Weight Loss Support - Did it become a center of your conversations?
02-24-2011, 07:33 PM
Just a curious question... based off of a substitute teacher in my career prep class.
Anyways... apart from reading us our assignment and doing the roll call... the only things she talked about with us was about weight loss, dieting, calories, and exercise.
She told us how she lost 90 lbs, and how she bikes 11 miles every day.
Don't get me wrong... that is AWESOME. I really admire her for that. She's not a spring chicken young either... it's an amazing achievement...
HOWEVER... when she starts talking about how all of us WILL gain the "Freshman Fifteen" when we get to college, how we NEED to start exercising, asking us if we're doing anything to burn off calories of something we ate/will eat, etc... talking about calorie counting, carb counting, telling us that losing weight was awesome for her, etc... and nothing else... for two class periods straight...
I'm sorry... but... does it really become the centerpoint of your conversations? Has it become that for you guys? I just think that in our career prep class... talking about businesses, restaurants, partnerships, etc... she would have something other than dieting and exercise to talk about...
Not a rant or a vent at all... simply a curious question...
02-24-2011, 07:38 PM
it would never become a focal point for me on a job or if I was trying to take a class. In personnal conversations it might be more of an issue to discuss but I repeat NEVER in my life as a professional.
02-24-2011, 07:39 PM
I am actively trying not to talk about it as much. I work with three women and three of the four of us are dieting. I'm sure the other one wants to smack us.
02-24-2011, 08:07 PM
It's hard not to talk about it when it's on your mind so much. I try really hard not to go on and on, but I know that I've gotten boring and all I talk about is food.
02-24-2011, 08:18 PM
Sadly I do bring it up a lot. I try not to but since I put so much time and effort into it and it's on my mind all the time it tends to come out in conversation. If I'm talking to someone I haven't talked to in awhile I almost always update them on my weight loss. Some of them love to hear about it but I can tell others get annoyed. Oh well.
02-24-2011, 08:58 PM
I understand being very proud and excited but unless your job is "motivational speaker" or "weight loss guru" it shouldn't be the main topic of conversation at work.
Maybe you could gently direct her to a weight loss forum site so she can get it out of her system :)
I talk about dieting and weight loss when it is brought up or with others who I know are going through the same battle of the bulge I am.
02-24-2011, 09:28 PM
I talk about it a lot. I don't know why she is talking about it in class and being preachy- that should stay out of the workplace- but when you lose a large amount of weight, you spend a lot of energy and effort and thought on weight loss.. it can be consuming..it can sometimes be all you think about. Sometimes you can't help but talk about weight a lot.
02-24-2011, 09:46 PM
Thanks guys. :) I'm not at that point yet (with only 4 pounds down)... but I can't help but wonder how much it will consume my life... if at all. :)
Unfortunately, today was her last day as our sub. :( So... not much else I can say to her/talk to her about...
Oh well... I just found it interesting... :p
02-25-2011, 12:24 AM
I don't bring it up but if someone else does I become hard to shut up.
I find the topic absolutely fascinating from a variety of angles.
02-25-2011, 12:37 AM
Absolutely because it's LIFE CHANGING!
02-25-2011, 01:03 AM
Maybe she didn't have a lesson plan to go off of? I agree it was totally out of place for a business class. I talk about my weight loss efforts to exactly one person, a very dear friend of mine, but I didn't bring it up first to her even. She began WW and started talking about it. We talk about it often since, but I never even bring it up with my boyfriend, sister, other friends, family. It is extremely personal to me, and I just don't want anyone elses input, suggestions, ideas, or judgement when it comes to weight.
02-25-2011, 01:42 AM
It's hard to judge the situation without being there.
When I was in high school, subs rarely had a background in the subject they were subbing in, so we either ended up chatting with the sub and each other, or using the time as a study hall while the sub read a book.
There are all sorts of people who have one-track minds or intense passions that come out at every opportunity. Way back in high school, my homeroom teacher talked endlessly about the military (he still had a military buzz cut, thirty years out of the military).
I know I've gone through passion jags. Thankfully I'm out of the unicorn phase (freshman year in highschool and maybe a smidge into sophomore year, but in college I met a dorm mate in college who was deeply into unicorns - I never saw so many unicorn t-shirts in my life. And if she wasn't talking about unicorns, she was talking about Dungeons & Dragons).
People talk about what they're interested in, and no matter what your passion, it's hard to grasp sometimes that the whole world isn't as fascinated by a subject as you are.
02-25-2011, 05:54 AM
I think that was a really weird tangent for her to go off into considering the situation, but I imagine she feels like she has finally "seen the light" and wants to shout from the rooftops to anyone she feels like she can help to see how great health and fitness can feel. Again, weird though!
02-25-2011, 07:44 AM
I wouldn't say that I talk about "weight loss" a lot, but I do end up talking about great recipes I tried or ways to make simple meals healthier. One co-worker is very actively interested in health and weight loss so we chat sometimes. My other co-workers are heavy themselves, so I tend not to bring it up with them, unless I'm talking about something tasty I made.
02-25-2011, 09:57 AM
I remember when I lost weight the first time, I saw that movie - "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" and one of the ways was to tell him every day everything you ate that day. Haha - well my poor boyfriend because at the end of every day I would tell him everything I ate. I didn't lose him (and he really never seemed to mind) but it did make me realize that I was talking about it way too much. So now I talk less about it and try to just git er done.
02-25-2011, 10:41 AM
I thought that you were going to ask whether it becomes the center of conversation from other people - and I was going to say a resounding "YES!". It's all people will talk about with me - ok not all, but it always comes up. It's funny that I actually wish people would stop talking about it...the compliments are nice but some people just won't stop. I NEVER bring it up myself. I just don't have any urge to talk about it, I'd rather I'd never been overweight and didn't have to lose it, I almost feel a bit, I don't know, ashamed (not sure that's the right word) that I needed to lose 100 pounds (and more, because I've been higher in my past)! If someone is struggling with their own weight loss and wants to talk, I'm more than happy to discuss and share what works for me, but I'd never in a million years consider preaching to anybody.
02-25-2011, 12:44 PM
I don't bring it up but if someone else does I become hard to shut up.
I find the topic absolutely fascinating from a variety of angles.
And about those freshman 15? It's not a given. :no: In fact, I was at my tiniest in college because I walked absolutely everywhere. Many campuses are very walking friendly. And public transportation is often unnecessary and at my school it was inconvenient. I was out walking 10-15 minutes every 1.5 hours, I walked a full mile to dinner, less for breakfast and lunch. In fact it was because I did so much walking in college and STOPPED cold upon entering the adult world that I packed on a hundred pounds, no joke. It only took me 12 years to figure that one out. :rolleyes:
02-25-2011, 12:57 PM
It takes up a lot of my mind and there's a lot of learning when making healthy choices. So ya it comes up more than it probably should. :p But I really try hard not to have it come up in my professional life (beyond casual convos with trusted coworkers).
But to be fair, I wouldn't have minded being reminded in a strong way to avoid decisions in food/drink that would put on my freshman 20! :D
02-25-2011, 01:53 PM
I do not discuss weight loss, diet, exercise much at all with anyone except a few friends when they bring it up. I have been posting on facebook a bit about my gluten free/dairy free diet because I know some others have done it or may want to try it. But other than that..nope.
02-25-2011, 03:03 PM
You know, subs rarely teach so much as babysit until the regular teacher gets back, so I'm guessing that she was filling time with something she finds important. Regular teachers always go back over what they missed and subs know that. And you know what? So many of us start to gain the weight when we get away from parents and get to start making our own, sometimes bad, choices at college, that the importance of exercise and nutrition from somebody who's been there may just be the most important information you get out of that class all semester.
02-25-2011, 05:53 PM
I would never talk about weight loss in front of my entire class....it just seems too personal to me. I'm not even sure if my classes know my first name (mainly cause they don't pay attention), let alone something so personal as a 90lb weight loss. I get that she is a sub and all, but it just seems to be a strange topic to focus on, esp. in a school setting.
02-25-2011, 08:12 PM
While I think her going on about it as a sub teacher was out of line, I do think that when anything is a big part of your life, you tend to talk about it a lot.
When you have a new baby - you talk about your baby. When you get a puppy, you talk about your puppy. When you get a new boyfriend... and so on.
Now, for someone like my husband who is just gradually trying to take off 20 pounds, it probably isn't all consuming. He isn't changing much to lose those pounds.
For me, I'm dropping carbs, adding exercise and watching portions. That's a lot of change. Now, I have always eaten good foods and homemade foods, but I'm changing it up and guess what? it takes a lot of energy to do taht so, it will be something I talk about more - depending on the audience.
02-25-2011, 10:21 PM
For me it hasn't. I'm not one to do that kind of thing to people, though. I only say something when I get direct questions on how I did it.
02-26-2011, 12:17 AM
I don't bring up my efforts to lose weight in my conversations because in my situation it tends to attract negative attention. In my family, for instance, I'm the only non-athletic person and while my family encourages me to lose more and do more, the inevitable "you're not doing enough" will come up. At work, on the other hand, it's none of their business how I eat or how I burn my calories. If someone does want to talk about it, I'll pipe in every now and then, but I will avoid making it the focus of the conversation.
02-26-2011, 12:40 AM
I know exactly what it feels like to be the one who wishes all the dieters would just shut up about it. I didn't give a rat's hoot about their calories or points or carbs or if they felt sooo guilty for eating a slice of pizza. In fact, it was a total buzzkill while I was snarfing as many pieces of pizza I wanted. Sure, I wanted to lose weight, but hearing them talk about it just annoyed me. For one, I felt it was their business and I didn't care about their diets, but it also rubbed my nose in the fact that I wasn't doing anything about my own weight issue.
However, once I started my weight loss journey, I thought about it all the time and I wanted to talk about it all the time. I noticed things and saw things in perspectives I had never considered before. I was privately horrified when I saw somebody eating a piece of pizza...did they not *realize* how many calories were in that!? How could that fit in their daily calories?? And obviously, I was just so consumed with my own diet and weight loss that I was projecting it onto other people when they, like I had once been, couldn't care less.
I have certain friends who I can talk about all of it with, and we can talk for hours. And I can lurk/post on 3FC all day. I do try to curb my desire to talk about it with just anybody because I know how annoying it can be to be the listener. Sometimes I'll throw a relatively generic comment out there like "ugh, how many calories do you think are in that?" when out at lunch with girls I might not know too well just to test the waters. It's pretty dang easy to figure out who would want to talk about it and who wouldn't by who takes the bait.
02-26-2011, 01:21 AM
it's basically been all i talked about for as long as i can remember. mostly the healthy food end of it.
i was about 9 when i made the connection that the label on the cereal box says i need fiber, this raisin bran has a whopping 9 grams or whatever it was. and this cereal keeps me from starving before lunch.
i was at a healthy weight until pregnancy and after. this go around trying to lose, which feels like my first REAL try, my focus was much more on exercise. it's much more about the exercise for me, getting that done, then i keep my portions in control better, make better choices. ya da ya da.
i tend to talk the ear off of whoever i'm talking to. but i did notice when i lost weight people didn't want a lot of details. i'm all excited about this new exercise video and blah blah blah, they want to celebrate my accomplishment, but they're clearly tired of talking about all the healthy stuff. so i try not to bring it up as much. actually, at thanksgiving, it was everyone else bringing it up, i was surprised i got so many noticing. but i had dropped 50 lbs, so it's very noticeable. i'm glad my in laws are as supportive as they are.
actually, for a few years my career goal was to talk about it everyday as a dietician, but that never happened.
02-26-2011, 05:46 AM
A lot of people around me talk about it and to be honest I love talking about it generally (when other people bring it up) I do love conversations about weight loss and what people are doing exercise and food.
I don't like talking about my own personal journey because people are always giving me their opinion on what I should be doing/eating and well I do like constructive critisism but what I am doing is working for me and I am enjoying my journey. So yeah, I love general chatter around the subject.
02-26-2011, 09:56 AM
i try not to. Someone i know does it ALL THE TIME. It doesnt matter what you are talking about she brings it up, even to other people. Most of the time people wonder why it was brought up.
You could be talking to her and someone else even someone she doesnt know out of no where she mentions how much she lost, when weight or health are NOT the topic. ALL im going to say is do not let yourself get that way! Do that on the forums because WOW that is the most IRRITATING thing in the world.
02-26-2011, 01:25 PM
I've noticed that the more something is on my mind, the more I tend to talk about it. Whether it's food/exercise/weight loss, making lip balm, or anything else that's a central part of my life right now, I just tend to not shut up, ever. Kind of annoying, but I just can't help it.