Weight Loss Support - Anyone else here never seen a normal weight?




Nebuchadnezzar
12-02-2010, 08:38 PM
Seriously, I hear so much about people who were skinny once, well...I cant remember being thin. Maybe as a child! And I dont remember what that was like, so.

Some things that scare me:
They say the longer you were fat, the worse your skin's health is. (I am COVERED in stretchmarks! Literally. Seems only my face, hands, feet and lower right leg -yeah, just the right- were spared) and loose skin looks even worse after than those who gained after being thin for so long.

I have NO idea what my body shape is under this. I feel my bones, but I don't know if I am an hour glass figure (my mother is) or something else. All I have been for so long is an apple. How can you tell at 291 pounds?

Are my breasts actual mammary tissue at this size or mostly regular body fat? No clue. What might happen when I lose weight? Couple of marbles in a sack or a C/D cup?

I have had wide, flat feet for as long as I can remember as well. Upon weight loss do/will they go down any or are ugly feet not weight related?

Skin conditions like Eczema, dandruff. Some say these are weight related, but I just don't know. Anybody got a clue for a lifelong fatty?


nelie
12-02-2010, 08:52 PM
My advice is don't stress. Do what you gotta do and see what happens. I am at my lowest adult weight and probably around the weight I was in 6th grade. Yes I was near/over 200 lbs in elementary school.

TheBunneh
12-02-2010, 09:00 PM
I was an obese child and an overweight adolescent. Then I gained weight again and became an obese adult. I have no idea what I'll look like when I lose more weight, and honestly I can't even imagine myself smaller than I am now. The idea is completely alien.


Nebuchadnezzar
12-02-2010, 09:05 PM
My advice is don't stress. Do what you gotta do and see what happens. I am at my lowest adult weight and probably around the weight I was in 6th grade. Yes I was near/over 200 lbs in elementary school.


Good advice, I guess that's really all I can do.

The Bunneh:

I hear that completely. I kind of get anxious when thinking about weight loss or how I will and wont look. I just don't know what to expect and I hear the sudden surge of attention and change in personality either in yourself or people you know can be scary. This stuff is no easy pickins, is it?

TooManyDimples
12-02-2010, 09:34 PM
I know how you feel. I've been overweight most of my life. No clue what I'm going to look like at my healthy weight. I've been over 200 for at least 10 years now so yeah... =P

mkendrick
12-02-2010, 09:42 PM
I was always chubby. I have never experienced being "fat," but I had also never experienced being thin. I was always the biggest girl, and I just felt relatively huge. I'm pretty sure I had always been in the middle of the overweight range.

grneyedmustang
12-02-2010, 09:45 PM
I don't think I've seen a normal weight. I was a chubby kid. Not grotesquely obese, but chubby. I remember being 10 years old and stealing my mom's Dexatrim, because I wanted to lose weight (I DO NOT recommend that. :) )

Actually, I take that back - I started playing basketball in high school, and I was on the high end of the normal range on BMI charts after dropping about 25 pounds (and I still thought I was huge). But as an adult, I have not seen a normal weight. I have no idea what's under the 50 pounds I need to lose.

And I do agree about being overweight and having skin issues - I have KP, and I've heard that it's hereditary and not related to weight - but I swear it tends to "flare up" more when I've been eating crap.

Arctic Mama
12-02-2010, 09:46 PM
I thought I was pretty normal in middle school and high school, but even then I was still medically overweight or obese for all of that. I looked good, it was mostly my body type (not eating habits), but I have certainly never seen myself skinny or even normal (by medical definitions). I went from the awkward, chunky phase in elementary school to overly curvy puberty phase in sixth grade, and then pretty much full adult proportions by 14 years old, and a muscular, voluptuous set of adult proportions, at that. I've never had an average sized body, though once upon a time it was attractive and close enough!

Lauren201
12-02-2010, 09:48 PM
This is going to sound weird, but, I was a normal weight my whole life until my twenties. Here's the thing though: I had no idea I was normal and I thought I was the fattest person on the planet. I really thought I was fat, I had absolutely no idea that I wasn't and then I started gaining weight lots of weight until now. I literally became what I thought I was. I have terrible stretch marks all over my body too. I'm trying not to worry about what my skin will look like when I get my weight down. Also I've been doing a lot of research on food and learning what to eat and how to eat since I was never taught. My parents were morbidly obese and kids at school would tease me all the time and tell me I looked just like them, even though I didn't and couldn't because I was adopted.

Smiling_Sara
12-02-2010, 09:54 PM
The last time I remember being a "normal" weight was prob 4th grade. So, 10 years old or so? After we moved in 5th grade, I felt like I had zero friends and ate to comfort myself. It just continued all through my adult years till something clicked when I was about 28? I knew I had to make a change. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.

And I'm still not a "normal" weight, and it may take me a while to finally get there ( been stuck for about a year ) but I'm determined to get to a healthy weight.

:hug:

HadEnough
12-02-2010, 10:02 PM
This is going to sound weird, but, I was a normal weight my whole life until my twenties. Here's the thing though: I had no idea I was normal and I thought I was the fattest person on the planet. I really thought I was fat, I had absolutely no idea that I wasn't and then I started gaining weight lots of weight until now. I literally became what I thought I was. I have terrible stretch marks all over my body too. I'm trying not to worry about what my skin will look like when I get my weight down. Also I've been doing a lot of research on food and learning what to eat and how to eat since I was never taught. .

Lauren,
I could have wrote that word for word.

I always thought I was fat. The only weight I remember was 122 pounds when I graduated, but I remember being a size 9 when I was in 10th grade when all my friends were 0's and 2's. So when I compared myself to them, I was fat. I think I believed that I was fat.....so I might as well be really fat. So I never really cared what I did to myself. I am full of stretchmarks on my belly, but that was due to having twins. I do have questions though, just like you do, about what i will look like. And I guess I just have to wait and see. I know for a fact, it can't be as bad as it is right now. I would rather have loose skin, then have skin filled with fat.

Sunshine73
12-02-2010, 11:13 PM
I think the last time I was a "normal" weight I was probably a year old? Maybe two. After that it was chubber city and on into overweight and finally obese as a child. :(

Like you I often wonder what is under all these layers. I wonder what my face really looks like without all the weight. I worry that I might actually be completely ugly under all this fat. UGH!! I guess only time will tell. :)

ringmaster
12-02-2010, 11:56 PM
I was never really a normal weight either. around 1st-2cnd grade I started getting chubby, and also taller! I was fatter and taller than the other girls and most of the boys. Then in 4th grade my mom put me on a diet... Slim Fast TV dinners, and yea...even Dexatrim (bad, I know) and had me do exercise videos after school.

sad thing is... I'm doing the exact same things I did back when I was kid to lose weight..different diets, pills and workouts hoping I find something that will work and make me thin.

Ija
12-03-2010, 02:38 AM
I was obese since early childhood (age 3-4) and didn't lose the weight until my late 20's. Although you'll never mistake me for having virgin skin, I look much better now than I ever thought I would, and the more I work on my fitness, the more my body's appearance improves. I wore a bikini to the beach last year...

You'll never know how you look until you get there, and even then (just as now), the best thing you can do is just take good care of yourself.

Lauren201
12-03-2010, 02:40 AM
Lauren,
I could have wrote that word for word.

I always thought I was fat. The only weight I remember was 122 pounds when I graduated, but I remember being a size 9 when I was in 10th grade when all my friends were 0's and 2's. So when I compared myself to them, I was fat. I think I believed that I was fat.....so I might as well be really fat. So I never really cared what I did to myself. I am full of stretchmarks on my belly, but that was due to having twins. I do have questions though, just like you do, about what i will look like. And I guess I just have to wait and see. I know for a fact, it can't be as bad as it is right now. I would rather have loose skin, then have skin filled with fat.

It's so nice to know that I'm not the only one!

RoseRodent
12-03-2010, 05:21 AM
I've been thin but I was also dysmorphic at the time because I was descending into anorexia, so I thought I was fat then just as much as at a higher weight, so I've no idea what I really look like slim without the crazy goggles on. For the most part I'd say don't worry about it because you can't change any of it, if your bust is big or small you can't do a lot with it. Maybe your skin will get better, maybe it won't but it sure will be easier to look after because there will be less expanse to cover with eczema cream and you will be able to reach it all, so you may well be able to manage it much better even if it doesn't improve.

If you've always had flat feet then there's a chance they may sort out as you get lighter but they may not, but this is the one thing I'd take specific action on - they aren't likely to spring up into beautiful arches of their own accord, if you do nothing then they will almost certainly remain flat. Find someone who can show you arch exercises, or look them up online if you can't (ideally) find anywhere they can show you what to do. Take it slowly at your higher weights, you don't want inflamed tendons in your feet, but you can get started with simple ones like sitting with feet out in front and doing the "good toes, naughty toes" ballet/gym drills of pointing and flexing your feet. Weak feet will not become strong feet without work any more than abs become strong without crunches, so be sure to include them in your overall workout program and there's a good chance you can have nice feet. Maybe you won't, maybe you have genetically flat feet, but at lesat you give yourself a better chance if you work on them than if you just leave them and see what happens.

rockinrobin
12-03-2010, 06:35 AM
I've been overweight since 5th grade. Became obese in my very early 20's, morbildly obese, and super morbildly obese before I was 25. I became a normal weight when I was 43.

I urge you to not stress about your skin and all that; at this point you've got to be waaaaaay more stressed by having the weight on you then off you.

Because that is what's harmful, not extra skin, not stretch marks extra, but the extra pounds.

Trust me you will be thrilled, thrilled, thrilled with the results.

Having excess skin doesn't cause numerous cancers, heart disease, diabetes, arthritis, fatty liver disease, gout, shortness of breath, acid reflux and a host of other debilitating and deadly diseases.

Having excess skin will not stop you from fitting comfortably in airplane seats, restaurant booths, beach chairs, lawn chairs, etc. Nor will it keep you from looking MARVELOUS in clothing, small sized clothing that is.

And yes, I wouldn't be surprised if your skin conditions clear up with the weight loss. I was full of blemishes, now I can hardly remember the last time I had one. They are sooo few and far between.

Every area of your life will be improved so greatly, you will absolutely not believe it. Being a normal weight is better than you can possibly imagine. I always knew it would be good, I just hadn't a clue it would be "this good". :)

Thebeautyandthegeek
12-03-2010, 07:43 AM
I'm in the same boat as you nebuchadnezzar, I've never been small or thin.. I wore a size 9 shoe when I was 12.. always been tall and always been obese. Ugh. I hate that word. Like you I have nothing to compare myself now with.. I can't say "when I was thinner...." etc because this is the only me I've ever known.
If it helps, I remember when I was in year 7 first year of high school I wore a size 18-20. Year 9 a 22 and after that well, I just got bigger and bigger.

spixiet
12-03-2010, 10:24 AM
Looking back at pictures, the last time I would have been considered in the normal weight range would have been kindergarten. I spent the rest of elementary school in the overweight range, moving into obesity by 6th or 7th (I would guess). As a teen or adult, I've always worn plus sizes, so choosing a goal weight is really kind of a joke to me. I picked the number because it put me at a "normal" BMI, but I have no idea if I'd be happier with a higher or lower weight :?:

While I'm worried about loose skin or my face looking older or gaunt, there are so many things my weight has held me back from. I'm so excited at the thought of all the things I'll be able to do without this weight around my neck :D

synger
12-03-2010, 11:19 AM
I've been overweight since puberty, and obese since college. Just kept going up and up. Now I'm slowly coming back down. I'm not worried about how I'll look... I'm focused on how I'll feel. At 46, I'm beginning to feel the pull of aging, and that's been my real impetus to lose the weight once and for all.

Sure, I don't like the idea of loose skin and sagging everything. But it'll be a HECK of a lot better than where I began!

Beach Patrol
12-03-2010, 01:50 PM
I have been a normal weight... several times in my life, and yet, I always thought I was fat. I was a real chubby "gerber" baby, a very chubby child, a little overweight adolescent, and then... a VERY THIN (too thin!!!) teenager. I started gaining "adult weight" in my late 20's. I thought I was "fat" when I was 132!!! And when I hit 152 about 10 years ago, I really thought I was huge. But now, having reached a high of 192, I realize that 132 and even 152 was just about right. It's been almost 6 years since I was a healthy "normal" weight (138) ... during those last 6 years, I have bounced from 150 to 165, to 160, to 178, to 165, to 184, to 192 to 180, to 175... for the past year I have fluctuated between 172-185.

It's disheartening. I would really like to be 135-140ish. I'd even be OK at 150 I think! Yet I KEEP TRYING. I just cannot let myself give up! I guess that's a good thing. :^:

pointspluspioneer
12-03-2010, 01:59 PM
I started getting overweight in the 8th grade. I can relate. Don't know what it's like to be thin. However, when i lost 70 lbs. (gained some back since) my shoe size went from a 9 1/2 - 10 to an 8 1/2 - 9 and i never had wide feet, narrow actually. Its weird but it happens. Don't stress, you will be ok.

goodforme
12-03-2010, 02:01 PM
Seriously, I hear so much about people who were skinny once, well...I cant remember being thin. Maybe as a child! And I dont remember what that was like, so.

Some things that scare me:
They say the longer you were fat, the worse your skin's health is. (I am COVERED in stretchmarks! Literally. Seems only my face, hands, feet and lower right leg -yeah, just the right- were spared) and loose skin looks even worse after than those who gained after being thin for so long.

I have NO idea what my body shape is under this. I feel my bones, but I don't know if I am an hour glass figure (my mother is) or something else. All I have been for so long is an apple. How can you tell at 291 pounds?

Are my breasts actual mammary tissue at this size or mostly regular body fat? No clue. What might happen when I lose weight? Couple of marbles in a sack or a C/D cup?

I have had wide, flat feet for as long as I can remember as well. Upon weight loss do/will they go down any or are ugly feet not weight related?

Skin conditions like Eczema, dandruff. Some say these are weight related, but I just don't know. Anybody got a clue for a lifelong fatty?



I've never been normal. My baby pictures, through toddlerhood, kindergarten, all through school and into adulthood, I was fat. I had rolls, I had 2 or 3 chins, I had a huge belly that I've always been so ashamed of. The skinniest I ever got as an adult was 180 (still in the overweight BMI) and I wore a size 14 and still had fat all over me. I think I wore a 14 in middle school? I really can't remember.

I picked a number for a goal that is 10 pounds lighter than I've ever been, still technically in the overweight range for BMI. I have no idea what my body will look like at that weight, if I'll be happy or if I'll try to go lower. I'm sure I'll be all flabby and have loose skin hanging around me like a veil, and I'm pretty sure I'll still have a belly I'm not happy with.

I wear a size 11W shoe, have since 6th grade. I have very wide feet, not attractive in any way. The good news is, when I weighed 180 I could wear a 10W. I may be able to get into a 9 when I go low enough, but again, the last time I wore a 9 was in 4th or 5th grade so I don't know.

I have very loose, hangy, swingy boobs, that will never look like I want them to no matter how much weight I loose, so to me the smaller the better! A DDD doesn't look like much when it's flattened out and hanging to your waist, you know? :o

And on body shape, I think there should be a new one. Orange. Oranges are round, right? That's me. I'm round. I'm fat all over. I can't tell if my belly will turn into a pear or an apple or a bananna, for that matter. Right now I'm calling myself an apple, cause my belly sticks out farther than my butt, and my legs are pretty much thin from mid-thigh down. That could change too.

But, there is something good about entering into uncharted territory (so to speak) in that we have no SET EXPECTATIONS about what we want to look like when we finally consider ourselves at goal. We can be happy about reaching a normal weight, without saying to ourselves "well, the last time I weighed this much I wore X size, and now I wear Y size, so I'm still not happy" or "when I graduated high school I looked like a movie star and I won't quit until I look like that again" or numerous other things people tell themselves.

A healthy weight would make me so happy that I'd be willing to accept my flawed body. :hug: Good luck!!

moon safari
12-03-2010, 03:25 PM
None of those questions will have answers until those situations actually come to pass. It scares the junk out of you now but, just like everything else, the fear of the thing is worse than the thing itself.

I wish I had some insight for you but the thinnest I can remember being was 213lbs and that was in college.

Coondocks
12-03-2010, 03:38 PM
I was 'normal' when I was a toddler, then weight started packing on. I wonder if it was related to moving, we moved almost every year after that until i was 12 or 13. Interesting.
I had the oposite reaction than most, I never realized I was as big as I was until a year or 2 ago. I knew I was overweight, but I hadn't ever thought I was in the obeese category.
The lowest weight I can remember ever being was 175 (that was in october :p )
Im enjoying seeing how it looks and feels month to month now, I have curves, natural ones I never knew I had . . . collarbones too :)
I think about saggin skin, sure, but I can't honestly say I'm stressed about it. I've begun to see it more like it'll change when it does, and if it doesnt - I don't think I care. It'll be a daily reminder of not only how far I've come but how proud I should be for doing it.
Just my opinion :)

elisaannh
12-03-2010, 06:17 PM
If you are under 40, you will find that your skin will adjust better than you think. Stretch marks will fade to fine pale lines. Body shape will most likely be general, as your definition won't come unless you also become thin and fit. I never did lose the last of the lower belly, even at 147 pounds. I wore a spandex onesie when I wore a slender dress. Amazingly your feet will lose weight! I went down a couple of sizes. Hard to say on the breasts, I went down quite a bit, and when you lose all the fat under the arms and across the back, you'll be amazed at how well bras and clothes will fit! I was an apple shape, I ended up more of a tree trunk shape with a small definition to my waist. It was fine with me.

I know what I looked like when I lost 120 pounds in my 30's. But I am now 55, so I am in the same boat you are, wondering what the heck I am going to look like and in what shape as now I can expect wrinkles and sagging.

I am practicing more mirror time these days, getting to know my body all over again. It's so strange to be over 300 pounds and not recognize myself, and then, as the pounds melt away, starting to see me...but in a different light. I know I have damaged my body with excess weight, but I will be happy with whatever comes.

LiannaKole
12-04-2010, 04:39 AM
Me. I've never seen a normal weight since I can remember, and definitely not since I started weighing myself.

I may have just recently broken into a "normal" weight for the first time. I'm not sure what to think about it yet (other than OMG, I did it??!). I've never had this happen.

It worries me as well as excites me. Seriously, what the heck does my body look like when I'm thin? Dunno - never seen it before.

I mean, I STABBED someone with my hipbones today! Accidentally of course ("Yes, officer, she assaulted me with her pokey hipbones!"). But come on! That can't happen to me! Only it did. :dizzy:

"Being a normal weight is better than you can possibly imagine. I always knew it would be good, I just hadn't a clue it would be this good." -- Dear lord, I hope so.

"When you lose all the fat under the arms and across the back, you'll be amazed at how well bras and clothes will fit!" -- I am so ready to lose the weight from under arms and back. It's a pain, and I've always hated that fat more than most of the rest.

Rosinante
12-04-2010, 05:39 AM
I was underweight at birth.
Fat from weaning onwards.

In October 2004 I was, for about a week, officially normal at 136. Otherwise, always overweight, obese, morbidly obese or super obese.

helwa588
12-04-2010, 06:55 AM
I never been thin. I don't know what the thin me even looks like. Which is kinda of depressing because I always wanted to know how it feels to no have my things rub together. How it would feel to go to a normal clothing store without worrying about whether they have have my size or not.

julesp313
12-04-2010, 09:16 PM
I remember back in junior school (in the UK, so about age 9-10) being mocked for being fat, so I think it's safe to say I've never been a normal weight. Certainly as an adult I've only been overweight or obese. My mother likes to tell me to visualize myself as a thin person - it's near impossible for me to do, having never been thin and also not having a creative or imaginative bone in my body. The one thing I will say is when I'm working out consistently and eating well, I do see changes to my body - much less so on the scale, but my clothes fit better and I start to see definition. Then something happens and I have a set back... but all I can do is keep getting back on that path and moving forward!

sept15lija
12-04-2010, 09:31 PM
Definitely only obese as an adult, and mostly obese and maybe overweight as a young child. I don't remember not being fat. I am dealing with some skin issues now, I have a lot of extra skin on my thighs and my stomach...and zillions of stretch marks. Two pregnancies is part of that, although I've always had stretch marks. Anyways I am keeping surgery in the back of my mind if it becomes necessary, as in it is really bothering me and things don't tighten up at all after a year or two at goal weight. All I know is I am starting to look good clothed, and I feel awesome, so it's all worth it!!

jewelswa
02-18-2011, 10:58 PM
I stayed around 140-150 tops until i turned 31...My clothes size was always a 4-6....at 31 I started having those girl issues and really packed on the lbs...221 lbs was my top weight after my surgery, I thought I would lose it all again like magic...But its not going anywhere..I am at 215 now and 71 lbs needs to be removed...Feeling hopeless in west TN.