Weight Loss Support - What I won't miss about being fat!!

These are things that I wont miss about being fat..things I look forward to and keep me motivated!!

*I came up with the list a long time ago on my previous name, but I added to it and improved it!*

Please feel free to post your own things you WONT miss, or NO LONGER miss because you made it to goal (or almost there ;-))

-I am tired of being tired.

-I want to fit into cute clothes and be able to ride all the rides at amusement parks and the county fair.

-I want to sit in an airplane seat without the "armrest"(for me its a hip torture device) and seatbelt digging into me.
-I want to stop getting negative looks when im out with my (very attractive) boyfriend.

-I want to be attractive for him, and although he already says I am, I want to feel it myself.

I dont want my hipbones to stick out, I dont want to see every rib. I want to be healthy. I DO want to look better, but I really want to feel better. I have so many insecurities because of my weight. Someone can be telling a joke in the mall with a group of people and I automatically assume theyre laughing at me. I feel like total strangers talk badly about me.
I feel like my boyfriends thoughts are "fat", "gross", "ugly"..

i want him to want to show me off to his friends, and be proud in public.

I want to feel confident

-I want to go into victorias secret and be able to buy something OTHER than lotion or body spray

-I want to go into a cute clothing store with friends, and actually be able to buy the clothes, and not just go over to the sunglasses and accessories.

I want to eat only when I am hungry, and use food as fuel

I want to be able to walk a few blocks and not get short of breath

I want to be able to wear jeans below my belly button

I want people to stop saying "you have such a pretty face"

I want to NOT have to wear bike shorts under skirts because my thighs rub together...gross, i know, but its a plague i face lol

i want to STOP paying 35$ for a tshirt, just because of the "fat-tax"..sorry but that extra fabric doesnt cost that much to make, i know it

i want to be able to shop at more than 2 stores for clothes..those are the only ones that carry my size

i want to not dread walking by a group of people, in fear of what i think they are thinking about me

I want to sit on a couch without holding a pillow on my lap, i want to cross my legs, and stop putting my purse/jacket over my lap in public

i want to stop that sudden fear before sitting in a restaurant booth that i just might not fit..i actually gauge which side is bigger and hurry to sit there

i want to stop being looked at when i eat in public..people just gawk at me..but when i eat a salad people laugh..what gives??

i want to be in single digit ring sizes/wear normal sized bracelets and rings

um, i want to be able to shave my thighs!..and my legs in a reasonable amount of time..

i want to be able to walk on surfaces without fearing they might break or something..

i want to be able to just hop into someones car without fearing the seatbelt wont fit, or ill break the seat or something

i want to sit in chairs with armrests

i want to be able to comfortably paint my toes, without literally having to catch my breath every few seconds

i want to be able to wear summer clothes, because its going to be freakin hot outside, and i have to wear jeans and tshirts

I am such a girly girl at heart, I have a great fashion sense and I love fashion magazines..I should be able to wear the things I see in there..not just the "full figure" suggestions on one page out of 300

I really want to be healthy. I want my joints and back to stop hurting. I want my knees to not feel like Im an 80 year old. They creak, crack, pop and HURT!

i want to not have chest pains at 21 years old

i want to break free of this fatsuit forever!!

I know people are probably saying "suck it up, you did this to yourself"..i know, trust me. BUT im trying so hard to take control of this..but these are things that I face daily, and Im sure others do as well..
I just needed to get these things off my chest, and I want to say bye bye to NOT fitting into life..forever!:carrot::carrot::carrot:

i like your list! i think i've thought at least 90% of those on one occasion or another.

but my addition would be, i'd like to go hiking with my fiance. he loves it and i love the out doors, but i went on a 2 mile hike with him last year and i about died because i had such a hard time breathing.

- worrying about taking up more than one seat on the bus
- worrying that clothes wouldn't run in my size in certain stores
- thinking fat = ugly(it doesn't, but thats only something that changed when I lost weight..realizing I wasn't AT ALL)
- being embarrassed to go to fast food restaurants or eat any sort of junk food in front of people (I don't do this anymore anyways, but if I treat myself to an ice cream when I'm out I'm no longer thinking "oh god people must think I'm gross")
- tugging shirts down over my tummy and pulling pants over my lovehandles uncomfortably because I was in denial about my size and buying clothes too small or refusing to retire clothes that had gotten too small
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Great post...you put my thoughts on paper!

Same. I always pass a fast food place on my way to uni and they do a really good coffee, but I feel embarassed walking into it in case anyone sees me. Because (even though they probably aren't) I get it into my head that they are thinking I'm going in to stuff myself with junk food. I want that feeling to go away

i want to feel confident enough to go on dates! right now i have zero confidence and cant believe any man would be genuinely attracted to me.

What I won't miss:
*The fear of eating in public
*The fear that everyone is talking about me or making fun of me
*Getting winded taking my laundry out to the car
*Not being able to shop in "normal" clothing stores
*Not being able to reach *ahem* certain places with a razor
*My PCOS symptoms

I'm sure I can add to this list, but these are the things that bother me the most right now.

I won't miss having to find something that I can bear wearing in a plus sized store.

I won't miss having underwear that look like parachutes.

I won't miss looking around the room and finding I'm the biggest person (not just biggest woman)

I have lost some weight so a few of these things are more like, “I don’t miss….” but this is what I would have written back in January.

I won’t miss making up excuses as to why I don’t want to meet up with a friend who hasn’t seen me in a while……or simply because I don’t want to go out.

I won’t miss having anxiety about running into an old boyfriend who remembered me at my smallest. Right now, I am smaller than that!

I won’t miss yanking my shirt out from between my fat rolls. (I still do this tho as it’s become a habit)

I won’t miss looking for external validation from stupid boys who don’t deserve MY attention.

I won’t miss being afraid of some stranger calling me fat out of nowhere.

I won’t miss my breathing being cut off when I have to tie my shoes.

I won’t miss Lane Bryant.

I want the 30 pounds I haul up a mountain to be in my backpack, not around my waist.

I won't miss

* being afraid of the camera

* being afraid to take chances and try new things

* not fitting into my clothes and having nothing to wear

* having my period disappear for a year making me worried sick

* being embarrassed to go out and be seen in public

* the self-hatred and self-pity that would consume me

* feeling helpless and addicted to junk food

* being asked how far along I was

* staring enviously at my thinner friends who could pull off the latest trends

* being out of breath on the treadmill after 1-2 minutes of jogging

* having a FB profile picture that's 3 years old to avoid reality

* being an MIA girlfriend at events and my boyfriend having to go to things alone because I was too embarrassed to leave the apartment

I'm sure the list goes on and on but these are the few that come to mind

Oh, somethingbeautiful, those are mostly my thoughts! I want to be able to be normal. I don't want to be ruled by food. I want to be able to smile at people just because I love to smile without people not looking up to meet my gaze because I'm invisible! I want to hold my head up high and know that I deserve to be treated well by everyone, not put up with sub par treatment because I think on some level that I deserve nothing better. I want to go dance at the club with hubby and not be the biggest gal' there!

I won't miss
*having to go to the plus size section if i want to find something that fits me
*feeling nervous about sitting in wobbly or plastic chairs
*hearing people tell me you'd be so pretty if you just lost weight
*feeling like i'm squished on in on and airplane or the bus
*catching people making comments about my weight
*my sleep apnea (already gone. woot!)
*feeling winded after going up two flights of stairs
*feeling outraged at how fat i look in pictures

These are great.
Things I won't miss~
my panties rolling down under my belly
getting winded going up ONE flight of stairs
my double chin
feeling ugly
being unhealthy

Things I look forward to~
shopping for cute clothes and enjoying it!!
being able to find shoes that fit
Being able to tie my shoes without squishing my tummy
laying on the couch together with my hubby w/out hanging off the edge.
feeling better, being healthy

Things I wont miss about being fat.... or the things I look forward to when I am not fat I guess

The big one.... * Being able to play with my kids for longer then 5/10 mins at a time with out being winded and exhausted.

* To not have back and knee pain. My doctor thinks my back will be better once I loose weight. I have spent 10 years in so much pain I just want it gone!!!

* To feel good about my self
* To go shopping with my friends and actually enjoy it.
* To feel comfortable getting undressed in front of my husband (this is not his fault at all!) I really want him to be able to pick me up with out looking like its gonna kill him!
* To live longer so I can see my babies and my grand babies grow and maybe even see my great grand babies!!!

Im sure there are more little reasons but these are the main ones health and looking/feeling good!

This is what keeps me going! Good luck laides!

niafabo .... Through school I had a guy tell me "you would be pretty if you got your nose fixed" I was a slender person through school. Then when I got fat I hear people tell me "youd be pretty if you lost some weight"
How freaking mean can people get do they not understand how much that hurts? One guy a couple years ago told my friend " dude if she just jumped on a treadmill from time to time she would totally be doable" I told him I am married and wouldnt want to do him anyways. He said "poor guy" I really thought I was going to start bawling right there. I mean he was maybe 20 and I was 25 with two kids already randomly doing people is just not an option at this point anyways lol. The thing is I never thought I was ugly (in the face) but jeeze that sure makes you feel like you dont even have that going for you.

Oh yeah and I wont miss having to buy jeans that are meant for older women just because apparently there is no one over a size 12 under 50!

Things i WONT miss:

-Being the fattest person in all my gym classes
- Having smaller women stare at me and watch me as i work out, probably making jokes
-Following my skinny friends around the store as the look for cute clothes to wear
-My thighs clapping together everytime i jump!
-Always having to replace pants because they get holes in the inner thigh area because my thighs rub together when I walk
-Taking only face shots when i take pictures
- Feeling like everytime i hear people laugh, they are laughing at me
-Being the only fat one in my group of friends
-Being afraid to meet new people
- Having people tell my very petite mother that "Gosh your daughter is big! She's bigger than u!"
-Always having to sit in the front seat of cars because im too fat to fit the back seat, especially those 2 door cars!!!!!!!


Whew! That was therapeutic!

Being mistaken for my mother...

Being asked if I was my younger sister's mother (2 years younger than me, BTW)

I feel like the weight "aged me" more than most. I look so much younger, and I feel younger!

Oh these are all SO true, and I've thought of ALL of them at one time or another! It's nice to know I'm not the only one..these stupid things plague all of us, and we can ALL say goodbye to them! Keep 'em coming ladies!

I ALSO agree with the post about rubbing holes in the thighs of ALL my jeans..ugh its so annoying lol. I Seriously wear jeans out in like 4 months, jeans that would otherwise be just fine!!

niafabo .... Through school I had a guy tell me "you would be pretty if you got your nose fixed" I was a slender person through school. Then when I got fat I hear people tell me "youd be pretty if you lost some weight"
How freaking mean can people get do they not understand how much that hurts? One guy a couple years ago told my friend " dude if she just jumped on a treadmill from time to time she would totally be doable" I told him I am married and wouldnt want to do him anyways. He said "poor guy" I really thought I was going to start bawling right there. I mean he was maybe 20 and I was 25 with two kids already randomly doing people is just not an option at this point anyways lol. The thing is I never thought I was ugly (in the face) but jeeze that sure makes you feel like you dont even have that going for you.

OMG i've gotten the nose comment before too because when I lived in West Phoenix I was like the only person with a pointy noise in a 20 miles radius or something. Now that I'm on the east coast I don't really get that comment anymore.

People are just jerks. I don't know where they get off telling people if they changed one thing they would be beautiful. Do they think they are giving you a compliment? Do they think they are being helpful? I just don't understand it.

I'm in love with this post! I'm sure I will repeat what others have said! Oh well!!

I won't avoid my best friends because they're all skinny and I'm not.
I will be able to fit into my high school jeans.
I will be able to go do out door activities with my fiance and our son without having to take a break every 5 minutes because I can't breathe.
I will be able to walk up 1 flight of stairs and not feel like dying.
I will be able to look in a mirror and smile and not cry.
I want to be skinny and sexy for my fiance again. (he tells me all the time I'm fine, but it's def a more personal reason)
I won't be the "biggest" girl in my family.

ugh. I have more. But you get the gist.

Oh yeah and I wont miss having to buy jeans that are meant for older women just because apparently there is no one over a size 12 under 50!

OMG I LOVE THIS!!! I FEEL THE SAME WAY.:hug::carrot:

i seriously love every single one of these posts and can relate to them all. definitely reading over this thread when i start feeling like i can't do this.

Konfyoozed- THAT was what I wanted to hear!! :-)

haha. i do my best ;)

also, i just thought of another good one, for me.

i will not miss having to order bras in specialty sizes! i can always find the cup size, but never the right band size, they don't make them big enough.

Things I won't miss.... I won't miss the looks certain people give. I won't miss the four year olds in my class (I'm a Pre-K teacher at a Daycare) telling me that I'm "fatter" than thier mommy. I definitely won't miss shopping in plus-sized clothing stores!
Things I'm looking forward to....having a baby (hopefully in about 2 or so years), being more comfortable in general, cute summer clothes/dresses!

And there's a ton of others, but those are the ones on the top of my mind right now! :)

There's been some great ones already! These are some of my favorites.

I won't miss...

(ones that have already happened! :carrot:)
-having my stomach being the same size as my chest (trust me that's not an easy feat either!)
-shopping at Lane Bryant
-getting really, really exhausted when DD wants to be carried for long periods of time! (today I had to carry her for awhile and was shocked how easy it was!)
-seeing a 2 as the first digit on the scale
-not being able to fit into my pre-pregnancy clothes 2 years after giving birth...
-being fat and pregnant so nobody knows I'm actually pregnant
-worrying if DH and I are going to break a couch/bed just by sitting/sleeping on it
-craving, needing, feel like i might go crazy if I don't have SWEETS RIGHT NOW
-thinking about food constantly (shoot, sometimes I forget to eat now! THAT never would've happened before!)
-cooking with all that sugar, I used to put sugar in spaghetti! :dizzy:

(ones that I'm still looking forward to missing ;))
-my thighs rubbing together (seriously, that is just evil!)
-being the fattest woman and actually the only female at the gym really working out
-not having very many pictures with my daughter because I'm too embarrassed
-being scared of seeing old friends who never knew me when I was fat
-the belly apron, the love handles, the bat wing arms, or the thunder thighs!

this is a great thread! i relate to alot of them! i won't miss:

not going out in public

not having jeans to wear

avoiding getting my pic taken

looking in the mirror and thinking could be pretty.. too bad the fat ruins it

I totally agree with not avoiding my friends because they're all skinny. I'm slowly getting over this. I love them and I was such a butthead for avoiding them due to jealousy. Luckily they are embracing the new me.

My list looks pretty much identical as yours with the addition of stuff concerning my daughter.

I don't want to be the fattest mom at the park, sweating her butt of just SITTING.

I want to be able to run around and play with her without losing my breath within seconds.

I want to be able to go swimming with her and no wear a cover INTO the pool because I'm embarrassed about how fat I am.

I want to be able to take her to water parks and amusement parks. I doubt I'd be allowed on any rides this fat.

I want to be able to wear SUMMER clothes without shame.

There are a ton more, but my brain is sluggish right now.

+ I wanna fit in a regular chair without having to suck it in, or having the chair CUT into my freaking legs!
+ I wont miss constantly pulling my shirt out of my fat rolls when I walk! lol

-Red stretch marks on my hips
-Going to the junior section (I'm 23) & realizing I can't fit into ANY of the stylish jeans
-Going to the junior section & realizing all the size 12/13's are gone & they only have 1,3, 5, 7.
-Huffing & puffing five minutes after I've climbed a flight of steps
-My semi muffin top that I was starting to develop
-Having to answer the obvious question that 'yes I have put on weight' smh
-Feeling hopeless that the weight would never come off

I won't miss dreading getting dressed for work because none of my clothes fit!! i CANNOT wait until my clothes fit me again!!!!

bumping this thread because i got a new one.

i will not miss dreading 'candid' photos being taken!

i had one taken at my bridal shower the other day and was so glad i was seated in a high armed chair, with a large bag on my lap so my belly roll wasn't so painfully obvious!

I won't miss making fun of myself before someone else does.

I won't miss looking in the mirror

I wouldn't miss hating the way I look in pictures.

I wouldn't miss being afraid to meet up with someone I haven't seen in a while for fear of what they'll think of me.

I wouldn't miss not really enjoying seeing my reflection.

So true... Here are mine:

I won't miss

* My thighs rubbing together
* Not being able to buy boots because my calves are too big
* Thinking the cashier is judging my purchases, esp. food and clothes
* Being embarrassed by how huge my rack is
* Trying to find a way to sit that minimizes the jelly-roll
* Not going swimming because I hate how I look in a bathing suit
* Feeling awkward around my skinny friends
* Constantly evaluating the bodies of other women
* Cringing every time I see a picture of myself
* My mother telling me I need to lose weight
* Not being able to buy lingerie
* Not being able to wear summer dresses

I wont miss:
- Feeling unhappy, I just want to be comfortable with who I am and how I look.
- Feeling like I want to cry when I go clothes shopping because nothing suits me.
- Not having to pull my jeans up OVER my stomach to keep the flab tucked in.
- Being able to get ready for a night out and not feel utterly hopeless that I'll never look good in anything compared to my friends.
- Not make fun of my massive boobs/weight in front of people as some excuse to try and be funny. It's self degrading and not that funny.
- Not look at pictures of thin people and think "One day..." because one day it WILL be that day.
- Not deep down not believing my boyfriend when he says I'm beautiful.
- Not have moments during sex where I feel my stomach is rolling up/around everywhere!!

What I'm looking forward to!!
- Being happy
- Being able to shop and know I'll fit into clothes.
- Being able to finally look good in a dress.
- Being able to feel confident when around my friends, and feel like "yeah - I look great"
- Not having to suck in my stomach and have my jeans/trousers just sit on my hips where they're SUPPOSED TO BE!!
- Be able to dance when in clubs with my friends and go crazy without feeling like something may "pop out"!
- Feel completely and utterly beautiful and start believing my boyfriend when he tells me I look good.
- Feel sexy!
- Generally the way I'll be happier, content, not bothered by the way I look and so full of energy!

I won't miss

- my family/relatives constant reminder that I need to lose weight
- people who tell me that I'd be beautiful if I weren't fat
- going to the mall with friends and just practically follow them around while they try cute clothes
- feeling paranoid and thinking that people stare at me while thinking how fat I am
- just settling for whatever clothes/shoes that fits
- making up excuses to not meet someone because I'm bigger than the last time we saw each other
- trying to hide everything during sex

I want to walk into my closet with a sense of excitement, rather than a sense of dread. I also want so many of the things others have posted here.

-People judging me by the size of my clothing.
-Not having to pay $40 for a shirt, cause I need a plus size
- Being able to walk into a regular size store, and not have the employees ignore me.

...man I love clothes LMAO! I rub my hands thinking of the new stuff I can wear...haha!

What I won't miss:
Not loving myself
Feeling awkward during sex because certain positions have me wondering how much fat he can see
Fat clothes
My huge hanging gut
Being tired
Not being able to buy anything at cute stores
Not treating myself the way i should because I don't feel I deserve nice things since I'm fat
Hiding myself away from everyone I once knew because I don't want them to see me this way
Not going to the beach/pool because I don't want to wear a swimsuit.
Never taking pictures


Looking forward to:
Having my husband be physically attracted to me again because I will feel confident. My confidence was once one of my greatest assets and was definitely something he loved about me. It is completely gone now.
cute clothes
feeling good about myself
being happy
feeling sexy
being an active mother for my children
taking pictures with my children and my husband

I can totally relate to "worrying about taking up more than one seat on the bus". this was actually mi trigger point in losing weight. i was ashamed of myself because a lady was not able to sit in the bus because of me. i hated the feeling and i got offended with people's look then.

Love this thread. Definitely some (no cal) food for thought. Things I won't miss:

-worrying about taking up too much space on the bus/train/plane/in the theatre.
-not being able to wear the clothes I want (vintage dresses especially)
-feeling judged in the professional world or having to work harder to prove I'm a "go-getter" because of my weight
-not getting a second glance from men I'm interested in

Looking forward to:
-see above! :)
-walking into a room and feeling like a million dollars

I love love LOVE this thread and have read it several times. These lists motivated me to stay on plan one day when I was thisclose to giving up.

I will not miss...

- this fat pad on the back of my neck that prevents me from wearing pony tails or necklaces with confidence...it's smaller but not gone YET

- putting a pillow or jacket in my lap to hide my lower belly/pubic fat rolls

- wearing a scarf around my neck because my neck, clavicle and sternum are pudgy - I want to see my pretty shoulder and neck bones again!

- girdles and spanx...so tired of trying to smash myself into a less lumpy shape! And I hide them from my husband, often changing in the bathroom so that he doesn't see me wearing them! So embarrassing...I haven't worn one in a month and hopefully I can burn them soon.

- A heart rate above 80 while at rest...my husband is a cardiovascular surgeon and he would listen to my heart rate at night or take my pulse while we watched a movie (a sweet gesture from our earliest days together) and lecture me gently about getting motivated to exercise...now he listens to my heart rate and is impressed!

- Avoiding parties, plays, and events that would require wearing anything other than yoga pants. Last night I slipped on a pair of jeans for our date night at an modern/new restaurant. A few months ago I would have suggested a different restaurant with a more relaxed dress code. It was a relief to look "normal" but I'm excited to look even better!

- Being the designated picture taker because I avoided being on the wrong side of the camera...I even signed up for a photography class so that I would have a permanent excuse to not have my photo taken...I want photos of me in my life again.

- size 12 shoes...I can deal with size 11...but size 12 is unacceptable. Fat feet make me miserable because shopping for shoes is supposed to be the one thing fat people can do at the mall! I'm back to size 11 and my cankles are gone and hope that I'll shrink a bit more before I'm at goal.

- Catching myself in a mirror or shop window and having the reflection throw me into a tail spin of shame and anxiety that would render me useless for an hour or two. Now if I see something I don't like in the reflection, I recognize it as temporary and try to record it so that I can appreciate the change once the offending bulge is gone.

- Avoiding getting a haircut (too many salon mirrors), getting an airbrush tan, going to the dermatologist for a skin cancer body check, going to the gynocologist, getting a massage, going to Loweman's (communal dressing rooms - yikes!), getting laser hair removal on my thighs, or going to the beach...I'm tired of being too ashamed to have others see or touch my body.

- Clothes shopping. Not everything needs to look good on me, but I at least want the opportunity to try stuff on!

And the most personal thing I won't miss...

- feeling like I don't fit in with other women. For a long time, I've avoided women because I feel so much bigger than they are. I don't like being in groups of women or even standing next to a small/short woman because I feel like a giant - and people will comment on the size difference which makes me want to cry. And I'm intimidated by other women's compact smallness. I feel gross, clunky and unclean. Thin women seem so dry and comfortable in their clothes...they move effortlessly. I feel sweaty, sticky, slow and restricted in comparison. I look forward to feeling confident enough to stand along side women, spend time and laugh with them, and make good friends again.