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03-08-2011, 01:36 PM
I LOVE my daughter with everything I have but man.. here she sits with her little tasty cake and it is taking all I have to not take just one bite!!! AAAAHHHHH!! I can do it I can do it!! I have to go make her a grilled cheese and I will not eat the crust.. usually I will always eat her crust cause she doesn't... but today I won't!!

Sorry just need to get it out .. I need control!

03-08-2011, 01:53 PM
This is one of the hardest habits for me to break still. Having 6 kids there is always some half eaten food or left over french fries that I have felt obligated to stuff in my mouth because that whole wasting food/ starving children guilt that is way back in my brain somewhere.
But me being obese doesn't help those starving children and I am better than eating someone else's food.

On the bright side obviously my children have a better handle on their eating then I did at their age that they will only eat half a cookie. Nowadays there is always something laying around and I am tempted I will ask the children to please of place that in the trash. I know myself to well if I clean it up I will take a bite. Even my 2 year old knows how to do this.

03-08-2011, 01:56 PM
Nikki, that's a great way to look at it. Yes, you're better than eating someone else's food!

I know when I first started I didn't make or serve those foods I couldn't have. My children didn't need mac and cheese or chicken nuggets or little snack cakes. :no: So they didn't get them. Yeah, it was selfish of me, but their diets are better for it now.

Now I'm able to have those "kid food" nights once a month or so and even Mommy gets to indulge. Usually though, I no longer want to. And the last "kid night", my ten year old opted for grilled chicken and veggies. :D

03-08-2011, 01:58 PM
If you make "healthier" versions of her favorite foods, you'll be able to indulge (if wanted) and know that she's eating well! That's what I do with my three year old.

Oh, and we sometimes don't eat at the same time, so in order not to munch on her foods, I chew gum while I'm preparing/cooking/and until they're in the garbage.

03-09-2011, 02:43 AM
I agree my kids eat better because I buy and prepare better foods. The days of Little Debbie are long gone here. My 2 little guys don't really care for snack cakes but will go to blows over the last banana.

I often do treats outside the house so it's not lingering around calling me . No half of carton of ice cream left if I allow them on a special occasion to order 1 dessert with 6 spoons.

My kids have adjusted without complaint and I am happy about that.

03-09-2011, 10:38 AM
but today I won't!!

that's a great mantra to live by!!! I used to do X Y & Z, but TODAY I WON'T! yay for you!!!

03-09-2011, 10:45 AM
I agree with the previous posters! I've also found that my kiddo has adjusted without complaint. He was never a sugar hound, but now he'd much prefer grapes over almost anything else. I think that kids will adjust to whatever we feed them. They're resilient like that. :)

jessy 49
03-09-2011, 11:00 AM
Sometimes I wonder where my kids came from. Altho they are all adults, they have some food habits that they certainly didn't get from their overweight mom. The youngest will stop eating half way through a meal -- "not hungry anymore". Another son will occasionally not eat for most of the day -- "not very hungry today". Third son has many food issues including the "food must not touch" thing -- so he will stop eating bec the food on his plate gets mixed up. DD loves candy, but is very picky about what kind -- won't touch it if it isn't EXACTLY the kind she likes.

:-) If only I had some of their seemingly inate coping mechanisms.

03-09-2011, 12:17 PM
My toddler eats grilled salmon, edamame, greek yogurt, kashi cereal, fresh fruit, etc. The only thing she really doesn't like is spinach, leaf-lettuce, and carrots, but all the other veggies she'll eat. And she drinks V-8. I feel that she does need some "normal kiddo" snacks at time, and I do have whole-grain goldfish and I get the natural animal cookies from Barbara's Bakery. I'm not a big fan of either of these, so I don't have to worry about me binging on them. I have two Boston Terriers, one that follows her around all day, waiting for her to drop food so he can eat it. I usually give the pups her leftover crust of PB and J, or grilled cheese. I figure spoil my dogs rather than me eat the leftover!!!

03-09-2011, 01:06 PM
Luckily I've never had this problem.

My son eats pretty well but sometimes gets an indulgence. But even if I could eat it (say natural pb on whole wheat bread) he's mangled it so much it's indistinguishable, and mushy, and it's been licked, and fingered.. and just ... ew.

03-09-2011, 01:34 PM
My oldest boys are teens so they eat soooo much right now. Ive changed how I cook in that there are more veggies and less rice and pasta. They are slowly adjusting to seeing so many fruits and veggies and actually learning to like things they thought they hated. I don't have the willpower to make them junk and eat healthy myself. If I make something somewhat unhealthy I eat a small portion and load up on veggies.

I have a 9 year old son who was born a health food junkie. He has always prefered healthy opposed to junk. (oh to be born with THAT problem!! LOL) The only thing he has complained about is edamame.

I make the kids clean the table off after dinner so I am not tempted by "scraps" (that sounds so pathetic but we all know we nibble on their leftovers!) Normally I tell them if they clean it off quickly and without fighting they will get dessert. Dessert may be fruit, sf jello or a fudge bar but to them it doesn't matter--a treat is a treat!

03-09-2011, 01:47 PM
Luckily I've never had this problem.

My son eats pretty well but sometimes gets an indulgence. But even if I could eat it (say natural pb on whole wheat bread) he's mangled it so much it's indistinguishable, and mushy, and it's been licked, and fingered.. and just ... ew.

lol that's like my son's leftovers too. And my daughter's. My kids eat well too, they're still too little to know there's much choice out there...haha...and I've never been one to have junk around - if I wanted junk in the past it'd generally be something I buy and scarf down while I'm out, or a box of cookies hidden in my dresser. God, I did that a lot.

03-09-2011, 01:52 PM
Last night my 10 year old went to Mardi Gras at church with his Grandma. He came home with his "Prizes" which were ALL food!! 3 cupcakes, 3 Giant cookies and 2 brownies. I let him and Dad have a treat last night, he took a cupcake in his lunch and the rest went in the GARBAGE!

03-09-2011, 05:08 PM
Good job Sandi!

03-09-2011, 06:00 PM
Yeah, I agree that DD's food is nasty after she fingers it. Most kids are dirty little midges and I would not want to eat the leftovers from one. Especially when she gets a cookie, drops it on the floor, lets the dog lick it, then sticks it in her mouth:o

03-09-2011, 07:30 PM
Just chiming in to say that you may not really have to feed your kids snack cakes at all, but it all depends on how you approach. In my experience, there is a fine line between forbidding foods and causing problems for them in the long run and just training them to prefer healthy foods.

I've got 4-- my oldest is 20 and my youngest is 5 and so I've had a chance to see how some of my parenting techniques have worked out.

Interestingly, now that my kids are older, I've discovered that foods that I limited on the grounds that they were bad for them all turned into foods that they craved. For example: I NEVER let my kids have fruit roll ups or fruit snacks because I read an article once that said that they promoted cavities by sticking to the teeth so they should never eat them at school. I'm not really sure if this food is particularly bad, but I decided NO FRUIT ROLL UPS. Sure enough, every one of my kids will eat Fruit Roll Ups or Fruit snacks any chance they get-- even the 20 year old. They confess to craving it like a forbidden fruit. (none of them have a single cavity, as it happens... coincidence? Maybe...)

But food that I never bought on the grounds that it was disgusting, the stuff I myself didn't like-- they don't like them either, never acquired a taste for them. Included on this list are snack cakes, pop tarts, sugary cereals, and a lot of other junk food. They just plain don't like them. I never once brought snack cakes into the house because I myself don't like them, but I also never mentioned that they weren't allowed to have them. Now, they think snack cakes are gross and won't eat them.

Weird, huh? I don't know if there is a lesson here, except that I've realized that there is a fine line between teaching eating healthy habits and creating cravings for forbidden food.

In any case, you might be able to have a snack cake free household, and it might be worth considering for your own sanity. I never let OREOS into the house because life is just too short for me to fight THAT craving.

03-09-2011, 07:34 PM
Uber has a good point. I don't forbid foods and my tot gets junk sometimes, especially if it's at someone else's house or grandma brings it, etc. We just don't stock it at home so it's become a non-issue. (Except for suckers, my kid LOVES suckers of any kind. He'd eat 20 per day if I'd let him. He gets more like 1 per week. :) )

ETA: I was thinking on the fruit roll up thing and I realized that for stuff like that I have tried to find a healthier alternative. Fruitabu makes a fruit by the foot type thing that is 100% fruit and Stretch Island Fruit makes fruit leather that is remarkably like a fruit roll up. I've been known to give my kiddo Vitatops in place of cookies ("BIG cookie!" lol), healthier crackers in place of cheez-its, etc.