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12-10-2002, 01:19 PM
- I'm grateful for my daughter's wonderful supportive teachers.
- And for having more than enough so that we can share with others at Christmas and all through the rest of the year. No matter how much I may complain about running out of money.
- For our ethnically diverse neighborhood. For our lovely Chinese, Vietnamese, Polish, Italian, Lebanese, Indian, Middle Eastern, Ukrainian .... friends/neighbours who share their cultures and their food with us.

12-10-2002, 01:57 PM
I'm grateful for another year of good health for the kids, John and myself.

I am grateful that I found love.



12-10-2002, 02:28 PM
I am grateful for that feeling I get in the pit of my stomach when I see someone I love. How my heart flutters and pulse races.
I am thankful for music and the arts, it allows me to express myself.
I am thankful for my friends who accept me for who I am and do not judge me because of it.

12-10-2002, 11:56 PM
I am grateful for my DH. He is a diamond in the rough and I'm glad I found him :love:

12-12-2002, 08:05 AM
I'm grateful to my mom for instilling in me faith in God. Whether I've chosen the right God is irrelevant. It's just really comforting to have something to believe in. Something that I can't "see".

I'm grateful that my printer is working (knock on wood), because I've got to make funky gift tags today. :D

12-12-2002, 10:44 AM
I am grateful for my circle of friends who not only offer to help but DO stuff! A Church pal just came around and picked up our dump garbage - no phone call - just showed up early to save us the hassle.

12-12-2002, 12:28 PM
Grateful for these three things in my life, in abundance:

Someone (plural) to love
Something to do
Something to look forward to


12-12-2002, 12:29 PM
Gee Ruthxx, that was really kind and thoughtful of your friend to do that for you :)

It's always nice to have friends that do small unexpected things for you.

12-13-2002, 08:35 AM
Like Lois, I'm grateful to have found love. If I lose it tomorrow, it is so great that it will sustain me the rest of my life.

I'm grateful that I found something to wear to a party last night. (although it took me over an hour, and there are clothes strewn all over my dressing room floor)
And I'm grateful that I didn't spill anything on it, because I'm going to wear it again to another damn party tonight.

12-13-2002, 08:58 AM
I am grateful that the doctors are finally going to do something for Pam. She took yet another attack yesterday and had to leave work for the hospital. If you knew Pam you would know she is in a lot of pain when she leaves work, because she is a work aholic. They came her some meds to take for the next 15 days and with in that time she needs to get in touch with her family doctor who will in turn get in tough with the specialist. They are going to stretch her asophigus(Spelling terrible). They also gave her something for the acid reflux and gas in her belly. I feel so badly for her, she is in such discomfort all the time, but maybe now they will be able to help. Please remember her in your thoughts and prayers.
I am so thankful for my friends who are always there when I need them.
I am thankful for my DD and DS who constantly show me love even when I don't deserve it. I love them so much!
And my DH who puts up with so much BS from me, he is my sweetie.

12-13-2002, 09:07 AM
Virginia, I'm so glad about Pam. I will definitely remember her in my prayers. Hugs, hon... :grouphug:

12-13-2002, 09:11 AM
Thanks Ellis,
I feel so badly for Sojo, been sitting her crying for her. Wish we could all just give her a big hug for real.

12-13-2002, 01:41 PM
Thank you so much Virginia. Everyone's words of comfort mean so much to me. I am feeling more at peace this morning. Thank God I've been on meds the last few weeks because I think they are finally kicking in. I have been much more clear headed and I feel I will be able to handle Saturday. I have even taken an interest in things that I have let go by the wayside... like housecleaning! I just keep reminding myself that my grandmother lived a full and happy life, and the last few years were very difficult with the Alzheimer's and dementia. She was often afraid and didn't know where she was. Thankfully my mom worked in her unit at the nursing home so she was there for her often. Its better this way but still very sad.

Today I am grateful for anti-depressants and the life of my grandmother... the matriarch of a large and wonderful family! Three daughters, twelve grandchildren, twenty-three great-grandchildren, and one great-great-grandchild!

12-15-2002, 12:00 PM
Today I am grateful for my friends Claire and Doug who are coming over tomorrow afternoon to put up my Christmas Tree! I know I could just ask them but they wanted to know if I was decorated and said they's be over after lunch tomorrow. Maybe they'll stay for dinner - Shepherd's Pie and coleslaw, WASP Soul Food!

12-15-2002, 08:11 PM

12-16-2002, 08:32 AM
Grateful today that I've got a jug of cranberry juice in my fridge, 'cause I think I'm getting a urinary tract infection. :rolleyes:

12-16-2002, 02:11 PM
Oh, ellis! Grab that juice and lots of water and flush out those bacteria!

I am happy and grateful that I have Gail who is such a gem of a friend and cleaning person and that I can afford to have her!

12-17-2002, 10:00 AM
I am grateful that my U.T.I. is pretty much on the way out. It could have been REALLY bad. Still flushing, Ruth!

And I'm grateful that it's such a beautiful sunny day, and that I don't have to go outside (because it's damned cold out there!).
And I can see all the dust in my living and dining rooms, so I'm going to clean them. :D

12-17-2002, 10:47 AM
I think i should have come to visit this thread sooner, Just to remind myself i do have a lot to be greatful for.

I'm greatful that the lump i had removed was NOT cancer and that financially i'll be able to spend some quality time with my DD while she really needs me.


12-18-2002, 12:58 AM
I am grateful to have a sweet fiance' who, despite me being sick and grumpy for the past three weeks, and crying all of the time because I'm sick of working so much overtime, has dinner ready for me when I come home from yet another bad day at the office. :)

He's definitely a KEEPER!

12-18-2002, 03:29 PM
Yes Sabrina,
He does sound like a keeper! Hope you are feeling well soon, this is no time of year for you to be sick young lady.

12-19-2002, 07:19 PM
I am happy that for the first time in 3 yrs - my DD has brought home a report card of all As and Bs! what a relief! she is so proud - her hard work has paid off!

I am happy that we are on the downside now - sliding into Christmas week and things will slow down so we can catch our breaths and relax a little. Sabrina, I can so relate to the stress of working overtime - the past 3 weeks have been awful as everybody wants THEIR stuff done before they leave on vacation.

I am happy that my dental nightmare is behind me for now.

I am happy that DH is going to buy our Christmas goodies tomorrow. We've been so good around here - eating nothing but veggies and clementines and baked chicken and diet ginger ale :)

Now we're looking forward to prime rib with homemade horseradish sauce and some good wine! ok and we'll make cookies on Sunday too!

I am again happy to know you all and share our days together.

Sorry to hear about all the coughs and colds and flus and UTIs. Virginia - hope Pam is feeling better.

Sojo - been thinking about you! Hope you're hanging in there.

Love always, Terri

12-19-2002, 10:02 PM
Sabrina, hon... how are you feeling? hugs...

Terri, I'm so happy for your daughter! You must be great parents. :) hugs...

Where am I?
Oh, yes... happy and grateful.

We were supposed to all go to a friend's daughter's orchestra this evening, but DS is sick with a cough, so DH and DD went alone. I'm happy that I was able to stay home with my sweet little boy. We snuggled up in my bed and watched Jurassic Park III, and ate Smarties. He's taken his cough medicine and is sleeping soundly. :) Life is so very good.

love and hugs to all...

12-19-2002, 11:56 PM
Hope DS feels better soon Ellis!!! My younger DS has been home sick too, but I am not sure how much of it is emotional and how much of it is physical!!!

12-20-2002, 09:21 AM
Thanks, Den! Last day of school... I'm keeping him home.

I hope DS #2 is feeling better soon. He's probably not missing much at school at this time of year, right?
He needs a holiday. We all do. Where do you want to go, Den? :D

Hey, I missed that orchestra, Den! According to DH it was VERY good! He and DD enjoyed it. Although I think we have to expose DD to more classical music. She only recognized one piece. "The Twelve Days of Christmas". :rolleyes: And she wanted to know; not who, but WHAT Brahms was. Having a dad with a jazz band is great, but she obviously needs a little more variety. :D

12-20-2002, 11:06 AM
I am very, very grateful that I finished packing up and addressing the last of my Christmas gifts last night, and once I drop them at the post office this afternoon, I will be officially Done with my Christmas preparations. :cb:

(okay, except for that little matter of the tree.)

I am also grateful that I found a post office yesterday that is completely empty around two in the afternoon, so I can mail everything without standing in line for ten years. :cp:

12-20-2002, 11:20 AM
I am thankful that escow should close in under 2 weeks and I will be home!!!!!!! I am thankful that I could have a good gift giving season since I did not have to pay bills this month.

12-20-2002, 09:41 PM
Ellis-DS went back to school today and took some of the chocolate treats to his Orchestra teacher (who is a chocoholic!) His teacher was just oohing and aahing, which made DS feel really good. If I could go anywhere.....I'd want to come up to YOUR place and then get snowed in so we couldn't make it back home!! THEN you'd get sick of me REALLY fast though!!! We don't listen to enough classical either. DH turns on the classical station sometimes, but they usually play CRUD!!! Easy listening classical. BLECH!!!

12-21-2002, 09:44 AM
Come on up, Den!! How cozy. And NO... I would NOT get sick of you!!

Glad to hear about DS... our kids NEED a lot of positive reinforcement.

How about CBC radio... is it #2? I always get mixed up... I think I listen to Radio 1. But the other plays continuous classical.

Damn this mouse... I should have taken it back. It's possessed. The cursor flies across the screen even when I'm not TOUCHING the mouse!!

I'm grateful that I didn't have TOO BAD of a nervous breakdown last night. If DH takes the kids out today, I may just make it through the day. :D

12-21-2002, 10:58 AM
Well I am happy and grateful that yesterday's Hershey squirts have disappeared!

This morning felt like Friday and I completely forgot about decorating the Church. I'm happy and grateful that seven people showed up, just did it and then came in to tell me it's all done!

12-21-2002, 11:35 AM
Okay, it's done. That's great. Now when are you going to tell us about your food and clothing memories? Huh? Come on...

I wonder if I cleaned my computer screen if I'd be able to read the print more easily...

12-21-2002, 03:04 PM
YUP!! DH listens to CBC radio (89.9 FM) SOMETIMES they play great stuff, but early in the morning they play CRAP, and DH leaves it on when he leaves for work!!!

01-31-2003, 09:26 AM
- I'm happy to have received my Lindenburg seed catalogue. I'm busily filling out my order... as usual ordering FAR too many seeds for my little garden. Why the heck do they put a hundred tomato seeds in one packet!? And I want three different TYPES of tomatoes!! oops... this is the grateful thread. I'm grateful for the VERY reasonable seed prices at Lindenburg.

- I'm grateful for having two sets of lovely new neighbours this year. I'm going to share my seeds with them. :)

- I'm grateful to have come to the end of January without having a major nervous breakdown. I think going to the Y helps to stave it off. I'll probably have one in the next month or two, but so far so good!

- I'm grateful for this beautiful sunny day.

01-31-2003, 11:39 AM
I am grateful for a son who makes me laugh and helps me remember who I am.

I am grateful I have a job no matter how unforgiving it is.

I am grateful I found all the wonderful ladies at 3fc

I am grateful I am healthy

I am grateful that there are so many people in my life that love me.

I am grateful I am not alone.

I am grateful I can read and there are so many great authors in the world.

I am grateful for Oprah, Maya Angelou, and Star Trek.

I am grateful for music and movies.

I am grateful that there is such a thing as coffee to start my day.

Miss Chris

01-31-2003, 12:10 PM
Oh... that's such a good one, Chris... I can read!! My favorite pastime. :yes:

02-02-2003, 12:10 PM
I am grateful there are stars to dream about.

I am grateful for science.

I am grateful for the ability to dream.

I am grateful that my husband calls me sexy even when I don't feel it.

I am grateful I work with such good men.

I am grateful I am getting healthier and stronger.

I am grateful there are astronaunts, firefighters, policemen, Hazmat teams, doctors, CPR instructors, and all those other everyday heroes.

Miss Chris

02-02-2003, 10:03 PM
I am thankful that I had the weekend to relax after the week from **** at work. But being thankful for the pineapple rum I consumed last night seems inappropriate.

I am thankful that when things were going very badly at work, I have learned enough in the last year and and a half to hold my own.

I am thankful I didn't have the nervous breakdown I felt coming on while at work.

I am thankful I have gotten myself together enough to finish 3 loads of laundry, go grocery shopping and do the dishes.

I am thankful for my nephew, who can make me laugh.

And I am thankful that Ellis hasn't had her breakdown too.

02-02-2003, 11:02 PM
Tonight I am grateful that I don't have the problem my sister has.

She is very needy around men and this drives them away in droves and she gives up her power in her relationships this way and it is painful to watch :(

I try to talk to her about this - but it's all talk until she fixes the issues inside her. Even sadder is that she is just like my mom :(

On a happier note, I am happy that one of the hardest months of the year is over and I made it!

Glad you wonderful women are here too to make me laugh and think and challenge myself in ways I don't get anywhere else.

Thanks for helping me exercise an important muscle - my brain.


02-02-2003, 11:33 PM
Thank you sweet Squeak... I'm glad you haven't had YOURS, too!! :)

Terrigrrrl, I'm so sorry about your sister. It must be terribly upsetting to see her following in your Mom's footsteps. Hugs and prayers...

I'm grateful this weekend for my beautiful little boy. He just turned 7. I didn't want him, and had a heartbreakingly terrible pregnancy, and now I love him like... Well, you moms know how much I love him. :) More than I can ever say.

A friend once said to me of his two little boys, "Ellis, I wouldn't sell them for all the money in the world, but I wouldn't pay a Toonie (two Canadian dollars) for the pair of them." :lol: VERY apt.

I'm grateful for our heros too, Chris. And grateful to their families for sharing them with us. And sacrificing them for us. :cry:

02-03-2003, 09:46 AM
Thanks for your kind words Ellis. I laughed when I read your friend's cute expression about his kids.

Happy belated birthday to your beautiful boy. As you know, I only have one child, a daughter - sometimes I wonder how it would be different to raise a boy.

She really touched our hearts yesterday. It was the 8th anniversary of the date I met my husband for the first time. She remembered and we didn't! As a surprise, she fashioned a faux wedding cake for us, made from paper - she presented it to us after dinner. I love her so much and some days I hold back from loving her, maybe that sounds strange but I hold back for fear that someday what if something happened to take her away from us? I couldn't bear it.

I read once that being loved gives us strength, but loving others gives us courage.

Today, I wish courage for the loved ones of the shuttle crew.

Peace and Love, Terri

02-03-2003, 11:49 AM
Thank you, Terrigrrrl. :)
I must confess, having a son was a bit of a mystery to me having come from an all-girl family. We try not to treat our son and daughter differently, but certainly in our society there are still responsibilities in raising a boy that differ from those of a girl.
Although I believe that if you DO raise males and females equally well, things should work out. I guess I still see a lot of families raising boys without respect for women. Boys who are raised to believe that they deserve more than girls. That they are stronger and more capable. Why do we always have to "prove ourselves"? Like Kalpana Chawla. Yes, a wonderful woman, but first a human being. The fact that she was a woman should have no relevance. Yet it does. Very much.

Terri, what a beautiful thing for your daughter to do. And congratulations on your "anniversary". :)
And if I may be so bold... don't hold back from loving your daughter. It'll be a year this spring when my daughter tried to commit suicide. The longest year of my life. Don't hold back.

02-03-2003, 02:36 PM
Thanks Ellis for the congrats and the boldness - ( I didn't take it that way :) )

I recognize this little problem of mine and I've gotten better at dealing with it over time. Some of this may be TMI and probably something most parents wouldn't want to confess to out of fear that we would think them horrible people, but sometimes I am just scared of it all - parenting is scary to me. Romantic relationships I understand, friendships, sibling relationships - got those down - but parenting? it scares the **** out of me.

I don't want to resort to the typical psycho stuff - but I have problems figuring it out - so I just try hard to do it the best way I can. I was never held or praised or touched by my mother my whole life, so I don't know what I am supposed to do. Maybe if I had given birth to her, it would come naturally. Her biological mother rejected her at birth and mine rejected me most of my life - so I guess I feel like we have that in common so we are there for each other. It is the strongest mixture of love and fear - this mothering gig.

I will tell you a nice story of something that happened to us once. She has Asian features and I am a typical American WASP - blonde and all. One day we were waiting online in a dept. store to return a blouse. A sweet black woman waited on us - she looked at my daughter and then she looked at me and she said to my daughter " Did anyone ever tell you that you look just like your mother?" My daughter almost wept with happiness.

I love that story.

I am sure if I had a little boy, I would just love him to pieces too, but I would probably drive him nuts trying to work against societal programming that tells us women don't have the same worth as men.

I am glad that your daughter has pulled through. I didn't know you yet when all that happened but (HUG) to you for how hard it must have been. Bless you and her Ellis.

I am a little weepy today. Started my period yesterday and all the sadness in the news over the past month - it gets to us sometimes.

Hope you're on a warming trend up there! Love, Terri

02-03-2003, 04:56 PM
I completely understand how you feel, Terri. It IS scary being a parent. I had a "gushy" mother who dumped all her problems on me, and a very reserved father who was afraid of showing any affection. I'm very much like my father, and I have to make a very real effort to nurture my children. I'm a loner; too, and it's difficult for me to share my time with others. I'm selfish, and I resent time away from myself. :?:

It's a heck of a balancing act trying to be a combination of my mother and father. Plus adding whatever they "left out" in parenting me. I suppose not being satisfied that we're doing enough for our children makes us fairly adequate mothers, Terri? Continually searching for the perfect formula... :D

You know, I look at people now who are having babies and I can't help but think, "What the **** are you doing?! Are you NUTS!? You have no idea what you're in for!!" :lol: Life. It's a vicious circle.

I think that adoption is such a beautiful, selfless thing to do. Isn't it, Ruthie. :yes:
I love the story about you and your daughter. And thank you for the hugs. :) You sound like a darned good mom, Terri, and I know that you'll be all right.

02-03-2003, 06:47 PM
I am grateful for my friend Shirleyanne. We had sort of lost touch with each other in the past two years but I called her last week and we met at her house for lunch today. It was as if we had seen each other just last week! Coffee, chat, dogs running all over the place, good food and 6 hours just whizzed by.
Some old friends stand the test of time!

(Sorry, Ellis and Mauvais but we did not go out for dim-sum. You can't take 5 dogs to a restaurant even in Chinatown!:lol: )

02-03-2003, 07:23 PM
I'm glad you're still good friends. Yes, some people are keepers, regardless of the passage of time.
We could take your dogs with us if we offered them to the cook! :D

02-03-2003, 09:40 PM
oh yes, good old friends are one of the life's most wonderful treasures.......sounds like such fun Ruth!

Oh Ellis! I thought I was the only one who felt this way.......I sometimes crawl in bed with a book and she will come and jump on the bed and want to chat with me and I will think on one hand "sheesh......I need to be alone", then that makes me feel guilty! so I end up having her lay down next to me with her own book - sort of a compromise, I guess.

I just don't want her to complain about me to a therapist one day when she's an adult!, lol - but maybe all people do that!

Thanks again for listening.


02-03-2003, 10:19 PM
Glad you got back with your friend Ruth! :) But it's a good job you didn't go to Dim Sum or Ellis and I would have been mad :mad: that you went without us ! :lol:

02-03-2003, 10:28 PM
Terri-BELIEVE me, you aren't the only one!!! I need "me" time, even if it means staying up until 3 am to get it!!! Also, I have said things that had me thinking, "That's one for the therapist in 10 years." before I was even done saying it!!!

Ellis-Bad year I know, but think how much better it is NOW than it was just under a year ago..... (still 5).....and it is going to keep on GETTING better!!! :yes:

Ruth-Glad to hear you had so much fun!!!

Mauvais-How are you doing sweetie? Missed you.

02-04-2003, 09:07 AM
Yeah, Terri... Dentrassi is another prime example of the "I love you kids but get the **** away from me right now" Mom. :lol:
She stays up until 3, I get up at 5. :D

Funny you should say that...I do the exact same thing with MY daughter! I was in bed last night with a book. DH was at band practice. DD came into my bed and was unusually chatty!! (in other words, telling her to read with me wasn't going to cut it) It took all I had not to say, "Get out of my bed, I'm having a quiet time!!" I lay there juggling between having a nervous breakdown for lack of "me time", and hurting my already psychologically damaged daughter. I gave her half an hour before sending her off with much love and many hugs. ;)

She's already dumped her shipload on the psychologist. If she has more to dump later, that's fine. I'm doing the best I can now. I think. :dz:

02-04-2003, 06:58 PM
Hi chickies!

I haven't been around as much lately-I've been fighting off a bout of depression. Anxiety over hearing about the government job mixed with bad feelings about my current job :shrug: what can you do? I haven't been sleeping well either.

Everything else is going well though :)

02-04-2003, 07:41 PM
Mauvais, I'm so sorry you've been depressed. What can we do to cheer you up? Some rough jokes? Some hugs? We'll see what we can dig up.
Don't be sad, sweetie... we love you.
xoxo :grouphug:

02-04-2003, 08:09 PM
Thanks Ellis! :)

I feel better already!

I actually wished that my boss would drop off the face of the planet the other day :rolleyes: and that's not like me to be so mean!

02-04-2003, 10:39 PM

02-04-2003, 10:45 PM

(HUG) - January is a tough month of the year and it's been so cold and I think it just plain makes us ornery and lots of sad news on TV. Sorry you've been down, but each day it's staying lighter a little later....... imagine your boss is a just a pumpkin

Thinking of you.......... hugs and chopsticks,


02-04-2003, 10:52 PM
A naked pumpkin!

02-04-2003, 11:35 PM
Where am I? oh geez... it's the happy and grateful... ah well...

I think we've seen this one before, but it's good for another giggle.

A woman meets a gorgeous man in a bar. They talk,
they connect, they end up leaving together.
They get back to his place, and as he shows her
around his apartment, she notices that his
bedroom is completely packed with
sweet cuddly teddy bears. Hundreds of cute
small bears on a shelf all the way
along the floor, cuddly medium-sized
ones on a shelf a little higher, and
huge enormous bears on the top shelf along the wall.
The woman is surprised that this guy
would have a collection of teddy bears, especially
one that's so extensive,
but she decides not to mention this to him, and
actually is quite impressed by his sensitive side.
She turns to him... they kiss... and then they
rip each other's clothes off and make hot
steamy love.
After an intense night of
passion with this sensitive guy, they
are lying there together in the
afterglow, the woman rolls over and
asks, smiling, "Well, how was it?"
The guy says:

"Help yourself to any prize from the bottom shelf."

02-05-2003, 01:18 AM

Mauvais-Yup, things have been pretty bad here too. This is a rotten time of year, and hating your job just adds to it. Don't isolate yourself too much though, it only makes it worse in the long run. (Believe me, I have done this REPEATEDLY!!!)

02-05-2003, 03:27 PM
Mauvais - I hope you are feeling better. Jobs do suck, don't they? I don't know if it will help for you, but when I am really diliking my boss, I try to remind myself that I like him as a person, just not as a manager. It is the only thing that has saved me from telling him so very nasty things.