Beck Diet Solution - Beck Diet For Life/Solution Ė February 2011 Ė Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach




BillBlueEyes
02-01-2011, 06:58 AM
Welcome to the discussion group, support group, diet coach group, diet buddy group relating to the two books by Dr. Judith S. Beck:The Complete Beck Diet for Life (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/084873274X/3fatchionadie)and the first bookThe Beck DIET solution: train your brain to think like a thin person. (http://astore.amazon.com/3fatchionadie/detail/0848731735/104-4216363-1799918)

The Beck Diet Solution is a psychological program, not a food plan. It provides a step-by-step program to learn specific techniques to stay on our diet, lose weight, and maintain our weight loss for life. The program is based on Dr. Beck's clinical research in Cognitive Therapy (CT).

The Complete Beck Diet for Life expands the earlier work and includes a food plan with suggested menus. From the cover:With The Complete Beck Diet for Life you'll discover the 5 stages of successful dieting and maintenance. You'll learn how to motivate yourself, give yourself credit for every change you make, create time and energy for dieting, and handle hunger and cravings. Dr. Beck eases you into changing one step at a time. You'll master one task before moving on to the next. And you'll learn techniques to deal with challenging situations, such as sticking with ou plan at celebrations and dealing with "food pushers." With Dr. Beck's skills, you'll achieve a lifetime of healthful eating and lifelong motivation.

This is a place to discuss the Beck strategies and our daily efforts, to receive and provide support, and, for some of us, is where we serve as on-line diet buddy (coach) to each other.

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You can find the list of previous (or more current) monthly Beck threads here on 3 Fat Chicks via:

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BillBlueEyes
02-01-2011, 06:59 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Made my brown-bag lunch from leftovers noting that I only needed to use half of each item if I put the white beans over broccoli slaw for volume. Made a dandy lunch and I have the other halves for today. CREDIT moi for slowly becoming aware that I don't need as much food as my eyeballs would choose.

The city picked up the two large computer monitors that I put out for their recycling program. That finishes the de-cluttering of obsolete desktop computers - on to laptops. To my surprise, I've found just one - thought there were more - but DW reminded me that I'd loaned out two so they aren't a problem until returned. CREDIT moi for slowly continuing instead of beating myself up for having kept the stuff for so long. Part of the volume and the uncertainty is that I'm the repository of the discards from both adult kids since I can't stand for anybody to part with a computer.

Gym was gym, CREDIT moi.


CeeJay - Yep, moving forward with planned and packed lunch; Kudos. Ouch for a cookie attack. Reminds me, isn't Girl Scout cookie time approaching?

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Good grief; I read you weather prediction with the thought "glad it's not me." Then finally read my own weather prediction; we get it next. Hope you avoid the ice part.

Shepherdess - I hate the frustration of tasks that take too long and can't get finished. Kudos for accepting that instead of eating to relieve frustration.

Beverlyjoy - Yay for the improving back.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - It's a good thing you measure temperature in Centigrade because 40C would have been 104 degrees Fahrenheit which is really, really hot. Kudos for "I had a plan and stuck to it" - that's the formula.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - That is so funny to have a bag of chips explode at 10,783 feet. Just thinking of the consternation if that happened on an airplane.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yay for so much walking in Disney World.

Nature Girl - Ouch for a body in protest; Kudos for posting anyway.

MaryContrary - Witnessing the birth of a Gray Whale is just awesome. Sounds like a good plan to "not have even ONE cheeto" - those little guys are addictive.

maryann - Beautiful clarity, "One Day at a Time OP." That should do it.

ChefJoona - De-cluttering old cooking magazines deserves a Kudos - those are so seductive. And another Kudos for thoughtfully adjusting your plan for your evening snack. Yep, scales don't coincide with op-plan days in the short run; but your body knows.

Carol (carols2) - Kudos for shopping for the foods for a successful week; the ultimate meal planning includes the supermarket.

Ruby (RubyJan) - LOL at "two more hours of work to get done before I can start reading" because I was so excited when I first discovered Beck that I kept a library copy at the office to read during lunch.

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

You Will Change Your Mindset
By the time you finish the Beck Diet for Life Program, you will notice how different the "new" you is from the "old" you.

. . .
The old you thought: There are "good" foods and "bad" foods. I should never have a bad food.
The new you thinks: I can eat a favorite food, in a reasonable portion, as often as once a day.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 18.

ChefJoona
02-01-2011, 07:47 AM
Happy February!

Just a quick post, as my morning is flying by and I must get ready for work.

Yesterday was on-plan. I did some reading in the Pink Book which led to a new burst of motivation! I made a NO CHOICE to night time snacking card, and posted it on the cupboard as I walk into the kitchen. It is bright orange and I can't miss it!

Credit for getting out for a half hour walk too!

Snow is arriving for us tomorrow...

Naturegirl Well wishes for a speedy recovery!

Here's to a new month!


Newlifestyle
02-01-2011, 09:11 AM
Good morning everyone,
We are going to get a big storm here starting tonight. I can't believe all the warnings they have for it.
I was OP with my eating. I felt like mindlessly eating last night so I went to bed so I couldn't, I think when I am tired I feel like eating even though I am not hungry. I avoided that one last night by going to sleep.
I hope everyone has a great day.
I have been reading on here and have spent more time that I had planned.
Take Care
Ann

gardenerjoy
02-01-2011, 12:56 PM
The first of the month is the day I change my ticker and, today, there is no change. That's only the second time since I began this journey that I haven't moved the ticker down on the first of the month. Last time, I used it as a motivator to change everything. This time, since I pretty much need to accept that weight loss is going to be slower now, I think I'm going to be a bit more subtle.

I'm going to commit to two days a week of strength training because I've been doing less than that lately.

I'm going to incorporate more foods from the list of 40 heart-healthy foods in the book WomenHeart’s All Heart Family Cookbook. I'm drinking a cup of tea, right now!

I'm going to read The Way to Eat by David L. Katz and The Eating Well Diet by Dr. Jean Harvey-Berino and consider whether something from either of those books might be the foundation for a more drastic change if February doesn't produce better results than January did.

We are getting sleet more than freezing rain. The power company seems less worried about sleet, so I'm feeling a bit less stressed. We're under a blizzard warning for this afternoon and evening. Apparently, a blizzard has a precise definition based on snowfall and wind. The biggest snowfall St. Louis has ever seen (1982 when I was in college) was not a blizzard because it wasn't windy. I don't recall every being in a blizzard. Should be interesting.

WI: +0.25kg, Exercise: +40* 1305/1300 minutes for January, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

masondixonmama
02-01-2011, 01:03 PM
Hello everyone and thank you for the warm welcome. I will figure out how to keep up with these threads one day; they are so fast moving. I would love to know how you are able to keep up with individual responses. I get the daily email digest, so I am probably going to be a bit behind.

I originally came to 3 fat chicks looking for information on another diet, and then I found the Beck thread. I had never heard of it, so I read quite a bit and did some internet research. I popped in on the beck diet institute website, and that was how I found out about the workshop with Dr. Beck. I am not far from Philly, so I jumped at the chance to attend. It was really interesting. There was a great mix of people: dieters, nutritionists, therapists, doctors, you name it. Dr. Beck did some roleplaying with members of the audience and it was fascinating to watch.

As I mentioned before, I am working on improving my self-esteem and being gentle with myself before I jump into the major diet changes. I love the structure of it all, I just hope I can keep up with it. A major problem of mine in the past has been to give up on dieting at the slightest imperfection. I tend to hold myself to very high standards and then let it all go at the first mistake. I need to work really hard to keep at it even if I'm not perfect.

Are there any other moms with small children on here? I would be very interested to hear how you have managed to change your family's meals.

I hope everyone has a great day.

Andrea

Shepherdess
02-01-2011, 05:12 PM
Looks like another exciting day. I woke up this AM to 30 below and frozen pipes. Luckily the pipes are an easy fix, but weíve been having truck problems on top of that. We thought we had the winterizing figured out, but the heater in the well-house went out sometime yesterday. We just need to hold on a little longer since it will be up in the 30s by Thursday.

Yesterday was not a complete waste. I had another Dr. appointment and got to hear the babyís heart beat again. Itís always fun and a relief to hear that everything is OK for both of us. Stayed on my food plan, despite having everything up in the air. It was too cold for outdoor exercise, but did my weights inside.

Welcome Masondixonmama! Itís great that you got to attend Beckís workshop. It sounds like you came back with a start to the weight loss journey. It does seem a bit overwhelming at first, but you can work on this a little bit at a time.

Gardenerjoy, I hope that youíre surviving the storm.

Waving to everyone else!

Beverlyjoy
02-01-2011, 06:11 PM
Hi friends, coaches... I am happy to say that yesterday was another on plan day. I am grateful & for the willingness to try.
I had many credits:

planned/logged/measured food
no second helpings
left a bite
read arc/rc
did exercises and rec. bike
lots of water
journalled
kept track of my sodium
more aware of taste
more aware of timing

I had a couple of times of wanting more after a meal. Salty after sweet. Sweet after savory. Many times - I shouted back to those thoughts and used some distractions to refrain. One time I had a nibble of a candy cane. I figured - it's not that wonderful in the long run.

I made some healthy soups for this week - mushroom and asparagus. Need lots of veggies!

We are having a major ice storm. Freezing rain, sleet, rain, snow etc. Many places are having blizzards. I don't like blizzards! More of the same weather is coming tomorrow. We have power now, I am grateful, as some folks near by do not have power. The trees etc, all incased in ice, are so beautiful. I don't know of many artists, except maybe a photographer, who haved captured the beauty of an icestorm. I googled it on 'images' and found a couple of pretty paintings. Onebyone - have you seen such a painting? Round two of the ice storm is tomorrow. DH is home and working in his home office. He'll be home tomorrow too.

I hope all and any folks being bombarded with the severe winter weather throughout North America are safe and well.

Seadwaters - I see the awful flooding in Australia and am hoping for the best results during and afterwards.

Lexxiss
02-01-2011, 09:35 PM
Hi Coaches!

It's only 15 below here with no snow...internet was non functioning this afternoon. We dealt with one of mom's renters who had frozen pipes and no heat this morning. My schedule got all whacked up and my eating reflected it. I got back on track and am anticipating a healthy OP dinner. Exercise was dealing with winter problems...I did do jumping jacks while waiting for the pups outside.

Take care everyone, especially NatureGirl with all your discomfort, and Cheryl(seadwaters) with your heatwave and risk of fire.

carols2
02-01-2011, 11:32 PM
Beverlyjoy - I must say your success with consistently having OP days is encouraging me to stay on plan. I am finding strength from your strength. Thanks.

Lexxiss – Isn’t it strange how easy we can let other things in our life affect what we eat? I guess its called stress eating. Kudos for the jumping jacks.

Shepherdess – I did not realize you have a “Bun in the Oven” Congratulations!

Masondixonmama – One thing I have to constantly remember is, just because I stumble, that does not mean I have stumbled for the entire day, or the entire week. If I eat off plan at 3:00, it’s ok. I’ll just continue on plan the remainder of the day. Even if I have to tell myself that three or four times a day. I have to remind myself the most important goal is not to give up. I may get frustrated, but I will not give up.

BillBlueEyes – The eyeballs do play tricks on us. I keep trying to remember that my eyes are much bigger than my stomach. I find myself wasting a lot of food because of my eyeballs.

ChefJonna – I like the choice you made. A ”NO CHOICE to night time snacking card”. I am going to go make one also. Mine goes on the refrigerator handle. I have no snack foods in the food pantry. Everything in there has to be cooked. I do have my 4 carbohydrate yogurt I planned on eating. It is an “OP” item.

Give myself credit for:
Biking for 75 minutes
Eating on Plan
Reading Response cards
Reading Advantages of Dieting
Posting on this site

vibrantheart
02-02-2011, 12:01 AM
credits
healthy breakfast
walked about 15 minutes
ate sitting down
on time
two fruits

Nature Girl
02-02-2011, 12:15 AM
Today was a better day. I still hurt and I'm worried about how this will heal, but I took the time this morning (I seem to have less pain after 10+ hours of sleep!) and made a food plan with soft, easy on the stomach foods for the day. Amazingly, as of 8 pm this evening, I'm OP! It feels good to have something go ok for a change. Hopefully the appointment tomorrow will also go well. I'm making another food plan and unless they actually pull another tooth tomorrow, I am adding a relaxed, short walk to the day also so I feel like I can eventually get back on track with exercise also.
One step at a time!

FutureFitChick
02-02-2011, 01:25 AM
Coaches/Buddies, Iíve been bunkered in because of the ice storm. My poor husband has been stuck in Denver (flights are already cancelled for 2/2/11 as well). At least we have friends there he can stay with.

I went to my mom and step-dadís this weekend to celebrate my step-dadís 60th birthday. It sent me way of track with my eating and have overeaten at several meals since then. Add to that I went to a health assessment screening Monday and my HDL was below detectable limits by this instrument. (Total cholesterol, BP, and BG were all healthy.) So Iím kind of scratching my head about that and have been resistant to think about planning and eating healthy today. I've been debating changing my diet plan or whether I need to step up my commitment to Superfoods Rx. I did spend lots of time on visualizing healthy habits today, so weíll see if that helps. I started with my new trainer Monday. I really like her and she is really on top of things.

Todayís Essentials:
Weigh-in: +.5 lbs.
Read Advantage Cards two times: no
Read Response Cards at least two times: no
Ate slowly, sitting down, noticing every bite: no
Gave myself credit when I engaged in helpful eating behaviors: yes
Did spontaneous exercise: yes
Did planned exercise: yes
Wrote out food plan for tomorrow: no
Tracked todayís food: no
Left food on my plate: no
Ate only to normal fullness: no
Identified and responded to a self-deluding thought: yes

BeverlyJoy, hope your back is feeling better! I hope your tattoo of ďFood does not take away physical painĒ was not too painful. I loved reading your wedding story! What a time! Congratulations on your anniversary. Iím sure planning your diet with so many restrictions is frustrating! Keep at it though. I know youíll soon have an arsenal full of go to meals in your recipe box. Great job for being on plan and setting yourself up for success on your vacation. Keep warm in this storm!

BillBlueEyes, your broccoli slaw and dal sounded wonderful. I will have to keep that in mind for a rice substitute. Do you eat them both hot? Iím really glad your back is better and you were able to safely shovel. The revised dinner plan on Saturday sounds great. Sometimes on-plan eating at home seems like elegance beyond what anyone deserves. I loved this sentiment and will use it when Iím tempted to order out rather than cook because Iím too tired. How cool that Dr. Beck reads this forum occasionally! That is surely largely to do with you, so thank you for your consistency and effort. The application of Beck to decluttering is very wise.

Carols2, sending you strength as you deal with the scale issues. I hope your transition to longer working hours is going better for you. Sorry PT was so exhausting for you and about the pain medication. Are you feeling better? Great job for the long exercise bike time yesterday.

CeeJay, hope you are doing better and able to get caught up on some work. Sorry to hear about the Timbits. I always ďallowĒ myself to make excuses when Iím driving and end up with junk foods and syrup sweetened coffee to ďkeep me alertĒ. Truly, Iím just using that as an excuse and I need to develop different habits for long car trips. Thanks for helping me see that in myself. Great job for being on plan on Sunday and saying ďOh wellĒ after the cookies.

ChefJoona, good strategy with your DPís salty snacks and sweets. I hope Saturdayís weigh in was rewarding. Your black bean soup sounds lovely! I know it is a challenge to cook when your other half isnít helping or participating in what you are making. Stick with it!

eiscicle, welcome to 3FC and to the Beck group. This is a wonderful group of supportive people. Forget the battles of your past, retain the lessons learned, and letís move forward together!

GardenerJoy, sorry about the disappointing scale value. I loved your response to the fried food. That is really remarkable! What wine and cheese shop do you like in St. Louis? Iím always keeping my eye out for gifts for my mother- and step-father-in-laws. Hope you faired OK in the storm. Hugs to you because of not being able to move your ticker.

Lexxiss, great job talking DH out of Taco Bell. Glad to hear the yogurt was good! I love that you could do it without electricity. I hope the hot springs are wonderful! I am really excited to hear about your NO CHOICE at KFC. That is fantastic. Your exploding chips were hilarious. Your plan for getting back on track was terrific and hope it was really successful for you.

Madrikh, good to read your check in.

Maryann, loved hearing about your 4th on plan day in a row. That is terrific! And now, I read about day 5! So impressive. Great strategies for the end of day treat helping you stay on plan. Iím excited to hear about your OAMC. It is really tough to plan, shop, and prepare all of that while staying on a diet plan. Credit to you!

MaryContrary, sending good thoughts for continuing productivity on your writing. And recognizing the ill effects of caffeine and salt is terrific. Your story of witnessing a whale being born took my breath away. I cannot even begin to imagine how it felt to be there. Any chance you took pictures? Your weekly plan sounds ambitious! Good luck.

masondixonmama, welcome to the Beck group. I look forward to reading your future posts. How did you like the Beck workshop? I really appreciated the changes for life sentiment too and thank you for posting that.

Naturegirl, sorry to hear about your tooth, but glad you got it out. I am sending massive doses of virtual chicken or vegetable soup (your preference) with a humidifier and lots of fluids.

Newlifestyle, welcome home. I loved your sentiments about book inscriptions and find that whenever I read one addressed to someone else, I feel a bit like Iím reading something Iím not supposed to and makes me wonder what the original owner was like.

Onebyone, hope the packing is going well. Great job on the home cooking and sorry to hear about the candy.

Rubyjan, hi and welcome to the group. This is a wonderfully supportive place! Glad to hear your books are on the way and youíve got exercise already in your life. I love that you were taking lessons for swimming. Here every time Iíve looked for swimming lessons, all Iíve found are lessons for children Ė as if adults canít develop their skills too!

Seadwaters, feel free to ďwhineĒ about the heat. It sounds luxurious to me right now. Iím glad your anti-inflammatory medication is working. What do you mean by ďtrying to write a subject for the semesterĒ? Sending your cool weather wishes. Your weather situation doesnít sound much less serious to me. I think heat that hot is pretty dangerous too.

Shepherdess, good recovery from Friday. Any news on the job interview? Iím glad Saturday was on plan enough for you and you were able to make the best of yesterday. Good luck with the winter weather woes!

Vibrantheart , welcome to 3FC and welcome to the Beck group! This is a wonderful group of people and Iím sure youíll feel supported and welcomed here. Nice lists of credits you have there!

MaryContrary
02-02-2011, 03:37 AM
Hello, my Forum.

I usually do my posting in the morning, right before getting down to research and writing, but today has been an off sort of day. I'm beginning to see the benefit of working at home. It means I actually get some work done on days that are "off."

Still running on the high of a great weekend, and really feeling a burst of productivity. I have put a lot of pressure on myself to get stuff done this semester, probably because I'll have to go back to teaching in the fall. The pressure, right now, is extremely useful. And working out and watching my eating is helping to keep me from swinging to feeling overwhelmed. Love to see how these things balance themselves out.

Credits: re-arranging my day to accomodate an intense workout AND some studying; staying OP; visiting here; resisting cheetos and random eating in the kitchen (so hard when I grate cheese, but I did it!)

maryann, that's a great suggestion. I've been doing some mental "stapling," and I made sure that none of the cheetos made it into our room. Also, I think some goals should be celebrated! You're doing wonderful things.

Nature Girl, many powerful thoughts toward your recovery!

Lexxiss, loved the story about the exploding chips! You are always on inspiration for getting back on track.

carols2, thanks for cheering me on as I enter the 170s! As many of the long-time coaches tell us, don't feel guilty about posting! Just get back on track. I think I disappeared for about a month, and every one just welcomed me back. This is the one place in the world where you will NOT be judged. Peace.

seadwaters, hope you are safe and sound.

chefjoona, you remind me to crack open these books, I love the inspirations and epiphanies that follow! Also, I'm adoring your idea of the post-it note. Good luck!

gardenerjoy, you have a very healthy perspective on a slow-moving ticker. I've been struggling with the feeling that I might have plateaued when, in reality, I think my weight loss has just slowed down from the first four months.

masondixonmama, one of the best things about Beck, for me, has been that it has demanded I first address my self-esteem and perfectionist issues. The Get Back on Track response has been a really big help to me in dealing with these nagging voices. I also have a Response Card that reads "It is not the end of the world. You have not Screwed It All Up -- get back on track!" It has become a mantra for me.

shepherdess, a belated congrats on the baby! Somehow I missed this wonderful news.

beverlyjoy, that's a great list of credits! Stay safe in the weather.

FutureFitChick, alas no pictures. I wanted to be in the moment, and was also afraid of dropping the Iphone when startled by a swell. I hope you and DH are safe during this storm (even if apart). I admire your list of Essentials, btw! Sounds like you're getting yourself on the right track!

Sending positive energy to all of you!

RubyJan
02-02-2011, 05:01 AM
Hi everyone. Well, I am awash in Beck Books. Got a bit overwhlemed, but have decided to use the Original PINK book with the BIG PINK workbook, and then turn to the diet for life when I need something extra to read (like a piece of advice ready and waiting in case of emergency. I am on day three of the workbook, and have picked my diets -- weight watchers and for my back up, the Beck Diet for Life. I came out in sweats fussing about what to choose, but now feel quite excited. I have my advantages card all nicely written on a card and I taped the first 'response card' -- do it anyway --on the back of it -- am starting to feel more decisively pleased with my doing this -- can't wait to get some credits.
I want to start addressing your messages soon, but feel I should prove my seaworthiness first by actually starting the weight watchers diet! I am going to a meeting on Friday. Is there a protocol that we don't talk much about the diet we are on? I know there are other forums for specific diets, so that's okay with me, but just wondered.
So toe in the water, and hoping that you each and all over on the North American Continent are sleeping peacefully before the major storms -- I wonder when the UK is going to get its share of weather horror -- and that you dress up warm when you get up. RubyJan

GosfordGirl
02-02-2011, 05:05 AM
Hi Coaches
Only a toasty warm 30C tonight at 8pm. The night time temps all last night were over 30 last night - unbelievably uncomfortable. We are going for a record number of days over 35 by Sunday this week apparently! I just got home and have to cook / eat so unfortunately I can't do personals but I have read all your posts and thanks for the ideas and inspirations

I ate on plan today. Last night it was too hot to eat so I found myself grazing. Not a good option as I always eat more than I plan. Tonight I am making a proper meal. I have planned lunch for tomorrow. I checked in here, I weighed myself, and I used the stairs. About all I can say about today.

Futurefitchick - you asked about "writing a subject for the semester" - I teach at uni (nursing and research) and I coordinate a subject that I am planning and writing the program for at the moment. Hope you get to jump back on plan and get back on track. I found my 60th birthday fairly distracting as well!

Stay well Beckies

BillBlueEyes
02-02-2011, 07:43 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - It's predicted to be Armageddon here today with sleet, rain, snow, and ice. I shoveled snow for exercise yesterday, CREDIT moi, having to toss the stuff up high on the stacks already there. My back is OK this morning; apparently I'm getting better at using proper form.

Eating was OP, CREDIT moi. I left work early as the snow began to get deep to get home to begin the fight. That meant that I deserted the lunch I'd taken and had a sandwich of peanut butter, banana, and toasted pecans on toasted whole wheat bread ends - my favorite lunch in the whole world.


FutureFitChick - Ouch for a DH stuck far away - even though stuck with friends rather than at an airport. And Ouch for low HDL readings. Mine were unbelievably low when I started out, my doctor being less concerned since the ratio to Total was still OK. But HDL went up with exercise and weight loss and Total Cholesterol went down. [Yep, I heat the dahl over broccoli slaw in the micorwave so both are hot - really tastey. The broccoli slaw is marginally cooked; I like it that way.]

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Admiring your mindful acceptance that losses will be slow as you approach goal. I had that same experience. In fact, since I had no weight goal - just an eating plan - it took me several months of no losses before I declared that I was done.

Shepherdess - Congrats for making it to the doctor in 30 below. Going from -30 to +30 within the week is one big swing. I know you've told me otherwise, but I shudder at all your sheep in that cold. Love that heart beat.

Beverlyjoy - Drooling over your home made mushroom and asparagus soups. The new gov't regulations call for reduced sodium - 1500 mg sodium for those over 51 - so we all should be tracking it. DW just pointed out to me that there's 300 mg in two slices of bread. Ouch.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yay for cooling down to 30C - albeit still "unbelievably uncomfortable." (He said, truly trying to sound sympathetic when the notion of a little warmth is so appealing right now, LOL.)

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Ouch for frozen pipes. Kudos for "got back on track" - just like Beck's quote for today.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yep, going to bed kills those munchies. BTDT.

Nature Girl - Sending supportive thoughts as you let your body heal itself back to healthy so you can become your vigorous outdoor self again.

MaryContrary - Congrats on "a burst of productivity" and for getting it all together at the same time. I'm still in awe at the Grey Whale birth.

ChefJoona - Love the image of a bright orange NO CHOICE right on the cupboard.

Carol (carols2) - Kudos for "Biking for 75 minutes" - stationary, I presume. Do you read or listen to music when doing that?

Ruby (RubyJan) - LOL at "awash in Beck Books" - Yep, starting with the Pink Pair sounds sane. My next door neighbor is from London; when out shoveling this snow with me he looked around and said, "It's a proper winter," LOL. His wife burst out laughing when I asked her if she'd arrived from London with the warm coat she was wearing; warm coats were purchased here. Don't rush to do personal responses. My take is that getting your daily accountability is the most important thing.

Andrea (masondixonmama) - My suggestion is to ignore writing personal responses for now. After a while, you'll begin to see individuals rise out of their posts - first will quite likely be the others who've just arrived - and then you can start responding to those few; you don't have to respond to everyone. You gotta avoid getting overwhelmed and then driven away by that process; the important thing is to post daily, or often, for accountability. With small children, time is scarce.

vibrantheart - Kudos for a list of credits in your first post. Walking is how I started doing exercise; I started by going around the block - that's what I could do. It got easier, fast; I was surprised. Glad you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

You Will Change Your Mindset
By the time you finish the Beck Diet for Life Program, you will notice how different the "new" you is from the "old" you.

. . .
The old you thought: I just cheated on my diet. I've blown it. I may as well continue eating whatever I want and start again tomorrow.
The new you thinks: Okay, I made a mistake. No big deal. I'll start again right this minute so I won't gain weight.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 18.

BillBlueEyes
02-02-2011, 07:43 AM
:welcome: vibrantheart :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post, :wel3fc:

How did you hear about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find this forum on 3 Fat Chicks?

ChefJoona
02-02-2011, 10:20 AM
Winter wonderland here in the Green Mountains!

Work is closed today, which was a BIG suprise. I work at a human services agency and we NEVER close. The snow is piling up, and its continuing to come down.

I'm at a bit of a loss of what to do with myself today. Usually when I'm bored, I cook, but I have a supply of healthy things prepared in the kitchen, and it would be wasteful to make more, and lead to nibbles off plan. I'm going to go out and snow shoe or x-country ski around the neighborhood before they clear the side walks. I'll do it soon, as I know if the day progresses I'll get stuck to the couch and not want to move.

On-plan eating day yesterday! Well, I did substitute my morning and afternoon snacks with some "sour patch kid" candies someone put out in the office, but I think at least the calorie exchange was about the same. I entered the danger zone after dinner when I found myself unmindfully making a cup of hot chocolate (not on my plan). I took a few sips then dumped it- remembering that it will either go to waste down the drain, or in my body.

I have decided to introduce a second weigh-in mid-week- I think Thursday mornings. I am hoping this will help me get more information about how my week is going and allow me to make changes rather than waiting until Sundays and getting a suprise.

I'm recognizing I'm not that great with personals yet. I find I get overwhelmed with just being honest about my own report. I do read all your words and appreciate them, and definitely appreciate the personalized comments to me!

Hoping for a strong day, only feet from my kitchen!

Hope everyone going through this weather stays safe!

gardenerjoy
02-02-2011, 11:47 AM
Our historic snow storm was oversold. Although, three inches of accumulated sleet would have been impressive had we not been expecting more wintry weather. We went out to shovel sleet late yesterday, but discovered a sheet of ice underneath so decided to leave it be. I'm not quite sure what we're going to do now that there's an inch or two of snow on top of that. If the best we can do is scrape it down to ice, we may just walk and drive over the snow until the weekend when it gets a bit warmer.

Credit for meeting my exercise goal in January and starting off February with a bootcamp video that included strength training.

WI: +0.15kg, Exercise: +50* 50/1300 minutes for February, Food: 85%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Welcome, vibrantheart!

FutureFitChick: The Wine Merchant (http://www.winemerchantltd.com/) is the wine and cheese shop we use in St. Louis

RubyJan: it's fine to talk about Weight Watchers here. I'll be curious to know how it goes for you. WW is kind of a perennial backup plan for me.

BillBlueEyes: I'm guessing that your snowstorm will live up to the predictions. Most of ours slipped north--there were parts of Missouri that got a foot or more of snow, just not here. Glad you're finding a way to shovel that doesn't cause pain.

Hello to everyone else!

RubyJan
02-02-2011, 12:18 PM
Well, now I do have something to say to two of you: Seadwaters and FutureFitChick, because I, too, noticed the 'semester' reference, and I am a University Prof. over here in London -- so I can relate to the write/eat dilemmas of working at a laptop -- for me, my new plan is going to involve trying to do all my writing at the British LIbrary so I learn to write without eating! Many years ago, about 27 in fact, I had exactly the same problem with writing and smoking. When I gave up smoking I had to learn to write all over again, and did it by making myself write in the Library. Today is day 3 of the PINK BOOK, and I didn't have much trouble sitting down to eat -- I expect the tasks to get a bit harder as the weeks go by. Ruby

FutureFitChick
02-02-2011, 12:53 PM
Coaches/Buddies, my pup and I are still snowbound and my husband is still stuck in Denver. Iím feeling better about my health and am grateful for an extra day without other appointments that I can work at home. I am in a bit of pain today and Iím not sure if it is weather or new exercise trainer related.

Todayís Essentials:
Weigh-in: -1 lbs.
Read Advantage Cards two times: once
Read Response Cards at least two times: once
Ate slowly, sitting down, noticing every bite: yes, spit out food when started to eat standing in kitchen
Gave myself credit when I engaged in helpful eating behaviors: yes
Did spontaneous exercise: not yet Ė snow shoveling is likely in my near future
Did planned exercise: no, snowed in
Wrote out food plan for tomorrow: not yet
Tracked todayís food: yes
Left food on my plate: yes
Ate only to normal fullness: yes
Identified and responded to a self-deluding thought: not yet

BillBlueEyes, your favorite lunch sounds delicious! Iím going to try the broccoli slaw instead of rice next time I am able to get to the grocery store.

ChefJoona, Iím really impressed with your tossing hot chocolate down the drain. Donít worry about the personals yet. Youíll get your footing soon enough.

GardenerJoy, fantastic job at meeting Januaryís exercise goal!

Maryann, sounds like you had a terrific day! Iím glad that working at home is working so well for you.

Rubyjan, your are getting off on the right foot. That is terrific. Feel free to discuss your diet here. No protocol saying you canít and everyone mentions it no and again. I was just commenting to Seadwaters that I find it interesting so many of us are university types here at the Beck forum.

Seadwaters, Iím glad you got in your dinner yesterday rather than grazing. That is a tough one! I find it interesting that there are so many university-types on this board.

silverbirch
02-02-2011, 12:58 PM
:wave: All!

I'm such a random poster here but Ruby, you mentioned the British Library. It's one of my 'safe' places to eat when I'm working in London and I've bored people rigid on the Operation 5-10 thread over in Maintainers about it. So great to meet a fellow user and diner!

This is a great board, full of great people. Thanks for letting me call by from time to time. I lurk daily. :)

Shepherdess
02-02-2011, 01:02 PM
Thank goodness for new days! I am so happy to put yesterday behind me. The nice thought of the day came from DH when we were finally sitting down to a late dinner: ďItís always a good day when it ends in a warm house with a hot meal, even if itís a pain in the *** to get there.Ē

Iím also so grateful for staying OP through it all. I had a bad weigh-in yesterday and had the thought ďwhy bother.Ē But I made healthy choices, on top of water problems, trucks breaking down and plans continually changing. Itís good that so many of my food choices have become automated so when itís meal time, I have a mental list of things to eat. Iím so happy I stuck to them because my weight is back to normal today. It would have been irrational to think I could have gained 2 lbs overnight, but Iím not always rational when I see that number on the scale.

It was too cold to spend more time outdoors than I needed to. I did some yoga and am happy I did. I could feel that tension melting away. I just need to tough it out through another cold day and it should be nice on Thursday.

Iíve been remiss in my personals lately, but feel like I have my feet under me this AM.

Beverlyjoy, yikes for ice storms and crazy weather. DH reminded me that we were lucky it was only cold, since cold is just frustrating, but weather like yours is an emergency. Great job staying OP and realizing the candy wasnít worth it in the long run. Yum for mushroom and asparagus soup!

Lexiss, great job sticking to your plan through all the crazy winter problems. I can certainly relate to that. I love the idea of jumping jacks while waiting for your dogs. Itís such a creative way to slip in some exercise.

Carols2, kudos for getting in your biking. I think you already answered this question for BillBE, but do you bike outdoors? There were lots of great biking and hiking trails in Phoenix. Great job on a long list of credits.

Welcome Vibrantheart! I love the name. Great job on a good list of credits. Which book are you working from?

Nature girl, good to hear that a good nightís sleep has helped eased your pain. Itís probably what you need right now. Great job making plans and sticking to them through it all. Youíll get back to where you were, but you need to get well first!

FutureFitChick, it sounds like wild weather across the country. I hope you stay safe through all the storms. Thereís nothing like a family event to send you off track. It sounds like your health assessment was a mixed bagósome good news and some bad. I think youíre asking all the right questions. Yay for a trainer that you like! Ouch for the pain. Hope you're feeling better soon.

MaryContrary, itís great that working from home is helping with your productivity and itís so wonderful that a side benefit of your healthy habits is keeping you on track workwise as well! Kudos for getting in an intense workout and your cheetos resistnace.

RubyJan, yay for coming out of being awash in Beck books to having a good plan (and back-up plan). Weight Watchers is a great plan! Itís been incredibly successful for lots and lots of people. Sounds like youíre getting well organized. No pressure on personals. You just need to do what you can. Iím so jealous that you do your writing in the British Library! What do you teach? LOL at learning to write all over after giving up smoking. I smoked during grad school, but just havenít felt the need since I finished my thesis. Iíd better not get back into academics. It might be bad for my health.

Seadwaters, yuck for a record number of days over 35. (I donít have much of an idea of what that temp is, but it sounds miserable!) Great job realizing the pitfalls of grazing and avoiding it.

BillBE, yikes for Amageddon weather! Sleet, rain, snow and ice sounds like a dangerous combination so stay safe. Great job perfecting your shoveling technique this winter and keeping your back healthy. [We give the sheep and the cows extra food on cold days. Their digestive systems work like furnaces so as long as they are well stoked, theyíll be OK cold. Unfortunately, that excuse doesnít work for me so I just need to bundle up.]

ChefJoona, I imagine a storm has to be pretty serious to close things down in Vermont since you guys know a thing or two about snow! I love the idea of snow-shoeing or cross-country skiing. One of these winters Iíll try to pick one of them up, but we donít get the snow you do. Great job compensating for the candy and dumping the hot chocolate. Extra credit since itís always hard to stop the train when it has already left the station. Donít worry about personals. Everyoneís post is useful, whether or not they have the time for personals.

Gardenerjoy, glad to hear the storm wasnít as big as expected, but a sheet of ice can still be dangerous, so watch out when walking/driving on it. Great job staying OP during weather uncertainty. Hereís to warmer weather coming your way!

Beverlyjoy
02-02-2011, 02:11 PM
Hi friends/coaches - yesterday was healthy (credit)..... until at midnight when the power went out. That's when I remembered that 'eating will make the power come back'...NOT. However, after doing a little stress eating the power came back on an hour later. I will not, however, use this coincedence to eat if the power goes off again!!

Today I have been having cravings. I am shouting back to all but one - did have a nibble of Dh's last candy cane. Going going gone.

Yesterday - until the power went out...
planned/measured/logged
left a bite
exericses/rec. bike
lots of water
tasted the food
jouralled
no sescond helpings

This morning I started cleaning out drawers in the guest bedroom. These drawers were full of things we moved in them ten years ago. Three piles: trash, keep, give away. You have all inspired me to get some clutter out of my life! Thanks.

Thanks for all your good wishes with this winter weather. There are 50,000 folks in my county without power. (many more further out) I am so, so grateful to have power and that ours was out for a short time. Many of you folks in North America are still dealing with this storm/blizzzard/ice & sleet fest... Be safe.

I'll try to get back. Our cousins have no power and they may be coming over to stay with the doggies and kitties.

vibrantheart
02-02-2011, 03:11 PM
Thank you to all for the welcome. I hope to become a buddy for you, and it sure is helpful to see how much you all (we all) are connected. I went to Judith Beck's workshop recently in Philadelphia, and purchased the workbook. I had previously checked out her book (on Amazon) and joined the Beck Diet Institute workshop. So I have only the workbook at this time, don't have any other books. I am trying to move toward a vegan diet, a la President Clinton and Rip Essenstyn, to control high cholesterol.
Today's credits: meditation, yoga and some upper body work. I didn't make it to the gym as planned, but at least I got a bit of exercise at home. Walked to work (20 minutes or so). I stuck to my diet plan (so far) and resisted the allure of the new French bakery. I started the day with lemon water, which is one of my goals. I am successfully resisting the siren call of chocolates in my coworker's office. I read my list! I am going to read it again if those chocolates start yelling!

Lexxiss
02-02-2011, 07:26 PM
Hi Coaches! Another frigid day but it's supposed to be warmer tomorrow. I feel a little caught up here...although I did have to spend time at Mom's with her frozen pipes.
Credits:
~walked a mile before leaving the house this AM
~refused more than once to take home stale donuts from the food bank (or to eat any on site
~got home late and reminded myself hunger is not an emergency while preparing my OP lunch.
Not so good: just had 2 sm muffins for a snack instead of one. Analysis: food doesn't fix tired. I've been up since 3am and a cat nap is in order. Hope everyone's weather improves!

BillBlueEyes, thanks for sharing your favorite lunch in the whole world. I am going to have to try it! I'm glad to hear your back is holding up to all the shoveling!

vibrantheart, :welcome2: I loved your post! Simple and to the point. I'm shifting towards vegetarian. It's been at least 6 months and I'm interested to see how my numbers are in April.

FutureFitChick, great that you noticed you were eating while standing and spit it out. It is becoming less and less automatic. Too bad you aren't stuck in Denver with DH, I'd come down and say Hi.

RubyJan, what an interesting post regarding eating/working/smoking, etc. It's great to recognize and revisit a location where you have already had success. BTW-My bro lives in London part time.

ChefJoona, *credit* for recognizing old patterns with an unplanned day off and making plans for exercise.

gardenerjoy, great that you didn't have a storm of historic proportions! Yay! for meeting your Jan. exercise goal and for being fired up for February.

Beverlyjoy, Yay! for shouting back at cravings! Me, too, today. *credit* for all that decluttering, too.

Shepherdess, I'm glad that yesterday is behind you, too. What a nice dinner thought from your DH. As to jumping jacks while waiting for dogs...it was self preservation. I'm sure we weren't as cold as you.

silverbirch, waving back!

:wave: everyone else! I'm off to a nap while I can still fit it in!

maryblu
02-02-2011, 11:06 PM
'Lo, all.

To those of my Beckmates in the 30 out of 50 states impacted by this storm, I hope you are doing well. For once, Minnesoda did not get the brunt of it. I was snowed-in in St. Paul on Monday, but once on the road Tuesday, no big deal.

Have seen the stories on the news, and me thinks BillBE is still digging out. Beverlyjoy, nothing more frightening to me than the power out. As many blizzards and storms as we get, it is always safe if tucked in at home..until the unthinkable..the power goes out. I have to give great credit to my rural electric cooperative; it is rare that I am out of power for more than a few hours. Of course, there are storms more powerful than anyone can overcome, and seemingly more of them all the time.

Shepherdess, glad you have things back on track in your neck of the woods.

Welcome to our new coaches/buddies.

Am happy to report a great and healthy day of Beck behavior. My second session with my Pilates coach was great..she watches my form like a hawk, which is what I need.

Best to all.

onebyone
02-03-2011, 01:02 AM
Hi Coaches

The train ride home yesterday was much busier than the week before. Seems the talk of Snowmagedon, or Snowpocalypse, or even Blizzardilla made people change their travel plans filling up my train and depriving me of the window seat.

Oh well, I consoled myself I was leaving the city due to be walloped behind and going to a city that was supposed to miss the storm, for once. Alas. I woke up to lots of snow, very high winds and cold. Blizzardilla had arrived inspite of the predictions. I called my dermatologist's office in the afternoon to find out when my appt was and they said "it was at 9:45 am this morning". Yikes. "But if you can come right now we can take you". I'm in the neighbourhood from this dr. so I walked over. This appt was made in July 2010. I heard the secretary scheduling someone for Oct 18th. So I am grateful for the snowpocalypse as it prevented people from meeting their appt's and I could get mine done ("I passed" the Dr. said. yay.)

We saw the apt, put an offer on it and found out she rejected us today. She didn't like the 6 month probation period on DH's contract. I think she just didn't like us and she was weird. So DH is relieved and I still can't get started packing. I'll try again tomorrow when the current landlord comes for a "pre-vacating inspection" equipped with camera to take pictures of the place. Stupid.

Food is bad, weight is up to 284 again. I did cook from scratch tonight so I am set for tomorrow.

Enjoy your evening.

Beverleyjoy I think you asked me about icestorm artwork. My mom actually did a great watercolour of a broken branch caused by the Storm of the Century a 6 day ice storm event in 1998 we survived. I vividly remember the sound of the ice storm: it was like thunder claps as the trees cracked and broke beneath the weight of the ice. It is very very beautiful and incredible to see even stalks of grassy weeds coated with ice. I was always worried about the squirrels. More here: http://canadaonline.about.com/cs/weather/p/icestorm.htm

BillBlueEyes
02-03-2011, 06:50 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Predicted to be Armageddon and it was. Lots of shoveling snow, one hour shoveling while it was raining. CREDIT moi for good arm exercise - and another CREDIT moi for being mindful of form so I didn't hurt my back. There's only an inch of new snow this morning. I'll do that quickly then take the subway to work. Don't want to even think of driving on the sheet of ice under that inch.

The juggled schedule of shovel, do anything else, shovel, repeat ... left me twice with the notion that I was hungry. Just had to have a handful of nuts from DW's jar. Sure I did. So I tried a glass of water instead and went upstairs far away from the pantry. Did that both times, it worked both times. Amazing that the Beck strategies work when you use them. CREDIT moi.


maryblu - Hard to believe that I want to visit Minnesota in February to get out of my bad weather. I do admire the attitude, "snowed-in in St. Paul on Monday . . . no big deal."

onebyone - Congrats for grabbing that dermatologist appointment and Super Congrats for "I passed." That landlord was indeed weird; even if you became a six month renter, that would get the apartment on to the September school schedule which is much better for him than trying to rent mid-winter.

FutureFitChick - Ouch for your DH still stranded in Denver; but better than Cairo at moment. BIG Kudos for "spit out food when started to eat standing in kitchen." That's so much more dramatic than a quite "Oooops."

Joy (gardenerjoy) - You were right, our storm lived up to predictions. Glad yours was "oversold" - but sorry that you've got that same sheet of ice problem.

Shepherdess - Kudos for automated food choices when plans are thwarted. Love your DH's quote that's all's well that ends well. Good luck adjusting your thinking about scale readings with all the real weight and water retentions of pregnancy.

Beverlyjoy - Ouch for your power outage and for power outage nibbling. But Kudos for acknowledging that, perhaps, eating to make the power return might not have been the real cause, LOL.

silverbirch - Should you and Ruby (RubyJan) pass in the British Library she'll immediately recognize you by your distinctive hair and perfect posture. Now I have to add dining at the British Library to my Bucket List.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Kudos for the afterthought, "Analysis: food doesn't fix tired." I just love it that taking home stale donuts was even a consideration - because I would have wanted to do that and my DW would have laughed at me, "They're stale, silly" as if that were a useful observation, LOL.

ChefJoona - I so need to be reminded, "it will either go to waste down the drain, or in my body" - yeah, I know that in my head, but my gut forgets and I think of those starving children in Africa.

Ruby (RubyJan) - Love the thought of heading to the British Library for eating therapy. The "sitting down to eat" caught me by surprise when I discovered myself taking a sample from my plate as I carried it to the table.

vibrantheart - It's a big deal to resist "the allure of the new French bakery" - Kudos for recognizing that you don't have to follow your nose. Make it to Boston and I'll take you to a dynamite vegan restaurant near my house.

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

You Will Change Your Mindset
By the time you finish the Beck Diet for Life Program, you will notice how different the "new" you is from the "old" you.

. . .
The old you thought: This is too hard. I'm giving up.
The new you thinks: It feels hard right at the moment, but this feeling is temporary. I'll go distract myself and in a few minutes, I'll be really glad I did.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 18.

ChefJoona
02-03-2011, 07:38 AM
It was quite a storm here in VT. Its still dark, so I'm not sure how much more we got overnight. Luckily we did not get any ice. The plows woke me up early this morning. Regardless, I'm heading to work.

It was hard to be around the house yesterday- I tend to get anxious when I don't feel like I'm doing something "productive". I was preoccupied with my planned meals and snacks all day, so they grew to be bigger than planned. At the end of my afternoon snack I threw the rest of the item away, so I won't be tempted another day. It theory it was an ok snack- a reasonable portion of the frozen banana "ice cream" that I posted in the recipe thread. However, I felt the need to add some nuts and chocolate sauce to it every time I had some. Down the drain the rest went.
In the evening DP and I had a chance to go just down the street for a game night with friends. I jumped at the chance to get out of the house, but these friends are big eaters and suggested we order some take out from a fried chicken place to be delivered. I was so happy to get out of the house, that I had no resolve and said yes!! Luckily there was some roasted chicken, and I prepared some veggies to bring over. Over all not a total disaster.

Ok, onto credit for yesterday... I got out for a half hour snow shoe!! I must say though, it was a struggle... I just want to be able to enjoy exercise. The entire time I'm doing it I just feel resistant to it. I spend the time in my head, rather than enjoying how it feels in my body to be active. I criticize myself for not moving faster, and for not regularly being active and feeling out of shape. Does anyone know of any motivating resources for exercise? A book or website? I really want to tackle this challenge!

Stepped on the scale for my new mid-week weigh-in. I was down 1.4 lbs from Sunday. Feeling like this is deceptive and too much of a loss. We'll see what the scale says on Sunday.

Safe travels to everyone as many of us deal with the aftermath of weather!

gardenerjoy
02-03-2011, 11:36 AM
We have a sparkly world this morning with ice on the trees, crystals in the snow, and the sun shining. Hope everyone is staying safe and warm today (well, and that seadwaters is staying cool)!

WI: +0.2kg, Exercise: +50* 100/1300 minutes for February, Food: 95%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

carols2
02-03-2011, 12:25 PM
Hello Coaches,

I sit hear and read all of your stories about the weather and think about how happy I am to not live where most of you live. Here in Phoenix, Arizona; the daytime temperatures have been hovering around 40 degrees and everyone here is complaining. We are so cold. It was so cold and windy at the gas pump yesterday, I stopped pumping gas and left. The weird thing is people around here never stop to put on a heavy enough coat, gloves or hat. We act like we do not know how to prepare for the cold. STRANGE! I am from the east coast and never ever want to live there again.

I had to run out to the mall yesterday. That is dangerous territory. All types of smells in my nose and all types of goodies in my eyesight. I went into See’s Candy to buy my husband a small gift for Valentine’sDay, and the sales associate tried to cram a piece of chocolate down my throat. The customer in back of me finally said, “I’ll tell you what, I’ll eat mine and hers to”. He then grabbed mine and started eating it. I told him to enjoy. I then had to use every motivation skill I have ever learned in my life to resist temptation to eat oatmeal raisin cookies from Paradise Bakery. I think they are the best in the world. Don’t let me mention the sushi stand. But, I made it out and guilt free. I give myself credit for OP eating after all that temptation.

Shepherdess
02-03-2011, 12:51 PM
I had a pretty good OP day yesterday. There was a mishap with some candy that DH left in my car. It was a awhile ago and weíd both forgotten about them. I was looking in the center consul for something and found them and ate them on my drive home. Itís annoying to be so weak, but I logged them and skipped my planned dessert.

I got my weights in yesterday. This cold weather will be good for my strength. Iíve read that a lot of runners cut back on running during winter and focus more on strength, so I guess Iím inadvertently doing that. Today should be warmer, so Iím crossing my fingers that Iíll get out for a run. If my dog had fingers sheíd cross them too.

SilverBirch, itís great to know you still check in here regularly, even if you donít post. Itís good to see you from time to time!

Beverlyjoy, LOL at eating to bring power back on. Glad to hear you still have power and I hope it stays that way! Great job shouting back to all those cravingsómissing one isnít bad!

Vibrantheart, itís so cool that you were able to go to the Beck workshop. What a great and inspiring way to get started! Great job resisting chocolate and the bakery and for getting some exercise even though you didnít make it to the gym. I have a very useful card that says, ď5 minutes of exercise is better than 0.Ē

Lexiss, yay for getting caught up! Itís so much easier to stay OP when youíre feeling on top of things. Kudos for resisting stale doughnuts, for remembering that hunger is not an emergency and for remembering that food doesnít fix tired even if it was a muffin too late.

Maryblu, itís rare that you didnít bear the brunt of the storm, but glad to hear it. Itís great that your local electric company knows how to deal with the winter (I suppose they get lots of practice!). Yay for Pilates. Iíve been doing a prenatal Pilates video in hopes that it will help with delivery and recovery. It would be great to have an instructor to make sure I donít cheat!

Onebyone, sorry to hear youíre hit by bad weather as well, but glad you were able to take some advantage of it. Sorry about the continued apartment issues, but crossing my fingers that the perfect apartment is out there just waiting to be found. Ouch for food bad and weight up, but great job setting yourself up for a good day.

BillBE, my arms are sore just thinking about all that shoveling. I imagine that rain on top of that snow just made it all the more heavy. Iím impressed and inspired by your sane response to those nuts you just had to have. Who would have thought that actually using Beck strategies would work?

ChefJoona, I have a hard time when stuck indoors all day due to weather. It does seem like food becomes a bigger deal than it should. In the Green Book beck suggests having a distractions box. It might help to keep one full of projects that will keep you feeling productive. Great job making good choices on game night. Congrats on the loss!

Gardenerjoy, snow and ice can be so beautiful (unless Iím driving on it!). Glad you survived the weather and hope thatís the end of it.

Carols2, when I lived in Phoenix, a friend of mine from upstate NY used to make fun of people complaining about the cold. Of course, we were complete wimps about the heat. Great job dodging all that temptation at the mall. Yay for someone else eating your Seeís Candy chocolate. When will those sales people realize that no means no?

maryann
02-03-2011, 01:08 PM
Welcome my first post in February. Hello to anyone new I missed coming on.
Masondixonmama: In terms of responding to people, when I have missed a few days, I just read today's post and take it from there. My philosophy is it is better to check in then not checkin because "I don't have time to do personals." Having said that, personals are a great way to get out of myself (an easy form of service) which then (counterintuitively) help me to stay OP by slowly down when I don't think I have time. On a busy day it reminds me what is important. So, it is a matter of balance - just my opinion.
Gardenerjoy: I am in the last five pounds and your comment on the weight coming off slowly hit home. By charting my weight everyday I have come to accept that my pattern is .5 lb drop every 2 weeks. At that rate I will hit goal mid April -n time for Spring. I can swing with that.
BBE: Nice resistance techniques. I used a few of those myself this week when I just didn't feel great and realized I wasn't going to feel great even if I ate. I envisioned waking up the next morning with my stomach feeling mostly empty - that good feeling which means I was OP the day before. It worked and I stayed OP.
ChefJoona: I just saw you were in Vermont. I was just accepted to Goddard. Do you know anything about the school?
Carols2: Yikes! See's Candy is what MaryContrary calls "my rabbit hole food" Congrats for getting out of there with your tail in tack.
Shepardess: I wouldn't call yourself weak. Just human. We are, first and foremost, animals. Food is food. There is always a time lag between impulse and action. Credit for adjustment.

Beverlyjoy
02-03-2011, 02:02 PM
Hi friends/coaches/beckies - I am so glad the main part of the storm is over. Things are getting back to ‘normal’, kind of in town here. Most schools are open unless they have no power.

Our cousins with no power came for a while yesterday (with the dogs and cats) - they brought lots of ‘stuff’ from the freezer. They said it needed to be eaten or thrown away.Yikes! The freezer/fridge stuff included lots of ice cream, lasagna (had that for dinner), meat, sausage, pies, etc. We cooked up a bunch of chicken meat, ground beef, etc so that it can be used later. We put it in our freezer. We didn’t have enough room in the freezer for much except the cooked meats. I gave in to ice cream and chocolate cream pie and lasagna. I really wanted to dump dish soap on it all. I didn’t know they were bringing food with them.

But - I am not running away from Beck and you all. The food frenzy is over, cousin’s & food are back home, and I got up and planned for a healthy day. I had many ‘what the he**’ thoughts when I got up. I had to really shout back to those sabotaging thoughts.

I am trying to think of a plan for Disney world. My food should be chosen with many criteria in mind while there - low sodium, healthy, not spicy and softish. I don’t think I can incorporate all these components at each meal while at Disney. I suppose the most important ones are healthy and softish. I went to Target and got a smallish zip up cooler bag. I can use this for yogurt, soft cheese and other good snacks. I am feeling like ‘how can I possibly do this?’. But, I can do the best I can - and plan, plan and plan some more. I don’t want to give up before I even get there. I must have a good solid week of ‘food sanity’ before we go. Something to hold onto when I leave my food comfort zone. Dr. Beck mentions to maybe add a couple extra hundred calories a day when on vacation or save up for a special dessert. I am thinking I will add a few extra exchanges for my daily total. Folks say there are healthy choices everywhere along with the many unhealthy choices. My challenge is that I can’t chew crunchy foods (fresh veggies) because of my jaw joint popping out. This has been my year of real health challenges. I will move forward.

Do any of you know if I can buy fruit and yogurt while in the park. We are staying at a Disney hotel.

My mom and I are going to the beauty shop to have mother &daughter ‘hair day.’ Kind of fun.

Have a great day.

Thanks, as always, to you folks for your caring ways, friendship , support and wisdom.

MaryContrary
02-03-2011, 02:12 PM
Good morning / afternoon / evening to you all.

I have had a great couple of days, realizing that I felt as if I was stuck in the 180s for months (which I was). I'm not sure if that's normal, to take so long to lose ten lbs? I know that weight loss tends to slow down, so perhaps that's what happened. BUT -- let's be honest -- I also know I stopped tracking my food and let myself indulge a bit. What with my grandmother passing, the stress of major travel to my hometown, and the tragedy of my kitty dying, I think I just held to the basics: trying to watch what I eat (though not challenging myself to be meticulous about it), getting back on track ASAP, and working out. Do I owe myself a credit for managing to lose ten pounds since the end of October? I really have no idea. Any insights on the pace of weight loss, on your own personal plateaus (or perceived plateaus), would be appreciated.

So I'm am living in the right now, and exceptionally happy to be in the 170s. I weighed in this morning at 177.5. Entering this new phase has given me some major motivation. I haven't been this low for five years.

Other credits:
using my iphone to help track calories, though NOT letting it substitute for writing down and tracking my food in my extra special purple spangly notebook (which is almost full, btw);

eating OP, and making healthy lateral shifts when necessary;

continuing to resist cheetos;

almost completely eliminating kitchen-grazing;

stepping up my work-outs with weights and an extra mile


Goals for the day:

write some thank-you cards

morning work-out

afternoon/evening reading and research



Thanks for always being here!

MaryContrary
02-03-2011, 02:19 PM
beverylyjoy, the DP and I have yearly passes to Disneyland, and nearly every other food stand has fresh fruit. I'm not sure about yogurt, or other kinds of healthy snacks. In terms of the restaurants, some of the sit-down ones have healthy options (we always like to go to a restaurant that has a beautiful mixed green salad with grilled salmon).

Actually, some of the best fruit I've ever had has been at Disneyland.

Again, I'm not sure about Disneyworld, but I imagine they carry the same food policies. This may sound silly, but I recommend calling them. If you go onto their contact website, you should be able to find a number for "dining." And just present your questions. You can ask them about bringing a cooler into the park, for health concerns. Disney folks are some of the nicest people you will EVER talk to.

Good luck with your planning! Hope I haven't repeated what others have already told you.

RubyJan
02-03-2011, 03:05 PM
I was thrilled to see how many of you know the British Library -- it makes me feel proud of it. And today I spent about four hours there, before going off to my swimming lesson. On Day 4 of Beck, and today I got to make my credit card, so I am going to do what some of you do, and write them here.
--
Credit: exercise, pilates in the am and swimming after work.
didnt eat between breakfast and lunch -- VERY RARE EVENT
Hope you all are doing okay -- oh, I realised that I haven't told you all that I am American!! I was born and raised in New York City, but have lived in England since the 1990s. Didn't want you to think I have the Queen's Accent -- no I speak Manhattan New Yorkese.

FutureFitChick
02-03-2011, 03:16 PM
Coaches/Buddies, Iím really not clear how, since I have not been around anyone since Monday at 10:00 AM, but Iíve picked up a bug which leaves me sleepy, with sinus pain, and a sore throat. Yuck! So Iím back in bed for the next few hours to get some more rest after I post. Food is on plan and my husband should be getting on a plane late tonight to come home. Yea!

Todayís Essentials:
Weigh-in: -2 lbs.
Read Advantage Cards two times: once
Read Response Cards at least two times: once
Ate slowly, sitting down, noticing every bite: yes
Gave myself credit when I engaged in helpful eating behaviors: yes
Did spontaneous exercise: some miscellaneous housework
Did planned exercise: none planned
Wrote out food plan for tomorrow: half-way done
Tracked todayís food: yes
Left food on my plate: yes
Ate only to normal fullness: yes
Identified and responded to a self-deluding thought: yes & said NO CHOICE when I thought I was hungry after dinner last night.

BeverlyJoy, Iím really glad you have power at your home, in spite of the stress eating. Stay warm! How tough regarding the guests brining a freezer full of stuff! Your mother/daughter hair appointment sounds fun.

BillBlueEyes, great job with the water instead of nuts! Stay safe and warm!

Carols2, glad you made it out of the mall OK. What a trap! I hate the mall.

ChefJoona, glad to hear you made the most of the out of the house dinner with roasted chicken and veggies. The only way I get exercise is if I have someone to do it with me, whether it is my husband, dog, or trainer.

GardenerJoy, glad you are OK in St. Louis.

Lexxiss, sounds like things are going pretty well for you Ė such power you have over doughnuts!!

Maryann, I hope you are doing well! It was good to read your post.

Maryblu, glad you like your new pilates coach. Interesting that we have all been getting a glimpse of what you true Northerners experience all the time without much effect on you.

MaryContrary, you totally deserve credit for losing that 10 pounds. That is over 5% of your body weight which will have significant health benefits! I had to give up on trying to schedule my weight loss and just take every day as it comes. I spent years disappointing myself not meeting those goals and just couldnít stand it anymore, but did not want to give up. Every pounds can be a struggle at times. Great advice for Beverleyjoy too!

Onebyone, glad to read about home cooking.

Shepherdess, Iím really glad today is a better day for you. Thanks for the well-wishings. Loved that the dog wanted to cross her fingers too!

Silverbirch, glad to see your post and hope you are doing well!

Vibrantheart , great that you have a plan in place for future lurking chocolate cravings!

silverbirch
02-03-2011, 03:47 PM
silverbirch - Should you and Ruby (RubyJan) pass in the British Library she'll immediately recognize you by your distinctive hair and perfect posture. Now I have to add dining at the British Library to my Bucket List.

:lol: I must make sure I walk the talk! Thanks for the laugh, Bill, which was much needed today. It's been too demanding and I'm getting a cold.

FFC: did I catch my cold from you or was it the other way round? I'm doing quite well, thank you. I seem to be in a fairly calm space and I have the peace just to be. (Not sure how that fits in with what I told Bill above but it does.)

Shepherdess: I'm so pleased to hear your good news. Is your happy event expected in the summer? A good time to relax.

Everyone: thanks for being here and keepin on truckin. It is very impressive.

Lexxiss
02-03-2011, 07:45 PM
Hi Coaches!

It's been a long day and it's time to get to preparing dinner. I stayed at the food bank most of the day-there was lots to do. I had another opportunity to remind myself that hunger is not an emergency as I didn't have lunch, although I could have gone home if really needed to.

Interesting about the donuts-yesterday as I said No Choice, I gave myself permission to put one into my plan today. I looked, picked, took two bites and pitched it. It just wasn't worth the calories.

I had a plan for dinner...wanted to change it, but there was no need. We'll have what I planned.

Take care everyone!

GosfordGirl
02-04-2011, 01:53 AM
Hi Coaches

I have been watching your weather and have to say it looks appalling. It would be scary to have to travel, or drive, or even shop in that weather. I hope everyone is staying safe

I am struggling with work and ran out of food yesterday so the plan took a bit of a dive but overall not too bad. Yoga was cancelled yesterday which I was sort of pleased about! It is pretty difficult for me at the moment. I am working at home today so took my self to aqua at lunch time - it was terrific

BeverlyJoy - Ouch for surprise food - and credit for getting right back on track. Further credit for shouting back at the sabotaging thoughts! If I have gone off track, the next morning it is like there is nothing to look forward to. It is difficult to shake it off. I should learn that it is way better to stay on plan. Hope you enjoyed your Ďhair dayí. Being an Aussie I canít really help with the availability of healthy food at Disney! But I imagine it is challenging
BillBlueEyes - Glad you survived snowmageddon (LOL) and turned it to your advantage to get some exercise. Credit for resisting nuts when I am sure all that exercise demanded extra calories. Your weather looked amazing - I managed to find a web-cam and a newspaper.
Carol (Carols2) - You are right - most shopping expeditions mean we are assaulted every which way by food we have to resist. I like to stay focused on my shopping list and keep blinkers on. Credit for resisting temptation especially your favourites
CeeJay -
ChefJoona - Sounds like you are on track - great weight loss. Yay for snow shoe exercise especially when resistant to it.
FutureFitChick - Ah - the sore throat bug. Not pretty - like the one I had. I am still stuffed up from it and coughing. Yay for your DH getting back. Yay for - 2 pounds too
GardenerJoy - Your sparkly snow and ice crystals glittering in the sun just sounds cool thanks. It is not going to cool down here until Monday unfortunately but it is good inside in the air conditioning!
Debbie R (Lexxiss) - Credit for resisting doughnuts and then planning to have your treat. Great job recognising that thinking about it is much better than the reality and not finishing the doughnut out of habit
MaryContrary - You have had a lot to deal with so credit for losing 10 pounds and getting into the 170s. A good list of credits
Onebyone - I looked at the ice storm link - amazing. Nothing like we would ever experience.Glad you got to the dermatologist. Sorry your offer on the flat was rejected - sounds nuts not to give it to a definite deal - hope it all comes together soon
RubyJan - I like your strategy of working in the library to break eating (or smoking) habits. Good list of credits
Shepherdess - Hope today is warmer as you expected. Sounds like swapping running for strength training is a good thing - I canít imagine what it would be like to move across icy ground. Very scary and unsafe probably

Credits
- Stayed within my food plan - 80%
- Measured all my food - No
- Logged food - No
- Developed food plan for today - No
- Sat down to eat - yes
- Ate mindfully and enjoyed every bite - not really
- Recognised hunger / desire / craving - getting better at this
- I stopped eating when satisfied - yes
- Drank water - yes
- Checked in - yes
- Weighed myself -yes
- Read advantage cards - no
- Read response cards - no
- Read Beck - yes
- Did planned exercise - yes :swim:
- Incidental exercise - a little and used stairs yesterday

Have a great day

BillBlueEyes
02-04-2011, 05:55 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Lived the day on a sheet of ice. I deserve CREDIT moi just for going to work and back. At a celebration event for a friend who had lost weight and chats with me from time to time about walking, there were two large chocolate cakes being devoured by the hoards and . . . a platter of fruit. I grabbed a plate of fruit without concern that it wasn't on my plan since my major goal was to avoid the cake - both for its immediate calories and to exercise my resistance muscle. CREDIT moi for that one.

I had another urge to go dip my hands into the jar of nuts during the evening. Used the old NO CHOICE and that passed; CREDIT moi. Don't know what this new thing is to start feeling hungry for nuts that I can't see. I can identify some tension; perhaps need to tattoo on my forehead, "Food doesn't cure tension."


FutureFitChick - Ouch for a bug when you have stuff to do. Hope your DH makes it home. I'll think of you using NO CHOICE after dinner the next time I need to use one.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Love your joyful description of a deadly ice world.

Shepherdess - Ouch for attacked by abandoned candy, with Kudos for a sane response after consuming it.

Beverlyjoy - Ouch for being confronted with your cousin's notion of freezer food; Kudos for putting that behind you and marching forth. Neat idea that little cooler bag for your Disney trip.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - For your, "- I stopped eating when satisfied - yes" - Kudos. Shopping is difficult in the cold and ice. When I walked to the store for emergency rations, DW insisted that I bring an insulated cooler bag for the bananas - to keep them warm so they wouldn't freeze on the way home and become mushy.

silverbirch - Ouch for a cold and a tough day. And admiration for "the peace just to be."

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Kudos for putting a donut on your plan. And Double Kudos for throwing the rest away; that part would elude me.

MaryContrary - Congrats for dropping into the 170's. My observation is that the final pounds eek away veeeerrry slowly; patience is a must. Neat credit list including NO to Cheetos and YES to an extra mile.

maryann - Neat that you thought, "realized I wasn't going to feel great even if I ate" before you fell for it so that you resisted; Kudos.

ChefJoona - Kudos for your half hour of snow shoeing - what a great way to experience fresh snow. My thing was to read some dozen books about exercising to drum into my head 1) that it was easy, 2) essential, and 3) everybody who stays in shape does some exercise for life. I don't have a specific recommendation; different sections of random books moved me.

Carol (carols2) - LOL at, ďIíll tell you what, Iíll eat mine and hers tooĒ - See's Candy is manufactured by Satan himself.

Ruby (RubyJan) - Both Pilates and swimming in the same day is a Kudos for sure. Did you plan to skip your morning snack?

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

You Will Change Your Mindset
By the time you finish the Beck Diet for Life Program, you will notice how different the "new" you is from the "old" you.

. . .
The old you thought: I'm just a weak person where food and dieting are concerned.
The new you thinks: I know that if I keep practicing these skills, I will gain control. I'm learning how to be strong.

How will you achieve this transformation? I'll teach you!

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 19.

ChefJoona
02-04-2011, 07:51 AM
TGIF!

Had an on-plan day for the most part, until an off plan dinner out with a friend. I didn't go totally over board, and used some Beck skills, but it definitely wasn't nearly on-plan. I noticed when I got home my resistence muscle was shot. Dug into DP's candy stash and had a two mini candy bars. Not a disaster, but also not respecting my My No Choice sign. Just for information gathering I weighed myself this morning- up .2 lbs. Made me realize that everything I eat does impact my body.
Have no plans to go for meals at all this weekend. The Super Bowl is this Sunday, so I'll have to figure out how to navigate a gathering with snacks for that.

Maryann Yes, I'm from VT! I actually don't know all that much about Goddard. I know it has a good reputation. A good friend of mine did some part time work there last summer, and enjoyed it. Vermont is a unique place to live though- I love it! I'd be happy to answer any questions you have about living here :).

MaryContrary I too am hovering around the edge of going into a new 10lb increment! I just can't wait to see that second number change. My 10lb loss has been since October. I took the holidays off, which didn't speed up my weightloss at all. This is the first time I've mindfully tried to lose weight, so I'm just learning about how fast my body drops weight. I think Dr. Beck writes about plateaus and weightloss rates in the last chapters of the Pink Book. Sorry I don't have an exact page....

Off to work!

Newlifestyle
02-04-2011, 09:12 AM
Good morning,
I need self discipline where this site is concerned. I turn on my computer and then I start reading and I forget I am here on a time limit and then I run out of time and I am off and running here. I think I need structure in some areas.
Life is good we got 10 inches of snow and I can not believe how high the snow is piled. My DS loves it he is out climbing all over the snow. This is good impromptu exercise.
I realize I enjoy warmer weather better as I get older. I told my husband we should live in a warmer climate for six months out of the year. He likes this too.
I hope everyone has a great day and I am off to read Beck.
Take Care
Ann

onebyone
02-04-2011, 10:38 AM
Hi Coaches

I weighed in credit for my official friday weighin: 284

geez louise.

I don't have many inner resources to deal with bad news today coaches. I do think that I am now going to go to a monthly official weighin. I think the last friday of every month will be when I change my ticker and only that last friday. I will continue to weigh in daily and report it here.

Reasons for the weight gain? Oh not really paying attention and eating some processed food and being stressed out. Really stressed out. I think stress, and whatever hormonal components get activated when stressed, cause my body to retain fluid and puff right up. Stress also takes my eye off the ball too so I eat more, and more often, I don't record my food, I don't want to record my food, I get fed up easily, and feed myself up to the gills.

So new challenge for today: the "pre-vacating inspection" happened yesterday. Two guys came through here, one in the morning, one in the afternoon. They are going to rip out the kitchen cabinets and the bathroom cabinets plus redo the floors in the same rooms and change all the closet doors. They will finish the trim on a window and replace the dining room chandelier and this all starts after we are gone from here on April 1st. In the afternoon the guy came to measure everything for the reno. Inbetween I get a call from a rental agent WHO WANTS TO SHOW MY PLACE TONIGHT!!!!

OMG. My place is a disaster, like a minor Hoarders episode disaster. Surfaces, floors are dirty, like with dirt dirt. The main hallway is full of large paintings and art show display stuff: tables, display boards, art materials. Bathrooms have stuff cluttering all the counters as I shoved stuff in there and pulled stuff out to start to sort it/throw it away. The living room, dining room, kitchen are stuffed to the gills with boxes and dishes and clutter. I am a messy person to begin with, this moving business has completely thrown me off and with DH not here to keep me focused I go on tangents and start and stop in a variety of areas. ANYWAY... I told the agent "my place is in extreme .... disarray." "That doesn't matter we won't be there long.""No, it's really messy.""We'll be in and out." I just said yes. The look of horror and judgement of how I live will cross their faces. I've seen it before. It's exactly the same feeling you get when you know someone is judging you for your size. I would leave but don't want to risk Caesar running out.

Who knows how often this will happen now. Probably until it is rented. how the h3ll will it get rented in this condition is beyond me...AND the unit right next door is empty. Why not show it? Oh whatever.

I am feeling very low and very hopeless right now. Luckily "this too shall pass"... credits 5 bags of garbage gone + 2 boxes of boxes -- a plan for packing is starting to emerge: every night do a load of dishes/every morning sort the dishwasher into keep and give away boxes & every day one load of laundry done then folded into keep and giveaway piles ---> repeat both actions until it's all done.

I packed two boxes but when I went to lift one box up the bottom fell out. Bad old tape. I need to go out this moring and get new packing tape and food for the kitty and milk for my coffee and coffee too. I still have to unload the dishwasher and load the washer so I am already behind on my to-do list but the day is young.

DH is back tonight. I hope I don't spend the night crying on his shoulder. He doesn't need me falling apart.

See you guys later.

carols2
02-04-2011, 12:51 PM
Hello Coaches;

I quickly want to inform everyone about a place we can go that is free, face to face, and very private. For those who would like to talk with other people dealing with food problems, Overeaters Anonymous may be a good choice. They are located in different countries also. I have been to several of the meetings and they were helpful. Really helped with some of the depression issues I had about my weight.

gardenerjoy
02-04-2011, 01:44 PM
Ate movie popcorn for lunch yesterday and giving myself two credits. One for calling it "lunch" when it was clearly enough calories to be lunch (actually it replaced both lunch and a snack). And, two, for facing down the sabotaging thought that there weren't good nutrients and I needed to eat more, like my planned lunch, to get them. Clearly, I am not going to suffer from malnutrition due to one junky lunch. The more appropriate response is to say "A treat instead of lunch is okay, just don't do it too often." Once a month, at most, I'm thinking.

I skipped my weigh-in today, not needing to see what popcorn salt did to weight!

For some fun news, today (and all weekend) I'm celebrating the Grand Opening of my new book blog: http://www.joyweesemoll.com/. Stop by for the virtual ribbon cutting and to register for the door prize!

WI: kg, Exercise: +50* 150/1300 minutes for February, Food: 60%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Beverlyjoy: the food court at your hotel will likely have both fruit and yogurt. Did you say you're taking a small cooler? You can buy the fruit and yogurt on your way to the bus in the morning and have it all day. I don't know if there's a policy about bringing food into the parks, but I suspect you can just say you're diabetic and get away with anything.

onebyone: hang in there! You are making good and real progress and even have a routine. That's great! It will get you where you need to be.

RubyJan
02-04-2011, 01:45 PM
I went to an 8am Weight Watchers meeting this morning, so I feel I am a step close in my immediate goal of getting settled with a food plan. So I feel quite upbeat about it, and am looking forward to doing my page of the PINK WORKBOOK later on.
Carols2 -- I would love to go to OA, but the few times I have gone, all the people there were very badly underweight, and it was hard to find it supportive.
BillBlueEYes I did't know I was meant to have a morning snack -- haven't gotten that far with PINK BOOK yet. Will be glad to have one when the time comes!
onebyone I am a completely messy person myself, and I find myself sitting at my computer with the floor around me covered with -- well rightnow...magazines, 2 bowl, 2 forks, three pairs of shoes distributed over the floor, oh yeah, and about 13 books strewn about.... so I can relate.
Credits:
Went to Weight Watchers meeting and signed up
Ate lunch with a friend and ate a slim person's lunch
Read my Advantages Card and two response cards.
Ruby

MaryContrary
02-04-2011, 02:43 PM
another warning to coaches and buddies that this is some major processing

These are the days I wish I had a "normal" 9-5 job, and could feel happy that the end of the working week had arrived. Instead, I'm facing a weekend of trying to catch up on a week I probably over-planned in the first place. Damn academia.

Let me (try to) talk myself into a more positive spin on my anxieties: first, I was trying an experiment this week, with working out in the mornings and then getting to my academic stuff in the afternoon / evenings. This plan really only worked on the days the DP was at her second job, or at the gym, as I just can't work when she's in our room. I actually like this schedule, as long as I don't exhaust myself with the work-out. I find that I have more energy in the afternoons if I work out in the morning; and I definitely have more energy in the morning for a work out. Okay, so maybe it's not the schedule that's the problem.

Second, I'm coming up, yet again, to a period of some serious writing, and facing the normal anxieties of not having done enough research, not having read all of the secondary sources I needed to read -- not knowing enough, in other words. I had scheduled for myself, this week, to go through these secondary sources and then make a rough plan of the image I have of this chapter. And here it is Friday, and I feel like I don't quite have my mind wrapped around the research, and I definitely haven't done the rough plan.

Third, there have been some major stresses this week in terms of the Weekly Shuffling of Bills, and the general figuring-out-how-to-make-ends-meet when one of us is a graduate student and the other works in non-profit, and we live in one of the most expensive counties in the country. Anyway, I get so frustrated at the "intrusion" of these realities -- they take up my time, they take up my mind, and they really test the limits of my flexibility.

All of these factors lead to the necessity of having to work this weekend. The teenager inside of me is throwing a fit. But, as I mentioned in a post earlier this week, I set myself this rigorous writing schedule because I MUST get this dissertation done. Moreover I CAN get it done at a speedier rate than I've been going. And, finally, getting it done is going to take a LOT of sacrifice and flexibility.

Can any one say NO CHOICE?!

So I'm going to move forward, and as I work this weekend I'm going to think about next week's experiment, in terms of eating, working out, and writing. The writing MUST come first, but I want to make sure I don't completely let go of the other areas.

I think this week I focused first on working out and eating; but to meet the Dissertation challenge, the research and writing must come first. So, I need to do some very practical thinking and planning about how I make this happen, and not lose what I have gained in terms of healthy eating and movement.

Today's goals:

-- make a writing / working out plan for the weekend and next week

-- deal with the IRS with a smile on my face

-- eat OP despite the stress and the trip into LA

-- pet the warm furry kitty belly (said kitty currently sprawled next to me on the sunny window sill) and take some deep breaths

Thanks for listening, and apologies for not getting to the personals.

Beverlyjoy
02-04-2011, 05:08 PM
Hi Beckies - yesterday was a healthy day - am so, so grateful. I found the willingness to push through and use my resistance techniques. Today I found some children's fruit smoothies that don't need to be refrigerated. So I can take them on my trip in my healthy stash of foods.

I have some credits:
planned/measured/logged food
logged sodium
lots of water
exercisen
no seconds
left a bite

Today I had an appointment. There was a bit of a wait - I did a meditation while I was waiting. Credit! Also, my blood pressure is down! I guess this low sodium really works. It is extremely hard to find low/no sodium prepared foods, however.

I want to thank everyone for their ideas and support as to how I can do Disney with my food challenges. I really appreciate it. I am hoping that I can have a really on plan week to that I can head into my vacation feeling strong about not bingeing the entire time while away. I have always been an 'all or nothing' food plan person. It's either on or off. I really dislike this part of me - I've been working on it. I have made some strides - but, still have a way to go.

I think I'll have time to do personals tomorrow.

Remember to treat yourself as well as you'd treat a friend.

maryann
02-04-2011, 05:55 PM
Beginning last year I began a journey of inner self work. I felt the first 46 years were controlling, disciplining, surviving, accepting, cherishing the external factors of life - family, work, society, education blah, blah. At 46, due to some external wake up calls, I knew it was time to face the next half of my life focusing on my insides - face the fears that have driven me for years, challenge myself in new ways intellectually, free myself from my food addiction and - as a result - deepen myself spiritually. Short hand - I wasn't going to be 50 -overweight, hating a job I onced love and "people-pleasing" everyone so I was in "the popular crowd" whatever that meant.
Fast forward to today. - Like MaryContrary and Chef Joona I have entered a new phase in weightloss - the 140s. It will be my maintenance decade and will be where I will repose happily for the rest of my life. I have been accepted to an MFA program after which I may choose to continue the work I love or have options for change. And this morning ( I know this sounds trivial) I had a rare pedicure, put my ipod on in order to relax and DID NOT FORCE MYSELF TO ENTERTAIN THE MANICURIST. For some this feat seems trivial, but for me, it is not. I have always had to do a soft shoe tap dance with a big smile to make everyone happy, always, even if I was dying inside. The shrink who assigned me a 5150 after my second suicide attempt 25 years ago said she locked me up because of my "smiling" attitude which apologized for bothering everyone with my "little dramas."
Today I feel my progress and, instead of being scared it will all disappear, I feel at peace. As the Beck program says, "I believe in myself. I know how to lose weight. I have learned the tools. There is nothing magic about it."
Beverleyjoy: It is my nightmare to have people bring me food I love. You did very well under the circumstances.
RubyJan: Congrats on the Weight Watcher's program. It is a very reasonable diet.
FFChick: Credit for staying OP even when you don't feel well.
Silverbirch: Welcome. We are close to weight sisters.
Lexxiss: Love the idea of putting a donut on your plan. It showed great confidence and maturity.
Seadwaters: What is aqua? It sounds fun.
BBE: Credit fruit over cake. It is proof that if we abandon perfectionism we live more comfortably in the world.
Onebyone: I am sorry it is tough right now. But you are making progress. You place is much emptier than it was before. That is due to your effort.
Gardenerjoy: It has been a huge tool for me to allow myself a popcorn meal and accept that overall nutrition of my food plan is looked at weekly - not daily.

masondixonmama
02-04-2011, 07:32 PM
Hello friends,

How wonderful to be able to be part of this community. I learn something everytime I read here.

I am gearing up to start my diet. I have been doing some of the administrative stuff like making my cards, making my daily log sheets, and my weight graph. At the workshop, Dr. Beck really surprised me by recommending that we weigh ourselves every day and post the results on a graph. She said that this was important because we need to see that the scale will fluctuate on a daily basis rather than decreasing every time, even when we are following our food plans. It made complete sense to me after I thought about it. I used to get so disappointed when I saw the number inch up after being faithful to my plan.

I am learning so much about self esteem through a wonderful workbook called the "Self Esteem Workbook" by Dr. Glenn Schirardi (spelling?). I always thought my self esteem came from external events, such as performing well at work or having my kids listen to me. I now know that I am worthwhile no matter what and that I have a core deep inside that is good, beautiful, and true. For the first time in 33 years, I am learning how to love myself and it is wonderful!!!

Have a great evening everyone.

Andrea

FutureFitChick
02-04-2011, 10:01 PM
Coaches/Buddies, today has been fairly off plan, as I woke up late and did not have time to prepare a healthy breakfast and chose to get McDonaldís on my way to campus. I skipped my workout because of being sick, again! (This time I have congestion, a runny nose, a sore throat, and an earache.) My husband finally made it home at 3:00 AM, after scraping ice off of his car at the airport for almost 40 minutes. Added bummer is that he is sick with different cold symptoms. Yippee!

I was fairly active today and did a lot of walking. Tomorrow I plan to rest, run some errands (pharmacy & groceries), and to plan next weekís food.

Todayís Essentials:
Weigh-in: +.5 lbs.
Read Advantage Cards two times: yes, finally
Read Response Cards at least two times: yes
Ate slowly, sitting down, noticing every bite: no, ate breakfast while driving
Gave myself credit when I engaged in helpful eating behaviors: yes
Did spontaneous exercise: yes
Did planned exercise: no
Wrote out food plan for tomorrow: not yet
Tracked todayís food: not yet
Left food on my plate: no
Ate only to normal fullness: yes
Identified and responded to a self-deluding thought: no

BeverlyJoy, what a triumph in the improved BP! Yippee! I second your comment for the difficulty in keeping to my plan when Iíve been a little off plan.

BillBlueEyes, I like that idea of planning to use your resistance muscles. Thanks for planting that seed in me. Your tattoo idea sounds a little painful and may need to be written backwards so you can read it easier in the mirror.

Carols2, glad you found OA so helpful! Thanks for sharing.

ChefJoona, thanks for the reminder about needing to plan ahead for the Super Bowl. As of now we donít have any plans, but I can imagine weíll end up with someone watching the game.

GardenerJoy, great attitude about the popcorn treat. Looking forward to reading the blog.

Lexxiss, I love those moments of clarity when you plan for a treat and find it just isnít what you really want. Congratulations for savoring that clarity!

Maryann, your post made me want to dance in joy! That peace is not trivial Ė the few times in my life I experienced such clarity have stuck with me for years.

MaryContrary, I find it really hard to balance living business with working at home. It is so easy to slip into taking care of that really important bill rather than work. I wish I had a handy solution to offer. Love on that kitty!

Masondixonmama, loved your post today too. So much peace!

Newlifestyle, keep in there with reading the forums. What are you reading now in Beck?

Onebyone, hang in there!

Rubyjan, great job getting in the WW meeting. Is that your first time trying WW?

Seadwaters, great job getting in aqua. That sounds really nice right now and reminds me that I have that option on campus too. Thanks!

Silverbirch, maybe these are virtual germs, as I wasnít around any other people from 10:00 AM Monday until 3:00 AM this morning. Being at peace sounds so lovely! Keep it up!

pamatga
02-05-2011, 01:29 AM
I'm not new to 3FC but I would like to follow this program. I read the book a few years ago although a lot of things were happening then so I don't quite remember what was in it.

First of all, how do I subscribe to this thread?
Secondly, what do I need to get (ie, book?) to get started?
Third, do you have any kind of rules about what you share here?

If there is anything else that I would need to know at this time, I'd appreciate it if someone could clue me in. You can send me a PM but quite frankly I'm not even sure I remember how to do that any more either.

carols2
02-05-2011, 05:02 AM
Good Morning Coaches,

My day yesterday was planned perfectly. I knew exactly what I was going to eat. At 2:30 I had an appontment to see my nutritionist. We discussed my ability to resist food items (fruit tart in particular) that I obsess over. As we were talking about it, I started seeing visions of it. The only thing I could think about after that discussion was eating that fruit tart. I had to have it. And now, its gone. I feel so sick to my stomach. It is 1:54 in the morning and I can not lay down with my stomach like this. I want to go ride my stationary bike, but I have already rode for 1 1/2 hours earlier today. Plus I did some lower body stuff.

I know if I continue to eat off plan like this I will start to gain my weight back. I am getting to the point where I want to go and get more diet pills, but I am afraid that the pills will start affecting my heart if I continue taking them.

I feel like I am loosing control again. This is really scarry.

GosfordGirl
02-05-2011, 05:43 AM
Hi Coaches

It has been very warm today. By 8 am it was 35C (95F) and it topped at 41C (106F) and stayed there from midday until about 6.30 pm. Even now at 7.30pnm it is still 38C (over 100F). I really would have suffered badly without air conditioning. All my plants are lying down. Not as dramatic as your ice and snow storms but totally disabling. I am staying indoors until it passes. Tomorrow a little cooler (36C ~ >95F). Come Monday it cools down to something like normal.

I didn't do any exercise but sort of ate on plan. I have been picking though because not prepared to cook or prepare food. Have to make some fish and healthy salad for dinner. No exercise today - a bit sore from Aqua fit yesterday.

We won't see reasonably priced bananas for a while - the cyclone made landfall right where 90% of our bananas are grown along with sugar cane and pineapples. They were wiped out 5 years ago and the price sky rocketed. Poor them though

BeverlyJoy - Credit for meditating instead of Ďwastingí time waiting. No doubt had a big impact on your BP as well. The childrenís smoothies sound like a great find - I am sure you will find other things as well
BillBlueEyes - Living on an ice-sheet sounds amazingly exotic but not at all comfortable I am sure, Credit for bypassing chocolate cake in favour of food. My mantra as well ďfood does not cure tensionĒ. LOL carrying an insulated bag to keep the bananas warm. Makes sense to me
Carol (Carols2) - Thanks for the tip about OA - not sure where they are in Sydney but might check it out
ChefJoona - Hope you figure out a way to survive the Super bowl
FutureFitChick - Ouch for drive through food. One of the food rules for Michael Polan is that - ďitís not food if it arrived through the window of your carĒ LOL. Awful - two different cold viruses in the one family! Good idea to plan for next week - on my list too
GardenerJoy - Great way to incorporate a desired treat - and not feel bad about it. Planning is all. Will look forward to the developments on your blog
Maryann - A few thoughtful comments today about the inner work we need to do to move past our issues - thanks for sharing your thinking. Yay for feeling at peace
MaryContrary - Working at home should be great but it is always difficult. I find for me it requires a lot more discipline than going to work to the point I have to put the clock on myself. I pack my lunch etc like I am going to work and try to have a schedule. Hope you survive your weekends work without too much resentment - I will try as well!
(Andrea) Masondixonmama - It is a great community indeed. The self esteem work sounds interesting - YAY for learning to love yourself at this stage of your life.
Ann (Newlifestyle) - It is easy to spend a lot of time in here - more useful than snacking of course and a fine diversion from cravings
Onebyone - Ouch for having to put up with showing your place. Sounds like you are making progress with packing and organising - credit
Pamatga - WELCOME - I will wait for Bill our moderator to check in with you about rules etc. There are a couple of books you might consider. You will find reviews of them here http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/beck-diet-solution-234/ (http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/beck-diet-solution-234/).
RubyJan - Well done getting straight into WW - hope it goes well. The pink workbook is really useful so enjoy

Credits
- Stayed within my food plan - 80%
- Measured all my food - No
- Logged food - No
- Developed food plan for today - No
- Sat down to eat - yes
- Ate mindfully and enjoyed every bite - Yes
- Recognised hunger / desire / craving - today focused on this - ate when I was hungry
- I stopped eating when satisfied - yes
- Drank water - yes
- Checked in - yes
- Weighed myself - yes
- Read advantage cards - Yes
- Read response cards - no
- Read Beck - yes
- Did planned exercise - none planned
- Incidental exercise - none - conserving my energy in the heat!

Have a great day

BillBlueEyes
02-05-2011, 07:59 AM
:welcome: pamatga :welcome:

And, even though you've been on 3FC for 3.5 years, :wel3fc:

If you read Beck a few years ago, you were one of the first. How did you hear about her book?

BillBlueEyes
02-05-2011, 08:32 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Well, so much for believing I'm a logical person. I got up and weighed myself as usual. Then, noting that it was a bit early, I got back in bed for two more hours. Then I got up and weighed myself as usual - again. The second time was one pound less. It made me VERY HAPPY to weight a pound less, like a reward for a day of eating OP. Duh! (Lots of evaporation in our dry winter heat.) Oh Well, logic is overrated anyway.

Food OP, CREDIT moi. Exercise was only walking round trip to the subway twice, CREDIT moi for that small bit. On the way home last night, even though it was late enough to go straight to bed, I wanted my orange for my evening snack and remembered that we were out. I was pleased to find one in the back corner of a tiny local convenience store. Glad to overpay for an orange to encourage the owner to keep selling food along with the racks and racks of high priced chips and crackers.


onebyone - Yep, stress is an octopus whose tentacles extend into unexpected places. Kudos for "this too shall pass" but Monster Kudos for the plan of daily dishwasher/laundry wash and sort into keep and give away. I can hear the rhythm of it working from here.

FutureFitChick - Yay for retrieving your DH - even though he had to scrape ice for 40 minutes at the airport and arrived with a cold. Yay for a lot of walking.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Thanks for the demo that mindful eating can incorporate a wide variety of foods - even a meal of popcorn. Congrats on your new book blog venture.

Beverlyjoy - You just keep on doing it, [I]"no seconds, left a bite" - Kudos as always for your consistency there.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Ouch for losing bananas to your cyclone - I'm addicted to my morning banana. Our's come from Honduras - but that's a long boat ride to Australia. Hope you can stay cool.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yay for the unbridled joy of a DS in the snow. Kudos for being wise enough to go out there and share it.

MaryContrary - Kudos for facing reality and dealing, with extra Kudos for concluding with, "pet the warm furry kitty belly" - you do seem to know how to achieve your commitments yet get your mind back to that which matters.

maryann - Your victory at the manicurist is a great one; Kudos for it and Kudos for your recognition of its importance.

ChefJoona - It's always a meaningful victory for me when, "I didn't go totally over board" if I've exercised my resistance muscle to achieve that. Ouch that it led to later snacking, but Kudos for getting your head aligned for Super Bowl Sunday.

Carol (carols2) - Thanks for the reminder about OA; I know it's not the same as Real Life, but I assume you've discovered the Overeaters Anonymous Forum on 3FC (http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/overeaters-anonymous-61/).

Ouch for the fruit tart and the scare it brings. But you can remind yourself that it was one tart and that was yesterday; you've accounted for it, you're back on plan. Sending supportive thoughts to allow those feelings to wash over and go away.


Ruby (RubyJan) - Kudos for marching forward into Weight Watchers. It's a good time to start since they've just changed their plans. I like that healthy fruits and veggies are now zero points. I assume that you know about the rather active Weight Watchers Forum on 3FC (http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/weight-watchers-18/).

Andrea (masondixonmama) - Exhilarating thought, "I am learning how to love myself and it is wonderful!!!"

pamatga - You are "subscribed" - as in a member of this group - simply by posting. You'll need one of Dr. Judith Beck's three books; if you choose to buy them from Amazon, you can use the link in my first post of each month and the site gets a coin to keep it running.

There are no rules for what you post. You can see different styles of posting in any of the months threads. Using them as models, you can choose your own. The major thing is to post frequently (daily if possible) with your status of the prior day's eating plan and exercise plan. That's the big thing. After a while, and don't rush this part because it seems overwhelming at first, you can choose to respond to other folks prior posts. And here, don't rush into trying to respond to everyone - it can drive you to not want to post at all. Glad you've joined us.


Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

Get Ready to Strengthen Your Resistance Muscle
To lose weight permanently, you need Cognitive Therapy techniques to develop a powerful "resistance muscle," a psychological muscle that you flex whenever you stand firm and stick to the program. This muscle gives you the ability to do what you need to do to lose weight permanently.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 19.

Lexxiss
02-05-2011, 09:02 AM
Hi Coaches!

I may catch up with you all later today but wanted to check in. Yesterday provided the inevitable non-productive tongue lashing from my Mom as we tried to finish company bookwork AND prepare for my sister's arrival. *credit* for not going home and emotionally eating over it. I had a sane lunch, although not what I had planned because I needed some food and rest. *credit* Mom for calling to apologize. Dinner was a switch off, too, as she wanted to take us for dinner as a way of making amends. I had two homemade cookies with dinner and considered them an acceptable trade-off for the thrown away donut...

maryann, thanks for sharing your inspiring words. It was such a joy for me to read after I got home after a long and stressful day. :hug:

Carol, sorry you battled your fruit tart again. *credit* for stopping and posting about it. One thing I learned from Beck reading was about making personal rules...it also gets mentioned here. I always remember gardenerjoy saying she doesn't buy food where she gets gas. I adopted that and find it really sticks with me. Your fruit tarts come from somewhere...is there a rule you could apply? Or a day of the week...one on Sunday?? I did find when I planned for the dreaded donut that it became easier to resist...that's another technique I have learned from my Beck readings.

Ok, off to planned breakfast with Mom. *credit* for saying NO CHOICE to Dim Sum in Denver today.

ETA-just read the guidelines for posting lol. Exercise yesterday was hauling 15 bags of stuff from Moms(multiple stair trips) and walking both to/from Elks dinner. Today I'll walk at least a mile and haul the bags out of my car at the dump.

ChefJoona
02-05-2011, 10:31 AM
Grrr! Just wrote a long post, and the wireless internet went out before I could post and I lost it.

Let's see if I can recreate what I said...

Noted appreciation for the honesty, support and nonjudgment on this forum! No matter where any of us are on any given day. This is a place to share struggles and ask for support, as well as share successes!

Reported on mostly on-plan day yesterday, aside from some urges for snacking in the evening. Credit for taking one bite of an off-plan snack and tossing the rest away. This is a real challenge for me.

Planning for some outdoor activity with DP today, and snow shoeing with my sister tomorrow.

Its been my habit to post in the morning, but I'm thinking of switching to posting in the evening, as that is my danger time. Perhaps checking in with all of you at that time will give me the resolve, motivation and inspiration to get through it.

Onebyone Sounds like you're breaking down the packing and organizing tasks well. Looking at a whole house full of things to do is daunting, breaking it down into smaller steps makes it manageable!

MaryContrary Good luck with the work this weekend! Hoping you can find some good focus for writing.

Carols2 It really sounds like you have some great awareness of what's going on for you right now. That awareness can be the key to keeping yourself from total loss of control! Big CREDIT for checking in here!!

Seadwaters Thanks for the temp conversions from C to F :) Helps me get an exact sense of the heat you're dealing with! Yikes! :hot:

Happy and healthy weekend to the rest of you!

I'm going to spend some time today finding healthy and low cal recipes for the SuperBowl! :chef:

Beverlyjoy
02-05-2011, 12:00 PM
Hi Beck folks - yesterday was another healthy day… I am grateful. I kept with my plan well.
Some credits too:
Plan/measure/log food
Lots of water
Low sodium
Exercise - stretches, strengthening, rec. bike
Left a bite
No seconds
Meditation
Journeled

Tonight we are invited to a party where my mom lives. DH hasn’t seen my mom for a while and thought it would be fun to all go to the gathering together. I really don’t know a lot of what food will be available. I do know that there will be crab dip, meatballs, fruit, veggies - that’s all I know. I hope they have some bread - I can do fruit and bread and tomatoes if they have any. (other veggies too crunchy for my jaw - sigh.) I am going to have a snack at 6pm. The party is at 7pm.

I got some oatmeal to put into small serving size baggies to eat for breakfast at Disney in case they don’t have something for my breakfasts.

I hope you are all doing well. I hope I can get back later. I am reading everything folks are posting. Thanks for being here.

maryann
02-05-2011, 01:23 PM
I love Saturday mornings with DS - 8yo. My farmer husband is usually working, so it is just the two of us. Sat. is the one day I let him go to town with the tv - Sat. morning cartoons. Eventually hunger drives him out of the room and we have a nice visit over breakfast. I have told him he can plan and cook a meal. He is so excited that he has been reading cookbooks for days. If I plan this right, when he grows tall enough, he can take a night to cook each week. Help for me and also he can learn what a meal is supposed to look like - a small protein, two fruits and vegis, small grain.
OP yesterday. Brought a PBJ sandwich plus my planned evening snack to the Kings vrs Spurs Game at Arco Arena. The first thing I thought when opening my eyes this morning was, "Yeah, I was OP yesterday." So many games I have been to when I ended up eating a Tollhouse cookie ice cream sandwich and felt sick the next day. Going to a crab feed tonite. My first prioirty is to remain OP because I have been struggling on weekends a little. I will eat the crab and salad but take my cheesestick and Reese's PB cup for evening snack.
Masondixonmama: I felt strange weighing everyday but now I understand how the power can be taken away from the scale and also the built in accountability of having to get on the scale whether you were OP or not.
FFChick: I've got the runny nose as well and it stinks.
Pamatga: Welcome.
Carol2: There is a part in the Beck program which talks about believing in yourself. You didn't lose weight by accident. You have learned to live differently with food. You have different skills and those won't evaporate over nite. Plus, you are trying new things like posting here and that means you will continue to grow in confidence.
Lexxiss: Mom stuff is the hardest stuff we face in our lives. That is my firm belief. I have to envy you a little because at least your mom apologizes. Mine is a little kid who avoids responsibility like she just spilled the milk or something and has to cover it up. Credit for working the plan through the powerful feelings.
BBE: A pound is a pound is a pound in my book. It reminds me of my old Weight Watchers days, though and my extreme self back then. Before weigh in I would exercise for an hour and go to a sauna. Hmmm. Not a lot of peace there. I like this way of thinking better.
ChefJoona: Congrats on throwing away food. It is the first skill I learned and I have used it many times since. Now, I usually just have to tell myself, "Im going to throw it away if I eat anymore" and I'll stop picking.
Beverleyjoy: I ate instant oatmeal a lot while I was vacationing. My trick was to put protein powder or nonfat dried milk in it for extra protein.

gardenerjoy
02-05-2011, 02:14 PM
I've already been shoveling snow for nearly two hours and there will be more today! We unexpectedly got three inches of fluffy white stuff on top of the mess that we were never able to shovel off earlier. So, we shoveled powder off of snow pack this morning (shoveling to snow pack isn't near as satisfying as shoveling to pavement!). Now the sun is out and we're expecting temps above freezing. Assuming the snow pack gets slushy later, we'll go out and do it all again!

WI: NAkg, Exercise: +45* 195/1300 minutes for February, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Welcome, pamatga!

carols2: hugs! I've seen several places recently the notion that if someone forbids you to think about polar bears that, try as hard as you might, there will be white bears frolicking in your brain. The only thing that works is to replace the thought with something else -- elephants! zebras! For me, with food, it helped to refocus my obsession in the direction of all-natural ingredients, cooking, local foods and the like. It also helped to develop some righteous anger against Big Food that engineers and markets highly processed foods in ways that make them all but impossible to resist. The End of Overeating by David Kessler was a helpful book for that. I feel like I'm subverting a food system that's gone mad by choosing whole food ingredients. Oh, and I like everything Lexxiss said, too. Rules work for me, partly because my inner rebel can focus on the subverting the food system and doesn't get too upset about the rules I've set for myself.

gardenerjoy
02-05-2011, 07:22 PM
carols2: Just read something in the book I'm currently reading that addresses where you are at the moment. The book is The Way to Eat by David Katz and Maura Gonzalez and this is on page 35:

Each impediment to healthy eating in the modern world contributes something to the cumulative difficulty you face in efforts to change your diet, to control your weight, to improve your health. When the sum of all this difficulty exceeds your motivation, no matter how great your motivation, you will not, cannot change your behavior. Worse still, failing to change your behavior despite a strong motivation to do so leaves you feeling terribly frustrated, even discouraged.

That makes sense to me. Of course, not much there to tell you what to do about it. Guess I need to keep reading....

Lexxiss
02-05-2011, 08:01 PM
Noted appreciation for the honesty, support and nonjudgment on this forum! No matter where any of us are on any given day. This is a place to share struggles and ask for support, as well as share successes!

I couldn't have said it better, ChefJoona.

Hi Coaches! I have been up since before the crack of dawn. I have had a very rewarding day, and am hitting my low point. I want to just keep going (do personals) but recognize that most of my unplanned eating happens when I'm just too tired. maryann got me thinking and I've put a book on top of the stack near my bed, What Happy Women Know, by Dan Baker. It's snowing like crazy and I might lose my service but wanted to check in.
credits
~staying OP
~shopping super healthy!
~having some really sane conversations with myself regarding food. (I bought avocados and found myself really thinking through the process of how to use them, balancing my menu nutritionally) The old me planned an unhealthy mexican dinner around 3 avos!
exercise
~didn't walk my planned mile
~spontaneous....lots! recycle, hauling trash, picking up in the yard

FutureFitChick
02-06-2011, 12:10 AM
Coaches/Buddies, today was way off plan because both my husband and I are totally wiped out from different sourced bugs. Weíre trying not to kill each other with our mutual whining, coughing, and sneezing. So far Iím pulling ahead in the race to get over my cold, but hopefully Iím not just racing towards his. Didnít get my food planned like I was hoping for the week because of being sick, but did stock up on healthy staples and some unhealthy cookie dough and velveta (darn Super Bowl display). I noticed earlier today that I was reading a blog post (http://melomeals.blogspot.com/) of a woman that does low cost vegan. When she was starting to feel ill she stepped up her raw eating to boost her immune system, but I get processed comfort food. What the heck? I think (or hope) it might have come out differently if we both werenít so miserably sick right now in our house.

Todayís Essentials:
Weigh-in: did not weigh
Read Advantage Cards two times: once
Read Response Cards at least two times: once
Ate slowly, sitting down, noticing every bite: no
Gave myself credit when I engaged in helpful eating behaviors: not really
Did spontaneous exercise: does walking around the pharmacy for cold medicine and the grocery store for OJ count?
Did planned exercise: no
Wrote out food plan for tomorrow: no
Tracked todayís food: no
Left food on my plate: yes
Ate only to normal fullness: a little too full
Identified and responded to a self-deluding thought: not really

BeverlyJoy, hope dinner party with your mom went well. Are you driving or flying to Disney? (You may have written that already and I apologize if I missed it.)

BillBlueEyes, good for you for supporting the local market in selling real food. That is awesome!

Carols2, hang in there. You can beat this. Those foods donít really have that power over you as I know you are stronger!! Keep at it! Donít go for the pills!

ChefJoona, good idea about changing your posting time. Iíll be really interested to find out if it helps you out.

GardenerJoy, we were out trying to get our cars in the driveway this morning too, as we expected the snow plow to be by getting todayís snow off the road. It took a while, but we got them up, without reaching concrete as well. Great job at getting more than 10% of the monthís exercise out of the way. Thanks for adding interesting books to my future reading list too (2 in fact).

Lexxiss, family drama plays such havoc with eating. Can you imagine how nice it must be to be one of those like 4 people on earth that eats just when they are hungry, stops when they are full, and doesnít respond to every stressor in life trying to sedate it away with the dullness that comes to us from the increased blood flow to the stomach after eating. Too bad for me that Iím not one of them and sorry that you have to struggle along with me!

Maryann, I love that you are getting your 8 year old son to cook and that he is excited about it. What wonderful parenting to teach him about healthy cooking early on. What is a crab feed like?

PamatGA, welcome! I hope others were able to answer your questions, but let me know if they havenít.

Seadwaters, Iím sad to hear about your bananas. I also hope Australia doesnít find the solution in corn products for sugar like the US has. Stay cool!

Shepherdess, I hope you are doing well! Stay warm!!

onebyone
02-06-2011, 12:11 AM
Hello coaches

*credit* for checking in tonight as I almost forgot.

I just looked out to see it snowing. Gee. It felt like spring:bunny2: here today, all warm and sunny, even though I knew it would snow again.

DH and I have decided to make an offer on the tall skinny townhouse we saw a few weeks ago that is around the corner from his work. The agent said the two units were still available so that bodes well for getting one of them. We're both tired of the hunt and just want a place to live and while the rooms are small we can make it work. We don't have much furniture anyway; our wealth is all in books and artwork and classic video games and comic books. I have a decent collection of romance comics if I say so myself-my favorite being the Nurse and Doctor comics. Often the nurses will faint into the arms of the doctor=True Love and great grist for the artwork mill.

Today I threw out the snacky things in a bag brought into the house by DH from his car ride home. Into the garbage they went. *credit* DH's mom sent him here with two tupperware thingys of leftovers. They'll go in the garbage tomorrow. It's the thought that counts.

I got through another garbage bag of laundry = three bags emptied in two days. *credit* I followed the basic daily plan I came up with for my clean up = (1) a load of dishes washed and put away/sorted/packed and (2) laundry washed and dried, sorted/packed/thrown away. I didn't do much more today as DH was home and I just wanted to enoy his company, though he mostly spent the day downstairs working on game code for the Vectrex (http://www.vectrexmuseum.com/vectrexhistory.php) his favorite gaming system. He has made quite a few games for the system and we even attended the classic video game convention in Philadelphia one year, I think 1998 or so. Anyway it makes me happy to see him coding again. Yay! So it was an easy day.

I entertained my friends' two young boys by having them over to continue playing Lego Indian Jones on our wii this morning while tey went to see the place tey are moving to on March 1st. It's so funny to see the two boys "accidentally" blow each other up in the Indiana Jones game. One boy is 10, the other 8.

After they left I dropped off two boxes at the Sally Ann, one box had a complete set of pots, fresh from the dishwasher this morning, complete with lids. I had two good sets of pots but only need one. I hope one blesses someone's home. I also donated a garbage bag of linens and clothes. More of both kinds of stuff next weekend-I'm already working on a new box and a new bag. It's really really good to see progress.

I have 2 official boxes packed and I *credit* picked a date for my move: March 15th. DH gets paid then so we can pay a mover; it's mid-month so easier to find a mover, and it gives me 2 weeks to come back and clean this place up a bit before we are officially out on March 31st.

Today I looked online into water aerobics, or aquabics, where I am moving to and I have a good selection to choose from; three places even! YAY.:carrot: I've also found a community garden to hook up with, and two places where I can work on my ceramics not to mention I downloaded the form for the local fall art studio tour. I hope we get our place so I can send the form in (due date feb 11 aka this coming friday YIKES!) with my new *local* address, and my images, and cross my fingers they put me on the studio tour for October 2011. I am determined to be a happy girl once the move is over and I start to settle into my new community. I'm going to do my best to make a good life for myself and for DH.

I'm glad to have chosen a date to move and that we are going for this townhome near DH's work. It feels right; let's hope it works out.

*credit* for moving forward and for choosing over and over to hold to a positive outlook even if some days it feels bleak.
It feels hard cause it is hard.
But right now I am about to enjoy sleeping in a nice clean bed due to my recent laundry efforts. *credit*

Food choices weren't great today, but there was no snacking and I ate slowly during my mealtimes. *credit*

Realistically, I am aiming to hold my weight to below 280; maintain in other words, lose if I can, but really maintain, and not gain until this move is over. It will be over soon enough, and I'll be in the pool working it all off, and in the studio getting it all out... can't wait can't wait.

Good Night Coaches.

Billblueeyes I read today that Boston is contemplating dumping snow into the harbour a la the boston tea party even though it is bad for the water in the harbour given what's in the snow. Do you guys have that much snow? Can you take a jpg of a snowpile for me, some unusual amount of snow that you don't normally see?? I'd love to see it.

BillBlueEyes
02-06-2011, 07:12 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Good progress on de-cluttering, CREDIT moi. I gave up books that I've been looking at for weeks pondering how I would ever let them go: books about computing from the 1980's when personal computers were only for the adventurous; coffee table picture books of the Soviet Union, Australia, and California; science books well written and quite correct at their time but now obsolete. The trick was that DW immediately put them in boxes and I never saw them again. Agony and the Ecstasy it was.

Went for dinner at DW's favorite Thai restaurant as a reward for tossing out stuff where, remembering Beverlyjoy, I had ginger steamed Cod. CREDIT moi for a good choice and for bringing half home for tomorrow's lunch.


onebyone - Kudos for continued de-cluttering. I'm encouraged by yours and the others here getting rid of stuff. But biggest Kudos for your attitude at making the move a positive experience. We love our small community garden here; if you get in, now's the time to order your seeds.

FutureFitChick - Double Ouch for two colds; do hope you don't next get each others. Velveta is a comfort food for me; it has to stay out of my house. I like your friend's notion of raw foods to boost the immune system, not because I know that it would work, but I like her notion of doing something naturally healthy.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Ouch for the different layers to shovel - know about that here. Thanks for the quote from [I]The Way to Eat .

Beverlyjoy - Oatmeal for Disney World sounds good to me. I'll bet they'll have fresh fruit. We're now seeing Florida blueberries even up here.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - 15 bags of stuff gone is worth a celebration both for freeing the mind and for the exercise. This de-cluttering is contagious. Great reminder, "I did find when I planned for the dreaded donut that it became easier to resist."

maryann - Delightful thought that an 8 yo boy will learn to cook as well as chose and prepare a meal. Wish that had happened to me. Kudos for savoring, "Yeah, I was OP yesterday."

ChefJoona - Yep, Kudos for "for taking one bite of an off-plan snack and tossing the rest away" - stellar recovery.

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

Get Ready to Strengthen Your Resistance Muscle
Every single time you say no to unplanned food, you fortify your resistance muscle, which makes it more likely that you will be able to resist the next time ... and the time after that ... and the time after that. Every time you don't feel like practicing a skill but you do it anyway, you strengthen your resistance muscle, which makes it easier and easier to get yourself to practice your skills in the future.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 19.

Beverlyjoy
02-06-2011, 09:18 AM
Hi Beck-folks/coaches - yesterday was a healthy day. I am always grateful for that. DH and I went to the Mardi Gras party at my mom’s senior apartment. It was so much fun. Before we left I ate some pumpkin with lite margerine, sf syrup, and cinnamon so I would not go hungry. Credit Thinking back to what Dr. Beck says about buffets - I scoped out the spread, decided on my good choices, and did NOT go back for seconds. Credits. They had a chocolate fountain - I dabbed a piece of fresh pineapple in some. I counted it in my daily total. Mission accomplished for a fun healthy evening.

This morning DH complemented me on my good food choices at the party. That was nice.

At my mom’s apartment (55 and older - not assisted living) they have a weekly dance class with Denver, the physical therapist. He came to the party and danced with all the ladies who like to dance. They are widows who just love to get the chance to dance again. It was grand.

Other credits
Plan/log/measured when possible
Lots of water
Exercise - stretches, strengthening, bands, rec. bike
No seconds.
Left a bite
Tasted my food - most of the time
No choice - red light to some things
Said Not fair - oh well

Billbe - yes, gotta love the ginger steamed fish. Major credit for the decluttering - it’s hard to part with things. Laughing at your joy of losing a pound in a few hours - we have all done something like that. The foodie’s mind just works that way. Lol Credit for finding/rescuing that lone orange in the land of junk food.

Patamatga - WELCOME! So glad you posted.

Onebyone - I hope the townhouse works out for you and DH. Credit for throwing out the unhealthy snacks! Major credit for your packing and sorting. Also - looking ahead for a water aerobics place! Carry on.

Futurefitchick - I hope you and DH are feeling better soon. I like the vegan site. Credit for reading your arc/rc when you weren’t feeling good. Yes.. We can count walking in the pharmacy and grocery store for exercise when you don’t feel good! We are flying to Disney via Southwest. It’s a nonstop flight.. Yay.

Lexxiss/Debbie - so glad you could check in. Life sounds like it’s been a bit hectic lately. Credit for making such good choices and really ‘thinking’ about how to make those good choices. So glad your mom called to apolagize.

Gardener/joy - your quote from the Way We Eat book is so right on. Thanks for posting it. Just think - all the shoveling is such good exercise. This being true - enough already of the snow! Also - the thoughts about rebelling against the processed food in making sane healthy choices for yourself (my paraphrasing) were very helpful and meaningful to me. Thanks.

Maryann - I love hearing about your special cooking Saturday with your DS. These are lessons he can take with him for a lifetime. Major happy dance credit for you taking a sandwich to the game and avoiding the ice cream and cookie treat! Hope your cold goes away soon. Thanks for the idea of adding powdered milk or protein to my oatmeal mix I am taking to Disney.

Chefjoona - Sorry you lost your post. I hate when that happens.! You said: Noted appreciation for the honesty, support and nonjudgment on this forum! No matter where any of us are on any given day. This is a place to share struggles and ask for support, as well as share successes! This says it all, friend. I agree wholeheartedly. I think that is what has been so helpful to us all. The honesty is important - as it helps us all go forward in learning to live with food in a healthful manner. Hope you get in your snowshoeing. Daily checking in is so, so helpful.

Seadwaters - I hope your heat lessens soon. I hope you have been safe from the cyclone. The videos on the news have been heartbreaking to see - for some folks. Sorry to hear about the banana’s (and other crops devastated). Banana’s are my favorite. Credit for the willingness to focus on hunger/desire/cravings.

Carols2 - sorry to hear the discussion of fruit tarts with the nutritionist set off a craving for them. You can learn to walk away at some point and more often. This is what I do, when willing.:
One of my favorites is from my response card on dealing with hungers, cravings and desires. I re-write the information from that response card into my journal every day as a reminder:

[I]The Five D's - Distance, Distractions, Drink Water, Deep Breathing, Destroy the food. (I usually cover it with dishwashing liquid)
(ISNIR) - it’s how I remember things.
I - Identify as craving or desire - but, because it is a craving or desire, eating it is NOT an emergency,
S - Stand firm and Strengthen your resistance muscle and strengthen your reserve.
N - No choice - the hardest part of a craving or desire is the anxiety and urgency you feel when you want to eat it - you don't think you can get through it. But you can.
I - Imagine how bad you'll feel after eating it.
R - Remember why you want to do this.
If I am willing to go through these things in my mind as I face food - I can work past the craving/desire.


Rubyjan - glad you went to the WW meeting. Many folks live well with their program. You said: Ate lunch with a friend and ate a slim person's lunch. That is just what doctor Beck says - learn to be around food like a thinner person might eat. Well done.

New/lifestyle - glad you checked in. It really helps. I don’t always have time to do personals, but - I find checking in is a good reminder of what I need to be doing.

Mary contrary - I am sorry to hear of all your stresses and work load. I know it’s so hard to fit it all in. Credit for trying to make a daily plan that could help get it all in. Remember - even in writing - we sometimes just need a break. Maybe you could use that time for healthy eating and some exercise. Exercise revs us up to keep going.

Andrea - credit for starting to do the Beck ‘tasks’. In the first book - she said we can weight daily or weekly. However, in her other books she recommends daily. I too struggle with this concept. I sometimes weight daily now - but, sometimes every other day. As a long time 'weekly weigh' person, I had the mentality of “I can overeat’ on the day I weigh myself. I had to stop that thinking. I find that weighing more often keeps me on my plan more effectively. That being said - It all boils down to willingness for me.

Shepardess - hope you are feeling well (you and the little one). Credits for being so mindful of healthy eating and exercise and planning ahead often.

ChefJoona
02-06-2011, 10:07 AM
Oh SuperBowl Sunday... a day devoted to horrible foods (and a football game with advertisements for horrible food abounding... :) ) . I have picked out a couple healthy and low calorie recipes to make. Even DP's request isn't so bad... well he asked for fried chicken, but was agreeable to shake n' bake drumsticks (a little less evil) as an alternative. I'm planning to allow myself some flexibility today.

I had a just overall great day yesterday. I spent nearly the whole day with my sister (my twin) and my neice (who is just 3 months). There have been times in our recent lives that my sister and I have had a lot of tension... really as our once parallel lives began to go separate ways. But my neice has brought us back together. I feel so fortunate to live less than 10 miles from them. We had a suprise call from a good friend of ours from college (my sister and I attended undergrad together) who was in town for the day. We enjoyed a nice visit with her and her DH at a sushi restaurant. My sis and I shared a small snack to stay on plan. I ended the day out with a run to the grocery store to stock up on supplies for my snacks today. It was snowing when I came out of the store, so DP and I snuggled in for dinner and a movie in our condo. I made a delicious greek style salad with my new favorite super food- Quinoa.

Waiting to hear from my sister about snow shoeing today.

I weighed-in a few minutes ago and was suprised by a drop of two pounds since my weigh-in on Thursday. I feel confused by this- it seems too fast. I haven't eaten breakfast yet- perhaps that's why. My body does not feel like its lost 2 lbs in the last 3 days. I think I am still learning a lot about my body and weight loss.

onebyone I was really enlived by your post! What a relief it must be to have your future living situation coming together. CREDIT for all the hard work organizing and donating that you did!!!

Beverlyjoy I really like your 5 D's and ISNIR. I think I'll make a similar card for myself.

I think I'll start my evening check-ins tomorrow.

Happy Sunday Beckies!! :cheer:

gardenerjoy
02-06-2011, 01:48 PM
Finally a new low, the first in more than a month. Apparently, shoveling snow is good for me. I know it made me more hungry and I had to declare hunger as a non-emergency more often yesterday than usual!

I sometimes watch the Super Bowl for the commercials, but I realized, like ChefJoona, that there will be a lot of commercials for things I don't want to eat so I think I'll skip it entirely this year. We talked about going to a movie in the theater (we're trying to see most of the Academy Award nominees), but I think we're going to stay home and see if we can get the driveway cleared to pavement.

WI: -0.9kg (new low), Exercise: +105* 300/1300 minutes for February, Food: 95%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

FutureFitChick
02-06-2011, 01:52 PM
Coaches/Buddies, Iím beginning to feel human again, as is my husband, though heís still a little behind me. Time to get back on track with my food now, as I havenít been tracking or planning the last few days. Any planning I had done already was tossed out due to lack of energy to leave bed.

Todayís Essentials:
Weigh-in: no change
Read Advantage Cards two times: no
Read Response Cards at least two times: no
Ate slowly, sitting down, noticing every bite: yes
Gave myself credit when I engaged in helpful eating behaviors: yes
Did spontaneous exercise: a little cleaning to get rid of germs
Did planned exercise: none planned
Wrote out food plan for tomorrow: not yet
Tracked todayís food: not yet
Left food on my plate: no
Ate only to normal fullness: yes
Identified and responded to a self-deluding thought: yes

BeverlyJoy, just curious, how did you count the chocolate from the fountain? I wasnít able to find a close match when I had that. I love the idea of dance PT. That is fantastic. I have a great aunt that lives at The Gardens @ St. Elizabeth. I wonder if she gets such a fantastic offering. Extra credit to DH for noticing your healthy food choices. Sounds like Southwest has good service, as they have direct flights Indianapolis too.

BillBlueEyes, mmmÖ Ginger steamed cod sounds incredible. Iíll have to look for that on Thai menus around here. The closest Iíve found is a poached fish in a special Thai tagine type pot. I was a little nervous eating it, and Iím not sure why. Great job decluttering books too.

ChefJoona, your day yesterday sounds terrific. It would be wonderful to be that close to my brothers! Quinoa is delicious. Are you using Superfoods Rx as well? I do, which is why I am asking. (I thought you were on WW.)

Onebyone, great job on your successful tossing of junk food.

CeeJay
02-06-2011, 02:01 PM
Hello everyone:

Warning- bummer of a post. Skip if you don't want to go there.

As you can probably guess, my absence here since last Monday means I am not doing well. I have a lot of excuses. But my life is going to provide excuses forever. The challenges are not going anywhere. I can modify them, but I can not remove them. It all comes down to choice. Am I going to give up- eat what I want-which is fat and sugar, when I want- which is whenever the stress gears up? And not bother with any weighing, measuring, planning, recording, reading, planning, struggling, planning, counting...

Problem is when I give up-- with giving up comes depression, anxiety, worrying, feeling guilty, thinking the heart attack/stroke/cancer/diabetes is right around the corner, and all-around lousy self esteem.

I stay on plan, I fall off. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. When I stay on I lose but gain it all back the next week when I fall off. So I am yo-yoing up and down and in the end I am the same weight. Except today I got on the scale and I am within 5 pounds of where I started in Oct 2009.

I know what I have to do- I am just having a crisis of faith that I can actually do it for any length of time. Feel like I am going to eventually get some horrible diagnosis and then I will be wondering why I chose eating over living. I don't mean to be dramatic but there it is. I am 49 years old. I don't fool myself in thinking I have forever to deal with this. I have been in CB therapy- I know this eating is about self-comfort- I know why-I have made huge changes in the way I think about and approach life and the weight is my last hurdle. How come I can't get through it, around it or over it?

Thanks for listening. I did some things this morning like read my advantage cards, read a few chapters of Beck, weighed in, and ate a healthy breakfast. But I don't feel like CREDIT- I just feel like so what?

I cannot help but feel this is over-sharing in a major way but I know many of you understand and thank you for being there as the only people I would ever lay this all out to.

:grouphug:

RubyJan
02-06-2011, 02:46 PM
Hello everyone -- I have been working at my computer all weekend, with no exercise breaks and no house cleaning.. Just writing lectures and powerpoints and doing useless administration. And working on believing that I can do this the Beck way... but its hard, which is why I was so touched by your message, Cee-Jay, because I have felt that almost every day for a few years, and am trying to finally scrape the anxiety off! I have been trying again and again and again, like you, to stick with a programme, ANY programme. But the only thing we can do is just do it like the response card says.I gues the thing is to just stick with it for the next three hours, and then when that is done, stick with it for another three hours. Anyway, it doesn't make any difference how many times you may have had to start again, because the more often you try, the more likely it is that you and me and everyone will succeed.

I have been filling out my weight watchers points for two days now, and while I really enjoy writing everything down( it almost feels like the writing makes me feel I can do it) I am feeling hungry and not yet feeling that that is okay. I have also decided to go off HRT after being on it way too long, in order to cut down on my risks... I think deciding to do the Beck programme has made me feel like I really would like to stay alive and not add to the obesity the dangerous potential for breast cancer from HRT.

So back to work tomorrow. And in a little while, I am going to treat myself to watching a silly costume drama on the BBC,called Downton Abbey.

Today I give myself credit for
1) weighing when I woke up and taking my Blood Pressure
2)sticking to my eating plan
3)eating sitting down
4) AND THIS WAS A MAJOR THING -- making my stir fry of mushrooms and lentils and onions in a SMALL PAN, rather than the HUGE one I usually use! Hooray!

Hope everyone is well, and sending you support, Cee-Jay

pamatga
02-06-2011, 06:06 PM
Well, I read this book when it first came out. I brought it home from the library, which I agree with another person here is not the best way to read this book since it is not a "quick read". I have a background in both traditional dieting like Weight Watchers, NutriSystem, South Beach (was the most recent in 2008) and non-traditional dieting like Overeaters Anonymous which helped me when I was really working the program. If you name a program that I haven't mentioned here, I can bet my last dollar I have tried it. Of course, the irony of that is for all the dieting efforts I have put forth I am actually heavier than I have ever been. I have even broken past set points and moved beyond them! That is what is frightening me.

I am currently enrolled on the "Biggest Loser Club" website. I just feel like so much of my problem with food is between my two ears--my head, my brain, my noggin! I want to quit reacting to life with poor food choices. I want to lose this extra weight once and for all and I believe that this is the other half of the equation. I need to develop a "Thin Mind" so when the body gets down to a normal size I will have the mindset to keep the weight off.

This time I will buy a copy of my own and I will be posting here daily from now on. So, for the time being, thanks again for the welcome and here's to everyone's success along this journey.

pamatga
02-06-2011, 06:26 PM
I scrolled down and read all of your warm welcomes, not to take away from Bill!

I read what you all said and I am getting a better idea of what you are trying to do here and where I can add my two cents.

I give myself credit for rejoining "Biggest Loser" and following their outline for weight lose and regaining health and strength through 80/20 healthy eating and moderate exercises.

I ordered pizza last night but I got the vegetarian rather than my favorite sausage.

I do log my food plan every day on BLC (Biggest Loser Club) and I log my exercises.

I drink 64-80 oz of plain water each day.

I bought a pedometer so I could see and know just how active I am (or not).

I bought a new digital scales so I could face the truth about my weight lose (and/or gain).

I officially weight once a week but I also weight each day.

I credit myself for joining you all in getting this done the right way this time.

Hope your team wins today.

Pam

Lexxiss
02-06-2011, 10:35 PM
I have 49 minutes to sit down with you all. I'm trying a new recipe, a 10 Vegetable Stew. It's simmering right now. I did taste 2 new vegetables-parsnip and celery root. The jury is out...I'm thinking I'll enjoy them more in the stew but I haven't even tasted the concoction since I always make a recipe exactly as written the first time.

Today our brunch provided an obstacle-Thai Coconut Shrimp. I had more than was prudent, but I'll never make them at home . Many times we don't have another meal all day but tonight we'll have the above mentioned stew. *credit* I skipped items I might have enjoyed otherwise, including my usual 1 egg benedict. I did get stuck with dessert and enjoyed several small cookies when I had planned 0. Exercise was shoveling-we got 10" of snow.

BillBlueEyes, what a nice food reward for successful, yet sensitive, decluttering. I had not thought of ordering the steamed fish at a Thai restaurant. I think we're going tomorrow night. *credit* always for bringing home half for lunch. PS-loved the scale story! I think we're all very similar that way.

pamatga, glad to hear you'll be joining us! I, too, need to develop a "Thin Mind". My thin mind isn't always connected, but when it is it feels great.

Andrea(masondixonmama), I hope your Beck prep is going well. Glad to hear that Dr Beck's scale talk really sunk in with you. It really makes sense...I find it works quite well.

Cheryl(seadwaters), as an Aqua fan, I was happy to hear you were a bit sore. It's such great exercise! Hope you're weathering the heat!

Carols2, I hope you are feeling another day better. When I have those "fruit tart" moments it can be quite discouraging. I sure liked what maryann had to say about Dr Beck reminding us to believe in ourselves. You have really come a long way!

onebyone, it sounds like you are persisting to victory. Great job! pitching MIL'S food AND DH's snacks! I liked reading your thought of blessing someone's home with the pans you lovingly packed. Now that I'm working at the food bank I'm understanding that sentiment more than ever.

Beverlyjoy, Yay! Mission accomplished for a fun healthy evening. Now THAT is "thinking like a thin person". I believe it is all in the planning. (sweet that your DH noticed!)

gardenerjoy, great that the scale is moving for you again! I'm with you and am visiting my Beck friends instead of SB'ing. Congrats! on the official announcement of your blog!

FutureFitChick, it's hard to plan when your sick in bed. Glad to hear you're feeling human again and are ready to get back on track.

CeeJay, I don't think your coaches ever skip a "bummer of a post". I am sending supportive thoughts your way and am so hoping that the lessening of job responsibilities is going to ease some of the pressure. If this helps at all, I will share with you that when I absolutely 100% said NO CHOICE to any refined sugar for 6 months, that after the first 12-16 days of detox the process was really simplified. Have you read "The End of Overeating" by David Kessler. For me, understanding WHAT the fat/sugar/salt combo did to me helped me to decide I didn't want to do that anymore.

ChefJoona, regarding lost posts...several posters here suggested I formulate my post on a notepad. I have One Note-it doesn't get lost and I cut and paste when ready. Hooray! for your MAJOR CREDIT, using a small pan instead of the usual large one! PS Glad you and your twin are connecting. My sis arrives Tuesday. She is 2 1/2 yrs younger.

RubyJan, what a wonderful revelation, you said " IÖ.feel like I really would like to stay alive .." It is motivating me, too.

MaryContrary, maryann, Shepherdess, maryblu and all my Beck comrades :wave: (it's dinner time)

The stew was great! I had to rouse DH out of his chair to come to the table. He said, "funny-old habits die hard". He has no idea about the Beck program. ...and, as I observed tonight we haven't had ice cream in the house since he agreed it was ok not to buy it any more. :cp:

onebyone
02-06-2011, 11:26 PM
Coaches

So I waved bye to DH again. He's probably 2/3 to his mom's by now. He's at work tomorrow in Toronto for the week. He was exhausted this weekend and thinks he's getting sick. No doubt. He's had no rest for weeks. I am worried about his health and worried about my own. I felt lousy today. Super puffy and bloated. Really unhealthy. Breathless. Just bad. Part of it is anxiety. DH leaving always triggers that and the overwhelming nature of my task at hand.... sucks. 5 weeks to get this place ready for movers and moving. I can do it. I am doing it. I can feel the tension in my jaw though. And in my stomach. And in my tight muscles that threaten to just seize up. And in my rapid shallow breathing that accompanies my anxiousness and makes me wonder "is that my asthma flaring up or is that just anxiety?"
*BREATHE IN/BREATHE OUT*
Anxiety it is.

Talking to someone I realized that for now my foodplan is not really about food but about taking actions to support my health. Primary is exercise. I felt 1000x better in everyway (mind, body and spirit) when I was focused on getting my Walk Away the Pounds dvd done daily in January. I need to know my body won't fail me. When I am anxious I disconnect from my body somewhat making it soooo much easier to eat bad things. I'm not connected to what I am doing to my body with poor choices. I need to support my health during this stressful time, not serve to make it dysfunctional or make myself feel bad so I can't get this place ready for moving. I must accept this is my task and only my task for the most part. This is what's in front of me to do. I need my body to be working right so I can bend and stretch and pack things/move things/box things up/carry things from one room to the next/bring garbage to the end of the long parking lot or to the recycle bin/carry and move stuff up or down the stairs. My body is essential to getting this done. I need to support my body's health with, at the very minimum, some exercise to strengthen it , to energize it, and to give me the confidence that I am strong enough to get through this.

Acting on ways to support my health inevitably leads to food choices so starting with the exercise will bring me back to food choices in no time. Moving my body is the one answer I get when I listen to my intuition. I have to start there and keep myself open to the next still small whisper that follows.

Thanks for listening. :grouphug:

today's credits
-weighed in: 282.4 (-2 lbs)
-did a load of laundry/folded it
-visited my mom & took her for a drive & went to the casino & had lunch together & answered her questions about me moving even though she asked over and over (her alzheimer's loop today) as she forgot and i dealt with my feelings each time she expressed her fear over me being gone and I said "don't worry I'll see you as much (true) and will call you as much - things won't change too much for us (true-I think...ugh *insert anxiety and sadness here coaches) but *credit* for not avoiding my mother to avoid these feelings something I would have done in the past for sure.
-cooked dinner from scratch
-checked in with my coaches
-left some of my lunch as I felt too full and not so good
-PLANNING TO POST TOMORROW'S PLAN IN THE A.M. TO MY COACHES!

MaryContrary
02-07-2011, 03:54 AM
Hello, my Forum. Just a quick check-in as I wrap up my migrant office space. It's funny how opening a card table, wheeling in my extravagant swivelly leather chair, pulling out my notebooks and books and papers, and lighting a few candles completely changes my room into a writing space. Time to turn it back into sleepy space.

Tomorrow, I begin serious writing on this next, second chapter. Of course I didn't get through all the sources I wanted to read; of course I didn't make the elaborate plan I wanted to make. BUT -- I'm going to try and push through and treat this like a DRAFT. We'll see. I'm a little frightened of the writing schedule I've set for myself this week. I'm prepared to push myself, but if jumping in doesn't work, I'm not going to waste time in the jumping. I'll go back to planning until things feel balanced in my mind.

Unfortunately, I already *feel* how tomorrow is going to go, with this jumping in. I don't feel good about it. What can I say? My instinct says I need another day to get this plan into working order. Okay, I'm going to make a compromise with myself: no more reading of secondary sources, but I will make this plan tomorrow.

Does this sound like procrastination? Hmmm. All I know is that planning is, for me, a form of writing. I really view my plan as a rough draft. And I need just a bit more of it, to work out my ideas.

Maybe the lesson in all of this is to learn to produce more writing, but NOT to chuck my tried and true process completely out the window.:dizzy:

Credits:

* working out Sat and Sun

* making a week-long plan for writing and working out

* doing laundry and cleaning the room

* academic: reading more sources, making a rough-sketch-of-a-plan, doing some freewriting

Thanks for all the supportive feedback, waving to my Beck comrades ! Hope to have time for personals some time soon.

GosfordGirl
02-07-2011, 05:51 AM
Hi Coaches

It has cooled down after 8 straight days over 35 (about 95F) and many days over 41 (HOT). When the rain hit around lunch time yesterday you could hear the ground sizzle and as it was 40 at the time there was a cloud of hot humidity that hit you in the face when you rushed outside to get cool. Took a while for that to happen. We had record breaking LOWS where the night time temperature minimum was 27.2 but for most of the night sat at 33C (over 90F). It is lovely at the moment. Poor Western Australia with the bush fires - the world has gone crazy.

My food has been a bit all over the place - a biscuit here, a piece of bread there, a lack of planning etc. I am really busy and it shows in my food. I never do anything drastic but my weight just bobs up and down in the same place. I need to get organised - get resolve. CeeJay - I really identify with what you are saying and I am sorry you are in that space :hug:. It is difficult to sustain momentum when there is so much that is going on and making life busy. Sometimes just to survive work I deny my physical existence and live hand to mouth. But I need a better plan

Thanks for being here my coaches - credit I checked in tonight and I need to get back to work. It is 8.50pm and I have a lot more to do

BillBlueEyes
02-07-2011, 07:05 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - De-cluttering went well; I faced a huge stack of plumbing and electrical material from twenty years ago. Don't know why it's so painful; perhaps it's accepting that I'm done with self-renovating work, perhaps it's all the plans that were never completed to perfection - just to good enough. I boxed up to give away one of those quiet overhead fans from a yard sale that I always intended to install in our bedroom - electrically wonderful but ugly. Finally admitted that I'd never do that much work installing something I thought was ugly however much I admired the 128 pole motor that allowed it to run so quietly. Over did snacks, Ouch. Didn't over eat during the Super Bowl itself, CREDIT moi.

Out for several walks (CREDIT moi) - using my YakTrak's over my boots for the first time this season. I walked fearlessly over ice while others were floundering. What a great invention.


onebyone - Yay for a month of exercising and for planning another. Kudos for achieving the inner peace to accept your mom's Alzheimer's graciously. [The rain Saturday diminished all our tall stacks of snow - good for those of us who might face shoveling more on top, but the photo drama has passed unrecorded by me.]

FutureFitChick - Welcome back to humanity; hope your DH quickly follows. LOL at chasing away germs for exercise.

CeeJay - Anytime you post, it's not a bummer; it's accountability and that's a step forward. Yep, the way forward is the small steps that you know well. Glad you're finding your way there.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Congrats on your new low, although this year's snow was a heavy price to pay for that achievement. With Saturday's rain our roof is now clear even as the papers report more roof collapses. Glad to have passed that hurdle.

Beverlyjoy - Yay for Mardi Gras in February.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Ouch for busy, Yay for busy, Kudos for moving forward any way. Glad you've got some respite from your heat.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Ten is a lot of different vegetables in one stew; haven't had celery root myself. Was startled by the phrase, "egg Benedict" - have always heard "eggs," LOL.

MaryContrary - Yep, there's a legitimate - and perpetual - tension between thorough and procrastination; Kudos for acknowledging it and finding your path. I like the image of folding up your office to convert the room into the bedroom - sorta the opposite of a Murphy bed, LOL.

ChefJoona - Yay for Quinoa, with thanks to whoever kept that in cultivation until it so recently began to be marketed in North America. Big Kudos for resolving family tension; wish that wasn't so hard.

Ruby (RubyJan) - Like that "in a SMALL PAN" step for bounding your food; Kudos. But you got me drooling for your "stir fry of mushrooms and lentils and onions," LOL.

pamatga - Super list of credits - Kudos, Kudos, Kudos. I especially like the veggie pizza since it's the kind of small step with a benefit without adding to a feeling of being deprived.

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

Get Ready to Strengthen Your Resistance Muscle

On the other hand, every time you eat something you hadn't planned to eat, you weaken your resistance muscle and strengthen your "giving-in" muscle. When you say yes to unplanned food, even if you're eating only crumbs, you make it more likely that you will give in the next time ... and the time after that ... and the time after that. This is why every single bite of unplanned food matters. It's not just the calories; it's the habit. Every time you skip practicing a skill, you strengthen your giving-in muscle and make it less likely that you will consistently use that skill in the future. So every time matters.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 19.

ChefJoona
02-07-2011, 09:21 AM
Just a quick check in this AM, as I'll most likely be back this evening.

Major credit yesterday for an hour long snow shoe with my sister. It was great to be out with her, but it was a challenge. The moment I feel any physical discomfort I start to get really anxious which just makes it worse. I'm going to spend some of my day off today figuring out an exercise plan. I did a bit of Googling around for resources online last night. One page I found recommended a really slow start to exercising. I think my issue is I feel like I should be able to do much more than I'm capable of right off. I jump on the treadmill and expect to be able to sustain a fast rate of walking for a long time, when my body isn't used to that. I then feel in pain and disappointed in my self and avoid exercising. I have to stop that cycle!

FutureFitChick I'm actually not on WW or Superfood RX (though I want to investigate that one...). I am really resistant to any kind of prescriptive diet, so I have developed my own high fiber, loaded with prouduce lower calorie diet. There's no science to it, and I don't count calories, but some how it works for me.

Gotta run... got a call from my Mom that she needs me to take her cat to the vet for an emergency appointment. He was starting to display some signs of a bladder issue yesterday when I was visiting them. He's worse this morning and she called the vet from work and they need to see him ASAP. Its about a 25 minute drive to their house to get him. Hope he's ok! Poor guy!

Shepherdess
02-07-2011, 09:52 AM
Iíve been absent for a few days due to a busy weekend and have had trouble connecting with this site. On Friday and Saturday I had training all day. I managed to sneak a run in since it started later, but didnít get exercise on Saturday. The training was too early and afterward DH and I went out to a movie and dinner. No exercise yesterday either since I was helping DH all AM and we were working on a house project all yesterday afternoon. And yes, we missed the Super Bowl. We might be un-American. We donít get TV at the house. We were invited to a party, but just didnít feel like going.

We had a few meals provided during the training and I chose the best options I could under the circumstances. When we went out to dinner, I was happy to find that the steak house has added more vegetarian options, so now I have more choices than just the Greek salad I normally get. Both days were OP and I was on top of my game.

Yesterday I didnít really have a plan and it showed. I did stay within my calorie limit, but I certainly wasnít making very healthy choices. Iíll give myself credit for tracking my food and making plans for the week.

I wanted to recommend some whole grain pancakes recipes from the NY Times. I made the cardamom spiced pancakes yesterday. DH thought they were weird, but I thought they were really good. http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/19/dining/19mini.html?_r=1&scp=2&sq=pancakes&st=cse.

BillBE, yay for Yaktrax getting you out for exercise on the ice. Great job continuing to declutter, but ouch that it made you snack.

Seadwaters, yikes for hot weather and bush fires. It sounds wild over there. I hope youíre surviving all of it. Glad you got a slight reprieve from all the heat. Keep hanging on with your busy schedule. It seems like youíre making good progress on figuring out how to work in exercise and how to get good meals while youíre busy.

MaryContrary, best of luck on your week of hard writing! Kudos for making a plan that includes exercise through all of it. I hope it gives you the energy you need!

Onebyone, focusing on your overall health, not just your weight, is a great plan. Ití cool that youíve noticed a difference with the Walk Away the Pounds videos. That will help keep up your motivation. Best of luck with your continued packing. It sounds like youíre making progress.

Lexiss, yay for new recipes! I hope this was a keeper. Ouch for the coconut shrimp, but good recovery. Wow for 10 inches of snow, but it is good exercise.

Welcome Pamatga! Itís great that youíve recognized that weight loss is a psychological issue, not just finding the right diet. I have tried lots of diets over the years, but Beck is the only one that seems to work over a long period of time. Kudos for getting the veggie pizza instead of the sausage!

RubyJan, great job making stir fry in the small pan instead of the big one. Great job sticking with WW. It will take some time to get it all figured out, but if you stick with it, youíll be in the zone.

CeeJay, hugs while you deal with the frustration of going off plan. Remember, itís not all a waste. Youíve made some good progress, like learning how to have a healthy plan when you are staying in a hotel and dealing with stress without eating. I hope things slow down at work soon. That should make things so much easier for you.

FutureFitChick, glad you are starting to feel better. Sometimes, the plan just doesnít work for the circumstances, but itís good that you had one. I hope you and your DH are now fully recovered!

Gardenerjoy, congrats on the new low and yay for all that shoveling. Glad you were rewarded for remembering that hunger isnít an emergency.

ChefJoona, great job going into the Super Bowl with a healthy plan. Itís a tough day dedicated to eating and watching TV!

Beverlyjoy, kudos for filling up on something healthy before heading into the Mardi Gras party. That is a great strategy!


SilverBirch, yes, the little one is due end of June/beginning of July. Itís a great time to have a baby on the ranch. DHís family has a lot of July birthdays.

Waving to everyone else I missed!

gardenerjoy
02-07-2011, 12:07 PM
We unexpectedly went out to lunch yesterday. Credit for making reasonable choices (even though I was tempted to do otherwise), for leaving the worst stuff on my plate (next time, I'll try to remember to ask them to just not give me the stupid fried pastry bowl of the taco salad), and for skipping both snacks because Mexican food tends to leave me quite full and I didn't need to eat a snack just because it was time for one.

I shoveled snow (actually slush) for the second day in a row as exercise, so no * to indicate that I varied my workout from the day before. Today might make the third in a row if it gets warm and sunny enough and the salt does its part of the job. I haven't driven in 10 days -- we're getting the big truck out some, but DH drives it. The library has forgotten who I am.

WI: +0.45kg, Exercise: +90 390/1300 minutes for February, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Hugs to onebyone, CeeJay, Carols2 and everyone else! The book I'm reading (The Way to Eat by David Katz and Maura Gonzalez) says that our human bodies were designed for constant movement and scarce food. We are not well adapted to an environment of limited movement and abundant food. We're like polar bears in the desert -- not designed for the environment we're living in -- so it's a struggle. Not an impossible struggle, obviously (look at the Maintainers thread), but aiming for a healthy lifestyle in the modern environment is not a goal for wimps! So credit to each of us for doing what we can this day to move our journey forward. We're all champions!

Beverlyjoy
02-07-2011, 12:08 PM
Hi Becksters/coaches - Yesterday was a healthy day - I am grateful. My written plan needed to take some twists and turns - but, I stayed right within the perameters of my plan. I was working and missed my morning snack. So, I got those veggies in later in the day. I made a smoothie that tasted awful. So, I pitched it and made a different one. It all worked out fine. Credit/grateful.

I called the Disney folks and found out that our room has a mini fridge. This is great - as I can get and keep some yogurt and other healthy things around in there.

Yesterday I had many credits:
Planned (changed plan)/measured/logged
Journal - actually wrote down credits/sabotaging thoughts/ unplanned eating, etc
Said No choice a couple of times
Did some exercise
Left a bite
No seconds

Lately I have been licking the spoon or knife when I am preparing food. There was a time, for months, when I just was willing to not engage in this food behavior. I am going to make a concentrated effort to get back to this.
This is one place where I can twirl instantly as my reward. (I love twirling) I need to be reading my arc/rc/beck book more consistently, concentrating on taste/mindfulness/slowness when I eat.

DH needed to be in Pittsburgh for an early meeting. He watched the Super Bowl with folks at the hotel in the lobby. There is no joy in Pittsburgh this morning. I hope folks aren’t grumpy at the meeting. I watched the game with a regular healthy meal, enjoyed the commercials, and played on the computer while watching. It was nice not to face the usual Super Bowl party foods this year.

Futurefitchick - you said: just curious, how did you count the chocolate from the fountain? I wasn’t able to find a close match when I had that. I know that one tablespoon of Hershy Syrup is 50 calories. I know I didn’t have more than a couple of teaspoons of the chocolate. I counted that chocolate as one of my fruit exchanges. Since both chocolate and fruit are carb exchanges it worked out OK for me. A fruit exchange is equal to aprox. 60 calories.

cee-jay - gosh - I would never skip your post because you are struggling. I am glad you posted. Not glad you are feeling down about the weight stuff. I totally understand how you feel and sometimes feel the same. It's just never ends all this weight loss stuff. One thing I do know, we can never stop trying again because this time might be THE time when it does click into our psyche. I know, for me, my judgement on when, how much, what, and where to eat food is just broken. So, I just have to plan. Sometimes we do better than other times. Maybe try different plan for a fresh start. Most of all, please keep posting.

I’ll try to get back for more personals.

pamatga
02-07-2011, 03:21 PM
Today is my official weight in day: 274 lbs. I lost the "recommended" 1% of body weight (BLC) or 2.76 lbs this past week. I am keeping a chart so I have something to aim for each week.

Exercise: I added 10 minutes to my last week's 20 minutes on the treadmill.

I drink 64 oz of plain water starting first thing in the morning. I don't allow myself any other beverage until I have hit that mark.

I log in on my BLC site both my fitness and my food plan each day. I keep a "clean" kitchen so I don't usually plan my meals ahead. I eat whatever I feel like throughout the day since as I log them on BLC the macronutrients are calculated for me. My goal each day is to stay within the recommended nutrient breakdowns. This way I can tell at a glance if I need to eat more vegetables for dinner, etc. and I know by the end of the day I have eaten a balanced and healthy meal plan.

I ordered "Beck Diet Solution" last night and it should be here by Friday.

I also ordered two books by Dr. Egoscue which were recommended to me. It is an alternative exercise program for dealing with chronic pain. Chronic pain is the main reason why I find it difficult to make real headway in upping my activity level. The exercises take about 80 minutes at a time but they will be well worth when I will correct the causes of my chronic pain.

Have a great day everyone!

onebyone
02-07-2011, 05:48 PM
Coaches

Woke up feeling blah this morning. We've got the lightly falling fluffy snow again. I talked to DH just now. He went to see the place we thought we wanted to rent (that's around the corner from DH's work) with the agent over his lunch hour. He wanted to see it again before we put in an offer on it. There are two units side by side; one can only be seen on a Saturday so we've never seen it though the floorplans indicate they are identical HOWEVER... he just told me there's a bad/cheap ceiling patch job on the floor beneath the kitchen sink. he turned the water on and there wasn't a leak so he thinks it's shoddy workmanship but the landlord needs to answer for it. As well, he did rememebr correctly that the mirrored door of the entry way closet was broken on the left hand side and there is a chipped tile in the kitchen. He did say the backyard was as big as I remembered and I spent a good hour investigating cat enclosures for Caesar-dreaming that I can bring the kitty safely outdoors with me. He'd love that. But I digress. All this to say that we have to wait until we get an answer from the landlord and DH may stay in town over the weekend to see the second unit. I am actually urging him to stay over as he is exhausted. Poor guy. And he's getting sick too; a cold. He needs to just rest.

So again I need patience. No answer on a place to live yet.

And I totally forgot I was going to commit my plan here today. I am so distracted. credit for weighing in: 283.4 today (+1). I am having my chicken soup for lunch and dinner made from scratch -credit. Credit as well for tossing DH's mom's leftovers out.
I am still planning on a 15 session of watp but I might walk on my mini trampoline to the dvd, but wither way I'll do it before the day is over. No credit moi until it's done of course.

today's plan
___ drink my water
___ do my exercise
___ eat from scratch
___ do one load of laundry=wash/dry/fold/sort
___ do one load of dishes=wash/unload/sort/pack-give away or keep
___ finish packing the living room bookcase
___ take time for me/rest/relax/meditate

maryann
02-07-2011, 07:56 PM
"Arrrrgh!" as Snoopy would say. The weekend was grueling. I shared about staying OP at King's Game. Well, I stayed OP (extra 300 calories) during crab feed AND through friend's breakfast of chili cheese omlettes the next morning. But I STILL had to face a Superbowl party. I began eating misc. sugar items and decided no way would I go to the party and eat the rest of the evening. Credit: Did not go to party, went to gym instead and although I was still a little messy that evening and weighed in plus (3lbs) my bet water weight) this morning, I think it was a victory. I have repeatedly learned about myself that I can only handle one meal a day out. Next time, I will pack more meals.
Personals tom. I am OP as we speak.

ChefJoona
02-07-2011, 09:06 PM
My first evening check-in.

I was around the Condo for most of today. Ate on-plan. I created a list of websites to browse when I need distraction from night time snacking urges. Its saved in "Favorites" list, so I can just click on the links.

I just finished up a cooking project, and am about to watch a TV show, so I have had enough distractions tonight so I'm not wanting to snack. After watching this show, I plan to go into the bedroom so I'm not near the kitchen.

Tomorrow is going to be a weird eating day. I have meetings out of the office at various places (I'm a social worker and do home visits to see clients) including during breakfast and lunch. I tried to pack up some on plan food so I don't miss planned meals. I realize I don't have many items I can easily take along- these days happen some what often, so I'm going to need to figure this out.

Hope you're all having a good evening, or what ever time of day it is your part of the world! :)

masondixonmama
02-07-2011, 10:04 PM
Hello all,

Today was my first day on plan, and I'm pleased to report that it went very well.

Credits for:
* Weighing in this morning and charting my weight
* Reading advantage cards and other coping cards as needed
* Eating slowly MOST of the time. I tend to eat at my desk at work while I'm checking the news, I'm thinking this is probably not good.
* Spontaneous & planned exercise - 20 minute walk @ lunch and 1 hr water aerobics tonight.
* Promoted positive self esteem
* Stuck to my food plan and wrote out one for tomorrow.
* Said no choice and oh well to cravings before lunch.
* Filling out my daily log sheet.

Need to work on drinking more water and taking multivitamins. I liked patagma's suggestion of drinking it first thing in the am. Maybe there might be room for some of my beloved diet pepsi if I got the water out of the way first thing. Thanks for making me think!

Andrea

CeeJay
02-07-2011, 11:07 PM
Hello everyone:

Thanks to you all for reading my post yesterday and giving such thoughtful and kind responses. Today I have a terrible sore throat and headache so I think my depressed mood also had something to do with being on my way to getting sick.

RubyJan-credit for filling out your WW points, weighing in, and sticking to your plan. Thanks for the message- we are not alone in this journey and it really does need to be one day at a time.

pamatga-I so agree that our food problems are, as you put it, in between our ears. I join you in your goal to lose the weight for once and for all.

Lexxiss-I hope your veg stew hid the taste of the parsnip. LOL. Thank you for your kind words and you are correct in that the 2 jobs is just getting to me in a big way at this point. I will get the book you recommended.

onebyone- I really like your focus on exercise. Keeping at exercising, even when the food choices are uneven, is so motivating. Nice list of credits.

MaryContrary-waving hello and kuddos for working out both days on the weekend.

seadwaters-I think we are both too busy. Lets hope we both find the better plan we are searching for.

BillBlueEyes- yay for multiple walks. Thanks for the reminder that accountablility is a step forward.

ChefJoona- you are smart to slowly build up your exercise. You don't want a set back with an injury.

Shepherdess- thanks for hugs and the reminder that I have made lots of good progress. Gotta figure that it is all learning and sooner or later things will be smoother more often.

gardenerjoy- thanks for your words. Polar bears in the desert is cute- as long as we are not polar bears in the dessert. (Very lame but I could not resist)

Beverlyjoy- kuddos for a healthy day yesterday. I agree that there is no stopping trying. And I love what you said about accepting the your judgement on when, how much, what and where to eat is broken. I need to think about that and reach a level of acceptance on that one.

maryann-super credit for skipping the party for the gym. Fantastic!!!

masondixonmama- nice list of credits.

Well, todays credit is posting. But that's OK. Tomorrow will be better.

:grouphug:

MaryContrary
02-07-2011, 11:15 PM
Coaches and comrades -- I listened to my gut and decided I needed more planning before writing. How did I know this? The planning that I did today made me so deliriously happy and relieved and ON TRACK that I know I have a writing process that works for me. SO, although this means I won't be producing the typical idea of a draft by Friday, I will be able to get a lot of work done this week, rather than twirling in the leather chair in high anxiety. Whew.

I voiced all of this to my DP, told her that the schedule I had made myself last week (for this week) made me sick, and she said, "Don't throw it away. You'll be ready for it soon." It was good to hear these words, and to know that I can meet a challenge when I'm ready for it. Whew, again.

Credits:

* shifting the morning into productivity by working out

* getting out of the house for a couple of hours (although for the annoying task of patching a tire)

* tracking my calories on my phone, NOT competing with myself to eat less, but to stay OP

* checking in here

* giving myself these credits :)

* no kitchen-grazing

Work on:

* getting back on track writing a Food Plan

Dinner's ready, hugs to all and sending positive energy.

FutureFitChick
02-07-2011, 11:33 PM
Just a check in before I fall in to bed. Hope you are all doing great!

BillBlueEyes
02-08-2011, 05:46 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Food and exercise were both off track. Ouch and Ouch. I got wrapped around the axle when I sent something to the office printer at the last minute before I left - something I needed for a meeting last night. It didn't print - printer needed its cartridge changed. Ouch. The benefits of uber fast common printers comes with the need that the ink cartridge needs to be changed by someone wearing gloves who knows how to do it. I miss my old dot matrix printer with inked ribbon on a spool whose output faded away slowly to give me warning.

So I missed gym fiddling with a mechanical task at home that I should have done a week ago. So then I nibbled all night because my head was wonky. I've reread today's Beck quote 3 times and think I'll read it some more; I need it.


onebyone - Yay for chicken soup from scratch - even when you're not sick, LOL. Ouch for the continuing saga of choosing your new apartment - sending supportive thoughts to your DH for his weekend search.

FutureFitChick - Waving back; neat to note that you didn't report still feeling yucky.

CeeJay - Ouch for being on your way to being sick. Perhaps onebyone can email you some of her homemade chicken soup, LOL.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Leaving stuff on your plate at a restaurant is good stuff; I'm still working on that.

Shepherdess - Yay for a steak house with vegetarian options - maybe you helped tweak them into that. Apparently, yours was the only house in North America not tuned to the Super Bowl - Green Bay won, in case someone asks, LOL.

Beverlyjoy - LOL at "a smoothie that tasted awful" - you're pretty smart to just make another.

MaryContrary - Yay for having a DP who understands the wrestling you're doing with your scheduling. Big Ouch for needing to fix a flat tire, but Kudos for getting it done.

maryann - Staying OP during a crab feed is a big deal; Kudos. The ones I've been to were conducted with the expectation of excessive eating.

ChefJoona - Yep, that snowshoeing deserves Kudos all right, along with Kudos for wrestling with your head stuff about exercise so you can figure out what's right for yourself. And good luck figuring out portable lunches for when you're out and about. My favorite summer lunch is a white bean, tomato, and red onion salad which would work for me. But for winter I'd need something like cold chicken strips with my Man Salad. Do you eat it in the car?

Andrea (masondixonmama) - Good start there with first day on plan; Kudos. Neat show with, "Said no choice and oh well to cravings before lunch."

pamatga - Congrats on the 1% loss. It would seem ambitious to me to hope to keep loses that high for very long. Does you site mention a tapering off period? Kudos for working your 80 minutes exercise plan.

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

Get Ready to Strengthen Your Resistance Muscle

The more you build your resistance muscle and weaken your giving-in muscle, the easier and easier dieting becomes. You are offered a piece of chocolate, and you spontaneously say, "No thanks," because you are thinking, I'd rather be thinner. You are tempted to take a second slice of bread from the restaurant basket, but you automatically reject the idea: No, I didn't plan to have it. If you are tempted to take the partial cookie left on a tray in the office kitchen, you think, No, I'm not going to have it ... Remember yesterday when I turned down the coffee cake, and I felt really good about it? I did it then, so I know I can do it now. You don't struggle. It isn't painful to turn down food because you've proven to yourself over and over that you can. And not only do you have the confidence to know you can turn down food, but also you know that you feel so much better when you do - strong, confident, and in control. Life becomes so much easier when your resistance muscle is strong.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 19.

Lexxiss
02-08-2011, 06:57 AM
Not to be outdone by Boston, we're starting to get loads of snow. Today exercise will be shoveling. I had an off day, snacking after lunch to excess. I took a nap and then prepared an on plan dinner. I skipped my evening snack. Today I'm supposed to pick my sister up at the airport. It's looking like a long day.

BillBlueEyes, ouch for procrastination which leads to nighttime nibbling. Me, too. I read the quotes and will repeat today, NO CHOICE.

onebyone, I liked your well rounded list and made note, especially "take time for me".

FutureFitChick, thanks for checking in !

CeeJay, parsnips were better in stew. Glad to hear your spirits are elevated and sorry you seem to be getting sick.

gardenerjoy, not just eating your snack because it was time for one. I think that qualifies as thinking like a thin person. Thx for sharing as you read through David Katz' book.

Shepherdess, we don't watch the game, either, but I chuckled at "UnAmerican". Great that you are able to turn down an invite and take care of yourselves after a busy weekend.

Beverlyjoy, great job staying within the parameters of your plan as you adjusted for twists and turns.

MaryContrary, great list of credits as you WFH. Nice to have confirmation from DP that you're on the right track.

maryann, ouch for a grueling weekend but making the decision not to go to the party was very thought out, since you could already visualize the outcome. I agree, a victory.

ChefJoona, I like your idea of a "favorites" list for websites to use as distraction. I, too, find retreating to the bedroom a wise choice in the evening. I put books by the bed for perusing.

Andrea(masondixonmama), great credits for your first day OP!

pamatga, great planning! Good that you are ordering books to come up with an alternative exercise plan.

Cheryl(seadwaters), :wave:

Shepherdess
02-08-2011, 08:59 AM
Just a quick check in today before I head off for an early AM appointment. I had a plan yesterday and stuck with it. My plan also included some sugar cookies, since Iíd found a recipe that included whole wheat flour. DH was skeptical, but tried one and deemed it acceptable.

It was snowing yesterday, so no outdoor exercise, but I did do my weights.

onebyone
02-08-2011, 10:26 AM
Hi coaches

While cleaning in the bedroom I found a book called "Abstinence in Action". This is abstinence like OA abstinence which means abstaining from compulsive eating. It's sort of Beck Workbook-like in that there are daily things to do and you can write in the book and I opened it and was amazed. There was the page where you record your starting weight, your measurments and the date. I wrote April 1990, and my starting weight was 141. My waist was 28.5". It's about 46" right now truth be told. And weighed in this morning (credit) at 282 (-1) which is 141lbs heavier than 21 years ago. I was 26 when I wrote that entry. I lost the weight following Nutrisystem and I had a very physical job printing certificates on a handrolled press (a Vandercook proof press) using handset type, full time. I did see 138 and that's the lowest I have ever been in my adult life.

The next time I lost weight was when I was 39, 8 years ago now. Gee time flies. I went from 278 to 179 - could never get that extra 1lb to make it an even 100lbs lost. I did it through Dr. Berstein and it was crazy stupid. VERY expensive but my sister had just become a multi-millionaire so we both did it as she covered most of my costs; weekly B vitamin injections into the belly fat or the bum when the belly became too sore and too hard (yes that happened) and then after months, like 9 months on this diet which was very very severe-we're talking 800 calories-1000 calories a day (at orientation they told us we could have three tbsp of milk a day! I laughed out loud-the only client to do so it was so ridiculous yet I followed it faithfully...) my hair started to fall out and all they said was I should have been taking Omega 3 capsules all along. D'oh! Like I knew that on my own? I remember going to see the Dr and he drew a little doodle to explain weightloss to me and it was of an alligator pulling a rail car. I thought he was nuts but I wanted to see him finish the drawing. When I stalled at 99lbs lost and could not get to 100 for the life of me I went to see the Dr and he had nothing for me. I asked him for counselling and he said to keep sticking to the diet. I didn't go back and I regained the weight completely but managed to stay 6 or so lbs below my starting weight with them up until this fall when it all came back on.

These were the two major times I have tried to lose weight in my life. In between I just carried the extra weight and did not allow it to be an excuse to not live my life. What's changing is the added factor of being older. I don't think my body can cope with the extra weight as well and you just get older so you can't fight everything off so easily, so effortlessly, and you get tired easier. And there's an accumulation of damage done over time; it's not to be denied. I feel it now as when I am exhausted I am really done for. I want to live to be very old but I want to be able to get around and to do things too. I have to put the pieces into place now so I can have that later. It all makes perfect sense except when I want what I want when I want it and Oh well, there's another day tomorrow...

Thanks for listening.



today's plan
_x_ weighed myself
_x__ drink my water
___ do my exercise
_x__ eat from scratch
_x__ do one load of laundry=wash/dry/fold/sort
_x__ do one load of dishes=wash/unload/sort/pack-give away or keep
___ finish packing the living room bookcase
_x__ take time for me/rest/relax/meditate

pamatga
02-08-2011, 11:24 AM
OnebyOne --boy, that story brings back some memories of when I followed a restrictive calorie plan like that. I screwed my metabolism so bad that it took years for it to become "normal". It was during the best reproductive years too so I am sure that is why I also never became pregnant. The things we do to our bodies....it's sad!

All I can say about the Biggest Loser food and exercise program is that my body really responds to it. I am keeping a diet blog on here "More to Life Than Salads" which I detail what I am doing. I am not eating crazy, I am not following any kind of gimmick. I am essentially eating the same food as my husband except for personal preferences. My present calorie range is 1800-2100 per day. It is 80/20 healthy eating. I do my best to avoid eating off my food plan. I have found that what works for me is if it's not in the house, I won't be tempted to eat it. That's how it works for me.

I don't obsess about food like I used to so I feel that is a real accomplishment. I have also discovered that the best way to not have cravings is to consistently eat a balanced, healthy food plan. I also take a multi vitamin,which I have done for 30+ years because I have also found out that sometimes the root cause of cravings is that we are literally "starved" for nutrients and it's mostly the B vitamins too. That helps our moods and nervous system. I have also begun adding a calcium/vitamin D supplement in the past six months as well.

I did 30 minutes walking on the treadmill yesterday. I plan to do that five times this coming week. I am taking the weekends off from "formal" exercising(which I define as specific strength exercises and cardio) because I can.

I log everything I eat. I log what I exercise. I drink at least 64 oz of plain water daily. I wear a pedometer now to see how many steps I am taking.

Once I get the book "Beck Diet Solution" I want to dive right into and begin practicing this. I have dieted off and on for the past 28 years. I have learned what doesn't work. Now, if I find something that works I stick with it. It is my genuine hope that this is the last time that I go over this same ground. The fact that I was able to maintain my initial 25 lbs weight lose from last July up until a week or so ago tells me I am on the right path.

I just want to develop the mental tools so that when life upsets my apple cart, which it has seemed to do in the past four years especially, that I won't turn to food or bad food choices to help me get through the tough times.

As for the BL projection of losing 1% of your body weight weekly, that is what they believe is possible. I would have done better last week but I ate out a lot and I had a couple of days where my daily calories were 2600-2800 those days. I averaged a 4 lbs weight lose last summer when I followed the food and exercise program as it is presented. If I could exercise like they do on the show, I really believe I could be getting the kinds of results as they do. I have advanced arthritis so I am needing to go slower but I am picking up speed and I hope to be walking 60 minutes a day 5 days a week by March.

This past week;I give myself credit for listening to others and not being resistant to change even if it is not what I would choose on my own. I think that is the biggest change I have done recently in the past couple of weeks.

I give myself credit for also being patient with the process, doing the footwork that is needed and allowing my body to respond to those steps that I am taking.

gardenerjoy
02-08-2011, 01:17 PM
Just a quick check-in on a busy day!

WI: +0.25kg, Exercise: +20 410/1300 minutes for February, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

maryann
02-08-2011, 02:25 PM
Called in a Substitute today. I have appts. in the city with DS.
Weight was down .5 this morning and I was frustrated. It will jump 3lbs up in a day but drops off at .5. Oh Well. Life is not fair. The basis of the Beck program is responsibility. I veered off program and have to suffer the consequences even if they SEEM extreme. No guilt. Simply the facts. My body cannot process what it used to when I was young. It can not process what I SEE other people eating. It cannot process what TV/media TELLS me I can eat with no problem. My body can handle what it can handle. If I eat over that there will be a weight gain. Bottomline. I can accept and eat accordingly or I can gain weight. I choose today to accept and get on with it.
OP yesterday and today. Yeh!
ChefJoona, MaryContrary and Pagmata: You all talked about logging in food plan and the importance of planning. I am with you. It forces me into responsibility. I don't have to like doing it. I just have to do it.
Masondixonmama: both of us were OP yesterday. Yeah for our side.
Ceejay: I have written lots about depression. It is difficult trudging thru the day when you don't feel like it is going to get any better.
BBE: Love the resistance quote. I don't FEEL it today but I believe in it and I know I will be grateful for it tom.
Lexxiss: Sounds like a good distraction technique to me - taking a nap. Sometimes I am just tired and eat because of it.
Shepardess: It makes me happy to see people planning for treats. I feel like when I start maintaining my plan won't be so rigorous.
Onebyone: your post reminded me that we are in this for health reasons first and foremost.

RubyJan
02-08-2011, 03:43 PM
And that comes from taking old horses to the knacker's yard, where they were turned into paste and horse steaks, and whatever... I spent the weekend and MOnday and Tuesday working from 8am to 8pm -- oh, thats 12 hours! Anyway, I have kept doing my daily Beck things -- reading the advantage and response cards, and writing my food down, but I am finding myself slightly out of sync between Weight Watchers and Beck... But the proof of not being sorted out is that I didn't exercise once over these four days, which makes me grumpy and makes me feel old.
I agree that its all a lot harder as I get older. And I think of the slim older women I know, and they all seem to be rather more agile and at ease in their bodies. I think that in the long run, wrinkles and slim is preferable to .......well, what I am.
I have given myself credit today for eating my lentil and mushroom (plus left over salad greens tossed into the wok at the end) stir-fry and for weighing and taking my blood pressure and not panic or binge eating...
BUt the plan for tomorrow is to swim in the morning and go to Pilates on Thursday (Oh yes, I did go to PIlates yesterday...forgot about that...I guess it is so much part of my weekly routine that I forget to notice it!) and swim again on Friday and Sunday. I am better at planning my exercise than planning my food, so that is something I need to work on.
There were some personals I wanted to do, but by going to the posting place, I can't see them. I guess that plan is to write it all down before starting the post.
Anyway. I am hanging in there, and trying to take the long view on my progress so far...which is only mental, since my scale has stayed at 195.4 since about two days after I joined this threas. Too small a change to even put on the boards.
I love reading everyone's posts, and although I have been a member of 3FC for some years, I haven't ever been on a thread were correspondents are so honest and thoughtful about their problems and successes.
It is very inspiring,
RubyJan

ChefJoona
02-08-2011, 08:05 PM
Hi all,

I made it through a hectic work day. My meals were at weird times, but I managed to eat on plan. Fruits are very portable, and luckily I had some apples and oranges as well as some nuts around to eat on the go and get me through until I could sit down and eat.

I tried a bite of some of DP's boxed meal tonight... yuck! I have been so on track with eating healthy whole foods that it tasted like I was eating chemicals, not food (which it probably mostly is)! In the past I would have been craving more than a bite. Celebrating this change!

I'm feeling off tonight... maybe coming down with a cold. I haven't had one this winter, so I guess I'm due.

I'm not noticing any strong cravings for after dinner snacking right now. I think switching my post time to now, and posting my No Choice signs have brought some mindfulness to what have been mindless evenings of unraveling the day with snacking. I hope to strengthen my resistence muscles for this time of day so they are as second nature as discussed in today's Beck quote.

MaryContrary Great to hear that you found a process that works for you for your writing! I can sense the relief in your post!

onebyone and Pamatga, etc Reading your posts about the horribly unhealthy and restrictive diet programs you've experienced makes me so thankful for Beck's healthy and realistic approach!

Food is packed and planned for tomorrow- I have a crafting group I'm attending right after work, so I'll be eating dinner at the office before I leave.

Time for tea and rest, my throat is scratchy!

CeeJay
02-08-2011, 10:09 PM
Hello everyone!!

MaryContrary-so nice to read about your happy, relieved and on track day of writing!!! Nice list of credits.

FutureFitChick- waving hello

BillBlueEyes-boo for off track food and exercise. Oh well, you know how to move on.

Lexxiss-hope you got to the airport before the snow.

Shepherdess-kuddos for sticking for your plan. Whole wheat sugar cookies sound interesting.

onebyone- that Berstein diet sounded just crazy. Hope you had a good day today.

pamatga- your eating plan sounds really sensible and for sure keeping it out of the house really helps. Sounds like you are in a very good place right now.

gardenerjoy- hello to you on your busy day.

maryann-you wrote " Bottomline. I can accept and eat accordingly or I can gain weight." It really comes down to that. Think I might need to make a new response card with that on it.

RubyJan- your work schedule sounds like mine. No fun. You are doing great keeping up with healthy food and exercise despite the over-work.

ChefJoona-yay for an on plan eating day. Hope you are feeling better.

For me- have a sore throat and a cold. Worked from home today and did paperwork so did not have to go out in the cold. Tomorrow I am supposed to be off to 2 nights in hotel and a conference on Thurs and Fri. Not so sure I am going to make it though. Darn.

Credit today:

weighing in
checking in with my coaches

:grouphug:

MaryContrary
02-09-2011, 12:23 AM
Dinner's simmering on the stove and I'm giving a quick check-in before I get down to it: homemade cuban chickpea soup (slightly modified from the Moosewood Daily Special book) and some crusty multigrain bread. My mouth is watering, but I'm trying not to be *too* excited.

Today, without a plan, I ate remarkably OP, following a mental schedule that I had kept last week, and tracking my caloric intake with my phone. I know that a big reason I haven't been writing down my food or making a plan is because of this application on my phone. I think I'll wrap up the academic work early tonight, so that I can get back on track with this recording.

I am still planning and perusing secondary sources, and it's a darned good thing I listened to my gut: today I read a chapter written by my former advisor, and she pretty much makes a version of the argument I was planning to make in my current chapter. SO -- this means some shifting in my thinking and my articulation. I knew, I just knew I was missing something . . . Now the chapter is coming quite clear in my head. Which means that the writing -- sentences into paragraphs -- will happen soon.

Credits:

* watching my calories and measuring my food, even sans plan

* giving myself credit for spending more time in a process that works for me, rather than feeling bad or stupid

* not taking family drama (too) personally

BBE, thanks for the resonant Beck quote. I wish you happiness in returning to the gym and your schedule, and re-achieving that balance!

Lexxiss, Good luck with the snow and the family, and thanks for your encouraging comments.

Shepherdess, mmmmmmm to whole wheat sugar cookies!

onebyone, thanks so much for letting us listen to that story of struggle and success.

pamatga, welcome, btw, and thanks also for your story and experience.

maryann, I sympathize with you on the quick weight gain followed by the slow trickle back down. Salt does that quite a bit, to me. And it's always frustrating. Feels like extra punishment from the Universe.

RubyJan, waving . . . I've decided to change my ticker at the end of every month, when I get measured. That way I don't have to show every one else the ups and downs. :) I love the word "knackered"!

ChefJoona, CREDIT for being able to taste the difference between boxed and whole food. And thanks for hearing my relief.

CeeJay, hang in there. Sending many positive thoughts your way.

Okay, I think I've calmed down enough to savor my meal. Hugs to all and thanks for always being here!

Lexxiss
02-09-2011, 05:43 AM
Hi Coaches!

Just a quick check in. I came down to check on the old pup. My sis made it in just fine last night but it was almost 9pm before we arrived home to -15. We marvelled that her temperature change from Hawaii was 100 degrees. I made good choices and thought of my Beck skills when I was making them. Dinner was spontaneous (Noodle &CO) and I chose the combo which was a smaller entree/salad. I did have 1 taste at Costco (tilapia). It was a new food and I had a legitimate interest. I passed on everything else, even at Whole Foods. *credit* for mindfulness. My next hurdle is to get back over the Continental Divide. Probably very early tomorrow morning.

Thanks for being here everyone!

BillBlueEyes
02-09-2011, 06:58 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Used the old resistance muscle at a meeting where the boss brought her homemade brownies with clearly delivered expectations that we'd all dive in to celebrate her largesse. She makes good brownies, it was late afternoon when a snack would have been welcomed, and she really likes being appreciated. My body just assumed I'd take one (or two) until I remembered that it was a perfect opportunity to strengthen my resistance muscle. Which I did; CREDIT moi. I needed that. Felt good.

Exercise was walking to the store to buy my first pair of prescription glasses, ever. CREDIT moi, but Ouch: strong feelings, out of place, didn't want to be there, bitterly aware that it's a one way transition. Up to now drugstore reading glasses sufficed as needed. The great thing about reading glasses is that style isn't an issue; reading is usually done alone, and I buy whatever's available at the drugstore when I walk in. This whole notion of projecting a persona of choice is a burden. "That makes you look so <this>" and "so <that>" and "You look like <so and so>" . . . just Ugh; not my thing. Paid a king's ransom then found out that I don't walk out with them; they take 10 days to grind the lenses. And they don't come to my house to fit them - I have to go back. The indignity of it all. I have a new appreciation for you long time wearers.


onebyone - <sigh> . . . this de-cluttering involves reliving one's entire life. No wonder it's so hard.

CeeJay - Hope you're feeling better - even though that means you have to go back into the arena with the lions.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for busy and Yay for "Food: 100%op."

Shepherdess - All of Beck in one sentence, "had a plan yesterday and stuck with it."

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Thank you for taking our snow; we've had enough. My gardener DW usually wants more snow for its lingering delivery of water, but she admits this year that's she's had enough.

MaryContrary - Now I'm drooling over your meal. My prejudice is that all Moosewood recipes are great.

maryann - This is such a hard one to get though the brain, "It cannot process what TV/media TELLS me I can eat with no problem." It's like TV presents some separate reality.

ChefJoona - Kudos for food "packed and planned for tomorrow" - great way to end the day.

Ruby (RubyJan) - LOL at the source of knackered - never knew. Twelve hours is a long day.

pamatga - That's one of the best thoughts, "what works for me is if it's not in the house" - can't eat what's not there.

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

Get Ready to Strengthen Your Resistance Muscle

You strengthen your resistance muscle just as you would strengthen any muscle in your body - by using it over and over. If you want to strengthen your biceps, you lift weights, starting with relatively list dumbbells and progressing to heavier ones as your arm muscles get stronger. It's the same with your resistance muscle: In Stage 1, you will start out "light" as you strengthen your resistance while still eating your usual foods. in Stage 2, you will increase your resistance as you transition to the Think Thin Initial Eating Plan and eat in the controlled environment of your home. In Stage 3, you will strengthen it even more by increasing the challenge yet again, by learning how to resist temptation in more difficult situations, such as restaurants and social occasions. By Stage 4, you will have strengthened your resistance muscle enough to adopt the more flexible Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan. In Stage 5, you will learn how to continue to use your resistance muscle throughout your life.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 20.

Shepherdess
02-09-2011, 10:49 AM
I was having a pretty good OP day yesterday until after dinner. I was still hungry, logged my calories and found that I did need more calories. Of course, instead of choosing something healthy, I chose cookies instead. Oh well, I just need a better plan so Iím not making decisions in the moment.

We were having single digit temps, but not much wind. I bundled up and took the dog for a short run. It felt good to get out and once I got moving, I was warm. I did some yoga when I got back.

Onebyone, good job on a long list of credits. Itís hard to take an honest look at our history with weight loss. Itís great that now youíre more focused on your health than just the number on the scale. Itís important to remember that some of those methods of losing weight are more unhealthy than the weight itself.

Pamatga, congrats on getting to the point where you no longer obsess about food. It sounds like you have found a good weight loss system. I prefer to eat just normal food and just figure out how to live with food in the long run. 80/20 sounds like a good ratio; itís healthy, but gives you room to treat yourself.

Gardenerjoy, waving back! I hope youíre all dug out and getting back to your old life.

Maryann, great job staying OP even when frustrated by the scale. Staying OP is the answer, but itís so easy to react with the ďwhy bother.Ē Our media likes to show very slim people overeating. Kudos for realizing itís not for you.

RubyJan, thanks for the etymology of ďknackered.Ē Yay for Pilates becoming so much of a routine that you forget about it! Kudos sticking to your plan while busy.

ChefJoona, good job staying OP and flexible while on the go. Love those fruits and nuts for things that can be eaten on the fly. Itís great that you are eating so many whole foods that the unhealthy stuff now tastes to processed. Itís a great sign of progress.

CeeJay, sorry youíre still under the weather, but glad you were able to work from home. I hope you got some good rest and are able to call off your trip if you need to.

MaryContrary, sounds like such a healthy dinner. I love Moosewood! Kudos for eating OP when you didnít have a plan. Itís great that youíre able to do that with your phone.

Lexiss, yikes for your sisterís 100 degree temp change. Great job making a healthy choice at a spontaneous dinner and for having a sane reason to try a Costco sample.

BillBE, kudos for flexing that resistance muscle. Homemade brownies are a great test! LOL at your first experience buying glasses. At least it gave you an excuse for a walk and will give you another excuse when you go to pick them up.

Beverlyjoy
02-09-2011, 11:24 AM
Hi folks - yesterday was a whirlwind. I had to take my mom here, there and everywhere (it seemed). My food was slopppy. My plan went out the window. I must draw that line in the sand. I do NOT have to continue eating in a helter skelter fashion.

GS has a head cold. I hope he will feel well enough for Disney. I"ll know by tomrrow night.

Today I have more things to do to get ready. I overdid it with exercising the other day and have that ouch in my sciatica. I thought that was gone. I'll be very careful. I will be fine if I remember no bending, lifting or twisting.

Have a great day.

pamatga
02-09-2011, 01:12 PM
For 2/8:

Water 80 oz.
Steps:5358 (the most I have done since I began wearing this pedometer about five days ago). I find that it spurs me on to walk more.

Credit moi: stopping a mindless game of online mini golf to go to bed. I have wanted to start going to bed no later than 1 am each night so I am not sleeping in until noon. I had been slipping under the covers 3-4 am! I settled down around 1:50 am.

20% of 2100 calories is 420 calories so I had a large (by anyone's standards) Rice Krispie bar and a can of regular Coca-Cola while I was at my evening computer class. (I made sure I ate it and wiped my hands before touching the mouse) It's not as that big of deal as I hope I am not making it here except that it is one more step towards trusting myself with food. Period.

Eventually, I would like to see something tempting and shrug my shoulders and say "so what's the big deal?" I have glorious moments like that but I would like to have more.

onebyone
02-09-2011, 02:28 PM
Hellooooo Coaches

Well that greeting looks way more enthusiastic and full of energy than I feel right now, though I am always happy to be here with you, my coaches.

*credit: weighed in at 279.2 (-4)

Very :D to see a number less than 280. This is my goal until I am moved. Perhaps I need to go get a reward smilie... sec.... I'll go get this one

:cloud9:

Okay so a good start to the day but then I was up and geez I feel crummy today. I have had shivers off and on for a day or two and yesterday I was coughing up a storm but it's a dry cough and truthfully I've been dry coughing for a few weeks now. It's kind of getting worse though/more frequent and sometimes my ribs are sore - guess it could be see the dr. time.... but today I feel worse. Nauseous. No appetite at all. I'm just drinking lemon tea mostly. Had a bit of cheese. Just want to go to bed and sleep.

okay *credit: as I just got off the phone with my Dr.'s secretary and I took care of myself by telling her what's going on and asking for what I need. I'll take another *credit: for that behaviour in and of itself.

oh coaches. I am going to back to bed.

Have a great day.

jmaf
02-09-2011, 04:05 PM
I'm new to the thread - thought I would introduce myself.

I've just recently picked up the Beck book - starting week 2 this week. One of the things I needed to do was find a coach, so I thought the 3FC site might have a forum (as I don't really have anyone who could fulfill the coach role for me right now). And here you all are!

I'm trying to lose about 30 lbs - I think I've been working on this for the past 20 yrs - yikes! I think I've *finally* realized that most of the problem is behavioral for me, and I'm ready to try to deal with it. Frankly, I'm totally sick of the on-again/off-again dieting I've been doing all these years. It's really been taking up a lot of my mental energy, and I want to get beyond it. Plus, I seem to be getting nowhere with it.

So far, I think the program is working for me. The AR card has been really helpful - it keeps me focused on why I want to do this and how important it is to me. Trying to eat more slowly and mindfully has been a revelation - I've always been a fast eater and sometimes I can eat a meal so mindlessly that I don't remember much about eating it! Also - I often eat on the run (or standing at the counter). Just by sitting down and eating mindfully for the past few days, I've notice a huge difference in how satisfied I feel.

Another thing which is really working for me is just reminding myself that food or a meal will be there 'later' - I don't have to eat something now because I'm not sure when I'll be eating again. I won't starve :)

Glad to join you all on this journey...

- Jan

RubyJan
02-09-2011, 04:15 PM
Dear Coaches:

I just finished working for the day, sitting at my combination desk, library, dining table, and general place to put most things. Another long day, but I did make myself stop and go swimming -- I am very proud of swimming 16 lengths of bilateral breathing of the front crawl, though I found it pretty taxing. I am thinking that I may not be able to serve two masters, and might have to stop the weight watchers and go with the Beck SOlution plan that is in her diet plan book. ANyone here use that one? Its just that between the Beck tasks and the WW points, and all, I am feeling a bit confused. Tomorrow its back to Pilates and then to the BL for research all day.

MaryContrary -- glad to hear that your are sorting out your secondary sources and that you feel a chapter coming on.

BillBlueEYes -- Welcome to the Four EYes CLub -- its much better to have to wear glasses all the time -- you don't lose them because they are always sitting on your nose! YOu save time and the frustration of trying to find those reading glasses that have just slipped down the back of your sofa.

To those of you who are still struggling with the weather -- commiserations! Today it was acutally sunny-ish in London for the first time in about a month. London is actually at about the same latitude as Nova Scotia, so for most of November and December it gets dark by about 3 in the afternoon, but we have turned the corner now, and I could see my hand in front of my face at 4.30 today!
A bientot, RubyJan. Hoping to have a whole pound lost soon, so I can change the number on my track-thing.

maryann
02-09-2011, 06:30 PM
A "hey" out to all. Triumph at the scale down 2 lbs. I knew (I didn't feel but I knew intellectually) that if I stayed OP it would be OK. So much of this program is understanding the difference between a feeling and a fact. I like the image of driving a car- my Intellect being the adult and my feeling being a five year old girl. My mind lets the girls talk, feel, sing, laugh but my mind DOESN'T let the little girl drive.

FutureFitChick
02-09-2011, 10:35 PM
Hi, Everyone.

Just a quick check-in. Hope you are doing well. Had a nice dinner this evening with quiche and a side salad. Also chose to get a salad a lunch. yippee! More later...

Take care!

silverbirch
02-10-2011, 03:38 AM
So much of this program is understanding the difference between a feeling and a fact. I like the image of driving a car- my Intellect being the adult and my feeling being a five year old girl. My mind lets the girls talk, feel, sing, laugh but my mind DOESN'T let the little girl drive.

Well done, WL Twin! And I do like the above. Even if the little girl cried and stamped her foot, she still wouldn't be allowed to drive, would she?

A full day of travelling (I'm on a train at the moment) and meetings. I may have a cup of coffee in the British Library so if you see this, RubyJan, and fancy 20 mins break, drop me a PM.

BillBlueEyes
02-10-2011, 06:51 AM
:welcome: Jan (jmaf) :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find this thread on 3 Fat Chicks?

BillBlueEyes
02-10-2011, 07:03 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Lunch was just Man Salad and sardines; CREDIT moi. I've got it in my head that sardines are a super food because of their oil, which may or may not be true. But it's mighty convenient that I think so since I just plop the little guys on the Romaine Lettuce and think I'm dining at the Ritz.

Did gym; CREDIT moi. Wish I could strengthen my Resistance Muscle by a gym session and be able to physically feel it getting firm.


onebyone - Yep, Kudos for taking care of your health. You gotta be in good shape to face your busy month ahead.

FutureFitChick - Yay for salads. (Although, Ouch for salad dressings, LOL.)

Shepherdess - Running in single digit temps is heroic - even if your dog didn't mind; Kudos. By the by, I thought of you ranchers when I put on my new Christmas-gift wool socks to go walking yesterday. Just the thought that this is the very stuff that keep the sheep warm in below zero weather made me feel warmer, LOL.

Beverlyjoy - Ouch for a "whirlwind" day to challenge the best of plans. Sending virtual chicken soup to your DGS to be healthy enough for Disneyland.

silverbirch - Love the notion of reading a post that you sent while traveling on a train. It's not just the super high tech stuff that dazzles me, it's when good tech just becomes common place.

maryann - Love, Love, Love your analogy of your 5 year old girl in you; she sings but doesn't drive.

Ruby (RubyJan) - Ouch for dark at 3 in the afternoon; I hadn't remembered that London is so far north. LOL for using BL for British Library; on 3FC BL is used for Biggest Loser a lot - it took me a moment to digest your sentence. Kudos for that much swimming - all with proper breathing.

pamatga - When I first started with a pedometer, I'd even walk around the block before bed if I wanted to get my step count up to the next thousands number, LOL. Kudos for your vision of seeking the feeling "so what's the big deal?"

Jan (jmaf) - Yep, here we are - always looking for another group Coach/Buddy to encourage us along; we'll be happy to be your on-line Coach/Buddy in return.

So neat that you are ahead of the game with "I've *finally* realized that most of the problem is behavioral for me" - you're primed for Cognitive Therapy. The thought that food will be there later was one of the simplistic notions that just blew my mind when I finally figured out that one of my motivations for eating was in preparation for the oncoming famine, LOL. Glad you've joined us.


Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

The Role of Thinking

Some dieters erroneously believe that they can't develop a strong resistance muscle because they think they eat "automatically." They say they don't know how they finished the box of crackers or the bag of trail mix. But eating is never automatic. Digestion is automatic. The beating of your heart is automatic. Eating is not.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 20.

ChefJoona
02-10-2011, 07:47 AM
Just a check quick-in, as I missed my post last night. Feeling sick, and over did myself with a long day at work and social activities after work. I've been sleeping horribly the last several nights too. Might not make it through the whole work day.

Said No Choice to a couple off plan foods at social gathering last night.

Mid-week weigh-in this morning: no change + or - from Sunday. Its been a weird couple of eating days.

Will be back tonight....

ChefJoona
02-10-2011, 07:49 AM
Wow, my head is foggy... that first sentence should obviously say "quick check-in", not "check quick-in"....

jmaf
02-10-2011, 12:00 PM
Thanks for the welcome!

I've actually had the Beck book for a number of years - don't know why I've not read it before! Maybe I wasn't quite ready. I've always been looking for the 'quick fix' and that's likely why nothing has worked over the long term for me. I haven't dealt with the real issues. This process will involve some hard looks at myself. That's definitely what I need right now - I need to 'get real.' I made my 'usual' New Years resolution to take the weight off this year, and found myself struggling the past few weeks (which is usually what happens to me in February LOL). I was browsing my bookshelf, and there was the book. Read a couple of chapters and it seemed to make such perfect sense to me.

I plugged 'beck diet solution' and 'coach' into google, and the 3FC site was one that popped up. I've browsed the general site before so was familiar with it and thought it would be a good place to be. So, here I am!

Bill: I think you're right about sardines being 'super foods' - just wish I liked them!

- Jan

Shepherdess
02-10-2011, 12:26 PM
I had a good OP day, though my plan had to take a couple of turns. Weíre getting ready to calve heifers and are getting the house ready where weíll be staying for the next month. We wound up having lunch in town while we were running errands. I made the best choice I could, but the restaurant has taken off most of the vegetarian options. This is one of those times when it would have been healthier to eat meat. So it wasnít healthy and wasnít very good, but it was within my calorie range. I did have the urge later to eat more since lunch didnít offer a lot of nutrients, but I didnít.

I couldnít bring myself to brave the winds yesterday, but jumped rope instead.

Beverlyjoy, sorry about a day that just doesnít go according to plan. Itís hard to take care of yourself when youíre taking care of someone else. Ouch for sciatic pain. I hope youíre feeling better soon.

Pamatga, yay for finding motivation to get more walking in throughout the day. Sounds like youíre going to bed when BillBEís is waking up. Laughing at your goal of going to bed by 1 am, since I struggle to stay awake past 9pm. I would love to get to the point where I could shrug my shoulders at tempting food. I know I can resist, but itís still a struggle.

Onebyone, yay for a good weigh-in. The smile is well deserved! Ouch for feeling lousy, but kudos for calling your Doc.

Welcome Jmaf! Itís great that youíre starting on the Beck plan. Youíre not alone in battling those same lbs for years and years. Like many of us, the plan is not the problem; our behavioral patterns get in the way of the plan. Beck is so great for that! Eating slowly is a huge challenge(and continues to be!), but so helpful. Iím so glad youíre here and looking forward to getting to know you.

RubyJan, I used Beckís plan and continue to use it, with a few modifications. It had too much protein for me so I stuck with the basic calorie outline, but substituted some fruit and whole grains. I still eat more protein than I did pre-Beck, which is helpful. I lost my goal of 15 lbs in about 5 months and kept it off until I got pregnant and am now using Beck to put on pregnancy weight healthfully. Congrats on 16 lengths with good form! That does sound taxing.

Maryann, congrats on 2 lbs down! Youíre so right that Beck helps us differentiate between feeling and fact. I still get those irrational feelings, but am better able to talk back to them. I love the image of not letting the little girl drive.

FutureFitChick, yay for a healthy day with lots of salad! Great job checking in while busy.

SilverBirch, Iím so jealous of the idea of tea at the British Library! It sounds like a wonderful break during a full day of travel and meetings.

BillBE, yay for sardines and a man salad. I just read an article in Runnerís World that included sardines as a super food. Lots of healthy omega 3s and calcium. It made me wish I ate the little guys. Yay for wool! I consider it a super fiber.

ChefJoona, ouch for feeling sick and trying to work through it. I hope you are able to take a break and give yourself the rest you need! Great job using that ďNO CHOICE!Ē

gardenerjoy
02-10-2011, 12:30 PM
Hmmm. Didn't post yesterday.

I've joined a novel critique group to see if I can take my NaNoWriMo novel through a second draft. My next submission is due Monday and I'm nowhere near ready. I'm trying to learn from MaryContrary and not let the looming deadline effect my process too much.

And, I'm trying to learn from everyone else and not eat over the anxiety. For the most part, I'm succeeding.

WI: -0.05kg, Exercise: +40 450/1300 minutes for February, Food: 75%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Welcome, jmaf!

masondixonmama
02-10-2011, 01:09 PM
Hello Becksters,

I hope everyone is doing well. Thanks again for posting and sharing your knowledge and experiences. I feel so grateful to have a community like this to check in with.

I have been OP since Monday and I feel fabulous. Adding the Beck program to my diet plan is about the smartest thing I have ever done. Along with my current self esteem improvement work, I am so happy and at peace. Everything just seems better somehow.

Credits:
* Consistent planned exercise. Still trying to figure out how to incorporate unplanned, any suggestions?
* Using my daily log sheet to write down my plan, exercise, water, feelings, and credits.
* Reading my cards
* Made a quadruple batch of banana muffins last night (awesome deal on bananas) and didn't eat one. Stopped myself when I was licking the batter off the spoon. Yay me!
* Weighing myself daily; down 4 lbs since Monday.
* Managing small children, housework, day job, being a good wife, etc. with this program. Not feeling overwhelmed...yet!

Have a good day everyone.
Andrea

pamatga
02-10-2011, 03:50 PM
First of all, hello to everyone, I did read most of today's posts but I am going to have to write down all your names on a separate piece of paper so I can include them in my post. Bear with me.

I got my hard copy of the book "Beck Diet Solution" in the mail late yesterday afternoon. My sister wanted to buy me kindle for Christmas and I told her No because I still like to have the book in my hands where I can promptly get out my highlighter and mark in it. I don't think you can do that with kindle, can you? Plus, I like to use stickies and such, really give it that lived in look.

I didn't realize that the author of this book is the daughter of the doctor that invented cogitive therapy. My husband and I both have a long history of depression, both treated and not treated, and we have the book "Mind Over Mood" which also uses the same principles of taking apart our thought processes and breaking them down. We have been a good support for each other since we are living paycheck to paycheck and have been since this recession/slow recovery began. In other words, we don't beat each other up, words or otherwise, for things we have no control over. It makes for a happier house too.

Credits:
1)I continue to drink plain water and average 80 oz each day.
2)I log my food plan daily on my BLC food log. I stay in my calorie range.
3)I am sharing what I have learned with others so I hope that is "paying it forward". I want all of us to get this monkey off our backs once and for all!
4)I am doing my 3 10 minutes sessions on the treadmill and will do them as long as it is done before 9 pm (I live in an apartment and that is the noise cutoff time)
5)Just do it! Remember that Nike ad? Well, that is as good today as it was back then. I'll add something else. No excuses!
6)Bedtime was 1 am again. I am sleeping a lot better too. I am taking an evening class that gets over at 10 pm so I am too hyper to go to bed before midnight. Hopefully, this will only last another 5-6 weeks and I will be done .

Have a great day!

RubyJan
02-10-2011, 06:13 PM
Hello from here -- Its 10pm and I spent almost the whole day working again...grrr... but I had a great coffee break with Silverbirch!!! We exchanged diet stories and laughed a lot, and then we each went back to our off-line lives!
I am giving myself credit for not overeating at the BL (Big Library, not Loser)and for not freaking out when I felt like it. I am behind on my Beck reading but still reading my advantages card before breakfast and dinner at home. I did change my pounds today on my signature. But I am feeling so stressed out from work and the total chaos of my flat that I feel I could eat a side of barbequed Elephant.... luckily I am almost in bed for the night.
Hope the day has been good for you all. Ruby
Welcome to Jmaf --I am very new to this thread as well.
congratualtions to masondixonmomma -4 pounds is a lot.

Lexxiss
02-10-2011, 07:40 PM
Hi Coaches!

We travelled early this morning. Our drive was uneventful but we arrived to broken pipes. *credit* for heading to the pool for exercise since we couldn't do anything about the pipes anyway. I made some moderately poor choices during the afternoon. I am determined not to let this entirely ruin my day. Dinner is OP and healthy. I'm drinking my soothing ice water now.

Welcome Jmaf!

Great news to hear that Silverbirch and RubyJan met at the British Library. I imagine it to be quite a wonderful spot!

Take care everyone!

MaryContrary
02-10-2011, 07:56 PM
Well, just when I'm feeling better about "looming deadlines affecting my process," I go and contract a head-cold!:mad: (Thanks, gardenerjoy, for paraphrasing me to myself. It actually helps me to see this situation more clearly.)

Yesterday, I allowed myself the luxury of a day off, as I had to run into the city and USC, raiding the library and taking care of some other business. I felt the beginnings of icky-ucky sickness coming on, so I took meds, ate healthy-ish, even exercised in the morning, allowed myself the luxury of sleeping in today, and still awoke feeling crappy. ::sigh:: Each time I decide to set up the migrant office, the energy drains away . . . so it's another day of rest.

It's funny, maryann, but my scale was also down this morning, by two pounds. I have no idea why there might be fluctuations, as I didn't eat particularly OP yesterday, though I was watching portions. I too wrestle with the feelings of the little girl, and let her out only when she's going to bring joy.

pamatga, I really appreciate your words of wisdom on dealing with the stress of living paycheck to paycheck. My DP and I are in the same situation, and my constant challenge has been not to take it out on her. So I will repeat to myself your words, "don't beat each other up, words or otherwise, for things we have no control over. It makes for a happier house".

RubyJan and Silverbirch, what a lovely interlude you were able to grasp at the BL. Enjoy!

masondixonmama, there is nothing like the first weeks and months of success on the Beck Plan. However, I can sense that seeing these skills work in the long-term is a deeper and more lasting fulfillment. Still, enjoy!

Welcome, jmaf! I came across this forum and thread in the same way, and have felt blessed ever since.

For better or for worse, I'm off to do some comfort cooking. Better than eating out. But I have a plan to measure my portions!

Today's goals:

-- REST, and don't feel guilty about it.
-- Comfort cook, but watch my portions.
-- Straighten the room and clean up the kitchen.

Tomorrow's goals:

-- Up early working on my chapter plan
-- FINISH chapter plan
-- Make a schedule for next week

Thanks for being here.

Beverlyjoy
02-10-2011, 08:28 PM
All packed - we leave for the airport at 5:15 am. I've got my healthy/soft snacks, journal, arc, rc for the trip.

I hope you all have a great week.

Thanks for being here, always. I'll try to check in when I can.

onebyone
02-10-2011, 08:33 PM
Hello Coaches:

Well it's time to clean/sort/pack the living room. I've lost the con (remote control) that plays the 2 external hard drives on the big tv. Alas I can see nothing until I find it
wahhhh!:cry:
I have a bad habit of just carrying things around from room to room when I am distracted, or sick like yesterday, but I've checked all over and no luck. I was really looking forward to an old Love Boat episode too. Nothing like one of those to relax by.

I had a great day today with my two fellow artists. Our 3 person collaborative drawing group met for the first time in 3 months. We did 3 large drawings together. One I love. Never in a million years would I have done any of the 3 on my own; a real reinforcement of the value of this group to me.

So no housework was done by me today.
:carrot::cp::cb::cp::dance::cp::dancer::cp:

Tomorrow's another story as I'd better find that con before DH gets home!!!!

credits:weighing in 278; lots of unplanned exercise; eating light ie. not until full; drinking my water.

onebyone
02-10-2011, 08:37 PM
All packed - we leave for the airport at 5:15 am. I've got my healthy/soft snacks, journal, arc, rc for the trip.

I hope you all have a great week.

Thanks for being here, always. I'll try to check in when I can.

Beverlyjoy you go and ENJOY yourself! You have so earned a little fun :beach: in the sun :sunny:

Can't wait to hear how great it was...

ChefJoona
02-10-2011, 09:56 PM
Not a great day... feeling really sick, also with a head cold :( . I left work early and gave myself the permission to sleep for the afternoon.
Being sick is often when I get off track with an exercise or healty diet plan. I've very determined not to have that happen this time.
I'm really craving simple carbs... An office mate brought in a bunch of baked treats this morning. I chose a small piece of the one I most wanted and wrapped it up for my afternoon snack. Credit. I'm struggling right now though, as I am in the middle of the difficult evening time, with the additional cravings from being sick. I'm saying NO CHOICE though, as I realize how extra vulnerable I am. Going off plan right now will just make me feel worse.

Hoping to feel better by Saturday, to enjoy our Valentine's Day dinner plans, at one of our favorite restaurants!

BeverlyJoy Wishing you the best for a very enjoyable vacation! You've put some great work and planning into being prepared!

Rubyjan and SilverBirch Imagining the two of you gathering in what sounds like a wonderful library brings a smile to my face!

BillBE I LOVE sardines and have been trying to fit them into my meals lately. I recently found an excellent recipe for spinach pesto crustinis with sardines... yum!

Putting myself to bed now, and hoping to feel better when I wake up tomorrow. Its not in my plan to take a sick day tomorrow!

FutureFitChick
02-10-2011, 10:45 PM
Just a quick check in. I served myself extra food and then stopped leaving plenty on my plate... then ate it! (Dumb!!) I really need to sit at the table to eat, but my husband finds our couch much more comfortable to sit at for dinner. Need to find a different solution to this.

Hope you are all doing well.

BillBlueEyes
02-11-2011, 06:33 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating OP; CREDIT moi. Couldn't bring myself to go for a walk in the bitter cold with so much ice on the sidewalks now; it's hardly aerobic to penguin waddle down the street and the opportunity exists to break a wrist to stop a fall. Ouch. Today is, however, the day of the month to increment my journey counters in my signature; CREDIT moi.

onebyone - Collaborative drawing sounds like a kick - do you work on the same drawing at the same time? Hope you find the con, although a lot can get done when it's not available.

FutureFitChick - Ooops ... I have that same problem - I can declare myself done, but unless I physically separate myself from the food, my hands feed more into my mouth. (I know, I know, the Beck quote today says that I have a thought before I do that, but I suspect the thought is my hand is putting food in my mouth, LOL.)

Joy (gardenerjoy) - So neat that you're advancing your NaNoWriMo novel; I can't wait to buy it on Amazon.

Shepherdess - I remember the month of midwifery last year - exciting and busy, busy, busy. Kudos for jumping rope away from the winds. Naturally, I have a vision of your dog jumping with you - as circus dogs do.

Beverlyjoy - Waving toward Disney World, hopefully with potentially-not-feeling-well DGS along.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Ouch for frozen pipes but Kudos for "I am determined not to let this entirely ruin my day." Before my journey, frozen pipes would be worth a whole bag of cookies for sure.

MaryContrary - Yay for sleeping in when that's the cure that's needed for "icky-ucky sickness." Hope you're feeling better today.

ChefJoona - Hope you're feeling better. Using those NO CHOICE's when you weren't up to snuff deserves Super Kudos. [Gotta hear more about "spinach pesto crustinis with sardines."]

Ruby (RubyJan) - Just gobsmacked that you actually met up with silverbirch at the British Library ("...holding over 150 million items in all known languages and formats" in a massive, striking building), and jealous; now I really, really, want to visit there. LOL at the image of "eat a side of barbequed Elephant."

Andrea (masondixonmama) - Now that's a great endorsement for the Beck strategies, "I have been OP since Monday and I feel fabulous," as well as "Not feeling overwhelmed...yet!" which is a challenge for anyone with small children. Kudos for staying the course.

pamatga - Yay for the real-book-in-my-hands club; I'm a member myself. I work on a computer all day and just don't want to do my leisure reading on a computer screen. And Yay also for, "sleeping a lot better" - that just helps to spiral everything else upward.

Jan (jmaf) - Sometimes a book has to ripen in our own library for its time to come, LOL. You're definitely ahead of the New Year's Resolution crowd by being here in February; Kudos for that.

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

The Role of Thinking

Before you eat, you always have a thought, even if you're not fully conscious of it. The thought may be as simple as, I'm going to eat this. The Beck Diet for Life Program teaches you how to recognize these kinds of thoughts, especially the sabotaging thoughts that encourage you to eat unplanned food. They often start with:

It's okay to eat [this unplanned food] because ....
It won't matter if I eat [this unplanned food] because ....

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 20.

silverbirch
02-11-2011, 09:26 AM
Yes, RubyJan and I met up at the British Library and it was great. As though we'd known one another for ages, with a lot to catch up on. I had a cup of chamomile tea and she had a cup of tea too and I think they'd already sold out of the side of barbecued elephant (very popular there).

I don't post much on the Beck board but I do value it and, as you know, I lurk daily. The atmosphere is so very supportive and encouraging as we all put one foot in front of another on our different paths to weight loss. Thank you, everyone. :)

maryblu
02-11-2011, 09:37 AM
Just a quick hello to all, as have been AWOL a very long time.

Congrats, BillBE on another notch in your journey-belt. *laffin' at Penguin waddle; I call it my Tim Conway walk.

Still straddling the acceptable Beck behavior line. *sigh. I did get a Pilates coach and have been reconnecting with my core. Feels like it must be there somewhere, as something hurts. Here's some reverse sticker-shock for you:It's $15.00 per half hour session, but I got a discount for paying in advance. $15.00 for that much pain seems a real bargain.

Woke up yesterday to sun behind the frosty hill outside my window..frost on my big White Pine was amazing. Even looking at my outside thermometer registering 20 below didn't seem awful.

Best to all. Have a great weekend.

FutureFitChick
02-11-2011, 10:10 AM
Another quick check in. I'm disappointed in myself for eating a way off plan breakfast. Oh well. I'm moving forward.

Thinking about all of you and hope you are well.

gardenerjoy
02-11-2011, 11:46 AM
More writing today and groceries before the weekend.

There's a winter farmers market tomorrow that a friend offered to take me to, so that should help. I expect to at least get a good chicken. There may be some greens and some canned and frozen produce -- now that there are established markets here, more farmers are able to do things with green houses and storage, knowing that they can make money off the project.

WI: -0.05kg, Exercise: +50 500/1300 minutes for February, Food: 85%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

So excited that RubyJan and silverbirch had an real life meeting in the British Library!

Beverlyjoy: hope you have a splendid time at Disney World!

pamatga
02-11-2011, 12:01 PM
FutureFitChick, credit yourself for coming here for :hug:

Credits moi:
Rounding off my fifth day of 3 10 min sessions on the treadmill.
Drinking 64-80 oz water each day. It's easier than I thought. Why was I fighting it so much in the past?
Staying within my calorie range yesterday.

I did some math last night while I was watching tv after my night class and if I lose 1% of my body weight every week, it will take me until Memorial Day 2012 to reach my goal weight of 140 lbs.! And, that is assuming that I won't have any plateaus either. OY! (A weight, by the way, that I easily weighed when I was in my teens and most of my 20s.) What a sobering thought.

Soooo, what I will need to be practicing each day and each week is diligence, patience and persistence because without those I will fail. I also have to keep this from becoming the only focus in my life because if my self-esteem will only rise and fall depending on how I do on this "last diet ever", I will be having a rough ride, which I don't want to add to the situation.

In the past few years, I have had to learn to deal with "situations" that do not have "quick fixes" like being unemployed for 18 months and counting, dealing with chronic pain for the past several years especially and no health insurance to medically treat it, and all of this coming on the heels of losing my Mom to cancer in 2008 and my only child coming out in one breathe and telling me he was "gay bashed" in the second breathe on a Philly subway ride.

I am now beginning to feel like my weight lose efforts and commitment to my health (and my husband's) is the oasis in the desert. By making choices that I can live with today I know that I will be strong enough physically and emotionally to deal with whatever comes next.

Have a great day and weekend everyone! I have to do what I can this weekend to get ready for unexpected (welcomed though) one day company.

onebyone
02-11-2011, 12:22 PM
Hi Coaches

credit for officially weighing in at 279.4-still under 280 so good. I did weigh 278.4 at 4am then drank 2 glasses of water; and yesterday afternoon I saw 277, so, naturally, I was looking for the 277 but got the 279. If it seems I am scale hopping, well I guess I am. It's more curioisity "what will it say next....spin the wheel and see!". My mood isn't coloured by the reading so much credit for this.

Food today has been odd already. Mini pita bread and dip for breakfast. Lunch and dinner will be homemade chili.

I can't tell if I am actually going to do that packing I vowed to do yesterday. It's already almost noon and nothing's going on with me.
DH comes home tonight (I think 70/30 for coming home he said yesterday) and he's going to tear the place apart looking for the con if I haven't already found it. So probably I will get it to but later, later.

TGIF Becksters :dance:

masondixonmama
02-11-2011, 01:25 PM
Hello all,

Going to try a few personals today...I feel like I am getting to know everyone a little bit now.

FutureFitCheck - good for you for moving forward.
Pamatga - wow, you have been through a lot. hugs to you.
GardenerJoy - I love farmer's markets! Living fairly close to Amish country, I get to go to plenty. Can't wait for warmer weather to get out some more.
Onebyone - good for you for getting on the scale. I'm also learning that I am not the number I see, it's just an external.
BillBlueEyes - thanks for being so supportive to all of us.

My day is going well. Not feeling too well today, but I'm not diving into the box of CheezIts to compensate :) Credit! also credit for 1 hour of water aerobics last night...I love being in the water. Coworkers asked me out to lunch today and i politely declined...I told them maybe we could plan for next Friday, when I can work it into my plan ahead of time. Credit!

Busy, busy weekend ahead, but I am excited to see what challenges and fun it brings. Take care everyone!

Andrea

RubyJan
02-11-2011, 04:11 PM
Should be the beautiful end of a glorious week, but I have squandered all my credits by catching the sight of myself in a mirror and see how much work its going to take to shake off these pounds that make me feel like I am walking in a bear suit. Feeling sorry for myself always the worst way out of taking care of myself.
SO, after a long day of work and dinner eaten sitting down but way too fact, and too much, I feel all the remorse of the doomed.
Just read all your posts, and getting inspired again. I think its an early night for me.
Tomorrow is a work day again, but a party at night at which I am going to practice some of my new behavior: no mindless noshing, go after eating a good supper, and stay away from the booze.
Sheperdess Wow! I love reading about life on the ranch. All I know about the farm comes from a radio soap thats been on English BBC for about 50 years, called THE ARCHERS, at the end of each episode (ten minutes, every day), the announcer tells you who directed the episode and who the 'agricultural editor' is.
RubyJan

maryann
02-11-2011, 05:51 PM
Friday Holiday - my boy is off school and we spent the mid-morning shopping for the meal he is going to cook us. "Bunny Salads" made out of a half of pear, slivered almond ears. red hot eyes, and cottage cheese for the tail is the "fruit" he picked and the vegi is sliced tomato and cukes. Very cute and balances out his "polka dotted mac and cheese" The dots are hot dogs. This is my fifth straight OP Day and I am determined to go thru a weekend completely OP.
BBE: Next store run I am getting King Sardines like you reccommended. I have yet to be brave enough.
JMAF: Welcome
Masondixonmama The best way I deal with unplanned is exactly what Shepardess did in her post - stay within a calorie limit and know the rest of the week's nutrients will balance out. No additional food needed.
gardenerjoy: good luck with writer's group. I love the conversation around writing.
Pagamata: Credit for 1 a.m. I almost cried when I thought of having to stay up that late.
RubyJan: They might serve elephant near the British Library.
Lexxiss: Congrats for heading to the pool.
MaryContrary: My old haunts were USC (my parent both went there) and UCLA (my alma mater.)
Beverleyjoy: Have a great time.
ChefJoona: Wrapping up a little is a terrific idea and is a tool which will last with you for a lifetime.

silverbirch
02-11-2011, 06:06 PM
Re. elephants.

Some of you may know that there is a part of London called the Elephant and Castle. It's named after a pub. It's an easy bus ride from the BL.


A good day's eating in the face of challenges. Did you know that the part needed to mend a car's electric window is Very Expensive?

Not much exercise except walking but that was mostly at a fair clip.

jmaf
02-11-2011, 06:59 PM
Hi All,

Thanks for all of your warm welcomes!

Things are going OK for me so far. I had a night out with friends on Wed. and kept to my plan for the most part. Had two glasses of wine instead of one - at least I didn't take that as license to have desert, too, though!

Going out tonight for an 'early' Valentine's dinner with my husband tonight - eating will again be a challenge. My plan is to have a nice dinner but not go overboard on either eats or drinks. Eating out has always been a major challenge for me - it seems I'm always 'all or nothing' - I want to find a good middle point that I know I can do for the long term without either feeling deprived or out of control.

silverbirch: I remember Elephant and Castle when I visited London, but what's a "side of barbecued elephant'??? Sounds interesting!

maryann: the 'bunny salad' sounds like a cute idea! Congrats on 5 days OP!

RubyJan: good luck at your party - I also find those type of situations challenging. Try to focus on the socializing vs. the food. Hang in there!

onebyone: definitely give yourself a credit to not be affected by the scale!

pamatga: don't be concerned about how long it will take! The time will pass anyway, and it's better that you're at or near your goal in 2012 vs. having to start again over and over. It sounds like you're doing great so far!

gardenerjoy: chicken from the farmer's market sounds great! I like getting mine from local sources also because it tastes like 'real' chicken.

FutureFitChick: glad you checked in. I'm hoping I will do that when I need to.

maryblu: wow, 20 below! That sure is cold! Keep warm.

BillBlueEyes: Thanks for posting the quotes from the book in your signature! They are helpful in reminding me of things I want to remember.

Chefjoona and MaryContrary: Hope you both feel better soon.

Sorry if I missed anyone! Have a great weekend!

- Jan

Lexxiss
02-11-2011, 08:33 PM
Hi Coaches!

A quick check in tonight. I've been on the run all day, which was the spontaneous part of my exercise for the day. Planned exercise was enjoyed at the pool.

I made a switch for both lunch and dinner. I was invited out and what I brought home will suffice for dinner with the addition of more veggies. *credit* for good choices at lunch. I had an unplanned snack in the afternoon but resisted urges to turn it into a munch-fest.

Tomorrow is our yearly Puppy Party. I am bringing healthy choices.

Take care everyone!

CeeJay
02-11-2011, 09:46 PM
Hello everyone

Just a quick check in tonight. Was off work sick Wed, Thurs and today. Really rotten cold.

Credit today for:

:cool: did weights
:cool: walked 30 mins with DH even though I didn't feel like it- really needed some fresh air after 3 days of the couch
:cool: ate a healthy breakfast- egg whites and cheese
:cool: ate a healthy lunch- salad and homemade chicken soup
:cool: ate a healthy dinner- salmon, brown rice and beans
:cool: checked in with my coaches

:grouphug:

MaryContrary
02-12-2011, 03:47 AM
It took me seven months to fill up my first Beck Journal (the spangly purple one), and that's with a long break when my grandmother passed.

Instead of spending tonight laying on the bed feeling my sinuses leak, I decided to spend some time switching over to the new notebook (spangly green). I began by updating my list of Advantages. Most of them are the same -- a lot of "continue" and "maintain" -- but a revelation Advantage came to me: that I am actually beginning to visualize myself as THIN.

I am a person who gets vivid images in my head (for better or for worse). But it hasn't been until this month that I've been SEEING myself as healthily thin. It was as if I had to see it in the present-day mirror, before I could visualize the future-mirror.

Coming into the 170s was part of this process. But, as part of beginning this new notebook, I also charted my weight loss and inches loss, and astonished myself by thinking, "Wow, imagine what I can accomplish if I just keep doing what I've been doing." I looked at my academic year laminated wall calendar, with five months of smiley stickers (indicating an intense work out), and I thought, "What will I look like when the entire academic year is full of smiley face workouts?"

And I saw, I just saw a picture of myself weighing 150 or even less. I have NEVER been able to picture myself this small, and strong, because I don't remember being this small, and strong.

Wow. I appreciate the Beck principles for encouraging this sort of reflection.

Credits:
--working out despite the sinus infection
--consuming healthy snacks
--enjoying my PLANNED thai food
--updating my advantages
--starting the new notebook
--checking in here
--moving forward with an academic plan for next week, despite the major set-backs of this week
--celebrating a Cheeto-free household and some major credit moi for not even having one! I did it!

Waving to all, and thanks for being here.

BillBlueEyes
02-12-2011, 06:18 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating OP; CREDIT moi. Found a small serving of left over dahl (lentils) to put over broccoli slaw for lunch. I'm so easily made happy.

Gym (CREDIT moi) was unusually uncrowded. I was later than usual and some folks must take Friday evening seriously. For the first time ever I saw a guy working out in a pair of Red Sox "dorm pants" - essentially pajama bottoms with fancy prints that I see in the stores but, since I don't live in a dorm, don't see worn. I don't much notice other guys attire, but this guy was lifting some heavy stuff. Naturally, I had the thought that if I wore Red Sox dorm pants I could lift more. Yay for that part of the brain that generates marvelous ideas before the filters kick in, LOL.


maryblu - Well, 20 below seems pretty chilly to me, LOL. Did you read that Oklahoma registered 30 below one day this week? That's pretty low for what I consider a warm, Southern state. LOL at, "$15.00 for that much pain seems a real bargain." Pilates tweaks muscles that have never been used before.

onebyone - I'm holding my breath waiting to hear whether you found your con. When I misplace something, DW might eventually find it in another room on another floor on top of a bookcase where I placed it for the moment.

FutureFitChick - Sounds like the right direction, "I'm moving forward."

CeeJay - Ouch for three days of a deadly cold with Kudos for doing your 30 minute walk with your DH anyway.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Farmer's Market in February appeals; don't know if we have one.

silverbirch - Just amazing that the connection with the Beck thread was sufficient for "As though we'd known one another for ages." It's good to know that you're about to step in should we drift out of line, LOL.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Kudos for "but resisted urges to turn it into a munch-fest."

MaryContrary - Love it that you're able to visualize yourself as THIN. Kudos for "celebrating a Cheeto-free household and some major credit moi for not even having one! I did it!"

maryann - Had a good laugh when I recited your DS's menu, from memory, to DW at dinner last night. She was impressed that you and he are beginning to cook together. Hopefully, he doesn't hear about barbecued elephant, LOL.

Ruby (RubyJan) - Now that's an insight I need to remember, "Feeling sorry for myself always the worst way out of taking care of myself." Hope your party goes well.

Andrea (masondixonmama) - Kudos for "not diving into the box of CheezIts to compensate" - now that's a demonstration of talking back to our Sabotaging Thoughts.

pamatga - Sending supportive thoughts for so much your head has had to process recently. Along with admiration for the moving thought, "By making choices that I can live with today I know that I will be strong enough physically and emotionally to deal with whatever comes next."

Jan (jmaf) - My take is that one can win by rigorously honoring your thought, "I didn't take that as license to have desert, too, though!"

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

The Role of Thinking

You have probably experienced lots of sabotaging thoughts in the past. Because you didn't know how to recognize or respond to them, these thoughts eventually led you to stray from your diet or abandon it altogether. The Beck Diet for Life Program teaches you how to talk back to these thoughts, so that you stand firm and exercise your resistance muscle. If you don't learn how to talk back to your sabotaging thoughts, you will give in, eat, and weaken your resistance muscle.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 20.

onebyone
02-12-2011, 09:28 AM
Hi Coaches

It's snowing. Again. I realized last night that DH will have spent every weekend of "the winter of 2010/2011" driving from Toronto to Ottawa and back. So far he hasn't missed arriving home on a Friday night and then leaving on a Sunday evening. This started December 1st. It won't end until we are moved to Toronto by April 1st for sure as our lease is up here but, as of this morning, we are still Toronto homeless. That last place we put an offer on rejected us because "they didn't like our credit history"- never mind our rent-paying-history, or our references, or our emplyment history. Nope. Didn't matter. I suspect that when we asked them to clean the place before we moved in and to repair the broken mirrored closet door and to be aware that we saw the bad patch in the ceiling downstairs, that this had something to do with them saying no to us. Perhaps we seem like a pair of problematic and picky tenants? Maybe we do. :shrug:

So, two new places to see on Monday. Well, three but I already know one is out. We'll look anyway-it'll make us feel like we're doing all we can about our situation. I just know that if this week doesn't bring us a home we'll be going to the highrises and just picking something. DH just doesn't have a lot of time before he has to get out of MIL's house. 2 weeks is all.

And so I didn't find the con. Not yet. DH came to bed saying he'll be spending the day "searching for a needle in a haystack". I suggested we go see a movie today. ;) That's my plan-distraction! I do believe it is a Beck tactic.:yes:

credit: weighed in 280 (+1)

Enjoy your weekend folks.

UPDATE: yay:dancer: I found the con! It was under the chair (?) a place I looked about 5 times. DH looked there too. Guess I had to ask St. Anthony and St. Christopher to help me find it as well as I had to pack two boxes in frustration. All's well.... except...now I've lost my keys! I do have spare house ones and the car keys weren't on that bunch of keys and really there isn't anything on that key chain I absolutely need or will need once I move... still.

FOODWISE: good breakfast *credit* minimal munching during movie in theatre *credit* dinner from scratch *credit* but bought snacks while in grocery store as a treat for DH and bought some for me too... have already eaten most of them...

ChefJoona
02-12-2011, 10:03 AM
Good morning,

Still battling a sinusy/ cold thing. Everything has been off... eating, sleeping, checking-in here. Blah! I went to work yesterday, when I probably shouldn't have- turned into a very stressful day. I struggle with allowing myself the time I need to take when I'm sick. I feel guilt, and think people will look at me as weak.

Credit for making and enjoying a very healthy black bean soup last night! There will be left overs for days too.

Today will be spent resting, so I can feel as well as I can for our Valentine's Day meal out. We are going to one of our favorite restaurants. I don't plan to go over board- but do plan to enjoy myself.

maryann I used to make the "bunny salad" when I was young! So sweet! :bunny:

Hello to everyone else!

gardenerjoy
02-12-2011, 10:56 AM
We tried a new recipe last night -- chicken gyros! Not really like the real thing, but it's been so long since I've had the real thing that I didn't feel the need to compare. I suspect it's the tzatziki sauce that I missed more than the meat, anyway, and tzatziki sauce is reasonably healthy!

Off to the Farmers Market!

WI: -0.5kg, Exercise: +0 500/1300 minutes for February, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

maryann
02-12-2011, 12:25 PM
DS dinner was a success. DH appropriately "oohed" and "ahhed". DS said he was thinking he would cook one day a week. I told him that was my plan once he got tall enough to look over the stove and into the pot. He thinks sixth grade is reasonable. My heart lurched because I realized at some point my beautiful little boy is going to be taller than me. I feel his arms around me now and hope I will always remember what they feel like - even when he is a man and is teaching his own little one to make a bunny salad.
OP today and my dream of an entire week of EXACTLY WHAT I HAVE WRITTEN DOWN (even thru the weekend) is getting closer. Sunday, I have discovered, is the hardest day so I will take extra care to not overextend myself emotionally and physically. I will relax my way to success.
BBE: I think you should try the Red Sox pants. The world works in magical ways. Who knows what will happen if you try them out at the gym?
Silverbirch: There is an inverse relationship between simple car parts and expense. I have learned this thru experience.
JMAF: I have come very far with restaurants during the last six months.It has not been easy. My favorite trick is to split an appetizer and order a salad. More embarassing,but I have to say more logical, is to order a salad and have someone in my party donate two ounces of meat to me (which is all I get anyway.) I have also brought my little sandwich and ordered nothing while enjoying everybody's company. Too be honest I have had mixed reactions from friends ("You're not going to eat that here are you?" to complete acceptance) In the end, I have to do what works for me. This is the first time in my life I have not been overweight so the sacrifices I have made have been more than worth it.
MaryContrary: I have been my relying on my vision of a journey to goal. I think of myself as almost at the end of a journey to the ocean. I can't see the ocean but now I can smell it. Four pounds from goal. I won't stall now and never see what I have come so far to see. That would be tragic.
ChefJoona: Your soup reminded me of a black bean pizza I want to make.
Onebyone: Your could try praying to St. Christopher. That is what my mom does when something is lost.

FutureFitChick
02-12-2011, 12:50 PM
Checking in super fast!

Yesterday improved to being on plan after the breakfast mess and this morning is going well. We are going out to dinner at an Indian place tonight, so I will do some thinking in advance as to how to order and be on plan.

Thanks to everyone and I miss doing personal posts, but I've got to get caught up on some work before I get back to them. Take care!

vibrantheart
02-12-2011, 12:54 PM
I'm back, after a crappy eating week. Hoping to do better now! best wishes to all...

pamatga
02-12-2011, 01:11 PM
OnebyOne-if you lose things, like your car keys, wallet, glasses, you can also pray to St. Anthony of Padua, he is the patron saint of lost "articles". St. Christopher is pre-GPS for lost travelers and to be safe while on a journey ;).

MaryContrary-I too have begun using visualization. It actually "just happened" this past week when I was walking on the treadmill. My husband is training for a 13K for cancer research (something I asked him to do in honor of my mom who died November 2008) and I told him that I would like to join him next year with this 13K he is preparing for. So, I have visualized myself, how I would look, what I am wearing and walking along the Chattahoochee River, which is a favorite walk path here in Atlanta.

Credit moi:
I have increased my daily steps that I now log on my pedometer that I wear. I have never done this before and it is nifty.
I did my 3 10 minutes walks on my treadmill each day Monday-Friday. That last one I felt so happy that I did it.
Next week, I am going to add a 4th 10 minutes session each day Monday-Friday. My end goal is to do 6 10 minute sessions each day Monday-Friday. Someday, I may even be able to jog on the treadmill.
I am averaging 72-80 oz of plain water a day. My complexion never looked better and I had a good one to start with. I have a rosy glow. :)


I got a book, comes recommended by friends, called Pain Free by Peter Egoscue, that I am really excited about. His credentials are that he is a sports physiologist who has worked with a lot of athletes. He has clinics, including one within a few miles of me but the treatments there cost $250 a session/hour. I just can't afford that right now.

I have dealt with chronic pain since 1993. In between surgeries I continued to exercised throughout those years but the past couple of years have been just nearly unbearable. I have had periodic arthritic flareups that have really tested me. At times I have been homebound for a couple of weeks at a time. I have walked with a cane for the past couple of years. I need more surgeries but I don't have health insurance since being unemployed and Cobra is just out of the question. So, I self-treat the best that I know how. I am in a lot of pain when I am walking on the treadmill so that is why I break it into smaller units.

This will be another committment of time and discipline. I understand that the exercises are to be done daily and can take up to 80 minutes to complete. I want to thoroughly acquaint myself with this before I proceed but I am really looking forward to a non-drug cessation of my pain. PS and sometimes the pain medication doesn't work either.

Well, being unemployed, I certainly have the time so I am going to make the most of my free time by dealing with this "thorn in my side".

Have a good day everyone. I hope it is getting warmer :carrot: wherever you are located.

CeeJay
02-12-2011, 02:11 PM
Hello everyone

MaryContrary- hope you are feeling better. Credit for practising Beck principles with your new notebook and updated list of Advantages. Must be a wonderful feeling to be able to visualize yourself as healthy. I like what you said about looking at what we can do if we just keep doing it.

BillBlueEyes- thanks for your daily postings of passages from the Beck book. They are really helpful reminders. Especially need to see this one: "The Beck Diet for Life Program teaches you how to talk back to these thoughts, so that you stand firm and exercise your resistance muscle."

onebyone-sympathy to your DH for making that brutal drive every weekend. That's got to be tough. Good luck with the house-hunting this week.

ChefJoona- hope you are feeling better also. It is the social worker in you that keeps you going to work when you are sick. I am in the same field and think that is a common thing with us.

gardenerjoy-chicken gyros sounds so good. Might need to make that this weekend. First need to search for a healthy recipe.

maryann- we will be partying with you when that last 4 pounds is gone. Thanks for sharing what you do to avoid overeating at restaurants.

FutureFitChick- waving hello. Enjoy your dinner out.

vibrantheart- hello to you and welcome back. About your lousy week--Dr. Beck would say- say oh well and move on.

pamatga- you are doing so fantastic considering the medical issues you are dealing with. Seeing where you are at is so inspiring to me as I am basically at where you started.

For me- I have spent most of the morning on wellness activities- read a few chapters of the Pink Book, read my advantage and response cards, and made up a one page GI chart. Am going to try a bit of a change in my eating based on GI Diet (thanks onebyone for pointing me in this direction). So I have a new plan written out and I am feeling motivated. I think being off work sick most of the week was a strangely good thing for me. I am just working way too much and it is taking all my time. And I need that time to deal with my weight. So thanks to this nasty cold I was forced to do some downtime and some reevaluation of my priorities.

Credit today so far:

:dizzy: weighing in
:dizzy: eating a healthy breakfast
:dizzy: checking in with my coaches
:dizzy: reading some of Dr. Beck
:dizzy: reading advantage and response cards
:dizzy: reworking food plan

Still to do- go for 30 minute walk, make food plan for the week and go get some healthy groceries.

:grouphug:

masondixonmama
02-12-2011, 03:02 PM
Warm greetings to everyone!

We are in the midst of a wonderful thaw. It's supposed to get up to the 50s tomorrow. Can't wait!

I'm in the middle of a crazy busy day. Had two little playmates here for my boys for the past few hours. Getting ready to go to a 3 year old birthday party. Tonight, babysitting for our neighborhood co-op for a few hours. Husband's calling me every 20 minutes for something! I need a vacation!

I am feeling hungry today. I may not have included enough food on my plan. I saw some peanut butter chips in the pantry and wanted them, but said, nope not on my plan. Credit for that one. Going to avoid all the yummy goodies at the birthday party. Planning a credit for that one too! Missed my exercise yesterday just because I was so busy all night. Plan to do my walk away the pounds tonight. Hope I have enough time. If not, I am sure I burned a ton of calories chasing four little monsters around for a few hours :) Weighed in at 264.5 today, down 7 pounds since Monday. I know the first week is always a lot more, and while I'm proud of myself, I know I am not that number and it's okay if it fluctuates up and down, as long as I am true to my plan. Credit.

I hope everyone is well and healthly. Have a great weekend!

Andrea

RubyJan
02-12-2011, 08:28 PM
I did it! Went to the party after a day of being entirely on my programme, and ate two little things off the circulating trays, drank sparkling water with ice, and still had a wonderful time. So Beck did the trick for me. I think the most important idea so far for me is that of accepting the fact that I might be hungry, but that that is not a cause for panic. I can be hungry and still carry on with the stuff of life and wait to eat until its time. Its amazing to me how utterly foreign to me the idea of being hungry and yet just getting on with things has been. I am giving myself a credit for seeing that I CANbe hungry without my world falling apart.
I hope everyone to the east of me enjoys whatever part of your day is left, while I crawl into bed . Ruby

Woodland
02-12-2011, 10:33 PM
Hi Coaches,

I'm a daily lurker, and felt like posting tonight because of RubyJan. Your thoughts about hunger made me think "me too" !! Getting comfortable with the idea that being hungry is ok, and actually empowering, was a real eye-opener for me as well. So thanks for reminding me of how far I've come in this journey.

I'm still chugging along, on program most days. My weight seems to like where it is, and I'm ok with that. As Beck says, I have decided not to decrease my calories (1800 a day), or increase my exercise (recumbent bike, weights, elliptical, etc). So, as long as my current clothes continue to fit, I'm happy to have found a good routine. I struggle with fear of adapting if life changes happen, but continue to work on 'one day at a time'.

Everyone's postings keep me motivated and I enjoy hearing of your adventures. Thanks for continuing to be here.

Woodland

BillBlueEyes
02-13-2011, 06:49 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Especially good eating on plan at dinner at the home of friends, CREDIT moi. Partially because we brought dinner and I served myself more of the veggies than the salmon. I did have an unplanned appetizer of homemade goat cheese on homemade bread, which easily fit my rare and usual category.

Exercise was breaking up the ice at the end of my driveway - CREDIT moi more for doing what had to be done than for the physical exertion. Much time was spent de-cluttering a corner of our storage room that I hadn't looked at in years and years. It's a joy to relive the past and such a pain to have to let it go.


onebyone - Kudos for packing two boxes in frustration over the missing (but now found) con. My humble recommendation is to lose the con once each morning and once each afternoon to keep your packing job on schedule, LOL.

FutureFitChick - Indian restaurants offer so many yummy options.

CeeJay - Ouch for needing a "nasty cold" to allow yourself some me time and Kudos for taking it.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Did you make the tzatziki sauce?

Woodland - It's a gift to be happy with all three at the same time: your eating plan, your exercise plan, and your weight. Kudos for reaching that point.

maryann - Cheering as you approach "an entire week of EXACTLY WHAT I HAVE WRITTEN DOWN." Just WOW that an 8 year old can speak of sixth grade as a finite distance ahead.

ChefJoona - Hope you rest away that "sinusy/ cold thing" sufficiently for your Valentine's Day dinner. Drooling over "healthy black bean soup."

Ruby (RubyJan) - What a breakthrough, "I CAN be hungry without my world falling apart." Where did we all get it in our heads that hungry deserved immediate attention.

Andrea (masondixonmama) - Kudos for turning down goodies at a little kid's party - I always took that opportunity to eat the pretty mediocre food that we were feeding our kids.

vibrantheart - Ouch for one bad week; Kudos for marching forward.

pamatga - Major Kudos for designing yourself an exercise program that fits your own body capabilities. Here's hoping you new book helps.

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

The Role of Thinking

You will learn how to talk back to these thoughts by making Response Cards, which are index cards (or the equivalent) with important reminders that you read every day. You will rehearse the ideas in your Response Cards over and over again to prepare yourself for challenging situations. For example, at some point you will have a thought such as, I don't care ... I know I'm not supposed to have this brownie, but I'm going to have it anyway. You will then pull out a Response Card that you have been reading every day that says:It is true that I don't care at this very moment. But if I eat this unplanned food, I am going to care quite a lot in just a few minutes. I know I will feel really bad if I give in, but I will feel terrific if I resist. I need to go do something else!

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pgs 20-21.

ChefJoona
02-13-2011, 10:47 AM
Good morning all,

Spent the day resting yesterday, and perked up for a great dinner! Though I allowed myself some freedom, I noticed a lot of new and postive automatic thoughts and physical responses. Did not miss ordering an alcoholic drink, easily ordered just mixed greens for an app, and was very satisfied with a small portion of entree and shared dessert.

Weighed in this morning at loss of 1lb this week. I feel positive about the steady loss at a seemingly healthy pace.

Still struggling with exercise. I know that is the next step to focus on- especially to build some lean energy using muscle!

Some happy news to share... DP is now my DF "Dear Fiance!" We got engaged last night before dinner! It is a step we have been talking about for several months, and decided the time is right for us. We're not super traditional about things like this, so not sure what the wedding will look like yet, or when it will be.

Still feeling pretty drained, so plan to rest a lot today. Might be back on later this evening.

pamatga
02-13-2011, 11:54 AM
Good morning all!

Credit moi:

Logging the 6 cupcakes, a package of chocolate covered almonds and 2 cranberry walnut cookies that I ate between Friday night Bible study and last night. Honesty is the best policy. With God, with myself and others.

Assembling the work out bench yesterday afternoon that I have had in its box for SEVEN YEARS! OY! I'm turning my former home office in a dedicated work out center. We have one on our apartment property but all the young "bucks" go down there (probably to stare at themselves in all the mirrors-I know I used to do that when I was much younger--now I just want to make sure everything is working, that's all I care about any more :D)

I have a treadmill that I do use but I also have the big round ball, the free weights, the thera-bands, etc.etc. and dvds, books galore. I have all the work out clothes and shoes as well. You would think that by looking at all of this there was a 140 lb person living in my house, wouldn't you? HMMMMM..... I honestly used to do all this but I just stopped one day, probably didn't feel like it or was "too busy" and then I fell off the "fitness" wagon. I sporadically returned now and then. So; here is to making this a high priority "moving forward".

I am going to paint the walls between today and tomorrow. If I stick with it for 60 minutes, I will burn 394 calories--two cupcakes!

I started reading the book Pain Free by Peter Egoscue. He goes into a lot of explanation about our anatomy and how we were designed to move. Period. Lack of movement causes muscles atrophy which then leads to dsyfunctional body movement and resultant pain. So, the moral of the story is if you don't want body pain somewhere on your body, don't stop moving---correctly! I am also waiting on another one of his books called Pain Free at the PC since for the past 10 1/2 years I have made a living sitting at the computer 8-12 hours a day.

gardenerjoy
02-13-2011, 02:19 PM
Ambushed by a snack attack last night. I can go days, sometimes weeks, without that problem and then it sneaks up on me. Sigh.

WI: NA kg, Exercise: +50 550/1300 minutes for February, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

BillBlueEyes: yes! I did make the tzatziki sauce -- yogurt, cucumber, a little sour cream, salt and pepper -- easy!

Best wishes on the official engagement, ChefJoona!

pamatga: thanks for the encouragement to move!

maryann
02-13-2011, 03:01 PM
Congrats to Everyone this Sunday morning for so many triumphs - Weightloss,Epiphanies on "Hunger not being an Emergency", engagements and exercise. For me, this is the 7th day of OP - Only What Is Written. Tricky yesterday because I was given some Valentines treats by family and the mind started to substitute and justify. "Just Say No." and I left a little hungry but determined. Today is the hardest day for me historically. Something about Sundays. So I am off to the gym and a few errands and while trying let go of a mind going crazy. If I start to weaken I will post more and/or take a nap.

RubyJan
02-13-2011, 03:13 PM
Hello Everyone.
I just finished my work for the day -- and have been beautifully OP (which I take it is On Programme-right?) all day. I am still struck by the novelty of being hungry -- and trying to face it head on.
OnebyOne -- congratulations on finding the con -- I live in a tiny studio and I still can lose things for weeks, and go through endless frustration trying to find them. At the moment I have been hunting for a pair of shoes for days and days. SO its great to hear that a remote control thing CAN be found, even among packing boxes.
maryann I am very inspired by your seven day run. I am on la day and a half so far, and if I find myself sliding, I have my little stack of cards to read..
Hope you all are having a nice lazy SUnday, if possible
RUby

FutureFitChick
02-13-2011, 08:44 PM
Another quick check in. Made up for missing my workout on Friday today by going to the gym. Decided against 2nds at dinner! Yeah!!

Hope you are all well & enjoying the thaw.

Take care!

CeeJay
02-13-2011, 10:42 PM
hello everyone:

masondixonmama-isn't a February thaw wonderful? We are enjoying one too. Credit for passing up peanut butter chips. Down 7 pounds in a week is awesome.

RubyJan- congratulations on your success at the party and knowing that hunger is not an emergency.

Woodland- waving hello to you. Glad to hear all is well.

BillBlueEyes- yay for eating on plan while out at dinner.

ChefJoona- congratulations on your engagement. Wonderful news. Now we Beckies are celebrating a baby for Shepherdess and a wedding for you.

pamatga- credit for writing down what you ate.

gardenerjoy-sorry about the snack attack but it is helpful for me to hear that you can go weeks without one. Hope.

maryann-big big kuddos for 7 days OP.

FutureFitChick-no 2nds at dinner and going to the gym- way to go.

For me- still feeling under the weather and dreading going to work this week. Oh well, you gotta do what you gotta do.

Credit today for:
:) weighing in
:) walking 30 mins with mom
:) doing weights
:) planning tomorrow
:) packing lunch for tomorrow
:) checking in with my coaches
:) reading response and advantage cards

Take care and have a great week.

:grouphug:

GosfordGirl
02-14-2011, 02:29 AM
Hi Coaches
I have been reading and keeping up with your posts when I log on with my morning coffee, but I am REALLY busy. Work is woeful. I know it is grand to have work and be busy but it can get over the top and exceedingly pathological. I have a really big deadline for the end of March, along with other teaching and program coordination duties, which will be really hard to meet. I think longingly of retirement and part-time teaching but can't afford it. Sigh. The diet has been a bit all over the place but I recommitted today and I just have to live with feeling really selfish and not actually doing personals for a while of I will go under. Today was an on plan day - YAY

PS - I got a dancing beastie back

Take care coaches

MaryContrary
02-14-2011, 02:34 AM
A quick check-in. I second maryann's congrats for all of the goals met, epiphanies experienced, steps taken, and choices made. I am constantly amazed by what each and every one of you shares.

I am still struggling with sinus pain, pressure, headaches -- a general stickiness in the head that gets me down. I've been on some drugs that suppress my appetite, which is a feeling I don't really like. They also make me jittery, and did not help my energy during my work out. I used to be on these drugs every day, but have been off of them since last May, when I had sinus surgery. Part of my process of taking care of myself.

So, yet again nothing done today in terms of academic work. ::sigh:: I realized that I spend more time on my eating, and working out, and Beck skills than on my dissertation. I KNOW this is better in the long-run (especially when I return to teaching) BUT . . . . I struggle with the balance.

Question, especially for the maintainers: will things balance out once I'm in the maintaining stage?

Credits:

--working out
--eating healthy, sans plan
--portioning food, sans plan
--attempting positive thinking about this coming week
--not taking my personal frustrations out on the DP
--checking in here

Happy Monday to all! Oh, and happy Valentine's Day! :val1:

BillBlueEyes
02-14-2011, 06:52 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Lots of walking, CREDIT moi. Had some off plan snacks in the morning - Ouch - but otherwise a CREDIT moi eating day.

More joy and pain digging into the boxes of treasures from ages ago. Looking at old, old books is like reviewing my intellectual history - as in, How could I have been interested in that? or Oh, yeah, that's when I first learned about that! But the culmination of the weekend is 9 boxes by the front door that will be picked up this morning by a worthy charity. CREDIT moi for continuing the letting go process. I'm greatly encouraged by the others on this thread working the same issue.


FutureFitChick - Gym and no 2nds is a good day.

CeeJay - Ouch for having to head back to work while still under the weather.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yep, snacks are sneaky and use night goggles and radar and other high tech attack gear, LOL. [Minutes after asking you about tzatziki sauce, I saw a recipe in the paper using yogurt; gonna make some - I've always considered it the purview of Greek restaurants.]

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Congrats on the return of your dancing beastie, even as you face work that is: "REALLY busy ... woeful ... over the top ... exceedingly pathological." Hope you find a calm path through that.

MaryContrary - Wishing for a good chicken soup for your "a general stickiness in the head" so you can get your mojo back. Kudos for keeping your priorities with "not taking my personal frustrations out on the DP." My experience is that the balance issue remains during maintenance, but it just joins forces with all the other balance issues on my agenda; making choices is one of the painful conditions of being human. Good luck finding your path.

maryann - Kudos for 7th day OP - you're on a roll. Thanks for modeling the standard for Valentine's Day candy, "Just Say No."

ChefJoona - Congrats for getting engaged. Such super news!!! Kudos for eating rationally on that very night - if you can do it then, you can do it any time.

Ruby (RubyJan) - Neat phrase, "beautifully OP" which, yes, does mean On Programme.

pamatga - Ouch for the cupcakes; Kudos for logging and reporting them. Sounds like such good progress to be digging out the exercise equipment, but LOL at, "I just want to make sure everything is working."

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

The Role of Thinking

Change your thinking, and you can
change your behavior permanently. Change your
behavior, and weight loss will follow.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pgs 20-21.

FutureFitChick
02-14-2011, 09:10 AM
Super quick check in. Doing OK. Healthy breakfast and a good workout to get the week started.

Take care!

pamatga
02-14-2011, 09:26 AM
Good morning all!

Official weigh in today: gained +.6 lbs. I know that it is sodium retention because of what I ate yesterday for supper. I didn't drink as much water nor did I do any structured exercise.

80/20 eating is something new that I am embracing. Although in some respects it seems easier it is actually more difficult because it is so easy to have the 20%(not so healthy) eating (things like homemade fudge and yes those cupcakes) cause me to lose my appetite to eat the healthier things. I had two meals each day on the weekend but that actually works better with my appetite.

Credit moi:

"Business as usual." I do not use the above results as evidence of quitting or giving up. I acknowledge that they are part of the fabric I am weaving in my life and consider them a very temporary set back. More water and a work out will get me back on track with the wieht lose.

Trust in the process!

Adding 10 minutes to my 30 minutes of walking on treadmill for a total of 40 minutes per day.

Being more aware of how I position my body and listening/feeling the pain level at the time.

Sticking with lights out at 1 am. I am up so early. I have so much time today. Let's hope I spend it usefully.

Key word these days is: TRUST. Trust God, myself and others.

Have a great day!

Lexxiss
02-14-2011, 09:56 AM
Hi Coaches!

I hit a big bump in the road this weekend but I woke up with new resolve this morning. I had two big events this weekend which were already a bit chaotic due to our broken pipes. Saturday, DH woke to a "stiff neck" but did help me get our old pup to the puppy party for our therapy group. We got invited to dinner (a taco fundraiser) which seemed ok. Our friend had read it wrong and we ended up at a crappy Chinese restaurant and didn't get what we ordered. (I just ate what we got). Sunday I had baking to do for our auction at church and DH informed me he was worse. I bagged church but got the baking done. I left a big mess which included all the leftovers from the 1st party. Got home from church with goodies I bought for DH to find him grumpy(understatement) and in extreme agony. Now I'm to feeding him in bed. I ate part of the goodies and grazed through the leftovers all day.

I laid in bed this morning and made MY plan. I can't change his behavior but I can change mine.
~I cleaned up the leftovers/goodies and made them off limits.
~I made my food plan for the day.
~I made a resolve to get to my yoga class for just one hour.

I am feeling overwhelmed right now but food won't change that. It was just one day. *credit* for recognizing and making the effort needed to stay on track during this moment in time.

*credit* to all of us who continue to put one foot in front of the other and strive for a sane relationship with food.

Happy Valentines Day!

ChefJoona
02-14-2011, 10:27 AM
Good morning!

I am noticing that my plan to post during the evenings isn't working. I guess I'm just in the habit of morning posting.

Had some friends over for brunch yesterday morning, and like dinner on Saturday night, I observed my new healthier habits in action. There were many tempting treats, without any built in portion control, but I found it much easier than in the past to make portion decisions for myself! Followed up with a very healthy, on plan dinner!

Thank you for the congratulations on my engagement!

maryann Way to go for 7 days in a row on plan!!!!

BillBE and gardnerjoy Non-fat plain greek yogurt is a new staple in my diet! I recently made a yummy garlicy yogurt sauce for a greek style wrap I made.

Wishing good health to those getting over bugs and discomforts!

Happy Valentine's Day! :val1:

Shepherdess
02-14-2011, 12:33 PM
I just need to come here and post before I get too far behind. We had a very busy couple of days and looks like another one. We headed out very early Friday AM to drive up to Montana to pick up a new puppy. We got another Australian Shepherd from the same breeder who gave us our last dearly departed Aussie, Maggie. (We also get our livestock guard dogs from this breeder). Iíve been working on DH to get a puppy since Christmas. If we donít do it now, it isnít going to happen for a very long time. So we talked to the breeder about the baby on the way and he knows a lot about our ranch operation and what kind of dog weíre looking for. He had a male puppy who was 5 months old he thought would be a good fit. DH and I tend to prefer females, so he picked out two 10 week old females for us as well. We were mostly set on the male, but the two females were pretty cute, two little blue-eyed blue merles. We were ready to go home with 3 dogs! But we just came home with Fletcher, a very cute tri-colored boy who looks a lot like our Maggie, though he has some distinctions like a single blue eye. Weíre trying to remember that heís his own dog and not our beloved Maggie.

So weíve been in the middle of puppy transition. Heís been understandably terrified so he requires a lot of time (and patience!) and our other dog, Jen, needs lots of reassurance that sheís still our baby dog. But weíre making progress. In the middle of all this, weíre getting ready to calve heifers. We finally got the water working in the calving house and spent the weekend cleaning. Weíll move in today and it looks like our first calves will arrive sometime in the next few days. So through this, I havenít had a plan and have been too tired to make good choices. But I did make a plan for yesterday and stuck with it and have a plan in place for today.

I havenít had much formal exercise, just the incidental exercise from cleaning. Fletcherís also giving me an excuse to get out for short walks while we introduce him to his surroundings. Weíve got some pretty high winds right now, so Iíd normally be reluctant to spend much time outdoors. Itís good I have a new puppy. I did get my weights in last night and DH and I have a walk planned this afternoon.

No time for personals today. I will do my best to keep up during calving.

jmaf
02-14-2011, 02:15 PM
Hi All,

I usually don't do much computer work on the weekends, so I didn't get a chance to check-in.

So far, things are going well - ate out on Friday night and enjoyed myself but didn't go overboard, which was my goal. I'm giving myself credit for returning to my plan on Saturday morning and sticking with it through the weekend - NOT what I would have done in the past!

Congrats to ChefJoona on her engagement! (and 1 lb loss!).

Pamatga: have you heard about Jolie Bookspan? She has a (free) website that offers a number of solutions to pain/posture problems. I also have her books, but you can get pretty much all of the information at the 'Fitness Fixer' page at her site.

MaryContrary: the only thing I ever found that worked for my sinus issues was a neti pot. Sinus problems are really no fun. :(

RubyJan: congrats on making it through the party!

Lexxis: stiff necks always worry me - hope your DH is better. Really like your attitude that "I can't change his behavior but I can change mine."

Shepardess: good luck with the new puppy!

BillBlueEyes:: sounds like you're doing lots of decluttering! I was just reading an article this weekend about how clutter, and even certain objects we hold on to, can be a source of negative energy.

maryann: I like your 'just say no' attitude! Luckily, I got a cyclamen plant for Valentine's Day so don't have to deal with extraneous chocolate that I don't need :).

I hope everyone has a great day and hope those who are sick get well soon.

- Jan

masondixonmama
02-14-2011, 03:33 PM
Hello friends,

Quick check in. Today marks one week on the Beck plan. Weight loss for week one is 7 lbs. Credit for making time to exercise, staying on plan, talking back to cravings, encouraging positive self esteem, and drinking my water.

Have a great day!

jmaf
02-14-2011, 03:40 PM
Awesome, masondixonmama!!!

RubyJan
02-14-2011, 06:26 PM
congratulations masondixonmama!!! 7 pounds in one week is FAB and inspiring. Shepherdess, a new puppy, I envy you. I live in a flat wither no dogs allowed, but I have always gotten on very well with dogs and find their manners superb!
Over here, I have had my second day of being OP -- and feeling more confident. My troubles mostly occur at night, but I am going to go to sleep now.
Had a great pilates session today.
credits -- Pilates, stayed On Plan, and read my cards.
Good night Ruby

maryann
02-14-2011, 07:32 PM
Happy V. Day everyone!

RubyJan: Credit for your Pilates. Pilates has saved my life in terms of my feet (suffered from plantars faciatis), overall healthy perspective and posture. Keep Going.
Ceejay:I hope today was better than you imagined. I know you dreaded it.
Seadwater: Congrats on a dancing beastie. 5 lb lost, right?
MaryContrary: I have similar thoughts on maintenance. Will it be easier? I imagine it as a garden. The original planting is heavy labor; keeping it in order is about good habits and attention to its needs.
BBE: 9 is a big number. Congrats.
Pagmatga: I am with you. The process of truth and perservance is the most important key to success.
Lexxiss: Sounds like Chaos. And Chaos of external factors and the feelings they produce are what I ate over. easy does it.
ChefJoona: portion awareness is so critical. I was just weighing meatloaf last night. it is unbelievable how SMALL 2 ounces of meat is.
Shepardess: Congrats on puppy. The whole process sounds like a lot of energy


As for me, I would love to have said Sunday was perfect. I can say it was much better than all the previous Sundays of the year. I tasted too much while I was cooking two BIG meals and I compensated by foregoing my evening snack. I must accept what is and use it for information. Maybe next Sunday will be even better.

CeeJay
02-14-2011, 11:00 PM
Hello everyone:

Happy Valentine's Day!!!

seadwaters- you and I seem to be in the same jam with too much work. Don't sweat it about the personals. Kuddos for staying on plan.

MaryContrary-sorry you are still feel terrible. Nice list of credits in spite of that.

BillBlueEyes-9 boxes of books to be discovered and enjoyed by someone out there- that's got to feel good.

FutureFitChick- glad to hear you are doing OK.

pamatga-congratulations for adding another 10 minutes on the treadmill.

Lexxiss-sorry for the eating this weekend- sounds like a stressful time. But you took charge. I have a response card, lifted from BillBlueEyes,- "Food does not cure stress" that has helped me often.

ChefJoona-what a victory you had this weekend with brunch and dinner with friends.

Shepherdess-your new puppy sounds wonderful. Love to hear about your animals- you are lucky to have daily contact with all your critters. Something wonderful about that.

jmaf-credit for eating sanely this weekend.

masondixonmama- nice list of credits.

RubyJan-yay for your second day OP.

maryann- good for you for practicing your Beck skills this weekend by compensating for too much tasting.

For me- today was much better than expected. I am gearing up for a meeting tomorrow that will have lots of food and lots of stress. I have a plan- sit as far away from the food as possible, bring my berries and yogurt to the meeting, bring excel mints, and bring lots of water. And then draw a line in the sand. If I am going to give in- excuse myself, go to my office, read a few response cards, breathe and then return to meeting.

Credit for:

:T weighing in
:T walking 30 mins with DH
:T reading advantage and response cards
:T checking in with my coaches
:T eating on plan!!!!!!!!!!!!
:T resisting cupcakes at work
:T packing up lunch for tomorrow
:T planning food for tomorrow

:grouphug:

GosfordGirl
02-15-2011, 04:54 AM
Hi Coaches

Today was an on plan day - Credit. Looked longingly at the biscuit barrel during a meeting but stayed away from it. Did a bit of stair walking between appointments. Tried to eat mindfully when not grabbing food between commitments. Not a lot else to credit - no cards, no exercise. I did try to remain a bit hungry today and to deal with it - from reading your posts I think that is a good thing to persist with

Off to make dinner and get to bed. I have been getting up at 3.30 am to stay on top - I need to channel BillBE to survive that. Credit to all and :hug: to those having a tough time

Stay well Beckies

BillBlueEyes
02-15-2011, 05:53 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Many feelings come with letting go of bunches of books and treasures. But one is a freedom. To wit, I liked a book reviewed so I just walked over to my computer and did Amazon One-Click; it'll be here tomorrow. Yay and Ouch. It'll be costly if I try to instantly replace 9 boxes of books via Amazon.

Eating OP - CREDIT moi - DW made her spicy chick pea stew over cous-cous; I love that stuff. Gym was gym; CREDIT moi.


FutureFitChick - Yay for a week that begins with a good workout.

CeeJay - Terrific plan for your meeting. And Kudos for resisting cupcakes at work - those should be banned.

Shepherdess - Yay for a new Aussie - I've missed Maggie from here. Just love the single blue eye. We chose an Aussie because they were said to be so good with kids - and ours was.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Can't get past my visual of your "biscuit barrel" - which stems from the image of a pickle barrel in an old country store. Welcome to the 3 a.m. club; since we're on opposite sides of the planet, we could get to the point where one of us is always up, LOL.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Thanks for the reminder, "I can't change his behavior but I can change mine." A taco fundraiser would do me in; the thought that another taco will help out a worthy cause would easily lead me off my plan.

maryann - Such refreshing sanity, "I must accept what is and use it for information."

ChefJoona - That's encouraging, "new healthier habits in action" - your habits! I find that plain non-fat yogurt is a great substitute for many things, mainly because I really like it.

Ruby (RubyJan) - Kudos for second day OP. When I did Pilates briefly, I learned that I had a long way to go to be toned.

Andrea (masondixonmama) - Congrats on the 7 pounds gone. And Kudos for the talking back.

pamatga - I like the image, "they are part of the fabric I am weaving in my life." Kudos for "more aware of how I position my body," he writes while slouched down in his chair, LOL.

Jan (jmaf) - Kudos for "enjoyed myself but didn't go overboard." My take is that's a super skill to master so that restaurants and special events aren't a threat, but a joy. [Think you're right about the "negative energy" from clutter.]

Readers - chapter 1
Beginning a New Way of Life

The Role of Thinking

Eventually, the messages on your Response Cards will become ingrained. You will build new pathways in your mind, so when you experience sabotaging thoughts, you will automatically answer them without thinking too much about it. Once you get to this point, sticking to your diet gets dramatically easier. That's when you will breathe a sigh of relief. You will know the formula works for you, too. That's when you will realize that dieting is worth it - so worth it. That's the moment when you start to get your life back.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 21.

ChefJoona
02-15-2011, 07:31 AM
Indulged a bit last night for Valentine's day... but still less than I would have in the past. The concept in today's Beck quote is really starting to be relatable to me!
Credit for getting out for a long walk yesterday. Seems Mondays are the day I can routinely exercise.

Shepherdess I love reading about your life on the ranch! Welcome Fletcher!

Yay for all the on plan days, committment to the program and hard work!!!

FutureFitChick
02-15-2011, 12:21 PM
Another quick check in... Will be busy like this for the next several weeks... Had a check with PT for my headaches and goy some exercises to try to reduce pain. Haven't been tracking food, but feel like I'm making pretty good choices.

pamatga
02-15-2011, 02:02 PM
[Quote]have you heard about Jolie Bookspan? She has a (free) website that offers a number of solutions to pain/posture problems. I also have her books, but you can get pretty much all of the information at the 'Fitness Fixer' page at her site.

Jmaf No, I haven't heard of her but I will certainly check her out. Thanks for the tip!

While I was walking on the treadmill yesterday I was very aware to drop my shoulders instead of scrunched up, keep my right foot pointed forward instead of everted, eyes straight ahead instead of looking at the display panel on my treadmill and my back in neutral supine position. Bad posture, weak and/or inactive muscles add up to stronger muscles compensating and doing double time and, not surprising, ending up with chronic pain in key spots.

So, I decided that if I really want to lick this chronic pain once and for all. I need to work on all of these underlying issues until I no longer have the pain.

The author is not anti-surgery but he also says that if you don't "fix" the underlying musculoskeletal issues then whatever pain you went to the surgeon will return; hence, why a lot of people are so disappointed with surgery results often.

It goes without saying that there are no "quick fixes" in life. Period.

Lexxis I heard a "people pleaser" :^: in all of your activity. :running: I think most of us who have a weight issue are. I often notice that some people who are thin and have been thin all their lives disregard a lot of other people's feelings often. Before I get myself into trouble here, I honestly think it has more to do with self-perservation and priorities and nothing more. It just so happens that they are thin but then it is echoing what has been said about us learning to make time for ourselves. It just so happens that thin people think enough of themselves to do for themselves what they need to do. It could be an important behavior in determining whether we end up fat or thin.

Another spin on that is a lot of "perfectionist" hate to give up the idea that we can "bring home home the bacon, fry it up in a pan" "cause we're Woooooman, like the popular song says. Well, as a recovering perfectionist, I am learning to let go of being perfect on anything. Instead, I am happy to do my best at any given time and being okay with that. I heard that too when you said you started over the next day. I think we do ourselves a great disservice when we have to feel compelled to do anything "perfectly". It is OKAY to have a melt down. It's allowed. You're human.

Fat people usually have boundary issues. :^: Lest you think you are the only one who is rushing around trying to make everyone happy until you collapse from overgiving exhaustion; I have this too and I am actively working on it. There isn't all bad about being a person who is loving and caring. After all, we all want our DS to care about us but not at the exclusion of ourselves. :tired: I am learning to walk that fine line.

Just like my issue with wanting to have my "fudge/cupcake" and eat it too, it is all about moderation.

Ironically, the more we take care of ourselves the more we have left to take care of others but we have to take care of ourselves first not last.

Credit moi:

Trusting my body and the science of losing weight to pump the water, increasing my activity :running: and getting back on track with my food plan yesterday and seeing a 2 lb weight lose (sodium induced temporary gain) this morning.

Being flexible when things don't go my way :frypan: and truly being okay with it. Bend like an willow tree, stand firm like an oak and be willing to change like a red leave maple. (yes, I just made that up:o )

I have decided that this is my definition of being OP. Def: There is not an off plan nor an on plan, there is only ONE PLAN and that is the plan I intend to follow until I am six feet under."

Being connected to ya'all! We can do this!

Gwen
02-15-2011, 02:03 PM
I have not found a forum here for the Body for Life challenge. Beck sounds very similar to BFL. May I join here?

silverbirch
02-15-2011, 03:02 PM
:wave: Gwen.

I think the Weight and Resistance Training board began as a Body for Life board some years ago so it might be worth looking over there. This Beck board, though, is a very friendly and encouraging one. Good luck!

maryann
02-15-2011, 07:42 PM
Credit: Ate only OP yesterday. Point of improvement - the planned cupcake was ate standing in dough form. Hummmmm. Nonetheless a first for no sweet gorging despite the fact my workplace (middleschool) was inundated with crap.
Tough work day today. Lots of kids being kids and it got to me. Credit for not blowing my stack. Credit for being the boundary they desperately need. Credit for being respectful in the face of their disrespect so they can have a good model. Credit for telling the truth to them and their parents even when the parents yell at me. Credit for doing my job even when I am afraid of conflict so I don't want to do it.
I'm going home to take a nap before exercise.
Thanks for listening.

Lexxiss
02-15-2011, 10:07 PM
Hi Coaches!

Today was a better day despite another visit to the dentist. *credit* again for resistance muscles strengthened while avoiding comfort milkshakes. Tomorrow is a planned ski day. My Sis is arriving early to go with me.

BillBlueEyes, great for recognizing the freedom as you let go of lots more stuff. I, too, remember that by letting go I have room for something new.

maryann, great job finding calm and compassion at school and recognizing a nap opportunity before exercise.

Gwen, Beck Diet Solution could certainly work well with Body for Life. Here, we each follow a food and exercise plan of our choice and use techniques we learn through Dr. Beck's books to modify our thinking and behavior relating to food.

pamatga, great that you are being aware of how you exercise in relation to your pain issues.

FutureFitChick, :wave: I hope your new exercises help!

ChefJoona, I love when I really realate to one of Dr. Beck's quotes! Great that you indulged in a new way....and Congratulations! on your engagement!

Cheryl(seadwaters), yay for biscuit free days. I noticed no mention of heat...hoping it's been better lately.

CeeJay, yay for planning ahead for your stressy event. I hope it went well for you.

RubyJan, going to bed is a great technique, especially when night eating is an issue. credit for OP days.

masondixonmama, Yay! for one week on the Beck plan and for great results!

jmaf, great job getting back on track after your Friday night out. I think this is one of the greatest tools for lasting weightloss.

Shepherdess, congrats to your family and to Fletcher....he is one lucky dog.

MaryContrary, I hope you are feeling better!

:wave: :wave: everybody else! I have a few chores before heading to bed. I haven't eaten yet, due to my tooth issue...I may switch tonight and have some homemade yogurt.

CeeJay
02-15-2011, 11:02 PM
Hello!!!

seadwaters- yay for an on plan day. Good job staying away from the biscuits at your meeting. Re:getting up at 3:30 AM-sending you a hug. I hope you don't need to do that for too long.

BillBlueEyes-credit for eating OP and going to the gym.

ChefJoona- good for you for practicing restraint on Valentine's Day.

FutureFitChick- waving hello!!

pamatga-hope the effort you are putting into paying close attention to your body on the treadmill pays off with less pain for you.

Gwen- welcome!!!

silverbirch- waving hello to you.

maryann- kuddos for a day of OP eating despite the huge stress of your job.

Lexxiss- credit for a better day. Hope you enjoy skiing.

For me- so very happy that I did everything I set out to do today. I ate what I planned despite all the tempting food at the meeting today.

Credit today for:

:yay: weighting in

:yay: reading response and advantage cards

:yay: reading some of the pink book

:yay: doing weights

:yay: walking 30 mins in the full moon just after sunset in fantastic warm weather for February

:yay: exercising resistance to food at the office

:yay: checking in with my coaches

:yay: planning tomorrow and packing lunch

:yay: eating on plan and healthy- egg whites and cheese for breakfast, plain yogurt and blueberries for snack, tuna on whole wheat and salad for lunch, apple and cheese stick for snack and brown rice and vegetarian chili for supper. Planning a healthy bedtime snack and off to bed early.

Take care everyone
:grouphug:

MaryContrary
02-15-2011, 11:19 PM
That deserves a credit, yes?

Insanely busy day, including driving through BOTH LA rush-hours. With sinus pressure and movement (sorry if that's TMI, but I'm the offspring of an ER nurse). UGH.

Still, excellent meeting with a professor whom I adore, who told me that unless I articulate myself more clearly, my project "seems" like it might be falling back on intellectual laziness. Was actually glad to hear this, because the phrasing forced me to depersonalize (I'm not lazy) and be objective (she's right, articulation has been and IS , always, the main struggle of writing, for ALL): two of my enduring challenges. I did it quickly, and was able to get much constructive criticism out of our meeting. CREDIT.

I can see I've have a good day -- but I'm tired and cranky all the same. Plus, dealing with dental insurance issues. Ugh, encore.

Looking forward to leftover chickpea soup and toasty multigrain bread.

BBE, ::sigh::, I figured balance would always be the struggle. And, of course, the joy. Nice job on the de-cluttering. I recently dropped off three crates of books to my favorite book thrift-store, and walked out with 10 "new" ones! Enjoy that spicy soup.

Lexxiss, really loved the image of you laying in the bed, making YOUR plan. Credit!!!! Continue taking care of yourself, and you'll also be taking care of DH (at a slant). My DP always says, "When it's about me, it's about you." And, because she doesn't abuse this statement, I can really see the truth in it. When we take care of ourselves, we also better the lives of those we love. For me: I'm a much nicer person when I've worked out. :)

ChefJoona, make sure you record those memories of the gathering, and noticing your increased self-control. That's a big credit, and a big hurdle!

Shepherdess, sending energy your way during this exciting and exhausting process. Enjoy the puppy-smell of Fletcher!

jmaf, I use ocean spray, but I think moving up to a neti pot is the next step. The surgery helped correct anatomical problems, but I'm still dealing with sinus swelling from allergies. My life-long adventure! Nice work with your weekend plan.

masondixonmama, woo-hoo on the 7 lbs!

rubyjan, great credits, and sleeping is a healthy solution for the night-time munchies.

maryann, thanks, as always, for the image of the garden. And yes, some MAJOR credits to all that you give to those teenagers. Stay strong.

seadwaters, congrats on surviving the meeting munchies!

ceejay, I just loved your plan for the meeting. So detailed! And you did it! Just keep on with that resistance muscle.

Feeling much calmer. Thanks for being here!

GosfordGirl
02-16-2011, 03:47 AM
Hi Coaches

I had an on plan day and stuck with foods on my plan. Not that good at tolerating hunger today. I was working at home trying to get writing done and that always makes me hungry - the structure of being at work is helpful. But I didn't break plan.

No exercise or cards or reading today - all work unfortunately. I have a plan for tomorrow and the food in the house so it should be a good day. But I run out or food tomorrow and I'm not sure when I will have time to replenish! A few quick personals

Ceejay - so glad you are having an easier time and survived the tempting meeting food

MaryContrary - sounds like you are getting on track and are using the opportunities for feedback to get where you need to. Ouch for dentists and sinuses

Lexxiss - Everyone seems to be having dental issues! And they are always difficult. I have put of a huge dental job until the middle of the year - I will literally need to re-mortgage! Credit for avoiding milkshakes - one of my favourite once-a-year things. Yes - it is much cooler at the moment but there will be a few bursts of heat before it finishes. Enjoy skiing

FutureFitChick - :wave:- hope things settle down soon

BillBE - Yay for the freedom that comes with unburdening possessions - someone will really enjoy it. I have severely culled all my books and now have room for those one-click purchases. Have to say I bought a kindle and love it - it is SO easy to hold and use - especially with arthritis in the hands. And the books take up no room at all! I still need paper books though

Have a good day coaches

BillBlueEyes
02-16-2011, 05:36 AM
:welcome: Gwen :welcome:

And even though you've been here a month already, :wel3fc:

BillBlueEyes
02-16-2011, 05:46 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating was OP, CREDIT moi, but it included the last of some homemade bread we received as a gift - a nut bread with wall-to-wall nuts, so yummy. Only incidental exercise, but CREDIT moi for that.

FutureFitChick - Hope your new exercises bring relief.

CeeJay - Lovely, lovely image, "walking 30 mins in the full moon just after sunset." And to think it was good for you also.

Cheryl (seadwaters) - Ouch for busy, busy. Hope you find time for a relaxing stroll through the produce section of your local market.

silverbirch - Waving back toward the British Library.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Ouch for the dentist.

MaryContrary - Oh Yes, you deserve Kudos for coming here instead of the fridge. You have my admiration for accepting criticism, with extra Kudos for being able to depersonalize and to be motivated by criticism instead of feeling rejected.

maryann - My continued appreciation for teaching in a Middle School where we send our pre-civilized youth. Monster Monster Kudos for "being respectful in the face of their disrespect so they can have a good model." That's what they'll remember ten years from now.

ChefJoona - Yay for exercise Mondays.

pamatga - Thanks for "there are no 'quick fixes' in life. Period." I need to remember that.

Gwen - You are most welcome to join us. We're a bunch of folks who serve as Diet Coach / Diet Buddy for each other and who use this thread to be accountable. The Beck Diet Solution recommends that we choose two diet plans (the second for backup), so we're all on our own eating plans. Do you have an eating plan and exercise plan?

Readers - chapter 2
Experience the Difference

It doesn't matter how many times you have tried to lose excess weight in the past or how many collective pounds you have lost and then regained. This really can be the last time you ever need to lose weight. Ever. This time will be different.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 22.

pamatga
02-16-2011, 12:15 PM
Lexxiss Thank you for PMing me and explaining your life more clearly. I understand the difficult role of being a caregiver as I went through that myself back in 2008 with my mother as she was dying. You are in my daily prayers. Glad to hear you are doing your best in a very difficult situation.

Credit moi:

Realizing that I have been as much part of the problem as part of the solution in the things that keep me from living a full life.

It reminds me poignantly that there is no one to blame but myself---moment to moment.

It is easy to say "Well, I couldn't do this or that because this or that came up" but life is not lived in a static moment. It has a fluidity that Mother Nature has known for ages. Why don't we acknowledge this axiom of life?

Credit myself for slowly letting go of the fear that is associated with change, with letting go and with the unknown. All I/we have any knowledge of is today.

Continuing to transform my former home office into a dedicated work out space. Continuing to paint the walls. This is perfect time since it is warm and low humidity so the paint is drying quickly. It also burns 394 calories an hour when done continuously. It might take all week but I will burn off this last weekend's "sweets".

Credit myself for not only going to bed by 1 am but also getting up when I awake rather than lay in bed for another hour. I feel my absolute best of the day the first hour as I lay in bed. I am almost pain-free. It is such a glorious feeling that I revel in it. However, I have now decided that I will venture forth with the hope that I can strengthen atrophied muscles before the next acute flare-up happens. One thing that I have learned is that this is just a reprieve and try to take advantage of these "calms in the storms".

My vision for this coming spring is to be able to take a walk with my hubby outdoors. I am hoping for one mile without my cane. I know how absolutely important it is for me to get as much of this extra weight off. I am putting a lot of weight on my left shoulder and arm which it was not designed to do.

Credit moi:

For being bullishly determined to never give up on any of this.

God bless you all, have a good day!

masondixonmama
02-16-2011, 02:00 PM
Hello Beck Friends,

Just a quick check in today. Hope everyone out there is doing well! Thanks for the encouragement; it really means a lot to me.

Credits:
* Planning ahead for a date night tonight!
* Promoting positive self esteem - I love myself, so I am going to make these changes.
* Eating on plan.
* Exercising - I did walk away the pounds last night and you should have seen my 2 year old trying to do the moves with me - hilarious!
* Saying No Choice and Oh, Well to the box of chocolates in the kitchen area at work. And they're the really good kind, too :)
* Daily weigh ins. I'm down 2 more pounds since Monday. Woohoo!

Sending warm, positive thoughts your way. Have a fantastic day.

Andrea

jmaf
02-16-2011, 03:20 PM
Also a quick check-in for me. DH had foot surgery yesterday, so I'm at his beck-and-call.

Credits:
- Exercised today!! Hadn't done that for a week. My goal today is to set up a regular schedule - that's always been a challenge for me. I usually just do it when I can fit it in, but that ultimately never works out. And then when I don't exercise for a week or so, I am hesitant to start again because I think I'll be achy, so I put it off more, and the cycle begins...

- Eating has been OP. The more I do this, the easier it seems to be getting. That's not to say I'm not going to have challenges with this down the line, but for the time being, this seems 'doable.'

Hope everyone has a good day!

- Jan

RubyJan
02-16-2011, 03:23 PM
Hello Coaches:
Just got home from work and I think I have got tendonitis in my arm and wrist. Pain pain, not ache pain...well, I will go to Pilates in the morning, and see if my brilliant teachers (both ex-ballet dancers) can sort me out...
Third day OP was great, then I slipped at teatime -- definitely linked my panic over my arm in case it will mean not swimming for a while... BUt I am giving myself credit for:
doing my porridge and fruit breakfast perfectly all week so far
same for lunch and (soon) dinner --
feeling that my smaller portions are still satisying,
and: putting a ticker up in my signature!!
have a lovely day, Ruby.

jmaf
02-16-2011, 03:57 PM
Sorry to hear about the tendonitis, Ruby... ouch! I hear you about the panic starting a slip, but kudos to you for recognizing this.

I like your ticker!

- Jan

MaryContrary
02-16-2011, 07:04 PM
Hello my comrades in positive, healthy living!

I'm sitting in the cafe at the car dealership, waiting for my car to get serviced and fighting with myself over a craving for french fries. Thought I would come here to check in and get some virtual support.

The highlight of today was weighing in at 174.8! I have been hovering around the 175-176 range, and wanted to give it a week to see if I could officially claim this next big goal. I'm claiming it, fiercely and happily: it's been five years since I weighed this much, and I only managed to stay there for about a month. I really believe BBE's inspirational quote: This really can be the last time you ever need to lose weight. Ever. This time will be different. I'm feeling the possibility of this more and more.

Wow. I just felt my craving for french fries dissolve with that thought and that image. I'm still hungry, but that's okay. Wow.

So, I have changed my ticker and set my third goal: to get down to 150. I also celebrated by treating myself to a really nice hair cut, and not worrying about the cost of it (for once).

seadwaters, writing at home makes me hungry, too! Thinking, in general, takes a lot of energy. This is something I wish I could make my mother understand. If I've learned anything from this challenge of working at home, it's that a lot of healthy snacks really keep me going.

BBE, I've been making a Butter Bran Banana Bread to have as a sweet treat option. I too dig "wall to wall nuts."

pamatga, you have a lovely vision for this spring, keep up with that healthy bullishness!

masondixonmama, kudos for planning a date night, and big ol' kudos for planning how to handle it! Sounds like two great ways to take care of yourself.

jmaf, those are two excellent credits! Exercise does take planning, even when you have a relatively free schedule (as I continually trick myself into believing).

rubyjan, ouch for that tendonitis! But congrats on your credits, and the ticker.

That's all from rainy Southern California. I'm going to spend the rest of my time at the dealership looking up recipes for healthy tomato soup. Thanks for all the support!

jmaf
02-16-2011, 08:17 PM
Congrats, MaryContrary!! for both breaking the 175 barrier, and for passing on the french fry craving. Lots of credit deserved!

- Jan

FutureFitChick
02-16-2011, 09:40 PM
Hi, Everyone.

Doing OK. Yesterday I was having massive salt cravings and could have beaten off all the deer to the salt block. I overworked in my training session this morning and was really exhausted after about 10 AM on. I took a nap after work and am able to move now, at least.

I was bummed that I had to toss out a pound of ground turkey because i didn't get to it before it went bad.

I miss doing personals. I've got an exam tomorrow and a writing deadline for a manuscript in about 10 days, so that is keeping my hopping.

Take care!

Lexxiss
02-16-2011, 10:09 PM
Hi Coaches!

Today was a good Beck day. I went skiing with my sis and resisted her peanut M&Ms, talked her out of Taco Bell and instead had a healthy vegetarian lunch. (Which she commented was much better!) Hit the pool for a soak then said NO CHOICE to DH's Girl Scout cookies. I remembered I could have my planned treat later guilt free if I refrained from unplanned food. Mom and sis are gone and I have the evening off. I went and looked at a recumbent bike that is on sale.*credit* moi for effort which achieved the desired result.

BillBlueEyes, glad you enjoyed your planned tree-nut bread. I've been amazed at your persistence at decluttering and am ready for another project!

RubyJan, feeling that your smaller portions are still satisfying is so great! Sorry to hear about your tendonitis but hopefully your Pilates teacher can help. My yoga guru has exercises for us for our wrists.

Jan(jmaf), great that your eating OP is getting easier. I find that, too, and it's just as Dr. Beck says!

Andrea(masondixonmama), great credits! Hope your date night was fun!

pamatga, thanks for sending kind thoughts my way! Very powerful statements in your post today...I'm sure many of us can relate to. We are transforming to a workout space, too. No painting, though...I just got home from looking at a recumbent bike that is on sale. What a great vision for the spring. One day at a time you can get there!

Cheryl(seadwaters), great for an OP day...sorry for so much work!

MaryContrary,yay! for claiming your new weight on your ticker! A definite non-french fry celebration! Great that you've set a new goal and found a reward for meeting this one!

CeeJay, thanks for sharing your menu! It sounded wonderful-how I like to eat! Great list of credits!

FutureFitChick, I'm really happy when you check in even when you don't have time for personals. Good luck on your exam!

I'm going to enjoy an early night...just need to get old Rudi outside one more time. Goodnight all...thx for all your positive input.

PS I really focused on the statement in todays reading, too, and thought about this really being the "last time"!

CeeJay
02-16-2011, 10:39 PM
Hello everyone

seadwaters-yay for an on plan day despite feeling hungry.

BillBlueEyes-after reading your post I am cracking out the bread maker this weekend.

pamatga-seems like you are doing a lot of soul searching. Glad to hear about a dedicated work out space. that's great. I like your vision of walking with your husband.

masondixonmama- nice list of credits. And down 2 more pounds. Fantastic!!!!

jmaf- hoping your DH is on the road to recovery soon.

RubyJan-nice list of credits!!!

MaryContrary-credit for coming here instead of having fries. We are much better for you. :D, Congratulations at arriving under 175- wonderful.

FutureFitChick- lol re the salt block. I know the feeling.

Lexxiss- nice day you had and credit for resisting unhealthy food today.

For me- today I was on plan. No issues today. That's such a relief for me. Tomorrow will bring lots of challenges. We have a pot luck lunch at work for someone who is leaving- my plan- no sugar, 1 plate only with no seconds, eat the healthy stuff. Then it is the hotel tomorrow night- my plan- go to Safeway and purchase salad and micorwave dinner for the hotel.

Credit today for:

- weighing in
- posting
- walking 30 mins with DH- still beautiful here
- drinking lots of water
- planning tomorrow
- reading cards
- reading some of the pink book
- resisting vending machine
- eating on plan and healthy= egg whites and cheese for breakfast, plain yogurt and berries for snack, salad and steak on whole wheat bread for lunch, apple and cheese stick for snack, barbequed chicken breast, brown rice, mushrooms and brocolli for dinner. Snack will be the southbeach ricotta recipe (ricotta, splenda and vanilla- I love this so much, just discovered it)

Hope everyone has a good day tomorrow and will check in when I am back on Friday.

:grouphug:

GosfordGirl
02-17-2011, 05:13 AM
Hi Coaches

The natural disasters are spreading themselves around the country. This time it is Darwin and a cyclone - a once in a 500yr event. I had a very off plan day. Went to a work farewell and the food was laid on and all of it something I shouldn't eat and it turned out I had nothing to take for lunch so I ate it! A lot. And I had a non-productive day to boot - which was frustrating. My colleague has collapsed and resigned the other course directors position (at a critical time) because of the ridiculous situation. She is a person who just absorbs work and keeps going but hit the wall big time. I do wish I hadn't said yes - that'll teach me. But they aren't that good at looking after their workhorses. I have to see how I can moderate my behaviour or my health - and the job - will suffer

On the way home I stopped and a roadside organic "truck stop" on the express-way - got a good organic salad for tomorrow until I can shop. Turns out I can work at home because I was going to meetings with my moribund colleague and they have been cancelled! She rang me as I drove home.

I am now rambling. I need to refocus and move beyond today's off plan event. I will eat well tonight and have a plan for tomorrow. And I checked in here. Credit. Time for a few personals - hi and good wishes to those I miss. I have read and tried to absorb your wisdom.

BillBe - credit for onplan eating that includes yummy and healthy bread

pamatga - I have to do lots of painting which I am avoiding - it is nice to know it burns all those calories

MaryContrary - Yay for a new low - it is so encouraging isn't it. When the weight is going in the right direction it does become easier to resist

FutureFitChick - good luck with the exam and the writing. I always keep in mind that what we impose on students can really mess with their lives. Or give them challenges to rise to! Which you seem to be doing.

Lexxiss - Yay for skiing and yay for resisting peanut M&Ms and Taco Bell's (not that hard in my book - not sure it is even meat) and girl scout cookies! I too need to think about a bike - but not yet as no money or time.

CeeJay - Credit for an on-plan day where you do it easy - those days are nice and one should be able to bottle their essence to repeat the experience. Your list of credits is really good - great progress. Hope you fare better at tomorrow's work event than I did - it snuck up on me! A good plan for the hotel.

My world is heating up again and the humidity is yukky. The sort that when you get out of an air conditioned car your glasses fog up instantly. I turned on the air con when I got home and now water is pouring out of it - that can't be good! Hope it is just the humidity

Have a good day coaches

BillBlueEyes
02-17-2011, 05:40 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - A relaxing day, even though mostly spent going through stuff. I moved six large boxes of papers, that won't be further reduced on this pass, to a pallet in the basement to free up the room to continue working. Found myself reading instead of sorting and filing, including a stack of souvenirs from our trip 18 months ago to T i b e t. CREDIT moi for continuing, and for eating OP instead of attempting to use food to reduce tension.

Walked to get a haircut and then to the gym; CREDIT moi both. The nice lady who cuts my hair usually asks how long it's been since my last haircut so she knows how much to cut off. Yesterday, she just looked at me and said, "It's been a while," LOL.


FutureFitChick - Good luck on your exam today; may its passage free enough brain cells to cheerfully tackle your manuscript.

CeeJay - Yay for making planning work per, "my plan- no sugar, 1 plate only with no seconds, eat the healthy stuff." And another good plan for your hotel.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Good grief, having to stand down peanut M&Ms, Taco Bell and Girl Scout cookies all in the same day; Kudos.

MaryContrary - Congrats on the new low and new goal. Kudos for standing down french fries during that tension period waiting to find out how many other things the mechanic finds wrong with your car.

Ruby (RubyJan) - Ouch for tendinitis - hope you get some relief from your ex-ballet teachers. Your post reminds me that I always thought porridge was only for Oliver Twist until I learned as an adult that porridge refers to any hot breakfast cereal. It's easy to remember that a lot of trouble comes from asking for a second bowl, LOL.

Andrea (masondixonmama) - Yay for all the joy bundled into a two year old. Kudos for standing down "the really good kind" of chocolates.

pamatga - Neat to hear your progress in transforming your home office into a dedicated work out space, with Kudos for "bullishly determined."

Jan (jmaf) - Yay for "the easier it seems to be getting." Sending healing thoughts to your DH for his foot surgery.

Readers - chapter 2
Experience the Difference

I know, you have probably said those same last five words to yourself many times. You probably said them just before you started your last diet. Maybe you lost some weight but gained it back. If going on the last diet wasn't different, why should you believe me when I tell you that this time will be? [I]Because I know why you struggled. Other diet programs didn't teach you what you need to know for lifetime weight-loss success. The Beck Diet for Life Program gives you those skills.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 22.

pamatga
02-17-2011, 11:21 AM
BillBlueEyes Wow! That is an early morning post! 4:40 am. I ended up going to bed at 2:30 am because I had a bottle of Coke Zero during my evening class and caffeine is something that keeps me wide awake for hours afterwards. The "weird" thing is I know how caffeine affects me and yet when I am busying grabbing something to drink that is what I end up getting. I will be so glad when this evening class is over.

I have really been feeling exhausted this week. I am finally starting to get up early in the morning (around 9:15 am) but by the time I check in with my other support group and this one, I still haven't had breakfast yet and I am really hungry too.

Credit moi:

I have found that logging on both my food log (yes I log everything I eat) and my exercise log on BLC site really keeps me on track. If I don't do it; ie, exercise, it doesn't get put on there. I have found that the personal integrity I am building to myself and the accountability that I have to others is what will be the turning keys in my "last weight lose efforts".

I am so much farther away than all of you are on reaching my goal weight that I am wondering if you will all be here (probably not) when I reach my goal weight. I have seen so many people on 3FC come and go. It is like moving from one grade in school to another. You make new friends who quickly become old friends and then the school year ends. It is "the nature of the beast". In the past, I have learned so much here from all of you that it will be hard to keep me away for long but "someday" I hope to be the one who says, "I'm there!"

Recently the actress, Christina Applegate, gave birth to her first child. She said that "Finally, she is someone other than a cancer survivor. She is Mom". I understand exactly what she means. When I was going through intenstive therapy for sexual abuse in the early 90s, I felt that was my only identity. However, there came a day where I said to my therapist, "I have run out of things to say, to mull over, to work through..." and I was done. I really honestly forget about that many days. I suspect that someday it will be the same with my extra weight. It will be in the past and I can move on to whatever else is in my life. To me, that is what the Beck Diet Solution represents: letting go of the old fat self and embracing the thin self that was always there but never given credit for." I really believe this is my "last time". It feels different.

Well, that is about as long as I dwell on that possibility. I focus more on today and what kind of effort I want to put forth.

Still working on the painting. I have made good progress on that. It was and will continue to be really lovely weather here in Atlanta. My husband's brother is driving through here so we will see him for a short while either later today or tomorrow. He is hooking up with a lot of relatives before he has surgery. He has agreed to give one of his kidneys for his best friend. Isn't that a lovely idea? " No greater love than to lay down one's life for a friend".

I wear a pedometer every day now and I drink my requisite water and report that every day.

As for thoughts, I think more about the fact that every decision I make today moves towards a future vision. Today is connected directly to tomorrow. That is my primary motivator for keeping on task with my weight lose efforts. No matter what the scales may say today, I am committed 110%

To reinforce and support this decision to be my former thin self, I ordered a new pair of athletic shoes for my duck-style feet (narrow heels and wider forefoot) and an MP3 player. I do not know anything about how to operate one of those (the later) so I may be asking for instructions/how to in the near future. I want my tunes when I am walking on the treadmill.

I have found the best way to get things done is to do whatever needs to be done "first thing" in the morning. So, if I need to drink water, half of it is drank by the first two hours of being awake. Easy to do for me because I usually wake up parched.

I start working out as soon as the bed is made. Now, I do want to "qualify" my statement by saying that I am currently uenmployed so this could change. However, in the past, I used to carry my gym bag on the bus and stop at a fitness center before going to work. I think that I will probably consider working out first thing in the morning before I head off to work, when that time comes. I just think if I put it off to evening, chances are it won't get done.

Thanks for all the encouragement here! Take care!:hug:

masondixonmama
02-17-2011, 01:36 PM
Hello Beckies,

Successful date night last night! Altered my plan a little by adding in a small cup of wonton soup. I got the steamed chicken and veggies with sauce on the side and then I added enough to give it some flavor. This was awesome, and I had no idea you could order this way. I will probably do this everytime now, because my meal wasn't swimming in sauce.

Thank you, Mother Nature, for this glorious day. I just took a walk at work and it is gorgeous. Tonight I have water aerobics, which I love.

Credits aplenty: weighed in, promoted positive self esteem, exercised, eating on plan, checking in here and with my friend who is also doing Beck, read some of the pink book last night, made some more cards.

I am trying to convince my husband to adopt the Beck ideas in his weight loss too, but he's a little unsure. He still wants everything to be easy.

A phrase from the pink book struck me last night, something like "thoughts are just ideas, they are not necessarily true." This was in the section about dealing with sabotaging thoughts. I have to filter through what I am thinking, because a lot of negative stuff goes through my head. I am getting better since learning about self esteem and errors in thinking and how to deal with them.

MaryContrary - yay for your new low! That is fantastic.

Waving to everyone else! Enjoy this beautiful day.

RubyJan
02-17-2011, 05:28 PM
Hello Coaches:
Tired at the end of the day, but was on programme and one of my Pilates Masters told me I have done something to my rotator cuff and gave me some exericses for it. Just booked in an extra P. session for Saturday to keep me cheerful even though I won't be swimming this weekend.
BillieBlueEyes Actually I think Oliver Twist wanted more 'gruel' not porridge. Though 'gruel' is a watered down and thin version of porridge -- yes usually it was made from oats, but 'gruel' was more frequently made with millet or barley. The furthest down the food chain from oatmeal porridge. My porridge is from steel cut oats which I soak the night before and then cook in the am. Very filling.
Hope everyone is living well today. RubyJan

maryann
02-17-2011, 11:17 PM
Well, California finally got the weather you all have been talking about. I was heading up to Tahoe to ski but the roads are closed. I must say, I had a fine day as a result. Hanging, taking a nap, tidying up some book work.
OP today. Yesterday was a different story. OP until the school potluck (watch out CEEJay) when I decided to take seconds of healthy, decided that meant I "blew it" and scraped the frosting off two pieces of cake. Is my mind tricky or what? The rest of the afternoon and evening was spotty - some mini candies but an OP dinner and then I sat and reread my cards. I realized that if I stopped at that moment I could still wake up with that lovely empty feeling in a flat stomach that I have grown to love ( as opposed to the bloated, swollen feeling of the past) . I did. Credit. And when I weighed this morning, unbelieveably, I had lost a .5 lb. Credit to the program. My off days seem to really have become not tragic - rather, a part of life. This could be the best gift ever from Beck.
MaryContrary - I love the milestones. They give such a concrete feeling of success.
FFChick: Goodluck on your exam.
Lexxiss: I am with you on the importance of a planned treat.
Seadwaters: Credit for the organic salad and a brand new day.
BBE: Tibet? Wow. How was the food there?
Pagamata: I don't know about anyone else but I am not going anywhere. Posting and Beck in combination have been my solution. To quit either would be silly and destructive.
RubyJan: Yeah OP.

FutureFitChick
02-17-2011, 11:35 PM
Hi, Everyone.

Still having a rough time with the randomness of salt cravings. I've never experienced this before. Headed off to bed. Test went well, which I am grateful for. Haven't been able to sit down to make a food plan for days, much less follow one.

I've decided I need to increase my protein intake and lower my fat intake. The obvious modifications should take care of it, but I need to ask myself if I am willing to commit to a change like this. It really is about time I grow up and live my life like it is the only one I've got! :)

I will be out of town to celebrate my birthday this weekend with my handsome nephews (ages 2 & 8) with some skiing in Wisconsin followed up by the Great Wolf Lodge water park. I'm choosing to overlook the massive financial and environmental resources that go into the maintenance and creation of these luxuries... I am most looking forward to the silliness of two little boys!

Lexxiss
02-17-2011, 11:40 PM
Hello all...well we had some very bad news tonight. The best man from our wedding was in an auto accident in Virginia. My husband's very best friend. News is sketchy and the outlook is not good for recovery.

I am going to sign off for a few days while we process and wait for information. I was working on a new tracking/accountability log and I will continue on that.

Take care everyone.

BillBlueEyes
02-18-2011, 07:17 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating OP, CREDIT moi, including half my pork chop at dinner so I'll have the other half for lunch today. Used my walk (CREDIT moi) to go buy a 100 watt light bulb - which exposed a problem.

Seems we have two large boxes of light bulbs in the basement: a box of the new florescent ones which I couldn't use because this light is on a dimmer, and a box of incandescent ones of various sizes, mostly 40 watts!!! "Because we use the 100 watts," DW answered my question. So, we have accumulated a large box of light bulbs that we don't use and will keep until the end of time consuming the space devoted to light bulbs. I don't know anywhere in our house where we use 40 watt bulbs. There is no solution. They are too old to return, even if I remembered where they were bought and found the receipt. Good Will doesn't accept light bulbs, even if I swear they're new. I suppose I could rent a storage unit for $200 a month for light bulbs I never intend to use.


FutureFitChick - Happy Birthday this weekend. Thanks for the thought, "live my life like it is the only one I've got."

Cheryl (seadwaters) - You guys are certainly getting the worst of weather this year. "a once in a 500yr event" is just amazing. Kudos for using the organic truck stop to tide you over until you can get to the market.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Sending supportive thoughts as you deal with the accident of your friend.

maryann - Weather too foul to drive to skiing is some bad weather. Kudos for having a "fine day" anyway instead of eating your way out of disappointment. [Food in T i b e t included Yak butter tea - yummy, closer to mushroom soup than Western tea. But the Buddhist culture isn't specially food centric. We did have lots of good Chinese food, include green veggies for breakfast.]

Ruby (RubyJan) - You break my heart that dear Oliver Twist was only given 'gruel' not porridge. It was tough to be poor in England in the days of Dickens. I've had steel cut oats on my list - even have a bag of them - but haven't cooked them yet. Gotta go do that.

Andrea (masondixonmama) - It thwacked my brain when I encountered, "thoughts are just ideas, they are not necessarily true." What a useful insight. The same goes for memories; some of them happened.

pamatga - Lovely thought, "...embracing the thin self that was always there but never given credit for." Kudos for charging forth with painting your new exercise room and having a set schedule for working out. I suspect that there will continue to be a Beck thread on 3FC for some time even as the denizens change. For example, maryblu has been here since the first thread started nearly four years ago right when the first Beck book was published. Some leave for a spell and then return, but the Diet Buddy / Diet Coach support remains.

Readers - chapter 2
Experience the Difference

You may not have known this before, but successful dieting requires a set of skills, and it takes instruction and practice to master them and use them consistently. No one expects to be able to sit behind the wheel of a car for the very first time and drive perfectly. No one expects to pick up a musical instrument and play it well before taking lessons and practicing. Yet nearly everyone expects to be able to follow a diet immediately, without learning anything new and certainly without practicing dieting skills. One of the reasons this time will be different is because I am going to teach you these skills, and I'm going to teach you how to get yourself to practice them day after day.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 22.

Beverlyjoy
02-18-2011, 09:54 AM
Hi Beck Folks - Home Sweet Home. We had a wonderful time at Disney World. It truely is a magical place. It seems...if you can dream it - they can make it happen. It was so fun to spend the week with my DS, DIL, GS, neice, SIL and DIL's sister & parents. I am so glad I was able to go. I used the scooter and it made all things possible. I am quite grateful for that.

Everyday I had oatmeal for breakfast. I had healthy meals, some not so healthy meals, lots of fruit, & a few goodies along the way. I am glad to be back in my 'food comfort zone'. I got up today and took out my journal and made a plan. Now, I am hoping for the willingness.

It was very odd to be off line for a week. At first I really missed it - then, I didn't really miss it so much.

I hope you are all doing well. Let's make it a great day.

pamatga
02-18-2011, 12:27 PM
FutureFitChick ::bday2you:
Lexxiss: my prayers will go out to your good friend. We have a strong prayer community at our church and we will add him to our prayer intentions.
Beverlyjoy Welcome back and I guess it is true that you are never too old to enjoy "DisneyWorld". My parents chose to go there for their 25th wedding anniversary present to themselves. Knowing them, especially my late Mom, it was true to their character. Lots of great photos of Dad with Cinderella, Snow White, etc.

Credit moi:

Taking care of myself by going to bed when I need to not when I want to.

Logging everything I eat and do. Accountability to my BLC group and here.

Seeing my "part" in whatever current "problem" and taking "ownership". Stand like an oak here. However, also not allowing someone else to shirk their ownership of their "part". If you haven't noticed yet I am direct and, yes, at times it can seem blunt but, at least, you know I am who I say I am.

Kept my "indoor" voice :^: in a situation that could have easily escalated to my my "outdoor" voice. :tantrum: Credit for keeping my cool but steely reserve. My last word, "Have a blessed day!" ;)

I upped my strength training to Intermediate today. :strong: I am so looking forward to reawakening these "sleepy" muscles of mine. I used to be an amateur body builder so long ago it doesn't "count". I loved how I felt back then. I don't know if an "old lady" like me can feel that way again but I'm going to give it my best effforts.

Some pain (especially my left shoulder and through my forearm)( all that reaching overhead with the paint roller) is back after pushing myself yesterday but I am really in tune with what my body is saying and last night my back didn't hurt at all the whole four hours I was in class. It felt "wonderful" to not fidget because I couldn't get comfortable in these absolutely horrible chairs.

I feel blessed to be here, to have pushed myself this past week and seen some real progress where it needed to be accomplished. A woman of purpose!
:sunny:

BBE
If you are the one who is decluttering, :congrat:. A few years ago I began to really declutter my life, on all levels. I have about 10% left to do. I had a storage unit which we ended up spendingover $5300 over several years on stuff I rarely used! :mad: So, two years ago I brought it back to our spacious apartment and stuffed it wherever I could. My dear, sweet and patient husband only occasionally "griped" (and he had reason to).

I don't know if you are familiar with Peter Walsh and the work he has been doing in teaching people to "let go" but after seeing how this stuff was "owning me" instead of me "owning it", I took a deep breathe and began "letting go". Some of it was easier than others. Some I stepped up to the plate and then turned away. Eventually, I got rid of brand new items I had neither ever worn or used, among other things I was holding onto just like I was holding onto a "life" that didn't exist or "work" any more for me.

It is a very freeing thing to do. As I said, I have about 10% left to do but I am so happy and relieved that I have the 90% behind me.

PS I too hang onto old computers, books, clothes, etc. I keep reminding myself if there is someone else who can use this then that is what I am allowing to happen. To put what I once "loved" in the hands of its next owner. It was a gift I gave to myself.

jmaf
02-18-2011, 12:57 PM
Hi All,

Thanks for all the 'well wishes' on my DH's foot surgery. He is recovering nicely but will need to use cruches for a few weeks, so I will be at his 'beck and call' for a bit :).

Things are going very well so far, diet-wise. I also have my exercise plan in place. Today I'm going to try skipping my afternoon snack in preparation for skipping lunch next week (as per the book). This will be an important step for me as I'm always trying to be prepared with having food around in case I get too hungry. I think experiencing hunger, tolerating it, and realizing it's not the end of the world will be very important for me!

Lexxis: So sorry to hear about your friend. How devastating :(

pamatga: Kudos on the strenght training! "I loved how I felt back then."
I also love how it makes me feel (when I do it regularly, that is!).

I also watch Peter Walsh. I've never had a real problem with letting most things go and don't have a clutter problem, but I do relate to emotional clutter regarding things from my son's childhood. I'm starting to realize that he's not interested in the stuff I'm keeping and it's just sitting around (albeit packed away) taking up more 'emotional' space than real space. Whenever I see it, I think to myself that I need to go through it. And when I do, I get bogged down and just re-pack it up. Something I need to work on because now I see that it's just providing negative energy and no positive energy at this point.

Beverlyjoy: Welcome back! Disney sounds like it was fun.

BBE: (hope you don't mind the abbreviation!) We still use 40 watt bulbs in the lights over our bathroom vanities. A little less harsh in the morning :). Too bad Goodwill doesn't want them. Maybe post them on Craigslist as a freebie.

RubyJan: I also have a box of steel cut oats in my pantry and haven't yet tried to cook them - I hear the slow cooker is a good method, though.

FutureFitChick: Have a great Birthday!

maryann: Kudos for re-reading your cards when you needed to.
"My off days seem to really have become not tragic - rather, a part of life. This could be the best gift ever from Beck."
This is what I'm also hoping to feel - that I can take things as they come and not resort to just throwing in the towel.


I hope everyone has a great day!

- Jan

maryann
02-18-2011, 05:10 PM
Happy Friday. Puttering. Today I am trying out my new Blind Cleaner. I am going slowly through the house, taking lots of break to do this and that. My plan is to be done by 4:00. Way so lackadaisical? Usually I am a "bat out of ****" with any project. I don't know. Depressed? I don't know. Perhaps I am working through the feelings about school this week. In any case, I am allowing myself to be slow and to get done just one thing without judgment. It is ironic that this is my task, to move slower. As for clutter, I listen with compassion to you folks but I am a thrower. That has its own inherent problems. What was Buddha's philosophy on the search for moderation?
BBE: List the light bulbs on Craig's list or free stuff. They will be gone in a heartbeat.
FFChick: Luxuries indeed. I often think of how much there is in my life. It is unproductive for me to dwell on it. I am trying to make the most of the beautiful life I have been given.
Lexxiss: Thoughts are with you.
Beverleyjoy: Welcome back. It is nice to visit a place where anything is possible.
JMAF: Congrats on the five pounds lost. The hunger experiment was critical for me as well. Beck in the beginning was about uncovering all the "rules" I had been living by and didn't even know it like "hunger is an emergency."

GosfordGirl
02-19-2011, 05:15 AM
Hi Coaches

Today has hovered around 95 and really humid. I got to shop this evening so am stocked up with food. I had an on plan day but the plan was developed on the run as circumstances changed. Work is not a happy place - the world is changing and the faculty has changed (this is my 26th year and I have been in every role) and the people in charge really don't care about the core business of the faculty (courses and students). They need it to get done but they don't care about how it gets done and provide no support (in any form). The courses are the cash cows but we are treated like livestock unfortunately. I am going to have to do something and it is making me anxious. And I want to eat badly. I need to keep to plans and organisation to get me through. A very few personals

BeverlyJoy - I am so pleased to see you back and to learn that you had a great time. Not checking in can become easy to get used to! So glad you did it.

Lexxiss - sorry to hear about you friend. A difficult time. Sending hugs :hug:and support your way if you are checking in occasionally
FutureFitChick - Have a great birthday :hb:. Glad the test was OK. I too am increasing protein but also lowering fats. I have already reduced carbs. I do forget that this life is not a rehearsal - it is the only one we have (that we will remember!). And I persist in not taking charge of it. So wish you luck with that.

BillBlueEyes - love the light bulb dilemma. Does beg the question of why they were ever purchased but we won't go there. I have been involved in Tibetan Buddhism for some time and so want to go to Tibet - memories worth revisiting I am sure. Every time I move house I spend a lot of time reading stuff from the past so sympathise

Have a great Saturday Beckies

BillBlueEyes
02-19-2011, 06:19 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Enjoyed my left over half pork chop for lunch; CREDIT moi for on plan all day - until dinner.

Went out to an upscale French restaurant - each item superb, even if rather pricey. I had Prince Edward Island mussels in white wine sauce that were better than I'd ever had - stunningly good. I just haven't reached the stage of mindfulness where I can leave food on my plate that costs that much. And I don't like to walk out of a snazzy place with a doggy bag instead of hands free so we window shop and strut about as if we were on the Left Bank. Ouch, but it was only one meal. And DW wanted a treat and we both felt that it was a good choice. We had dressed presuming a drop in temperature, but instead walked home in rain with thunder and lightning - kinda cool.


Beverlyjoy - Welcome back from your visit to the magic place. Glad to hear no mention of DGS's pending sickness. Kudos for accepting your scooter so you could enjoy the whole event.

Cheryl (seadwaters) - Kudos for making time to be "stocked up with food." I do like that feeling that I have what I need in the pantry. Ouch for the difficulties of a faculty job and for having to deal with an administration that can allow teachers to feel unappreciated. Good luck finding your path through that.

maryann - Yay for the [I]lackadaisical use of a new Blind Cleaner. Sometimes puttering is good. Just like kids need a good dose of unstructured play time, adults need some puttering time.

pamatga - Kudos for taking "ownership" - it's so easy to blame instead. [Thanks for the pointer to Peter Walsh. I haven't read his books, but might. I'm accumulating books on clutter and none so far have touched me usefully. So far, they all seem to address how to organize if you don't have emotional attachments to your stuff. We're planning to rent a storage unit short term during our repainting, and your $5300 experience usefully reminds me that keeping the thing isn't a good idea.]

Jan (jmaf) - Yay for facing hunger. I'm one of the many who were shocked that it wasn't an emergency. [Dimmer light over the bathroom vanity might be a good idea - I look a bit grumpy in the early morning, LOL. "BBE" is fine.]

Readers - chapter 2
Experience the Difference

This time is going to be different because the Beck Diet for Life Program is different. Here is how:

It teaches you how to satisfy your hunger. Did you know that some foods decrease hunger and cravings and other foods actually increase them? To achieve sustained weight loss, it is not just a matter of calories in, energy out. It's what makes up those calories, because the composition of those calories makes a big difference. Many diets let you select foods that don't allow you to eat in a healthful, well-balanced way. The Think Think Eating Plans teach you the formula that maximizes fullness and sound nutrition.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 23.

onebyone
02-19-2011, 10:42 AM
Hi Coaches

Finally I am
a) back
b) have a place to move to
c) am back here posting
d) can reach over and pat the cat
e) can cook from scratch and eat on plan
f) can get going for real on the packing


What an ordeal. DH andI almost killed each other this weel. One day in particular was EXTREMELY stressful this past week. I got stuck, again, at DH's mom's place for a whole week. It too all week to find out we HAVE A PLACE TO LIVE!

OMG that was so hard!

We have a 2 bedroom apartment waiting or us. Move-in date is March 1st. Our new rent is less than we pay here plus 35% of the utilities or the whole place (a two storey house split into 3 units) paid at the end of each month with one cheque. Easy. The place isn't as near to DH's work as we wanted but I do believe it is near the local Y and my beloved water aerobics. It's clean and bright and... small. It's about 1/3 the size of what we have now.l Realistically, I will need a storage locker, if only for my art/craft show stuff: the canopy, the tables, the display stuff, storage of stock made and I think we'll have to keep the winter tires in there too.

SO GLAD I can finally move forward. I will be SO HAPPY to start my life already. I've been on pause for a good year pretty much.

Food was lousy. I had zero willingness to curb my appetite or to even try. One night DH's mom talked me into seconds "Sure you've had enough? I have more!" "It does look good...""Okay I'll get you more." DOn't remember what the food was now but it was sooooooo easy to talk me into it. No resistance.

So (credit) I weighed in this morning at 286-again. My go-to-been-away-from-home-and-didn't-try weigh-in weight. As per my plan, the goal is to be under 280 at the end of the month on the morning of the 28th.

I'm not discouraged as the stress of feeling homeless is over.

Billblueeyes List your lightbulbs here http://groups.freecycle.org/freecycleboston/posts/all I'm planning to use freecycle to get rid of lots of stuff that I can't get charities to take or I am just stumped by. Just don't peruse the site to pick up more stuff for you!:dizzy:

gotta go... back later for personals.

pamatga
02-19-2011, 12:54 PM
I watched a program on OWN about a 650 lb young man who lost 430 lb by dieting and exercising alone. It was graphic in that it showed what his body looked like naked afterwards. Without sounding disrespectful, he looked like a candle that had been burning for a long time, you know how the wax drips down haplessly down the sides and puddles at the bottom. He did have a lot of extra skin removed, a face lift and his teeth redone (because of years of drinking regular soda). The plastic surgeron did an amazing job because even without his shirt he did not look bad at all. You would not believe it was the same person. Seriously. If you saw this young man on the street you would have thought he was always trim. His story was inspirational. You will see more of them because he and his peronal trainer are launching a program called "Reshaping a Nation" and we all know who that is---all of us.

Immediately, after watching that program (I dvr everything so I don't even know when it was originally shown) I went to my online food log and I did a serious analysis of what I have been eating recently. I do this periodically anyway (including our financial budget).There is a tab where I log My Favorite Foods (foods that I eat frequently) and I decided that I was going to delete any thing that I had logged as more than one serving except vegetables. It gets back to re-establishing portion control and re-training my eyes to see one serving sizes. Period!

I moved up to the Intermediate level for my Core Stabilization strength exercises. So, now I am doing 8 total strength exercises. One set of 15-20 of the new ones and 2 sets (of 15-20) of the three I had been doing the past three weeks. It felt like the right time to move up. I watched the demos again (good thing) and realized I was doing one of the ones for my upper back wrong. OY!:?: Review is a "good thing". I'll be doing this every other day-which within 8 days will mean 4 days.

From now on, I am going to up my physical exercising. I added another day to cardio so I will be doing cardio 6x a week from now on. The first 30 lbs came off relatively easily but this past week has shown me that from now on I need to take my efforts "full throttle" as much as I can physically push myself. It's going to be a fight to the finish and I plan on winning. Mentally and physically from now I am a "person in training"

What has really been my incentive is a lot of these weight lose programs. I also watch "Heavy" and, of course, Biggest Loser. I am always amazed at how none of these large people are ever coddled. It is get off the couch and "just do it". I find that is a good way for me to look at what I need to do. "No excuses, just do it. Don't try, just do!"

The message that I hear from these programs is it doesn't matter where you were yesterday because today you are going to move and sweat and then do some more. I like that---A LOT!! It resonates with me.

Credit moi:

For finding the motivation wherever I can and then saturating myself with it.

Logging all foods, yes, even the whole bag of Nature Valley granola nut clusters. A well meaning elderly aunt sent them in a "care package" (Warning: although these may seem healthy they are addicting because they have cane sugar in them!)

Drinking my 64+ oz of plain water daily first thing right through to bedtime.

Listening to my body. Last night I went to bed at 11:30 pm and the night before I went to bed at 11 pm. Tonight, I plan on going to bed around that time.

The weather is amazingly beautiful here which also motivates me to get with the "Program" because when the real spring comes I want to feel good about being outdoors and in less clothes.

Have a good day all!

CeeJay
02-19-2011, 06:43 PM
Hello everyone:

masondixonmama- kuddos on eating healthy on date night. Great list of credits. I am working on identifying sabotaging thoughts this week. I just reread the chapter and am going to try to write them down as they occur over the next week and see what is there.

RubyJan-ouch- hope your rotator cuff is OK- they can cause nasty pain.

FutureFitChick- glad your test went well. Happy birthday. Skiing sounds like a wonderful way to celebrate.

Lexxiss- so sorry about your friend.

Beverlyjoy-welcome back and glad you had a wonderful time. Your ability to keep your food sane while you are travelling is fantastic.

jmaf-glad to read your positive report on your diet and exercise. It is very satisfying feeling to do what you plan to do.

maryann- waving hello to you as I also putter about the house. I love what you said: "My off days seem to really have become not tragic - rather, a part of life." What a wonderful approach. A day off does not mean the start of a free-fall.

seadwaters- yay for having an on plan day that was planned along the way and not letting that derail you. I have been reading a lot about Buddhism lately and it is really helping me with what I am trying to do for my health.

BillBlueEyes- your meals out always sound so wonderful. I think really expensive food has less calories, n'est ce pas?

onebyone- well finally good news on finding a home. Since it is smaller that should help with the motivation to de-clutter. Hoping this settles things and lets you get into your groove.

pamatga- credit for logging your food, drinking lots of water, going to bed earlier and finding motivation. You said in your post that you are further away from all of us on reaching our goal. I am in the same boat as you so hopefully we will both still be here 100 pounds (DOWN ;)) or so from now. :D

For me- I did OK at the potluck lunch- not perfect but stuck to my decision not to eat sugar and did have a second plate- but it was all salad so that's much better than the other choices. I am finding that talking myself through these things ahead of time really is making a difference, imagine that. :D The night at the hotel did not occur as we had a blizzard and everything got cancelled. So I got to come home instead, which was a fantastic treat for the end of the week.

I am so happy that this is the 6th day I have been on-plan with my eating. I exercised every day by walking, except the night of the blizzard.

Credit today for:

:D weighing myself
:D eating healthy and on plan so far
:D doing my weights
:D riding exercise bike for 30 minutes
:D planning dinners for the upcoming week
:D reading cards
:D reading Pink Book
:D checking in with my coaches

Hope everyone has a nice Saturday night

:grouphug:

ChefJoona
02-19-2011, 07:14 PM
Hi Everyone!

I have been totally out of commission all week with a terrible stomach bug/ flu. I haven't had a real meal since breakfast Tussday. Its been ginger ale and saltines... out of work all week and sleeping on the couch all day.

I'm beginning to feel a bit better today, and wanted to log on quickly. Will catch up on posts and return to a routine as I continue to get better.

Wishing you all well!

Beverlyjoy
02-19-2011, 08:30 PM
Hi Beckfolks - yesterday I got into the 'swing of things' fairly well (until evening). I journaled, planned, measured, and logged my food.

In the evening our neighbors came over with their little ones. (3,3 & 6) Dh and I had a souvenir for the kids from Disney. They came over with a homemade stawberry pie and cool whip! Yikes - I was not expecting it at all. I did have a small piece of pie with a dollop of cool whip. They DID take the leftovers home, thank goodness.

Billbe - yes, my DGS's cold left quickly and he was left with a cough. It seemed alot more manageable for him.

Tomorrow I hope to have time for the personals.

bye for now......

BillBlueEyes
02-20-2011, 07:40 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - It was a day of much walking - to things on my agenda; CREDIT moi. The mounds of snow continue to shrink; merchants continue to expand the cleared sidewalks; hope creeps in. Two boxes of stuff were sent away - mostly obsolete computer related, but painful to let go because of fond memories.

Eating was OP, CREDIT moi, including my beloved peanut butter, banana, and pecan sandwich for lunch. At the supermarket I saw a stack of large sized Hersey's Special Dark Chocolate bars for only 99 cents. Kinda annoyed that I even noticed. Further annoyed that I recognized that to be a good price. And most annoyed that I seriously considered buying a few as a treat for being such a good guy and not eating them regularly. I'm grateful that I recognized that the thought, "a few" wasn't about a rare or unusual treat, but about eating half a large bar each night - like the old days. Kept on walking; CREDIT moi.


onebyone - Welcome back from a tough week. Congrats for sealing a deal for a place to live starting in only one week!!! Presumably, your DH can bring enough to camp out there if he has to leave his mother's house before you ship all your furniture. With the uncertainty behind you, it's possible to let all your positive energy kick in with the thought of building your life. [Thanks for the Craigslist reminder. We do have some things that will be right for them.]

CeeJay - Kudos for your sixth day of on plan eating, with a special Kudos for doing OK at your potluck - a minefield to be sure. [Oui - especially expensive French food. Soupe a l'oignons certainly doesn't have those nasty calories in the crusty topping of common onion soup, LOL.]

Beverlyjoy - Good grief! "homemade stawberry pie and cool whip!" from gorgeous little kids. Gotta be a saint to handle that one. Your "small" seems like a good compromise.

ChefJoona - Ouch for the miseries; sending virtual chicken soup to heal you right up.

pamatga - Yay for, "portion control and re-training my eyes to see one serving sizes. Period!" - from the prejudiced perspective of a guy whose self-rolled plan is kinda portion control. Just love the notion of looking at your actual food log data to see what causes you problems; that's good science.

Readers - chapter 2
Experience the Difference

This time is going to be different because the Beck Diet for Life Program is different. Here is how:

. . .
It teaches you how to include your favorite foods. You have likely tried diets that outright banned certain foods and beverages, such as sweets, chips, and alcohol. While it is true that you can't consume large portions of these items and still lose weight, you can eat limited amounts of at least one favorite food every single day. You will be able to satisfy your taste for indulgences and not feel the need to go overboard because you will know that you can always plan to have more tomorrow.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 23.

Beverlyjoy
02-20-2011, 09:49 AM
Hi Beckfolks/friends/coaches… Yesterday was mostly healthy. DH brought home candy from the grocery store. I had some licorice in the evening - which lead to other nibbles. I need to get ‘my mind right’. I am home - this should be my food comfort zone. His potato chips and candy are going in his car!

Some credits for yesterday - planned/measured/logged, left a bite, lots of water, exercise, ate healthfully until the licorice/nibbles in the evening.

BTW - thanks for all the welcome home greetings.

Tomorrow I have an endoscopy in the AM. Lots of stomach aches the last few months. I think it’s stress. It hasn’t totally slowed down my extra eating like I would like it to do. I need to be able to take four medications (percoset, lyrica, celebrex, and an antibiotic) for some weeks after my foot/ankle surgery and I am not sure my stomach can do it. Getting it checked out. I have to start thinking of all this health stuff again. I couldn’t think about it for a long time - but, now I am getting more ready and willing to do it again. I keep wondering if all these delays are ‘a sign’ to change something… doctor, procedure, another opinion?? - and I don’t know what else. But, I do know that I want my ‘life’ back.

Billbe - credit for all that walking and two boxes gone! Major credit for walking past the chocolate bars and realizing that you are not that person who would get them because they are on sale or that you think you can portion them out. It’s credit to know your limitations.

Chefjoona - so sorry you are sick. Hope you are feeling better soon!

Ceejay - credit for the willingness to think through the food situations that you are presented with. Six days on…. Yippee. Many good credits - especially the pink book and planning dinners. As for my trip - my food was OK.. Could have been worse…could have been better.

Pamatga - I am glad you were inspired with the huge weight loss on the tv program. It’s nice when folks can have the plastic surgery to help with the extra skin. I hope his mind can wrap itself around his new body, if you know what I mean. Credit for thinking of portion control and your great workout. I do find some inspiration from the show Heavy. I am one of the odd people that don’t like Biggest Loser show. I think we should use everything and anything out there to help in our journey.

Onebyone - so glad you’ve found a place!! So sorry you were stuck stay with your MIL.. I know that’s a difficult situation. You’ll be able to make your new home your own food comfort zone. Glad you can get in March 1.

Seadwaters - I saw many folks from the southern hemisphere at Disney World - mostly from South America (1000‘s). Also, Africa and Australia. At first I was thinking - why are all these kids out of school. Knock, knock - who’s there… of course, it’s your summer!!!! Credit for doing your shopping and realizing that you need to plan, plan and plan some more as you face the stresses at work.

Maryann - I love puttering too. Sometimes it’s good to slow down the day.

Jmaf - I am so glad you DH’s foot surgery went well. The hunger experiment is really a powerful lesson. There have been times when I’ve had to postpone dinner for a couple of hours. This hunger activity is proof perfect that we CAN wait for food/meal. It won’t ‘kill’ us to wait.

Lexxiss/Debbie - I am so so sorry to hear of the death of your good friend. I know this is hard and so sad. Sending positive thoughts your way - and to your friend’s family.

Futurefitchick - I too am dealing with cutting down on salt. Isn’t it amazing how much salt is in so many foods!!! Carry on.

Rubyjan - I hope your rotator cuff heals soon. Take good care of it.

RubyJan
02-20-2011, 10:42 AM
Hello Coaches:
Its a rainy wet uncongenial day here in London -- but I can chalk up to my credit that I have stayed at 193 all week, and am gearing up to lost another pound this one. Slow and steady is my watch word, after the absurd glee and abyssmal crash when I did Atkins -- losing about 38 pounds in 5 months and then putting it all back on and oh so many more. And I did just have my lunch which included a pot of TOTAL 0% (do they have that in the USA?) non-fat no sugar yougurt into which I dumped about four tablespoons of pomengranite seeds. What heaven!
BBE Eating Mussels in Wine Sauce never did anyone any harm, and never made anyone put on weight!
seadtime I can completely commiserate with the woes of being faculty in these days of management speak and little care for students, except that they be 'satisfied' -- I mean who wants a satisfied student?! I want them demanding more and new and exciting challenges that keep them a bit hungry and longing for more knowledge all the time!
one by oneCONGRATULATIONS!!! How great the you will have your new place to live in the next few weeks! I hope you love it more and more, and find that its smallness is an added pleasure (I live in a studio that is 624 sq.feet), and love knowiing that I dont have to add anything to it -- it really does keep me from wasting cash on extra things -- like extra pillows and chairs and lamps and all -- the only problem is that I keep buying books and now my wall of shelves is getting strangled by the new entries.
I am doing a sunday clean-up here and also reading the articles in the newest New Yorker magazine -- one of my transatlantic treat.
I hope you all wake up to a nice day... RubyJan

masondixonmama
02-20-2011, 02:23 PM
Hello all,

After a minor slip up yesterday involving girl scout cookies and cheezits, I got right back on track. I used by coping card that I had written just for that very purpose and it helped tremendously. I was surprised to find that I had lost another pound today, bringing my total to 12.2. Tomorrow will be two weeks on my plan. Yippee!

Credits included: drawing a line in the sand after my initial slip; reminding myself that I didn't blow it; getting right back on track; following my plan today; reading cards; drinking water.

Rubyjan - Never thought of putting yogurt in cereal; will have to try that sometime. Good for you for slow and steady.
Beverlyjoy - welcome back! I agree - put that junk in the CAR!
Bill - way to go for passing up the chocolate. I enjoy a little dark chocolate for my evening snack every now and then. A little goes a loooonng way with dark chocolate.
ChefJoona - glad you're starting to feel better.

Looking forward to a day off tomorrow. Plan to spend the day in Lancaster PA where they have the most wonderful little amish/mennonite grocery stores where you can get bulk grains and other items for very reasonable prices. The kids like to take in the picturesque scenery, too, with the horse and buggies that line the roads and the farmland.

Andrea

gardenerjoy
02-20-2011, 04:28 PM
I've been off the rails for about a week now. The longest slip I've had since starting this journey. One of the things I've been doing while I was gone was watching movies. I realized that while The Fighter and The King's Speech are two very different films, they have a core theme in common: getting the right people in your corner so that you can win your fight. I need my Beck coaches in my corner to win this fight.

So, I'm back. I'm following my written plan today. Exercise is the one disciplined thing that I managed to keep up that last few days and a long walk with a friend this morning contributed.

pamatga
02-20-2011, 09:24 PM
I am sorry that I am late today but it was busy from the moment I got up and I just finally got to the computer right now. I have something wonderful to share. First of all, gardenerjoy, if I am the "Queen of Slippin and Sliding" then you are my Princess. Welcome. I am one of the "new kids on the block here!"

Big "marker" for me yesterday evening! As I have shared in the beginning I have had advanced arthritis since April 1994. About two and half years ago, I really had a nosedive in my ability to be mobile and an increase in pain. I have gone through periods of being homebound and also at times in bed for long periods each day. I will also say that during that time I was depressed from losing my Mom to cancer after a long battle, losing my job and then, of course, losing my ability to even adequately do "normal" stuff, I sure as heck didn't think about losing weight.

I resurfaced last summer and joined the BLC online site and I have been following their program, losing weight quickly until my computer crashed. Without my food log and exercise plan, I pooped out. I am not a quitter but I was "lost". Now, I have a "second hand" computer, thanks to a friend of hubby, and I have you blessed folks. I am back on track! Amen! BLC plan is taking care of my physical self and you all are taking care of the rest.

Credit Moi:

I am pleased to announce that last night I was able to walk with my cane around half of a Wal-mart Super Center. I have not done that for several years (4+ for sure). I had some pain but I could "bear it". It's been a long time since I have been vertical in Wal-mart. It felt good to be "back."

That is what all this strength training, the stretches and losing weight have done for me. Last summer, I could not stand for longer than ten minutes without excruciating pain. It was slow going. I started out only being able to walk five minutes. I didn't even bother to count my exercising back then because I figured I did so little of it. I kept with it though even though it seemed pretty meager by anyone's standards.

My husband went and got the car and when I got in it I said, "Did you just see what happened here?" He said, "Yes, I saw that!" These folks at this Wal-mart have seen me take the electric cart for a couple of years. A couple even stopped and took a good look at me. I was glad to greet people eye to eye instead of belly button to eye.

:woohoo: I am singing "hallelujah". :hat:

onebyone
02-20-2011, 10:08 PM
pamatga This is what it's all about, what the work is about, what the persistence is about, what the logging and the recording and the trying and the getting back onthe wagon and the doing it anyway is all about. It is just so :carrot: fantastic :carrot: that you can walk around with a cane. I am sure that this event has given you even more rocket fuel to move forward. Your success has encouraged me as well. Thanks.

gardenerjoy :hug: Sorry you are going through a rough patch. I know in the past I have had a tough time when my goal is in sight. You are 8lbs away. You will do it. You're not stopping now but I am sure there are questions and emotions coming up for you as you approach this transitional stage. You will Persist in Victory my friend! I promise.

masondixonmama Kudos for the continuing weightloss. Them's great numbers you got there! As for getting back on track it's the best thing you can do for yourself. Credit for knowing this and doing this.

RubyJan:hug: Thank you for the jpg of your bookshelves! It made me so happy to see all those books. I was just reading a website where they send you enough boxes for your move given what size of house or apt you are in. I figured if the experts say "you need x amt of boxes for moving a 2 bedroom apartment" then I will know to only pack/keep the same amt of boxes to move to a 2 bedroom apt but... it's only 25 boxes!! My books will be 1/5th of that-could be more. Maybe it'll be less. Anyway I thought I noticed two rows of books shelved on one shelf in some places... could I have found someone else who does this??? :D

Beverlyjoy I was actually happy to read of your endoscopy. I hope it went well btw. I was glad because it means you are getting back to getting that foot dealt with. I am sure having the trip be a successful one (yay!) and now being done with it means you can move forward in your healing. I am sure it's not easy but you'll do it. :hug:

BillBlueEyes KUDOS for resisting cheap choc bars and for 2 more boxes gone. I got a notice today that there will be a FREE garage sale Feb 27th. Everything at the sale is free for the taking. I emailed and asked for details: we can just drop off stuff and leave it all behind for them to deal with! Even the 4 tires for a car we lost 6 years ago can be left there... this is great incentive to get me packing and sorting this week. I have not done much as of yet...

ChefJoona Credit for checking in while sick...hope you're on the mend!

Ceejay:broc: The low gi dancing broccoli is thrilled you are OP... keep low gi-ing it!

Lexxiss Very sorry to hear of the car accident. I hope things turn out better than people expect. Please take care of yourself and your DH.


For me, I weighed in *credit 285=-1lb* and I *cooked from scratch today* but I had seconds:devil: and I ate to way overful but on roast chicken and fruit for dessert. Actually I am "coming down" from my food holiday at MIL's place. It feels great to be in my kitchen cooking.

DH drives back tomorrow night and I hope to turn into a packing machine once he's gone. No time left for dilly-dallying.

Have a good night Becksters... good morning Seadwaters! Hello to all I've missed and to the :mag: lurkers

Lexxiss
02-20-2011, 10:58 PM
Hi Coaches!

It's been a long couple of days. Our friend made it through surgery and now it's about waiting and healing. We are encouraged and are hoping for a miracle. Thx for all the kind wishes.

After the sad news I recognized that I must come up with a plan of vigilance. I knew we were going to travel East on Saturday morn. I spent all of Friday looking at the different websites for tracking. I finally decided on Livestrong and I am liking how it works. I have tracked my exercise, food and weight online for 3 days now. *credit* I am using the site to search out new recipes, as well.

Thanks for all your support! I hope to get back in the swing of things. Learning all this tracking has been taking up a chunk of time. I am certain it will get easier every day.

MaryContrary
02-20-2011, 11:53 PM
Been out of the loop for a few days, and feeling bad about it. I am grumpy grumpy grumpy right now, fighting the same battles with myself: Feeling like I don't have a space in this house. Feeling house-bound and therefore bound by domestic duties, because no one else does them and I don't have a space right now to a) work out or b) get some academic work done, so I might as well do *something*. Feeling bloated and mad at myself for eating majorly Off Plan this afternoon. Everything is bothering me right now, and I just want to get away from it all. But I can't.

I live in a large blended family, and I always come up against this issue of not having my own space. My DP has four daughters, two of whom are living with us; and one GS who is also living with us. In addition, every weekend another daughter has been staying with us, and spending a lot of time with her mom, which I don't begrudge, but it means my space in our room is often supplanted. And I don't feel like I can kick my DP out because it's her weekend, and she deserves to rest where she wants -- but something has to change, because I've been needing to work on the weekends, and working at home just isn't . . . working. ::sigh:: Just when I think I have everything figured out, and have perfected my flexibility . . . ::sigh, again::

Now, on a normal day, when I'm not sweating a big deadline that looms like a lion at the 1st of March, and when I'm not entering that part of the hormonal cycle that triggers an insane sensitivity (I take things WAY too personally on a normal day) and susceptibility to cravings for Very Bad Food -- well, on a normal day I would be able to approach how I'm feeling with some rationality. Also, on a normal day, I would feel BLESSED to have this kind of family: so diverse, so loving, so supportive of my crazy schedule, so balancing to the isolation of academic work. But tonight, yes, downright maddening.

So I come here to YOU, to vent and rant and take some deep linguistic breaths. Thanks for listening.

CREDIT:

-- for coming here to (yet again) relieve some frustration

-- for resolving to get back on track for tomorrow, with a plan for work and for eating

-- for resolving to come up with a plan for future working weekends

-- for enjoying (to paraphrase maryann) one of the best gifts Beck offers, which is to let an off-plan eating day just slide right off my skin. I have SEEN that a meal or even day off plan won't be too disastrous

-- for painting my nails, because it make me happy and helps prevent my anxious nail-biting

:wave: to every one, and thanks for the congratulations on reaching my goal. I hope to have more time for personals, soon.

BillBlueEyes
02-21-2011, 07:15 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Happy multiple holidays to our Canadian friends: Family Day (AB, ON, SK), Islander Day (PE), and Louis Riel Day (MB). And in four days, Heritage Day in the Yukon (YT).

More walking, CREDIT moi, in windy, windy cold. But, I was smart enough to wear Gore Tex which solved the wind problem. I often forget that my normally warm clothes just don't stand up to strong winds. Sorted some old stuff, sent some to the trash, but mainly confronted stuff hidden in the back recesses of shelves. Continues to be an emotionally adventure.

Eating on plan including avoiding some chocolate coated shortbread cookies - a favorite, CREDIT moi. Knew they were coming and just said NO CHOICE.


onebyone - Kudos for "*cooked from scratch today*" - you're getting good at that. [Love the notion of a "FREE garage sale" - just drop it off and run. Look for me there, it'll be worth the drive, LOL.]

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Welcome back on track. I like your insight, "getting the right people in your corner so that you can win your fight."

Beverlyjoy - Sending supportive thoughts for your endoscopy this morning. Strong Advantages Card, "I do know that I want my Ďlifeí back."

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Continue to send supportive thoughts as you wait out the results of surgery on your friend. Hope Livestrong works out for you.

MaryContrary - Ouch for the ongoing conflict between being surrounded by those you love and sufficient solitude to meet your goals. Smart choice to vent here where we can be supportive. Yay for recognizing the value in the small steps, like "some deep linguistic breaths" and "painting my nails."

Ruby (RubyJan) - Yogurt and pomegranate seeds sound like a winning combination. I buy a pair of pomegranates from time to time and sprinkle them on everything. I use non-fat yogurt, don't know about "TOTAL 0%."

Andrea (masondixonmama) - Congrats for another pound loss and Kudos for today marking two weeks on your program. Girl Scout cookies are soooo seductive.

pamatga - Monster Kudos for your Wal-mart journey - an inspiring story. I join you in singing "hallelujah."

Readers - chapter 2
Experience the Difference

This time is going to be different because the Beck Diet for Life Program is different. Here is how:

. . .
It teaches you how to be satisfied with less. Do you sometimes wolf down your food, hardly noticing what you are eating? This program will teach you how to slow down and enjoy every bit that you eat. Have you felt deprived when you saw other people eating food you knew you weren't supposed to eat? This program teaches you a new mindset. It helps you see that you will either be deprived of some amount of food or you will be deprived of losing weight, feeling better about yourself, being healthier, fitting into smaller-sized clothing, and all of the other wonderful benefits of being thinner.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 23.

ChefJoona
02-21-2011, 09:56 AM
Good morning all,

Still working on getting better. Whatever this was really knocked me out! I was finally able to have some regular food yesterday. It will probably take another day or so before I'm back to eating on plan and healthy foods. Right now its mostly comforting carbs that I can stomach.

Wanted to take some time for personals...

onebyone Very happy to hear you have found a place to move on March 1st! Hoping it brings renewal and positive energy!

pamatga Congratulations on your success with mobility! I was very inspired reading your words- you embody perseverence!

masondixonmama congrats on two weeks on your plan! The amish/menonite grocery stores sound wonderful! Enjoy your day!

Lexxis Sending hopeful thoughts your way.

Beverlyjoy Hope all goes well with the procedure and you get some answers!

BillBE I often struggle to resist those "great deals" even though they are on bad food. Yippy for a triumph over the Hershy Bars!

gardnerjoy Yay for getting back on track!

MaryContrary Home can be such a difficult place in which to find balance, which is frustrating because it is the place we look to for peace, comfort and balance. Sounds like you have some great awareness of your vulnerabilities and challenges, and that you are taking steps to care for yourself!

Hello to everyone else I missed. I'm very much looking forward to feeling healthy and back on track with my Beck work!

CeeJay
02-21-2011, 11:37 AM
Hello Everyone:

ChefJoona-hope you are on the road to recovery.

BillBlueEyes- credit for eating OP and lots of walking. And especially for resisting the chocolate bars. Yep, it is Louis Riel Day in Manitoba. Fairly controversial name for the day off, since many Manitobans think that Louis Riel was a murderer.

Beverlyjoy-glad to hear that you are getting back into the swing of things after your trip. Good luck with the endoscopy.

RubyJan-love yougurt and pomegranate seeds too. Yum. I like your slow and steady attitude.

masondixonmama-yay for getting back on track immediately and for another pound gone.

gardenerjoy-glad you are back after your hard week. We are definitely in your corner!!! You are probably experiencing a pre-goal slump that you are ending right now.

pamatga- nice list of credits. And it must of felt wonderful to do that walk in Wallmart. :carrot::carrot::carrot: You need to celebrate that victory (in a nonfood sort of way :D).

onebyone-yay 285. Hope you are having a positive packing day!!!

Lexxiss-good to hear your friend made it through. Here's hoping for a recovery. You will get back in the swing of things-- I have no doubt about that.

MaryContrary-sorry you are feeling bad right now. You have a lot on your plate with family, deadlines, cravings, and hormones. A good rant every now and then is so helpful.

For me- everything is going OK. I am not at 100% but I am at about 85% so that's great. Skipped exercise yesterday due to a very sore neck. Too much computer time I think. I have had to work a little bit each day on this long weekend but I am getting through by recognizing that this is temporary and I just need to get it over with and spend no time brooding about it.

Credit today so far for:
-weighing in
-reading response and advantage cards
-planning tomorrow's food

Today I will:
-walk 30 minutes
-do weights- at least as many as the sore neck will allow
-eat on plan and healthy- had egg whites for breakfast, will have plain yogurt with mandarins for snack, salad and soup for lunch, apple and cheese for snack, grilled lamb, brown rice and veggies for supper and diet pudding for snack.
-eat no sugar
-keep track of sabotaging thoughts

Have a good day everyone!!!
:grouphug:

gardenerjoy
02-21-2011, 11:43 AM
My first day back on plan wasn't as difficult as I expected. I woke up hungry this morning and consider that a good sign.

WI: NAkg, Exercise: +55* 890/1300 minutes for February, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

pamatga: hurrah for the big step in mobility!

Thanks, onebyone and CeeJay! You are absolutely right that my rough patch has to do with a transition as I approach my goal weight that I don't seem to be fully prepared for. I will Persist in Victory!

Lexxiss: hoping for that miracle right along with you! So glad you found an online tracking tool that is working for you.

MaryContrary: welcome back from another who just got back from being out of the loop for a few days. Let's hold hands and jump back in the loop together! I have fewer people distractions but a similar work life, mostly at home and mostly writing and the reward, if any, well into the future. It's hard! But others have done it and we can, too!

BillBlueEyes: yay for walking in the wind -- I always find that a surprising challenge to dress for, too. I finally got it right on snowshoeing vacations up north a few years ago, but routinely forget what I learned.

ChefJoona: sending healing energies your way!

RubyJan: we have your London rainy weather today! Yogurt and pomegranate sounds like a great treat!

Thinking of Andrea shopping at Amish stores today and Beverlyjoy having a smooth endoscopy and learning what you need to know from it.

pamatga
02-21-2011, 12:42 PM
Thank you every one for the notes of encouragement. All I can say is "back at ya!"

Credit moi:

Getting up "early" even though bedtime was 3:30 am last night. One step forward, two steps back.

Logging my breakfast for starters--one serving portions "moving forward".

Water first choice in beverage right away.

Preparing for Lent coming up by beginning a 54 day Novena Rosary. Now is the time......lots of needs for so many to pray for. I am also doing a Consecration exercise as well for 31 days. Here is where my "strength" comes from.

Some ugly stuff with our bank this past weekend but after a "bad night's sleep", I came up with a doable solution for us that will be a "work around".

The weather continues to be extraordinarily beautiful so I will go and enjoy that.

Peace to all!

onebyone
02-21-2011, 03:42 PM
Hi Coaches

I'm here. Awake. But barely moving.

credits: weighed in 283 (-2) and cooked from scratch today. So far, no seconds.

I made breakfast and I got dinner into the crockpot early this morning and I made some treats from some mix I found in the cupboard when I was decluttering two weeks ago now. I'm allowing it today without guilt.

You'll notice there is no mention of "packing boxes" in this post yet. This is because I haven't touched any boxes or packed anything since our return home. DH seems to be doing the same as me::comp: chillin' in front of some computer games.

Methinks the week, the task, of finding a place to live took its toll on us. I think we're recharging for the month ahead.

It is now one-day-less-a-month until the day that I want to have our stuff arrive at the new place: March 19th or 20th. I was online looking up movers and moving help and all that. Seems there are quite a few, like more that 5, movers who advertise regular runs between Montreal-Ottawa-Toronto. I don't know what our budget is, and I don't know how much stuff we'll have, but it's really not knowing how much stuff we'll be moving that's stopping me from calling for an estimate. They want to know the details: # of boxes, specific items like bed and buffets and etc. I don't know this stuff yet.

DH has offered to take the few boxes that I have packed already to his mom's place to "get them out of my way". Wish I had more.

:dunno: Whatever aka Oh Well.

I hope I can get into it tomorrow but I suspect I will once DH is gone. I think I need to work undisturbed or without distraction.

I do know it feels much better to know what kind of place I am moving to. It really really helps to decide what stays and what goes.

Thanks for listening.

Beverlyjoy
02-21-2011, 06:11 PM
Hi Beckies - checking in. My endoscopy went well. It didn't hurt a bit. I am a bit sleepy. Will give you info tomorrow. Hope you are having a good day.

Shepherdess
02-21-2011, 08:00 PM
Well, it's been a while since I've been here. We've had a busy week and I've only been around a computer long enough for quick e-mail checks. Calving is going well. They started coming just after we moved in, so our timing was perfect. They were 10 days early, but we've learned to expect them early. I'm finally figuring out how to eat through all of this, but it did take me a few days. I had to come up with new stand-by plans, since we're using a tiny dorm-room size fridge so I can't keep all my usuals.

We were having crazy winds last week, but I did keep up my exercise by doing yoga. It's going to be my standby indoor exercise while we're calving since I didn't bother to pack weights. We had one day when the wind died down to a manageable 20 to 25 mph and I took the opportunity to go for a run. I would normally think twice about running in that wind, but I'm glad I went since we immediately got snow. So more yoga. . .

I changed my ticker today and I'm happy to report that my weight is right on track. For those who are new and confused by it, I've got a baby on the way. I successfully lost weight on Beck and kept it off for 6 months, and am now using Beck to gain the weight healthfully for the baby. It's helpful when that "eating for two" sabatoging thought pops up. And the plan is to stick with Beck post-baby and lose the weight again.

Happy Birthday FutureFitChick!

Welcome Home BeverlyJoy! I'm so glad you had a great trip and it sounds like you did well sticking with your plan.

Jmaf, glad your DH's surgery went well and I'm wishing you well being his caregiver. I know it can get tough at times.

Seadwaters, sorry for all the upheaval in your department. Wishing you the best while you face all the extra work and stress.

OnebyOne, yay for finding a place to live! That should help ease stress tremendously.

Gardenerjoy, yay for getting back on the wagon and thanks for the insight that it's all about getting the right people in your corner. This is a great group here!

Pamatga, congrats on walking around Walmart without your cane! It's such a great reward for all your hard work.

Lexxiss, hugs for all the emotional turmoil over your dear friend.

MaryContrary, sending supportive thoughts while you face a big deadline. Best of luck.

BillBE, good wind gear is a must! Great job getting out in it! I heard the E. Coast was facing some pretty serious wind.

Waving to everyone else!

MaryContrary
02-22-2011, 12:55 AM
::linking hands with gardenerjoy and jumping back into the loop:: :D Thanks for the great image!

I always begin my time here by re-reading my last post. The last one made me wince, because full of whining and complaining. So I thank you all, as always, for responding with endless support. You teach me much about just letting emotions pass through. Really, thank you.

I feel calmer today, and ranting helped. I did not manage to get any work done, nor did I come up with a plan for eating, but I did eat better and work out. I know that part of not working on my academic stuff has been that DP has been off for five days. I just don't get a lot done when the house is full, unless I leave.

We had a delicious meal of fresh shrimp with garlic and EVO, lemon garlic rice, and steamed broccoli. We've made plans for meals for the week, too. I'm going to try my hand at chicken and dumplings tomorrow (wheat flour!). I got sad because I couldn't find the cookbook my grandmother had made for me. I'm missing her a lot, right now.

BBE, confronting stuff can take years, so big kudos. No choice to those decadent cookies also deserves some major kudos.

Chefjoona, many strong thoughts on your process of recovery. There is nothing quite worse than a stomach bug. Thanks for your comments about home, which remind me that I struggled with some of these same issues even when living alone.

Ceejay, those are some great goals for today. Sore necks are terrible. When I work at the computer for a long period of time, I force myself to look up (eyes and neck) at least every 15 minutes. I stretch out my neck, and also focus my eyes on long-distance objects (to avoid strain headaches). Sometimes I even set a timer to remind myself to do this. Whatever it takes, eh? Hang in there.

gardenerjoy, yes, why is waking up hungry such a good feeling? And you're right -- we can do this, too! Write the brilliant books; or, at least, the books that make us happy. AND we can be healthy while we do this!

pamatga, beautiful weather does wonders for the rest of life, yes? Enjoy!

onebyone, belated congrats on finding a place! Big kudos for letting yourself take a break. There is still more stress to come, but you've conquered a major hurdle.

beverlyjoy, glad to hear about the smooth endoscopy. Also, a belated welcome back from Disney World! Isn't it just kinda amazing???

shepherdess, waving to you and the calves and the puppy! Ahhhh, the joys of dorm room refrigerators!

Evening goals:

-- make a plan for tomorrow
-- healthy snack
-- finish laundry

Goals for tomorrow:

-- up early!
-- academic work until 4
-- work out
-- dinner
-- plan for next day's eating and academic work

GosfordGirl
02-22-2011, 04:18 AM
Hi Coaches

The earthquake is "across the ditch" (the Tasman Sea) but we see New Zealand as connected to us so it is relevant. It seems they got it badly this time. We need to wait to know the final outcome. When you look at the fault maps, a major fault runs right through the middle of NZ. They must feel a bit like those who live in SF.

I am sort of on plan but straying a bit. I met with the powers-that-be today and ditched a major project. It was untenable in the current climate but I feel a bit of a failure. I also feel REALLY relieved. I get some of my life back and I can focus on other things that are important. I am trying to process it tonight.

I need to get back into ritual behaviours that make this all possible. Tomorrow

BillBE - resisting "chocolate coated shortbread cookies" is a triumph! I didn't even resist nasty Monte Carlo processed biscuits yesterday - I hate Monday meetings and the rubbish they serve - but my lack of resistance I hate more. Will need to work on that

ChefJoona - I am glad you are improving - it is difficult to be on plan when you aren't up to scratch

CeeJay - hope your neck is feeling better. :hug: Hang in there and I hope things improve soon. Keep up with those credits!

GardenerJoy - I have read about your stray from plan and it is interesting that it has been related to an adjustment as you get closer to goal weight. I hadn't considered it as a danger period. Great that today on plan was comfortable

pamatga - Yay for "extraordinarily beautiful weather" - ours is improving too. I like the between weather of spring and autumn. So I am looking forward to it - still periods of really hot weather here. Your Easter observations sound interesting.

onebyone - I am so glad you have found a house - you will start to pack now that you know where you are going I am sure

Beverlyjoy- glad the endoscopy went well - nice to see you back

Shepherdess - life sounds busy! Glad your weight is going to plan with the pregnancy. Sounds difficult camping out in the calving area!

MaryContrary - glad you feel calmer and in control. Yay for planning and organising your week

Take care Beckies

BillBlueEyes
02-22-2011, 06:29 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - More boxes emptied, CREDIT moi - some to the trash, some ready for Good Will, and some treasures found. Found my copy of Stranger in a Strange Land with its 1978 inscription from a dear friend who is still in my life. Continues to be emotionally draining - but less so each time. I am confronting the thought of entering a new phase of my life - feels like facing my mortality by observing that a single book exists that I will never read again.

Eating OP, CREDIT moi. At gym, CREDIT moi, I did my chest press with larger weights after a guy last week told me I was wasting my time lifting with weights that I could do 12 reps with. He urged me to advance faster. I suspect it's a guy thing, but I do love increasing the numbers on the dumbbells.


onebyone - Yep, packing and sorting is emotionally draining. Keep the faith, a clear goal in mind will help you kick into gear.

CeeJay - Seems to me that accepting oneself "at about 85% so that's great" is the key to a long and healthy life; Kudos.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for back on plan. I routinely confront your, "but routinely forget what I learned," LOL.

Shepherdess - Kudos for a successful week of midwifery. It was a jolt to see your sticker of advancing weights - until I remembered. How is your new dog handling all the birthing?

Beverlyjoy - Glad your procedure went well.

Cheryl (seadwaters) - Thought of you as soon as I heard about the earthquake - that was a tough one. Monster Kudos for ditching the untenable project. With that gone, perhaps the "nasty Monte Carlo processed biscuits" will seem to serve no purpose.

MaryContrary - Yay for feeling calmer. Here's hoping it's a good week for back to your writing.

ChefJoona - When carbs are what the system can handle, carbs are the thing. Continue recovering.

pamatga - Ouch for the reality of bank issues, with Kudos for figuring out a "work around." Enjoy your "extraordinarily beautiful weather."

Readers - chapter 2
Experience the Difference

This time is going to be different because the Beck Diet for Life Program is different. Here is how:

. . .
It teaches you what to do when you want to eat, but it's not time to eat. People want to eat for lots of reasons. They want to eat when they are hungry, craving, stressed, tired, bored, upset, celebrating, or procrastinating. They want to eat when they smell food cooking, when they see a food commercial, or when they pass by a bakery. The Beck Diet for Life Program teaches you what to say to yourself in these situations and what to do to avoid consuming extra calories.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D, The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 23.

ChefJoona
02-22-2011, 07:55 AM
Quick check in before I head to work. Am feeling almost 100%, so its back to eating on plan. I've got my food packed for the day, and a great recipe I'm looking forward to making tonight!

Dealing with some nerves about going back to work after being out sick. Hoping things are manageable. I have a great team, and we always cover for eachother when we're out, so no reason to worry too much.

It's cold here- single digits (F)... am dreaming of Spring weather when I can get out and walk after work!

Have a great day!

onebyone
02-22-2011, 10:37 AM
Hi Coaches

DH left again last night. It never gets easier for me when he goes. I suppose after 19 years & 4months together this is an amazing fact.:val2:

Before bed last night I made a detailed list about the packing job ahead of me. I carefully broke this whole place into zones. Looks like I have 45 of them. Ideally I want to be packed by March 15th so I have leeway with movers/moving to get our stuff to the new place for the weekend of March 19/20. Poor Caesar will have to be medicated for the 4 hr car ride. Gravol does the trick but I want the vet to administer it so I need to arrange that. I also need to get all our medical records. My file is huge! I need to get in contact with the tax dept to request some stuff too. I kindsorta want to do this today but feel like calling revenue canada is like waking the sleeping dragon! Nevermind. I am owed money, I need to get caught up with the taxes, and this is what I have to do to get that-->*credit moi=DONE!*

Much to eat over if I choose. I say NO CHOICE to eating for these reasons.

*credit-weighed in: 281 (-2)*
heading toward being less than 280 which is my only goal for my end of the month official weighin. Would be fantastic if I didn't have to change my ticker.
*credit-cooked from scratch/no second helpings.*
Need to work on-drinking more water; stretching my body to prevent unnecessary injury as I get packing.

So back to the 45 zones in 20 days=2 zones/day +a few more on good days.

Today's zones:

#13 beside the chair DONE
#14 the coffee table 3/4 DONE
#15 in front of the shelving 2/3 DONE

ALSO:
sort laundry/wash shower curtain (exciting) _NOT Done____
do dishes in dishwasher _Not Done____


My special task this week is to have a "move in kit" for DH to take with him next weekend since he moves in on the 1st; a week from today!!! Yikesamama that's soon! Also for this week is a special focus on gathering things for the Free Garage Sale on the 27th.

Gotta go get started.

UPDATE: that stupid coffee table was an endless pit. So many things, so much variety. I just can't do it anymore. It'll have to wait until morning. The stuff by the shelves are just waiting for me to make more boxes. Again, I've had it. Somehow I missed dinner too so I am going to stop for the night (8:49pm now) and eat some food and head up to bed so I don't have to look at this mess anymore tonight.

gardenerjoy
02-22-2011, 11:30 AM
I had some last minute swaps in the food plan yesterday, but all within parameters of the way I want to eat now to get these last pounds off.

WI: NAkg, Exercise: +50* 940/1300 minutes for February, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes