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ShanIAm
02-27-2011, 06:24 PM
:) What do you find yourself mourning now that you have lost weight?

For me....

1) I miss my favorite ring. It was the ring I purchased to replace a wedding ring after I got divorced. I was throwing change into a toll booth basket and it went flying off. I called their lost and found. I'm positive someone found it and I hope they are enjoying it as much as I did. Jerks!

2) I miss my favorite pair of black cargo pants. They fit perfectly when I bought them and being a pear shape, that is hard to come by! Aside from my black and floreusent pink parachute pants I had in the 80's, these were the best pants I ever owned. :-) They were purchased from Lane Bryant -- lowest size available. No replacing them now.


ncuneo
02-27-2011, 06:32 PM
1) buy a new one you like even better
2) buy new ones that fit even better. Trust me with a little shopping there are a million stores with pants that fit better than LB, the day I didn't have to shop there anymore I cried tears of joy.

I don't miss a thing, because everything has been replaced my something better.

JessLess
02-27-2011, 06:43 PM
I lost my home and car in hurricane Katrina but I am getting over it.


ShanIAm
02-27-2011, 07:07 PM
I lost my home and car in hurricane Katrina but I am getting over it.

:( I'm very sorry to hear about that, JessLess, and it was not my intention to trivialize terrible losses such as a home and car.....or those that lost loved one's in that terrible tragedy.

The losses I was referring to were related to weight loss one's only. My intention was to keep this post light hearted.

Eliana
02-27-2011, 07:26 PM
Awe ShanIAm. ;) I'm sorry about the rings. I remember losing a ring in Jr. High my grandmother gave me from when she was a girl. It slipped off my finger during class change, landed on my foot, and I felt myself kick it. My teacher sent another girl and I out for an entire class period to find it, but it was gone. I have the same suspicion you do and I hope whoever found it enjoyed it. I don't think it was worth all that much except to me. :(

The only thing I can say I miss are my wider feet. I complain about that a lot around here. When I got fat my feet widened to almost medium and I could buy shoes at normal stores. Now I'm back to freakishly narrow feet that don't even fit narrow shoes. But, for my trouble, I also no longer have plantar fasciitis. ;)

Linsy
02-27-2011, 07:41 PM
Eliana, I hope my feet shrink! I've had freakishly wide feet for as long as I can remember. I got them measured and apparently I am supposed to be in a 6, but extra wide length. I ordered a pair of pumps in an 8 recently and the width is perfect but my heels slip out the back...I'm going to have to stuff tissue in the toes or something. I hope one day I'll be able to wear heels out of the box without worrying about them being too narrow!

mkendrick
02-27-2011, 08:44 PM
I never noticed my feet changing sizes. I have smallish feet for my height (5'7 and 7-7.5), but they've always been on the wide side. Now I wish I'd paid more attention if the width changed at all, lol.

Hmm, what do I mourn...

Oh, big boobies. I used to have a nice rack of full C's. Now I have B's (and just barely, lol). I went from grapefruits to lemons. But on the plus side, my lemons are significantly perkier than my grapefruits...Ahem...and I'm done talking about my breasticles.

I also genuinely mourn my old carefree eating...just not the consequences. I miss eating whatever the heck I wanted and not giving a second thought to calories, carbs, portion sizes, etc. But, I know I can't eat that way and maintain the lifestyle I prefer, so I'm happy to mourn it a little bit.

sacha
02-27-2011, 08:59 PM
My engagement ring is quite loose now :)

hope4balance
02-27-2011, 09:26 PM
Interesting question! I am used to celebrating with food, showing love with food, feeling better after a bad day with food, and entertaining with food. Of course, I can still do those things with healthy food, and I have great new ways to do all of those w/o food. But, I often think of food first still!

gagalu
02-27-2011, 09:40 PM
i wish my favorite pair of skinny jeans would shrink with me, but i definitely don't miss them!! haha

Linsy
02-27-2011, 10:14 PM
I miss all of my clothes! I usually wear my jeans and tops pretty tight (not SUPER SKIN TIGHT, but fitted). Most of my jeans are still fitted enough that they don't look frumpy, but I know in 20 pounds or so they're going to be way too big and I'm going to have to give them a proper funeral (aka sell them on craigslist or take them to a clothing exchange store to get smaller ones :D).

I love my clothes, but I'll love the smaller sized clothes a lot more!

LTs girl
02-27-2011, 10:34 PM
I mourn eating whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. Now it seems the only thing I do is obsess over weight, calories, exercise, and what is for dinner.

stacygee
02-27-2011, 10:51 PM
I am still mourning the loss of my dad in October. He was so proud of me then for starting on the journey. I usually try to us him as inspiration - which today makes me feel even worse for going off my diet with a chocolate binge. I owe it to him to stick with it and stay motivated and on-plan. I made it through him 20 days in the hospital and all the arrangements without goingoff my pan once. Now I am mourning how I went off my plan today... doesn't seem right. I feel very ashamed.

duckyyellowfeet
02-27-2011, 10:53 PM
I miss my clothes for sure. I'm too broke to buy clothes that I really love in between sizes so I'm stuck with things that work in the short-term but that I don't love.

I miss being carefree about my food, knowing I could just grab something, no matter the situation.

But I wouldn't take back my 40lb loss for clothes I liked better and a more carefree food attitude.

Ashley829
02-27-2011, 10:57 PM
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Oh, big boobies. I used to have a nice rack of full C's. Now I have B's (and just barely, lol). I went from grapefruits to lemons. But on the plus side, my lemons are significantly perkier than my grapefruits...Ahem...and I'm done talking about my breasticles.

I have the same problem, mine really shrunk and that makes me pretty sad. haha.

And my rings got way too big as well. I guess I went from a size 7 to a size 5.5 and I just had my wedding set sent out today to be resized because they kept falling off. My husband had to cut open our couch the other week to get my ring out that fell down the back. lol. And now the pretty ring he got me in Afghanistan for our anniversary is too big as well so hopefully somewhere will resize that for me too!

berryblondeboys
02-27-2011, 11:00 PM
I am still mourning the loss of my dad in October. He was so proud of me then for starting on the journey. I usually try to us him as inspiration - which today makes me feel even worse for going off my diet with a chocolate binge. I owe it to him to stick with it and stay motivated and on-plan. I made it through him 20 days in the hospital and all the arrangements without goingoff my pan once. Now I am mourning how I went off my plan today... doesn't seem right. I feel very ashamed.

Stacygee - we are all human and your dad would know that a bad day, is just that. A bad day. I think it's great that you are using your dad for inspiration. And I am sure he would be so, so proud of how far you have come!

berryblondeboys
02-27-2011, 11:02 PM
I just feel bad about the new clothes I just bought. I had lost 10 lbs over a year ago and it made me drop a size. Well, I FINALLY went and bought some new duds in November. Only to start losing weight in January. Some things I haven't even cut the tags yet (but they aren't returnable). So, it's not really the clothes I mourn, but the money spent on something I won't use!

ShesLosingIt
02-27-2011, 11:04 PM
I miss the boobs as well. I miss the days when my boobs stuck out further than my belly. I know that eventually after I lose more of this weight, I'll even out but right now it's so NOT pretty to see your gut sticking out further than your boobs. I went from a DDD to a small C in the last year, I'm worried I'm going to end up with an A cup by the time I get rid of the rest of it!

Linsy
02-27-2011, 11:42 PM
My boobs also seem to be shrinking. I'm wearing a 44D bra right now and I'm pretty sure it doesn't fit right, my boobs don't fill up the cup :lol:. My 40Cs are just barely too tight.

I was reminded of rings from another post. A couple of hours ago I grabbed one of my old favorite rings that was always a little bit loose (size 11) and when i put it on it literally just dropped to the floor. I can practically put it on without even touching the skin on my finger. This is amazing to me because I've always had short chubby fingers and I hadn't realized just how much they had shrunk. The ring even falls off of my thumb!

I think I'm in an 8 or 9 ring now. I have quite a few cute rings but I don't really mourn them because I don't know where half of them are LOL.

martinimouse
02-28-2011, 01:16 PM
I am actually getting nervous about my wedding ring. It is a mm rogers double layer (gold and silver) with an intricate design, that cannot be reduced, it is massive and heavy. It is getting very loose now, and I am afraid that at goal, I will not be able to keep it on. I have lots of beautiful rings, including a diamond that I cannot wear unless at goal. I have missed wearing those rings dearly! Geez....15 years since I could?

AS far as weight loss, I mourn my long hair. I had gotten it down to tailbone length, but my dieting ruined it, I lost handfuls of it, the texture got worse and ended up having to cut it off. It is much better now, thicker and shiny again (thank you extra vitamins and high fat!) and so I plan on growing it out again. Still, it will take me 3 years to get it back to tailbone. Sigh. I have two fabulous antique sterling silver hair combs that an opera singer once wore.

Linsy
02-28-2011, 01:40 PM
martinimouse, I think I read in another thread that there's something you can buy to keep your rings on. If your wedding ring is really special and you can't get it fitted then you should do a little bit of googling to see if there's anything you can do.

ShanIAm
02-28-2011, 02:14 PM
Martinimouse -- do a google search on "ring guard" and you'll see what Linsy is referring to. I wish I had gotten mine sized or fitted right before it went flying off into the toll basket! A girlfriend of mine recently lost hers in the toilet. She was able to fetch it out but....ummm....yeah..... ((ick))

Rana
02-28-2011, 04:31 PM
I regret/miss the fact that I bought clothes 6 months ago because I thought I wasn't going a size and a half in the intervening months. I didn't need the clothes and if I had waited, I could have bought more.... now I have nothing to wear and I'm giving away half my closet. The clothes look awful on me, so I really can't wear them.

I miss not having to think about food or where my next meal is coming from or calorie counting. Sure, you get in a groove, it becomes automatic and you learn what meals work for your plan or not. But I do miss not even having to know what a calorie was or how what a carb meant or anything like that (this is also related to my PCOS).

EvilGidget
02-28-2011, 04:41 PM
Girls, they sell ring guards at Walmart, you get an assortment of them for $3

I am not "mourning" anything yet.... maybe the old eating habits a little... but doesn't feel right to say I'm mourning it when it was so bad for me lol.

I guess maybe more things will come when I lose some more weight ;)

JessLess
02-28-2011, 08:18 PM
:( I'm very sorry to hear about that, JessLess, and it was not my intention to trivialize terrible losses such as a home and car.....or those that lost loved one's in that terrible tragedy.

The losses I was referring to were related to weight loss one's only. My intention was to keep this post light hearted.

Sorry. :D I don't miss my clothes, I've been having too much fun selling them and buying new ones.

rainbowstripe
02-28-2011, 09:58 PM
I miss my favourite ring as well. I never spend much money on anything (clothes, shoes, jewellery) but one day I spent $180 NZD on a sterling silver bow ring by a New Zealand designer. I fell in love with it. I bought it slightly too big, but it's now giant and I can't wear it on any fingers. Sadly, ring guards don't seem to exist in this country. I do plan on getting it resized though - I carry it around in my wallet! I just don't know how much more finger shrinkage to expect!

I also miss this amazing black lace dress I bought about a year ago. It's about 2 sizes to big now, not the type of thing that could easily be altered (and I also didn't pay enough for it to warrant spending probably double that again on getting it resized). I know I can buy new clothes, but this one dress...it fit so perfectly and I can't find something yet that makes me feel quite as good as that dress did.

I actually kind of miss NOT being obsessed with calories, food, etc. I miss just going out and eating whatever...but not so much that I'd go back to it - I'm enjoying the new body a whole lot more.

On the boob note, I really hope mine don't shrink any more! They haven't really shrunk a cup size yet (but then again, I'm notorious for wearing the wrong size) but they're still a good size for my body - I'm just hoping the rest of my weight comes off where it should - stomach/hips/thighs - that is where the majority of my extra fat is now!

lackadaisy
02-28-2011, 11:54 PM
It's funny but I suddenly miss my back fat pooch. It was there only 10 lbs ago! And my waist is shaped differently from 4 lbs ago!

It seems like when you don't have too much left to lose, you end up mourning a new changed part of your body every day... right now I can tell my kneecaps have changed and I'm hoping my neck/chin will be the next to slim down. :)