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11-22-2002, 10:37 AM
Husband went out to pick up something for dinner last night.
(I was working) He brought home:
6 BBQ sandwiches with coleslaw on top
2 complete BBQ pork dinners
1 1/2 gallon of egg nogg
and! and!!! and!!!!!!! a box of those fat gooie christmas cookies with the 1/4 inch icing and sprinkles...diabetic coma here I come.

I know he was trying his best, but damn! :o

11-22-2002, 11:39 AM
Here Ginya
Grab the life line I'll pull you in to safety! My hubby is always bringing home junk but i make sure I have single serving salmon steaks, chicken breast, sliced ham or whatever, in the freezer so I can just pop it into the microwave when I need too. I also cook extra brown rice and use it when I need to.
Hey, wipe that BBQ sauce off your chin!

11-22-2002, 01:16 PM
How about a HUGE pecan pie from Costco.....that is my temptation right now. I keep on telling my skinny DH who wanted to buy it to eat more, but he claims he's FULL!!! What the heck does THAT mean?

11-22-2002, 01:35 PM
My hubby wanted to pick up the 2 for $5.00 McCains deep and delicious freezer chocolate cakes... He went so far as to put them in the cart, then I promptly took them out again. He had a sad look on his face but I cannot resist gooey chocolate cake.


11-22-2002, 02:04 PM
and yet...what did I have for lunch...
ugh! and the Holidays are comming.
just shoot me now!

11-22-2002, 02:40 PM
My husband is terrible enabler of the fatty kind:lol:

When he pulls the crap I got 2 options give in or be beautiful. I choose to find something else to do why he gorges himself.

I have made him interested in excersise by pinning him down ;) So he wants ME to show him how to lift weights. Isn't that a reversal :)

Miss Chris :queen:

11-22-2002, 04:13 PM
Yow Ginya!:eek: that is 3 meals worth of food for one dinner! sigh...our DH's mean well don't they?

I have to say that I am the overlord (lady) of the grocery shopping and meal planning/cooking. It is the only way that I can control what comes into the house foodwise. My DH is getting better over the last year, probably because he has decided that he wants to get in better shape:)


P.S. Ro, you lookgreat in your pic!

11-23-2002, 12:18 AM
I have to let DH have a certain amount of stuff in the house because when I cook healthy food HE loses weight!!! At 6 feet tall and 155 pounds, he can't afford that!! Usually I make him buy ice cream that I DON'T like. This is fine by him because he is an ice cream FANATIC, and would probably eat OKRA ice cream!!!

11-25-2002, 05:45 PM
This is the first day I am suppose to help him moniter his weight. So for breakfast he whips up some blueberry muffins. I point out what a serving size is. So of course he makes himself 3X that with lots of butter. I have my 2 (one serving=180 cal) and a piece of ham (70 cal). He's "too busy" to do anything else but run out the door. I go grocery shopping and to the gym. Then he wants to meet for lunch.


:o :o What is a dieter to do:?:

I had too much, he had too much. The upside I went to the denist and he started my root canal, so I won't be eating anything else today! The downside, HE DISCOVERED THERE IS A STARBUCKS NEXT TO HIS OFFICE!

I can feel my wallet getting lighter and see his tummy expanding already:dizzy: Better him than me!

Staying Strong IN SPITE OF DH!
Miss Chris:cool:

11-26-2002, 12:24 AM
AARRGGHH!!! Can't live WITH them.............

okay fine, can't live without them either.

11-26-2002, 10:34 AM
can't shoot em'
can't flush em'
certainly can't control them
can live without them, but as mine has a good job
and can find "the spot', I think I will keep him.

11-26-2002, 03:24 PM
Mine is gone out of town on business for a couple of days. Yeah, me time. Well, the kids and me time! Think we will cuddle, or make CHristmas Decorations maybe. I am not at all in the mood for Xmas this year, depressed. SO maybe by forcing myself to get into the mood, I will change my attitude.
Virginia:?: :halfempty :halffull:

11-26-2002, 04:20 PM
My DH is going out of town next week. I am not really looking forward to the alone time. I need my DH to help with the shorty otherwise he spends all week with grandma. Plus I am getting a root canal and I take pain awful. Ever since child birth I have decided that I will pass on any pain again in my life.

Tell me if forcing the mood helps. With DH being unemployed for a couple a months I am alot worred about cash this Christmas. It's taking the joy out of shopping.

Miss Chris:cool:

11-26-2002, 06:04 PM
My hunky husband is wonderful... likes to talk and snuggle, intelligent, loving, great looking, athletic, generous, cleans the house regularly (more than I do), completely faithful, adores me, spends time with me, AND is great in bed... I couldn't be more blessed. We have been married for 8 1/2 years and have developed an incredibly solid marriage. I have very little to complain about. :)

11-26-2002, 08:22 PM
Sojo, your DH sounds exactly like mine. :D
I'm blessed.

11-26-2002, 10:41 PM
Virginia, Sorry to hear that you're depressed. I don't think you can force it away Rochem. Unfortunately. But, doing stuff you love and getting into the spirit can't hurt. Isolating yourself and saying bah-hum-bug can make things worse.

Decorating and making the house look cheerful and colorful and spiffy and happy might help too. I don't want to sound too polyanna but I also love to make things and maybe making stuff would cheer you up and save money on presents too.

Baking is cool. But, watch out for the urge to eat everything you bake.
Oh gosh, has that been at all helpful...gee, and to think I get paid to do this.
Oy Vay.
Love, Soozie

ps Ellis and Sojo,
Thank goodness for men like yours! They are truly wonderful.
I'm so glad you have them in your lives!
:drill: :drill: :drill: (a few good men)

11-27-2002, 07:53 AM
My DH and I were in a store behind a woman at the cash yesterday... She was buying a book called ummmm, "The World is Full of Married Men". She had her teenage daughter with her, and she "looked divorced". (if you know what I mean) Sometimes I feel embarrassed at being so happy.
I think I just jinxed myself. :D My DH will probably leave me today.

Virginia, hon, how are you feeling today?
hugs to all...

11-27-2002, 10:13 AM
I was really careful about what I said about your hubbies...I didn't want to jinx you either!
Love, Soozie

11-27-2002, 10:39 AM
My DH is a keeper too! :love:

11-27-2002, 10:45 AM
1. He wants to take care of me
2. He works very hard
3. He can talk the philosophy of Star Trek with me
4. He loves me Fat or Thin
5. He supported me through college
6. He puts up with my crazy days (PMS)
7. When he looks at me I go all mushy
8. I can imagine us old together
9. He makes me laugh
10. He is the only person that understands my inside stuff

Miss Chris

11-27-2002, 03:18 PM
Thanks Soozie and Ellis
Yes I am feeling a little better today. The sun is shining here and that makes me happy. So far my kids are not fighting, that makes me very happy. My friend came over to watch my kids while I went to the gym last night, which made me realized I am a very lucky person. I have you girls who really care about me, and that warms my heart too, and the kiddies and I are going to paint a Xmas gift for their teachers tonight. I made a deal with them. If they behave themselves, than we will make Xmas gifts, do some baking, or something creative together at least once or twice a week.
They don't seem to realize that I have to settle arguments, make crafts, and be bubbly all day long working in a daycare center. I like my job most days, but when I come home and they start, I want to pull my hair out, or theirs. Just kidding!
ANyway, today is a new day. I have accepted that I will make do with the little bit of money I have and make as many gifts as possible.
As for my other problem, it is of the heart and can not be helped right now. Time will heal or strenghten! Somethings just hurt!

11-27-2002, 03:47 PM
Virginia, I'm sorry you're hurting, hon.
If you need any ideas for Christmas gifts, I've been making mine for YEARS...

11-27-2002, 04:33 PM
We are tight on money too this holiday season as my husband just spent the last couple of months unemployed. Yesterday I went to the dollar store and found some little gift bags full of hair accesories for the girls. Dug through the bargain bins at Old Navy to find some pullovers ($3.99 down from $16.50) for my nieces. I am not crafty so the grown-ups will have to lump it. We drew names on my husbands side and my mom and dad will get my visit for the holidays. Also I am going to look for some bargains tommorow morning.

Hope you feel better soon Virginia!

Happy Holiday,

Miss Chris

11-27-2002, 08:57 PM
thanks girls
Actually I went to the dollar store today and found these cool little plain wooden key holders, and I am going to paint them up for gifts. The kids each have one to give to their teacher and they are painting them however they want to.
I am also selling AVON so that is helping too
Thanks for caring and sharing

11-27-2002, 10:31 PM
WOW!! A lot of us here have wonderful partners! I like to tease about mine a lot, but he is my best friend. I just wish I could give him my fat, because HE would lose it in a month!!! (GRR!)

Hey Virginia!! Sorry things are feeling so bad right now. Things are kinda tight for us too. I bake cookies, muffins, or breads for a lot of people on our Christmas list. DH has a huge family, and they ALL buy presents for everybody. We have started buying gifts ONLY (and small ones at that) for the kids. I think that a lot of his family thinks we are cheap, but to me the holiday should be about FAMILY and not about how much stuff you get. I think that painting the key holders is a GREAT idea!!! Also, Soozie is right about isolating yourself. She is the expert professional, and I know from experience!! There are a few of us here who suffer from depression, and I have found that when I have a down period, forcing myself to get out REALLY helps. For ME it took medication to get to THAT point however!!! I am glad that you have great family and friends around you, because the support really helps too. ALSO, Kidding nothing!! Sometimes I'd like to pull out my kids' hair too!!! Nothing like having a tough day, trying to make dinner from nothing in 5 minutes and then having them start in on you!! We love 'em, but they drive us nuts sometimes and IT IS OKAY TO ADMIT IT!!

Miss Chris-I am going to have to go to Old Navy!!! Also, any guy that likes Star Trek is okay in my book!! (We are fans too!!)

Soozie-You are a sweetheart!!!

Ellis-You are too!!

As a matter of fact, YOU ALL ARE!!!

11-28-2002, 03:18 AM
Den thanks doll! I may be the expert but i loved what you said to Virginia..about our kids and when we've "had it up to here" as my mom used to say! It's okay to think it and normal long as you don't actually grab a handful of hair! :eek: Then it's time to go see your neighborhood therapist real quick!
And Virginia, I know Den and Ellis have both mentioned meds and I too am on meds. I'm more of an anxiety person but have some depression too. Sometimes it does take some chemical intervention so, don't suffer too long...if things don't get better consider some therapy or even the possibility of medication. However, you sound like you're really doing well inspite of feeling blue! Great attitude girlfriend!

We started doing a polyanna with the grownups in my family years ago. Its nice. The kids get presents...if they're younger than 16. Everyone else goes into the pot for the polyanna. There aren't that many kids under 16 in our family so its not too bad...just four right now.

My DP family isn't huge either. And there are only two grandchildren. We don't go crazy. It seems so nuts to go into debt for Christmas. I will say that two years ago we did go crazy for DD on Christmas. She was almost four years old that year and very into Santa. We found out that was a mistake because she got so many things she lost interest and didn't even want to open them all. She was totally overstimulated!

Last year we were more moderate and she was fine. This year she figured out that Santa is a myth! She is only five, well she'll be six in March. Hey other Moms when did your kids figure this out? My DP was devastated that our baby didn't believe! I told DP its just that our kid is so smart she started asking all these questions this year, like, how can the Easter bunny be real? Rabbits can't stand up and they are too little to carry baskets? If the Easter bunny isn't real who bought me those presents at Easter? and so on and so on...

I'm Jewish and DP is Catholic. DP says I should have kept the mystery going but when the kid was interrogating me at first I kept saying "I don't know" "Ask Mom (meaning DP)" but, finally I started answering honestly...I felt so conflicted...should I lie or tell the truth. DP was pissed at me for awhile but the kid really figured it out and just wanted I an *** for confirming it for her? Did I ruin her childhood? Thank you Dear Abby...I await your thoughtful reply.
Oy Vay i'm rambling!

11-28-2002, 08:20 AM
What, there is no Santa??? Now I am devastated! How can that be? Everyone keeps telling me yes Virginia there is a Santa!
You do whatever you feel is right for your child. No one can say what is right for her but you and you partner. I am sure she will be fine with it. Just explain to her the spirit of Santa. The kindness and goodwill expressed in people hearts.
My daughter is 10 and son 8 and as of right now they believe. I think my daughter is a little skeptical, but wants to believe so does not ask. Hopefully, your DD will still have a wonderful Xmas! Happy Thanksgiving!

11-28-2002, 11:26 AM
Thank you so much Virginia. I thought that we'd just proceed as if there is a Santa. And yes, I told my partner that I wanted to share more of a spiritual feeling with our litte chipmunk in regard to the holiday. So, we'll work on that. Thanks again and really and truly...
Yes Virginia, there is a Santa Claus.
Love, Soozie

11-28-2002, 05:35 PM
Soozie, how do you explain the Chanukah gifts then? Or do you and your DP not give gifts.
Pardon my ignorance here as I don't have any jewish friends to inform me.

Could you not use the same explanation for Christmas gifts?

Just curious as I may have kids someday and have to deal with this.

My mom told me when I was younger that although Santa brought the gifts that mysteriously appeared on Christmas morning, my parents had to pay Santa for them. That way I didn't think everything was free and came up with a reasonable list every year. We still put out cookies and milk for Santa
and they were gone every morning (Thanks to Dad, he even left one with a bite out of it :lol: )

11-28-2002, 07:49 PM
Soozie-My kids believed in Santa until 8 or 9. We always put Gelt in their stockings, and told them that Santa was Jewish. My Mom says when I was 6 I asked her about Santa, and she reluctantly admitted that he did not exist. THEN I said, "The same goes for the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy too, doesn't it?" She says she was devastated!! However, when I was 6 I also asked Santa (at the store) for a fairy. Apparently he responded, "How about an Easy Bake oven kid?" I think sometimes they go back and forth for a while. I remember "hearing Santa" after i didn't believe in him any more. She MAY convince herself again for Christmas. I always told the kids that the store santas were Santa's helper. I think once they ask you really have to tell them the truth. Most of them understand that it is a nice idea, even if not reality. Although my 12 year old was pissed for a couple of years about how adults lie to kids!!! We STILL give them a Santa gift though!!! (It drives them nuts...we pretend that WE believe, and WE didn't leave the gift!)

Mauvais-We left milk (or hot chocolate) and cookies until we were teenagers. THEN we left cookies and a scotch!!! My parents always left cookie crumbs too (so did we...), but NEVER left any of the scotch!!!

Virginia-I agree with you. The spirit of Santa is a good way to deal with it, because then they get into GIVING too; not just getting gifts.

11-28-2002, 07:55 PM
OH!! Funny friend (who is Jewish) went to see Santa with me when we were about 7. As we were waiting in line a talking Christmas tree (!!) was telling us that soon it would be Christmas and it would be in our house. My friend said, " No you won't." Tree said, "Yes I will." Friend said, "NO, YOU WON'T." Tree said, "Yes, it will be Christmas and I woill come to your house." After a few more go rounds my friend said, "No, I'm Chanukah NOT Christmas."

We had a great time. Her family would come down and help us decorate the tree, and we'd go to their house during Chanukah and help light the candles and eat potato latkes. (I WANT SOME NOW!!!)

11-28-2002, 11:34 PM
Den if you can get here by Saturday you can join us for potato latkes. The whole family will be here so you can just blend one would notice.
With Chanukah you always tell the kids that the presents are from Mom or Dad or Pop-pop or Auntie or whatever. No Santa thing or stuff like that. Just a time to give to each other to celebrate the miracle of the Maccabees and the miracle of the lights. I'll look for a website that has the story of Chanukah on it. There must be one.

Traditionally Chanukah was a time to play with dreidles...little spinning tops and eat latkes and donuts because they are fried in oil and it was the oil that lasted in the lamp in the temple for eight days when it only should have lasted one day...and kids were given Chanukah gelt...gelt is money in Yiddish. But, I assume, because of the close proximity to Christmas and the whole gift thing Chanukah evolved into a gift giving holiday. But, that tradition is fairly modern. Oh and of course each of the eight nights we light the menorah. Actually avant garde Jews call the Chanukah menorah a "Chanukiah" pronounced Cha (like your clearing your throat) new-key-yah with the emphasis on the first syllable where your clearing your throat!

The Chanukiah has room for nine candles. Eight for the eight nights and one as a gaurdian to watch over the others. That one is usually the highest and is called the light the Shamash and hold it while you sing the prayers and then use it to light the others. First night you light the Shamash and one candle, second night Shamash and two candles..etc. Until on the last night you light the Shamash and all of the candles.

Wow, thats probably alot more than you needed to know.

11-28-2002, 11:38 PM
Wish I COULD join you Soozie!!!

11-29-2002, 07:52 AM
No Soozie,
Don't stop there! I love hearing about it, and you tell it so well.
I too love potato latkes. I used to make them for the Jewish family I worked for . I always loved this time of year. So interesting!

11-29-2002, 11:25 AM
Okay Virginia and Den,
I'm dropped some latkes in the mail...hope they make it while they're still warm!
Love, Soozie

11-29-2002, 06:01 PM
DH is forcing me to go out to dinner tonight-waaaahhh! This is one of the reasons I can't stay OP on the weekends!

He was supposed to take something out of the freezer for dinner before he left for work this morning but he "forgot" (yeah, accidentally on purpose I'll bet :lol: )

11-29-2002, 09:52 PM
Soozie-PROMISES PROMISES!!!!!!! And for you and Virginia......Sour cream or applesauce? I prefer sour cream myself!!!

Mauvais-Your DH sounds a lot like me!!! Of course one CAN use tyhe microwave to defrost the dinner, but I always conveniently forget that until AFTER we've eaten out!!!!

11-29-2002, 09:55 PM
Applesauce please Den! I love sour cream, but gotta watch those calories!

11-29-2002, 09:56 PM
I watch them too!!! As they slide down my throat!!!

11-29-2002, 10:43 PM
Well, we ended ujp going to a Greek restaurant :T

I skipped the moussaka and went for a healthy marinated grilled chicken and shrimp brochette dish. I also managed to stop myself from ordering a dessert:) Whew!

11-30-2002, 01:40 PM

11-30-2002, 04:02 PM
Don't you have no-fat sour cream? It's quite acceptable once you get used to it.

12-01-2002, 07:48 AM
I did end up buying fat free sour cream for the party and it was very good. I only tasted a bit but no one even knew the difference! I guess with the delicious greasy potato latke underneath.....

the party was really fun. everyone had a great time! I can't believe it's Sunday though...I thought that a four day weekend would feel relaxing but, I'm already exhausted and the work week hasn't even started. And we're having company for dinner tonight. Though, we all agreed to do takeout.

I think that I'm up a pound so today I'll be really careful with my food and I must, must, must get back to the gym. Here I am again. Anytime I break the pattern it is so hard for me to get back. Have to get there this week.

Chris, I know you didn't post here but while I'm writing...Welcome back! Girl you've been through the wringer! My prayers are with you and your father and father-in-law, and your children!!!!

talk to you later chickies!

12-01-2002, 08:37 AM
Happy Chanukah, sooz! And anyone else who is celebrating it!
12-01-2002, 08:55 AM
Good Morning Ladies! This thread cracks me up! :D I guess maybe because I get to see everyone else struggle with what I think is a problem just for me! LOL!

If it makes anyone feel better, while I was fighting t lose the majority of the wieght DH was trying to be supportive & when he got sick of Chicken he would take the kids out to eat alone for some greasy pizza & fries. When I lost about 25 he was then really supportive, realizing that I was not just in this for a week then would quit. Well 3 weeks ago we went to my 15 year high school reunion. Now most of these people did not even see me at my fattest, but a few did. Anyway an old boyfriend (he did see me at a pretty big size) came up & gave me a hug & told me I looked great even better than in highschool! Then another old friend came up & told me that I looked better than all of the others there & look how fat all the cheerleaders are now! We laughed & I did say that I was worse than that last year at this time. Her husband laughed & told DH to look out, that the cheerleaders were looking at me with daggers & the jocks with lust. We all were just joking, but then I noticed a change in DH. When we go out now he holds my hand & makes sure that he is with me & attentive. He now also started to work out with me & is yelling at me for bringing home stuff that he doesn't want to eat! LOL! Now consider this is the DH that only weighs about 10 pounds more than he did when we met 15 years ago! Ok so now that I have rambled on, just remember this when DHs bring home those cakes, keep at it & someday it will be him yelling at you for buying him oreos! LOL!

12-01-2002, 10:19 AM
Chris... sounds like you've "caught" your DH's eye again. :lol:
Wonderful.... sometimes it takes a few looks from other men to make a husband take a good look at what a great woman he's got.

Soozie... happy Chanukah again. I'm usually on top of Jewish celebrations, but this year I have NO IDEA which day it's on. :D

12-01-2002, 11:40 PM
Chris-TOO FUNNY!!!

Soozie-Glad to hear the party was so much fun!! I know what you mean about being tired! I spent the day helping "SISTERBOSS" (my friend/boss!) clean up the workroom at her house. I NEED A VACATION!!!

Ellis-You sexy thing you!!!

12-02-2002, 12:22 AM
Den? What do you mean, "sexy"? Did I miss something?

12-02-2002, 11:39 PM

Your DH is crazy about you.

12-03-2002, 08:33 AM
simper. How sweet. :smug:

12-03-2002, 01:55 PM
Yes........AND SEXY!!!!!

12-03-2002, 04:11 PM
I think almost every woman I meet has a quality that can be defined as sexy.

Things I find sexy:
1. Confidence
2. The ability to find laughter and absurdity
3. Trying new things
4. My husband
5. Brains

Brains is probably a big one. When Carl Sagan was alive I had a huge crush( I will only take 2-3 jokes on this) and my husband would tease me relentlessly about it.

So now I am betting everyone here found their sexy thing (and I am sure it wasn't my husband :lol: )

He did try to kill my diet again the other day! Lets just say he's out of town, I am back on track, and he can kiss mine till Christmas with his little splurge days!

Miss Chris:smug:

12-03-2002, 04:40 PM
Who the heck was Carl Sagan? :D

Yes, there are more sexy women out there than there are men. Definitely! And looks don't come into it. I see a lot of women who are considered "ugly" by men who look so beautiful in my eyes. They have an aura about them. And yes... confidence is important.

12-03-2002, 07:57 PM
Originally posted by rochemist
He did try to kill my diet again the other day! Lets just say he's out of town,

You didn't kill him did you?!?!?! LOL! :lol: No I know all about the peope who like to sabotage the diet, I've had my share of them.

To me the sexiest thing in the world is surprise. I love it when you think someone is one way and they completely surprise you. You know, the guy who seems like a yuppie, only to have an Indian tapestry for a bed spread, and has some weird artsy movie in his DVD player. Of course this doesn't work if the guy looks like a hippie, and has a swastika on his bed, and a copy of Mein Khampf on his bedside table. LOL!!!!!

12-03-2002, 08:02 PM
heh heh

12-03-2002, 08:09 PM
Right there with you Ro!

Things I find sexy about men and women:

1. Brains

2. Humour

3. Confidence

4. Creativity

5. Personal style

6. A sense of adventure

7. Manners

12-06-2002, 03:01 PM
Carl Sagan was a famous mathematician he wrote the book Contact which was later made into a movie with Jodie Foster. He was often quoted for his thoughts on space and probability.<Sigh> I believe he passed away about 10 years ago, and he is sorely missed in the scientific world. Once again proving why I am the Godess of Geeks:o

I think VelvetCyberPunk hit something there with suprise. But I was watching this movie "Enough" the other night. I think Jennifer Lopez was VERY suprised at the fact she married a pig. That would be too much suprise for me.

My DH comes home from Atlanta today:dance: I have been sabotaging my diet enough while he was out of town. I do think I will let him take me to dinner for one last hurrah and then back to to the grind ladies. I am sick of weighing over 200 lbs!

Miss Chris:cool: