General chatter - Do you ever find yourself comparing your weight and size to others...




mandagrl1
01-05-2011, 11:59 AM
I ask this because I've watched or read a lot about weight loss and often see photos or wieghts and sizes of people and think "how is is that they weigh more or less than I do, but we wear the same size in pants?". I know that height effects weight, but even in cases where it lists height; weight and pants size, I've seen this be very different (I'm talking like a 30-40lb difference). I just think that's interesting. I consistently wear an 18 in most any pants with the odd exception with some jeans where I'll need a 20 if they're cut differently.

I'm also one of those that watches shows like TBL and thinks-she's the same weight as me-is that what I look like?


Coondocks
01-05-2011, 12:03 PM
I do that, more so lately i've noticed my reaction is "wow, do I look like that too?" I still have the 'fat glasses' on and can't always see the differences in my physical appearance

Eliana
01-05-2011, 12:05 PM
Only all the time. ;) I'm particularly bad about it here, I admit.

It has everything to do with muscle mass. ;) Two women the same height/weight can have two dress size differences between them. The woman in the larger dress size probably does not lift weights, or does so minimally. The woman in the smaller dress size probably lifts strenuously.

I started out in the higher dress size category, always amazed that women my height/weight wore sizes two down from mine! Now I'm the one wearing two sizes smaller than my height/weight would suggest.

I think it's a personal preference which category you'd rather be in. I can tell you being the one in the smaller size is hard mentally because that number on the scale messes with my head!! I am wearing a size 6 and yet I'm STILL overweight!! :dizzy: That drives me nuts. But...I'm in a size 6. We do not wear our weights on foreheads. Everyone else just sees the 6...I'm the only one who sees the 154.


alexandraT
01-05-2011, 12:37 PM
OMG, ALL.THE.TIME. It's really bad because in the end, there will always be someone thinner than me. Even at my gym, all the girls there are absolutely tiny, so I'll be feeling good about myself, than go to take a class at the gym, and feel huge. Yes, at 135 and 5'6, they make me feel huge. To me they are the equivalent of the popular girls in high school - I just do not see myself as one of them!

swells
01-05-2011, 01:04 PM
I do this all the time too... I'm always looking at other people and wondering what they weigh or what size they're wearing. I've seriously thought about approaching a girl before and asking what size she wore because what she looked like is what I imagine I'd like to... (I didn't stop her, by the way ;) )
Since I've been in weight loss mode I've compared myself often, not necessarily in a bad way but sometimes.

matt_H
01-05-2011, 01:10 PM
Even guys do this :)

flippychick
01-05-2011, 01:18 PM
Yes, I do it and I wish SO much that I didn't. It doesn't matter what I look like compared to someone else if I see myself as huge. It doesn't matter if I try on someone else's clothes that I consider to be very thin and they fit me. I still see me NOT looking the way I want.... It's a slippery slope comparing because there's no end to it.

Goody3shoes
01-05-2011, 01:46 PM
I compare myself to people all the time. I see larger girl models online or in magazines when i'm shopping and i'm not saying that they aren't pretty, but when choosing sizes it makes me rather sad that they are the same size and I wonder if I'm really that big. I used to be a size 0 and even then thought I was fat. (yay for the eyes of an anorexic right?) I've always had to wear larger shirts because even at my smallest my bust was rather large, so now when I look at 1x or 2x shirts I ask my boyfriend "Do I look like that?" Even though the size of my shirts themselves haven't gone up because i've always worn very large tops to accommodate my 36G's I hate it now because I feel like since the rest of me has ballooned it's not ok to be the size i used to.

RoseRodent
01-05-2011, 01:54 PM
Totally. Only my muscle mass thing often comes up the other way around, I suck at cardio, always have. I used to beat myself up about it and try really hard and suffer and kill myself thinking I'd get "fitter" one day but I never did. Then I found out I have a medical condition. Oops. So now I reckon if I am only any good at lifting small reps of heavy weights then I'll be a weight-lifter, no point trying to be something I'm not, right?

Although I weigh more than most people my dress size in some senses, I also envy some of the other girls their slim arms. Because I have muscles which still have a fat layer over the top it looks like I am gigantically fat. Similarly my tree-trunk legs. OK so (in good health) I'll be the one who can comfortably move a wardrobe, but I still look at those chicken legs on some skinny people and think I'd love to look like that every now and then.

Others, however, I often feel they have just shopped at stores which do a lot of vanity sizing. I remember clearly a TV show that was on here in the UK for a few weeks (which was sadly totally overshadowed by the arguments over a transsexual participant) and the girl was a size 20 and lost about 12lbs and then they went shopping to see if she could fit into her goal pants in a size 14. Well, they must have crowbarred her into the biggest 14 they could find somehow, and the muffin-top was laugh out loud, she looked like a sausage in a girdle, but she jumped up and down and they crowed that she'd had her success cos she was in the size 14. I was also wearing a 14 at the time and I was 29lbs lighter and I was somewhat crowbarred into my own size 14s.

milmin2043
01-05-2011, 03:01 PM
(((roserodent)))
I love your posts!! Crowbarred...my new favorite word!
Thanks for the giggle, as usual.

Initiative
01-05-2011, 03:42 PM
I feel like that all the time. Even though with my structure I look thinner than my weight says, I get self conscious because my frame is a lot larger than most. I get really sad because I know I wont look and be as fair as other girls, but I get really muscly when I'm thin... so... I guess that makes up for it.

saef
01-05-2011, 04:04 PM
Any time that I do this, it's been self-defeating, so I try not to.

In my experience, it's only another way that I use to criticize myself & feel unhappy over some aspects of my appearance that are genetically determined.

In this process, I have gotten much better at separating out the things that I can change from the things that I can't -- those which would require surgery -- or even reincarnation into another body.

mandagrl1
01-05-2011, 04:40 PM
Although I weigh more than most people my dress size in some senses, I also envy some of the other girls their slim arms. Because I have muscles which still have a fat layer over the top it looks like I am gigantically fat. Similarly my tree-trunk legs. OK so (in good health) I'll be the one who can comfortably move a wardrobe, but I still look at those chicken legs on some skinny people and think I'd love to look like that every now and then.

:yes:That is SO me. It's strange, because my sister and my mom for instance, both are overweight like me. In fact, my sister and I are probably within 10 lbs of one another and only have one dress size between us, however, they both have tiny arms and legs! I however, like you, am strong as all get out and have giant arms with the lovely fat layer and tree trunks for legs! My husband loves my legs-but seriously, my calf muscles rival most thinner ladies THIGHS. It's crazy. I'm the only female on either side of my family who has this body type.

I do weights just about everytime I hit the gym, but just as part of the circuit I do. They aren't too heavy (well, to me they aren't...) and I don't do too many reps, but even as a kid, I have always been very strong (my husband says God must've given me some unnatural strength because I'm the wife who moves things like washers, dryers and refridgerators on my own when he's not around, ha!). i reckon that explains my querie then! I feel like I distribute my weight pretty evenly all over (joy, of joys, eh?!) so it's always been strange to see women who wear the same size that weigh some 30 lbs less than me.

PS: If I can crowbar myself into some size 14's, I will totally be all :carrot::carrot: in em! Hahaha!

RoseRodent
01-05-2011, 05:30 PM
LOL @ that, for sure I have done some crazy things. My husband was terrified leaving me in the house alone pregnant in case he came home and found I'd lifted a refrigerator or something. He must never know that I lifted up a 14 foot trampoline cos I wanted to mow the lawn. I once fitted carpet under a piano, still no idea how I just did it, I'm guessing I lifted the piano. One day when pregnant I got hubby to get something out for me from under the bed and he huffed and puffed and couldn't figure what to do to get it out so exasperated I told him lift up the bed with one hand, then pull out the box with the other. He still jokes with me about it.

It's kinda crazy cos I can lift several reps/sets of 15lb hand weights overhead press in properly controlled conditions, but I absolutely totally cannot lift a kettle with 2 cups of water in it because I can't turn my hand, I can only lift straight up and down.

SouthLake
01-05-2011, 07:00 PM
All the time. I'm trying to kick the habit because I know how bad it is for me but it's pretty ingrained in me. I always feel like throwing a tantrum because, darnit, the world just isn't fair. Though I have small wrists, neck, ankles, etc. for my height, it seems like the rest of my bone structure is doomed to always make me feel "large".

I'm the opposite of most of you guys- I can be taller than you, weigh less than you, and wear three sizes larger than you, all at the same time. In highschool, I had 19% body fat at 130-135 pounds and lifted weights religiously. I also wore a size 11. It killed me, here I was, fitter than any of my friends, and I was one size away from wearing the largest size they made for juniors. My first month of college, I dropped over 20 pounds and hit my low weight of 108. (disclaimer- definitely not an intentional weight loss. though in some ways, I blame it for my current bad eating habits, as I turned to the dessert bar to keep my weight up) Even at 108 pounds, just under 5'9", I could barely button a 6.

But, I can't help but compare myself to these women who are size 4s, 2s, 0s, 6s. And then I get all tantrumy like a 3 year old. It's just another habit I need to break. (like my continuing feeling that I NEED dessert after dinner...)

JayZeeJay
01-05-2011, 07:48 PM
Like many others, I try not to make comparisons but I catch myself doing it, and kick myself for it. Especially for comparing clothing sizes, when we all know how erratic THOSE can be.
This thread is helpful though. Seeing everyone's various sizes and weights and the almost-total lack of correlation between the two is showing me the utter pointlessness of making comparisons.

LandonsBaby
01-05-2011, 07:57 PM
I don't compare clothing sizes but just size in general. I will watch a show and think I look like a miniature version (since I'm a midget, I know I'm obviously not exactly the same size) of the person on the show. But then, they have 100lbs or more to lose and I don't. So, I'm not seeing something right.

GabrielleEmersyn
01-06-2011, 02:32 AM
Yea, way too much... I guess it's just human nature though....

Linsy
01-06-2011, 02:59 AM
When I see people who weigh the same as me, I do the whole "am I really THAT big?"

Sometimes I am, but sometimes I'm probably not. It just depends on the person, how active they are, how they carry their weight, how tall they are, a lot of things.

Shopaholic1204
01-06-2011, 11:22 AM
I sometimes do that. Although, when I used to watch TBL, someone was the exact weight as me..and I KNEW I didn't look like her. But after staring at her through the rest of the show, I ended up thinking I did look like her..and I was depressed for the rest of the night. LoL!!

krampus
01-06-2011, 10:32 PM
I'm all about comparing. I still don't "know" what size I wear or how big I am so looking at other people and scrutinizing their bodies and making guesses on their sizes etc is always interesting.

It's a pretty unproductive thing to do when it comes down to it, but I think it's human nature to want to know where we stand in relation to others.

shcirerf
01-06-2011, 11:02 PM
I am guilty of trying to make the judgement call between myself and others.

But over the weekend I read a very interesting article about clothes shopping. It said, cut all the size tags out of all your clothes and go forth and BUY what FITS!

I've been hanging out here for awhile and I've seen people taller, shorter, heavier and lighter than me who are wearing smaller sizes than me. But I came to realize that we live in different areas of the country/world and buy clothes in different places from different mfgs.

Where I live, a woman 5'5" at 145 will buy jeans ranging from an 8-12 depending on the brand/cut/rise and how she is built and how she wants her jeans to fit. But you will see lots of gals here at that height and weight who are in 2's and 4's. :dizzy: Where I live, at 5'5" , 145, I could not get a 2 on one leg. :dizzy:

I think we should forget about the size tag, and buy what fits and looks good on us!

RoseRodent
01-07-2011, 05:54 AM
Totally agree about how you want your clothes to fit. I remember looking at someone's pictures and she said look how my T-shirt "is like hanging off me", and I thought gosh, personally I'd consider that T-shirt unbearably snug. It's not cos her T-shirt was tight, compared to her other pictures and how she clearly chooses to wear her clothes it really was hanging off her. I reckon I could get in a UK12 if I wanted something that touched me in all sorts of irritating places, but I'd rather climb in a 16 and feel free to move my arms. Most of my clothes are a men's large, they are starting to get quite comically big now and I'll really have to change them, but I'm unlikely to ever be someone who likes skinny jeans.

NYGiantsGirl
01-07-2011, 02:01 PM
One of my New Year's resolutions is to stop doing this. I'll drive myself insane otherwise.

Everyone's different, right?

Mickeypnd
01-07-2011, 03:13 PM
I do this all the time, and I know my bf gets sick of it, but i can't help it. . .

mascara blue
01-10-2011, 02:27 AM
I do that all the time. Its funny though because I always see myself as really big but last week, I was having coffee with my mum and htis woman walked by. I asked my mum if she was the same size as me. My mum said no, and pointed to this slim lady and said you are about the same size as her but your arms are slimmer. I said No way! If I was like her, id be happy! and she said well be happy because you are! But I can never see myself thin. I can see that I wear smaller size clothes but in my head I am still 95kg, size 18! so sad :(

Nebuchadnezzar
01-10-2011, 04:16 AM
Oh-hoooo yeah, all day, every day!

I used to look at people bigger than me and do that self-hating/petty thing where I'd mentally quip "Well, at least I'm not THAT big". Not I look at them and almost feel a broken sort of kinship. Like I wanna pull them aside and go " Chin up, girl. I know what its like to feel trapped in your own body".

I'm really glad I don't do that anymore. Now I still look at people who seem heavier than me (especially about the face) but can weigh upwards of 70lbs less and think "How the crap?" And I still get jealous of those who are my size and ended up pear-shaped instead of apple. I would SO rather have massively wide hips and thighs rather than just the top of my thighs being humungous and a giant stomach that even a trucker would cower before.

I call it Brutus. :/ It makes my life a living ****.

Other than that yeah, I'm always looking at people and guessing their weight, lamenting being so short that my fat piles on dramatically and unevenly near my center, wishing I could "carry it well", and all that like the other more stylin' big girls.