100 lb. Club - That was scary!

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01-26-2011, 06:35 PM
Maybe some of you, I hope, will relate to this, others might just think I'm whacko. I'm at a size now where I'm straddling plus sizes and normal sizes. I've been wearing size 18 in jeans, but I sit in them once and they stretch out too big. I bought what I thought looked like a small 18 from the plus section the other day and didn't try them on till I got home...they were too big. So, today I went shopping and went to the non-plus side. I instantly felt out of place, anxious, nervous...like people were looking at me thinking what the heck is she doing here, she should be on the plus side. Of course, no one said anything, but I had it in my head they were staring. I got so upset and self conscious that I just finally grabbed the first size 16 pair of jeans that didn't feel like too heavy of a material, threw them in the cart and rushed out of the section. :-(
I thought I had calmed down, then I get to the checkout and I get all embarrassed and nervous again when the clerk unfolds the jeans and scans the tag. I was just waiting for her to ask if they were for someone else or did I get the right size, or give me a look, whatever. Geesh, it was so stressful! Am I nuts?! I just tried them on and guess what? They fit! Zip up and I can breathe and bend...they are a tad snug in the calves because my calves are huge from carrying 340 pounds around for years. But, they look alright. Still, I don't think I'll try going clothes shopping again by myself. I'll take my friend next time. I think I'll wear the 16's till they fall off me....then I'll get a belt. Lol

01-26-2011, 06:49 PM
KatMarie- My goodness hun you have lost so much weight! Congratulations!! :carrot:
This is my opinion...your head has not caught up with your body :D
You have a onderland body now. If people were looking at you-
it wasn't because they were thinking you should be in the plus size side- it was because you look so great!!
Don't you worry about what anyone thinks...you rock those 16's!! http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-happy093.gif (http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php)

01-26-2011, 07:16 PM
Gosh, this is an interesting thread for me! It seems like shopping in the regular section would be thrilling and exciting, but I bet I will have the same reaction when I get there. Thanks for sharing, and I agree that bringing a friend will totally help with the awkwardness until you get over that hump of discomfort and the smaller-size section becomes your new normal. I agree with goal4agirl, rock those 16s, baby! :carrot:

01-26-2011, 07:20 PM
KatMarie, you have lost a whole person !!!! You have lost more than I now weigh !!!
Here is a hint about jeans, it may help with the calf situation. Look for straight leg jeans. I know Lee makes them as I have a couple of pair and they will be marked that way.

01-26-2011, 07:30 PM
BREATHE girl- your post sounds so hectic you are making me nervous.

Good for you for getting into 16s! It's only a matter of time before you fit into 14s!

01-26-2011, 07:39 PM
I recently went clothes shopping for the 1st time since my weightloss journey and I went with the intention to buy size 14 jeans (I needed a belt for my 16s). But I thought I'd buy an aspirational pair so I also picked a 12 even though I felt ridiculous and hid it under my 14s. So I took them to the dressing room and tried them on prepared to see how far away I was from a 12 and they fit! And not indecently and muffin top-ish. They actually fit properly. So you'd think I'd do a happy dance but I just got weepy. And ended up buying a mostly 14s (all of which I need a belt for now) and one 12. And I regret it.

One of the best parts of this journey, one of the prizes apart from better health is to look better and fit into nicer clothes and hopefully be more confident etc. And you've obviously put in the effort so you deserve to get clothes that fit you, no matter what anyone thinks. You're not getting the clothes for free, you're paying for them, so it's not anyone's business really what size you get. If you chose to squeeze into a size zero, it really is no one's business as long as you pay for it. And next time I go shopping, I'm going to keep this in mind. It's a struggle sometimes, but we need to OWN our accomplishments and enjoy them.

01-26-2011, 08:16 PM
you guys are cute. Did you expect alarms to go off if you bought a small size?

Lori Bell
01-26-2011, 08:52 PM
Hi Kat! First off CONGRATULATIONS on your terrific weight loss! What an awesome accomplishment.

Secondly, I could have written your post a few years ago. I was seriously terrified to even venture over to "the other side". I swear to you it will become some what easier though. I now go into dress shops and when the clerk asks to help me with sizes I almost yell to them "a size 6". Though oddly, I still sometimes feel like I'm lying to them. LOL

01-26-2011, 08:57 PM
Great NSV, congratulations on your 16s! That's a size I remember fondly, lol.

01-26-2011, 09:00 PM
Oh, congratulations!!! I totally know how you feel...I feel like a impostor shopping in the "regular" sizes rather than Plus sizes - to the point where I'll always go browse the Plus sizes first before I remember that I can wear clothes from the other section.

01-26-2011, 10:39 PM
Thanks for the suggestion about a straight-leg jean.
I am breathing, lol. I had just gotten home, was stressed and tried on the 16's and was excited they fit and was rambling. ;-) I'm a rambler.
Ooooh, size 12's, can't wait to fit into those!
I'm settled down now. It was a weird feeling to be all flustered about not shopping in the plus section. I never expected to feel like that and it caught me off guard. I see some others have experienced this feeling, too...glad I'm not alone in this. I guess it will take some time for my mind to catch up with my weight loss. Heck, 9 months ago I could only shop in specialty plus stores and most the time their largest sizes were sold out because they don't stock many of the largest sizes. So, I'd have to special order the dang clothes. Not a fun thing to do.

01-26-2011, 10:57 PM
Yes! This is me, too. I still feel weird. I feel like an impostor walking into regular size clothing stores...and it still weirds me out to pick up smaller sizes, walk into the fitting room, and have them fit. Anyways congrats, buying smaller clothes is such fun!!

01-26-2011, 11:08 PM
I had a problem like that when I was looking for a business outfit and started piking up dresses. I started grabbing any dress that I thought was cute and a tall, thin woman was looking at them right beside me. It made me feel so nervous I moved and came back after she had left.

01-26-2011, 11:13 PM
Nothing whacko at all about this post. Nothing at all.

I just want to say...CONGRATULATIONS on your progress. Shopping gets so, so, so much more fun when you reach the crucial point of accepting that you fit into the sizes at X store. I look forward to reading tons of NSV threads from you in the future regarding shopping successes <3

Call Me Stephanie
01-26-2011, 11:47 PM

I have a feeling I'll feel like this when the time comes too... >_<

01-27-2011, 11:46 AM
Just wanted to let you know I totally know where you're coming from, and I could have easily written your post!

I'm actually a comfortable size 16, but still find myself buying 18's that are too big. I can't wrap my head around the fact that I don't have to wear plus sizes anymore. I have shopped in the "regular" sizes a few times now, but I totally feel like an imposter. Maybe when I'm not in the biggest "regular" sizes (i.e., XL tops), I will feel like I have finally made the transition. Still, there is definitely a difference between a plus 1X and a regular XL (or even regular XXL...regular XXL does NOT equal plus size 2X). Same thing with plus size 18 pants and regular size 18 pants. It's so confusing!!

01-27-2011, 12:13 PM
Yep, still getting over that fear myself. I have major anxiety and actually loved Lane Bryant because it was a small store with limited choices and nice people who didn't judge! Throw me into a mall and I am a total loss! So many choices! :dizzy: And yes, Cherrypie, I do expect alarms to go off! LOL! "Buzzzzzzz...too small, you're deluded.....Buzzzzz"

It is starting to get better now.

01-27-2011, 12:23 PM
You should be so very proud of yourself! I think that you are just teriffic!

01-27-2011, 12:27 PM
I am the same way. I don't need to shop in the plus size section anymore and I know which stores I am comfortable shopping in, but there are some stores in the mall who have my size but I am just too scared to go in them. I'm afraid people will look at me as "the fatty in the room" and I'll feel like an a** for being there. Maybe one day I can step into them without hyperventilating and take my time looking at clothing instead of doing a quick circle around the store and then exiting almost immediately.

AZ Sunrises
01-27-2011, 01:24 PM
:hug: 16 is such an awesome, but such an absolutely difficult size. You feel too big for the "normal" shops. You're not *really* big enough for the big girl places.

:D I remember when I went from the large end of normal clothes to the small end of plus-sized. I can't wait to have the problem of shopping both places again.

01-27-2011, 09:57 PM
:hug: 16 is such an awesome, but such an absolutely difficult size. You feel too big for the "normal" shops. You're not *really* big enough for the big girl places.

:D I remember when I went from the large end of normal clothes to the small end of plus-sized. I can't wait to have the problem of shopping both places again.

Exactly. 16/18 is kind of a "no man's land."

I also remember my transition from large regular to small plus size clothes. So weird to be back there again, but in the opposite direction!

01-27-2011, 10:12 PM
Congrats! I am about 40 pounds away from a size 16...save them for me!