevates the heck out of me is vanity sizes. A brand at Wal-Mart does this. I am a size 10 (barely) and a pair of 8's fit me. So then I have this false sense of feeling great until I go into another store and can barely pull the 8's over my thighs! That is what creates my bipolar weight loss moods. Up and down. But to snap out of it, I put on a pair of pants that were tight on me in January and I remember how far I have come!

PrimeTime
03-28-2011, 08:36 PM
Oh yeah girl! I have those every 2 min lol. I made it my New Years resolution was to always look my best by dressing well. Because when you look good, you feel good! I truly believe that. I've always dressed well,but some days I didn't feel like it because I felt fat and ugly! It's a work in progress, but when I get dressed up and I know I look good, you can't tell me anything. WE are so hard an down on ourselves!--which is why I have also resolved to learn to appreciate the good.

Nola Celeste
03-28-2011, 09:45 PM
YES. Oh my, yes!

I don't talk about my "fat" times as much because I so relish the "skinny" ones, but I think everyone's prone to them. They don't usually last me a day, though--more like a few hours. I stave it off with doing other stuff that makes me feel beautiful or strong: giving myself a full mani/pedi, dyeing my hair, or lifting weights.

You are very wise, though, to realize that it IS just a trick your mind's playing and to remember that you had a gorgeous day only yesterday. That means tomorrow you're due to feel magnificent again. :)

hippy27
03-28-2011, 10:22 PM
Oh god yes! Like some of the others said, sometimes the difference of one mirror to another like a dressing room to home, or just the difference in an hour. So many things affect how quickly it changes. Somebody even mentioned their `bipolar body image`(or something like that, I can`t remember the exact wording, sorry) & I know all about that. I AM bi-polar. And it`s rough.

Anybody need somebody to talk to about things like distorted body-image I am here. I may be yound but I`m intelligent 7 self-aware & full of advice. :)

hippy27
03-28-2011, 10:24 PM
my keyboard is going through a rough patch so some things will be off...like the 7 in the last line should have been an AND...lol

Xaria
03-28-2011, 10:29 PM
I'm having one of those days. I felt so great about my weight loss so far, and I was having skinny day after skinny day, but then bam. My son's birthday was yesterday and of course there were pics, and wow...yeah. The person in those pics is not the person in the mirror or the skinny person I am in my head.

I knew I wasn't skinny, but for some reason, those pics really messed my head up. I thought for sure I was skinnier than *that*.

I guess we just have to pick ourselves up and keep going so we can put days like this behind us permanently.

jendiet
03-28-2011, 10:34 PM
um, 34 weeks pregnant, and i feel both all the time, and feel very insecure. i long for onderland again. But i tell myself--you are pregnant, go easy on yourself...but then i remember how good i looked in the 180s...k

NOthing new, i would think i actually looked good until the TOM rolled around....girls have to LOVE hormones.

krampus
03-28-2011, 11:14 PM
Ohhh yes, approaching dysmorphism in terms of extremity. It helps if you have a "rock," a solid stable thing to keep your too-creative mind in check when you're having a fat day. Wearing your most flattering outfits on days when you feel fat can make it better, too. But I know how it is - on the worst days, I can convince myself that I am bigger than before I even daydreamed about losing weight.

nessalyn
03-29-2011, 11:39 AM
I hate those days! And vanity sizing plays a big part in it for me. I bought a pair of French Dressing black slacks in a size 16 at Clothes Mentor the other day, which was a huge deal, I don't know that I've ever been in a 16 since probably Jr. High. Then I went to American Eagle, and bought size 16 jeans...amazing days...
Then I tried a 16 on in a few stores, and couldn't get them past my thighs! Super frustrating, but something as simple as that can put me in an awful mood!

Andrbeck
03-29-2011, 11:43 AM
I have these days at least once a week. And the they are even worse after I go shopping. I feel like I will never be able to fit into anything cute. And that I will look fat and frumpy in EVERYTHING I wear. It drives me nuts!

dancinginpaint
03-29-2011, 11:52 AM
Yes, I have those days, actually I am having one today. Even though when I weighed this morning the number on the scale wasn't a bad one. Its just like I am so very aware of my belly today. I'm sure it doesn't help that since we are moving I went through a bin of clothes that are ones I hope to fit in some day or do but they would look better on 10lbs less. Plus I have keepsake clothes, (things from highschool that friends had signed) and when I see how small they are. Oh Boy. :(

saef
03-29-2011, 12:08 PM
No matter what weight I've been -- and honey, I've been everywhere, from 260 pounds to 107 pounds -- I've still had those days.

But you know, it's not completely about weight for me.

The weight is just symbolic.

If I feel inadequate & am despairing that I can't do all that's being asked of me by others (or more often, by myself), or if I make comparisons, and feel I'm way behind everyone else, or if I feel unworthy in any way, then I will seize first upon my weight & my body as the thing that needs to be worked on & brought up to speed. If I can just control those, make them the best they can be, fluff them up, then everything else will fall into place.

So I'm saying "weight" and thinking "body" but it's really about so much more. It's really a general assessment of myself in which I find myself wanting.

Some of it is due to images I'm exposed to. So I think to myself, "Maybe if I grew up in a forest someplace, completely media-free, never exposed to a model or a celebrity, never looking at any form of advertising, then I'd be completely okay with myself."

But who lives like that?

Still, I wonder if I lived like that, and if I felt inadequate for not chopping enough firewood that day, or spilling a bucket of water that I'd drawn so painstakingly from the well, or failing to hit a squirrel with the first shot, would I say to myself, "I'd be a better shot & stronger woodchopper & stronger bucket carrier -- if only I were thinner & my body were better."

Yeah I bet I still would. ;-)

hpnodat
03-29-2011, 12:15 PM
Yes, I have them too. The thing that makes me have the ugly days is when I don't exercise. When I exercise, I feel powerful and strong and for some reason that makes me feel not fat. But when I don't exercise, I feel like a big ole blob.

I haven't been able to exercise like I want to for the last couple of days because my daughter is on spring break and that cuts into my gym time. It's also been raining non stop, so that cuts into my outdoor time. I despise exercising in my house for some reason, so I decided to really clean house instead of doing typical exercise.

Laneyy
03-29-2011, 01:11 PM
Oh yes. I have this more when I'm between sizes, because my old clothes look saggy and grody, and my smaller sizes make me muffin-top. My tummy pooch looks bigger now in my old pants since they're not as "restrictive" anymore.

I'll have days where I spend hours fixing my hair, pampering myself, picking out juuuust the right outfit, and I'll feel absolutely fat and horrible. Then there are days where I wake up late, my hair is a complete mess and I just throw something together and then take a look in the mirror and am like "damn I look good".

I hate it.

fantasma
03-29-2011, 02:10 PM
Gosh I have weeks when I see nothing but a fat blob looking back at me through the mirror. On the other hand I have days when I am so in love with the changes going on in my body that I just want to walk around in sexy underwear. Sometimes its just hormones shrug. All you can do is keep on exercising and the fat will come off. Just this morning, I was talking to my brother whining about my behind looking bigger (as if!) and he just calmed me down by saying that when your exercising and gaining muscle your hind end will lift and firm up thereby looking "bigger and curvier" when it truly isn't!

LandonsBaby
03-29-2011, 03:36 PM
I have these days at least once a week. And the they are even worse after I go shopping. I feel like I will never be able to fit into anything cute. And that I will look fat and frumpy in EVERYTHING I wear. It drives me nuts!

Shopping nearly brings me to tears. I try to avoid it for the most part.

willgethealthy
03-29-2011, 05:22 PM
Thanks Everyone for sharing your experience! It really did help me get through the day, yesterday.

Today, I feel very pretty :)... It might have something to do with my husband saying "Your pants are getting loose... maybe you are losing weight" :)