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11-18-2002, 10:57 AM
Hello everyone.

I have a favor to ask of you. My girlfriend is about 3 months pregnant and something happened to her over the weekend with regard to her pregnancy. She may or not lose the baby as a result.

Could you please send cyberprayers and some goodvibes her way?


11-18-2002, 11:16 AM
Will do!

Hope the baby will be okay. I'll be sending good thoughts out.....

:grouphug: :grouphug:

11-18-2002, 12:18 PM
Happy baby thoughts and lots of hugs on the way....


11-18-2002, 02:30 PM
My good vibes and cyberprayers are with you hon. I hope the little one will be healthy, and everyone is happy. :goodvibes :grouphug:

11-18-2002, 03:06 PM
Sure Mauvaisroux
Hope both will be fine! Will be praying for them!

11-18-2002, 08:03 PM
Hugs and prayers from me, Mauvais.
love ellis xoxo

11-18-2002, 11:28 PM
Thanks everyone.

We were all hoping things would be okay but unfortunately my GF did lose the baby. I feel so awful for her as she really wanted this and was so excited about having a child.

11-19-2002, 08:34 AM
I'm so sorry, Mauvais. :( I know it's not terribly consoling, but I always feel when things like that happen that it just wasn't meant to be. It's happened to a lot of us. I'm quite sure that your friend will have a successful pregnancy in the future, but for now I'll keep her in my prayers. I know how devastated she must be.

11-19-2002, 08:40 AM
So sorry Mauvaisroux about your friends loss, and I know you feel badly too. Keeping you both in my prayers!
Big hugs!

11-19-2002, 09:08 AM
I am so sorry Mauvais. :grouphug: :(

11-19-2002, 09:27 AM
Not to detract from your friend; Mauvais, but I wonder if you would all remember Monique again in your thoughts/prayers. She's starting her radiation treatment today. 10 treatments and then she starts chemo. They've found a lump in her brain, as well as the two on her lungs. :(
Thanks everyone.

11-19-2002, 09:42 AM
Hugs to you and Monique too Ellis. :(

11-19-2002, 10:53 AM
You got it Ellis. Sending prayers for Monique.

11-19-2002, 11:01 AM
Thank you Squeak and Mauvais. :wave:

11-19-2002, 01:04 PM
Mauvais...I'm so sorry about your friend...she must be so sad...Best wishes to her for a future successful pregnancy.

Ellis...lots of :goodvibes: and prayers for Monique.

I have a request too...

I got to work the other night and recieved a call from a dear friend whose Mom was in the ER. I ran down to see her, found out that she was admitted with a possible cerebral hemorrhage. When they did the work up, they found a large mass in her lungs, and think that the brain thing may be a metastasis of that mass. This woman was like my second mother when we were in high school, I spent more time at their house than I did at my own. Please send some good thoughts and prayers to Joan, she is a real sweetheart.

Take care all...

11-19-2002, 01:05 PM
Mauvais-So sorry to hear that your friend lost the baby. I'll still be sending good vibes out for her.

Ellis-Lots of good thoughts and healing vibes going out for Monique.

11-19-2002, 01:19 PM
Thank you, Kat. :)
Yes, lot's of prayers for sweet Joan. Hugs, sweetie...

11-19-2002, 01:20 PM
:grouphug: Hugs to Kat & Joan.

And to everyone else for that matter. Things don't seem to be going well. :(

11-19-2002, 01:23 PM
Oh, and thank you, Den darling... I didn't see you there. :grouphug:

11-19-2002, 01:26 PM
And Den... please let us know how your mom is doing. Hugs and prayers for her, too. :df:

11-19-2002, 09:21 PM
Kat!! I was posting at the same time as you and missed your message. I am sending out lots of good thoughts for you and Joan as well.

Ellis-My Mom is going back for another Cysto in late Jan. The doctor wants to do another biopsy and make sure he got all the cancer. She is holding up pretty well though!!! (Better than the rest of us I think!!) Thanks for asking sweetie!!

11-19-2002, 11:46 PM
Prayers and healing vibes :goodvibes: heading Joan and Den's Mom's way.

11-21-2002, 05:09 AM
I am praying for Monique, and Joan. Mauvais, I am so sorry to hear your girlfriend lost her baby. I wish I could help more. My thought are with you.

11-25-2002, 11:56 AM
Thanks Velvet.

Any news on Den's Mom and Joan?

11-25-2002, 03:12 PM
Has anyone heard from Christina, it has been ages since she has posted. Chris if you are out there lurking somewhere please drop in and tell us how you are doing. We worry ya know!

11-25-2002, 04:24 PM

sending a big hug and warm thoughts of wellness to my grrlfriends and their friends and families.....

terri - trying to hang onto my sanity today as the stress of year end mania sets in

11-25-2002, 04:36 PM
Hang in there, Terrigrrl... we love you!
And yes... how is Joan, Kat? And your mom, Den?
And Mauvais, how is your friend doing?
Monique is on her ummmm, 6th day of radiation. She's feeling very crappy.
Love and hugs to all.

11-25-2002, 10:35 PM
My friend seems to be dealing with things really well. She figures it was nature's way of telling her that it was meant to be this time.

She will probably try again in a while.

11-26-2002, 12:18 AM
My Mom is in a holding pattern until her next cystoscopy, which will be in January. She is doing REALLY well emotionally. Keeping up on all of her activities (Garden club, book club, financial club, senior aerobics, getting together with friends or with me for lunch...)

Wish I had her energy!!!!

Good strong vibes for Monique and Joan.....

12-10-2002, 08:29 AM
Kat... I'm sorry... this thread disappeared for a while. How is Joan doing? Hugs and prayers...

Would you all remember little Dougie this week, please? He's having his operation this Thursday. The surgeons are going to try to remove the bone growth from his brain.
Thank you!

12-10-2002, 10:39 AM
Den-Glad your mom is doing okay.

Ellis- sending :goodvibes: to Dougie for a successful operation.

Kat-hope Joan is doing well.

12-10-2002, 10:40 AM
Prayers & good wishes for Monique, Joan, Den's mom, Mauvais' friend & Dougie.

If I was into organized things I would probably be a Quaker (it's in my ancestry awhile back anyhow) and they believe that we all have an 'inner light' inside us. If we can send that out I am sending some of mine to you and to your own light.

Wish I could be there to help and listen. You are all in my thoughts!

Love, Lidian

12-10-2002, 10:45 AM
Mauvais and Lidian... thank you so much.
I like that "Quaker" idea. :)

12-10-2002, 05:31 PM
YES!! Thanks to all of you!! And I'm thinking of and sending out healing vibes for Dougie, Joan, Mauvais' friend (How is she holding up?)

12-10-2002, 06:36 PM
Happy thoughts and lots of hugs to all of you and your loved ones, well or not. (But extra to you chickies who need it)


12-10-2002, 07:48 PM
My friend seems to be holding up okay and going about business as usual except for the many doctor's appointments she now has to attend to make sure everything is okay. I think she is getting sick of looking at doctors and just wants everything over with so she can move on. Her and her DH want to try again.

12-11-2002, 12:06 AM
Thank you Den and Squeak. :wave:

Mauvais, I'm glad your friend is doing okay. I'll keep her in my thoughts...

12-12-2002, 07:18 PM
Ellis-any news on little Dougie yet?

12-12-2002, 07:30 PM
I'm anxiously awaiting news, Mauvais. Thank you for asking. :)
Hopefully my sister will learn something tomorrow... I'll let you know as soon as I hear.

12-13-2002, 12:48 AM
my grandmother passed away yesterday. I am very sad... she took care of me as a young child while my parents worked. She was 92 and not doing well, so it is better this way. However, it is still very sad. The funeral is on Saturday.

12-13-2002, 07:45 AM
I'm so sorry SoJo :(


12-13-2002, 08:30 AM
Oh, Sojo... I'm so sorry. :cry: Love and prayers, sweetie. We'll be thinking about you this week.
How wonderful that you have such good memories to keep with you always.

12-13-2002, 09:09 AM
I am so sorry sweetie! I wish there was something I could do for you. I was not fortunate like you to have grandparents alive for me. My last living grandparent, me mom's mother passed away when I was only two, and really do not remember her well. My mom was 43 when she had me and my dad 46 so their parents were much older than that.
You were so lucky to have her in you live, to love and be loved by her must have been fantastic. Remember all the wonderful things about her life and your life with her. Celebrate her life, do something today that she will look down on you and say "that's my girl"!
Sending you big warm hugs!

12-13-2002, 11:25 AM
Sojo - sorry to hear about your grandmother

sending a hug and warm thoughts your way

Love, Terri

12-13-2002, 11:55 AM
Aw, Sojo. I am sad for you. Cherish the wonderful memories and know that your Grandmother will always be there inside you.

12-13-2002, 01:01 PM
Sojo- {{{HUGS}}}}

12-13-2002, 01:10 PM

I am sorry to hear about your grandmother. Let us know if
there's anything we can do.


12-13-2002, 01:26 PM
I'm feeling a little more at peace with things today... although I'm sure tomorrow at the funeral it will be very difficult. Tonight we are heading down to my parents to stay over night. My sisters and their families will all be there so I am looking forward to seeing everyone. I am blessed with a very close and loving family. Can't wait to hug all of my nieces and nephews.

I am also blessed to have known two great-grandparents and both sets of grandparents. My father's grandparents are just in their 70's so hopefully I will have many more years with them around.

On Sunday my sister's baby boy is getting baptized... so we have a funeral on Saturday and then a Baptism on Sunday. Such is the cycle of life I guess... death and birth.

12-13-2002, 07:21 PM
Sojo, I'm glad you're feeling a little better today. Hugs and prayers for tomorrow. How wonderful that you have such a large, loving family. You truly are blessed.

On another note, I just received an email from my sister regarding little Dougie. He had the operation yesterday, and ... I don't know if this is true or not... my sister was going to go into the hospital to see him tonight, but apparently he's going HOME this evening! Doesn't seem possible... either there's been an error in communications, or there's been a freakin' miracle!!
According to his brother, Dougie has "staples in his head". :)

Thank you everyone for your prayers and good wishes.

12-13-2002, 10:35 PM
Wonderful news, Ellis! Hugs to all.

12-13-2002, 11:16 PM
That is very exciting Ellis! :)

I am glad you are feeling ok Sojo. I will be thinking of you tomorrow.

I miss my grandmother. She passed away in January one week before her birthday. She was my last grandparent. My grandfather died over 6 years ago. I live in my grandparents' old apartment and I got a Christmas card today for my grandmother. All I could do was call my mom and tell her. Now she is going to write the woman a note to let her know.

My other grandmother died when I was 12. I never knew my other grandfather. He died exactly 1 month before I was born.


12-14-2002, 01:34 AM
Oh Sojo, I'm so sorry about your Grandma. I lost my Grandma in Dec. of 1995, so I know how you feel. I was very close to my grandma, she snuck in to watch me be born (I was born at the end of the 60s when no one but the hospital staff could be in delivery) She watched me through the window in the door, and almost got kicked out of the Hospital. We were extremely close thereafter. It's hard I know, but we love you and are here for you. :grouphug:

12-14-2002, 07:29 AM
Oh Ellis
That is fantastic news, and at CHristmas time too. What a miracle. Will be praying for you, your sister, Dougie and his family.
I will be thinking and praying for you and your family today too Sojo. It will be a very tough day, but remember what I said earlier, Celebrate her life. Think of all the wonderful things you did together and let her love flow through you and into you loving family.
Big hug

12-15-2002, 12:54 AM
Sojo-I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother. My Dad's Mom died just over a year ago, and I still miss her. But it is good to know that they won't have to suffer any more. My Grandmother stayed a bit too long, and it was very difficult for her AND the family at the end. Your grandmother is part of who YOU are, and she will always be there inside you.

Ellis-Good news about Dougie!!

12-15-2002, 11:13 AM
ok, I just need to get this out, it has been giving me anxiety fits all weekend - I found out on Friday that I need another root canal - and fast - so I'm going on Wed.

In and of itself, this wouldn't be all that bad - but this is my 3rd one this year! :(

And the other 2 were performed by a dentist who ran a little shop of horrors - no lie - he was recently accused of drinking on the job. I got his name from a list of dentists who take emergencies - be ware of those in the future. He slammed my head on the chair when I jumped in pain.

I am going to a different dentist this time - but anxiety level is very high since this will be the first procedure since Dr. death.

if someone knows a way to calm down, please let me know.

thanks, terri

12-15-2002, 02:38 PM
Okay Terri, this is all I've got for you... I don't suppose this will help, but when I started reading your post my mind leapt ahead at the word "anxiety", and I immediately thought, "my god... Terri has cancer... we'll have to do some heavy-duty praying".
And then I read the rest of the sentence, and I know it's not huge consolation, but ****... it COULD always be worse, right?
Besides, you've dumped Dr. Death, and your next one will be a dream in comparison. And just think... you get to keep your own teeth! What **** having to put them in a glass of water beside your bed every night!? I can't even imagine!!
Hugs, hon... you'll be fine... :grouphug:

12-16-2002, 06:12 PM
Thanks for your moral support, Ellis. I really appreciate it.

Normally I wouldn't be so worked up about it, but my last experience was so dreadful that I believe I 've developed a dental anxiety.

I called the new dentist's office today. They mentioned that I could consider having nitrous oxide sedation during the procedure.

I was really hoping to just get a valium - I have no idea how the nitrous is? I wonder if it is just another thing for me to get nervous about.

Thanks for listening to my phobia.


12-16-2002, 06:28 PM
Couldn't you just have a couple of shots of whiskey before you go in? :D
I don't know anything about the nitrous. I confess, I haven't been to the dentist in about 3 years. I; too, have a dentist phobia. ;)
Call them back and tell them you're going to freak out if they don't give you some heavy drugs and some kindly service. They hate people freaking out around their equipment.

12-16-2002, 07:37 PM
Isn't the nitrous just "laughing gas"? Go for it... last time I did that I think my body actually levitated off of the chair. :) I was VERRRRY relaxed.

12-16-2002, 08:29 PM
Sojo, I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother. Grandmothers are special people. Find a really nice photo of her, even if it's a snapshot - have it enlarged, and put it in a beautiful frame where you can see it every day.

Den, Mauv, and ellis...I'm sorry I missed the goings-on with your family and friends, but I'm sending good vibes to all for continued healing.:grouphug:

Terri, I had my first root canal a few months ago. It wasn't half as bad as I imagined it would be. Not that I'd like to have another, mind you...but I know I'd survive it. I can't believe that dentist treated you like that! You have every right to speak up for yourself, and a well-placed elbow to the ribs always lets 'em know you're not liking what they're doing. When I go in for work now, every time I remind them what I do or do not want done to me. Like bite blocks...hate ' room in my mouth for them. (they're those things they put in to prop your jaw're supposed to "rest" your jaw on them) They argue with me, especially when I had the root canal that I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth open that long. I just said "so I'll close it. NO bite blocks." Those things hurt my jaw more than having to keep it open on my own. I'm lucky that my dentist puts his patients' comfort first....every 30 seconds or so they ask if you are alright. I finally told him he would know beyond a doubt if I was NOT alright. :D Find yourself a good dentist after this emergency is taken care of....when you have the time to check them out and don't NEED makes a world of difference. I am a HUGE dental-phobe, but once I get in the chair I know I'm in good hands and it makes it so much easier. Ask your friends/family/colleagues for recommendations. You'll do find on Wednesday...better to get it done now than suffer later. Hey, ever do "block breathing"? It's a method of distracting yourself from anxiety. Imagine you are "drawing" a square with each breath....inhale (draw top line left to right)....exhale (draw right side top to bottom)....inhale ( draw bottom line right to left)...exhale (draw left side bottom to top).....see, you're "block" breathing. I use it often - works for me. Of course, you can start on the left side or bottom or whatever works for you and follow the square around.

Ok, I'll stop babbling now.

12-17-2002, 09:10 AM
Sojo, how did your weekend go? I hope it wasn't too difficult. Often a family "get-together" (funeral) like that can be very therapeutic. It's just too bad that your grandmother couldn't be there. She would have had such a good time.
hugs, hon.

BTW... Little Dougie IS at home! He emailed my sister the other day. :D Thanks again for all of your love for him!

12-17-2002, 10:53 AM
Ellis - that's great news about Dougie!!!

Ok time for an update on myself.....for those of you who remember the large breast lump I had removed the end of october and My surgan wanted me to see a specialist, i finally did it. I saw a wonderfull Dr. a couple of weeks ago. He said that i needed to have surgary again because they did not get all of it the first time. But I was prepared for that because the report from my surgary said they thought they had cut some of the edge of it. He also gave me some great news, that what i have is not and will not turn to cancer and will not spread. It will more than likely return since they didn't get it all but that i can deal with. They say if i have surgary again it will greatly reduce my chances of it coming back. I haven't decided yet if I want to have surgary again or just wait and see what happens.

Hope all are doing well and prayers and kind thought to those of you who need them.

12-19-2002, 07:51 AM
MrsM, that's great news about your surgery! You really went through a difficult time with that. I'm glad you saw the specialist.
hugs, hon...

12-19-2002, 07:03 PM
Hey - I'm back........

Thanks to all who held my hand before I went to the dentist. Thankfully, I've gotten past it and don't have to go back until 2003 - (January :dizzy: )

Here's what I've learned:

(1) dental phobia is real
(2) even in an emergency, only have work performed by a dentist on a referral basis - don't pick them off a list you find on an insurance company website - there's a reason why some waiting rooms are empty
(3) valium may help make you drowsy - but not sure what else it it good for.

MrsM95 - glad to hear your news! it is a relief to know that it was treatable and not something worse like cancer

Ellis - as always, you are a ray of sunshine for me.

Wild - your words helped me so much

Terri ( really not a wimp most of the time)

12-19-2002, 07:06 PM
Woo hoo! :cb: I am glad the dentist went well Terri!!

12-19-2002, 09:50 PM
Terri, I'm glad it didn't go too badly! Don't tell me... you're having ANOTHER root canal in JANUARY!?!?! :(

12-19-2002, 10:12 PM
oh no - thankfully it's just the second appointment to finish this one.

Apparently some teeth have long twisty roots ( sorry to be so graphic) so it takes two appointments.

But at least the drilling part is over and the new guy is much more gentle and not nearly so scary.

Seriously, the other dentist could have been a character in a horror movie. I don't know why I didn't run when I first saw him and his crusty dirty eyeglasses and his filthy office (hmm... I was in so much pain I was probably delirious)

Coming back to my senses - Thanks again - Terri

new dentist has clean office, kind staff, better drugs

12-19-2002, 11:50 PM
HEY TERRI!! Glad it went so well!!

Mrs.M-VERY glad to hear that you saw the specialist, and that the growth was not cancerous.

01-09-2003, 03:21 PM
Well the good news is I had to dig pretty far back to post under this thread.

But I do have a reason to bring it up.

There is a wonderful woman I work with who is going through a really rough time. She got into a car accident Tuesday night. Her car is totaled. She ended up with a broken wrist, a sprained knee, and a sprained ankle, so she can't really walk at all. Her daughter ended up with bruised ribs. All that is bad enough, but yesterday her husband, who had a heart transplant over the summer and has been in and out of the hospital, ended up back in the hospital for a few days with problems stemming from his diabetes. He was upstairs when he had the attack, and she couldn't get up the stairs to help him. Luckily her other daughter was home to help.

Last night a bunch of us got together to make dinners for them. A few of the girls are taking them out tonight. I have a wake to go to.

But if you could all think warm thoughts for Jude, I would appreciate it.


01-09-2003, 04:06 PM
Squeak, DH and I will say prayers for Jude. You're a sweetheart to make meals for them.
hugs, hon...

01-09-2003, 05:08 PM
You got it Squeak - healing thoughts to Jude and her family.

Very sweet of you to cook for them too! I'm sure they really appreciate it.


01-09-2003, 06:49 PM
Thank you very much Ellis & Terri.
She is such a sweetheart, and there is only so much a family can take.

01-09-2003, 07:29 PM
Sending prayers and healing vibes :goodvibes: for Jude

01-09-2003, 09:15 PM
That is REALLY a shame, Squeak. I'm sending healing thoughts in their direction, and just general good thoughts in YOUR direction as well as theirs. You are a sweetheart for making them meals.

01-09-2003, 09:34 PM
Good thoughts coming from the west coast!

01-10-2003, 03:01 PM
Thank you very much Den, Mauvais & Merrylegs :)

The girls took the food over last night, and she really appreciated it. Things are rough, but she is doing ok.

01-10-2003, 06:49 PM
Glad to hear she is feeling a bit better. You know, not having to worry about meals is REALLY helpful when things like this are going on. It is really nice of you to look out for them like that.

01-10-2003, 07:23 PM
Yes, supplying ready cooked food is a great idea. That will be a real help to the family. I usually make a big pot of stew or soup that can be ladled out and rheated in the micro. Chili is good too.

01-12-2003, 01:09 PM
I want to ask you to send out some positive vibes for my sister tomorrow, when she is having a hysterectomy. Nothing life-threatening, just that I worry whenever surgery and aenesthesia is involved.

01-12-2003, 01:19 PM
Den, hugs and prayers for your sister tomorrow. ANY surgery causes anxiety... we'll be thinking about you. AND she'll be getting baby-baby soon, won't she?!

01-12-2003, 01:44 PM
Warm healing thoughts en route from British Columbia, Dentrassi.

01-12-2003, 01:58 PM
Good surgery thoughts for Den's sis coming your way. And calming thoughts for Den too. :grouphug:

01-12-2003, 02:19 PM
Sending goodvibes :goodvibes to Den and her sis!

01-12-2003, 02:52 PM
Good wishes, prayers and spells going to The Den Sis! I am sure she will be in great shape well before the wee one arrives!

01-12-2003, 04:42 PM
Sending warm thoughts and prayers to you and your sis Den!

01-13-2003, 09:01 AM
Squeak, how is your friend and her family doing? Thinking of them. Hugs, hon...

Den, how's your sister, sweetie? Let us know how she's feeling when she comes out...

Just wanted to give you an update on Monique. (cancer... lumps in brain and on both lungs)
I don't want to be too optimistic, but she's been getting radiation and chemo, and yesterday her husband told us that the cancer is shrinking slightly in her brain and significantly on her lungs!

Keep her in your thoughts if you would, girls! Thank you! :grouphug:

01-13-2003, 12:02 PM
Thanks for the good wishes everyone! Sis's surgery is at 1 today, and I'll let you all know how she's doing tonight.

Ellis-Good news about your friend! Hope the news continues to be good!!

01-13-2003, 02:30 PM
Praying for all your loved ones...

01-13-2003, 08:21 PM
My sister made it through the surgery just fine. I heard the news third hand, so I don't know what it all means, but they took her ovaries too. I'm a little perplexed by this since this was (I THOUGHT) an elective (kinda) hysterectomy. I know she had some problems with endometriosis, so maybe that is why. SO, still a bit aprehensive, but less so.....

01-13-2003, 08:46 PM
I am glad your sis is ok Den.

Sending Monique & you some healing thoughts Ellis.

Jude is doing ok. She is suppose to be out of work for 6 weeks, but got the doctor to say 4. I think she is itching to come back as soon as possible. And while I adore her, I would be happier if she stayed home. I just dont want her back before she should be. Her husband should be out of the hospital by this weekend I think.

01-13-2003, 10:34 PM
Den-glad your sis is okay :)

Sending out healing vibes to Jude, her hubby and Monique. :goodvibes

01-14-2003, 08:18 AM
Thank you Den, Sojo, Squeak and Mauvais! :grouphug:

Den, glad to hear your darling sister is alright. Don't worry... I'm sure she's just fine. hugs...

01-14-2003, 11:15 AM
Dent, I don't know if it'll make you feel better but the same thing happened to my Mom 10 years ago. She was supposed to have a partial hysterectomy (leaving her ovaries) and ended up with a total because of endometriosis. 9 times outta 10 they don't know how bad the endometrial tissue damage is until they actually get in there and poke around a bit.
I'm glad your sister made it through ok though - that's the important thing!

Squeak - Good to hear your friend is taking some, albeit forced, time off. I'll continue to keep them in my thoughts.

Terri :D

01-14-2003, 12:17 PM
Thanks all!!

Punkin-You are right, and they said if they hadn't done it NOW they would have had to go back in and do it within 2 years, so it is better that they got it over with.

Now the good part! She has had the hysterectomy and is now menopausal.
She goes home Thursday, and once she is healed up she will have her baby!!! (She can't actually go get him until March, but I think the sequence of events is amusing!!)