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guamvixen
01-28-2011, 09:50 PM
As you wonderful ladies know, I had lil miss Emma 8 weeks ago! We are both doing well health wise! But I've noticed that I feel out of it! I forget things easily, I even feel as though my vocabulary and grammar are suffering. Could it be just lack of sleep? How did you all handle the changes?


sept15lija
01-28-2011, 10:00 PM
YES! I remember tripping over my words regularly. Lack of sleep, hormones, just with everything going on, it kinda happens. I'm still there, and my baby just turned 1 today (sob!). Especially since we haven't been sleeping too much since she's teething...but anyways I have those moments all the time. You do get used to it though - it was not as bad with DD, I was used to the lack of sleep as DS had broken me in quite nicely. ;) Welcome to mommy brain, and congrats on your baby girl!!

atreyyena
01-28-2011, 10:02 PM
nope giving birth actually changes your brain chemistry, 'mommy brain' is actually a scientific phenomena. They say a mom's brain doesn't return to normal 100% until the child is about 1 year old.

Part of it now is certainly lack of sleep, but it's also something more long term that you're going to have to adapt too. the easiest thing to do is adopt habits. If you ALWAYS put your keys by the door, it doesn't matter if you forgot where they are because they're by the door, KWIM? :)

good luck and congrats on the little one.


NiteNicole
01-28-2011, 10:26 PM
I agree with everyone else, totally normal. You can't over-estimate the impact of sleep deprivation. It's awful. Also, you just have so much MORE to think about, things like "where did I put the keys" and "did I remember to get out of my pajamas before leaving the house?" get pushed to the periphery of your brain.

sacha
01-28-2011, 11:05 PM
OOoooh yes, I remember trying to put a stainless steel pan in the fridge and getting angry that it wasn't fitting!

8 weeks is still right in the deprivation zone, for me it lasted until 6.5 months! Hehehe :) You handle it by just... rolling with it :) There's no "back button" so you just gotta do it! You're doing great.

Lilbert
01-29-2011, 05:11 AM
My baby is 11weeks old and im exactly the same! ;) I call it 'baby brain'. My sister said she was the same too. I think its part tiredness and part brain chemistry.

ToriLeigh
01-29-2011, 11:57 PM
I call it "lactose lobotomy," saw it in a magazine, and it's true. I think it lasted about the whole time I was breastfeeding my son. Sleep deprivation, hormones and everything else your body goes through during pregnancy sure effects your brain.

MaddieBPhoto
01-30-2011, 12:04 AM
Very normal! You're tired & out of it. It's a mommy brain fart. :)

abetterme
01-30-2011, 12:36 AM
Yes I remember being very clumsy!!

shcirerf
01-30-2011, 03:09 AM
It's been a long time since the twins were babies, but I remember, being in some odd zone of basically no where for about 6 months. Feed the babies, change the babies, do laundry, eat supper with husband, get up in the night and do it again, repeat, over and over and over.

It does get better! Grand babies are so much fun! You can send them home!

fozentusic
01-30-2011, 12:24 PM
I was a disaster from about 30 weeks pregnant until maybe 4 months post-partum. Heck, my son is one year and I still feel like I'm braindead sometimes.

RinaMarie
01-30-2011, 03:29 PM
Chiming in in agreement with everyone else, I've had six kids and experienced that with all of them. I usually start feeling normal around 4 months after the babies are born.

Gale02
01-30-2011, 07:45 PM
Yes yes yes! Mommy brain is a real thing for sure. It does get better, I promise. :)

Bac0s
01-30-2011, 07:47 PM
Sorry! Eek. My youngest is less than 2 months from 5 years old and I *still* have mommy brain.

guamvixen
01-30-2011, 09:14 PM
Thanks ladies!! They don't tell you that when you're pregnant! Glad it's normal. I have been on autopilot for a while now. I can't wait for it to get better, or at least I adapt to everything that it becomes the norm!

BubaMarra
01-31-2011, 10:09 AM
As others confirmed, that is totally normal!

I think it's for the biggest part a hormonal issue. Since pregnancy I learned not to underestimate the power of hormones. In addition to hormones it's just that the transition from not being a parent to actually being a parent is sudden and can be overwhelming - literally overnight you get like tons of things to deal with which you have never dealt before. It takes time to get the grasp of all that. And then, sleep deprivation does not help AT ALL.

I remember it took me almost a year before I got my head around it and started feeling me again. And at the beginning I remember how I really tried to remember some stuff, but I just couldn't. I think they call it mamnesia. Good thing is that it doesn't last forever. Now when my baby is 20 mo old, I look at it and laugh, but at the time it was not that funny :D

Gale02
01-31-2011, 11:41 AM
Thanks ladies!! They don't tell you that when you're pregnant! Glad it's normal. I have been on autopilot for a while now. I can't wait for it to get better, or at least I adapt to everything that it becomes the norm!

And if you're like me... I got pregnant when my first was a year old so I was dealing with mommy brain and preggo brain at the same time! I'm not sure how I remembered to walk... ;)

rivkasreviews
02-09-2011, 02:17 PM
I've also found that going back on birth control pills mess me up, guamvixen. If you've recently started back on the pill, become aware of how that effects you. Once I realized that I switched methods entirely and got my sanity back!

flsunbmr
02-10-2011, 03:55 PM
Just chiming in with everybody else. My DD is 17 months. I can't remember when I exactly came out of my "fog" but well, it's only been recently. I BFd for 13 months and maybe that's how long i was in a fog? I had to pump a lot (working mom) so even though DD was sleeping through the night, I got up to pump..... Also, my thyroid went wacky about 4 months post-partum and I think that had a lot to do with it, too. Now that my thyroid is stable with the meds I'm on, I feel like I have more energy and focus. I agree with one of the ladies that said, never underestimate the power of hormones!!!

Kimberly2011
02-10-2011, 04:31 PM
Oh my gosh - I remember this only too well (and my oldest is 18!!!) I felt like I was in a fog for almost the first year of his life - I mean I really did! I was always tired, forgetful - you name it! Hang in there, though - it DOES get better!!! :)

RRB2
02-27-2011, 05:06 PM
Yeps, same here. Baby is 9 weeks and I still feel "out of it"
Of course, I have 3 other kids to take care off, but I'm pretty sure the forgetfulness and clumsiness are normal

zenor77
03-28-2011, 01:14 AM
Um, I forgot to brush my teeth before leaving the house this morning. It's totally normal! Lol.

iaradajnos
03-28-2011, 08:12 PM
I totally was mindless. I remember when my youngest was one and the oldest three. I dropped them off to their first day of our kids cooperative (15 families; 3 parents each day; rotate with one turn watching kids per week). It was from 9-12, two times a week without me; one time at the group with me/husband and two others.

I walked across the street and ate a cheeseburger, milk shake and large fries. It didn't occur to me until two Indian McDonald's employees sat next to me and talked about how hard it was to be Hindu and work at Mickey D's.

It struck me. I haven't eaten beef for five years and hadn't had dairy in a year. And I'm married to a Hindu.

Boy, I realized I really had totally lost my brain. I did finish the meal--because it WAS good, I LOVE food, and I didn't know what else to do for the remaining free time I had until I got to pick up my kids.

PacSunMama
03-29-2011, 04:17 AM
I totally was mindless. I remember when my youngest was one and the oldest three. I dropped them off to their first day of our kids cooperative (15 families; 3 parents each day; rotate with one turn watching kids per week). It was from 9-12, two times a week without me; one time at the group with me/husband and two others.

I walked across the street and ate a cheeseburger, milk shake and large fries. It didn't occur to me until two Indian McDonald's employees sat next to me and talked about how hard it was to be Hindu and work at Mickey D's.

It struck me. I haven't eaten beef for five years and hadn't had dairy in a year. And I'm married to a Hindu.

Boy, I realized I really had totally lost my brain. I did finish the meal--because it WAS good, I LOVE food, and I didn't know what else to do for the remaining free time I had until I got to pick up my kids.

:dizzy: I bet this was a big lightbulb!! Lol... sleep deprivation and no time for yourself can really change our behavior, right?

Yes this is totally normal, as I'm sure you know by now, but it does get better! I found that the best thing to help me keep my vocabulary and ability to function somewhat normally was to have "mommy" playdates without the kids when possible. I've joined a knitting group that is open to all ages of women, with and without kids, as well as a monthly book club. Both of those groups meet (kid free!) often and we have a great time talking to each other about our hobbies. I love my child very much, but it's amazing what a night out that doesn't consist of talking to or about him does for my mental stability and identity!