100 lb. Club - What was your turning point?

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01-16-2011, 08:59 PM
We have all been on dozens (hundreds???) of diets in the past, but I'm curious, what has made this time different for you? Was there something that prompted you to get back on the horse? Did you have an event coming up?

01-16-2011, 09:27 PM
:( sadly...i was watching football with my dear hubby...and they introduced a player...he was a guard...and weighed 354 pounds...and the announcer was saying things like, OMG....just look at him...he is huge...this man is a freakin machine...look at those arms!! this is one huge dude...you wouldn't want to get in his way....he can run over a train!

i weighed more than he did....


i excused myself from the room to the bathroom...where i just sat on the toilet looking into the bathroom mirror....and just cried and cried....

01-16-2011, 09:28 PM
I think my wake up call happened this summer. My in-laws were visiting and there happened to be a fair in town. Nobody would go on rides with my neice so after a lot of begging I agreed to go on the Octopus with her. (I am cringing just thinking about it.)

I could barely get the bar closed. I had to pull in into my stomach really uncomfortably for it to close. There was not a chance in h*ll that I was getting back of that ride with the excuse that I was too fat, so I decided to suffer. An suffer I did. Afterwards I felt so sick, I claimed it was just the motion of the ride, but I knew it was because the bar had been digging into my stomach painfully for the entire ride.

My second reason is that I have a conference coming up in Los Angeles in April. I went last year and was really uncomfortable. I also saw pictures that devestated me from that conference. How did I ever allow this to happen to me. I was the biggest person in every picture.
These are just a few of my reasons.

01-16-2011, 09:36 PM
Ladyfyre, I can soooo relate to the fair episode. This past year, I was hoping my son couldn't go on adult rides because I was afraid I wouldn't fit.

01-16-2011, 09:48 PM
Mine is really simple. In July 2009 I was diagnosed as a type 2 diabetic. I want to live. I want to be a mom - hubby and I are adopting and we would never have passed a homestudy if I were still as unhealthy as I was. I want to live to see my future kids grown and to see their kids. I like my feet and would like to keep them. I like being able to walk and would prefer continuing to do so for as long as possible. I like my vision and want to keep it. It is truly not about vanity for me, it is all a health thing. I'm actually terrified as far as the vanity side goes since my hubby prefers fat chicks. I have now gotten myself down to the smallest woman in his entire life (I was actually pretty close at my starting weight), all is well so far and he says he loves me and will love me even if I get truly skinny, but it still scares me.

01-16-2011, 09:49 PM
My big epiphany was when I started to have to use the motorized carts while shopping because of my back pain due to weight. Its necessary so I'm not hurting, but sooooo embarrassing!

01-16-2011, 10:00 PM
Crossing 250 lbs, was the final straw that made me want to lose it "soon".

But seeing photographs of myself with my gut hanging out and fat creeping into the sides of my face, also were motivators. Plus a parent developing diabetes, on a side of the family with a prevalence for it.

What makes this time different is the acceptance I cannot "crash it off" anymore. I'm 42; I want what I lose to stay off, and I have to adopt new practices to achieve that.

01-16-2011, 10:01 PM
I guess the new year did. I just don't want to waste another year with this problem. I'm tired of wondering what people are thinking of me when I'm out. I'm tired of stepping out of the shower and being ashamed of what I see. I've never really sat down and came up with a plan to lose the weight but now I have and I'm serious about it!

01-16-2011, 10:02 PM
After thirteen years of discussions, I mentioned to my husband that we were approaching the "now or never" point of having kids (I was 33). He was like "well, put it that way, let's get started". For a variety of reasons (PCOS for me, genetic disease/low count for him), I knew we'd have to use IF treatments, and getting myself in tip-top shape was the first priority.

Our whole lives changed that day. We were happy, but we were treading water. Not only did I change my whole dietary lifestyle, we changed our whole financial lifestyle as well. We used to just spend money willy-nilly, but we had to save for treatments/baby, so we went from living just outside our means to saving about half our net income.

01-16-2011, 10:27 PM
I had 2 things in the same week. I had to get my license renewed. My previous weight on my lisence was 200...I weighed 269. :( The second thing was that my friend decided that it would be funny to pretend to be upset with me and not talk to me for a whole week...we worked and lived together. I decided that out of spite I would start eating right and get skinny. Not the best reason, but it worked. :)

01-16-2011, 10:57 PM
I'd tried a million times to lose weight "for" something -- a party, a reunion, for my parents, for my friends, for my DH, a million different reasons. It would always start the same (very enthusiastic, 'this is it' mentality, super gonna do it this time!) and end the same about 4 days later (wow this is hard, meh i was meant to be fat). What was different THIS time was I did some digging around in my brain to see WHY i was fat, why I REMAINED fat, why I followed the same patterns. A little tweaking, a little this and that, a little beating the spoiled brat inside of me into submission and voila! a lost a whole PERSON!!!

I guess the main thing is -- if you do the same thing over and over and over again and expect a different outcome, yer bonkers!

01-16-2011, 11:15 PM
In May 2009, my sister-in-law tagged a bunch of photos of me on MySpace. It was the middle of the night and I was alone when I saw them and I just started bawling uncontrollably... I had no idea I looked like that. I mean, I knew I was fat and that I wasn't beautiful, but I didn't realize just how bad it was.

I haven't lost as much as I would have liked since then and I've been about the same weight since April of last year, but I haven't gained it back so that's a positive. I've had a bit of a restart on January 1st, nothing major happened, it's just time to finish what I started.

The link in my signature is to the progress pictures I posted last year. The "before" photos are the exact photos that were posted on MySpace and they remain my motivation.

01-16-2011, 11:21 PM
My turning point happened last month. I had this weird rash on my legs. I had had it off and on for a few years, been to MULTIPLE docs, who kept telling me it was ringworm. With a husband, 2 kids, and 6 pets I knew it wasn't because someone else would have it. I went to see a different doc because I had a chest infection, and ended up breaking down in tears and mentioned the rash, she took 1 look at it and said "Oh hey, that's granuloma annulare". She explained that it was often associated with diabetes, did a spot check, and I was a little high. That was the day my life changed. I do NOT have diabetes, but I am insulin resistant, and if i don't get a hold of it now, it will become diabetes. A week later, I went back to see the same doc due to a sore knee, to find out I had osteo arthritis in my knees. Those 2 things were key for me. My health is now seeing negative impacts due to my weight, so it's time to take it off.

01-17-2011, 12:05 AM
:( sadly...i was watching football with my dear hubby...and they introduced a player...he was a guard...and weighed 354 pounds...and the announcer was saying things like, OMG....just look at him...he is huge...this man is a freakin machine...look at those arms!! this is one huge dude...you wouldn't want to get in his way....he can run over a train!

i weighed more than he did....


i excused myself from the room to the bathroom...where i just sat on the toilet looking into the bathroom mirror....and just cried and cried....
:hug: Rainbowsmiles- Bless your heart...you have moved me to tears! Your doing good with your weight loss! :carrot: I hope you have lots of joy this year!

Gamecock- My weight loss journey began the end of May last year. A very smart doctor who was treating me for Crohns disease ordered blood work done on me and requested my thyroid function checked. I had tried many times to lose the weight only to gain. I would just give up every time in frustration. It never entered my mind I had Hypothyroidism. I was started on the replacement medication and without trying I lost weight within the first week. I was like WOW I wonder what would happen if I "tried" to watch my calories and exercise? The weight came off. And kept coming off.
It has leveled off. I lose about 5-6 Lbs. a month. I think that is good for me- I will be fifty this year :D
The replacement meds have also shrank the nodules in my neck- a happy surprise I found out right before Christmas!
I still have my struggles with craving sweets :s: And my joy when I step on the scale and I have lost another Lb. :goodscale I just keep hearing something on the inside telling me- you are going to make it this time!

01-17-2011, 12:12 AM
My boyfriend's sister is getting married in October, and I'm a bridesmaid. We went to try on dresses this past September, and I couldn't fit into any of the dresses to try on! I think the samples are like a 10, and the bride and the rest of the wedding party are a size 2/4. I guess I just realized how uncomfortable I feel when I'm bigger than everyone around me. I refuse to go back home to see high school friends, because I've gained so much weight, and it's just a crappy way to live. I graduate college in May, and I want to be able to proudly display graduation pictures that aren't strangely cropped to hide my weight. And after graduation, I want to be able to walk into job interviews confidently.

So I guess a lot of stuff all hit me at once, and I'm tired of losing 20 pounds, giving up, and having to re-lose those 20 pounds.

01-17-2011, 12:35 AM
rainbowsmiles, I always feel so humiliated when they start talking about sports players' weights. Usually they'll be talking about what a monster some 250-pounder is, and I'm sitting there realizing I'm bigger and a foot shorter!

ladyfyre, the same thing happened to me a couple of years ago except I actually could not get the bar down. The way the ride worked, our whole row (with just me and my bf in it) wouldn't light up with the "all clear" light, so he thought there was just something wrong with it, but I was so humiliated. I acted like I thought it was unsafe and got out of there. Oh, and this is after I needed a stool to get up onto it in the first place.

I've had so many "rock bottom" points that I thought were really it, but I always give up. A few summers ago, (around 250 pounds) I was riding my scooter (motorcycle-type scooter, not one of those stand-up ones) and some guy yelled from a truck, "Aren't you a little big for that thing?" Two summers ago (about 265 pounds), I was in Berlin and eating an ice-cream cone at a fair, and a guy gave me this disgusted look and, I'm almost positive, said in German, "You animal." There have been other things, like people from high school not recognizing me, and each time I started a diet but gave up soon after.

The last time (300 pounds last March) was two things: My cousin's wedding this May, in which I'll be a bridesmaid, and the fact that I simply can't start another chapter of my life this way. I started middle school, high school and college fat. I absolutely can't graduate and start a job fat. I always think, oh, it's fine, I'll just lose the weight before _____. Well, this is it. I'll be moving to a new city and meeting all new people, and I don't want to join another group of friends as the fat one.

Jeez, sorry for how long that turned out to be...

01-17-2011, 12:36 AM
Wow I have experienced the football player scenario and the ride one! One one ride I went with my kids, my son got on it and the bar could not get down over me. I said I am not getting off with all of these people watching because I am too fat so I worked with the guy to squeeze it down over me. For the whole two minutes of so on that ride, I couldn't breathe. I had to hold my breathe in the whole time and when the ride stopped, I was crying. It was awful. Another time I was hearing football announcments because a game was starting and my hubby was watching tv. They announced the weight of one of the players at 243 pounds. Well I was almost 300 pounds and remember how motified I was when I realized I was heavier than the guy who tackles other players. It was the worst feeling in the world! Shortly after that I started exercising and eating right.

01-17-2011, 01:00 AM
Mine began April of last year. We started infertility treatments, and I was determined to have a baby. My Dr kept mentioning it to me that weight loss would help with my PCOS. I started South Beach and got pregnant after 6 years of trying the next month. I miscarried in July, and it fueled me to lose even more weight. Then around October, I started to struggle, and have been for awhile. I'm determined though to get back to the gym this week, and start making better food choices. :)

01-17-2011, 01:48 AM
I got married in August. It all hit me the next couple of weeks after the wedding. There were several things that happened.

1. We went to pigeon forge, TN for our honeymoon. We went to ride on this ride that the hubby wanted to get on. You have to be under 250 pounds. I argued with him i didnt want to get on it, after he talked me into it, i decided i would go. Hoping i was under 250. Well they had a scale right there for everyone to see. I stepped on it, it read 256. I almost cried in public. She still let me on the ride, but at that point the husband, the ticket person, and the people in line knew my weight. My day was ruined.

2. when i went to get my name changed, the lady looked at me and says, i dont think your weight is right that we have on record. I asked her what it said, and she told me 167. I had to tell her 256 with a million people standing behind me at the dmv. Almost 100 pounds gained since the day i met my hubby. I sat in my car and cried before i drove home. I got my tem copy of my drivers license right then, my face looked every bit of 256.

3. I had pictures tagged of me on Facebook from the wedding and they were horrible. i thought i looked beautiful but from the side i looked so...whats the word...HUGE! I had no idea i actually looked like that.

4. We had a wishes jar at the wedding. When i got back from the honeymoon i read them. One sick @-hole thought it would be funny to write "go have fat sex" on the card. I think that was the one that blew me over the top.

So I cant really tell you WHICH exact one made me decide to start it back up, i think it was a combination of all of them, which happened within a 2 week time span. I hit my limit of fat jokes and public mortification.

01-17-2011, 02:35 AM
After spending this summer alone in California while my hubby and kids were on the east coast, I had done some soul searching and learned to put myself first. As 2010 came to a close, I had gained back about 5 of the 10lbs I lost in CA.

I decided this year would be my yoga home-practice time - to start training to become a yoga teacher. I want/need to be in good physical shape for that.

And finally - if all goes as planned with school, I will be graduating this May. This will be the biggest academic day of my life - of anyone in my family's life, too. I have come so far, from so many personal struggles - I want to look and feel the best I possibly can. So I'm serious about it. I've changed my whole way of life to succeed.

01-17-2011, 02:47 AM
I think a combination of my sister moving away and hitting an all time high are what have prompted me to get serious. My dad is diabetic as well, so I'm at risk for becoming diabetic. Quite frankly, we're amazed that I'm not diabetic yet.

But this is something that I'm finally doing for myself, not because someone asked me, not because someone complimented on how gross I look, but because I made the decision. Living a healthier life is going to be worth the effort.

01-17-2011, 11:03 AM
Cutie, my jaw dropped when I read your story. That someone would write that to you on your wedding is unreal. I am sorry, but I would have killed someone. Im sure you were a beautiful bride; we are always our worst critics.

My motivation actually started right before christmas last year when I saw some picutes and completly didnt realize how enormous i had gotten. I didnt even look like me, it was very trumatic, as I weighed myself and realized I was 210 pounds, 60 pounds up from when I started college 5 years ago. I lost about 20 pounds and just lost motivation, but I didnt gain back, so this new years I decided to start back where I started and reach my goal of getting down to my 150 self by june.

01-17-2011, 11:16 AM
4. We had a wishes jar at the wedding. When i got back from the honeymoon i read them. One sick @-hole thought it would be funny to write "go have fat sex" on the card. I think that was the one that blew me over the top.

What a horrible, horrible thing to do. This makes me so angry just reading about it.

01-17-2011, 11:24 AM
For me it's simply a matter of not letting it control my whole life. I am so tired of not being able to do things because of my weight or making excuses because of my weight. I just want for one time in my life not for it to consume me. I want to be able to go swimming and not getted all stressed out about putting on a bathing suit. I want to play outside with my daughter for more then 5 minutes. Simply put I just WANT so much more out of life and this time i will make it happen.

01-17-2011, 11:48 AM
No real turning point this time. Just time to get back at it.

The "OMG!" moment happened in 1998, when I had to get a grip and figure out what was wrong. Turned out it was PCOS and hypothyroid.

Since then different things have been on the "front burner," so to speak. Like TTC and pregnancy. I feel like this has always at least been on the stove though.

Only now it's back on the front burner!


01-17-2011, 12:35 PM
I think it's just time for me. I feel like it's time to get healthy and enjoy myself, and be able to be active with my two kids....also having a daughter now is a big part of my feeling - I know I will be her role model, and I don't want her to struggle the way I did throughout my childhood with weight. I missed out on a lot.

Loving Me
01-17-2011, 01:09 PM
Didn't have a turning point this time, still can't believe that. Had always had a reason or date to do it for before, but this time I just decided to give it a go. Gym was offering a trial membership and I thought, what did I have to lose, and never looked back...

01-17-2011, 01:47 PM
I did not really have a lightning bolt moment. There had been many of those in the 20 years since I had gained 100 lbs; incidents that "should" have motivated me but hadn't.

Somehow, approaching age 50 got my attention. I'd always been able to say that I may be fat but I was healthy. My medical numbers were all good and I'd never noticed any problems doing anything physical I wanted to do. But now those numbers were starting to creep up and I realized that one of the reasons I hadn't noticed any physical limitations is I didn't DO many physical things.

So at age 49.5, I reviewed in my mind everything I knew that worked for me the few times I had lost weight and what things hadn't, developed a plan for myself and decided to stick with the plan to see if I could lose 100 lbs.

Funny that my quiet determination triumphed over so many "grand launches" of diet and exercise programs.

01-17-2011, 02:43 PM
4. We had a wishes jar at the wedding. When i got back from the honeymoon i read them. One sick @-hole thought it would be funny to write "go have fat sex" on the card. I think that was the one that blew me over the top.

Cutie that is so mean! What is wrong with people? If you ever find out who wrote that- you hold them down and I will beat the crap out of them!! :mad:

01-17-2011, 03:28 PM
The past year has made me a gramma. Twice. Two gorgeous granddaughters I want to be around to enjoy for a good long time.

I'm not taking the chance my weight will cut my time with them short.

I'm 50. Time to win this battle once and for all!

01-17-2011, 04:19 PM
For me, the short and sweet of it was that I hit rock bottom.

When I graduated from high school, I was at what I thought was my heaviest - 247. Throughout my past 2.5 years of college, I weighed in under that and used it as an excuse to continue living unhealthily.

What did it for me was two-fold.
1. My father told me no one would ever fall in love with me because of the way I looked.
2. I hit 254 and my fat jeans hurt to squeeze into.

I realized after Jan. 1 that I was throwing my life away and I needed to gain control. So I'm hoping to go into my senior year of college with a bang!

01-17-2011, 05:54 PM
I was already feeling awful about my weight and had started thinking about doing something. One afternoon, I was just sitting around waiting for the kids I babysit to get home from school when my partner texted me: "Omg, I went to the doctor and i weight 180lbs. Its officially crisis time!!!".
I was sitting there almost 100lbs more than her, (granted, two inches taller) and for some reason, it just clicked. 180 was her "crisis" so what did that say about me?

01-17-2011, 09:51 PM
No lightning bolt moment here, either. What prodded me, though, was seeing photos of myself from a cruise I took with a friend, and then summer vacation pictures with my kids. I literally had NO idea I was that fat. Hard to believe, but there it is. I looked AWFUL. Sallow, shapeless, wearing ugly clothes. When I got home from that vacation with my kids, I vowed I'd start making changes, but little ones, because I was almost...afraid?...to lose the weight? I dunno. I started by cutting out all my "treats": chips, cookies, Jos Louis, stuff like that, and I thought "I won't weigh myself, I'll just go by how my clothes fit", but then I thought better of it (thank gawd) after a little while, knowing that I'd be more motivated if I could see the numbers going down. So although I have 236 as my "high" weight...it ain't. It's just my first recorded weight!

01-17-2011, 11:53 PM
1. My father told me no one would ever fall in love with me because of the way I looked.

At least it inspired change, but what a cruel thing to say.

01-18-2011, 03:59 AM
No real lightning bolt moment for me either. I had lost 40lbs a few years ago, then gained it all back and then some. Lost 60lbs, gained 15 or so. In August 2009, I realized I was creeping towards 200 again, so I cut out crap food and exercised for awhile, then got lazy. I "maintained" (wasn't weighing) but when I got on a scale again it said 208 and that was my red flag...I was simply NOT going to regain again. Plus my dad's diabetic, diagnosed not long before my 2009 go at weight loss...preventative measures, I'm terrified of developing it. I do have an event I'm using as motivation to really push though, my high school reunion this year. I was overweight/obese in HS, so I'd love to reunite with everyone at a healthy weight...especially (showing my petty b**** side here) since according to FB, half the snobby popular girls that thought they were too good to be friends with the fat kids are now about twice their formerly petite selves.

01-18-2011, 10:28 AM
No big moment here. I have fought every pound tooth and nail but it just didn't work. I had months of complacency where I tried to just accept the fat, but that never worked. I had to learn a heap of patience for my efforts to finally take hold.

01-18-2011, 10:33 AM
I was pretty upset about the "fat sex" thing for sure. My plan is whenever I am at goal, to take a picture holding that card in something very slimming and posting it on facebook. So then whoever that person is will KNOW that I didn't think it was funny and it was extremely hurtful.

Hubby says after I read that, I had flames of hatred in my eyes. Kind of like the Jew eye on beerfest.

Thighs Be Gone
01-18-2011, 10:36 AM
Two things absolutely PUSHED me to do something. Firstly, I saw a photo of myself and girlfriends. I saw it and thought.."who the **** is that pasty, puffy girl that resembles me?" Secondly, I got onto a Wii Fit in front of a room full of people to set up an account. I was so ashamed and (somewhat shocked) when I saw the word OBESE flash on the screen. That was not a good day.

01-18-2011, 12:07 PM
My turning point was our trip that is coming up in May to visit NYC/Boston. I want to make sure I can fit in the seat of the plane and I want to be able to walk and walk in these cities and enjoy this vacation w/my family.