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11-12-2002, 07:32 PM
Well, I'm bored. Let's have a thread so that we can share with each other what makes us happy.

I complain too much. I think most of us do. It's very habit-forming. I think we often forget the little things in life that are good. Life is good. It's damned good.
I'll start. Feel free to jump in. Or not.

What Makes Ellis Happy and Grateful

- reading
- getting up early before everyone else and having a quiet coffee time
- sleeping with my lovely children. They look and smell divine when they're sleeping
- cooking dinner and having it turn out right
- running for 15 minutes on the treadmill
- kissing my sweet six year old's soft little lips
- getting up in the morning and finding that someone else has filled the water jug
- when my DH takes the kids to swim at the gym so that I can have some quiet time
- the smell of a new bag of fresh, black, oily coffee beans
- my feet. I like looking at my feet. They hurt most of the time, but I like how they look
- my wonderful fat forum friends
- a foot massage from my DH
- the way the sun shines through the blue glass in my kitchen window first thing in the morning
- my coffee table.... a trunk on wheels. I love it... it goes where I want it to go (usually under my feet)
- a photo of my thirteen year-old with stars in her eyes
- my mom's warm jam tarts
- coming home and finding that no one has left a damned message on my answering machine
- thunderstorms
- eating dinner on the verandah in the summer with my DH
- and then having a "summer" beer on the verandah with my DH
- having wonderful conversation with my DH on the verandah
- a spontaneous hug from my undemonstrative dad
- my bedroom makes me very happy. It's up in the attic, and in the summer it's like being in a treehouse
- my sister... the apple of my eye. I love her so much I could cry just thinking about her

- okay.... I'll add more as I think of them... there's no need to complain when I've got so much GOOD in my life!

hugs everyone...

"Most folks are about as happy as they
make up their minds to be."
Abraham Lincoln

11-12-2002, 08:50 PM
Great :idea: idea Ellis!

What makes Mauvaisroux happy and grateful :)

-Kisses! Ones from my DH when we wake up in the morning, when we kiss goodbye before leaving for work, hello kisses when we get home from work, and goodnight kisses when he tucks me in a night:love:

-friends that are always there for you
-laughing until your ribs hurt
-the smell of pumpkin pie baking
-hot chocolate
-the warm fuzzy hedgehog slippers DH bought me for Christmas one year
-curling up with a book and a pot of tea on a rainy day
-Godiva Creme Brule dessert chocolates
-rollercoasters :dizzy:
-having loving parents
-my Alternachickie friends
-my Mum's home cooking
-the smell of fresh basil
-the picture of me in costume at my first public bellydance performance, it makes me think "Wow!~I really did it!":D
-the view of Parliament Hill and the Canal as I walk to work in the morning-it looks like a postcard shot
-bite of cool air on a crisp and sunny fall day
-my adorable cat who greets me at the front door every night when I come home from work
-being able to try new foods from different countries and exploring a bit of their cultures
-getting good news in the mail and not just bills
-cold beer on a hot summer day
-being able to talk to my hubby about anything under the sun
-my cozy furry leopard print bedspread
-a tidy house :lol:

That's it for now:)

11-12-2002, 09:05 PM
What Makes Ellis Happy and Grateful (continued)

- reading Mauvais' list of happies and gratefuls :) ... how lovely they are
- my favorite author, Timothy Findley
- my favorite neighbor, Eliza. Who likes being alone as much as I do :D
- all my books... my lovely, lovely books...
- the sound of the wind in the trees
- the smell of fresh laundry from the line
- my hair, including the white one I found this morning
- Ottawa. I don't care what they say. I love it.

11-13-2002, 08:10 AM
This is by far the best thread on the forum. I am gettting ready for work now, but when I come home, I will quietly sit an thinnk of all the things that bring joy to my life and write them down. Thank you for this thread, I just know it will make me reflect all day on the good instead of the bad.

Love and hugs to you all
(Sentimental mood this morning, but happy!)

11-13-2002, 02:00 PM
ooh, great idea, ellis!! I was going to write down just 5 things I'm grateful for (as per FlyLady's command) but I may just go on and on...ditto to so many of the the things you and Mauvais have already said...but let's see...

What Makes Katrina Happy and Grateful??

*My husband...20+ years together...I love his wit, and his wicked, sometimes sick, sense of humor...
*My sweet and honest, bright and talented and so pretty...she has been my joy for almost 17 years now...I am still in awe that she comes from me...(well, maybe I had a little help!)
*My "baby." Born with a number of heart defects which required surgery before he was two. He is absolutely fine now...but I remember how scared I was and I thank God every day for his good health and his big blue eyes and his unabashed love for us.
*Fall...the colors are dazzling, I can't see enough!
*a cold, dark, starry night...finding Orion and the dippers...
*the smells of fresh coffee. apple pie baking, dinner cooking
*my down comforter on a chilly night
*sleigh riding
*a week at the Jersey Shore
*show tunes
*my kitchen
*a good book...and time to read it
*giving gifts that I have made...
*decorating for Christmas with "Charlie Brown's Christmas" on in the background...CD or movie.
*the flowers in my garden
*the smell of fresh cut grass
*my wind chimes
*hiking in the woods, with the dog off her leash, romping and frolicking
*dining al fresco
*Manhattan...I love seeing a "pre 9/11" shot of the NY skyline in a movie or TV show...
*San Francisco...and Tony Bennet singing about it

so many be continued...

11-13-2002, 07:44 PM
One smartass thankful before the real ones - I am very thankful that you only have to file W2s once a year!

Ok now for the real ones:

~my boy and all the aspects of our friendship (now more then ever)
~my friends from college who are now spread out all over the US and I miss dearly
~you chickies!
~my flannel sheets
~a warm cup of tea or coffee in the morning
~a massage from my boy (even if it hurts at first)
~living alone (at least thankful some of the time)
~ice cream cake
~mashed potatoes & stuffing
~a good book on a Saturday afternoon
~a good movie
~the people at work that make going there fun
~my family
~my rolly polly little nephew
~my favorie stuffed animal
~my ceramics class - for something to do and the crazy girls in the class
~currling up on the couch to watch a movie with the boy's arm around me
~The Beatles

I will probably post more later. I need to eat since I havn't even eaten lunch, and it is almost too late for dinner. :p

11-13-2002, 08:45 PM
~Aside from my IBS, I'm relatively healthy.
~My daughter is 15. We haven't killed each other yet.
~I trust my husband. Completely.
~I am owned by two wonderous felines and am honored to share my life with them.
~Sharing my pillow with my Salem cat and having him purr in my ear all night.
~Lizards. They're just amazing creatures.
~I make enough money to pay all my bills. On time.
~I AM CANADIAN. :D I wouldn't want to live in any other country.
~My grandmother is proud of me.
~to have known the man that would save my life, even if we don't talk anymore
~the smell of coffee...can't drink it, I just inhale
~waking up before the rest of the family early in the morning and having tea by myself
~I like doing laundry. Strange, I know...but it's comforting somehow
~bedsheets dried outside on the clothesline. I miss that.
~my best friend since grade 8
~the internet. Without it I wouldn't have met my husband, or all of you, or my other cyberpals
~letters (real snail mail!)
~birds of know, hawks, raptors....I'm in awe of them
~the sound of the waves on the shore and walking on the beach
~fresh flowers
~the soft light that bathes my living room in the afternoon
~the colors of the evening sky
~all the little wonders of nature
~music, music, music

Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens.....

11-13-2002, 10:19 PM
What Makes Ellis Happy and Grateful (continued)

- reading more happy notes from my darling friends ... thank you all for sharing
- hearing the furnace kick on when I'm afraid it's broken down
- being able to go the gym 3 times a week with my 77 year old mom
- the gurgling sound of the last of the coffee filtering into the pot
- the sound of my tiny, inaccurate old brass clock with the loud tick
- buying a fresh calendar for the New Year
- seeing my neighbour's cat huddled on my fire escape outside my kitchen window while I make my early morning coffee
- watch my own hands becoming my mother's
- my six year who is always offering to pour his mommy "a refreshing cup of water"

11-13-2002, 10:54 PM
Having a bit of a rough time but.... from tonight......
Standing on my deck looking at the stars and th 3/4 moon waiting for my Hershey and Lucy to poop and then come back to me.
A wee thing but mine own.
I do have more - just not close at finger.
'Night, Sweeties!

11-14-2002, 08:35 AM
Ruth darling, I'm so sorry you're feeling crappy. Love and hugs....
xoxo ellis :grouphug:

11-15-2002, 04:28 PM
What Makes Ellis Happy and Grateful (continued)

Having the psychologist tell us that our DD doesn't need to see her anymore. That she has her life all together, and that she's going to be alright. :)

11-15-2002, 04:43 PM
Yay! for your DD Ellis! :cb: That is great news! :D

11-15-2002, 04:52 PM
Thank you, Mauvais. :)

11-15-2002, 05:14 PM
Yeah, Ellis and her DD! Hugs to you all!
((((((Ellis and the Divine Miss M))))))

11-15-2002, 05:18 PM
Woo hoo!!! :cb:

Congrats to Ellis and DD! :)

11-15-2002, 05:30 PM
I am currently gazing out of my office window at the Gatineau hills, the city is below them and a pink, orange and grey/blue sky is behind them - beautiful! :df:

11-15-2002, 05:51 PM
Ellis! I am SO happy for you and for DD!! That must be such a relief.

11-15-2002, 07:56 PM
Thankful!! Ahh there is so much to be thankful for!
1. My family
2. My friends offline
3. My online friends
4. My health
5. Having a job
6. Loving people deeply
7. Being loved right back
8. A warm roof over my head with lots of food to eat
9. Nights like tonight, where the sky is filled with stars
10.Freedom to live my life as I choose (within reason)
11.Finding out my friend and her kids are coming home from Maine for Christmas. I really miss her!
12.And I am thankful that tomorrow is Saturday and Pam and I are off to get our tattos tomorrow night and to paint the town red.

I have many more but that is a start~!

11-15-2002, 09:41 PM
Thank you, Ruth and Squeak. :) We saw the psychologist today. I am sooooo happy. Moi, on the other hand, has to keep going. Indefinitely. :rolleyes: Well actually, we are now looking for a psychiatrist pour moi. heh heh. Gotta get those drugs straightened out.
love to everyone...

11-17-2002, 07:39 PM
Sunday morning Dim Sum :T Burp!

11-17-2002, 07:58 PM
Thank you, Den! :)

I'm thankful also for my Jasmine plant. It's in bloom right now, and after about 10 o'clock in the evenings my second floor hall is filled with the sweet, heavy scent of the flowers. I confess, I used to find it sickly smelling, but now I realize it's a miracle that any house plant of mine is actually ALIVE, never mind BLOOMING!! :D

11-17-2002, 08:04 PM
Ellis...I'm SO happy for you and your daughter,,,{{{hugs to both of you!}}}

11-17-2002, 08:44 PM
Thank you, Kat. :) It's SUCH a relief!

11-19-2002, 04:21 PM
It's really damp/cold out, and I'm very grateful that I have a nice warm house to come home to. I always think of people living on the street at this time of year. Getting ready to survive the long winter. There's something wrong that so many people die on the streets in this country. :(

11-19-2002, 06:36 PM
I am happy that Ellis's daughter is doing well :) As the mom of a twelve year old girl coming of age, I hold my breath that she will make it through these years. So Ellis.....I am happy for you and your DD.

Ok, what else......... so much. There is an expression in Spanish that goes something like " Thanks to life that has given me so much"

I am happy and grateful for lots of things, not in any particular order:

(1) I was able to take some of the lemons handed to me early in life and turn them into lemonade

(2) I have always had my health.

(3) I've always loved and been loved.

(4) I was given a few talents and strength of will to make it in this world while riding solo for many years.

(5) That my husband and daughter found me and took up residence in my heart.

(6) That my husband and daughter are wonderful and they love me and look after me. That I love and look after them.

(7) That I've kept a good job that has allowed me to live life mostly on my own terms.

(8) The sky, the moon, the sun, nature, wind, waves, storms, snow, lightning, thunder, mountains, beaches.........nature, planet Earth.

(9) great friends - online and offline

(10) good wine and poetry

(11) all the food and cappuccino and wine at Vincents Clam bar in NY in fact....all of Little Italy in NYC and ok, some great Japanese and Greek restaurants too

(12) upstate New York

(13) train rides

(14) unscheduled free time to curl up with a book and a blankie in a chair with something good to drink and some good chocolate.

(15) Halloween and 4th of July and Thanksgiving and the spirit of Christmas

(16) homemade Christmas cookies

(17) the smell of fresh flowers, fresh cut grass, the air after it rains, things baking, great cologne on my husband's neck

(18) skiing followed by a hot tub and massage

(19) body surfing

(20) love making and orgasms

(21) good movies and good books and great music and dancing

(22) That I lived in a college dorm for 4 years and spent 4 great years there.

(23) pedicures and manicures and facials

(24) travelling - anywhere, anytime

(25) that I can say out loud that I am bi and not freak out about it

(26) that I am an American and don't take it for granted

(27) bubble baths and pretty undies

(28) that the world is a big place and there are so many discoveries yet to be made

Terri - and that is only the beginning lol

11-19-2002, 07:52 PM
Thank you, Terri. :) And thank you for sharing your happies and gratefuls with us.

11-19-2002, 09:09 PM
"Gracías a la vida que me ha dado tanto."

And I wouldn't have remembered that except that there is ALSO a song by that name!! I hear the words of a song, and I start hearing the whole thing in my head!! THAT is something I appreciate VERY much....unless it is a song that I hate!!!!!

11-19-2002, 09:49 PM
Listen, egghead. What the **** does it mean? :D

11-19-2002, 11:19 PM
I am thankful for that Ellis started this thread. I love reading everyone else's posts, and makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. :)

And Den - I am with Ellis - What the **** does that mean??? ;)

11-19-2002, 11:35 PM
I'll take a guess and say that it means "thanks for the life that has given me much".

Okay so I am an huevohead that took Spanish in high school :lol:

And I am happy and grateful that I can speak 4 languages :D

11-20-2002, 12:28 AM
Oh Ellis how wonderful!!!
And what a wonderful thread...I'll post again soon

11-20-2002, 07:43 AM
I truely love this thread and Terri grrrll you wrote down some beautiful things to be thankful for and I want to say DITTO!
You gals warm the cockels of my heart. Not sure what cockels are, but you warm them
Big warm fuzzy hugs

11-20-2002, 08:34 AM
Oh geez... another egghead.
Thanks, Mauvais. ;)

Thanks, Squeak. I like that part of it, too. :)

11-20-2002, 01:27 PM
Thanks to life, which has given me so much
It has given me two eyes and when I open them
I clearly distinguish black from white
And in the high sky, its starry depths,
And from the crowds, the man that I love.
Thanks to life which has given me so much
It has given me hearing which in all its breadth
day and night, records crickets and canaries
hammers, turbines, barking, dark clouds and the tender voice of my beloved one.
Thanks to life which has given me so much
It has given me sound and the alphabet
and with it, the words to think and speak
Mother, friend, brother and the light that brightens
the path of the soul of my loved one.
Thanks to life which has given me so much
It has kept my tired feet walking with them
I walked through cities and puddles,
beaches and deserts, mountains and plains
and your house, your street and your courtyard.
Thanks to life, which has given me so much
It gave me my heart, which shakes its frame
when I look at the fruit of the human brain
when I look at good ones so far from bad ones
when I look at the bottom of your light-color eyes.
Thanks to life which has given me so much
It has given me laughter and it has given me tears
thus I distinguish between joy and pain
they are all elements of my song and of your song
which is all one and the same.

11-20-2002, 01:30 PM
This is the english translation. It doesn't quite capture the essence of the spanish version......which comes across in a more dramatic manner I think.

Mauvais - what are your languages?

Eggheads of the World Unite :)


11-20-2002, 02:00 PM
That was beautiful. Who wrote it?

My languages are English, French, Spanish and Italian ( and Scottishisms or broad Scots :lol: )

My DH swears that my parents and I make up words all the time! I did show him a Scottish newspaper once to show him that our "made up Scottish words" were real and right there in print :smug:

11-20-2002, 05:06 PM
I figured I've had enough time to think what I'm happy about and what I'm greatful for and I'll share it with all of you

I am happy and greatful for.......

1) living in Canada and being a Proud Canadian

2) the job I work at even though at times I feel like quitting.

3) a roof over my head and food on the table

4) being able to have a Christmas when others aren't so fortunate.

5) my two wonderful and beautiful children that I wouldn't change for the world.

6) my wonderful husband who has stood by me and has put up with me when I couldn't put up with myself.

7) the telephone, the internet and automobiles!

8) my wonderful new friends on the internet that I have met on this site

9) going to the beach on a hot summers day

10) that I am a survivor, knowing that what ever comes my way that I will be able to handle it

11) a nice hot bath and a good book

12) zinfindel

13) hot tea on a cold winters night

14) being able to snuggle with my husband in bed

15) my vibrator!!!!!

16) listening to xmas music on xmas eve, drinking wine and waiting for Santa to come

17) the smiles on family/friends faces when they receive an unexpected gift from me

18) the feel of silky lingerie against my body

19) coming home from work and dinner is already started and the house is tidy

That's all I can think of for now. I'm sure there is alot more if I tap my brains! LOL

11-20-2002, 05:36 PM
Lovely, Kelly and Terri. :) Thank you for sharing.

11-21-2002, 12:38 AM
WELL!! I won't dignify that question with an answer Ellis! Or yours either Squeak!! ('Cause someone already answered it!!) But I DO have a question for YOU.....

Soft or Hard boiled? :D or POACHED IN A CUP???????????

11-21-2002, 06:26 AM
Scrambled. In an aluminum pan. Over an open flame. In a gully. With buzzards circling overhead.

11-21-2002, 02:52 PM
I am Happy and Grateful that...

although I had a rocky childhood, that being grown-up has been wonderful.

thanks to husband, and my own survival instinct!

walking under the moon every morning.

being able to see the stars

old books

discovering what i'm good at

you're never too old to learn

i have a job

my children love me and the big ones aren't awful yet

tea in a mug

circle dancing with my sweetie

walking through crispie autumn leaves

making supper and everyone eating it happily

a new cd

red wine

sitting on the porch on a summer's evening

memories of sleeping with my babies and the odd night snuggling my 6 year old

smelling a newborn

good health

my friend Randy who spoils me

riding the subway

going to the museum, or the art gallery


that I lived briefly beside an ocean

snow on mountain tips

organic eggs make me happy... and watching chickens.

this is kind of addictive...



11-21-2002, 05:43 PM
Beautiful, Lois. Thank you for sharing with us. :) (do I keep saying that to everyone? Excuse me. I'm just so happy to read all of these happy things.)

11-22-2002, 12:28 AM
ELLIS!! YOU HAVE CAPTURED THE ESSENCE THAT IS ME!!! Only one addition: The eggs are partially overcooked and chewy, and partially runny and disgusting.

11-22-2002, 07:47 AM
I knew it was you, Den. :lol: And I forgot to mention... the eggs are not organic, and the chickens were not happy with their lot.

11-22-2002, 09:53 AM
Poor chickens.

11-22-2002, 10:03 AM
You wouldn't be happy either if you were laying for Den. ;)

11-22-2002, 10:17 AM
I am happy and grateful that I am the person that I have become and that I have the chutzpah to do the things I do.

I was a very shy and insecure person growing up and only started to become self-confident after I left high school and struck out on my own. :)

I love being in my thirties!

11-22-2002, 11:47 AM
I love a good workout when your stiff and sore, but you know why
I love smelling good food cooking and then eating it.
I love the feeling I get when I do something for my friends
I love listening to water, like water falls, fish tank, running a bath, waves splashing against the shore and the rocks
I love hearing a new song with a kicky beat
Or an old song with lots of meaning
And I love you guys
More later!

11-22-2002, 02:27 PM
I love getting older. The older I get, the more secure I feel in myself. (good one, Mauvais)
I love garlic. Especially a garlic sandwich on buttered toast.
I love coming home to a clean house after we've been away on holiday.
I love a dark and gloomy day when I need do nothing more but cozy up in bed. With a book. And a coffee.
I love watching "Bridge on the River Quai" with my DH in bed. We put it on when we want to be cozy and fall asleep. I must have watched it about 40 times, but I've only seen the ending once. :D
I love getting a joke in my email that makes me laugh aloud.

11-22-2002, 11:16 PM
I love having a best girlfriend who makes me laugh so hard that tears come out my eyes :lol: :lol: :lol: and that when I am crying for real can make me laugh and see the lighter side of things :cool:

11-28-2002, 12:58 PM
I am very grateful that I live in Canada, because if I had to eat the Thanksgiving dinners that you down-south girls are planning, I'd friggin' well blow up!
Jealous, but grateful. :D

11-28-2002, 01:15 PM
I am happy when I see my friends and they make me laugh and smile, and sometimes, like today blush.
I like the smell of this new vanilla camimille tea I am trying out and its lovely mild flavour. Yummy! My belly is a little queasy today (no I am not pregnant), so I thought tea might be just what the doc ordered.
I love the peace and quiet here right now. 1:10 pm and kids are at school for another 2 hours almost.

11-28-2002, 03:09 PM
I am grateful that our car passed the Ontario Emissions Test. Poor DH... he took the car to Canadian Tire this morning fearing the worst. The first thing he did was to lock his keys in the car with the engine still running. :lol: They charge him 20 bucks to open the door. Then the car failed the pre-test, which meant getting two new tires and an oil change. (both of which we were expecting anyhow)
I can't believe it passed! I'm VERY happy! :D

And I would like some of that vanilla chamomile tea please, Virginia. :) Yum!

11-28-2002, 08:15 PM
We went around the table today saying things that we were grateful for. (12 year old son's idea.) I said "Paxil and my family." My Dad asked, "In that order?" I said, "Actually, I was GOING to say 'Each of which I need because of the other.' " Now you see were I got my obnoxious streak!!! I like to embarass my Mom by saying I got it from HER though!!!

11-29-2002, 10:21 AM
den - sounds like a good time at the table!

humor is always good......especially around family !



11-29-2002, 10:12 PM
YES!! Luckily my family AND DH's family all love that kind of humor!!! If anything starts getting tense, I can get obnoxious and it chills them all out!!

12-04-2002, 02:56 PM
I think I've said this before, but I'm really grateful for my furnace. And electricity. Because it's running non-stop right now, and if I had to go outside and chop down a tree, I'd do myself in. brrrrrrrrrrr!!

12-04-2002, 02:59 PM
Im with you on that one Ellis. Cold here in Nova SCotia too!

12-06-2002, 12:22 PM
I am so thankful for my friend Pam, who knows when I am down even when I try to hide it and works through whats bothering me. She is the greatest! I am very happy today.
Love the feeling I get while listening to classical music. Uplights my mood.
Love a good hard workout, where you are sweating you *ss off and sore as can be, but feels so good.
The sun is shining and that makes me happy.
I have a bit more shopping done and that releives me somewhat.
I love knowing I would be as happy at a wrestling event or the opera(which by the way have never gone to but just know I would be moved to tears).
Went to Handels Messiah years ago and I was so moved I cried. Music is so beautiful. Like poetry without the words.