Alternachicks - What bothers you and What do you want?




shanara
12-19-2002, 07:22 PM
Hi! So many, many things bother me about being overweight and I dream of the day when I can do certain things and not have to worry about other things..
Know what I mean?

Things that bother me:

1. Summertime, not being able to wear those skimpy halter tops and short shorts so I can keep cool
2. Summertime - bathing suits
3. Aches and Pains, especially my knees and my back
4. Not being comfortable in bed because some body part is always getting smushed the wrong way or some limb has it's circulation cut off ...etc..etc...
5. not being able to run
6. Airplane seats are a bit too tight
7. My car's seat belt chokes me
8. My asthma acts up
9. Dating is out of the question :(
10. My butt is just plain too BIG

Things I can't wait for when I lose!!

1. A little black leather skirt
2. Shopping in regular stores!!
3. Bra's that fit!! ( The boobs are so heavy now that they sneak out under the bottom of the bra's :mad: )
4. Running!
5. Feeling healthy
6. Dating
7. Not being stared at
8. JEANS!


What about you??? :) :)


barefootgrrrl
12-19-2002, 08:10 PM
Shanara -

everything on your list! Yes! Yes! Yes and I am tired of running past mirrors. I want to stand naked in front of a mirror and not be afraid of what I'll see.

Maybe we could think toward a date in the future - when we'll have lost at least some or more of the weight we want to. We'll do on a night out on the town together in our new short skirts! and we'll toast our success and flirt like crazy!

When I lose the weight, I will stand naked in front of the mirror, lift up my breasts with my hands to see how they'll look after a breast lift and say hello to the new me.

Am I a little crazy tonight?

Terri - coming off meds:lol:

ellis
12-19-2002, 10:10 PM
I want to look in a mirror and recognize myself. I still can't believe it when I catch a glimpse of this big fat woman! It's just not me!!

I HAVE started running again, which makes me VERY happy! But I'd like to run without my butt bouncing.

And I'd like to fit into... not a skimpy bathing suit, but one of those sets with a sports bra and shorts. Black. I'd have no rolls on my back (not to mention my butt and stomach!), and I'd look so cool.

I'd like to see my cheekbones again.

I'd like for my feet to stop hurting because I'm so heavy.

Jeans... yes... jeans.


dentrassi
12-19-2002, 11:54 PM
YES!!! Jeans that do not have elastic at the waist!! And bras that i am REALLY in, instead of coming out of at all sides. Being able to breath better. Going on hikes with my family. Getting my pointy chin back instead of having a round head!!!

Sojourner
12-20-2002, 03:29 AM
I want one chin instead of two.

I want to not mind having my photograph taken.

I want to be able to run into people I haven't seen in awhile and not obsess about how fat I must look.

I want to be able to slip into any item of clothing in my closet and not worry that I look really fat in it.

I want to not weigh the same as my husband.

I want to step on the doctor's scale and not have to push that extra 50 pound balancing weight over.

I want to have enough energy that I am not ready for a nap at three in the afternoon.

I want to not worry about wearing a swim suit in front of other people.

I want to wear sleeveless shirts, mini skirts, shirts that show a little flash of a flat stomach, and shorts that are actually short.

I want to be able to walk into the juniors department and be able to buy anything I like.

I want strong, defined muscles to carry me through whatever adventure I choose.

I want to be a healthy weight so if I ever do finally become pregnant, the pregnancy will be easier and I won't be forty pounds heavier than I am now.

I want to not have to worry about my belly or fat legs or cellulite while having sex.

I want to be proud of my body.

ellis
12-20-2002, 08:40 AM
Oh, and one more thing... I'm constantly "apologizing" for my weight to other people.... "I'll not usually this fat... I've put on some weight lately... but I'm in the process of taking it off."
As if it's any of their business! As if they care!!
I want to just be happy in myself.

flower
12-20-2002, 11:28 AM
I want to be able to keep up with my kids while chasing them on the play ground. I want to stop snoring, as much. :) I would like to shop at any store. I want to go to an outside summer concert in a bathingsuit. I was not to be out of breath during outside activities. I don't want to be preoccupied with food, calories and the next meal. I want to wear all kinds of jewelry. I would like to go and do my makeup at a makeup counter and not feel self conscience. I would like jeans to be confortable again. I want to wear bikinis again. I want to be able to wash all my whites in one load instead of several. 2x's take up lots of room! I want to get piggy back rides and get family photos I am proud of. I want to be the best I can be....

ellis
12-20-2002, 11:51 AM
Good point, Flower! Think of all the laundry detergent and water we're wasting by being fat!! :D

tamibeep
12-20-2002, 12:03 PM
I'd like to be able to fit into all the cute clothes in my closet without sausaging out over the tops and out the bottoms. And to be able to buy more cute clothes without getting depressed that it's hard to find clothes that fit my personality in my current size.

And also, to not have to wear those nasty tummy-flattening, butt-shaping, waist-creating undergarments that make you look nicer in clothes, but then you have to run into the bathroom and take them off and hide them under the sink so that your S.O. doesn't catch you in giant flesh-colored granny panties.

I hate that.

Lidian
12-20-2002, 12:45 PM
I want to wear all the cute little bras from when I was a 34B and tuck in my shirts and use a belt without feeling like I am being tortured!

I want to have that oval face I used to have, not this round one. I saw an old photo the other day and I was amazed - I used to have an oval face! Where'd it go? (Oh, wait, I know - don't tell me...)

I want a waist size in the 20's again.

I want to relax when someone whips out a camera or a camcorder (boy I hate that when someone takes one out nowadays!). I want to not cringe when I see myself in a store camera (yuck!).

I want to fit into my wedding dress again - even though it has huge awful puffed sleeves, I just want to do it.

I want to weigh less than DH, and be able to sit on his lap without worrying that I am going to give him a hernia. I would like to be thin enough for him to offer (he hasn't in about 15 years!)

I want a flat stomach - I mean, FLAT! And no rolls sticking out at the sides that show when I put on a non-baggy T shirt.

And a chiselled jawline, so I can wear high turtlenecks or my hair in a ponytail without looking - well, like I look now when I try it in front of the mirror!

Lidian

mauvaisroux
12-20-2002, 04:39 PM
Things that bother me:

ill fitting bathings suits
sleeveless tops
the jiggly flab on my arms
the way my legs look in shorts


What I want:

To feel comfortable wearing jeans & pants
I never wear them-can't find any that fit properly with my small waist/big butt & thighs syndrome :(

To feel confident wearing a bathing suit in public and not hide behind a sarong

To say to the salesgirl "could you get me this in a smaller size ?" :)

To have more energy :hyper:

To wave bye-bye and not have flab flapping under my arm as I do so :lol:

To feel physically fit and have a strong healthy body :strong:

tamibeep
12-20-2002, 04:47 PM
Mauvais... my friends and I call those arm flaps "Hey Bettys" cause after we stop waving, the bottoms of our arms are all still saying hey. :wave:

I too, would very much like to not flap.

mauvaisroux
12-20-2002, 04:58 PM
"Hey Betty" :lol: good one Tamibeep!

Lunula
12-20-2002, 06:46 PM
I hate...[list=1] Not being able to comfortably lean over to tie my shoes.
That I rub the inside of my thighs raw when I walk too much in a skirt/shorts.
That all my clothes are just little bit too tight, so I'm never very comfortable unless I wear HUGE stuff.
That I HATE going clothes shopping because everything I like either doesn't come in my size, or looks awful on me.
That I avoid going to the doctor because I hate being weighed in any "public" setting.
That I avoid seeing old friends/family, or going out, because I'm embarassed by my weight.[/list=1]

I can't wait...[list=1] To buy a pair of boots that come up to my knees!
To wear sleeveless shirts and look good!
Ok... to wear ANYTHING and look good, lol.
To walk into a store and not head for the X-Lg section!
To have fun when I go out boating with my family, to be able to get UP on the skis/wakeboard/kneeboard/etc. and not be constantly trying to cover myself up in a bathing suit!
To wake up feeling good, healthy and strong - and know that I'll continue that way all day!![/list=1]

:halffull:

shanara
12-20-2002, 09:36 PM
Ohhhh those are good ones! I definitely would love to be able to get piggy back rides, or sit on someone's lap...... I want to feel "womanly" with womanly curves...a small waist..... Thin fingers, slim, sculptured calves and thighs...

I'd love to be able to wear nice jewelry and have it look nice on me.. Or just be able to wrap a towel around me when I get out of the shower... (don't have one big enough)

Lunula, I can definitey relate to the friends and family thing too.. I lost soo much weight about three years ago and they were so happy for me, but now I'm back in the 200's and when they see me.. I know what they're thinking..Such disappointment in me.. It's hard.

I know this shouldn't bother me, but I hate it when people ask loudly and bluntly "My Goodness! Are you losing weight!!??"

I know people mean well and it's meant to be a compliment, but I feel like my weight issues are a personal matter and I don't want to talk to everyone about it (Mostly at work.. I hate when someone draws attention to me at work by blurting out "Look at her, doesn't she look good!? She's losing weight")

It's like, you don't want peope to notice you're fat in the first place and they don't say anything to you about how big you are until you start losing weight, then they figure it's ok to talk about how fat you are or were.

And if you lose weight then gain it back, they stop talking about how you look again and just start staring ... again.

I remember when I lost all of that weight, my co-workers included me in everything..Every happy hour, every party, they even used to come to my house to play spades. Then when I started to gain it back, I was slowly being kicked out of the clique.. I'd come to work on Monday and they would be talking about how they had so much fun the previous Friday when they went to the city for a comedy show, or met at so-and-so's house to play cards....Of course, I wasn't invited..

anyway....I digress

sorry :)

dentrassi
12-20-2002, 09:50 PM
Don't apologize!! I think we have ALL experienced that type of treatment at some point or another, and it is good for us to deal with those feelings. I remember being REALLY mad at men when I was younger....."SURE, NOW I'm attractive, but I'm the same person i have ALWAYS been." I think that is why we HAVE to do this for ourselves. No matter how big or small we are there is ALWAYS going to be someone criticizing us for SOMETHING. We all have to get to a point where it just doesn't matter so much. I know that no matter how much weight I lose my in laws will still consider me heavy, and I just don't care anymore. I'm sick of yo yoing, and I KNOW that I will not starve myself for the rest of my life, so I need to do what is right for ME. To find a point I can be healthy but not fanatical at, and LIVE there!!!

Lidian
12-20-2002, 10:03 PM
Hey Shanara, I hate that too, when someone says (meaning to be nice) oh you've lost a lot of weight! I am sort of glad to hear it BUT I always also hear the implication that I must have looked so much bigger before, etc. And actually I didn't really notice how big I was, I have a problem truly seeing myself accurately (even in a full length mirror) so...I just don't like people saying it in that loud voice they use. Then again most people say nothing - even people I have known casually for years - and I wonder, don't I look any different?

Basically, I am uncomfortable no matter what - that's just me!:lol:

Lunula, I've been there with the family thing too. I went on my first diet when I was 12 (to go from, get this, 121 lbs to 110! oh my goodness!) and for years was held up as the diet queen (even though my weight crept back up into the 130s/40s) - and oh my when I put on a bunch of weight after child # 2, the Looks I got - the hints - the hysterics! Ugh....

Lidian

sabrina
12-21-2002, 12:40 AM
I want to be able to fit into single digit sizes on a CONSISTENT basis, not just when I'm having a "good body day".

S. :)

choci
12-29-2002, 11:33 AM
Ladies -- those are all wonderful wishes that I share. I can honestly say that everything that's been mentioned I was nodding my head at.

Shanara -- it just about broke my heart when I read the bit about your co-workers. People are such &%#@!! sometimes! Maybe you can see it as a blessing in disguise: it tells you who really are your friends, right? Sooner or later, that sort of behavior will come back and bite them in the arse. Jerks.

******

As for my list of things that I am looking forward to in particular:
* Being able to wear Levi's corduroys again (I used to get these in thrift shops all the time -- they were so comfy and super-cool looking! I miss them!)
* Having my BF be able to pick me up! Or sit in his lap. :)
* Not having fat fingers -- this really bothers me.
* No double chin!
* No back rolls, or any other kind
* Not explaining myself to people I haven't seen since I've gained so much weight. Someone else mentioned something similar to this. I just have this uncontrolllable urge to tell people, "Yes, I've gained lots of weight since you saw me last." Or even telling them over the phone to "prepare" them! God!
* ABSOLUTELY to shop in any store I want to.

Of course this list could go on ad infinitum, but everyone's got the topic covered pretty darned well.

We can get what we want!

barefootgrrrl
12-30-2002, 09:28 AM
Just once in my life, I would like to take a belly dancing class :lol:

mauvaisroux
12-31-2002, 12:27 AM
I want a pair of knee high soft leather fitted boots- the darned things never zip up over my calves :mad:

ellis
12-31-2002, 09:10 AM
Right now, I just want to be able to pull my size 36 jeans over my fat thighs. :mad:
What I'd REALLY like is to be able to give away all of my fat clothes to some poor sod who's trying to lose weight.