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Pint Sized Terror
12-03-2010, 09:42 PM
I have been struggling to stay on track. After feeling so good a few days ago, this is like a giant slap in the face. Food and I are NOT getting along right now, and I just found out that the Christmas party isn't going to be the usual chicken breast and rice pilaf that is always at these kind of things, but a BUFFET. Cakes, steaks and all the "comfort foods" you can eat, is how the person put it. :fr:

I am dreading it now. In fact, it's made my anxiety worse just thinking about the fact that most of my trigger foods will be there.

What can I do?!


nelie
12-03-2010, 09:45 PM
Think about the fact that the food has been sitting out forever and people having been fondling it, breathing on it, etc ? :)

If that doesn't do it for you, I'd say get a plate and plan to put mostly veggies on the plate (will there be salad?) and the rest of the plate can be whatever else. Don't pile it up and don't go back for seconds.

Heather
12-03-2010, 09:58 PM
Yep, make a rule before you ever get there about how you're going to handle it. No seconds is a great rule. Lots of veggies another good one.

You'll be faced with buffets in your life from time to time, so consider this a good time to practice!


Pint Sized Terror
12-03-2010, 10:04 PM
I guess I'm just freaking out overall. There's a lot of stuff going on in my life right now, and I used to really turn to food. I have avoided buffets like the plague. It's probably been over a year since I've been to one. Stress + troughs of food in front of me = FREAKOUT.

Y'all are right though. I can do this. I'll plan to avoid anything white, fried or buttered. I feel like I'm getting ready to do battle. :dizzy:

joyc21
12-03-2010, 10:07 PM
Eat something healthy but substantial before you go. If you're very hungry you'll be more tempted by those trigger foods. Also, as the others mentioned, set rules before you go and don't break them.

Shmead
12-03-2010, 10:14 PM
Don't eat at all: just wander around with a drink in your hand and if people ask if you have eaten, say "I'll get something in a bit".

It's much, much less stressful to just not eat. Eat healthy things you can totally control.

luckymommy
12-03-2010, 10:15 PM
For future buffets, I"d like to add that I like to have a Full Bar about 20 or 30 minutes before I go. Then I eat lots of steamed veggies and something like shrimp (if it's available). I will also eat some melon for desert. There have been times when I've actually had desert but I only had one and it was teeny tiny. This is when I was good. When I wasn't so good, I've had everything it had to offer and felt terrible afterward. ;) While you're there, tell yourself how great you'll feel when you wake up tomorrow knowing that you handled yourself as you wanted rather than giving in. I really do feel for you though because buffets are notoriously difficult for those watching their weights.

bargoo
12-03-2010, 10:21 PM
Take small portions amd walk around and talk a lot.

fatmad
12-03-2010, 10:28 PM
I find social eating difficult period. I have to sit away from the food. I do find buffets can be ok when eating out. I have choice more than I get at many restaurants, and can follow my WOE a bit better. But the rule about one serving is absolute. However, I have one plate of salad and veggies, another of protein foods and if there is something appropriate for dessert a small plate of that.

Good luck in a challenging situation.

angelanicole23
12-03-2010, 11:00 PM
Don't eat at all: just wander around with a drink in your hand and if people ask if you have eaten, say "I'll get something in a bit".

It's much, much less stressful to just not eat. Eat healthy things you can totally control.

My xmas party is at a fancy hotel and it's a brunch buffet as well. I know people would question why I am not eating if I didn't...it's a sit down meal and not a lot of wandering :S. There are about ten tables allotted for our company and we usually sit with the people from our locations (5 daycares). My brunch is also VERY expensive and I am sure I would be looked at as ungrateful if I didn't eat because my employer pays for it.

I like the idea of the veggies and no seconds. I hope I can stick to this too! (however they have to DIE for omelletes they make right in front of you that I so want)

MindiV
12-03-2010, 11:06 PM
I actually prefer buffets over sit-down type dinners where things are served to you. In the sit-down situations, you don't always get to choose what you get or how much of it you get. With a buffet there are bound to be veggies and you can get the smallest portions of whatever it is they've got rather than being served a large portion. I personally keep it low during the day and just take small servings at the meal. And try to have fun.

Ciao
12-04-2010, 12:36 AM
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You can do it! Bring yourself
some mints to suck on or gum
to keep you busy. :hug:
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Wysteria
12-04-2010, 06:19 AM
Personally I'd say just have a little helping of whatever you fancy. Unless you're supremely weak-willed, I find it highly unlikely that you're suddenly going to lose your self-control, start stuffing your face and pile all your weight back on just because there's cake.

Seriously. Eat what you like and don't beat yourself up about it. We all force ourselves to control what we eat so religiously that one evening of being slightly bad isn't going to undo all our good work.

And think of it just as calories. So adjust your calorie intake for that day prior to the buffet so that if you do have a bit of a binge, you won't feel so bad or worry about going over-limit.

Shmead
12-04-2010, 08:22 AM
My xmas party is at a fancy hotel and it's a brunch buffet as well. I know people would question why I am not eating if I didn't...it's a sit down meal and not a lot of wandering :S. There are about ten tables allotted for our company and we usually sit with the people from our locations (5 daycares). My brunch is also VERY expensive and I am sure I would be looked at as ungrateful if I didn't eat because my employer pays for it.

I like the idea of the veggies and no seconds. I hope I can stick to this too! (however they have to DIE for omelletes they make right in front of you that I so want)

For me, learning to never, ever eat to keep other people happy has been an essential step. I so, so rarely get to indulge that I just can't stand to eat excess calories of food I didn't particularly want. People don't really care that much. I've also been known to just not go to things when I didn't want to deal with not eating. Not going is also an option:there will be other parties.

Now, losing the weight as fast as possible (in a healthy way) was a major priority for me for most of my losing history. If it hadn't been, I would have done some things differently. But regardless, I really value the idea that I don't eat for other people. I'm plenty nice and helpful in all kinds of other ways, I never, ever mention that I am not eating, or complain about how good the food looks, I never act the slightest bit tempted or resentful or envious, I just drink my coffee and smile and talk. It leaves me feeling powerful and in control, and people have adjusted. Once they see results, they get it.

rockinrobin
12-04-2010, 10:04 AM
Don't eat at all: just wander around with a drink in your hand and if people ask if you have eaten, say "I'll get something in a bit".

It's much, much less stressful to just not eat. Eat healthy things you can totally control.

^^^Yup, yup and more yup.^^^

Taking away the decision making process for me has been a HUGE boon to my weight loss and now maintenance. This way I don't have to decide should I eat this?/ should I eat that? Oooh, just maybe one bite of this... and one bite of that... Oh man that looks good too, maybe just a smidge...

This always led to disaster for me in the past. Always. Always. Always.

Much easier and wiser to just say no all together.

You make the decision ahead of time and then you've got nothing to dread or worry about. The thoughts of all that calorie laden stuff stops.

And trust me, no one gives a flying you know what about what you are or are not eating. They're too busy stuffing their faces.

They'll all be miserable afterward wondering, "why did I just do that?" and you'll be feeling like a million, trillion bucks. :smug:

WebRover
12-04-2010, 11:07 AM
(however they have to DIE for omelletes they make right in front of you that I so want)

Is the omelet way off your eating plan? If it's a really fancy hotel, they're much more likely to accommodate special requests than some other places. Call ahead and find out if they would be able to make an egg-white only or one egg/two egg white omelet, a smaller version - or whatever it is that would meet your plan. Make it clear that you'd like to be able to make that request at this specific event so they can be prepared for it.

If it were me and I really wanted the omelet, then I would try to make it the healthiest omelet for my eating plan (lots of veggies, for example) and focus on that. Perhaps not eating anything else. If that's what you really want and you pick other things to avoid it, you may well end up eating a lot more calories of foods that you don't enjoy nearly as much.

And then if anyone has any issues with you not eating more - you can truly tell them you had exactly what you wanted and now you couldn't possibly eat any more. :)

Heather
12-04-2010, 11:46 AM
And trust me, no one gives a flying you know what about what you are or are not eating. They're too busy stuffing their faces.

They'll all be miserable afterward wondering, "why did I just do that?" and you'll be feeling like a million, trillion bucks. :smug:

Well, maybe they planned for their splurges too. I think we need to be careful not to judge what other people eat if we don't want them to judge us for what we eat.

rockinrobin
12-04-2010, 11:58 AM
Well, maybe they planned for their splurges too. I think we need to be careful not to judge what other people eat if we don't want them to judge us for what we eat.

It was by no means a judgment. Not sure how you took it to be one. :shrug:

I do believe most people are not so interested in what others are or are not eating because they're too busy with themselves. No judgment; just it is what it is. No judgment.

Yes, maybe they did plan their indulgences. Whether they did or didn't - hearty appetite to them! How little or how much they eat is of no concern to me, I'm too busy doing my own thing. :)

elisaannh
12-04-2010, 12:50 PM
A trick that works for me is to go and look at the buffet so you know exactly what there is and then slip away to the hallway or restroom and breathe. Put a bit of distance and quiet between the food and your thoughts about it. while away from the buffet, think about how you want to feel the next day. Want to feel good? Then go back to the buffet and pick exactly what you want in half size portions, may sure you have exactly what really appeals to you and what will make you feel good the next day. No seconds and try to leave some space between the selections...no piling to the ceiling. This will give you a chance to enjoy the food AND wake up the next day feeling proud of yourself for making it WORK for you.

islandchick1
12-04-2010, 12:54 PM
Eat BEFORE you go. Something protein based so that it will curve the hungries AND use a smaller (dessert plate or bowl) when you go through the line.

RoseRodent
12-04-2010, 05:03 PM
I think of buffets as a huge positive, and much prefer them to meals served out on a plate because you can see it. You don't have to guess if it's in a lot of oil, you can see it, is it swimming in oil or not? You don't have to ask to substitute everything (goes down better in some parts of the world than in others!), you don't have to take a lot of comments on what is on your plate because you just reassure people you might go back up later if you are still hungry. Anything that is off plan just walk past it rather than worry in case your food arrives with a sauce or dressing you'd never even considered. Maybe you can try to think of it more like that? Although I am new to this immediate weight loss goal I've been a food control freak for a very, very long time and I've always gone for buffet food for preference so I can control exactly how much of what is on my plate, and if you want to have 2 individual fries because the fries look great then you can have them, you don't have to either have 500cals of fries or no fries at all. Bonus.

EmpressB
12-04-2010, 05:26 PM
I'd probably drink a bunch of water and eat a salad or something else before I went so I would be full. Then that way, when I get there, I'd just take small bites, like tapas size portions of a few things I want.


At buffets, my eyes are usually bigger than my stomach as they say, and I find that especially when being conscious and not mindless, sometimes after getting a few items to eat I am full and the rest of food makes me sick to my stomach cause it is just tooo much! I used that trick to my advantage on Thanksgiving, there was sooo much food, but because I ate before, I only took small portions of stuff that looked really good to me and enjoyed that realizing after my 1st plate that I was quiiite full and then the sight of the rest of the food or thought of eating more made my sick.

It's also kind of like the idea of not going grocery shopping on an empty stomach, you tend to buy way more things you wouldn't otherwise because you feel ravenous and like a kid in a candy shop. Whereas being full already allows you to stick to what you really need. Same thing. If you go to a buffet ravenous you're more likely to go wild but if you're slightly full then you will pick and choose with more discretion and discernment.