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02-27-2011, 05:19 PM
I have resisted getting new clothes for the most part. Winter is almost over (at least I freaking hope it is) and I hope and plan to be smaller by next fall, so I don't want to buy a bunch of new clothes. I work in a very professional job, so I wear dresses or skirt suits every day. That's a lot of cashola.

Now because I was a size 34 and I now right in the middle between a 18/20 and a 22/24, the 34's are HUGE on me. I knew they were big, but people have started to comment that I need new clothes. I finally broke my denial today and started trying on clothes from my closet. I looked like a little kid trying on mommy's clothes. They looked terrible.

So I started weeding out. In total, I cleared out 26 outfits. Which left me with.... almost nothing! And I haven't even touched my casual clothes yet.

My closet is empty and yet I don't want to buy expensive clothes for just 1 season.

I realize this is a good problem to have, but I'm still freaking out!

02-27-2011, 05:29 PM
Funny, I was thinking about this today and I am only dealing with being 2 sizes down, not as many as you! Wow, that is freakin' awesome. You have done an amazing job!

Have you considered taking a few skirts to the tailor to have them taken in? This way you only have to buy a few new shirts. In another post someone mentioned picking up a few "new" things at a second hand store/thrift shop. I used to have a mental block going to places like that but once I was there and found some AWESOME things, I got over it! :-)

Congrats on your weight loss. Sorry it had to come with a price of having an empty closet but I guaranty that when you put your body in those new, thinner clothes, you are going to feel amazing! :-)

02-27-2011, 05:30 PM
Time to hit up goodwill and salvation army. XD

02-27-2011, 05:31 PM
maybe try charity shops or something? i know a lot of people dont like that idea, but its not forever and it has to be better than clothes that are way too big. alternatively you could try sales, or maybe having your old clothes altered?

02-27-2011, 05:32 PM
Thrift stores will be your friend. If you ever get to Utica, Syracuse, Albany (not sure where Northern you are) it's easy to find lots of places to shop. Even small towns often have thrift stores in churches. but you don't get as much variety. I was lucky enough to have several small thrifts plus a consignment shop. My nicer stuff went to the consignment store to help fund my newer clothes :)

02-27-2011, 05:42 PM
Thrift Shops, TJMaxx (I got a great black dress for $10), hit up some yard sales in the spring. Invest in maybe one or two plain dresses/pants and play it up with accessories.

02-27-2011, 05:47 PM
First I want to say CONGRATULATIONS!!

You've lost over 100 pounds = OVER 400 STICKS O BUTT-ER!!


As for the clothing . . . I too hit the Good Will, but I go to the nicest part of town and go to their Good Will, as that is where the "rich" people bring their used clothing . . . I've had some amazing finds . . . now granted it may take a little time and I have even bought a few items that were just a little bit too small so I had something "new" as I lost more weight . . . You'd be surprised at what you can find.

Lori Bell
02-27-2011, 06:14 PM
Have you looked at the mall lately?? I bought a $200 coat yesterday for $21.00 (including tax)!!! (and it's a springish color that will work until Easter!)

Kohls, JC Penney, Macy's are all having giant clearance sales. Up to 90% off on stuff....and if you get in on their online e-mail promotions you can save an extra 10-20% on EVERYTHING, (Even clearance stuff) You can get brand new stuff for CHEAPER than thrift shop stuff. Look closely, a lot of the clothes on the clearance racks are left over from summer and fall...

02-27-2011, 06:17 PM
Go to one of those places where they'll pay you for your clothes!! They usually only take NICE stuff, so you'll only get NICE stuff. All at a discount!!

02-27-2011, 06:26 PM
Go to those stores having sales, buy a few solid color dresses if you can find them, then try to find some bright colored jackets that are on the tight side so you can use them right through Spring. Black slacks and long sleeved black tees are my go-to outfit with different jackets. I bought four new jackets at Macys, at one of their ONE DAY sales for less than $8 each, and they have really stretched my wardrobe!

02-27-2011, 07:16 PM
Thanks everyone for your suggestions! I know that this sounds terrible, but the thought of going to a thrift place and wearing someone else's stuff totally grosses me out. I know it's stupid it just is a mental thing...

We don't have a Macy's near here, but we do have a JC Penney's, TJ Maxx (which I have never been in) and a Kohl's. Being as large as I was, I haven't shopped for clothes in actual stores in years. I did everything online, mostly at Roaman's. So I have to even discover which stores carry good clothes. I have bought a very few things - maybe 3 tops (including a cute one I got on clearance at Walmart for $5 - who knew??!!) and a stretchy black skirt that is a little tight, but should be perfect through the spring and even the summer. I have taken a couple of skirts in at the waist that will extend their life a couple more months I think.

I think I might have to take a day off work, when the stores aren't so busy and just commit to a day of shopping...

02-27-2011, 07:29 PM
We have a great thrift shop called unique. Try to find a thrift or charity shop that has things organized by size. I sometimes go and can find things with labels still on. $6 for talbots pants can't be beat. Also consider eBay, or even posting on craigslist or freecycle in case people are giving away things in your size.

02-27-2011, 07:34 PM
Well, when I try on and buy a brand new pair of pants from the store it's a pretty safe bet that a few people tried them on before me.....without them being washed! So buying previously worn clothes don't bother me as I know I'm going to take them home and throw them right into the washer. Just like the new clothes I buy. And honestly, 70% of the clothes I have picked up at thrift stores still have their original tags.

02-27-2011, 08:07 PM
I just went through the same thing, trust me, do not complain about this to friends that are not losing weight, you do not get a lot of sympathy LOL I've been told its a good problem too. But its hard when you now have next to nothing to wear and are still losing so you don't want to buy all new stuff. I found that a lot of stores are clearing out their winter stuff right now, so its a good time to buy a few new skirts or basic black dress pants that you can wear into spring, also the open cardigan style sweaters are really in right now and a lot are 3/4 sleeves, through a cami underneath and some nice accesories and you are good to go!

02-27-2011, 08:16 PM
Oh my goodness, how awesome for you!! That is a major, major transformation! You must just be on cloud nine!

You already have plenty of advice. I'll just add that you should maybe go sparse with a couple neutral pair of pants and a few amazing tops. That's all you really need. ;) One decent dress should get you through any major functions over the next season. I currently own two pair of casual pants, one pair of jeans and about seven tops I rotate around. I so can't wait to get to goal already and go shopping! But in the meantime, I'm actually liking my bare closet. :D Laundry's easy!

02-27-2011, 08:31 PM
I'd try to get over the thrift store thing because suits are the best thing to buy there: most people only wear their suits on special occasions, and so the suits are the nicest, closest-to-new thing in the store. I have 4 nice suits because I couldn't stand to not buy them when they fit, even though I really have no place to wear them. But I am talking about new high-end suits for under $10. One still had the tags on it, and I don't think the others had been worn more than a couple times.

But I also don't know how important saving money is to you--I don't mean that in a snarky way, but if it's "If I spend $400 on clothes now, I won't be able to take as long of a vacation this summer" or "I won't be able to buy that new TV for another six months", I'd buy the new clothes. But if it's a matter of putting $400 for new clothes on a credit card and paying $1500 for them before they are paid off, then I'd get over the thrift store thing.

02-27-2011, 09:43 PM
OK, I'm just trying to imagine a shorter person losing 100 pounds and not buying new professional clothes? How did you keep them on without falling off? Seriously?

02-28-2011, 12:04 AM
Wish I had sent my 24-20 to you. But, I sent a half a closetful to Goodwill- so if you are in the HOuston area there are some nice choices!

Now I am trying to get about 4 nice outfits for my size now to rotate wearing. But, I am not sure your situation. I am a stay at home mom - so spend most of my time around the house. or at the gym. I have a lot of gym clothes.

02-28-2011, 03:45 AM
I'd like to second the Get Old Items Tailored and Thrift Store Savings routes. Even pre-weight loss, I'd fill in seasonal gear with stuff at charity sales in the better parts of town. Know your labels, know your body, and you can really get a transitional wardrobe for a pocketful of change.

Ask around to friends or coworkers and see if anyone has a relative or family friend who is a seamstress. You may find they have more reasonable rates than a traditional tailor if money has run tight. That said, getting clothing taken in is a heck of a lot cheaper than trying to let clothing out, for the most part. The investment is worth it as you drop the weight.

And if you can't get past the "eww used" thing, definitely keep tabs on all department store sales - even if you don't have a Macy's local, their Plus department is really swell, and they are having one heck of a "Work Basics" sale going on right now. Two Jones New York suit sets will rotate splendidly with a few cheaper blouses and will carry you through this size and the next. Worth the purchase in the long run.

Good Luck!

02-28-2011, 04:03 AM
OK, I'm just trying to imagine a shorter person losing 100 pounds and not buying new professional clothes? How did you keep them on without falling off? Seriously?

I was wondering this too!! I am now in an 18/20 and came down from a 28. I tried on a pair of 28 black pants I am keeping as a reminder of where I started. There is no way they would stay up. They fell right to the floor...

Do you use belts or something like that I bet your clothes are totally swimming on you.. :)

Congrats on the weight loss! I am in the same boat clothing wise... I have invested in a pair of jeans and a pair of black pants along with like 5 shirts in each size. I know people probably get tired of seeing me in the same clothes but oh well...

02-28-2011, 10:01 AM
I used to be the exact same way but eventually got over it. Most of my friends swear by thrift stores so I got one of them to take me and some of the fear passed. Also I started into the used clothes foray by getting maternity clothes of Kijiji. For some reason it seemed way less gross to think the stuff only had one owner and I could meet them and their house to see they weren't skuzzy.

If you still can't do used, I would suggest wrap dresses and shirts. This is what Tim gunn suggests for people who's weight fluctuates so your clothes can always look fitted. And hit the clearance racks. Your clothes are way way too big .. You need new ones!! Even 2-3 pants and 5 shirts would do wonders. You deserve it. And it shouldn't break the bank- don't get expensive stuff since you're still on the journey. Even if you get stuff you don't love it'll be a relief to have stuff that fits properly!

02-28-2011, 10:58 AM
Like berryblondeboys, I am wondering how you managed to wait this long. My old clothes literally started falling off of me a long time ago. New clothes were necessary.

Natalia mentioned Tim Gunn. I was thinking about him too. I have been buying my clothes with his 10 Essential Elements (http://www.suite101.com/content/tim-gunns-10-essential-elements-a31173) in mind. I can get by on a surprising few items. I adapted his list to fit my lifestyle. I don't need a little black dress and a day dress and a skirt, but 3 nice pairs of slacks works well. I have also enjoyed reading about the Six items project (http://sixitemsorless.com/). You don't have to have a huge wardrobe. Actually I have to admit, while I have fewer clothes than most people, I have more than I did 100 pounds ago. Back then, I often just had a couple of pairs of slacks. It was so hard to find something to fit and I could just forget finding something that I liked.