Weight Loss Support - Not all overweight people are ready to keel over




ebb&flow
12-03-2010, 11:28 AM
I guess this a bit of a rant.

I know I'm overweight. I know I'm not in the best shape of my life, but I am so tired of people and their perception that I'm ready to keel over at the slightest exertion! I'm a pretty hardy person. I'm only 20 pounds overweight. Why do should my doc be surprised that I don't have weight related health issues like diabetes etc? I'm healthy with no high cholesterol, high blood pressure, or diabetes. I work out 3+ times per week. I walk my kid to and from school daily.

Why would my neighbor make a comment about me having a heart attack to her 5 year old when he asked to hold on to the other side of my stroller (my son was holding on to his side) so they could walk together. And before you ask, I was not breathing hard, sweating, or showing any signs of exertion. I was smiling and talking to her.

When I talk about spin class why do some people have that look on their face like they think I'm making my trip to the gym up? or worse actually ask "You go to spin class?" Yes, darn it, and the hour long one (not the 30-45 minute one) at that!

Why is it so shocking to people when they see older pictures of me that I haven't always been overweight?

Finally, why do people feel the need to convince me to do things by saying it's not that hard (meaning physically)? Maybe I don't want to do it because I think it's lame or I'm just not interested or I'm busy, not because I'm lazy!

Some really thin people are more out of shape than I am.

Okay, rant over. Done preaching to the choir. Just had a bad start to my day. I was feeling so good about my progress this week. I refuse to let this discourage me or give myself the excuse to go off plan.


bargoo
12-03-2010, 11:34 AM
Learn to ignore people. sometimes the comments come from ignorance.

Slim CB
12-03-2010, 11:59 AM
Honestly...i kept reading your post and saying to myself that at 5'7" and 178lbs, you are not fat! What's wrong with some people?

I guess they are thickening your skin and you will just have to ignore them.


vdander24
12-03-2010, 11:59 AM
this is exactly the place to preach. For the record, I am with you! I am also guilty of underestimating what people can do. Great job with the spin class, I KNOW I couldn't do that....Yet! A month or so, and I will give it a go.

sweetnlow28
12-03-2010, 12:28 PM
I totally agree. Being overweight, and super morbidly obese are two very different things. Even at 200 pounds, I worked out pretty hard to get where I am today. No heart attack for me either lol. Look at how hard the people on the biggest loser show exercise at their size! Don't let them get to you. I bet you look great with your stats ;)

rockstar87
12-03-2010, 12:36 PM
Obesity is when you're supposed to start having "health problems". You're not obese, you're overweight. Yeah, in the long run a bit of extra belly fat isn't good for your health, but at this point it's more of a cosmetic thing (at least it was for me). You're relatively healthy and in shape from the sounds of it and you've got a few more pounds to lose. I would certainly never perceive anyone at 5'7" and 180lbs as "about to keel over".

Actually, I think that was around the weight I was when certain people told me to stop losing because I didnt' need to get any skinnier. I had to point out I was still 20-30lbs overweight. They didnt' believe.

So these people that are telling you this...they are so very very wrong. Haha. You probably are a lot more fit than the skinny girls that bounce on the elliptical at zero intensity for 20 minutes and call it a day.

I always wondered if people were asking themselves "what's sheeee" doing here or "how can she workout that much and still look like that" when I was in the gym. But hey, it's not about them, it's about you. Working out is part of your transformation. It's not like you're automatically skinny as soon as you commit to going to the gym...it's part of the process.

Try not to let them get you down. In a few months you *will* be one of the skinny people and the new people you meet will have a hard time believing you were ever not skinny. It goes both ways, I promise :)

Eliana
12-03-2010, 01:40 PM
Honestly...i kept reading your post and saying to myself that at 5'7" and 178lbs, you are not fat! What's wrong with some people?

I guess they are thickening your skin and you will just have to ignore them.

My thoughts exactly. :?: That's craziness. Do you live in a super healthy/thin part of the country? Gosh, around here you'd be considered tiny. :D Seriously. :dunno:

I was extremely healthy around 200 pounds. That's about when my BP came down to normal, my HR came down really low and I was very fit. It's possible to be fit and obese. Of course generally that only happens with people actively trying to lose weight, but still.

Coondocks
12-03-2010, 02:52 PM
Im with you, it irritates me when people assume I can't or won't do something because I'm overweight.

When I do get frustrated to the point of anger I remember an incident with my neighbour a few months ago. We went to the gym, saw a friend of hers and decided to go to one of the cardio classes. Both of them are healthy weight range and active for the most part ( i can't speak for the friend, but neighbour is)
The friend had said something like "Don't be scared to go, you don't have to keep up with us just do what you can and rest when you need to" to which my friend replied (beating me to a response)
"Ha . . . shes in better shape then both of us, we'll have to keep up with her"

Made my day :) :)

katkitten
12-03-2010, 03:23 PM
I remember my freshman year of college. I am 5'7" and weighed about 185 so I was about 30 pounds overweight. I was in this P.E. class with these girls that were sooooo skinny, gorgeous, and fit looking. They were all members of one of the higher regarded sororities on campus and didnt really give me the time of day. One day we had a fitness test. They tested how many pushups/situps we can do in a specified time, how flexible we were, how strong we were, and how fast we could run a mile. Then they calculated our body age based on the results. I was 19 years old and they said I had the fitness of your average 16 year old. From overhearing their conversations, peaking over their shoulders at the results, and just watching their performance, I would say that most of them got "ages" in the 30s and 40s. To be fair I dont think they pushed themselves as hard as I did but I still found it kind of funny at the time (mainly because they were so snobby)

vdander24
12-03-2010, 03:30 PM
Coondocks - That's what its ALL about!!! It wasn't even me and I felt proud for you! Keep up the good work!

ebb&flow
12-03-2010, 03:32 PM
My thoughts exactly. :?: That's craziness. Do you live in a super healthy/thin part of the country? Gosh, around here you'd be considered tiny. :D Seriously. :dunno:

I live in Southern California. Perhaps it is a regional thing. I have been this weight before we moved here and I don't remember feeling this overweight at the same weight.

Maybe it's my pear shape. Since I carry the extra weight on my bottom half perhaps I look larger than I would at the same weight but evenly distributed. Whatever, I'm just going to keep doing my thing and try not to let other people bother me.

grneyedmustang
12-03-2010, 03:56 PM
It happens to me too. I think it's hilarious when I go to the gym and "show people up".

A week ago, my cousin was telling me all the stuff that I need to do at the gym to lose more weight. She was ready to go after twenty minutes of light bike riding...guess who worked out for an hour and fifteen...

graycyn
12-03-2010, 08:01 PM
I totally understand! It's so irritating! I've had doctors insist on testing me for things like high blood pressure, cholesterol, diabetes, none of which I have... nor was I even close to having any of these even at my highest weight of 262. They simply won't believe it when I tell them I have normal blood pressure... until they take it and DUH, find that I do and further, have a good resting heart rate as well.

I have problems, yes, a bad right knee (took it out in a bicycle accident when I was only a few pounds overweight in high school) and tricky ankles that I sprained heaven knows how many times as a youngster long before I was overweight. I also have some wrist and shoulder issues from a work-related RSI injury.

But otherwise, utterly healthy.

Back in the early 1990s, I weighed about 175 and could totally dance the feet off any and all of my skinny friends.

Further, I'm probably the fattest person in my Group Active class at the gym, but I get through it, though I can't move as fast because of the bad knee. I do the balance exercises no worse than most everyone else and they are HARD!

I guess the thing is, don't listen to the folks that want to paint you as "unhealthy" or "unfit". We know our own capabilities and they are more than others think!

nelie
12-03-2010, 08:46 PM
When I weighed well over 300 lbs, I used to walk multiple miles on most days. I've always been fairly active despite my weight.

Eliana
12-03-2010, 09:42 PM
I live in Southern California. Perhaps it is a regional thing. I have been this weight before we moved here and I don't remember feeling this overweight at the same weight.

Maybe it's my pear shape. Since I carry the extra weight on my bottom half perhaps I look larger than I would at the same weight but evenly distributed. Whatever, I'm just going to keep doing my thing and try not to let other people bother me.

Yeah, I think it's where you live. ;) I'm in Ohio and I am now well below average. No one gets negative comments or feedback until we reach the morbidly obese range. Even then I never experienced any.

Arctic Mama
12-04-2010, 01:47 AM
I was born and raised down there, it is definitely a regional thing! I always hated being made out to be fat at a healthy weight, it gave me a major complex growing up. Here in Alaska I am pretty much average. I noticed when I was at Costco one day that I didn't stand out in a crowd at all! All of the sudden I wasn't the biggest person in the room, or even close. Just normal.

I imagine it will be even better at my goal weight ;)

TornadoSiren
12-04-2010, 09:05 AM
I am going to weigh in here (no pun intended) and come down on blaming the media. Yes, it is true that one is probably most "healthy" in a normal BMI range, but that does not mean that being outside it suddenly means you are going to drop dead from a heart attack. But the media has gone absolutely crazy lately with stories telling us that we are all in imminent danger of death. They are even considering lowering the minimum BMI one must have to get the lap band. I read another article that said that basically even just 5 pounds overweight can put you in serious danger. Come on guys..give us a break, okay?

runningfromfat
12-04-2010, 09:23 AM
Honestly...i kept reading your post and saying to myself that at 5'7" and 178lbs, you are not fat! What's wrong with some people?

I guess they are thickening your skin and you will just have to ignore them.

Wow, I'm also shocked that you're getting those comments too! Maybe it's the way you dress or carry your weight (sorry, not trying to be critical but I just can't figure it out!). Pre-pregnancy I was 175lbs and 5'6" and the doc was very happy with my weight (but I used to be an hourglass too, so maybe that played a role? Now I'm a banana :mad:).

It could be that they are remembering the old you at 200lbs? I've lost about 20lbs since I saw some of my friends last and NOBODY has reacted... at all. So I think it's either not noticeable (but it definitely is to me) or I'm just put into the "fat category" since I've been this way for a couple of years now. :(

EmpressB
12-04-2010, 05:06 PM
I can so relate! I chalk it up to so many things, being ignorant is right up there. Also, I think some people truly have warped perceptions based on media and what is popular in society.

For example, I am Jamaican by birth, grew up there and came to the U.S. as a teen. Jamaica does not have problems of super obesity as in the U.S. but ofcourse there are tons of fat/plus sized and according to BMI standards, obese people. BMI in and of itself is a whole other discussion. Anyway, a lot of women from rural areas would be considered overweight or obese by their appearance, but many of these women FARM which is HARD work, they carry lots of heavy loads daily when they go to the market to sell their goods and other daily chores and in NO WAY live a sedentary lifestyle. They carry pails of water on their head AND in their hands (at the same time even), they climb trees, walk up and down hills, dig, hand wash clothes and the list goes on. Things MANY skinny people and the average person do not do on a daily basis if at all. They are FIT! But their size doesn't correspond to what Americans would call fit...as fit is slender/lean with abs and a chiseled body. In Jamaica, a lot of thicker women are given the nickname "Strong body" or "Healthy body" in fact, because of the association that a lot of women built that way, do a lot of work that does require strength and endurance and they are not out of breath while doing it.

So with that said, you have to be happy with YOUR body and focus on being healthy because a society cannot dictate it to you. Lots of things are cultural and factually false and have no bearing on whether or not you are infact healthy and strong and if you live in a society that bombards you with a certain image as strong and healthy and another as not, then you never see the shades of gray and you will have people like your neighbor and YES doctors too are part of a system of culture, that will be shocked that you don't fit the "mold".