Beck Diet Solution - Beck Diet For Life/Solution Ė December 2010 Ė Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach

12-01-2010, 06:57 AM
Welcome to the discussion group, support group, diet coach group, diet buddy group relating to the two books by Dr. Judith S. Beck:The Complete Beck Diet for Life ( the first bookThe Beck DIET solution: train your brain to think like a thin person. (

The Beck Diet Solution is a psychological program, not a food plan. It provides a step-by-step program to learn specific techniques to stay on our diet, lose weight, and maintain our weight loss for life. The program is based on Dr. Beck's clinical research in Cognitive Therapy (CT).

The Complete Beck Diet for Life expands the earlier work and includes a food plan with suggested menus. From the cover:With The Complete Beck Diet for Life you'll discover the 5 stages of successful dieting and maintenance. You'll learn how to motivate yourself, give yourself credit for every change you make, create time and energy for dieting, and handle hunger and cravings. Dr. Beck eases you into changing one step at a time. You'll master one task before moving on to the next. And you'll learn techniques to deal with challenging situations, such as sticking with ou plan at celebrations and dealing with "food pushers." With Dr. Beck's skills, you'll achieve a lifetime of healthful eating and lifelong motivation.

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12-01-2010, 07:02 AM
:welcome: Blue Daisy :welcome:

And, even though you've been on 3FC for two years, :wel3fc:

How did you discover The Beck Diet for Life?

And how did you find this forum on 3 Fat Chicks?

12-01-2010, 07:03 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Lunch was a modest portion of leftover stuffing and broccoli (along with my, of course, Man Salad), CREDIT moi. Modest is the key word; it's been new to me on my journey to serve myself a portion of reasonable size. As I begin to serve myself anything, the more-more-more part of my brain kicks in big time.

My Sabotaging Thoughts to avoid my walk after work were that it was getting dark and I had something that I wanted to do. Then I remembered that the darkness excuse had a couple of months left in it and the something I wanted to do excuse would always be there. So I went, CREDIT moi, taking a new route to wake up my explorer genes. Voila - I discovered a cluster of four places of interest, including a cupcake bakery, which is good news and bad news. I left with only their flyer and tantalizing smells. But when I find that I need a cake hit, a cupcake is a dandy way to limit the volume.

maryblu - Your "turkey sausage thang" is, indeed, creative - particularly the extra tarragon part. Maybe you'll also stick that in our recipe thread so it's easy to find later.

onebyone - It's good news that your DH was nervous about managing software types; it's a good sign that he's open to learning all that he has to master to do that job. Yay for your creative breakthrough; you do keep your creative juices flowing.

CeeJay - Waving. Happy Birthday yesterday.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Honking Kudos for that many books to the book fair. Wish you lived nearer to give me some encouragement to do the same with our zillion volumes of books that we read, enjoyed, but never plan to read again. By the by, "A screaming comes across the sky" made me want to dig into Gravity's Rainbow; do you have any suggestions for my first Thomas Pynchon read?

Shepherdess - Smart thinking to get back to weighing and measuring; this portion creep thing is real and, apparently, universal. Ouch for the big storm and a traveling DH - hope your take-care-of-me part of you kicks in.

Beverlyjoy - Will be holding my breath for the next 24 hours. I like the advice to send your surgeon's recommendation "to eat lots of fruits, veggies, protein and whole grains" in the email when you tell your friends that you're home, including the notion that he also told you to avoid desserts since your activity will be restricted. You really do have to prevent a bakery's worth of cakes and pies from arriving at your door. Pain doesn't help with rational thinking.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Ouch for the news about your knees - hope the anti-inflammatory works its magic. The stationary bike sounds like a stellar idea. There are so many unused ones taking up space in people's homes that, lacking a Craig's list, some form of putting up ads - even on your local supermarket bulletin board - might just produce a free one. <sigh> . . . you do have to file your first December post in the November thread while you wait for the rest of the world to wake up, LOL.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for a better day with Kudos for using NO CHOICE to make the walk happen.

Donna (new2me2) - Congrats for reaching your weight goal and entering the wonderful stage of maintaining. It's a lovely place to be for the rest of your life. Kudos for using "Beck principles over Thanksgiving" - it's a time when they're needed, all right.

Nature Girl - Packaging left over turkey without nibbling is huge; Kudos. Can't say that I've ever been successful at that. The timing of Day 22 is neat - just when you needed it for your office cookie offerings.

Woodland - Kudos for giving yourself credit, "I DO have the ability to focus my mind on my goals." [Neat that your rewards list takes you to the place of dwelling on the joy in your life.]

Marci (madrikh) - Yay for having a confirmation of where you're at and having a plan to go forward. Kudos for getting in your treadmill miles.

Blue Daisy - Yep, we're all ready to be your Diet Coach / Diet Buddy and ask you to play that role for us. Kudos for jumping in seriously by gathering up the materials you need. Stage 1 is a great time to adjust to your new strategies.

LOL at your baby utensils - that's a new idea for me; what a kick, a constant reminder while eating. Count me in that club that finds it hard to remember to give myself credit. It works for me to force myself to do it in my daily posting, so it's at least once a day. Glad you're here.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

Determine Your Lowest Achievable Weight

If you lose more weight by eating less or exercising more, fine. Keep up with your new routine until you reach a new plateau and reassess the situation.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 274.

12-01-2010, 09:12 AM
From BillBE: maryblu - Your "turkey sausage thang" is, indeed, creative - particularly the extra tarragon part. Maybe you'll also stick that in our recipe thread so it's easy to find later.

Well, maybe I will! *laffin'. I realized I left out an ingredient which could be big deal, so I will post on recipe thread. Even though most turkeys are injected with a sodium solution, (*ughhh)..there is far less sodium in one of these than in a turkey sausage.

Woke up hungry; that is my *sign that I am doing things right.

12-01-2010, 09:35 AM
Big thanks to everyone for your wonderful support, great ideas with food & recovering, and kindness.

I am hoping for a good surgery tomorrow. I am ready.

I am a little concerned - my stomach is so upset. It's probably nerves. I feel nauseous too. I have many meds to take after my surgery:


Please send any positive thoughts or prayers to my tummy. That's a lot of medicine for an queezy stomach.

Thanks again. Much to do today.

12-01-2010, 10:20 AM
Happy December everyone! This is my favorite month, even with the weather. Food was OP yesterday and easy thanks to weighing and measuring. When I first started Beck, weighing and measuring always made me want to rebel. It must be a sign of progress that I can slip back into it so easily and, at least yesterday, it seemed to snap everything back into place.

The wind was blowing yesterday and the snow is drifting so no outdoor exercise. It was hard to motivate myself, but I did pick up my jump rope.

Welcome Blue Daisy! Beck is a lot of work in the beginning, but it sounds like youíve been doing a great job. I love the idea of eating with baby utensils to help slow you down. Yay for the weight moving in the right direction! Itís rewarding to see that.

Lexxis, hugs while you deal with the frustration of an anniversary no one else remembers and your late fatherís birthday. Those are strong emotions and would be hard to deal with. Glad to hear you are feeling better. Great job getting back OP and getting out for a walk even with low motivation.

Gardenerjoy, a day of hauling books sounds like some serious exercise. I donít know how itís affecting you emotionally, but I know I would probably be grieving to have to give up books. But maybe itís just a relief that they are no longer in limbo. Either way, great job getting it done.

Madrikh, yay for a good day. Itís great that you discovered the problem and have a solution in place. It sounds like you have a good system for diet and exercise and keeping a separate notebook for moods and medications is a great addition.

New2me2, good to see you again! Sometimes life just gets busy, but great job getting back here when you could. Congratulations on reaching your goal! Kudos for pulling out those Beck skills and maintaining through the holiday.

Seadwaters, great job staying OP through a day of meetings. I hope the anti-inflammatory helps with your knees. Surgery does not sound like an appealing option. Do your pool workouts feel better on your knees?

Onebyone, your DH starting a new job would be a seriously stressful event. I hope, in the long run, it will all be for the better. Best of luck finishing all your projects for the Christmas show.

Nature Girl, great job getting in your workout even when you didnít feel like it. It sounds like the day was throwing you lots of temptations and you handled them all well. Great job recognizing that stopping at the store would be too big a temptation.

Maryblu, LOL at veggies throwing your body into shock. Sounds like you found a great way to use up leftovers and also satisfy a craving. I like the idea that waking up hungry is a sign of success.

Woodland, great job getting back to your Beck skills so quickly. Itís sometime a surprise after slip that getting back OP will make you feel better and itís not as difficult as it seems.

BillBE, great job reigning in portions sizes and quieting that part of the brain that insists we need more. Yay for exploring a new route to add a little excitement to your walk. Finding a cupcake bakery would be difficult for me, but youíre right that it can help keep portions in check.

Beverlyjoy, sending you supportive thoughts while you prepare for surgery and hoping your tummy calms down. It would be difficult to get down those meds with an upset tummy.

12-01-2010, 12:19 PM
We went to a nice restaurant last night, one that specializes in serving local foods. The entrees sounded huge (a half chicken?! -- I did see someone order that and it turned out to be a small chicken, but it was still 2 or 3 servings in my food plan), so I asked that they bring a salad out with DH's entree. And, I ordered dessert. It was a nice compromise for me -- both special and restrained. DH and I shared bites of everything so I got to taste some sweet potato soup and trout and he ate some of my dessert. And I left food on my plate, both during the salad course and the dessert course. I'm happy that I can go out to a special place and not have to overeat in order for it to be special.

I met my exercise goal for November!

The first of the month is the day I change my ticker and it slid down a couple of pounds. It wasn't at all clear in the last week that I wouldn't have to slide it up, so I'm thrilled with that!

WI: -1.1kg, Exercise: +25 1350/1350 minutes for November, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Welcome BlueDaisy!

BillBlueEyes: I haven't read Pynchon, but, of course, that never stops a good librarian from recommending books. Since his first three books all cover many of the same themes and all include bits that should appeal to an engineer, I think I would read them in the order written: V, The Crying of Lot 49, and then Gravity's Rainbow.

Beverlyjoy: thinking happy, warm, healing thoughts for you and your tummy and your feet!

new2me2: great to "see" you! And congratulations on getting to goal weight!

Hugs to Lexxiss, and greetings to all!

12-01-2010, 12:50 PM
Beverlyjoy, I think this comic strip was written just for you!

12-01-2010, 02:21 PM
Hi Coaches

credit I had a 100% OP breakfast this morning! YAY! And I have had two 100% OP snacks. credit The only thing not "greenlight" so far has been the 1% milk but I can't use skim in my coffee so that will have to remain that way. Somethings I just am unwilling to change right now (maybe later) and geez louise if I did I'd set myself up for rebellion big time. I've even had 2 cups of water credit and will have two more when I head upstairs after this post. I weighed myself creditand it's up again: 282.8 :( YIKES

DH's sister canceled on me last night but we made plans for this afternoon--actually anytime now she should be calling. My art work is going slowly but I am enjoying it immensely. I have to pick up the pace though. Not long now until, the show. Mid afternoon tomorrow and Friday morning, (I am out Thursday night but maybe will get home early enough to continue working), will be "finishing" time and that will be that. As it stands, it looks like I won't have any new paintings, mostly new jewelry pieces. Somehow I have to get some xmas cards made too. I have most of the files already on my hard drive-just have to print cut and glue ...yes, that's "all" I have to do:( seems like too much right now but I just have to re-focus and do as much as I can. I can rest on Saturday after 2 when the show is over.

I'm anxious to hear from DH as to how things are going... my fingers & toes are crossed that he finds himself in a good place!
Better go.

Enjoy your day coaches.

PS. I am planning on 5 min with wii walk it out. I'll report back in with that. UPDATE: 17 min done
No. I am going to commit to this (gardenerjoy I want to say that I too have met my monthly workout goal! Thanks for the inspiration!)
31 days x 5min/day of planned exercise = exercise goal 155 min this month.

12-01-2010, 04:37 PM
Hi Coaches

I have finished marking - YAY - and now I can get on with work that is pressing. Yesterday it rained all day (2 inches) so a perfect marking-at-home day. I barely moved out of the chair all day and went to bed very late - so that could be why my weight is up (a lot) today? Or the lamb from 2 days ago!

Lexxiss - Credit for walking when you really didn't want to. Thanks for the tea tips. Hope you continue to feel better
Onebyone - Yay for a creative breakthrough just when you need it - you have a way of doing that. Hope things are going the way they need to with your DH. Your advice the BeverlyJoy was brilliant - practical and sensible. Will have to remember it
BlueDaisy - WELCOME - you really seem to be forging ahead with the plan. Giving credit spontaneously is something I struggle with but you seem to have it in your sights. Yay for 4.4lbs down
NatureGirl - Credit for not being swayed by cookies and party food - and for sitting down to eat in the midst of plenty. Everywhere I walk at the moment there is a staggering amount of food on display - a bad time of year
Woodland - I went looking and we do have a Craig's list here! But it doesn't seem to have much in it. You have inspired me to look at cheaper sources. Firstly I will find out what type of bike I want in the stores and then I will look for second hand
BillBlueEyes - Credit for modest serves - I have yet to do that without scales to hand
BeverlyJoy - Well if it is the 2nd of December here already you haven't got long to wait! Thinking of you and all those pills you will have to take. I think your tummy will settle after the surgery - one big source of anxiety gone!
Shepherdess - Happy December to you - wonder why it is your favourite month what with the snow and the wind. Credit for slipping back into familiar practices
Gardenerjoy - You seem to have the restaurant thing nailed. I find it difficult to even think special and restrained in the same thought. Will practice that when I am buying a take out lunch in the city today

:yay: - Food on plan
:yay: - Weighed myself (up 2.8lb to 216.2!! honestly)
:yay: - Planned today's food and lunch out
:yay: - Checked in
:devil: - Did not exercise
:devil: - Ate standing while serving!

Have a good day

12-01-2010, 04:59 PM
seadwaters Kudos for all the good credits! I noticed that you had an encounter with a food while standing today. I am still doing that too and still with bananas! And we also share the no exercise thing so before I sit down to start making things again I will do the 5min wii fit. I keep forgetting to ask you, but do Australians celebrate Thanksgiving or is it called something else?

gardenerjoy Wow gardenerjoy big credit to you for meeting your November exercise goal AND moving your ticker lower! You are really in the home stretch! I am so thrilled for you. Your example inspired me to set a very very modest exercise goal for myself this month and to post it on the challenge thread you mentioned and from there I went to the Dec weight challenge thread so thanks for all that!

Shepherdess I was surprised to read that someone's (your) favorite month is December! I never considered that before which is kind of odd... Kudos for the OP food and jump rope. I don't fight weighing and measuring either anymore. Credit to us both for this!

Beverlyjoy Good luck good luck good luck tomorrow! After tomorrow you are getting better everyday. Your body will accept all those medicines. It's not something your brain need be concerned with. Just keep thinking good healing pink bubble thoughts...:bubbles:

maryblu Kudos for being OP and for enjoying your life! It's a joy to read. We are enjoying a storm which blew up from Minnesota they say. It's very rainy but not very cold. Thanks for that!

Billblueeyes The more-more-more part of my brain has pretty much taken over the rest of my eating mind. I need to whittle it down to size. Modest portions are really really difficult for me. I managed it for breakfast though-but SIL showed up for lunch and I way overate. Even when I was stuffed I still wanted more. Time to say NO CHOICE more-more-more!

Blue Daisy Welcome! You are well on your Beck way! I am looking forward to your posts :)

Back to the grindstone....:yes:

12-01-2010, 05:28 PM
Hi friends...

My really upset tummy from this morning (which I figured was a major case of nerves) - well it turns out to be the stomach/intestinal flu - and a fever of 101. My surgeon told me I had to cancel the surgery set for tomorrow. My mom had this last week - on Friday. It's going around. Phooey.

I am beyond disappointed and feeling bewildered.(and sad and mad and frustrated....) I can hardly believe it. DS always uses this expression..."It is what it is" And it's the flu.

I have had a 'nervous' tummy of late - which was normal apprehension, I know. Honestly - bad timing for all this flu stuff. DH is always the optimist - says - better to have the flu now than in the middle of surgery recovery. I guess.

Thanks for your positive thoughts, support and kindness.

gardenerjoy - love the comic!

I'll catch up with ya all tomorrow. I have the whole day free, of course.

12-01-2010, 07:13 PM
Hi friends...

My really upset tummy from this morning (which I figured was a major case of nerves) - well it turns out to be the stomach/intestinal flu - and a fever of 101. My surgeon told me I had to cancel the surgery set for tomorrow. My mom had this last week - on Friday. It's going around. Phooey.

I am beyond disappointed and feeling bewildered.(and sad and mad and frustrated....) I can hardly believe it. DS always uses this expression..."It is what it is" And it's the flu.

OMG! SO SORRY it's not happening tomorrow... but DH is right: you need to be completely well if you don't want complications after surgery. On the bright side, you've pretty much had to face everything you're going to face the next time you come up to your surgery date, which I hope is SOON, you can be pretty sure you're prepared - except you may want to add a face mask to ward off viruses in the air along with the bubblewrap. :hug: I hope you take tomorrow completely off and relax.

Blue Daisy
12-01-2010, 10:50 PM
WOW! Thanks so much for the warm welcomes. There are so many of you. I can tell I'm going to enjoy getting to know you all on this journey.

Someone mentioned I'd been on 3FC for 2 years. What a true example of my constant strutter starts with dieting over the years. It's been so long since I was last on the site I had to get a new password. I'm notorious for starting and failing at dieting and weight loss attempts over and over and over again. :(

I haven't shared with my family what I'm doing yet. When asked I say "it's a project". If pressed for more information I tell them I'll tell them more about it later.

I actually can't remember when or how I found "Beck Diet for Life." It's probably been a year and a half since I bought the book. I thought the principles and ideas were really great. I even tried doing some Response Cards...but that was as far as I got. I was traveling a lot with work and couldn't commit to making this a priority. Start-up takes quite a bit of time and thought. But again, the principles and changing how we think about food and eating so we can change our behavior with food made perfect sense.

Committing to DOING this program was my 45th birthday present to myself.
I want to develop self-control and self-discipline in my eating habits and how I care for my body. Like it or not...this is the only body I get. I can't trade it in for a new model. So I NEED to do what I NEED to do to take care of it.

* I read my Response & Advantage Cards
* I ate on plan today
* I weighed once this morning...down another 5.2 lbs
(I struggled with an idea for 5lb rewards. What could I do that was meaningful and memorable? I tend to have a short memory and forget why I'm doing what I'm doing. :) So I came up with the idea of rubber bracelets. So I've rewarded myself with a white rubber bracelet for the first 5 lbs to wear as a constant reminder. I have 4 more bracelets, different colors, as a reward for each 5lbs and a constant reminder of "why" and how much I've accomplished.)
* I completed 30 minutes of exercise.

Still need work...
I had trouble slowing down and really enjoying my morning snack & lunch. I must find somewhere else to eat besides at my desk in front of my computer. I got distracted and start working again before I finish eating my food.

Still forgetting to give credit throughout the day.

Hope everyone has a wonderful night and a great day tomorrow.

12-02-2010, 12:18 AM
We packed up the car this morning and decided to head West and check out our house while taking a short break. I don't know how long we have here...perhaps as long as 2 weeks, depending on Mom and the old pup, Rudi. I seem to have fallen back in my groove. I am grateful for that.
-5 days worth of meals planned
-OP today
-walked to the corner store for a newspaper after dinner, not because I needed a paper but because I needed a walk

Up early tomorrow for food preparation then off to the pool for some real exercise.

Thanks for being here everyone!

BillBlueEyes, a belated thanks for all the first lines this past month. I found I'm missing them already. HmmÖ.now I am thinking about the cupcake bakery. I'm thinking I might just window shop. *credit* for remembering your darkness excuse and walking anyway,

Blue Daisy, :welcome2: We had this discussion awhile back, and I think there are many of us who don't share the specifics with our families. Great that you've started working with your Beck tools, and I like the reward system you've set up.

Beverlyjoy, I am so sorry to hear of your postponement. I hope you are healing quickly from the darned flu. :hug:

gardenerjoy, congrats on yet another month with exercise goals met and a shrinking ticker. Your dinner out sounded nice and "sane".

Shepherdess, ok, now every time the wind is blowing fierce here, I'll remember it's your favorite month. Congrats on persistance with weighing to the point that it feels good to do so.

onebyone, great credits so early in your day. Even though you overate later on, your good choices early on make for great progress. Hope you hear from DH soon.

NatureGirl, your statement regarding the part that doesn't become habit got me into some heavy thinking today and I think it is helping me to catch my wind. Some tools I use every day-no problem-and others I continually struggle with. Good list of credits, you have!

Marci(madrikh), :wave:

Woodland, great news on a "strong day". A testament to your working on your Beck skills and making dieting your priority. Thanks for Anniversary wishes, and reminding me to read again tonight.

Cheryl(seadwaters), Yay for finishing marking and moving on to pressing work. I hope you have success in finding an exercise bike.

maryblu, good when you get the *sign* that you are doing things right. Yes, I have tried your favorite tea, but usually regular-caff. Very tasty!

Good night all.

12-02-2010, 06:46 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - I'd saved half of my dinner to have for lunch - CREDIT moi. It makes me so happy to realize that I don't need even normal sized servings to be satisfied. A 5 ounce piece of salmon used to seem way too small; this piece was split and I got all the joy twice.

Walked home from the gym in heavy rain - multiple CREDIT moi's there - having taken the precaution of stuffing an umbrella in my gym bag, which is a CREDIT moi on its own since it helped to fend off the notion that I shouldn't got to the gym since rain was possible. Thank you to the genius who invented the umbrella.

maryblu - Love the notion that waking up hungry is a "sign" that you're doing it right. It's a new notion for me that hunger is just a signal for me to interpret - like cold or wet - not a demand to act. Thanks for posting the turkey sausage recipe; gonna try it next time I get my hands on some turkey. What do you do with the unused egg yolk?

onebyone - Hope you hear from your DH and that he finds the managing to his liking. Kudos for planning the wii then doing it. And Kudos again for setting a December exercise goal - methinks Joy (gardenerjoy) is onto something with that idea.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Your special restaurant dinner sounds terrific. I'm particularly taken by, "not have to overeat in order for it to be special" - must try to remember that since it's dug into my brain that overeating is the key to a special dining event. [Thanks for the Pynchon reading tip. A neat thing about Amazon is that I got to read the first pages of V, Gravity's Rainbow, and a companion to Gravity's Rainbow which I needed. I didn't need a companion to understand V, so it does seem like a better start.]

Shepherdess - Yay for a jump rope when the weather is foul. Does it drive your dog nuts?

Beverlyjoy - Such a bummer; sending supportive thoughts that you will be able to keep your spirits up while you wait for your tummy to allow the surgery. Yay for having a DH who can see a silver lining - better now than during recovery - he's a jewel.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Two inches in one day is a lot of rain. Finishing that marking task lifts a weight off your shoulders; watch for your scale to jiggle down a kilo for that, LOL.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for "back in my groove." And Kudos for walking for a newspaper when it was the walk you really needed.

Blue Daisy - Like the thought, [I]"this is the only body I get." It isn't necessary to tell your family that you're on a diet; it might work better to tell them that you've decided to follow your doctor's advice and make your eating more healthy. People, even loving family members, seem to feel free to comment about a 'diet' but tend to honor someone's health regime without saying, "Oh, you can eat this just once."

Kudos for starting out consistently reading your Response and Advantage cards. Your bracelet rewards for each 5 pounds is a great idea.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

Determine Your Lowest Achievable Weight

When Gina, a teacher, plateaued for several weeks at 132 pounds, she wanted to keep losing. She thought she'd be able to cut her calories and exercise more. But when we analyzed her situation, it became apparent that she could do so only for a couple of months, during her summer off from teaching. When she returned to school in September, she knew she'd have less control over her schedule and food. She reluctantly agreed that it didn't make sense to try to lose a few more pounds, since she'd likely regain them withing a short period of time.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 274.

12-02-2010, 09:20 AM
Food was OP yesterday, but did have to take a turn. We had some work to do in town and had planned to go out for pizza afterwards. Pizza isnít the healthiest food, but I had planned for something that fit into my calorie plan. But when we were done, we werenít hungry yet and there was no movie we really wanted to see playing at the right time. Instead, we came home and made something healthy. We might still do pizza and a movie tonight.

A high wind advisory was still in effect yesterday, so once again, no outdoor exercise. I did yoga instead and am hoping the wind dies down soon. Yes, itís still my favorite month. My birthday is in it, weíll be putting the rams in with the big herd of sheep, start feeding them everyday and weíll begin feeding the cows cake everyday. (Of course, those last ones are in part due to cold temps. . .)

Gardenerjoy, itís so impressive that you have gotten to the point where a dinner out can be both ďspecial and restrained.Ē You found a great way to enjoy the flavors without overeating. Congrats on reaching your November exercise goals. Itís great that you could do that and do NaNoWriMo.

Onebyone, great job working in more greenlight foods. 1% milk is a good compromise. It doesnít have many more calories than skim and if it keeps you from rebelling, thatís great. Hope you get good news from your DH.

Seadwaters, wow for 2 inches of rain in a day! Itís good you could stay out of it and have a productive day. The scale jumps around, but the number is not very likely reflective of a real weight gain, but maybe just a butterfly flapping its wings in China.

Beverlyjoy, I am so sorry about the stomach flu and that you once again have to postpone your surgery. I know itís frustrating. I hope you have a quick recovery! Kudos on your great attitude.

Blue Daisy, I started and failed at a lot of diets before Beck. I would often lose the weight, but then would gain it back later. Youíre right to be optimistic about Beck. It has worked for me and a number of others here. Committing to the program sounds like a great birthday present to yourself.

Lexxis, great job falling back into your old groove so quickly. Packing up the car to check on the house and take a break sounds like a great idea. Hope you get a little R&R!

BillBE, itís a great sign when a portion that used to seem small now can be split for two meals! Itís impressive that instead of feeling deprived, you realize that you get more mileage out of it. Great idea, packing an umbrella to the gym so there is no excuse. Yup, my dog is going a little crazy. I have to spend some time throwing a rope toy across the living room for her to chase. Itís no run, but it keeps her entertained for a little while.

12-02-2010, 10:54 AM
Hi Coaches

credits for yesterday include:
-OP for breakfast and dinner
-planned exercise and did it
-I was 62% greenlight foods yesterday which has met my 60% target YAY.
-weighed myself today: 283.8 :mad: those 280's are really p**sing me off.

I talked to DH last night and he had a good first day at his new job. Looks like he'll be there every three weeks. Next week he's supposed to start his other new job (both jobs are on a trial basis; may the best job win!) so the logistics of this are lost on DH and on his new Toronto boss but it will eventually get worked out.

SIL appeared at my door yesterday afternoon. We went for a shawarma platter for lunch at her favorite place around the corner from me. It's why I was 62% OP and not 90%! Anyway, SIL is quite tactless and she was mentioning how huge DH is now and that her other brother is now approaching the size of my DH. She didn't say anything to me about me and my expansion in the waist department but I suppose I should credit her for not saying that to my face. SIL is 10 years younger than me. She really likes me a lot and thinks I can do anything EXCEPT lose this weight. I was fairly thin when we met almost 20 years ago, but my weight has steadily climbed to where it sits today. When I think of her resignation that things are the way they are and I will always be fat, it really bothers me. DH's family has a very depressive "you can't change things, why bother?" attitude. I REALLY do not want to adopt that. I REALLY want to be the exception-that person who loses weight in their 40's and keeps it off, not the stereotype female who gains weight and just gets old and slow. *sigh* Guess that's why we're all here isn't it?

A little bit of *shaking fist* "I'll show you" does me a lot of good. If she is my "inspiration" for this so be it. I think this is a good thing.

Anyway I need to start making things again. I am way way behind. I have to go try and catch up.
Bye :wave:

-I was OP with planned exercise: 11 min walk it out on the wii
-made food from scratch
-66% greenlight food today = OP
-weighed myself this morning
-8 glasses of water

Also a credit for winning "Best in Show" at the School of Art Holiday Show and Sale for my ceramic sculpture! I begged out of going to the opening tonight given the rotten headache and the mounds of work (still) before me and found a few emails congratulating me on my win! So I think this ribbon means my piece was the best thing in the whole show! WOW:dizzy: That was a nice surprise.

12-02-2010, 12:24 PM
I skipped both of my snacks yesterday because I was too busy doing other things to eat. Guess what? I didn't starve to death. I didn't faint. I didn't even feel hungry very often or for very long. All of which I remember, now, from Beck's hunger experiment but somehow manage to forget much of the time.

One of the things that kept me too busy to eat was shopping -- a professional jacket in size 12! Vanity sizing helped there, but I'm still happy!

WI: NAkg, Exercise: +50 50/1500 minutes for December, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: thanks for joining the exercise challenge thread -- it made me smile to see you there, like having a friend show up to play with me!

Oh, Beverlyjoy, that really is unbelievable! I am so sorry. That is such rotten timing. Here's a big virtual hug (a nice thing about virtual hugs is no one is contagious) and some chicken soup!

BlueDaisy: try giving yourself credit for something every time you notice that white rubber bracelet!

Greetings to all and sundry!

12-02-2010, 03:10 PM
Hi Coaches

Ate in town yesterday after visiting the dentist (who quoted me $12 500 for some work that sort of needs doing - grrr) and while I selected a good healthy spinach and chicken salad, I also bought a 1/4 serve of hot chips. I ate half of them and then said NO and threw then out - so ouch for buying them and CREDIT for chucking them. I have a work lunch today so the plan is to fill my plate with sensible choices and take no more rather than take one thing at a time, and keep on doing that.

BeverlyJoy - When I read your post yesterday I could have cried - I can't imagine how you must feel. I guess you now have time to work out how to 'train' your DH how to feed you while you are recovering! And to stock the fridge with mini-meals just for you (so DH can cook himself whatever unhealthy thing he chooses)
Debbie (Lexxiss) - Hope the pool was good. Great preparation and planning happening. Enjoy your short break
Onebyone - Yay for meeting your 60% target and drat for the 280s hanging around. Ouch for tactless SIL. Hope you get your work finished
BlueDaisy - I like your idea for a reward. It ticks all the right boxes. Great list of credits and great commitment
BillBlueEyes - Looks like the rain is sharing itself around. I am not sure I will ever get to the stage where a really small serve seems enough. Your progress is a reminder that it can happen
Shepherdess - LOL that chaos effects my scale reading. Ouch for the wind and no outside exercise. Pool exercise is better for my knees but I only got there when I was on sick leave - it is on at lunch time where I live (an hour from where I work) so it really isn't possible any more
Gardenerjoy - Yay for a spontaneous hunger experiment. And another big yay for new clothes that are smaller

:spin: - Food on plan 80%
:spin: - Weighed myself (down 1lb to 215.2)
:spin: - A plan for eating lunch out today
:spin: - Checked in
:spin: - Exercised - did weights!

Have a good day

12-02-2010, 03:32 PM
Hi Beckies - thank goodness for Pepto Bismol and Immodium. These two medicines were on my gratitude list today! Things are calming down inside. I had ginger ale and crackers yesterday. Today is toast, applesauce, and a little bit of canned chicken soup - it’s ‘staying put’. I still have body aches - but, I can take some Tylenol.

Thanks to everyone for being so kind and supportive as I face yet another road block. Doctor said I could not reschedule for 2-3 weeks. I don’t know when yet. DH and I will figure it out. (when I feel better)

One of my neighbors (not the ones with all the kids) asked DH if he thought I had a ‘mental block’ about doing this surgery. I am so hurt by that question. Yes - three times cancelling a surgery is rare, but, not due to me being too scared to do it. I have had surgeries before. I know what it’s about. I couldn’t create a staph infection or toxic allergic reaction to an ointment in my mind. Or - have a sprained ankle/foot in my mind. (I am guilty of being somewhat uncoordinated) I’ll tell you one thing - this flu I have could not be brought on by being nervous. (plus my mom had it - probably where I caught it) Just hurtful. Oh well.

A few personals.

Gardner joy - that cyber hug sure feels good. I’d love some chicken soup. Thanks.

Onebyone - glad dh likes his job so far. Yes - you are right! I need bubble wrap and a face mask. LOL

Shepardess - thanks - glad you could get in some yoga in - despite the cold weather. Credit

Billbe - I appreciate your supportive thoughts - I agree -DH is a jewel, indeed. Glad you had your umbrella for your walk in the rain.

blue daisy - WELCOME! Glad you posted! All those credits - very commendable. The chapter on traveling is very helpful - as are the response cards.

Maryblu - glad you woke up feeling hungry. Feeling and recognizing hunger is an important skill.

Seadwaters - a really rainy day is a great day for marking. Yes... you felt like crying and I was crying. Thanks. Amazing turn of events. Yes...I'll cook more things for the freezer. I'll have time. Credit for throwing away the chips!!

Lexxiss - thanks. Glad you are back in your groove.

Time for a nap. Thanks again.

12-02-2010, 07:46 PM
Beverlyjoy, I just read your post about the flu and no/go on surgery. I cannot believe your bad luck. It is just incredible. I am so sorry. As for the big dummy neighbor, rarely have I been so PO-ed about *anything I have read on 3FC. What a dipstick! It's one thing to perhaps think it, but to be so tactless as to ask your husband, I can't believe it. Credit DH, btw, for not punching him in the nose. As if you need this hanging over you AGAIN. !%@@%^#@%^@ Sorry guys, just had to get this off my chest!

BillBE, I just throw the unused yolk away. Still cheepa than using Egg Beaters. I used to give it to my old dawg for a shiny coat, but I haven't given my new dawgs any people food at all. My BFF laid a guilt trip on me for that at Thanksgiving. As if they need some turkey skin anymore than I do! I just said no.

Am watching the weather making news....from tornadoes in Atlanta to Lake Effect Snow in Buffalo to BIG snow in the U.K. Wow.

We have another snow dump on the way, but at least it is weather we expect. are prepared for, and can deal with. Tornadoes in Dec. is just wrong.

Best to all

12-02-2010, 09:27 PM
Just a quick check in- and not to report that I am on program, because I have not been all week. Plus I have a killer cold and am just in a blah state. Need to pull it together this weekend.

Beverlyjoy- I just can't believe this happened to you. So sorry that you have not been able to just get this surgery over with. But thank goodness you did not get the flu just after surgery- that would have been terrible too. Can't imagine how disappointing and frustrating this must be. And IMHO your neighbour is a bonehead. Really who would think such a thing. Some people are so ridiculous.

That's all- the only credit today is for checking in here.


12-02-2010, 09:31 PM
Hi everyone!
Welcome Blue Daisy :)
This will be a quick check-in since I need to get dinner on the table and then we're going to decorate the tree.

I have NOT been sticking with my plan for the past 2 days.:o I would estimate that I've been about 80% OP. I'm not sure what's going on, but could be that I'm over-thinking medication changes, lab results, etc. I WILL keep trying.

-making a food and exercise plan, every evening
-2.5 miles on the treadmill this morning
-getting out of bed at almost normal time, despite insomnia
-ordered a Happy Light (RXed by Psychiatric Nurse)

and that, my friends, is all I can come up with.

Beverlyjoy: ugh, I'm so sorry about your flu interruption. Waiting is so hard. My thoughts are with you.


Blue Daisy
12-02-2010, 10:01 PM
Hi all,

Well it happened...I knew it would and I was dreading it, a bit fearful, not sure how I would respond. My body has been adjusting to my more controlled eating (no late night & weekend bingeing) so I have been experiencing some pretty quick weight loss. Most likely due to water loss. But the quick weight loss seems to have stopped and I actually went up 0.2 lbs this morning. I was really concerned I would get discouraged. To my surprise, I handled it with a mental, "Oh well". Dr. Beck suggested using that response as a shorthand to saying ....I don't like this situation but I can't change it, so I may as well accept reality and move on. I was also glad that the slight increase in weight did not take me back to less than a 5lb weight loss so I got to keep the bracelet. :D

Weighed once--- +0.2 loss 5 lbs
Read Response and Advantages Card
Made Food Plan
Ate on plan
Ate all food sitting down...meals were slower, snacks a bit faster. (I'm eating yogurt for snacks so it's kinda hard to eat it real slowly :) )

I'm new at giving this type of feedback. I apologize ahead of time if I offend or don't do it correctly, it would truly not be intentional. Please let me know if I do.

BillBlueEyes - What a wonderful result of working the be "satisfied" with so much less. Two thumbs up for taking away the excuse for not going to the gym to exercise. I like the suggestion of telling people "decided to follow your doctor's advice and make your eating more healthy". I've actually been having some health issues related to my digestive system and this would be a true statement.

Lexxis - It's so nice to take a break. Hope you enjoy it. Kudos on the 5 days of planned meals, staying on plan and getting some exercise.

Shepherdness - Way to go on Food plan. You had planned to eat "not the healthiest" food and could have substituted it for something similar but instead CHOOSE to eat something healthier. And also provided a great example of "I can always plan to eat it later."
Bummer on not being able to exercise outdoors. It feels so good to have the sun on your face and breathe in fresh air. But kudos for doing the yoga even though would have rather exercised outdoors. Great way to stay out of the "black or white" perfectionist thinking.

onebyone - It's hard not to let the negative attitudes of others affect us. I've found I'm a lot like a computer..."junk in, junk out". That's why I find reading the Response and Advantage cards daily are so important to I'm reprogramming myself.

gardenerjoy - Isn't it so neat to not miss food...eating to live instead of living to eat. Sounds like you had fun shopping. Thanks for the tip to use the bracelet as a "credit" reminder.

seadwaters - Great planning idea for the work lunch. I think I'll borrow that for my own future similar occasions.

BeverlyJoy - Oh my heart goes out to you. I do hope you get over this flu soon. And I am also sorry that your feeling were hurt. People say unthoughtful and unkind things usually without even thinking of the effect on the person they are speaking of. Maybe you could use Dr. Beck's suggestion as well and mentally think "Oh well"...if that helps.

I will be traveling tomorrow and Saturday for my youngest son's soccer tournament. I hope to be able to check-in tomorrow night but not sure of the schedule, etc.

Hope all have a great evening and a wonderful tomorrow.

12-03-2010, 05:27 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating OP; CREDIT moi. Starting a cold with that nasty throaty stuff. Didn't walk, but sat with hot tea and zinc cough drops. CREDIT moi for not using this as an excuse to over snack and over eat. Gotta get over this as I have a heavily scheduled weekend.

maryblu - Ouch for the snow dump on its way - however seasonally appropriate. Interesting thought about dogs and people food. Nevertheless, every time we have salmon we cherish the memory of our Aussie savoring the skin. That dog loved her salmon, and she made it 15 years so it can't be that bad.

onebyone - Congrats for "Best in Show" - just another example that you are "not the stereotype female" anywhere in your life and won't be with your health and weight. Kudos for 62% and 66% green light foods.

CeeJay - Emailing some chicken soup to cure that cold. Perhaps I've caught it from you. Kudos for giving yourself credit for checking in.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Too busy to snack? What a delightful state of existence. Congrats for taking the effort to buy yourself a professional jacket - my favorite gardener hates to get out of her jeans when the sun is shining.

Shepherdess - Is that ever a good twist to a story, "Instead, we came home and made something healthy." I certainly can understand why December is the favorite month for . . . your rams, LOL.

Beverlyjoy - Yay for naps, Tylenol, Pepto Bismol, and Imodium - gifts from the gods all. Hope that you find something special to do today to recover from not needing to be in recovery.

My take is that your neighbor's question is tactless and crude under any circumstance but additionally shallow and clueless under the specifics of your history. It's worth no more than shrugging it off. She doesn't sound like the bright bulb in the chandelier.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Big Ouch for the pricey dental work quote. Hope you can sort out the needed from the "sort of needs doing." Kudos for plan in "A plan for eating lunch out today" - love being reminded that planning is key to what Beck is telling us.

Marci (madrikh) - Kudos for ordering a "Happy Light" - it's good work to try something that might just be helpful. Do give yourself credit for 80% OP. That's not perfect, but a long way from falling off the wagon.

Blue Daisy - Accepting your first scale uptick wiggle with "Oh well" is worthy of a Big Kudos - you got your head in the right place. And Kudos again for tackling a full suite of personal responses. Good luck with your eating plan and exercise plan while traveling with your son's soccer team. And hope his team wins!

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining
At some point, you'll stop losing
weight and it will no longer be sensible for
you to decrease your caloric intake
or to increase your exercise.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 272.

12-03-2010, 07:07 AM
It was nice to get back to the pool and I'm going skiing today. I had to outwit the inner sabatour that still tells me I can't do things, and hinted that I could postpone skiing until another day. *credit* for having faith in my "new self". Food was OP, but took a twist yesterday with a substitute dinner. I told my ski buddy that I would meet up after lunch, which allows me time to refuel with healthy food.

BillBlueEyes, remembering that half a dinner can be re-enjoyed for lunch is such a successful strategy! Yay for umbrellas-they aren't needed at the pool but most of us have a winter hat set aside just for our pooling. I hope you are on the road to a quick recovery, and *credit* for not using your nasty stuff as an excuse to oversnack and overeat.

Shepherdess, good call postponing the pizza because you weren't hungry. Yes, there is always another day.

mavimai, :wave:

gardenerjoy, yes! I am always amazed how I can get so busy and not miss the food. It is helpful to remind myself that it works the opposite way, too. If I'm "feeling" hungry and it's not time...those distraction techniques really work.

onebyone, I have found that the "I'll show you" attitude has helped me through some tough times. I'm almost 53 now and am trying to buck that tide of the stereotypical female, too. Perhaps next time you could pick the healthiest restaurant around, order super healthy and just slowly savor every bite...Credit for 2 meals OP , exercise AND meeting your 60% goal. Congratulations on your award!

Cheryl(seadwaters), Yay for pitching the hot chips after buying them. Your plan for the work lunch is very sensible.

Beverlyjoy, BBE's comment regarding your neighbor hit home with me. Know that you do not have to justify your flu with us-we understand.

maryblu, be safe with the impending storm.

CeeJay, get well soon!

Marci(madrikh), I hope the Happy Light is helpful. We used to use them in Alaska with great success. Credit for 80% OP as you deal with medication issues and lab results.

Blue Daisy, I think that the learning process of being less emotional about the ups and downs of weightloss is so beneficial. *credit* for working on Beck principles which allow for that growth.

12-03-2010, 11:54 AM
Food was OP yesterday. We went out for pizza and I stuck to my plan. We also went out to see Harry Potter, which has nothing to do with my diet, but itís nice to have a night out.

When I checked the weather report yesterday morning, the high wind warning was still in effect, but it was relatively calm in the morning. I headed out for a run first thing, which meant the sheep got fed a little later, but my dog and I desperately needed a good run. The wind was starting to pick up a bit by the end of the run, but nothing too terrible. Iím glad I took the opportunity since it doesnít look like Iíll be so lucky today.

Onebyone, congrats on winning Best in Show! Great job keeping 66% greenlight when you went out to lunch with your SIL. Itís frustrating when you have a family member with an attitude like that, but you can do this! Glad to hear things are going well for your DH and hope he gets the logistics figured out!

Gardenerjoy, wow for skipping too snacks because you were busy. I never seem to remember that hunger isnít an emergency. Maybe I need a refresher on the hunger experiment. Yay for a size 12 jacket!

Seadwaters, yikes for expensive dental work. That would probably send me into a basket of chips. Great job throwing them out! Itís too bad the pool exercise doesnít fit into your schedule, since it seemed to be something you enjoyed. I suppose, even if it were closer, it would be hard to do it mid-day and get ready again for work.

Beverlyjoy, sorry about the hurtful question for your neighbor. It was clearly something said thoughtlessly. Hugs for your string of bad luck trying to get this surgery underway. Itís a hard thing to have it continually looming in the future without a good idea of when it will be resolved. Great job taking care of yourself while sick.

Maryblu, LOL at dogs not needing turkey skin. My DH and I are often accused of spoiling our dogs since they do get egg yolks, DHís steak and lamb bones and meat scraps, etc. And despite all of this, the same people wonder whether or not we are feeding our dogs enough.

CeeJay, yuck for a killer cold. Youíve had a lot going on and you donít need to be sick on top of that! Great job checking in and getting committed to getting back OP.

Madrikh, donít beat yourself up for 80% OP. Sometimes, when life gets difficult that is a huge success. Kudos for your determination. Decorating the tree sounds like fun!

Blue Daisy, great job having a good attitude towards the scale. And youíre still at a 5 lb loss, which is great! It can sometimes get discouraging when the scale slows down, but it helps me to remember that slow and steady is the way to lasting weight loss. Some experts suggest that the fastest people should lose is approximately 10% of body weight every 6 months.

BillBE, yuck for ďnasty throaty stuff.Ē Itís the season, I suppose. Hot tea and zinc drops is a much better response than extra snacking. Kudos for properly taking care of yourself. Hope you kick this soon!

Lexxis, yay for skiing! Iíve been hearing lots a lot about the amazing ski conditions in Jackson, and I imagine thatís true across the CO Rockies as well! You have a good plan to keep lunch healthy.

12-03-2010, 12:54 PM
Yesterday was a day. I like days that are just days as far as food and exercise are concerned. No drama, no stories, just sane living.

WI: +0.3kg, Exercise: +50 100/1500 minutes for December, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: congrats on the Best In Show award! That's awesome!

12-03-2010, 04:17 PM
Hi Beck folks - feeling some better - tummy improving - still body aches. I realized that I need to ‘watch’ what I eat even after the flu. Today I got up and thought ‘I could eat all the saltine crackers that I want‘. Gosh….‘I’ve been sick.’ But, really - that is a sabotaging thought. So, even though I am eating bland food I am still keeping track. (credit)

DH has come down with a cold. I went to the grocery to get him some OJ and a few of the things he likes when he doesn’t feel good. I was exhausted when I got back. I still need to pace myself. I am staying home a couple more days.

Thanks to you all for listening to my rant about my tactless neighbor. I appreciate your support. BTW - DH set him straight. (nicely)

Maryblu - glad you are ready to cope with your crazy weather. Yes - my neighbor is all those things. You put it very well. He is a grouch. I appreciate you caring that he hurt my feelings.

Ceejay - credit for staying op all week - with a cold, too. Take care and feel better soon. I appreciate you caring about how my neighbor didn’t get it. Thanks.

Marci - wow - 2.5 miles on the treadmill is awesome - major credit. Hope your tree decorating was fun. Thanks for your kind words about my flu.

bluedaisey - major credit for seeing your weight go up a tiny bit and not letting it affect you in a negative way. Awesome. I love how you are ‘shouting back’ at those sabotaging thoughts. Plus - you are utilizing so many Beck techniques. Well done. “Oh well’ sounds like a good response to my neighbor. Thanks.

Billbe - sorry to hear you aren’t feeling good. Credit for not overeating in response to feeling sick. You take care now. You said: My take is that your neighbor's question is tactless and crude under any circumstance but additionally shallow and clueless under the specifics of your history. I tend to agree. I don’t tell him my whole life story. I have a good friend who said something very similar to what you said. I am glad you both pointed it out. Shrugging it off is where I am now.

Lexxiss/Debbie - wonderful you speaking back to your ‘inner sabatour’ - I am glad you did it!!! Credit. Glad you could switch healthfully when you had to change dinner. Credit for being OP. Thank you for reinforcing what I already know - in regards to all the medical set backs I have encountered in the past months.

Shepardess - I am doing a mental pizza happy dance for you. It’s major to stay on plan at the pizza restaurant. CREDIT Glad you could get your run in. So happy you have a dog to run with. Thanks for the hug.

gardener joy - SO GLAD to hear that you had a good regular day with food. It’s what we all aim for.

12-03-2010, 06:05 PM
I'm back from my adventure and happy to report I stayed OP. I really couln't be more thrilled and grateful at having been successful through 10 days of new, challenging ( sick for a couple of days) and sheer "magic" at the desert and then Disneyland with my 8year old and husband. I felt a freedom with food that has alluded me in 30yrs of dieting. In my Beck memory box I wrote: "eating one half of a (planned)gourmet cookie in front of a beautifully decorated Xmas tree in the lobby of the Grand California while sitting next to my husband with a quartet of Xmas carolers singing." The most amazing part of the memory is that the cookie was only a small part of the whole event. I realized my dream of placing food in its proper place in my life instead of becoming my life. I was glad I brought the scale. I weighed just once each day and it let me get on with the business of the day. My weight stayed on track. I know I am not finsihed and there will be more challenges but when I began this program I prayed for a new way of living and I have received it.
BBE: I love it when you remind me portions are so much smaller than I used to think I required. In fact, I am having salmon tonite at a holiday dinner.
Shepardess: you and I share a bday month.
onebyone: I am living proof of slimming down in my late 40's. It is a great ride.
gardenerjoy: LOL "vanity sizing"
seadwaters: thanks for reminding that it is perfectily ok to throw out food.
Ceejay: hope you cold improves.
Madrikh: enjoy your tree decorating.
Lexxiss: I hope to join you in the skiiing effort in a couple of weeks.

12-03-2010, 09:39 PM
'Lo, Beckmates. Quick shout out to all, since snow has derailed any plans of traveling tonight. Sounds as if tomorrow will be OK. Credit all my dear Beckmates who don't get so "sucked into" weather events as I do. Have been known to listen to and compare the forecast from 2 different local TV stations, Internet, and whatever else weather-related- reading- of -the -tea- leaves to be out there. Pretty useless effort, as today's snow totals were *double those predicted. *laffin'.

Clarification for my Beckmate friends- of- the -4-legged: It's not that I think people food is harmful to my canine housemates; it's that this "No Choice" policy seems to have prevented them from ever having that *begging mentality/behavior. Since they share the run of the house, it's appreciated by all my 2-legged kindred that my dawgs don't beg. Still, a raw egg yolk in the food dish very likely would not be interpreted as "people food". OTOH, my dawgs are so shiny, I'm not sure I could stand the glare.

That's it; that's all I got. Pleased and tired from what I accomplished today professionally and personally (scored perfect Xmas gifts for 2 on my least I think so!) Stay strong, all.

Nature Girl
12-03-2010, 10:18 PM
this has been a hard week for me, and I've had mixed results. It is the craziest week of the quarter so both students and faculty (me) are stressed and tired. Add TOM and I am jittery and emotional. Add cold, foggy weather and I am slowed down and bummed out, even when I take my happy pills. So for a recap:
+Exercise 3/5 weekdays--I remembered again today one of my cardsL I always feel better after exercise.
+OP breakfasts 5/5 and lunches 4/5; packed 'em or planned 'em
+intermittent attention payed to eating sitting down and not on the couch or in the car, also sticking to planned foods
-mac & cheese from a box, two off plan desserts, and a giant burger special; all oops in the middle of reasonable days; usually eaten in exhaustion or frustration; I KNOW those are my two biggest triggers, how do I monitor that?
-Thursday no exercise, simply because I couldn't get my butt up the stairs to the Nordic Trak!
OK, back on track:
1) Write a plan for tomorrow that includes a shopping trip and DH's birthday party at the best pizza place in the county (great local beer, too)
2) Workouts for tomorrow & Sun: rec center tomorrow, x-c skiing Sun; the first of the season !!!!!!!!!!!!
3)Figure out a way to keep my needed reminders even more evident, easier to read when things get tough.

Maryann, sounds like a great adventure with recreation and healthy eating - sounds like you came back refreshed and restored, not harried and guilty for overeating all week!
Gardenerjoy, you're right - just another day is a good thing, it means the plan is becoming the lifestyle, not something you struggle to do or think about succeeding or failing at all the time
Bue Daisy, an uptick in the scale is a real test! Oh well is a great answer, and I have been focusing on how strong and comfortable I am moving around in my world-how good I feel- instead of just the numbers, which aren't moving like I would like

12-04-2010, 12:33 AM
Hello Everyone- Thanks for the birthday wishes.

seadwaters- you and I have the same issue-knees and ankles. I have arthritis in both my ankles and fallen arches so this is effecting my knees also. Some days are much better than others but I know that the only way to deal with this is to lose weight. I have a stationary bike and it is much easier on the knees and feet than walking is. Maybe you can find a used one.

madrikh-re your question about weighing- I do it everyday because I fluctuate all over and it is just too discouraging to weigh in weekly and hit a highter fluctuation. I am journaling every day in a small notebook that fits in my purse so I can keep track away from home. I also keep a check list for how many Superfoods I eat and plan on incorporating low GI foods in the list.

BillBlueEyes-I liked what you wrote about serving sizes getting smaller. Sorry to hear about your cold. Tis the season I guess.

onebyone-congratulations on winning Best in Show. Lovely. Your list of credits is growing every day.

Shepherdess-yay for going out for pizza and sticking to your plan.

gardenerjoy-congratulations on winning NaNoWriMo- that is wonderful. And also on slipping into a size 12 jacket.

Beverlyjoy-glad to hear you are hanging in there.

Woodland-waving hello to you.

maryblu-thanks for the turkey recipe. Will be trying that soon.

Lexxiss- a belated Happy Anniversary. Hope your trip is going well.

new2me2- hello again. How fantastic that you reached your goal. That is an inspiration.

Blue Daisy- welcome to the thread. You are off to a roaring start.

Nature Girl-sorry about your hard week. But it sounds like you accomplished alot despite the hard time.

maryann- congratulations on your victory while on holidays. Your post was wonderful to read.

For me- I went to the doctor today and have a sinus infection with lots of fluid in my ears. Miserable. Got some meds and plan on taking it easy this weekend. I have another horribly busy week next week so need to work up some strength.

Credit today for:
:p weighing in
:p posting here
:p planning healthy food for the weekend


12-04-2010, 05:10 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating was on-plan including a box of zinc cough drops, CREDIT moi. Took a sick day from work and spent the day feeling sick. I never left the house. Oh Well.

maryblu - Double Ouch's for double the snowfall. The latest issue of The Economist has an article titled, "Endless elections, Minnevota" that references "Count Beltrami Recount Soup." You guys got a sense of humor up there that even a British magazine appreciates.

CeeJay - Ouch for facing a horribly busy week with a sinus infection. Great start to working up your strength by "planning healthy food for the weekend."

Joy (gardenerjoy) - That one's worthy of being a novel's first sentence, "Yesterday was a day." I took your advice and bought V for my first Thomas Pynchon read. It'll appear as a Christmas present to me from Santa. Since I'm so delinquent producing a list of what I want, I order things for myself and hand them over to be wrapped for under the tree. Don't tell my kids.

Shepherdess - Yay for a run with your dog-trainer despite predicted winds. And Yay for seeing the Harry Potter movie. I gathered up the last book to remind myself of the plot, but remembered that it was a long read. Think I'll go read the synopsis online before I go.

Beverlyjoy - Yep, "pace myself" and stay in the bubble wrap. And stick with your indomitable positive attitude. Job had nothing on you.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for the pool and skiing in god's country. Love that having faith in your "new self."

Nature Girl - "x-c skiing Sun; the first of the season !!!!!!!!!!!!" is a terrific response to a crazy week; Kudos. Re: Monitoring? My take is that the key to monitoring off plan eating is to identify its accompanying feeling as you did with "exhaustion or frustration." Next step is to recognize that feeling as it's happening. Then it becomes possible to pull out your arsenal of Beck strategies. You're on track for beating that.

maryann - Yay for seeing the "magic" of the desert. And monster Kudos for savoring a planned half-cookie at a special moment. Very encouraging thought, "I realized my dream of placing food in its proper place in my life instead of becoming my life."

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

Determine Your Lowest Maintainable Weight

Let's say that you've plateaued at your Lowest Achievable Weight for several weeks or months. Then you realize that the strict eating and exercise routine you've been following to stay there is too much of a struggle. Maybe you feel hungry or deprived too frequently. Maybe you'd like to be able to eat out more or drink wine with dinner. Maybe you have less control over your eating schedule or choice of foods. Maybe your lifestyle has changed, and you simply can't devote as much time and energy to food preparation or exercise. It's not that you've less motivated; there really are obstacles in your way.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 274.

12-04-2010, 07:38 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

Yesterday was a good day. I'm grateful and I acknowledge that my days go much better when I read from my Beck chapters. I'm such a perfectionist and always "think" in order to do it right I need to start from the beginning and read every word. Truth be, on Thursday I started at the very beginning of the green book and ended up right where I needed to be. My day was not perfect, but did not include any off plan foods. I didn't have an evening snack in my plan and I added raw almonds and cantaloupe. My solution is to write them in beforehand, since we still have half a melon in the frig. Skiing was great. I have a written plan for today.

BillBlueEyes, ouch for planned cough drops, but glad you could take a day at home to care for yourself. :getwell:

CeeJay, good that you're planning healthy for the weekend. Healthy choices aid in recovery, I always think. :getwell: It sounds like you have a very busy week ahead.

NatureGirl, your list of credits was great, even as you endured the "craziest week" of the quarter. Evaluating your areas needing improvement amidst the craziness is such a great tool for success.

maryblu, I'm *laffin', too. Reading of the tea leaves sounds like a great weather predictor. I tend to find the predictions pretty useless and instead rely on my sturdy vehicle with super great tires. "Pleased and tired" sounds like a good spot to be in.

maryann, I must share that it was a joy to read your post and catch up. Model Beck behaviors do produce results and having received a new way of living, as you report, is quite an important gift which you have given yourself. A freedom with food that has alluded you in 30 yrs of dieting is just incredible! BTW-do you ski at Tahoe?

Beverlyjoy, *credit* for recognizing that sick is not a free pass to unrestrained saltine consumption. Sorry to hear that now DH has a cold. :getwell:

gardenerjoy, yay for a day of just "sane living".

Shepherdess, good for you getting out for a run while the weather was cooperating. This time of year putting it off until later may very well mean it won't happen at all.

My planned Saturday includes a walk, a swim, healthy eating and a contra dance tonight. I'd better get all the fun activities in while I'm blessed to have this break from my routine.

12-04-2010, 08:53 AM
Didnít do very well at planning yesterday. I found myself ready for a snack late afternoon and not sure what to eat. I did pick something healthy, a usual part of my plan, but itís not a very good habit to get into.

No outdoor exercise yesterday. I half-heartedly tried to motivate myself to do weights, but just didnít get very far. I did yoga instead, so credit for doing something.

Gardenerjoy, yay for ďdays that are just days!Ē I would love to get to the point where I have more of those than more with some struggle to report.

Beverlyjoy, great job continuing to keep track of your food. Itís tough when you are sick and feeling lousy to have one more thing to keep track of.

Maryann, great job staying OP while on your trip. Itís impressive that it taught you to put food in its rightful place. Itís great when you can have that positive attitude of being free from food rather than feeling deprived.

Maryblu, ouch for weather fouling plans. Hope you can get on your way today. I know all about obsessions with weather reports. I live and die by NOAA.

Nature girl, ouch for stressed and tired. Exhaustion and frustration are huge triggers. I find the most helpful thing is to have food so well-planned and simple during stressful times, that I can just go on autopilot. Itís easier for me when the choice is already made. Great job getting back on track so quickly.

CeeJay, yuck for sinus infection. An easy weekend is probably the best thing. Hope you are back on your feet when the work week arrives.

BillBE, glad you took a much needed sick day. Hope you spend your weekend recouping and are feeling better before too long.

Lexxis, yay for reading Beck and finding exactly what you needed! It sounds like you have a very fun and healthy Saturday planned. Enjoy!

12-04-2010, 11:27 AM
"Hunger is not an emergency" helped me yesterday. It was past time for lunch. I was hungry but in order to have an on plan lunch, I needed to wash greens, a fairly time-consuming process. Meanwhile, DH decided to go grab fast food. I was very tempted to request that he pick up something for me. But he was going to a place with food that triggers cravings in me and "hunger is not an emergency." So, I washed the greens and ate my salad.

I'm going to the Thank God It's Over (TGIO) party tonight with my NaNoWriMo peeps. Should be fun! I have already decided exactly what I will be ordering from the menu -- a skinny raspberry mojito and an entree spinach salad with goat cheese.

WI: -0.25kg, Exercise: +50 150/1500 minutes for December, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Sending healing vibes to Beverlyjoy and BillBlueEyes and CeeJay (and thinking I'm overdue for my flu shot!)

BillBlueEyes: I love your Christmas hoax on your kids. DH and I stopped giving gifts to each other years ago, but we didn't have kids that might find something amiss with that.

12-04-2010, 05:00 PM
The journey continues. Back in my real life last nite, two holiday parties, getting my DS a babysitter ( always hard for me to let go) and TOM (thanks for the acronym Naturegirl) proved overwhelming. I jumped OFFP and then landed sometime later back OP. Credit moi for returning and for this morning slowly getting back to the ritual: write what I will eat, check in here, weigh in ( no gain). I am remembering what gardernerjoy was saying, "hunger is not an emergency." I have planned exercise. The Thin Man starts at 3:00. I'll put an hour in on the elliptical watching the first half. Congrats to Maryblu for some successful Xmas shopping. I might try a little online today. Ceejay and BBE get feeling better. Shepardess, you always remind me about yoga and I will do it 8am tom morning. Lexxiss We are hitting Tahoe the week before Xmas and I can't wait.

12-04-2010, 09:34 PM
Hi Coaches

I think I have to (borrow to) pay for the hideously expensive dental work. Somewhere else would be a few thousand less but it is never successful when I try cheaper. I am a HEAVY grinder. SO think I have to bite the bullet and pay for it. These teeth have to last a few more decades and they won't. Yesterday was not really on plan so today am trying to get back on track.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Glad you got back to the pool. Well done avoiding a difficult lunch - hope the skiing went well. Which I see it did! Yes - reading the book certainly helps - will add it to my list
Onebyone - "Also a credit for winning "Best in Show" at the School of Art Holiday Show" I missed this when I posted last time - you are endlessly creative and it is great to see you getting credit
BlueDaisy - Not sure that even if you went below the 5lb on ONE day that it constitutes a gain - just a fluctuation. You might decide that after a week it is real for example. Others on the list will have ideas on this maybe. You seem to be travelling really well and credit for treating the scale reading as information
Marci (madrikh) - Enjoy decorating the tree - sort of happy lights in themselves really! 80% on plan sounds worthy of credit with what is going on
Ceejay - Yay for checking in and ouch for a cold - hope you get to pull it all together this weekend. Hope the meds and weekends rest work their magic. My knees are now bone-on-bone. I find it more amazing that I have many days or hours where they actually don't hurt! That is when I don't exercise of course. But will explore the stationary bike - thanks for the endorsement
BeverlyJoy - Glad your tummy is improving and your next door neighbour was sorted out. Sorry your DH is sick while you are still recuperating. Credit for not using sickness as excuse to overdo the Saltines - always easy to do!
BillBlueEyes - Commiserations on your cold - good idea to take a sick day. Hope you are well enough to enjoy your heavy weekend
Shepherdess - Clever for sticking to plan with pizza. Glad you got in a run between wind gusts. I'm sure the sheep didn't mind. And yoga has to be good
Gardenerjoy - I am looking forward to days with no regrets over food or exercise. You have worked hard to get there - maybe I have to too :idea: Credit for sticking with your salad
Maryann - yay for a great adventure and HUGE credit for staying on-plan and discovering a new way of being
Maryblu - My 4-legged companions didn't beg and didn't associate my eating with their eating at all - until I went away and a family member looked after them. Oh well - they developed some undesirable behaviours that just haven't gone away.
NatureGirl - I can relate to the craziest week in the semester - it is happening here to. But it is hot and humid. Your plan for dealing with it all looks like a plan - credit

:yes: - Weighed myself
:yes: - Stuck to lunch plan on Friday
:yes: - Checked in
:yes: - Exercised!
:yes: - am making lunch for work tomorrow

Have a good day

12-04-2010, 09:47 PM
Hello Beck Buds:

BillBlueEyes-hope you are feeling much better soon.

Lexxiss-yay for a good day yesterday and writing up a plan for today.

Shepherdess-waving hello!! I also wish for more days where there is no struggle.

gardenerjoy-good for you for resisting fast food and sticking with the salad. Enjoy your party.

maryann-credit for jumping right back on program.

For me- not feeling great but managed to clean the house, do the laundry, mail Christmas parcels, go to the dump, and other Saturday chores.

Not very many credits today:

Checking in here
Doing weights
Planning tomorrow


Blue Daisy
12-04-2010, 10:06 PM
Hi all,

I'm back from the soccer tournament. We didn't win. We were eliminated in the first game. But I was so very proud of my son. He's the sweeper for the team and he played his position excellently. He kept feeding those balls back to the strikers but the other team had such a good defense we just couldn't seem to break through. We lost 1 to 3.

Weighed in yesterday and to my shock I was down 1.6 lbs. I thought I had leveled out. I did not weigh in today because I was traveling and didn't have a scale. But I like Maryann's idea of taking the scale along when you travel. Will do that next time.

Food was on plan yesterday. I expected to be home tonight for dinner but we were still traveling so I did not eat exactly what I had written down but I chose a version of it at the restaurant. I didn't eat any snacks today but figured with restaurant meals and the added fats etc., I probably didn't need any. And, as it turned out, I didn't get hungry for a snack. The extra fat probably carried me through.

Read Response and Advantage cards
Created a food plan
Ate on plan
Ate all food sitting down, ate slowly and enjoyed my food (It is much easier on the weekends to eat slowly)

I haven't exercised in 3 days. Plan to get back to it tomorrow.

CeeJay - Happy belated birthday. So sorry to hear you are sick with a sinus infestion. Kudos for weighing in and planning for a healthy weekend even though you are not feeling well. Get better soon.

Madrikh - Thanks for the welcome. Yeah are only 8 lbs from your goal. Sorry to hear you've been struggling to stay on plan when you're so close to goal. Listen to see if you can hear what those self-sabotaging thoughts are and use Beck's techniques of creating responses cards for each. Kudos for making a food and exercise plan. :carrot:

BillBlueEyes - Sorry to hear that you are sick and it ended up changing your plans for the weekend. Kudos for using "oh well". :) And double kudos for staying on plan even though you are sick. :bravo:

Lexxis - Two thumbs up for believing in yourself and not listening to that internal, infernal voice of discouragement. And two more thunmbs up for recognizing your perfectionist thinking for what it is - a road block, a discourager, a killjoy. Your Saturday plans sound like so much fun. Hope you had a great time.

Shepherdness - Credit for staying on plan and going for a much needed run, for both you and your dog. Our dog loves to run with us as well. Hope the weather gets better again soon.

Gardenerjoy - Congrats for having "a day". Sounds like this program has truly worked for you.

BeverlyJoy - Glad you're feeling better and recognizing that you needed to stay on track after you began feeling better. That's always been a weak time for me...sick and using food to comfort myself. And as we all know, the excess food didn't make me any healthier. So extra, extra kudos :cheer2: Sorry to hear your DH is now sick. But I guess it could have been worse. You could have both been sick at the same time. Hope you all get back to 100% soon.

Maryann - Congratulations with your "freedom with food". What a wonderful blessing and result from your hard work of committing to and working the program.

Maryblu - Congrats on your accomplishments...professionally and personally.

Nature Girl - Sorry you've had such a hard week at work and with the weather being yucky's hard not to feel yucky as well. See if you can identify those thoughts that are giving you permission to veer off plan when you are feeling exhausted or frustrated and develop some response cards to read daily. Maybe that will help. I know it can be so discouraging when we slip.

Hope everyone has a wonderful evening and a great day tomorrow.

12-05-2010, 03:12 AM
Hi Coaches

I fell asleep at 7:30 and here I am up at 1:52am. Oh well! My one and only xmas show is behind me as is the Carp Farmers' Market season of 2010. I can say it was a poor year but enjoyable to have been there. I did some de-cluttering by not bringing home my display boards, my lights or my table or my chair or my tv table. I left all my booth furniture at the show for whoever wants it or they can throw it out. I won't be moving it to wherever I go.

I'm starting to get ready to move and making decisions with that in mind.

Foodwise I didn't track my food. I didn't exercise. I just worked like a maniac. I didn't overeat though. And when faced with HUNGER after the show on Friday night, I thought about fast food but just wanted my homemade soup and that's what I ate (credit). I am getting back into a reasonable weight-loss mind set. I did weigh in every day (credit).

DH came home early. He was back Friday night. After a tough day on Thursday he was given an exciting project on Friday. He REALLY wants to do this job. His bosses want to decide whether he stays with them before Christmas comes. In fact, DH says he'll know by the end of this week (he thinks... I'll wait and see). Neither of the bosses are willing to wait out the three months the Big Boss told DH he'd have to do. DH wants me to go to Toronto with him on Monday as he is making the *effort* to attend the staff meeting at 3pm there. It's not required of him but he's doing it anyway. I can take the car and roam around for a couple of hours looking at the place to see where I may like to live and/or what is around there. I would probably take the train home on Wednesday as I have stuff to do on Thursday here.
I don't really want to go just yet but I think I should go as DH wants me to.
I'll have Tuesday all to myself in Toronto. I could go to the art gallery or the art school or something exciting like that.

Tomorrow I am seeing my mom who, with her alzheimer's, does remember that I may be moving. Fortunately, Toronto is 4.5 hours away and I will probably see her only a little less than I see her right now. Had we moved to the Isle of Man that would not be the case!

Anyway, such is life and things are good. DH was talking about buying a new bed when we move. We have a double bed right now and he says he's looking forward to me not elbowing him at night. Who knew? I sleep like a rock!


Bye coaches.

12-05-2010, 07:26 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - I acknowledged my cough by not going on my bird walk yesterday - Ouch I missed that. But I felt sufficiently noncontagious to join my family for an Indian Restaurant dinner. I ate on-plan, CREDIT moi, ordering black lentils with coriander but, being family, we all sampled everything. Good sign was that there were a lot of left overs which look like my lunches for next week. Exercise was lifting the zinc cough drops to my mouth, LOL.

onebyone - Impressive dealing with reality to abandon your booth furniture; Kudos for your clear vision. Neat to plan some art touring in Toronto.

CeeJay - That's an impressive list of chores for someone "not feeling great." And that followed by doing weights. Nice day.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Kudos for "Fast Food is not an emergency" that can't be replaced with greens - however much one doesn't feel like washing them. LOL at TGIO - hope you had fun.

Shepherdess - Yay for yoga; wish that I had the patience to do that.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - LOL at "bite the bullet" to protect your teeth. Sending my sympathy for having to deal with the reality of your body. Hoping that you find a way.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Beautiful day planned there, "a walk, a swim, healthy eating and a contra dance!"

maryann - Yay for "back to the ritual." This letting go business is difficult; Kudos for acknowledging that and working on it.

Blue Daisy - Yay for the excitement of your sweeper making it to a tournament. Reminds me of arriving at college and finding out that everybody was in the upper part of their class and competition began anew.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

Determine Your Lowest Maintainable Weight

At this point, make a decision to eat a little bit more or decide to exercise a little less. You need an eating and exercise plan you can comfortably live with for the rest of your life. Rather than just drifting into changes in your routines, sit down (preferably with your diet coach) and write a new plan in your diet notebook. How many extra calories do you want to consume per day or per week? How much do you need to cut back on exercise?

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 274.

12-05-2010, 08:18 AM
A quick check in this AM. We decided on a whim last night to go to Ft. Collins today and I'm going to squeeze in a quick workout before we go. Food was OP yesterday and I even managed to eat a single serving of chips. Always hard, but I like to know that, on occassion, I can do it. There was little wind, so I got out for my run. I don't take my outdoor exercise for granted!

12-05-2010, 11:31 AM
The TGIO party was fun and exactly on-plan. I even enjoyed watching other people get dessert. There are no calories in admiring!

I'm aiming for today to be another Spa Day. One thing that I seem to be willing to do on Spa Day that I don't do so much on other days is measure things. Doing that once a week will help prevent serving size creep.

WI: NC in kg, Exercise: +30 180/1500 minutes for December, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

12-05-2010, 01:20 PM
Welcome a sunny Sunday. The air is crisp - rain yesterday and now sunny and beautiful as only a California winter can be - 60's. I know I am spoiled with the weather. OP yesterday. Always grateful that the day after I have slipped off program I can get right back on. That is the hard part - coming right back. I think of the Beck analogy of a speeding ticket. If I got a speeding ticket would I run red lights the rest of the day? So If I cheat, why would I cheat the rest of the day. I have written down my food, weighed what I can (I am with you gardernerjoy on weighing food) and left a question mark for dinner because I am off to San Francisco and don't know where we are going for dinner. I'll try to stuff in vegies whatever it is, sauce on the side.
Lexxiss: good choice on dental work. Nothing , and I mean nothing, is more expensive than poor health.
Ceejay: little chores really save me when I am not feeling well.
Blue Daisy: bringng the scale with me really helped. of course I had to leave the 1950's monster I had been using for the first three months of this program and buy a light, digital one ($10 Walgreen) that worked like a dream.
You and I look like we are weight twins. 155 and 5'7 ish.
onebyone: I do like moving for its potential for travelling a little lighter in this world.
BBE: get better.
Shepardess: have a good trip to Ft. Collins.

12-05-2010, 03:23 PM
Hi Beckies. Checking in today. I am not running away just because I am struggling. Feeling some better - yay. Tummy still 'rumbles' when I eat and I am tired. However, I expect to be all better soon. DH is feeling better too.

I have been moping around the last few days. I have not been planning or keeping track. I plan to do so now. Tis the season for so much food kind of 'in your face' and everywhere. This is the time to do the MOST planning. The alternative feels bad in the long and short run, really. I am inspired by you all and your willingness to push through. I got out my journal, book, cards, etc & am ready to get with it.

Have a great day.

12-05-2010, 03:26 PM
Hi Coaches

Nothing much to report - was on plan yesterday and have packed food for today including an imitation man salad! Wimped out and included an eggplant and tahini dip that I made to go with it. Got the work done that I needed to do

Debbie(Lexxiss) - waving - hope things are good

Onebyone - Sensible to decide to ditch the furniture that whatever the outcome you won't be using anymore. Seems like your DH is a popular man which is a good sign for the future. Credit for avoiding fast food and having your homemade soup!

Ceejay - We cross posted yesterday. A great list of credits and chores for a girl who isn't feeling good

BillBlueEyes - Credit for sensible eating at an Indian restaurant - food is so good - and all those leftovers. Hope your cold improves - I tend to go stir crazy when I am sick

Shepherdess - Great control with one serve of chips - hope you enjoyed your trip

:halffull: - Food on plan
:halffull: - Weighed myself
:halffull: - Checked in
:halffull: - Have my lunch packed
:halffull: - A plan for dinner

Have a good day

12-05-2010, 07:40 PM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

Interesting: I was going to type "I've been hungry all day", and recognized that what I needed to say is "I've wanted to eat all day". It has nothing to do with hungerÖ.it's related to some frustrations as I try to attempt to start a large organization project for DH...and fix the broken vacuumÖ.and clean up the cat barf, etc. I grazed the refreshment table after church(mostly veggies),stopped, and used resistance to avoid going out for lunch because I knew my mind was not in the right place. Came home and prepared my OP, planned meal. I'd totally forgotten what dinner was supposed to be, but my handy menu was posted so I could refresh my memory. Tonight I need to plan 5 more meals. Now that I look back, it was mostly a good day, and there really was no good reason to eat a bunch of junk.*credit* for having willingness not to.

BillBlueEyes, I think those spices they use to prepare Indian food are really appropriate for someone who needs a little immune boost. You can enjoy it all week! Keep healing!

CeeJay, had to laughÖ."Not very many credits today.", however you managed to clean, do laundry, mail packages, go to the dumpÖ.and other Saturday chores. CREDIT, GIRL!

BlueDaisy,*credit* for adjusting your daily snacks when reflecting on the restaurant meals you had eaten. Congratulations on being down in weight AND having a plan for getting right back to exercise.

onebyone, working like a maniac, not overeating THEN going home for homemade soup is such a great mindset. *credit* for keeping focused . Your trip to Toronto sounds like a great idea.

Shepherdess, :waving: back from the great State of Colorado!

gardenerjoy, Yay! for watching other people get dessert. Thanks for updating on Spa Day as you modify it to your own. I would really like to read Rick Gallops books...still...I need to "request" them from another library.

maryann, I hope you had an enjoyable time in SFO.

Beverlyjoy, geez, moping a bit could be quite understandableÖ.all your "stuff" and in the middle of the holidays. You ARE right, this is the time to do the most planning. Even though you are not 100%, perhaps you could find something you'd like to do while you are still mobile. Great credit for persistence!

Cheryl(seadwaters), great credits, including a plan for dinner. Your dip sounded healthy and good, too. I'd imagine it would go just fine with a real man salad.

Nature Girl
12-05-2010, 08:40 PM
Dang it, I caught a cold or something--bad, bad sore throat and all that stuff. I gotta get me some of BillBe's zinc cough drops.
Our celebration plans were changed due to my feeling crummy, so no temptation from pizza, beer, etc. Just a cup of Wendy's chili. What a birthday party for DH! So we went to breakfast this morning and I gotta say I certainly wasn't on plan. But the rest of the day has been only diet cranberry juice & graham crackers.
So much for x-c skiing today! But if I take it easy today, hopefully I'll be 100% by tomorrow and can dive into finals week and workouts at the rec center and a healthy resistance muscle around all the holiday temptations that will be out there!
Lexxiss-I love that you noticed the difference between hungry all day and wanting to eat--so often we tell ourselves it is a biological need when we really know it isn't, don't we?
Beverlyjoy-I'm glad that you are inspired by all these folks' best efforts--you're getting out all your resources and going to get back on track - yay!
Gardenerjoy--thanks for reminding me about Spa Day -I love the idea and need to plan one this week!
Blue Daisy --the fact that you had a written plan when you ended up out to dinner while traveling made it easier to choose a reasonable, plan like meal; if you hadn't had a plan, who knows what might have jumped out of the menu and made you eat it!?!
Goasl for this week:
OP with food through Friday
Workouts with Rugby Girl M & Th, plan for individual workouts on T, W, & F
Think seriously about the holiday parties t, Th, & F (eek!) how will I deal??
Pack breakfast, lunch, & gym bag.
Read a little more Beck - for inspiration and direction

12-05-2010, 10:50 PM
Hi everyone:

Quick check in tonight. I am trying to get geared up for a very busy week. My self care activities are not being practised in any significant way and I wanted to regroup this weekend but did not. I spent most of today catching up on paperwork. I hate working weekends, but it was either that or enter the week completely sunk. I am now organized and in control. The next 2 weeks just feel hopeless. I will be crazy busy and have a number of nights away from home. It is so hard to eat healthy when I am busy like this. I know I have to learn how and I know there are no good excuses. I am just so used to using food to get through the stress- I need to work on this.

The good news is I am off from Dec 20 to 29- just need to make it until then.

Sorry for the mini-rant. Hope everyone has a great week.


12-06-2010, 05:22 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Spent the day hiding from the world since a coughing person isn't particularly welcomed. I did get to the supermarket (CREDIT moi) since I had had breakfast yesterday without strawberries and missed them terribly. Now that won't happen this morning. It's so easy to become accustomed to foods shipped long distances. DW made a squash soup for dinner that hit the spot.

maryblu - Waving. Congrats for your young whipper snapper getting his act together and giving the Vikings a football victory.

onebyone - Waving toward Toronto - may it be an adventure.

CeeJay - Yay for taking the effort so that you enter your week "now organized and in control." Yep, you can chant it like a mantra, Food does not cure stress, Food does not cure stress, Food does not cure stress, ... .

Joy (gardenerjoy) - LOL at "There are no calories in admiring!" I subscribe to a food magazine which is a pleasurable quick read. I'll remember that comment.

Shepherdess - I'm impressed by a single serving of chips. My history is that a bag of chips is a single serving - absolutely any sized bag.

Beverlyjoy - Boy is it ever "the season for so much food kind of 'in your face' and everywhere" - white sugar, white flour, and white lard seem to be the meaning of I'm Dreaming of a White Christmas, LOL.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yay for a packed lunch including your own version of man salad. [Yup, I'm in that stir crazy when sick place; I'm getting extra exercise by walking upstairs to sit in my favorite chair to read, then back down for a glass of water, then up again.]

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Thanks for "I've wanted to eat all day" - good to be reminded that not only is Hunger not an emergency, but wanting to eat is even less of one.

Nature Girl - Good grief, three holiday parties coming up in one week. It works for me when I plan, plan, plan beforehand. If I just waltz in, I find myself leaving with a lot more mediocre stuff in my belly than I really wanted.

maryann - Kudos for "get right back on" - Yup, the hard part as well as the key. Thanks for the reminder of the speeding analogy.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

Determine Your Lowest Maintainable Weight

Follow this plan for several months, revising it as needed. You'll gain a few pounds and plateau again. This is your Lowest Maintainable Weight. You may find that this initial Lowest Maintainable Weight works well for several years. As your metabolism slows with age, you might need to reset your Lowest Maintainable Weight. The weight that you maintain at one age may or may not be a reasonable weight to maintain 10 years later. Don't allow yourself to drift to a higher weight, though. When you gain, make sure it isn't because you've become lax in your eating habits or exercise routine. If you want to be able to eat the same amount or if you want to be able to eat a little more, set a new Lowest Maintainable Weight, a weight you'll not let yourself go beyond.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 275.

12-06-2010, 10:58 AM
Boy is it ever "the season for so much food kind of 'in your face' and everywhere" - white sugar, white flour, and white lard seem to be the meaning of I'm Dreaming of a White Christmas, LOL.

Priceless description, BBE! I had to share your thought with the Beacher chix since no amount of calorie counting makes it very appropriate for us to indulge in this kind of "White Christmas".

12-06-2010, 12:26 PM
My spa day went well yesterday and I anticipate today being an easy one for me, too. I had been worried that proceeding with writing projects might take my focus away from the healthy lifestyle, but instead it seems to be distracting me from the odd unhealthy thought that passes by. This would not have been true in the past. New projects scare and overwhelm me and I was more likely at those times to overeat as a way to calm myself. But a year plus of Beck work has changed all that and I am grateful.

WI: -0.25kg, Exercise: +50 230/1500 minutes for December, Food: 95%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

CeeJay: sorry for all the stress and activity. How about making it a goal to simply observe yourself and start to identify alternatives that would work in similar situations in the future?

Nature Girl and others with lingering illnesses: hugs and healing energies!

Hi to everyone who stops by!

12-06-2010, 02:56 PM
Another quick check in on a busy day. It was good to get a quick get-away yesterday, and as a bonus, our Christmas shopping is just about done. This may be a record! My only plan for food yesterday was to pay attention to hunger levels and stop eating when my hunger was satisfied. I accomplished that. It was a nice way to take a controlled vacation. I'm also going to take credit for doing my weights before we left. Early mornings might be the time to do those since I'm not awake enough to think of an excuse to skip it.

12-06-2010, 07:04 PM
Hi Beckfolks - checking in for today. Yesterday was the pits. But, it's going well for me today, so far. I have planned and written in my journal. I am planning/hoping to carry on.

I am going over to my Mom's. Catch you tomorrow.

12-06-2010, 07:50 PM
"Tis the season for challenges as mentioned by many of you. The planned trip turn into two meals out which became too much for me and I dived into chocolate. Off plan 2 days out of 3 is a very scary place for me. On plan today. First things first and if I need to go to bed at 6:30 tonite and watch old movies to stay OP so be it. I need a few good days under my belt to get that resistance muscle back in working order. Credit Weighing in. Credit patience with a small gain which I won't chart to see if it is water.
Beverleyjoy: absolutely right about extra planning this season.. It is hard to keep priorities straight.
Seadwater: congrats on OP day. I hope to say the same thing tonite.
Lexxiss: you are walking through things and that is always impressive.
Ceejay: your awareness of eating through stress is priceless. I share that pattern and amd always amazed when I can just experience the feelings and not act.
BBE: I get attached to food as well. My planned snack in the evenings is a fun size Reese's and cheesestick. It is a huge disappointment if I am out. On the other hand it does give me an opportunity to say, "Oh Well" and move on.
Shepardess: congrats on a controlled vacation. Such a blessing.
Hello to everybody else.

Blue Daisy
12-06-2010, 10:43 PM
Hi all,

Missed checking in yesterday. I've been writing down a plan each day. I did add to my dinner plan tonight, at the last minute, because I did not think I had allotted enough food. We'll see what the scale tells me.
I've got to get back to exercising. We've had a cold snap and I'm giving myself excuses. :exercise:

weighed in - up +0.6 yesterday and weighed the same today...down 6lbs total
Wrote a food plan and followed
Read Response and Advantage cards (Rewrote some today)
Ate all my food sitting down. (I did eat my snack tonight while watching TV :( )

Gardenjoy - Congrats that your TGIO party went off as planned and you were able to stay on plan.

Maryann - Kudos for getting back on plan. Thanks, weight twin, for sharing the Speeding ticket analogy.

BeverlyJoy - Glad you and your DH are feeling better. Keep at it and you'll get back on track with the program. Just don't stop trying.

seadwater - Congrats for staying on plan.

Lexxiss - Kudos for recognizing that your desire to eat was a response to frustration and had nothing to do with hunger. And big thumbs up for your self-honesty realizing that going out to eat was no the wisest thing to do in your current state of mind.

Nature Girl - Hope you get well soon. Thanks for the reminder credit...yes, there's no telling what might of jumped out of the menu and made me eat it if I hadn't had some sort of a plan. :)

CeeJay - So sorry things are so busy and stressful for you right now. It is hard to find time to take care of ourselves when life seems to be throwing way too many things at us...can't seem to get our footing. Is there one or two things from Beck's program you can fit in that would help you feel like you are accomplishing something toward self-care?

Shepherdness - :yay: for another successful day.

Hope you all have a good evening and a wonderful tomorrow.

12-06-2010, 11:03 PM
Hello everyone:

Blue Daisy-Yay for being down 1.6 lbs. That's gotta feel great.

onebyone-I used to have friends that lived out by Carp. Glad you now have some down time. Enjoy your trip to TO.

gardenerjoy-"no calories in admiring"- LOL. You should be admiring yourself for passing up dessert. Thank you for your thought about observing myself. Meditation is helping with that too.

Beverlyjoy-glad to hear your stomach is almost better. Boo for a day that was the pits.

seadwaters-eggplant and tahini dip sounds great. Nice list of credits.

Lexxiss-good that you can recognize wanting to eat as a different animal than hunger. And for avoiding going out for lunch when you knew it was not going to go well.

Nature Girl-feel better soon.

BillBlueEyes-glad you took some more time to rest. I wrote "Food does not cure stress" in bold letters in my food notebook and made a new response card. Thanks for that. To heck with White Christmas eh?

Shepherdess- "pay attention to hunger and stop eating when the hunger is satisfied." So simple but so hard.

maryann-good for you for getting back on plan. I like the speeding ticket analogy too.

For me- after my major pity party yesterday, which involved plenty of chocolate, I did everything today I set out to do today. Relief. Just plain old relief. I am trying to keep this from Beck close to my heart this week:

"It is hard now, but hard times are normal and they always pass. As long as I keep going, it will get easier again. It is worth it."

Credit today for:

:twirly: weighing in
:twirly: riding exercise bike 30 minutes
:twirly: doing weights
:twirly: eating healthy even though I had no plan
:twirly: making lunch for tomorrow and planning the next 2 nights in the hotel
:twirly: making a plan for our office Christmas lunch this week that I can stick to: no sugar, eat till full, eat sitting down only.
:twirly: checking in with my coaches
:twirly: no sugar today

Check back in on Thursday when I am home again. Thank you all for the support and inspiration.

Nature Girl
12-07-2010, 12:16 AM
Credits today:
:)Worked out with Rugby Girl,even though I wasn't feeling perfect, did 28 minutes after on the treadmill; only owe the Nordic Trak 12 more
:)Went to the store HUNGRY and tired after work and stayed on list, on plan without any 'treats' to get me home as in the old days
:)Dinner OP & yummy!
:)Made a plan for the week last night...usually I only plan 1 day at a time
:(Let the pastries at my early morning meeting talk me into feeling hungry, by the end of the endless meeting I gave in and had a piece. But didn't let that ruin the rest of the day. And it wasn't even that good:?:

Pack lunch
12 min/Trak
Read more Beck
Plan for Tuesday's party(I'm 1/2 way there: DH is making healthy soup for din so I'll not be hungry; I will choose 1" squares of only the best couple treats there; what else???)

12-07-2010, 12:44 AM
While re-reading some of the pink Beck book yesterday, it occurred to me that perhaps one of my problems is severe indoctrination by the "eat when you're hungry" crowd. Now, while that may sound like the noble thing to do, I apparently don't always know what true hunger feels like.

So here's my question: Is part of making a Plan, also include scheduling one's eating times? Too many days, I am just getting around to breakfast at 10:30 (even though I've been up for almost 4 hours) and by that time I'm ravenous and shaky and ready to grab anything. So goes the day.

For me, I think it would be sensible to eat my OP breakfast at 8:30, a snack at 10:30, lunch at 1 and so on. Too often, I am eating just whenever and not waiting for hunger. I figure if it's OP, I can eat it even if I just finished a meal.

Any advice?:?: I'm ready for some tried and true "Beck Wisdom".

I have been doing better at eating OP the past 2 days. Although I did not do my planned walk on the treadmill this morning, I did shovel snow this afternoon :)

Thanks everyone!


12-07-2010, 05:56 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Not as miserable. Grateful that colds seem to cure themselves despite whatever remedies we consume along with them. Eating was better than OP because my dinner was light (CREDIT moi). It was left over night and I had a cup of chili soup instead of a bowl (which we had recently measured to be two cups after halfheartedly wondering for years, LOL).

Had to dress warmly to walk to the gym (CREDIT moi) since we've finally joined the Northern Hemisphere and accepted the arrival of winter. Did my workout, CREDIT moi, with slightly reduced weights in recognition of not feeling up to snuff and the reality that skipping a few sessions of gym sets me back. But did all the dastardly lunges, every one.

CeeJay - Thanks for the Beck reminder, "...but hard times are normal..." - gotta remember that more often myself. Kudos for getting your entire list done and for getting right back on track. [LOL at, "To heck with White Christmas eh?" Methinks I'll never hear Frank Sinatra again the same way.]

Joy (gardenerjoy) - It does seem that getting a sane relationship with food allows digging into the intense without using food for a crutch. Thanks for pointing that out.

Shepherdess - I'm jealous of Christmas shopping done. LOL at sneaking in weights before your brain is awake enough to invent Sabotaging Thoughts.

Beverlyjoy - Planning. Hoping. Carrying on. - Your style.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for the South Beach folks for leading the way in avoiding the "whites."

Nature Girl - Ouch for "the endless meeting" offering pastries. With Kudos for not letting it get you off track for the rest of the day.

Marci (madrikh) - Re "eat when you're hungry": I tried that and it didn't work for me. After an initial period of strictly doing 3 meals a day, I've settled on 3 meals and 3 snacks - all scheduled (except dinner that happens when DW produces it). The part that matters to me is the Beck notion to know that I'm no more than 2 hours away from my last/next meal or snack so that I don't have to nibble because I'm hungry. The regularity helps me reduce food to fueling my day rather than always being an emotional affair. YMMV.

maryann - Ouch for chocolate dived into. Yay for determination even if it means early bed and old movies.

Blue Daisy - Kudos for "writing down a plan each day" - the most important step in my opinion. Yep, cold as an excuse not to exercise is a great Sabotaging Thought. BTDT.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

You need an eating and exercise
plan you can comfortably live with for
the rest of your life.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 275.

12-07-2010, 11:12 AM
Hi Coaches

I decided to stay home and not go with DH after all. I thought I had two meetings this week; turns out I have only one. I am still time-challenged it seems.

I keep thinking I am being unsupportive by not going. I did ask DH several times "if it was really okay" if I didn't go. He said yes, he understood, but I can't help feeling I should be there. Maybe I made a mistake by not going :?:

O well.

Food-wise I overate at dinner last night on food I didn't even like. It was bland. I kept looking at it thinking I should throw it out, but I chose to eat it and went back for seconds. Is this not crazy behaviour? I think so.

So, for today, food from scratch is the plan as well as some planned exercise which I abandoned when DH came home on Friday night. During the time that he was back i gave myself permission to go off program. That's what I do.
I need to not do that.

Okay time to go get some work done around here.

Have a good Tuesday!

12-07-2010, 11:37 AM
I had a realization today. It was an old thought but it realy struck me. I'll write an advantage card " It is not hunger, it is fear masked as hunger." For me this is really true. The Zone Diet has completely taken hunger out of the equation for me. Anytime I have dived off plan, for me has been the result of fear under a layer of craving under a mask of hunger. This wasn't always the case. I used to starve myself and It really was hunger. No longer. I am going to read that card everyday for a week. Sunday I am off to SF again to see Xmas lights in Union Square and the Impressionist Exhibit at the DeYoung. I want the trip to be about family, art and Xmas - not about choosing whether to overeat. So I am prepping now.
Ceejay: I hear about the chocolate diving. Messy and discouraging but not permanent.
Everybody: Sounds like they are taking good solid steps this morning. It helps me to read about all of them.

12-07-2010, 12:35 PM
My in-laws took us out to dinner for an early birthday celebration while my FIL was in town. We went to a new Indian Restaurant which is so very exciting for me. Iíve been wishing for good Indian food in town for a long time and now we have it! Unfortunately, I was too busy socializing and having a good time to pay attention to hunger cues and ate past satisfaction. I hate that over-full feeling. On a positive note, I still had enough leftovers to make another meal, so that over-full feeling definitely comes quicker now than when I started on this Beck journey.

I had a busy day yesterday and it kept me active all day, so I didnít get a chance to get a run in. Itís too bad, since the weather was great. But today looks nice too. I did some yoga, just to get some formal exercise and my shoulders and back desperately needed it.

Beverlyjoy, sorry to hear that you are struggling so much, but be sure to cut yourself some slack, since you have so much added stress right now. Kudos on maintaining a positive attitude and re-committing to your plan.

Maryann, ouch for a second meal out being too much for one day. I know all about that. Sometimes that resistance muscle just gets worn down, but you have the right idea. A little bit of success under your belt and you will be back to smooth sailing. Great job getting back on track so quickly. I love the ďfear masked as hunger card!Ē Great job identifying the emotion.

Blue Daisy, itís tough to find motivation for exercise when the weather turns cold. Great job committing to get back into the habit. It sounds like you are doing the right thing by adding some food to your plan, and itís good that youíre willing to use the scale for feedback. Too little food can derail a the best intentions pretty quick! (I speak from experience.)

CeeJay, hugs while youíre struggling, but itís great that getting back to Beck is a relief! That is one of my favorite Beck lines and has helped me get through some tough times, if I just remember to pull it out and use it! Kudos for getting back on track.

Nature girl, yay for Rugby Girl! Yikes for going to the store hungry, but great job sticking to your list. Ouch for the pastry at the endless meeting. It would have been tough to deal with that situation. Itís probably a good thing that it wasnít even worth it! Kudos for not letting it ruin your day.

Madrikh, ďeating when hungryĒ works great for some people and not for others. Try experimenting with scheduling meals and see how that works for you. Iím personally a scheduler, though I am working on getting to know those hunger cues. I hope to one day join the ďeat when hungryĒ crowd, but it may never happen for me. Iím glad Iíve found something that works.

BillBE, glad to hear you are on the mend. Yay for better than OP! I never thought of doing better than OP before. Iím so impressed that you went to the gym while still sick. A bit of exercise is supposed to help reduce the length of a cold, though not strenuous exercise. So it sounds like you did the right thing.

Onebyone, if your DH gives you permission to not go, you should give yourself permission. You need to take care of yourself as well. Do you think the guilt contributed to overeating? I certainly tend to overeat when dealing with strong emotions. Great job getting back on track and re-committing to the plan.

12-07-2010, 12:53 PM
Today is our 19th wedding anniversary. We have special plans, including an art gallery and the theater. DH fixed us french toast for breakfast. We'll be eating both lunch and supper out, but at places that serve lots of local food and healthy meals. I intend to focus on veggies and portion sizes and not worry overly much otherwise. I probably won't get any planned exercise, but I haven't missed a day yet this month, so that's okay.

WI: -0.05kg, Exercise: +50 280/1500 minutes for December, Food: 95%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

madrikh: I eat by the clock. Beck gives lip service to eating when you're hungry, but the change she helped me to make was the plan that I could then schedule. I remain convinced that my hunger mechanism is broken. Maybe it will heal someday, but it hasn't happened yet. In the meantime, planning three meals and three snacks and then eating them when it's time to eat them has made all the difference for me.

12-07-2010, 03:11 PM
Hi Beck folks - yesterday was a healthy day. I am so grateful. I found the willingness to plan, keep track, write in my journal and be aware of the many things. I am working on to be healthier with food and eating. I wrote down my Beck tasks in my journal and was willing to address each one at the end of the day. I read my Arc/rc, drank lots of water, always left a bite, had no seconds and had several twirls when I resisted eating while cooking and cleaning up food. Yes, it was a more sane day with food.

Last Saturday DH came home with a some boxes of Nips (coffee, caramel, chocolate) They were on sale, he said….88 cents a box. I was not in a good place with food over the weekend. I ate alot of them. (even though it really didn’t feel that good in tummy) I was not willing to throw them away like I often do. So yesterday I told him that it would be so helpful to me if he kept candy and cookies out of the house, especially when I feel more vulnerable to sweets. Credit. He said he will.

Today I am taking my mom to the bank and the grocery. It’s way too cold for her to have to go warm up the car and all that. I got a few things too. The city put in a double round-about (thought of Boston, Billbe) near her apartment. It’s got her totally frazzled. She’s really sharp, still, for 87... But, this roundabout has her very spooked. I found a way for her to avoid and it will only be about five minutes longer of a drive. Hooray.

Maryann - you said: I need a few good days under my belt to get that resistance muscle back in working order. I can so relate to that. Credit for pushing through to stop the overeating and using your Beck tools.
For your post today - it sounds like you had a revelation about: ‘’It is not hunger, it is fear masked as hunger." Now that’s a thought you can ‘sink your teeth into’ - no pun intended. Your trip to SF sounds so fun.

Daiseyblue - many credits are wonderful! Planning is so good. So glad to hear that the cold weather is not going to stop you from getting in your exercise now…credit!

Ceejay - credit for being able to ‘forgive’ yourself about all the chocolate and moving on to plan for a healthy day. Many credits… wonderful.

Nature girl - major credit for getting through the grocery store tired and hungry and staying with your list!! Credit for not letting a pastry set you off for the rest of the day!

Marci - I’ve tried the 'eat when I am really hungry' plan. It just didn’t work for me. It helps to have a plan. Dr. Beck suggests to do it that way. I don’t have exact times when I’ll eat but, it‘s pretty predictable. I do, however, know I’ll have three meals and two snack during the day. I am thinking I’ll add something between breakfast and lunch, too. Shoveling counts as exercise, indeed!

Billbe - yes…it seems a cold’s length is almost predetermined by it’s strain - no matter what we do. I hope you’ll be over it soon. Glad you’ve been able to stay on plan and do some stuff at the gym. Pace yourself.

Onebyone - I am sorry you are struggling with your impending transitions and all it means in mean time. (out of town meetings, “ Am I being supportive” thoughts etc). It is hard to run away from the food when stress is in our face. All I can say is do the best you can. Try to plan. Hugs to you.

Shepardess - your supper celebration at the Indian restaurant sounds fun. Credit for realizing you may have eaten beyond fullness and having enough for another meal. Glad you could get your yoga in.

Gardener-joy - HAPPY ANNIVERSARY. Credit for planning to have a healthy meal in the midst of your celebration.

Seadwaters - many credits…including planning and packing your lunch. Well done!

Lexxiss /Debbie - you said: I was going to type "I've been hungry all day", and recognized that what I needed to say is "I've wanted to eat all day". It has nothing to do with hunger. Major credit for having that realization. Credit for living and dealing with many frustrations and not overeating! Yes…that menu written down surely does help keep those ‘what will I eat’ thoughts from spinning around in your head. Credit for your good willingness. It’s all about the willingness for me, too. - always has been.

Have a Beck day, friends.

12-07-2010, 07:51 PM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I've been trying to focus on "me" as yet another family drama unfolds. Sadly, I can't really do much to "help" so I'm working with some of my Beck tools. I am reminded that the book says this may happen. My distraction technique was to tear my office apart and make it more functional. The file cabinet is now out of the closet and I have a new desk which I found on sale at the local office store. I DID grab a handful of an OP snack right after lunch and hosed it while standing. I took a few moments to remind myself that the project at hand was not a justification of a free for all with food. I reminded myself that it was not in my plan to eat through it and I didn't. The office looks nice. I am going to bake a treat for us tonight, which is in my plan today. Planned exercise was at the pool and spontaneous exercise seems to be carrying my 50# dog up and down the stairs when needed.

Beverlyjoy, * credit* for your good willingness, too. I agree it is all about willingness. *credit* for requesting that DH help in not bringing all the junk food in. I asked last week, too, and it has been quite nice to have a break. I am making sure there are healthy options for him, and when he's craving, I remind him of those healthy options.

BillBlueEyes, yay for finally measuring that chili soup. Now you know. *credit* also for walking to the gym and doing all of your dastardly lunges.

gardenerjoy, Happy Anniversary! You day sounds fun and Beck focused!

Shepherdess, aha, a reminder that even fun distractions (socializing and having a good time) lead us to forget to focus on our eating. *credit* for having leftovers, even when you did feel over-full.

maryann, that is a very powerful advantage card. Fear masked as hunger is a very good description of why I often eat off plan. Now that you have your card, you can plan ahead for a successful trip to SFO.

onebyone, sometimes it is hard, but it's a big step to make a decision based on yourself sometimes. *credit* for getting right back on track with a food and exercise plan.

Marci(madrikh), I definitely have a planned time for meals, although I let myself be a bit flexible with snacks. Breakfast is where I have a steadfast rule, which is I NEVER leave the house without having my green smoothie and vitamins. I also have a 3 cup of coffee limit before I have my breakfast. This eliminates the ravenous and shaky time, when no amount of nourishment seems to help. I do not WAIT for hunger, and as others have mentioned I think my "hunger" mechanism is dysfunctional. *credit* for being OP, reading Beck and shoveling snow.

NatureGirl, I think having a list at the grocery is such a successful strategy for the store. *credit* for making a plan for the entire week and for getting right back on track after the endless meeting and junky food.

CeeJay, reading your post, I saw a bit of me. It's that whole description of great relief in doing all you set out to do VS plenty of chocolate. Why I do it when I feel so much better doing all my tasks is just plain old self sabotage. Credit for a day filled with relief.

BlueDaisy, *credit* for rewriting some of your advantage cards and recognizing that you've been giving yourself excuses not to exercise.

Cheryl(seadwaters), :wave: Thinking of you just reminded me I need to call the dentist. Oh, well.

Ok, it's time to get to the business of dinner preparation before it gets too late. Dinner is usually between 5:30 and 6:00.

Blue Daisy
12-07-2010, 10:50 PM
Good afternoon Beckies,

This is a quick check in. I forgot my youngest son had an Athletic Awards program tonight. He's the one who is the sweeper for his soccer team and also runs Cross Country. He won the Rookie of the year award for his Cross Country team. Sounds like he maybe starting wrestling this week and I was told tonight the Football coaches are scouting him for the team next year. :( I just don't know about football all the injuries, etc.
Anyway, I'm just getting home a little while ago. Ate off plan for dinner. Expected to be home but was out at the Awards program. The restaurant my son wanted to go to didn't have any of the foods I had on my plan. Also didn't get to exercise today...once again. :(

Weighed in - -0.8 total down 6.8 lbs 155.0 lbs

Read Response and Advantage Cards

Wrote out Food Plan but didn't follow Dinner plan

Check in

Hope all have a good night and a wonderful tomorrow.

12-08-2010, 02:18 AM
Hello friends!
Thanks for the great input on scheduling my eating. I am going to do this, to the best of my ability, as my hunger and fullness signals are certainly faulty!

-treadmill: 2.7 miles this morning
-ate OP today!! (except for the things I didn't eat)
-made my plan for eating and exercise tomorrow
-ate about 90% of food sitting down
-ate mindfully, except dinner
-Checked in
-went to bed at a decent hour (Now!!)

Until tomorrow....


12-08-2010, 05:54 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Slowly getting less coughy. Had a one-on-one meeting in a small room and sucked zinc like crazy to avoid grossing out my friend. Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi. Had my second lunch from the left over curried shrimp from the Indian restaurant.

Walked (CREDIT moi) to Whole Foods for peanut butter - I do enjoy flipping the switch and grinding out a pint of the stuff from the visible vat of roasted peanuts - and to Trader Joe's for walnuts. I sampled samples without even thinking about it; Ouch - I seem to have conquered Costco but not those two.

onebyone - Ouch for the emotional fallout of choices made. I've suffered from that feeling when I wish I could have been with my family and with my job commitments both. Good use of Oh Well and moving on.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Happy 19th anniversary; may you have many more. Sound like a fun day planned.

Shepherdess - Happy Birthday (for whichever day this month). Super neat to have a new Indian restaurant since they always have so many superb vegetarian choices - without the feeling that they are dishes tacked onto the real menu for weirdos, LOL.

Beverlyjoy - Yay for "twirls" - a great sign that your head is in working order. Ouch for unmentionables on sale; I hate that sales on junk still appeal to me.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Kudos for being able to see your "me" during a crisis. I love the notion of a new desk as an incentive to get organized.

Marci (madrikh) - Yep, I think my hunger and fullness signals are a bit faulty also. I don't know if they return over time; I'll let you know, LOL.

maryann - Your insight, "fear masked as hunger" intrigues me. I'll cogitate on that next time I feel hunger - which usually happens when I'm stressed, unrelated to the time since last meal. By the by, my thanks to the walnut farmers of California that I can drop by Trader Joe's and just pick up a bag anytime.

Blue Daisy - Big Congratulations to your "Rookie of the year" with extra Congratulations to his mother who drove him back and forth a zillion times. Life has unexpected (or forgotten) events; my strategy is to have a backup plan for restaurants that I fall back on so that I feel that I've remained on plan for the day.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

But I Want to be Thinner!

This is a statement I hear a lot. You recognize that you've reached your Lowest Maintainable Weight, but you don't want to accept it. You really want to be thinner. You're thinking, I don't like how I look at this weight. You can do a number of things if you're unhappy with your Lowest Maintainable Weight.

Continue to enrich your life. If you haven't already, it's now time to do all the things you put off until you lost weight, as discussed on Day 40 (pages 256-260). The richer your social, family, work, spiritual, intellectual, creative, and recreational life, the less you'll focus on your weight. Compared to these important aspects of your experience, the desire to be even thinner is really superficial, isn't it?
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 275.

12-08-2010, 09:28 AM
Hi Coaches

A hard-won credit for me from yesterday. I walked to the mall and met a friend who wanted to buy two of my brooches. She had coffee and we talked and I didn't get a coffee or a treat credit but after she left I looked at all the fancy schmancy treats in the mall and wandered through a store with exotic treats and I looked and touched them and desired them like crazy and forced myself to walk out of there with nothing then as I was heading out of the mall the non-stop :devil: chatter was to buy chocolate "get some c... just go to the cash with it and get some... bring some home... just get one..." and on and on until I felt so tormented I had to walk fast out of there for fear that I would find myself at the cash with some in hand and be bringing it home to what EAT IT of course! I -just-didn't-do-it. :carrot: And instead, after a while, I made myself my cucumber/tomato/cheese salad for dinner that I'd been resisting making cause I hate to make salads for some reason though I love to eat them. I did eat A LOT of salad, like a huge salad bowl (did I tell you I have trouble with portion control? haha!) but I'll take a credit for that anyway as a big big bowl of veggies and some cheese is OP food. Crappy chocolate is not helpful to me in anyway whatsoever... and is certainly not a meal.

My plan for today is to roast a turkey. We bought 2 small ones when it was thanksgiving and I am going to cook that bird and feast off of it for the next three days and freeze what I don't eat and make soup and/or stew with the rest and freeze that for meals-in-the-future. While the turkey is roasting, I have a few quick drawings to do today (six!) and I have other drawings to add to. (I'm in a drawing group with two others and we are working on a project.) I also want to get the front entryway "finished" as in packed up for either throwing away, giving away, or keeping. I don't have any boxes yet so I'll use garbage bags. I'm in a quandary over the full length fake fur coat that DH bought me about 3 years ago for my birthday that almost fit me then but has since become smaller and smaller on me as I grew bigger and bigger. It is a classic coat, my dream winter coat in fact but I have, alas, never worn it. *sigh* no BIG SIGH + :( + :mad: If it fit me, I would definitely wear it today. I think I am going to keep it though it doesn't fit the criteria of anyone's "decluttering" method. Maybe seeing it again will help me stay true to my foodplan and exercising? I am sure I'll have several more opportunities to feel like this over other clothes and other things as I start to pack and clear out the house. DH said he was doing good at the new job and he thinks we'll probably take a place near his work for a year or so then as we settle in we can choose where we'd like to live afterwards once we explore the city a bit. He's so sensible and way way more flexible than he used to be. it's amazing what a good job, outside recognition and a feeling of being useful will do to someone. I wish this for us all!


weighed yesterday and today: 283.8 & 282.0
made a plan for today
cooking from scratch yesterday
walked to the mall and back

working on

deliberate planned exercise of 5 minutes today
no seconds
no sugary drinks
read some Beck in one of her books today
re-do my ARC cards - make my goals stronger and clearer so they sink in!!

12-08-2010, 09:51 AM
I had a very nice, quiet birthday dinner at home with DH last night. He picked up a fancy cake mix and we made a birthday cake together. It tastes a lot better than it looks. The cake is very rich and a little goes a long way. I had planned for some dessert last night and now Iíll have to figure out how to deal with the rest of the cake.

We were having nice weather yesterday and I was able to get my run in.

Gardenerjoy, congrats on 19 years! Itís great that you will celebrate at restaurants with lots of healthy options on the menu.

Beverlyjoy, great job on a healthy food day. Itís nice that you can enlist your DHís support. Sometimes I am strong enough to handle temptation and other times, it canít be anywhere near me.

Lexxis, ouch for family drama unfolding. Hoping you can keep grounded through it all. Great job on staying OP when through the drama and for getting pool exercise as well as some pretty serious spontaneous exercise.

Blue Daisy, congrats on your sonís rookie of the year award! Donít beat yourself up too much over your dinner. Itís tough when your plan gets derailed. It all just takes practice on learning to be flexible enough to make the best choices in that situation.

Madrikh, Iím another one with a short circuit in the hunger center of the brain. I try to pay attention to how Iím feeling when I sit down to eat and hope that one day, Iíll fix my brain. Kudos for being willing to give scheduling a try.

BillBE, yay for leftover Indian food for lunch. Youíre right about the vegetarian choices; it was one of those rare times when I had trouble deciding what to have. Glad your cough is easing a little at a time.

Onebyone, big kudos for facing down those voices and avoiding buying off plan chocolate and then going on to have an OP salad! Keeping the fur coat is a great sign of optimism! Stick to your plan and it can be a reward for all your hard work.

12-08-2010, 11:41 AM
We had a good day yesterday and my eating was fine for a special day, if not everyday. The best was off the "spa menu" at last night's restaurant -- an amazing salad with bitter greens and a sweet cranberry dressing followed by multigrain risotto with autumn vegetables.

WI: +0.3kg, Exercise: +0 280/1500 minutes for December, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

Beverlyjoy: I'm glad you've managed to get back on track with so many challenges.

Lexxiss: Hugs for the new family drama. Glad you found an appropriate and rewarding distraction.

BlueDaisy: congrats to your son! Good job getting right back here to check in when things didn't go according to plan. These things happen -- it's the getting right back to it that makes the difference.

madrikh: yay for all those credits! I was kind of surprised at the consistency of the answers you got to your scheduling question. Intuitive eating apparently works for some people, but I suspect not most of the ones that find themselves at 3FC and reading the Beck books.

BillBlueEyes: glad you're feeling better

onebyone: Big credit for flexing that resistance muscle!
I have evolved into a big salad eater -- usually two large salads a day unless supper contains enough vegetables that I don't want a salad, too. My current theory is that I've been an overeater for so long that I am not going to be happy unless I eat a large volume of food. The only way to eat the volume of food that I want without getting too many calories is to eat salad. For awhile I was telling myself that I am still an overeater, it's just now I overeat vegetables! But I've decided that's not true. There are plenty of nutritionists that want us to get six or more servings of vegetables a day. My salads are each about three servings of vegetables and I often get another serving or two besides, so at 6-8 servings a day I'm not overeating vegetables!
I also need to work out something to make fixing salads more fun, though. Maybe putting some music on would help?

Shepherdess: sounds like a lovely birthday celebration!

12-08-2010, 04:24 PM
A celebration - small in nature. I lost another pound. I now have a BMI that is not considered overweight. This continues to be a miracle. I have been considered overweight since I was in second grade. I am going to keep on doing this deal.

12-08-2010, 07:01 PM
Hi Beck folks - yesterday was a healthy day. I am grateful. That is two healthful days… I am very grateful. I hope I can build on it. I really need to have some healthy days to feel sane around food again. (at least for the moment)

I did many of my Beck tasks: planned, logged, ate seated, slow eating, lots of water, read arc/rc and even did some stretches & strengthening exercises. Many credits. I worked on really tasting the food. I am grateful for the willingness to try.

I did change my food plan during the day because when dinner time came, what I had planned just was unappetizing to me. And I changed my evening snack just because I ‘felt like it’. I wasn’t willing to speak back to those sabotaging thoughts. However, it was within the parameters of my plan. So I am giving myself half credit.

I saw the therapist today. The one who I started seeing when all the crazy health stuff began. It was good to talk to her about the latest chapter. I feel some better.

Thanks again to you all for your kind support.

12-08-2010, 07:37 PM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

Today has been OP, and I'm always happy about that. I left here yesterday to call the dentist and they had an 8am appt today! I've been twice today-trying to figure out what I need to do,seeing how I can schedule everything while I'm here, and actually starting the "project" today. I came home a little loopy and worked in my new office. I pitched a spaghetti squash in the oven and dinner is almost ready so I'll check back with everyone tomorrow. Dinner is early tonight-I need to eat.
-made my own healthy milkshake after the dentist instead of stopping for a seemingly deserved fast food shake.
-exercised by parking at the mall and jogging to the different stores in the cold.
-used distraction techniques to appropriately deal with my emotions relating to the family drama (my DH's bro is divorcing and soon to be ex is blasting all of us with her insanity)

Take care, everyone! See ya'll tomorrow.

Blue Daisy
12-08-2010, 10:21 PM
Hi all,

Another quick check in. IT SNOWED TONIGHT! What a surprise. This is the first time I can remember it ever snowing this early in the year. In fact until last year we hadn't seen snow in my area since 2001.
I did exercise today...finally. It felt good. :carrot:
Wrote out a food plan...also changed my dinner plans. I wanted warm soup instead of fish.
Read my Response and Advantage Cards
Ate all food sitting down. Ate dinner a little faster mostly due to all the excitement around the snow. :)
Weighed in - 0 weigh lost total loss - 6.8lbs 155.0lbs

Hope all have a good evening and a wonderful tomorrow.

12-09-2010, 01:22 AM
Hi everyone!
Well, today was an OP day, except: I did pick up some Terra Chips while my DS was at basketball practice; I was super hungry because I forgot lunch and blah blah blah...etc, anyway, I ate what I thought to be 1 serving and then I closed the bag and squished the rest of the chips into crumbs! I really wanted to be hungry for dinner and I was.

-I walked 2.7 miles on the treadmill this morning
-read my cards
-read some of the pink book
-ate OP with only 1 off plan snack (see above)
-ate slowly and mindfully, including off-plan snack
-WI at 164
-I wore a ring on my right hand to remind myself of my Beck commitments

'nite all.


12-09-2010, 06:11 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Was psyched for gym, in the process of getting dressed for it, when DW reminded me we were going to an early Christmas party - our first for the season. It was crowded and noisy with few people we knew; make ourselves dinner using plates too tiny for a single serving and then had to stand. I fared poorly - using food to avoid talking to strangers with my still-rough voice. Ouch. It wasn't the worst I've done at parties, but not so good. I hadn't planned because I'd forgotten about it.

It will be a tough one to conquer: tiny plates, standing, no salads, few distractions other than food. Perhaps when we found that the folks we normally like to see weren't there, we should have quietly slipped away.

onebyone - Super mall story - what a victory; Kudos. Good luck with your continued de-cluttering. You're encouraging me to tackle more of my stuff.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Like the notion of a "spa menu" at a restaurant. Kudos for fine eating on a special occasion.

Shepherdess - Yay for a fancy birthday cake; Ouch for having the rest of it to deal with. Perhaps you can use the thought that you'll have a birthday next year, LOL.

Beverlyjoy - Yay for talking yourself to feeling better. And Kudos for the stretches and strengthening exercises. I'm a fan of the notion of substituting, within my set of plans, when Ďfelt like ití strikes me; it's important to me not to feel caged by my plans instead of liberated.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - A same day dental appointment is a minor miracle, LOL. Kudos for avoiding the fast food shake. I used to get one of those at the airport once a month after a hard business trip as comfort food; I shudder at what I did to my body.

Marci (madrikh) - Crushing those Terra Chips into crumbs is heroic; Kudos. I've never thought of that and don't know if I would be able to do it.

maryann - Big Congrats for entering the normal BMI range. Savor it.

Blue Daisy - Congrats on that chunk of weight gone. Enjoy your snow; no one is ever too old to throw snow balls and make snow angles.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

But I Want to be Thinner!

You can do a number of things if you're unhappy with your Lowest Maintainable Weight.
. . .
Focus on the parts of your body that please you the most. I'll bet your automatic tendency is to focus on the parts of your body that you don't like. Of course, you're going to feel dissatisfied. Instead, focus on the parts that you do like.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 275.

12-09-2010, 10:06 AM
Hi Coaches

I would never have bet on it but the scale, which I stepped on this morning, *credit* was reading 280.4. Thank goodness, and just as I was getting used to the 280's. I cooked from scratch & made my turkey yesterday *credit*. I was 75% successful (*credit*) with the "no seconds" rule. Only 75% cause I went back and picked at the bird. I didn't get myself another big plate so this is a victory for me right now. Today the bird gets stripped and made into soup which may become stew but we'll see what happens. I have all of my grandmother's veggies at hand to make the soup including white kholrabi and parsnips-along with carrots, onions, and celery. I am missing the bay leaf but since the temperature is -13C out there with a windchill of -22C I'm going to forgo the bayleaf.

I didn't start on the closet yesterday but garbage night is tonight so it's my duty to get it done today. DH may be home tomorrow night too so I want to show some progress in this department when he gets home. I also need a clear space to stack or store or pile the rest of the garbage/clutter/giveaway boxes and bags as I get to them. With every space full it's hard to really get going. This should help and I'll be able to hide stuff in the front closet until it's the next garbage day or until we haul it away to the Sally Ann or Goodwill.
I saw the neighbours bringing in a lot of boxes so I think they are moving too as well as the neighbours on the other side of me moved out last month. And my best friend Tim is also moving. So I can commiserate with a few people when the going gets tough.


-planned exercise of 5min on wii fit
-cook/eat from scratch
-no seconds
-no sugar
-eat sitting down

12-09-2010, 11:40 AM
Apparently yesterday had too many frustrations. I spent much of the day on the computer trying to figure out Excel. Clearly I donít use it enough, but did manage to put something useful together. Then had a frustrating time dealing with insurance. I sought solace in some crackers. Iím saying ďOh wellĒ to that and planning for a good day today.

It was also too windy to get any outdoor exercise. I had a hard time motivating myself to do some exercise, but finally did some weights. Iíll take credit anywhere I can get it.

Gardenerjoy, itís great that your spa menu can include something that sounds so wonderful. Itís amazing when how many healthy foods can feel so indulgent.

Maryann, congrats on another lb down and moving into a healthy BMI! Itís not a miracle; youíve done so much hard work to get there. These victories are great for boosting the motivation.

Beverlyjoy, great job on two healthy days in a row. It does help to start building a winning streak. Itís great that you were able to talk to a therapist. Hope you are starting to feel better.

Lexxis, kudos on an OP day while dealing with insanity. A homemade shake sounds like a great and healthier alternative to the desired fast food one. Yay for spaghetti squash in the oven! Itís always good to look forward to a healthy and delicious dinner.

Blue Daisy, great job getting some exercise despite the cold weather. I donít remember what part of the country you are in. Warm soup sounds like a great swap for a winter dinner.

Madrikh, Iím so impressed that you squished unwanted chips into crumbs. I always have a hard time with a single serving of chips. Wearing a ring sounds like a great way to remember your Beck habits.

BillBE, ouch for an unexpected Christmas party derailing your gym plans and offering a difficult food situation on top of that. Itís interesting that tiny plates and large plates both wreak havoc on portion control. Thanks for the reminder that Iíll have a birthday next year.

Onebyone, congrats on a positive scale experience! It always helps to see that number moving down. Yay for having everything on hand to make a yummy, healthy soup. Yay for making some progress clearing some space in your house.

12-09-2010, 01:13 PM
No exercise two days in a row. Yikes. I'll aim for better today. Today's theme is apparently car issues.

WI: +0.25kg, Exercise: +0 280/1500 minutes for December, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

12-09-2010, 06:06 PM
Hi Beckies - yesterday was mostly healthy until right before bedtime - I ate extra then. I was not willing to shout back at anxiety and urgency I felt about wanting to eat. I used food to comfort me and it only did so for a moment. I have a hard head… but, am still working on it. I have set up a strategy for tonight. I have committed to only eating anything after 7pm at the kitchen table. Also - I will use No Choice/Red Light - I will try. This should help, I think. I will read my response cards after dinner.

Some credit for yesterday (up until the bedtime extra food) were: logging food, eating seated, leaving a bite, lots of water, my stretches & strengthening exercises

Today I went got lots of veggies to roast to have for the next days ahead.

Now that my surgery has been canceled we decided to have some fun! We are getting together with friends Saturday night at my favorite Chinese Restaurant along with our annual looking at Christmas lights with these friends. Sunday will be dinner out with DH’s former colleagues and friends from a place where he used to work. I’ll need to start reading my going out to dinner response card a couple times a day until then. These are actually annual December activities we were going to miss this year. So, its kinda nice we will get to do them after all.

12-09-2010, 09:03 PM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I'm able to check in with a report of a sane relationship with food today. I made DH a pumpkin pie this morning, made it off limits and as I checked on dinner he had almost finished it. I did have one sliver but reminded myself to stop and did. It does help me sometimes to remember that I DO live with one of the very few people who can eat anything anytime and remain healthy. Not everyone, and especially I cannot eat that way. Exercised at the pool twice-once with my aerobics friends and then had a planned one on one meet up at 4-a continuation of distraction techniques used to distance my eating from the good ol' family soap opera.

BillBlueEyes, it sounds like you have evaluated and come up with a plan for the next time the specific situation presents itself. I like events where I can bring some food. (always salad)

onebyone, great credits! I'm wondering if you are finding it easier to resist as you get into lower glycemic eating. My experience is that I don't crave as much when have been eating more green light foods. Walking away from chocolate is such a great step forward! As to your coat, I'd vote for saving it. I saved a few items that didn't fit, but that I really loved. It was motivating as I got smaller to find that they still didn't fit, but didn't fit better.:lol: I now fit into some :cp: and I'm working on some others. Yay! for more credits!(todays post)

maryann, Congrats! on moving into healthy BMI. That is a great achievement not to be taken lightly!

BlueDaisy, yay! for getting back to exercise!

Shepherdess, Happy Birthday! A bit belatedÖ.sorry yesterday was so frustrating and you sought solace in crackers. Oh, well. I hope today was better.

Beverlyjoy, your changes in your food plan seemed quite sane(yesterdays post). I am finding through Beck that I can be flexible when my headspace is right, but that I have other times that it is best to stick to my original plan. *credit* for willingness and persistence. Great to hook up with your therapist, too. Enjoy your events that would have been cancelled!

gardenerjoy, glad to hear that you had a great day. Your dinner sounded spectacular. You and I have very similar salad habits. I always get plenty of veggies in. I go through salad phases-I really like something I made so I'll automate with it until I get tired of it then come up with a new one. For me, that means I can have several days of veggies chopped. I also have my greens made ahead but keep them separate.

Marci(madrikh), great job smashing the Terra Chips...I notice you are another person who uses a ring as a reminder. Great list of credits!

Healthy dinner awaits!

12-10-2010, 06:17 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Was served lunch during a meeting that spanned noon. Happens monthly, but yesterday it was served on china plates with silverware instead of the usual plastic clams with plastic forks. The chicken over salad tasted sooooo good just because of that. I had no trouble skipping the warm cookies, CREDIT moi.

No exercise (Ouch) because we met with the guy organizing for our house to be painted - along with an increasing list of other stuff. I shudder at how much de-cluttering I have to do before mid June of next year.

onebyone - Many Kudos for having on hand "white kohlrabi and parsnips" - not bad for a person who wasn't historically fond of veggies. Yay for your continued de-cluttering; I so need your encouragement. It wasn't until yesterday that I had the (remarkable for me, however obvious) insight that if I had two videos of my DD's dancing converted to DVD's, then I could get rid of both of my VCR's and reduce the complexity of my living room. And probably the same with the cassette player and tapes.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - This "no exercise" is apparently contagious, LOL. Hope your car issues resolve.

Shepherdess - Ouch for the difficulty of Excel when it hasn't been used in a while, with Congrats for getting what you needed done. Kudos for the weights when motivation was difficult.

Beverlyjoy - Yay for a planned evening of fun. Ouch for the difficulty of evenings.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - LOL at your vanishing pumpkin pie. Kudos for being satisfied with only a sliver and Kudos again for being able to distance yourself from the "good ol' family soap opera."

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

But I Want to be Thinner!

You can do a number of things if you're unhappy with your Lowest Maintainable Weight.
. . .
Say to yourself, Oh, Well. Think about how you've been able to accept a lesser goal in other parts of your life. How did you come to peace with it? Do you still struggle every day because your job isn't as satisfying as you want, your home doesn't look the way you'd like it to, you don't have as much time as you'd like for recreational activities? Or have you come to accept these imperfections in your life? Have you said, Oh, well, I'm not crazy about this aspect of my life, but I guess I can't have everything ... and I'm glad that I as least have [e.g. good friends, a good job, a hobby I love]? You might need to do the same with you weight.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 275.

12-10-2010, 10:50 AM
We went to the Historical Societyís Christmas party last night. They changed the venue this year and the food was much better than last year. It was a buffet making it easy to fill my plate with lots of veggies and they were cooked well. I was hungry when I got home, but it was past my bedtime and I just brushed my teeth and went to bed.

Exercise yesterday was moving furniture out of the bedroom. I did get a short walk when DH and I were bringing a surveyor out to a marker on the pasture. It looks like exercise today will be moving the furniture back in the bedroom. This was going to be the weekend when my FIL helped us put insulation in our bedroomóonly the new additions in the house are insulated. But things keep coming up and we decided that instead of getting the bedroom half torn apart and then not being able to get back to it until Jan. Hereís to more success in the new year!

Gardenerjoy, ouch for car issues. Nothing can mess up a day more. Great job committing to exercise so that two days without it doesnít turn into a streak.

Beverlyjoy, ouch for stress and anxiety leading to unplanned eating. Great job thinking of strategies to avoid it. Itís great that youíre going to have some fun since your surgery was cancelled.

Lexxis, yay for a sane relationship with food! Kudos for making the pumpkin pie off limits. It would be tough to live with someone who can eat whatever he wants, but I suppose it has its upside if a pie can disappear so quickly.

BillBE, yay for china and silverware at the lunch meeting making the meal seem more special. My sister and I were just talking about how we needed to get out our nice dishes once in a while because it makes the food taste better. All these home improvement projects can get in the way of exercise, but itís so good to get them done!

12-10-2010, 10:52 AM
The car is supposed to be fixed--the true test will be this morning when I take it out cold to my volunteer job. New tires are ordered and the appointment made for next week.

That all ended up with an unexpected lunch out at a deli that New Yorkers like (rare in St. Louis). I had a hot veggie sandwich on rye that was delicious! A bit decadent because I'm sure the bread was buttered, but not too bad. And rather than use it as an excuse to eat badly the rest of the day, I used it as a reason to eat a little more lightly the rest of the day! That's much more logical, but definitely a change from the way my brain used to work.

WI: -0.8kg, Exercise: +50 330/1500 minutes for December, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

12-10-2010, 12:53 PM
TGIF Beckies!

DH comes home today from Toronto. He was told yesterday they are going to make him an offer. This warrants a dancing carrot.
or two

He forwarded me the email about their office's Christmas party; next Friday night in a very high end Toronto restaurant. I saw the complete list of invitees and the Big Boss is on the list. I know he is based out of Toronto so he may be there. I'd like to thank him for changing our lives. But, of course, my very very first thought was "Oh no. I'm so fat right now. I don't want to meet all these people when I am so fat." I moaned this out load to DH on the phone and he said "Too bad. You're adorable. They'll love you." I think the important thing is for me to do the things I need to do to feel better about my physical appearance. This means a haircut, maybe a colour. An eye exam and new glasses or contacts. (I just got an appt for 3:20pm so that's going to get done! yay!) I wouldn't mind getting a make-up makeover either. And I need a necklace or something and some funky earrings. And maybe new fancy shoes.

I may not be thin, or even chubby, I may be larger than that but I don't have to look bad. I'm going to do my best and not let the I-should-have-lost-this-weight-by-now's derail me.

I also have a pot-luck christmas event with friends the night before but they are all slim and healthy folks so the food will be easy to cope with. And I don't overeat in public very often so I should be safe. But I will make a plan for that night when it comes. You guys have all been such great examples of planning and succeeding that I have no excuse not to do the same!

weighed in: 279.2 (-3 from last week)
66% greenlight yesterday
90% ate from scratch
recorded my food
3/4 done the entry way now = 4 bags of garbage gone + 2 bags for giveaway (so far. not done yet.) + threw out another craft show setup/display system

working on
planned exercise of 5 min today done (21 min)
eating sitting down 95%
no seconds done
no sugar today done
reading some Beck & new ARC cards
finishing the closet so that it is truly EMPTY of all but the essentials. done enough
focusing on greenlight low GI food 95% greenlight today

12-10-2010, 05:06 PM
Hi Beckfolks - quick hello. Yesterday was a healthy day. I am grateful. I made it through the evening with determination and planning. I am grateful for that too.
Credits -
planned, logged
lots of water
no seconds
stretches and strengthening
left a bite

My mom wasn't feeling well today, so I went to the drugstore and got her a few things. She had the stomach flu first and I am doing better than she. If she doesn't feel better soon, I encourage her to call her doctor.

Hopefully, I'll have time for personals tomorrow. I was busy all day today...I am not sure with what. I had a very elderly friend pass on last night. I got 'the word' and had to make lots of phone calls to friends and other storytellers to give them the news. He founded our guild twenty years ago and will be dearly missed.

Have a great evening.

12-10-2010, 05:53 PM
Hi Coaches
I slipped off the list for a while again - highly distracted with work and not doing so well with food mainly because I needed to shop and didn't

I have discovered something quite obvious - that I do two types of off-plan eating. The first type is when I get really busy and disorganised and food is food - which means anything I can find because I haven't planned or the cupboard is bare. The other sort of eating - often triggered by the first - is comfort eating. I have a choice and make bad ones because I need to go to get prepared food. The key (duh) as usual is plan, make lists, shop, prepare. But I have to say that it is sometimes really difficult to squeeze that in, but I have to try.

I find this time of year SOOO stressful. Work is always crazy with unfinished projects and trying to get things done so I can take a bit of compulsory leave, and the preparation for Christmas which I find a bit overwhelming. If I believed in biorhythms I would say they all plummet for me at this time of year and don't come up again until after my birthday in the middle of January. And that is when I eat my worst.

No credits worth mentioning - got the meat part of my shopping yesterday on the way home and hope I get the veggies and other necessaries today. At least we aren't under water like most of the south eastern states! Hot but manageable

12-10-2010, 05:57 PM
Afternoon, All. Friday is my day off and I haven't gotten out of my pjs. Credit for allowing myself to try and relax. Still, some free floating anxiety hovers. I sit quietly on my couch, though, and let myself feel it. My number 1 advantage on my card, which I have said before, is to face my fears and therefore grow spiritually. No more hiding behind foods. I am clearly aware, however, that this doesn't mean my fears go away it just means I have ONE problem, not TWO. I have found I must do less when I am confronting fears. I must face them with peace and quiet or I will become overwhelmed. I know this is all a little esoteric but it is the true root of my overeating and I have to acknowledge it. It is a truth gained by much effort. Credit.
On the lighter side, I am 1.5 pounds down this morning. I am tired from teaching 150 first graders music ( a side job) but I feel I was truly of service (credit.)
Lexxiss: read your "using distraction technique" and identified. Xmas time brings drama.
Madrikh: congrats on the chip squish. I have had to do wild things to make extra food unavailable - pour water in bags, burn, add salt. Whatever works.
BBE: I had to laugh at your xmas party scene. My husband and I were teasing each other that we never get invited to Xmas parties - we just aren't part of that kind of social scene. I guess I am happy about it after reading your description.
Shepardess: I feel a tech cloud looms over me often. Good luck with excel.
Gardenerjoy and OnebyOne: congrats on your weightloss.
Beverleyjoy: Glad to hear you were getting out and having some fun as a result of surgery cancelation.

12-10-2010, 09:15 PM
Blue Daisy You must be somewhere south that it rarely snows. I ask myself: I wonder what that's like? I hope you enjoyed it! Kudos for exercising and enjoying it.

madrikh I actually *gasped* when I read you crushed the bag of chips after one serving! I thought that was very powerful... and it seems so logical. Kudos!

BillBlueEyes Had to tell you I found 1/2 pint blueberries from Argentina for $1.79! Even in the summer they are more. They were even good, which I never expect this time of year. I am wondering why you have a June de-cluttering deadline? Is it due to renovations? Kudos on skipping the warm cookies!

Shepherdess Kudos for doing weights when it was too windy to run and you didn't feel like it but did it anyway! yay! Also I think it's a great plan to accept life as it is and move your furniture back into place. I'll second your Here's to success in the New Year wishes!

gardenerjoyWow such food sanity! I would have definitely used the off plan lunch to nag me into an off plan dinner. At best I would have had everything coming to me... but to adjust? To eat lighter? You ARE thinking like a thin person. KUDOS. Also I just wanted to say that I appreciated reading that you too need volumes of food and that your solution is the salad. I think I can do this if I use clear soups and/or salads for main meals. That may really help me start this weightloss process really rolling. I may need to invest in some fun frivolous kitchen gadgetry to make salad making more interesting though. It's really a joyless chore to me :p

Beverlyjoy Nice to see you're turning lemons into lemonade and enjoying some fun activities since you can! Kudos for buying veggies and making a plan. O well about the bedtime snack. So sorry to hear a friend of yours has passed. :hug:

Lexxiss I think eating more low glycemic food is really shutting down the sugar/junk cravings. I am dreading one aspect of DH's arrival tonight though as with him will come the seductive cola beverage and the junk food. It's been much easier to control the food around here with just me and Caesar the cat. ;) Alas, I do not live alone so must say NO CHOICE to that stuff. EXCELLENT use of the :swim: pool to distract from others. You are really making me want to get to the pool too. This is good! Sorry for the family drama. we have some of that this year too, but so far, I am not the ostracized family member... someone else is. The way we handle ourselves as a family is just ridiculous. O well. Kudos for continuing to not eat over it!

seadwaters Kudos for posting. Sorry your food has been tough due to stress. I too have first hand knowledge about this kind of thing. What do you typically do for Christmas? I read that Aussies take a trip to the beach. Is that true? When I was in Key West, Florida, I saw plenty of lights showing Santa's sleigh being pulled by dolphins, also Santa with pink flamingos. Do you guys have Santa and kangaroos? koalas? platypus?

maryann Kudos for relaxing in your jammies! We all deserve a little R&R. When I was actively fighting anxiety I was often worn out by the struggle of it all. I give you extra kudos for facing your fears and feeling the feelings that are coming up. Removing excess food will indeed bring things up and out of us. It's all worth it. As they say, the only way out is through. :hug: Congrats on the -1.5lbs!

Nature Girl
12-11-2010, 04:03 AM
Of my three holiday events this week, one I skipped because I still wasn't feeling well, the next turned from a 'salad potluck' which would have had lots of other treats also to a trip to a mexican restaurant, which I was able to handle with ease (tortilla soup) and we just returned from the third. How did I do? Well I told myself I could have either a drink or dessert and beer seemed safest but there always seemed to be someone topping up my glass, and then there was peppermint ice cream--I NEVER get peppermint ice cream--so I sorta broke my own rules. But the baked potato was OP w/reasonable toppings and the rest of the day was very OP; just a nibble of Off P mac & cheese when I got home from work after reading 65 student papers today --ugh!
OMG! Why did I not start with the really good news???? I took myself back to my dr's office scale this morning and I was down 3.5 pounds!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have worked so hard and worked out so much with inches lost but really no weight lost so far, so this is really important! Finally! And I know that starting in the morning, the old "success motivates success" motto will help me focus once again and try even harder with eating.
For sure x-c skiing tomorrow; I'm so excited for the first trip this season. And an awesome way to burn calories.
ONEBYONE, when Beverlyjoy was facing food donations after surgery we helped her with suggestions to keep the things that came into her house at such a crucial time healthy, OP, and not likely to sabotage. I'm wondering if your DH would be willing to help with that same thing for you when he comes home;sometimes I have my DH keep the truly tempting things out in his shop, or I put the rest of the Halloween candy in his truck so he can enjoy and I don't have to exercise my resistance muscle quite so much. If he thinks you're adorable and sees all the progress you're making, will he be willing to help out in this way?
Dang, BillBe, I think Beck had a whole day about this very issue of taking time & effort to set the table nicely and make food more about the experience--sounds like the people who fed you figured this out!

12-11-2010, 08:01 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Lunch was OP including half of the prior night's pork chop, CREDIT moi, with extra CREDIT moi for bringing in some applesauce to put on it since making food appealing is part of staying the course.

Did gym, CREDIT moi, before taking in Boston Baroque's Handel's Messiah. We hadn't been to a live performance of the Messiah in, maybe, 15 years and last night reminded me that that's not enough. The audience was almost in tears when the bass-baritone sang "And the trumpet shall sound ..." in duet with the Baroque era trumpet. Thank you Mr. Handel for such beauty - written in three weeks some 269 years ago. I'll do CREDIT moi for a day 40: Enrich Your Life event to encourage myself to get to more concerts.

onebyone - Kudos to you for choosing a DH who says, "Too bad. You're adorable. They'll love you." He's right on. If I were the spouse going, I'd be aware that the big bosses are always at a loss of what to talk about with the newbies; you've got such an advantage because you have a life that's interesting to hear about. If you wore a onebyone original brooch and used that as a trigger to talk about your art life, the big guys would be grateful as well as mesmerized. (My take is that most corporate cultures wouldn't want to hear gratitude - might just make the big guys feel uncomfortable.)

[Yep, the plasterers and painters will arrive mid-June expecting an empty house. What I don't de-clutter, we have to move to temporary storage. Jealous of your blueberries.]

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Super Kudos for responding to extra food by eating "a little more lightly" later rather than having more later. Yep, obviously logical, and just as obviously not what I've always done in the past.

Shepherdess - Yay for a party where the veggies are cooked well instead of a mindless side to the food, LOL. Ouch for the round trip moving bedroom furniture.

Beverlyjoy - Condolences for the loss of your friend who started the story teller's guild. Kudos that you can remember to leave a bite even while handling all the phone calls about a sad occasion.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yep, "plan, make lists, shop, prepare" is the formula. Kudos for shopping for the meat to get that started.

Nature Girl - Handling a Mexican Restaurant with ease is a big deal; Kudos - tortilla soup sounds like a good choice for me to remember.

maryann - Love being reminded, "just means I have ONE problem, not TWO." My mind boggles at that thought of facing 150 first graders. Thank you for getting the little guys started in music - some of them will sing the Messiah in just 20 years.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

But I Want to be Thinner!

You can do a number of things if you're unhappy with your Lowest Maintainable Weight.
. . .
Focus on how you've improved. You might not be as thin as you'd like, but how many of the benefits of weight loss have you achieved? Do you look better than you used to? Do you get more compliments? Are you wearing different clothes? Do you have more self-confidence? Do you feel more in control? Do you feel better about yourself? Do you have more energy? Are you healthier? Do you feel less self-conscious? Focusing on all the benefits you've derived instead of on an unrealistic number on the scale will make you feel better.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 275-276.

12-11-2010, 10:08 AM
Yesterday could have been betterÖ.could have been worse. I will give myself credit for
-stopping and taking a nap
-not using it as an excuse to "keep the ball rolling".
On a somewhat humorous note, we had 2 certificates which needed to be used at Vill. Inn. Each was for a full meal, beverage and pie. I decided to stick with something moderate (veggie burger, no mayo, FF-gave dh half). I left quite a bit on my plate because we were trying to get to a concert. DH had fried fish, shrimp, O rings, 1/2 my fries, mashed potatoes and gravy AND a salad. He ate every single bite and was in misery ALL night...the worst heartburn, and I'm sorry, but all I could do was laugh. Thank goodness I strive NOT to eat that way anymore. I know I used to, but fortunately, it's more of a faded memory every day.

BillBlueEyes, *credit* for Enriching Your Life, and recognizing that you should get out and do it more often.

onebyone, I totally agree with DH, that they will love you at the party...also agree w/BBE that you have such an advantage with all of your interesting art endeavors. I, too, would go for the mini makeover ; new outfit, makeup, hairstyle, nails...all the pampering things that helps a gal feel better. I second NatureGirl's suggestion that perhaps DH might be persuaded to tweak some of his indulgences. I asked my DH if he could lay off the junk for two weeks while I got back on track. I have provided some healthy options for him and it has been Soooooooooo much easier without Costco sized bags of chips and chocolate in the cupboard. BTW-my advantage card says, "Sugar excites my craving mechanism. My journey is much easier without it."

NatureGirl, congrats on your WL! Enjoy your first day of XCS tomorrow.

maryann, good for you, staying in jammies on your day off. Especially this time of year. Kudos for facing your fears while sitting quietly on the couch without hiding behind foods!

Cheryl(seadwaters), thanks for sharing your two types of off plan eating. Since you recognize that now until your BD is your worst time of year, perhaps you could make a very short range plan which would provide the road map to get you through.

Beverlyjoy, Yay! for determination and planning to help you achieve another healthy day on Thursday. Sorry it ended finding out that your friend had passed on. Take care, as you deal with your loss.

gardenerjoy, great job, "Thinking like a thin person"! Yes, it is much more logical.

Shepherdess, yay! for brushing teeth and going to bed after a successful holiday event which did leave you feeling a bit hungry (for whatever reason).

I am planning an afternoon "distraction event", since I jumped into the fire during that low afternoon spot. No outside events this evening, but a potluck at church tomorrow which I must prepare for. I always bring food that I can eat, including an OP dessert.

12-11-2010, 10:18 AM
Yesterday was taken over with moving furniture back into the bedroom and then, unfortunately, a funeral in the afternoon. We ran errands afterwards and I was sure that I was going to die of starvation. But I did resist ripping into the chips DH put in the shopping cart on the way home and made it home to have dinner.

Gardenerjoy, great job choosing well at the deli and then making the rational decision to eat lightly for the rest of the day. Hope the car gets you where you need to go!

Onebyone, yay for having your DH home and yay that for living with man who thinks youíre adorable. Great response to do things to feel better about your appearance now. There are so many things we tend to put off until we have lost weight, but itís important to feel good about your appearance at every stage.

Beverlyjoy, kudos for having the ďdetermination and planningĒ to have a healthy day! Iím sorry to hear about the passing of a friend and with your mom sick it sounds like you have a lot going on.

Seadwaters, ouch for extra stress at work and upcoming holiday season that lead a lack of planning and poor food choices. Maybe it would help to make a list of healthy prepared options you can choose when you donít have a chance to get to the store. Kudos for recognizing that this time of year is tough for you and getting back to Beck habits.

Maryann, hugs while you deal with anxiety, but great job recognizing that food will not help. Congrats on another 1.5 lbs down!

Nature girl, congrats on 3.5 lbs down! It sounds like you are handling a bunch of holiday events in a row pretty well. One mistake at one event doesnít undo all your other hard work!

BillBE, yay for leftovers so you look forward to lunch. Kudos for getting to the gym before getting to the Messiah. I love that music and itís so great that you got to hear it live.

Lexxiss, great job taking a much needed nap! Great job making good choices at the village inn and then getting to feel smug since your DH paid the price for his own choices.

12-11-2010, 11:07 AM
'Lo, Beckmates.

Report for the last 4 days: 3 on, 1 off. Not good enough, but certainly much bedda than I have been doing.

Winter Weather Warning derailed my plans for driving the 60 miles to dance to "my band" last night, so did a jig saw puzzle to loud blues blasting away. *love Pandora radio! Did the puzzle on my feet with a few dance moves thrown in. The dawg has adjusted to loud blues, though she does occasionally think the bass is something to bark at.

Still weather-obsessed..saw 43 degrees for Boston today. *sigh. With windchill, it is ~ 20 below right now! It does sound as if I will be able to go into town tonight, though. Seadwaters, am thinking it's time to do a vacation trade...Australia for summer now, and Minnesoda for summer in June. Good idea? You betcha.

Yay, BillBE for the appreciation of Handel, and the area in which you live with such diverse treats of enrichment. 'Tis a good life, yes?

Onebyone, I *love what DH said to you. Couldn't have said a single word that would have been better. I agree with BillBE completely.

I do have to say it is much different going into a situation like that at a normal weight than at 220#s. It just is. I reflect back on a lifetime of being wedding, my career, being a fat mom for my son's activities all through middle school..and then the last 8 plus years of "normal" I think the most painful memory now is being around the moms all 10 years younger and much, much healthier than I was. By the time I divorced and by the time DS was really active in BB and golf, I was thin. Sometimes it feels as if I were a different person then.

I do think being fat made me work harder and just *try harder. In some cases, it was probably false bravado. My career has basically been sales/sales management in one form or another. If you don't have the looks to get you in the door, you have to be good! I was hired at my last two positions at my former weight..which was always ~ 220#s I got my current position 16 and 1/2 years ago, the job of my dreams at *that weight and with very bad hair.

Time to shovel snow. Have a great weekend, all.

12-11-2010, 01:18 PM
I had planned to go out to the cabin today to pick up a few things, but it rained so I'm staying home. Looking forward to a quiet at home sort of day!

WI: NA kg, Exercise: +85 415/1500 minutes for December, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

BillBlueEyes: it's been too long since I've heard the Messiah, too. Your example makes me want to fix that.

onebyone: I'm amazed how helpful it has been to focus on clothes and hair color and similar things during this journey. In the past, I have always put that kind of thing on hold until I lost weight, which I never did in the way I have this time. For me, there was a carryover from looking the best I can in the moment to actually doing the things that would improve things in the future.

NatureGirl: yay for seeing the scale move at the doctor's office!

Beverlyjoy: sorry for the loss of your friend in that special area of your life.

Lexxiss: hope your distraction event goes well and great job making a plan to fix OP food for tomorrow's potluck

Shepherdess: way to flex your resistance muscle against those chips on what must have been a distressing sort of day

Seadwaters: glad to see you back here and working through your issues

maryblu: love your story of successes at every size and age and how it matters, while at the same time not being an unsurmountable barrier

maryann: good job taking time for yourself after an exhausting job

12-11-2010, 01:31 PM
Morning - Much more rested today. Lots of sleep and some good talks with DH and DS. I am very lucky in that my spouse and son are really interesting people with good opinions and a great sense of humor. They rejuvenate me. My husband says I am like a high performance racing car - fast and exciting but with a lot of down time.
I reread Beck on exercise. It reminded me how grateful I am to be willing to get to the gym most days of the week.
Naturegirl: seems like we are both teachers. Do I really have to grade that stack of papers on my desk?
Lexxiss: you have the gift of awareness - you are willing to see the effects of overeating. For many years I ignored the ramifications others suffered from overeating and only saw how much fun they were having in the moment.
Shepardess: congrats on resistance techniques. Hunger is not an emergency but it sure FEELS like one.
BBE: I have sung in the Messiah several times and have my own score - credit- alto part part and all the hiccups in "For unto us a child is born"
gardenerjoy: enjoy your day.

12-11-2010, 05:49 PM
Hi All!
I feel a bit guilty for not doing personals...I DO read everyone's posts and learn so much; so thank you each for sharing:hug:

I have done OK the past 2 days. I ate mostly OP, except for overeating one of my snacks on Thursday. Last night was dinner on my DH's plan; he had planned to take me out and I didn't know about it until I was ready to start fixing dinner. So, even though dinner wasn't on my Plan, I am familiar with the restaraunt we chose so knew I could make good choices, and I did. No bread, salad (with a light dressing) instead of soup, grilled salmon and wild rice pilaf with steamed frech vegetables for my entree. I gave half the salmon to DH and left half the pilaf. Loved the veggies!

Yesterday I took 2 yoga classes and went to yoga this morning.
I am planning to break through this weight plateau!! Two of my golas for this week : no eating after dinner, add at least 3- 20 minute walks in afternoons.
I'm not doing so well with the scheduled eating, but will keep up the attempt!


12-11-2010, 09:49 PM
Hi Coaches

Another (too) warm day. I could go for your suggestion Maryblu that we do a vacation trade - you can have my house over summer - can be unbelievably hot. I loved Stockholm when the snow was up to my chest and it was -10C in December. Our winter's are puny compared to yours - didn't get under 8C this year

Went shopping yesterday so have the necessaries but need to plan to eat it of course. As some of you have suggested I need to make a plan to survive the festive season doldrums that doesn't involve eating. Not sure yet what I will do especially given I will be with family. When I go home this year (4 hours south of my home) my sister and I will be packing up my parents home, so I will be staying much longer than I like.

Thanks for asking about Christmas in Australia Onebyone and showing a great command of native fauna. You will be gorgeous for the bosses dinner and a clever dinner companion as well. Like BBE's suggestion for wearing a conversation starter! Definitely not white of course and no - it never (rarely) involves Santa with kangaroos, or koalas or platypus - probably because of ties to Britain originally then the Mediterranean. Often more concerned about being visited by spiders and snakes flushed out of the bush by the bushfires. Those who live near the beach may spend the day there but it is usually way too hot for the rest of us. Many I know go for a traditional lunch - roast meat (chicken and pork, less commonly turkey - and veg and stuffing etc) with seafood for other meals. There was one memorable Christmas about 6 years ago - 38C, no air conditioner but fans, had just finished cooking and serving lunch and then the bushfires burned down the power lines. Good thing we finished cooking before that. I was trapped in Ulladulla for 4 days because the roads were closed

:yes: - Shopped for food
:yes: - exercised by gardening this morning
:yes: - yesterday on plan and today looking good
:yes: - posted here
:no: - ate olives at sink while unpacking groceries
:no: - no planned exercise
:no: - no A&R cards

Have a good day - wave to everyone. Working today to get projects done

Nature Girl
12-12-2010, 01:45 AM
So we packed an OP lunch and headed 68 miles north to ski and see our DD's BF play in a Christmas festival. The skiing was incredible! Beautiful scenery, snow coming down, and I was so ready for it, because Rugby Girl & I have been training for this. Skied for 1 1/2 hours, then went downtown for the festival in the snow; beautiful and fun. One more ski session (1/2 hour) and we headed home. The picturesque snow suddenly became a driving hazard; the one hour 10 minute trip north took us 4 1/2 hours to get home!!!Quite an adventure! So right now we're a little exhausted, especially since it snowed in our town also and we needed to shovel ourselves into the parking area, and shovel out the dot's dish so we could feed him! Credit spontaneous exercise, I guess. 8" - it is beautiful around here.
Food was OP because I packed it; there is something so great about a basic turkey sandwich & sliced orange when you have worked your butt off and are truly ravenous after hours of fresh air.
Maybe some personals and tomorrow's goals later; right now even my fingers hurt, not so much from skiing but I think from clutching the steering wheel so hard!

T Hotty
12-12-2010, 03:18 AM
Hello! I just finished the first part of Beck Diet for Life. Wow! Lots of stuff to do! I'm a little overwhelmed, but just going to work on the steps a little bit each day. Tomorrow, I just want to get all my supplies together and get organized.

I'm so happy to see there is this group online!

12-12-2010, 06:42 AM
:welcome: T Hotty :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post on 3 Fat Chicks, :wel3fc:

How did you learn about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find this forum on the 3FC site?

12-12-2010, 06:43 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating OP, CREDIT moi, is much easier when there's no party or buffet. I hope that I never tire of peanut butter, banana, and toasted pecans on toasted whole wheat sandwich bread ends.

Walked to Trader Joe's to get some California Golden Raisins, CREDIT moi. I took off when the temperature hit 50 degrees Fahrenheit - just WOW for mid December - walking without gloves! I'm reading about the huge storm in the Midwest, shuddering at the thought that it will drift to the East Coast. Picked up some stocking stuffers; my family loves TJ's roasted red pepper soup. There were zillions of choices of candied this and chocolate covered that. I used to buy all that stuff, but just don't do it anymore. I don't need it and my family doesn't need it either. And finally did some Christmas shopping. CREDIT moi for getting started, however late.

maryblu - Ouch for no Viking football today because the NY Giants are stuck in Kansas City - sounds like an awful storm; hope you're surviving. Sounds like a YouTube worthy video of you dancing to loud blues working a jig saw puzzle.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for a quiet day at home - without needing to shovel your way out.

Shepherdess - LOL at "I was sure that I was going to die of starvation" with Kudos for dodging the chips.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Shuddering at the thought of chest high snow in Stockholm as well as New Zealand bush fires. Kudos for getting some shopping done so you can plan your meals.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Ahhh Yes, "could have been better….could have been worse" - the place we all live our lives; Kudos for accepting that so you can enjoy it and have a sane head for making wise choices. LOL at your restaurant story, remembering that I still have to learn to leave food at restaurants to avoid your DH's heartburn part.

Nature Girl - Just loving your skiing tale. Yep, food is sooooo good after a vigorous adventure. Ouch for that long drive home - glad you made it.

Marci (madrikh) - LOL at "dinner on my DH's plan" with Kudos for good choices at the restaurant.

Don't sweat personals; it's actually useful to have a few posters who aren't doing personals to make the forum feel more inviting to new posters. The major thing is to post and be accountable.

maryann - Kudos for your ability to appreciate your DH and DS.

T Hotty - Yep, it does seem a bit overwhelming at first. But you got a great approach, [I]"just going to work on the steps a little bit each day." Kudos for a robust start by planning to get all your supplies get yourself organized. There isn't a rush - the Beck strategies seem to work best as they seep into your normal daily life.

Is there a story that goes with your avatar picture?

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

But I Want to be Thinner!

You can do a number of things if you're unhappy with your Lowest Maintainable Weight.
. . .
Change your comparison. If you compare yourself with people who weigh less than you or if you compare yourself to what you wish you weighed, you'll always be unhappy. Change the comparison. Contrast how you look today with how you looked when you first started this program.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 276.

12-12-2010, 08:32 AM
Hi Beck folks - the past two days have been on plan. I am very grateful for that. I did a few of my Beck tasks - but, not very consistently. I had many twirl worthy moments - am glad to for that. Credits for:

Keeping tack
Lots of water
Stretches and strengthening
Leave a bite
Slower eating

I roasted more veggies. It’s such a good way to get those healthy veggies - carrots, parsnips, green beans, egg plant, & brussel sprouts. Today I’ll get some asparagus and mushrooms to roast. I might try beets.

Our dinner to the Chinese Restaurant was cancelled because my friend has the stomach flu. I can totally relate. DH & I got some take out. I tried a tofu, veggies and light broth soup. It was delicious. It’s nice to find another healthy thing at the Chinese restaurant.

A dilemma - I usually bake DH's moms Christmas raisin nut bread. I don't feel like baking. He makes her cookies... so he knows how to bake. This recipe bakes 4 at a time and it always seems that one is done before the others... kind of a pain. I'll see if I can handle it later. The whole family is eager for their loaf. Ugh.

BTW - DH had been away on business, got home and announced that "He didn't bring any cookies or candy into the house." (as per my request) Yay, Dh. Yesterday, he got some white and red peppermints. He reminded that I really don't like those - he's right about that.

Billbe - credit for passing up the sweets for your family at TJ’s. Glad you got to enjoy a nice day for a walk - no glove too.

Thotty - WELCOME!! So glad you found this forum. Yes, all the Beck ‘tasks’ can seem a bit overwhelming. Take as slow or fast as you like. It is so helpful for learning to live healthfully with food.

Nature girl - many credits for staying op and LOTS of skiing exercise. Sounds like a wonderful getaway!

Seadwaters - credit for getting things to be ready to eating healthfully on your plan. I totally agree - it takes a lot of planning to get through the holidays. I am going to be away from home (my food comfort zone) for Christmas too. Try to include some healthy side dishes if you can.

Marci - as for feeling guilty for not doing personals - we can only do it as time/circumstance allow. However, sometimes I feel that way too - but, we shouldn’t. Credit for those healthy choices at the impromptu dinner out.

Maryann - so nice you have fun and interesting family to hang with. Credit for rereading the Beck exercise portion!

Gardener-joy - sorry the rain caused your change of plans. Nice to have a quiet day sometimes, too.

Maryblu - reflecting on the past and our former fatter selves is a hard thing. Dr. Beck always says that we can’t change any of that and just work on getting healthy and a good weight. It’s hard not to think of those times when we were overweight. Look how far you’ve come…Credit!!

Shepardess - moving furniture is certainly using muscles. Credit for staying out of the chips!! Sorry about the funeral - a sad part of life, indeed.

Lexxiss/Debbie - sorry your DH had such horrible heartburn, etc. Credit to you that you ate healthfully and in a sane manner. Hope the concert was good.

Onebyone - so glad Dh is home. I LOVE that DH said : "Too bad. You're adorable. They'll love you." - as you started to worry about your weight around new people. Often, we worry more about our weight than others are really judging us on meeting us. I don’t overeat in public either.

12-12-2010, 11:46 AM
We got a call last night that our young friend Brian (age 20) was finally getting his new kidney. The update this morning is that the surgery went well. He had some problem with stomach sickness, which is very painful with a brand new incision across the belly, but they got some medicine in him that helped ward that off. Best news: the new kidney is already starting to function!

Fortunately, they made the two hour trip to the hospital yesterday afternoon because we got snow overnight. We were going to drive over today, but we're putting it off a day or so. Today's exercise will be shoveling snow -- or maybe sweeping it, this is light and fluffy stuff but there are several inches of it.

WI: -0.95kg (new low), Exercise: +0 415/1500 minutes for December, Food: 95%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Welcome THotty!

T Hotty
12-12-2010, 12:10 PM
Good morning! Thanks for the warm welcome! :)

I tend to overeat for emotional reasons (stress, boredom, etc) so have read lots of books that are more about the mind than a specific eating plan. I read one of her books years ago, but just thought it sounded like too much work. For whatever reason, it sounds good now!

I found your thread by googling Beck Diet forum, just looking for other folks that are doing this.

My picture is from a backpacking trip I went on a couple weeks ago. My first time backpacking in the snow. It was umm... cold. hehe :) I'm pretty obsessed with hiking and backpacking. :)

12-12-2010, 01:33 PM
We had dinner at one of the swankest places in town, the Petroleum Club, a throwback to the old oil boom days. Itís the second time this week weíve been there, so weíre feeling a bit spoiled. I ate pretty well, though I should have left more dessert on my plate than I did. Oh well, Iíll still take credit for not eating the whole thing.

A third day in a row with no exercise. I ran into a friend when I was getting some books signed for nieces and nephews Christmas presents. We decided to have coffee (I stuck with tea). I definitely notice a change in my outlook on life and my sleeping isnít as good as it is when Iím exercising regularly. So today itís going to happen!

Maryblu, I was thinking about you when I heard the weather report yesterday. Looks like you have some serious shoveling to do. Itís great exercise, but not as much fun as dancing. 3 out of 4 isnít perfect, but still pretty good. Interesting thoughts on how being heavy made you work harder. Now you have the best of both worlds: youíre good and you look good.

Gardenerjoy, yay for quiet rain days. Always a good time to get things done. Looks like youíre doing a good job of catching up on your exercise. Itís great that your friend got a new kidney and despite a few problems, is getting better. Itís tough when someone so young has such difficult health condition.

Maryann, yay for a DH and DS who are great conversationalists. I love the racing car metaphore. Itís great that youíre feeling rested and spending some time refreshing on Beck.

Madrikh, donít feel bad for not doing personals. Itís more important that you check in and I get something out of everyoneís posts whether or not they have the time to do personals. Great job making smart choices when dinner plans suddenly changed. Yay for so much yoga. Itís a great way to break through a plateau.

Seadwaters, great job getting your shopping done so you are stocked up and ready to for your week. LOL at sweating out your Christmases. When my brother lived in Australia, he used to joke about the Santas in their heavy suits sweating it out just to be festive.

Nature girl, your ski trip sounds wonderful and itís great that your exercise left you in great shape so you could enjoy it. Was that around Whistler/Blackcomb(sp?)? Iíve done some great snowboarding up there. Yikes for the driving hazards, but glad you made it home safe.

Welcome T Hottie! Itís great that youíre going to tackle Beck just a little bit at a time. It does seem overwhelming at first, but many of the Beck tasks become habits if you take it slow. Then itís just part of your life. I love hiking and backpacking and youíre in a great place to do it.

BillBE, yay for a day without a food challenge. They are few and far between this time of year. And yay for nice walking weather mid-December! Itís great that you had the motivation to use it for some exercise.

Beverlyjoy, kudos for 2 days OP with lots of reasons to twirl! Yum for roasted veggies. Itís so much easier to stay OP when healthy food is so delicious.

12-12-2010, 03:16 PM
Hi Coaches

NatureGirl - Quite the adventure and credit for developing the fitness to do it. Yay for a packed lunch. I love all this talk of snow
THotty - WELCOME - glad you found your way here - it is a useful place to be. A little bit at a time is a great way to start
BillBlueEyes - Parties and work lunches are the bane of my dieting life lately. None of my plans defend against them. Avoidance seems to be the way to go at the moment. Love your sensible stocking stuffers.
Beverlyjoy - Yay for 2 days on plan. Great that you have found a standby in roasted veggies. Makes me think I should do it more. Hope you solve your Christmas baking dilemma. We don't serve food family style - with side dishes etc. It is served as a meal on a plate - which makes not taking seconds easier. Wonderful DH not bringing home treats - progress indeed
Debbie(Lexxiss) - Yay for memories of how you USED to eat - a good place to be
Gardenerjoy - I am so glad your friend got a new kidney and it sounds like a great success. Good idea to sit out the snow for a while. Credit on the new low
Shepherdess - Great resistance staying away from those chips especially after all the spontaneous exercise in the bedroom. Hope you get to exercise today. Well done not eating all the dessert in the "swankest place in town". Yes - Australian Santa's suffer badly. Insane really

Reading about BillBE's healthy stocking stuffers makes me think that I need to take foods to my sisters that are not the usual stuff I think she and her son want (we are all there is of family really). I now have to start thinking about useful alternatives - veggies and dip to make there plus...? When I was out shopping I couldn't believe the food assault - "zillions of choices of candied this and chocolate covered that". All meant to inspire gluttony. I don't even really like it.

If I sound a bit obsessed about bush fires I am a little! I back on to a national park which regularly catches fire. When I am away over the holidays I always expect to come home to scorched earth as happened to one of my neighbours. Not a real concern (in fact it could solve some of my problems, LOL) but something to prepared for/against

:yes: - Food on plan 80%
:yes: - Weighed myself
:yes: - Checked in
:yes: - Logging food
:yes: - Getting dinner out of freezer
:no: - No exercise
:no: - No A&R cards

Have a good day

Nature Girl
12-12-2010, 04:33 PM
Seadwaters, LMAO at your reference to Shepherdess getting "spontaneous exercise in the bedroom"--I'm positive all you are referring to is moving the furniture back, right?:o;)

12-12-2010, 07:15 PM
Hi Coaches

I missed posting yesterday. In fact, I titled this one Saturday before I realized d'oh! it's Sunday. Well Saturday was a fall back into every old pattern I have had with food.

First, I had a good breakfast credit then I skipped lunch :devil: as I took the car and got myself some new glasses credit , which should, hopefully, arrive before we leave on Friday for Toronto. As a backup I am going to get a trial pair of, get this, bifocal contactscredit . The eye dr. says they have an 80% success rate. But trial=free and they could get me through Friday if my glasses don't show. Otherwise I won't see distance because there is no way I am wearing my current glasses. Yes, they ARE that bad.

I also got my mom and we did a bit of xmas shopping for my Florida sister. I got cards and made my mother write one for my sis and BIL. She bought them each a gift and I'll mail it tomorrow. credits all 'round for this I got her something decorative for her apt door. Everyone on her floor has something and now she does too. She was happy about that and me too. credit for taking care of my mom I think I need to lie to my mom about me moving. I told her and she remembers and it bothers her a lot. this time when she brought it up I told her I was staying. She was happier. It's weird what sticks and when. She told my sister this morning that "someone was over yesterday but not (me). " She was in a good mood which continues to make me believe that while my mom may not remember details due to alzheimer's, she does hang onto residual emotions. That she was happy means she's feeling good and we did have a good time. My brother is completely joyless when it comes to my mom and my mother feels that.
It's too bad for him and for her.

Anyway I came home starving and as DH made dinner I spied the half-dozen homemade cookies sent to me by his mom. I resisted them since Friday but then ate them all, of course starting with "just one".:devil:
Then, as he served dinner he handed me a cola beverage and like Pavlov's dogs I popped the tin and chugged.:devil: arg. 2 sugars in me after a week of none. Then I ate twice as much as I was eating all week, all the way to overfull. credit for food from scratch. credit for noticing I liked it better being not so full. Also, I, me, I bought a Kinder Egg for DH and for me too :devil: but I did give 1/2 the chocolate to DH. credit You could have knocked him over with a feather. I also credit parked at the far end of every parking lot so me and my mom got some good walking in. Those were deliberate choices for the most part--a few forced due to the volume of xmas shoppers out at the mall.

So I know where I went wrong. I saw a 1.2lb rise on the scale this morning when I weighed in credit and went O Well. Today has been OP and I did two things to help myself 1) I just emptied the half-ful 2litre bottle of sugary drink down the toilet credit that remained from when I was getting ready for my colonoscopy. I found myself chugging it yesterday after I down the cola.:devil: and 2) I was poised over the peanut butter jar about to get a fork cause all the spoons are dirty and ready to take the lid off and dig into it because I want "something sweet". I put the PB away so I can't see it. If it bugs me it's going into the trash.

The sugar cravings are a tough one. No cola for me today. Just my planned dinner which is ready so I will say Good Evening for now but check back for personals later. or not!


12-12-2010, 11:43 PM
Hello Beckers:

seadwaters- nice list of credits. Sorry to hear about the bush fire threat. Strange for us buried in snow to think about that. Hope it is OK for you.

Shepherdess-it is good that you notice the changes without regular exercise. That's a great way to keep motivated.

T Hotty- welcome aboard the board. :D

gardenerjoy- good news about your friend. And happy belated anniversary.

Beverlyjoy- yay for two days on plan. Nice list of credits.

BillBlueEyes-sounds like you are getting some beautiful weather. Credit for changing your Christmas buying to healthier food.

Nature Girl-your skiing holiday sounded fantastic. Yay for 3.5 pounds gone!!

madrikh-don't feel bad about personals. That has kept me from posting in the past which does no good at all.

maryann- kuddos for getting to the gym most days- quite an accomplishment. And yay for 1.5 pounds gone.

onebyone- your DH is a peach. Love the idea of a mini-makeover.

maryblu- waving hello to you doing puzzles to the blues.

Lexxiss-love that you put napping as a credit. So smart to take one when you need one. Sorry for the continuing family drama.

Blue Daisy- waving hello.

For me- a stupidly crazy week last week. This overwork is really driving me crazy and it is hard to stay on plan. Some good days, some not. I am wearing out.

But I did decide that I must concentrate above all else on curtailing my sugar intake. I get started and I just want more. Last Sunday's chocolate melt-down worried me and I have not eaten sugar since then. I just need to not eat it because control seems to be out of the question at this point. I feel much better. Every time I am tempted I am just telling myself- "this is my bottom line right here."

So another major week coming up and then I am off work for a week and a half and I am going to regroup in a major way. Till then- no sugar, no binging, do my weights and carry on as best I can. Need to learn the trick of going into maintenance mode instead of losing the thread altogether.

Hope you all have a great week and will check in when I can.


T Hotty
12-13-2010, 12:49 AM
Good evening everyone,
I had a productive day getting started with the Beck program. I created advantage and response cards, weighed myself first thing (was heavier than I thought!), got all my supplies together, went for a run, ate dinner all slow and mindfully and prepared myself for Experiment #1. I'm giving myself major credit for all of this! What else... Oh, I changed my weight loss goal to just 5 pounds like she suggests. I threw away some binge-y food, which was absolutely heart breaking! So 2 more credits. :)

I'm thinking it's going to take a while to get through all these experiments she suggests. There are six of them and she says to do them all multiple times. For those who followed the Diet for Life book, did you continue with the other skills while doing the experiments?

Nature Girl - your ski trip sounds fun! I've been thinking about trying out cross country skiing this season. I was looking at the Snoqualmie Pass website and they have these packages for renting all the gear and getting a lesson for like $50. Do you go to a ski area or just out on your own? What an awesome way to stay in shape during the winter!

I'm enjoying reading all your posts!

12-13-2010, 05:44 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - OP eating, CREDIT moi. Not much exercise since it rained all day. It was a joy to watch my DW, the gardener, so happy watching the rain. And another joy that my basement was dry after my latest round of patching.

One more container of obsolete files destroyed; CREDIT moi for each small step in de-cluttering.

maryblu - Ouch!!! Shame on the person who forgot to tell the architect of the Metrodome that it snows in Minnesota.

onebyone - Yay for a very full day with lots of credits despite your little diablo's in between. Neat that, with the glasses, you're working on your presentation for next Friday's party. Gotta laugh at the visual of you going after peanut butter with a fork.

CeeJay - Smart to focus on "curtailing my sugar intake" - sugar is a trigger for me, too. Ouch for a "stupidly crazy week" - may you be granted some calm days in the weeks ahead.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Congrats on your new low. Again! That's great news that your friends kidney is doing kidney things.

Shepherdess - Seems right to me that ranchers are taking over the swankest place in town; Let the swells meet those who make the world turn.

Beverlyjoy - Yay for roasted veggies, twirl worthy moments, a DH who doesn't bring junk home from a business trip, and a new Chinese Restaurant item. A good day indeed.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Good list of credits - reads like you're getting back in your grove. Ouch for returning home with the fear of scorched earth. When I return home after a few days, I always have this momentarily pause as I turn onto my street checking that my house stands intact; thought I was the only one.

Nature Girl - LOL - I hadn't spotted that.

T Hotty - Hats off to someone who'll backpack in the snow. You certainly deserve Kudos for all the Beck stuff you've done - getting off to a good start, you are.

I didn't use Beck diet of life for my weight loss, but my take is that you should do the Experiments until you feel you got it. Some may take multiple times, some will feel obvious to you after the first time. But I'd proceed with the Skills of Stage 1 at the same time. Since these Skills are going to take a long time to get through, you might welcome the distraction of continuing the Experiments. Pretty soon you won't feel as if you're doing so many things all at once.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

But I Want to be Thinner!

You can do a number of things if you're unhappy with your Lowest Maintainable Weight.
. . .
Prepare yourself mentally before you weigh yourself. You'll feel disappointed if you continually expect to see your Lowest Achievable Weight whenever you step on the scale. Before you weigh yourself, remind yourself of your Lowest Maintainable Weight. Also remind yourself that you'll probably weigh between 2 pounds more to 2 pound less than that number. This way, you'll be happy, rather than disappointed, when the scale shows that you've maintained. If you gain more than 2 pounds, tell yourself that you now have the skills to solve the problem.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 276.

12-13-2010, 10:36 AM
I managed to stay OP yesterday even though I didnít make a plan. I chose all of my regular foods for my meals, but I canít make the flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants a habit. Too easy to get derailed. I also started my holiday candy-making. I skipped it last year, but would be sad if I could never do it again. My DH would be sad too. I kept my testing to a minimum and let that be my treat for the day. Iím planning to only keep a small amount around the house that I can work into my daily plan and will give the rest away. To avoid being obnoxious, Iím only giving people small amounts as well. They can have a taste without a lot of extra temptation.

I got my run in yesterday and both me and the dog were happy. I did have to cut it a bit short because it was windy, but it was still good to get some outdoor exercise. I did long yoga session since the run wasnít as long as I would have liked.

Seadwaters, I love the idea of healthy holiday alternatives! Everyone gets a little over-sugared anyways. Kudos for all those smiley faces. It looks like youíre kicking that seasonal slump.

Onebyone, ouch for facing the temptation of homemade cookies when you were overly hungry. Great job recognizing the problems and fixing them.

CeeJay, ouch for wearing out from overwork. Is there an end in sight? A ďlight at the end of the rainbowĒ as a friend likes to mix the metaphore? Great idea to pick something simple to focus on while things are so busy.

T Hottie, great job getting organized and ready to start Beck. It took me about 2 weeks to work through the experiments. Sometimes I think I need to go back and do a refresher since I tend to forget. Take as much time as you need. Itís great to have another runner on the forum!

BillBE, yay for a dry basement on a rainy day! Rain/snow days are great for getting that decluttering done. DH and I are making lists of projects to do on nasty winter days.

12-13-2010, 11:08 AM
Hi Coaches

Just a quick morning check-in for me. I am off to scrape the car. Lots of rain, freezing rain, sleet and snow and now it's freezing cold, all in the span of 24hrs. I don't know how slippery it really is out there so I've decided to stay close to home. I'm going to the mall around the corner to get BIL special candies and then get some wrapping paper and wrap up my sister's gift. I am also wrapping a parcel for my friend in Washington state and I hope to mail them this afternoon.

Foodwise I have a few credits from yesterday:
-no seconds
-no sugar
-low gi foods = 70%

plus I weighed in this morning (credit) and the scale said 277.8 so I am back down again. Phew! 280's stay away from me!!!!
This little bit of success prompted me to measure my low gi eggbeaters and add a veggie (mushrooms) and I also added my low fat cheddar to it (credit for switching both my eggs and my cheese to low and lower GI versions and for eating a veg at breakfast).

I did eat to overful again last night, eating more meat than I needed to, and I did eat a whole bag of frozen mango chunks (these were yellowlight foods so not ow gI but middle GI but they weren't chocolates so I am giving myself an O well on this one and a credit for eating fruit!). I still consider myself OP as the foods in themselves are mostly low GI and the foodplan says to concentrate on the foodstuffs more than the quantity, though I do know I have to reign it in if I want weightloss - Beck tells me so and I know it is true. I feel myself growing in that direction. So long as I keep a lid on the sugar consumption which triggers so many cravings in me it's not funny, I find I can exercise my resistance muscle more willingly and more easily and not only that, but I feel the urge to make that muscle stronger-to really give it a workout:strong:

My hunch is if I can stay with what I am doing now through the holiday season I'll be very happy with myself come January and the new year. I DO NOT want to be feeling less than and fatter in 2.5 weeks. With the exceptions I already noted yesterday my goal is to be OP as I navigate the murky holiday waters.

BTW OMG:crazy::yikes::eek: the sheer AMOUNT and VARIETY of xmas candy out there is incredible. I think there is more for xmas than Halloween. Who really needs all this stuff anyway? Wow. But, it is often a cheap, impersonal, gift for those on your list and also a gift for family members who you don't know what to get for them. But much stuff. VERY HARD to resist and eave it at the store. But I will--except for my BIL who is a) hard to buy for and b) likes and eats the stuff. See? No wonder they sell it. *sigh*

Bye for now.

12-13-2010, 01:29 PM
Quick check in. Took the train to San Francisco with my family to see the inspiring post impressionist exhibit. My 8yoDS was entranced. We had a memorable time with the show and then walking through Union Square to see the xmas lights. Not back til 11:30 last nite and I was up for work at 6:00 Totally worth being tired. I planned for 300 extra calories and it worked beautifully. I ate the best gourmet cupcake on the train ride home with chamomille tea and DS sleeping on my shoulder. Beautiful. Although the scale said up a pound this morning I said, "ohWell" - water weight from restaurant food. I know I did fine. credit.
Seadwaters: always interesting to hear stories from your neck of the woods.
Naturegirl: I planned one meal plus snacks on my trip and you are right, it is delicious to have a planned meal.
Thotty: welcome
Onebyone: your sugar binge felt VERY familiar to me. I am sorry you had to go through that. It is painful.
BBE: congrats for passing the treats. Sometimes I picture myself in a room surrounded by my favorite sweet. Then it becomes overwhelming and disgusting rather than enticing when I encounter a beautiful, modest display. No group singing since DS was born. I'll get back to it.
Beverley: excellent communicating with DH. He heard you. That always feels great.
Gardernerjoy: I know it is not really fun, but snow shoveling does SOUND fun for us flatlanders in California.
Shepardess: glad you got back to exercise. I am a mess when I am away too long from it.
Ceejay: I am a sister in sugar addiction. It is never pretty.

12-13-2010, 03:24 PM
Hi Coaches

NatureGirl - Glad you had a good laugh - and of course referring to furniture moving :o
Onebyone - Credit for making opportunities for spontaneous exercise, getting rid of sugary drinks and defeating the PB monster. Yay that your weight is down again today
CeeJay - I can relate to overwork and wearing out - I am feeling a bit panicked. Yay for the break you get in a few weeks. Hang on - those rules sound workable
THotty - It does feel like a lot to be doing at once but it certainly keeps you occupied and on a mission. And each skill takes time and practice. You are inspiring me to go back and redo things
BillBlueEyes - Yay for a dry basement - doesn't seem that long ago that it was underwater. I am decluttering files as well. I am moving offices on Wednesday so am trying to get rid of papers I have had since 1986 - difficult. Spending an hour each day to declutter
Shepherdess - LOL at an OP day without a plan - I know exactly what you mean. For me it is a skeleton plan I have in my head for what a days worth of healthy meals should look like - same breakfast; salad and protein for lunch; piece of fruit and handful of walnuts; and something for dinner. But unless it is written down I stray

Yesterday I forgot we had a lunch at an all afternoon seminar so I didn't get to go to cafeteria to buy planned lunch. It was a bit of a mess really. A really quick check in because I have deadlines today and feeling rushed

:yes: - Food 50% on plan
:yes: - Weighed myself
:yes: - Checked in
:yes: - packed lunch for today
:no: - didn't log food
:no: - No exercise
:no: - no A&R cards

Have a good day

12-13-2010, 03:56 PM
Hi Beckies - yesterday was a healthy day - am always grateful for that. Our other weekend outing for dinner had to be cancelled because one of our friends is sick. Tis the season. I had to switch my dinner plan but, stayed within the parameters of my exchange program. I am grateful for the willingness to do so.

Some other credits:
Always left a bite of food
No seconds
Planned / logged food
Worked on really tasting food
Best credit of the day: each meal took over 20 minutes to eat

Sorry no time for personals. Hoping you’re all having a great day.

12-13-2010, 06:08 PM
Coaches I just read something that fits me to a T and thought I'd post it here in case it helps anyone else:

Breathe and travel smoothly by changing thoughts of resistance into thoughts of persistence.


I got this tidbit in an online I-Ching reading that I do from time to time. it's fun and free. The site is If you try the I-Ching toss the "virtual coins".

According to the I-Ching things look good for my move... :carrot:

12-13-2010, 07:08 PM
Just a quick, late check-in. We drove over to the hospital today. So that was basically the day. I had a good salad for lunch. Supper will be carry-outs and I know what I'm having. Not as good as normal, but good enough for today.

I hurt my back shoveling snow and so I'm repeating the mantra "Eating does not fix pain." I'm going with hot baths, ice packs, and naproxen to help the pain. It hurts in exactly the same way it did when I did my first yardwork in the spring. I'm frustrated since preventing back pain was one of my advantages for losing weight. Now, I've lost most of the weight and I realize that helps, but I need to do more -- stretch and strength train regularly, vary my cardio (50 minutes on the treadmill day after day is not varied enough), and warm up before I handle rakes, pitchforks, or shovels.

12-13-2010, 11:50 PM
Just a quick check in tonight.

At 11:00 I started to look longingly and lovingly at the very sugary grocery store muffins in the coffee room, thinking thoughts such as I am tired, I am not having a great day, I have too much to do, I need something, I have not eaten sugar in a week, and I had neglected to bring my yogurt snack so I was starving. Then the just one won't hurt and I will only eat one thought. So I ate it and was immediately very ticked off at myself. Then sure enough, I wanted another one and started thinking about how I had already blown it, so what, eat another one. But I stopped myself. I have to remember eating a bit of sugar these days seems to lead to more and more. So credit for stopping.

That's it for today. Yay Monday is done.


T Hotty
12-14-2010, 12:25 AM
Hi Coaches :)
Well I'll need to redo my experiment #1 tomorrow. I had a heck of a time not snacking between breakfast and lunch today! Actually had a hard time not snacking all day. I have some anxiety about going on another "diet" and depriving myself. Before I turn in tonight, I want to go over the skill 8 and make those response cards.

I'm giving myself credit for weighing myself (down a pound for seemingly no reason), reading my response and advantage cards. Also I ate breakfast and lunch slowly, enjoying every bite without distractions. It's so odd to eat without doing anything else and really tasting my food! Very very odd for me and it's going to take some time to get used to. I'm also giving myself credit for checking in with my coaches. :)

Shepherdess - I signed up for a 5k in January to keep myself motivated and active during the winter. It's working! :) Do you do any racing?

Thanks for continuing to share your stories and for welcoming me. :)

12-14-2010, 05:57 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The good news is that I squeezed in a gym session (CREDIT moi) before going out. However, I ate awfully at an evening meeting conducted over a small table covered with food. Just nibbled all evening. Ouch. Ouch. Ouch. Some minor consolation that most of it was nutritious food. So I gained some healthy fat for the evening, LOL.

onebyone - LOL at "the sheer AMOUNT and VARIETY of xmas candy out there is incredible" - just blows the mind, doesn't it. Congrats for getting into the 270's. Yep, mango is better than chocolate; you've got your Vitamin C for the month.

CeeJay - That d*rn Sabotaging Thought that since I've run one red light, I might as well run all the others. Kudos for resisting that.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Good reminder that yard work and snow shoveling are both strenuous physical activities requiring warm up or at least a slow start. Hope you recover quickly.

Shepherdess - Congrats for being able to make candy and limit the testing. Glad that the wind let up enough for you and your dog-trainer to get a run.

Beverlyjoy - Big Kudos for each meal taking over 20 minutes to eat.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yay for "packed lunch for today" after a cafeteria lunch yesterday.

maryann - Yay for an 8 yo DS who is entranced by art; does he paint or draw himself? I like your idea of imagining a room of sweets. I do remember that Charlie and the Chocolate Factory made me want to avoid chocolate rather than eat the whole factory; just hadn't thought of taking advantage of that notion.

T Hotty - Interesting that the thought of "diet" can raise the feelings of deprivation. Kudos for eating slowly. Isn't it just amazing how different that feels.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

But I Want to be Thinner!

You can do a number of things if you're unhappy with your Lowest Maintainable Weight.
. . .
Accept compliments from others. When others tell you how wonderful you look, you might silently say to yourself, But I should look better. If so, make sure to respond to that sabotaging thought. Try to see things from the speakers' points of view. They're not thinking you should look even better. They're just thinking you look good. And if you don't already respond to such compliments graciously, make sure to always thank people without any qualification. Don't say, "Thank you, but... ." Just say, "Thank you."
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 276.

12-14-2010, 10:09 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I've been MIA, but have been reading posts. We're winding down on our mini vacation and will head back over the Great Divide on Friday. We're going to hop in the car tomorrow very early and drive to Taos, NM to have dinner with CyndiM, a Mod from the South Beach Forum.
My food has been "nibbly", too, and yesterday bordered on a situation which could totally fly out of control. Sadly, I identified the emotion; my old pup is dying. Identifying that emotion hasn't really helped yet, but I am committed to taking care of myself.
~no sugar(it is always the launching point of "out of control")
~healthy, planned meals
~no off plan foods
~daily exercise
I went to bed early knowing I'd feel better in the morning. I do. I might wave at ya'll from NM, we'll see how our timing goes. It's a very long drive for one night out, but it's all the old pup can handle and it's far better than not going at all.

BillBlueEyes, ouch for all that evening nibbling but Yay! that you did prioritize exercising before you went...and nibbled on mostly nutritious food. Sometimes it IS about recognizing that we do make better choices now, even when it's not perfectly packaged.

T Hotty, for me, the purpose of the hunger experiment was to learn that I didn't have to run in the store and grab something off plan because I forgot my OP lunchÖ.or to cruise through fast food because it would be another 1/2 hour until I got home. For me, the hunger experiment has done just that. It means I often make "a better choice". I think a lifestyle change is about NOT going on another diet and depriving myself, too. *credit* for the new experience of food tasting!

CeeJay, *credit* for stopping with the sugar laden muffins. I find it helpful to have a snack with me that can be used for emergency purposes-times when the yogurt got left home.

gardenerjoy, ouch, on your back but *credit* for recognizing that eating won't fix it.

onebyone, AmazingÖ.there is your word again, "persist".

Beverlyjoy, always glad to hear that you've had a great dayÖ.it seems the flu hasn't hit our neck of the woods...yet.

Cheryl(seadwaters), *credit* for checking in even when you were feeling rushed. I'm just remembering that those moments do pass.

maryann, "I know I did fine", is such a great statement! Another event where food was not the focus...because you stayed focused. *credit*

Shepherdess, *credit* for remembering that your candy recipients could enjoy a small amount without extra temptation.. I think about that, too. Yay for yoga sessions when run got cut short.

NatureGirl, yay for packing OP food. Your weekend sure sounded fun! (except for the drive home)

Marci(madrikh), it's always good to hear from you! My mind is always stimulated by the questions you ask and the answers always help me, too.

12-14-2010, 10:52 AM
Good Morning Coaches

The weather is terrible here. But not as bad as Sarnia, Ontario where folks have been trapped on a major highway all night in their cars due to poor visibility and blowing and drifiting snow. One report I read said about 40 people were at a Tim Hortons, being served coffee and doughnuts all night long. Wow. Is that a dream or a nightmare?? I'm more attuned to these bad weather travel stories as DH now travels back and forth. luckily he's here until right ater Christmas then gone for 3 days then back and then on January 4th he officially starts his new job as a Senior Business Analyst (amazing) and yes, this means the contract came in the offer came in and it's all true. I felt nauseous yesterday when we got the news. Everything hit me. DH looked at me and said "we'll have to pack this place up." Duh! Like it hasn't been on my mind all year!

I'm really really moving.

On another positive note, I stepped on the scale and it said, get this, 275.2. That's -2lbs from yesterday. I was OP all day yesterday 66% greenlight and the rest yellowlight. I think what's making the big difference to getting this weightoss started is I am having ZERO redlight foods-those highest on the glycemic index. I am all yellow and green with the majority green. I am also wiling to tolerate hunger. I have gone to bed hungry two nights now and resisted the urge to eat something, and I'm a bit hungry now, though I had an OP breakfast plus some yellowlight figs. It's all very exciting and very hopeful. I'm going to go to DH's xmas party feeling pretty good about myself. Yay!

And wonder of wonders, I am actually willing to plan my meal for the event. We got the menu in advance but I didn't want to do that. I think, now that I can see some weightloss happening, it's more important to me to keep it going than to have vast amounts of x and x. I may, gulpeven choose for health! Imagine. Health vs. novelty. It's a weird thought for me. Could this be a thin person's thought? huh. I wouldn't really know.... not yet anyway.

Better get going. Have a good Tuesday y'all!

12-14-2010, 11:24 AM
The back pain is worse today. I'm hoping it's on the same schedule as DOMS (Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness), so today will be the peak and it will start to get better from here. I think it's better when I'm moving than when I'm sitting or lying down too long, so I'm going to try puttering around the house today--straighten up for the cleaning crew this morning and make chicken stock and then sobaheg this afternoon.

12-14-2010, 12:56 PM
For some reason, even though I am subscribed to this thread, I am not getting updates. Argh! I hate computer nonsense!

I have been doing well these past few days. Doctor started me on a very low dose of thyroid med, as an augment to my antidepressant regimen. I "think" it helps, but I'm not ready to commit to getting hopeful.
Anyway, on the diet front: I am reading a book called Never Say Diet, and it is really encouraging me. The author lost 200 pounds and her methods are quite Beck-like. She has a lot of motivational stuff in her book and it's just what I need right now.

-100% OP Sunday and Monday
-treadmill on Sunday (usually my day off) to make up for taking a day off earlier in the week
-yoga class + treadmill yesterday
-reading my cards daily
-keeping my nose in diet/nutrition/exercise/motivational books
-checking in here and reading posts
-planning my daily food and exercise
-WI 163.8

I really wanted to be at 162 by the end of the month. Given that it's December, maybe I can be content with maintaining. Nevertheless I am aiming for 162!!

onebyone: yay for the 270s and for persistence!!

gardnerjoy: I am so sorry about your back.

Lexxiss: thanks for the encouragement. I'm gonna hang around:flow2:

12-14-2010, 01:44 PM
Hello, my coaches and friends!

It's been a long time. I can't tell you how many posts I've composed in my head, and never sat down to write. I'm going to try to keep this to credits, as I've been feeling guilty and don't want to feed into that . . .

Many of my Beck skills have been tested, and I am pleased to report that I have come through / am coming through the stress and changes with my soul and skills (mostly) intact. I think I last left you right before my DP was to have bypass surgery? All went well, including my eating and exercise while staying in a hospital for four days (thank goodness Scripps Mercy in San Diego is right across from a Whole Foods!). We came home, and I prepared to get back on track with my dissertation writing -- the old tried and true schedule that worked so well in September and October.

Then my grandmother passed away, just days after returning from the surgery, and threw my schedule and life into a tail-spin until -- this week, it seems! I traveled to my hometown (Louisville, KY) to spend 10 days with my mom, helping with the funeral plans and the aftermath. It was a blessing for grandma to finally pass. I have been grieving for her for three years, as dementia took away my ability to connect with her in a long distance fashion (phone and letters). But it has been very hard on my mom. I feel blessed to have had the freedom to spend so much time with her.

This unexpected tragedy meant, however, that my traveling Beck skills were being moved up by about two months. I need a big CREDIT MOI. I am still feeling good about how I handled this stressful time, especially that I exercised almost every day, with my walking DVDs. My eating wasn't entirely on track (especially in terms of portions); and on the day of the 8-hour viewing, and then the day of the funeral, I completely relaxed the policing part of my brain. Amazingly, I found that I had lost the taste for much of the food kindly prepared by my grandmother's church -- good, rich, southern country food. I wanted a taste, to be sure, to feel close to my grandmother, to feed my emotions. But I didn't want to binge. It seems that, to some extent, I have lost the taste for some emotional eating. Literally.

It also didn't hurt that I had so many positive reactions to the changes in my body. Because these people hadn't seen me in 3-4 months, my weight loss was blatant to them. As I am someone who (for better or for worse) thrives on the approval of others, this feedback really helped me to maintain my skills in a VERY stressful and emotional environment.

Returning to SoCal was harder. Of course, all the strength and support I had been giving to my mother vanished when I left her. I have been clutching my Beck skills (esp. exercise), but to the detriment of my dissertation. But I'm moving forward. And I WILL have a 2nd (very rough draft) chapter done before I head back to KY on the 20th.

Numerically speaking: while the pounds are coming off at a slower rate, I am still losing inches (I think as my body builds muscle). I have lost 30-35 lbs. since May; and 20 inches since September. I've gone down 4 pants sizes; new bras are the next priority! I'm feeling good about these steady changes, and I love seeing that they're connected to my actions, and my thoughts, not just some random freak of nature.

All of you have been in my mind, the memory of your quiet coaching, your own trials, supporting me. You were especially important when I was helping my mom to make Advantages and Response Cards. She's not quite ready for the Beck books, but she's been having some major physical problems that the Beck principles would help her to address. So I bought one of those spiral-bound books of index cards, with sections -- and helped her to make goals, advantages, and response cards. I really hope this will help her to put herself first!

So thanks for being here, even when I haven't -- hope all is well in your part of the world!

12-14-2010, 03:27 PM
Hi Beckies - yesterday was a healthy day. Although my food changed, took many twists turns , and was sometimes a struggle - I stayed within the guidelines of my plan. Always grateful for that!

I have been enjoying pumpkin as a side dish the past few weeks - using canned pumpkin. It’s so quick and easy. I shared the recipe in the recipe section.

Some credits for yesterday:
Read arc/rc
Made a plan- it changed- but, I wrote it all down.
Stretches and strengthening
Lots of water
Always left a bite
Tried to eat slower

Onebyone - you posted: ‘Breathe and travel smoothly by changing thoughts of resistance into thoughts of persistence.’ I love this. Thanks so much for posting it. Yes - free donuts and coffee when stranded is a dream and nightmare at the same time. Major credit for you avoiding your red light foods!

Garderjoy - So, so sorry to hear you injured your back shoveling. It’s easy to do the first time out. Yes - it’s a hard pill to swallow when we realize that losing the weight doesn’t cure all these kinds of woes. Take care now.

Ceejay - major credit for stopping your unplanned eating after you had the muffin. That is hard to do and you did it! Yay.

Thotty - you said: Also I ate breakfast and lunch slowly, enjoying every bite without distractions. It's so odd to eat without doing anything else and really tasting my food! Very very odd for me and it's going to take some time to get used to. I think we all feel that way when start to be mindful of eating the food. For me, it was almost uncomfortable. But - it’s wonderful to taste the food. You are doing well. Carry on.

Billbe - credit for getting your workout in! Sometimes we all eat extra once in a while. Being on maintenance doesn’t mean you can always be perfectly on plan. There’s no magic in it. It is still work to not eat everything we want. - I guess it’s good to think of how to avoid it next time (I try to do that), hop right back on your plan, and look/go forward.

Lexxiss/Debbie - I am so sorry that your senior pup isn’t doing so well. I know how sad it can be. Hold on tight to what you know works. So glad you checked in. How nice to see your South Beach friend! Safe travel to you. Major credit for staying out of the food.

Marci - I am so glad to hear you are doing well. Getting your thyroid regulated will make a big difference in how you feel and losing weight. So many credits! Well done.

Mary contrary - so glad you posted! I am so glad to hear the heart surgery went well. So, so sorry about the passing of your Grandma. It’s always so hard. I am glad you were able to spend some time with her. It’s wonderful that some of the Beck techniques helped you get through this. Credit for pulling them out…when it would be very easy to use food to cope with everything. Glad folks noticed your weight loss…feels good.

Shepardess - credit for following your ‘nonplan’. Good for you. I am glad you feel like you are in a place to do your xmas candy making. If they want to jump into your mouth - give them away asap.

12-14-2010, 04:28 PM
OP day yesterday except for a little mess cleaning up the dinner dishes (pun intended.) I was attacked by cherry cobbler crust. I adjusted by not eating my evening snack. The holidays are taking their toll and I feel tired which leads to lower resistance. Today OP - first priority to stay that way no matter whatactivity I have to cut out.
Beverleyjoy: I have lobbied to make pumpkin a summer dessert as well because I love it any time, anyplace.
Madrikh: I hear your struggle with depression. It can be disheartening. I struggle as well.
Onebyone: 0% red light foods is something to be proud of. Consider all the progress you have made.
Lexxiss: I am so sorry about your pup. Credit for identifying the emotion.
Ceejay: "longing looks" at muffins is a formal sport for me. Good for you for stopping.
BBE: Death by Nibble. Uncomfortable. Today is another day.
MaryContrary: It is good to hear from you.

12-14-2010, 09:56 PM
Hi everyone,

So i've been MIA for far too long shortly after joining. Busy time at the end of the semester and i got side-tracked before fully integrating into my the Beck diet. I've taken a few steps back to work on developing the essential skills Beck discusses before starting an actual diet. And i've switched to the pink book, which i'm finding much better organized and easy to follow day-by-day. I'm on week 2 right now and this time i am taking my time and trying to get comfortable/integrate the new behaviours i need to be successful.

i will try to post every day or so. My credit for today is posting and continuing to work on my week1/week 2 skills.

Thanks to all of you for being so inspirational to the newbies such as myself. Just reading your signatures and looking at your 'tickers' is motivation enough.



12-15-2010, 12:47 AM
'Lo to all my Beckmates--- those MIA and those who stay so faithful. No apologies for my being somewhere in between.

Needed to "weigh in" tonight to say thanks, BillBE, for sharing your OUCH, OUCH, OUCH with us. We all need to know that even someone on maintenance and so very skilled and dedicated to it can have an OUCH. Thanks for being so faithful to all of us Beckies, and for being so completely honest. Losing/maintenance/balance is not a *skate for any of us, not even you! Thanks for reminding us of that.

T Hotty
12-15-2010, 12:50 AM
Good evening coaches!
I had a good Beck day. My experiment #1 went well. It was interesting monitoring the different feelings which would usually trigger eating. I suffer from reflux and realized some of that discomfort I mistake for hunger. I'm going to do the same experiment, skipping my morning snack tomorrow, just to see what else I can learn.

The eating slowly sitting down is just bizarre! I found myself wanting to get done with my lunch because there were more exciting things to be doing. Eating was boring for like the first time in my life! I also noticed my dinner which is usually one of my favorite foods was totally gross when I actually noticed what I was eating. A much different experience than wolfing down food watching Dexter or House.

I need to give myself a ton of credit for today. I read my advantage and response cards, weighed myself, ate almost everything slowly sitting down, went for a run, successfully completed experiment #1, filled out a food plan chart, and stuck to my plan. So yeah, did a pretty bang up job today. :)

Onebyone - LOL about getting stuck at Timmy's being a dream or a nightmare!!! :) What are green light and red light foods? And congrats on your loss. :)

r4c - I'm having a bit of trouble following the Diet for Life book also. I wonder if I should switch to the other book? I'm happy you're getting back on track. :)

I really appreciate everyone's feedback and am inspired by all the success on this board!

12-15-2010, 06:03 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating was OP; CREDIT moi. Had a grapefruit half for evening snack - what a lovely consolation for a cold, blustery day.

Did my full four mile walk in the cold, CREDIT moi, despite the obvious Sabotaging Thought that it's just dumb to go outside when the temperature is in the Fahrenheit 20's and dark. My real triumph was that I reached a point where there's an easy short cut home and, again, the Sabotaging Thought kicked in but I kept going.

maryblu - Thanks for your support of my evening of nibbling and your kind words. Hope your guys figure out how to repair the Metrodome's roof.

onebyone - Congrats to you and your DSBA (Dear Senior Business Analyst); neat that he won that job by his work for a week. Love your question about being trapped in Tim Horton's, "Is that a dream or a nightmare??" Methinks I'd fall into my nibble, nibble, nibble mode.

Big Kudos for planning your party meal in advance. Yep, your thin person thinking is just bursting out all over.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Ouch for your DOMS; glad you know its course and that it will end. Had to google for photo's of "sobaheg" - gotta find a way to have that.

Beverlyjoy - Yay for responding with flexibility, "Made a plan- it changed- but, I wrote it all down." Thanks for the recipe; we're big fans of canned pumpkin.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - It's so tough that the life span of our beloved pets is so brief. Sending supportive thoughts as you deal with your elderly pup.

Waving toward NM. Let us know how your dinner goes with CyndiM.

Marci (madrikh) - Neat title, Never Say Diet; will add that to my ever growing list of good books to read. Sometimes a refresh of a page of a browser will encourage it to go get the current stuff. I've scratched my head reading a news page before because it all sounded so familiar . . . duh! . . . until I did a refresh.

MaryContrary - That's a lot of life in one short time. Sending supportive thoughts as you process the loss of your grandmother. Kudos for taking your eating plan and exercise plan with you through it all. I hope your DP is recovering from her surgery. Interesting that you captured the CBT of Beck to help your mother.

And Kudos again for getting your dissertation back on track despite the intervention of real life. Glad that you've reappeared.

maryann - Ouch for the attack of the cherry cobbler crust - sneaky stuff that is. [LOL at "Death by Nibble."]

redy4chng - Kudos for seeing that you needed to re-organize and start your attack afresh. Those first skills are the important stuff from Dr. Beck; Yep, take your time to feel comfortable with them.

T Hotty - Well, you deserve a ton of Kudos for that day. Neat that you identified some discomfort that arrives as "hunger" - such a useful insight. LOL at "eating slowly sitting down is just bizarre" - Yep, it sure is amazing to discover how we've ignored our food as we wolfed it down.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

But I Want to be Thinner!

You can do a number of things if you're unhappy with your Lowest Maintainable Weight.
. . .
Act "as if." Imagine how you'd think, feel, and act if you were currently at your ideal weight. As you go through the day, pretend you are at that weight. If you do, chances are that you'll stand a little taller, be less self-conscious, and project greater self-confidence. if you continually act "as if," you'll eventually stop pretending and gradually become more satisfied.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 276.

12-15-2010, 11:58 AM
Missed posting during a busy day yesterday. We took the rams out of our early lambing bunch. We should have done it earlier, but didnít get a chance. Theyíll get a few days break before they join the main herd and get back to work. Also had to sort through our buck lambs since we had someone looking to buy some. We wouldnít normally sell them this early, but the rancher is a good friend, a very well-respected person in the sheep industry and has had spell of terrible luck that left him very short on rams. The lambs are a little young to do much for him, but theyíll get a few sheep bred.

So food over the last two days has been good. Have kept candy to small piece a day and was finally rewarded on Monday with a perfect batch of fudge. Iíve had to throw out the previous two. No testing necessary. Fudge is so touchy, more so than most candy. I think thatís why I love candy making. I love the precision it requires, especially at high altitude.

Had to get indoor exercise on Monday, since it was so windy. But I did my weights even though I didnít feel like it. Yesterday, exercise was working sheep. I was exhausted when I got home, but did a short yoga session while dinner was cooking. I didnít want to, but felt so much better after doing it.

Also wanted to give everyone a film recommendation: watch Sweetgrass! Itís a beautiful, realistic look at sheep ranching in the mountain west, though sad because it was the last year that ranch ran sheep. Itís such a realistic look at the birth, death and frustration of the business. Thereís a rough section where a frustrated sheep herder lets loose a string of creative language at the sheep, but thatís realistic too. We all get exhausted and frustrated.

Onebyone, congrats on dropping into the 270s and feeling growing confidence with your plan. Great job recognizing that sugar is such a trigger. Itís a tough season to keep it away.

Maryann, your trip to SF sounds wonderful. That 300 extra calorie limit can be so helpful; such a controlled way to go off plan. Ouch for nasty weather and best of luck on the move. Itís a lot to deal with right now, but it will be good in the end. Ouch for being attacked by cherry cobbler crust, but great job recovering.

Seadwaters, ouch for lunch plans derailed by the lunch at a seminar. Best of luck meeting all of your deadlines. Hope you maintain your sanity through it all.

Beverlyjoy, great job staying OP through twists, turns and struggles. Thanks for the pumpkin recipe. Itís such a great seasonal treat!

Gardenerjoy, ouch for hurting your back shoveling snow, but kudos for remembering that food does not fix pain. Itís great that youíve recognized a bit of movement helps.

CeeJay, ouch for staring down store-bought muffins when you were hungry and resistance was low. Great job stopping at one and ignoring that ridiculous ďIíve already blown itĒ thought!

T Hottie, kudos for recognizing that you mistake discomfort for hunger and great job on a long list of credits. Yay for an unexplained lb gone! Kudos for signing up for a 5 k. I belong to a local running club and participate in a lot of their races. They have a winter race series that keeps me running when weather is bad.

BillBE, kudos for squeezing gym in on a busy evening. Ouch for facing a table covered in food for an evening meeting. Great job getting a walk in on a cold, blustery day. Itís such a great sign when you can keep up exercise through the winter. Yay for citrus as a little sunshine in a peel!

Lexxis, hugs while you deal with a dying beloved pet. Itís never easy to lose those 4-legged family members and dogs just donít live long enough. Ouch for the nibbling it has brought. Hope that being around friends will help with the pain. Have a nice trip.

Madrikh, crossing my fingers that the bump in thyroid dosage helps you feel better. Never Say Diet sounds interesting. Itís amazing to discover that successful weight-loss programs often sound a lot like Beck.

MaryContrary, good to see you again! You deserve lots of credits for coming back and posting. Big congrats on continuing to lose through all of the stress and sadness. 30 to 35 lbs is great! Maryblu always reminds us to go lift a 5 lb sack of flour. Glad that your partner had a successful surgery and you were able to have some nurturing time with your mother.

Redy4chng, good to see you again. Itís tough to keep up with Beck when life gets hectic, but great job going back a bit to get a solid foundation with some earlier steps. Lots of credit for getting back here and posting.

Maryblu, waving back and hope you are successfully digging out from all that snow. I agree that it helps to see that successful veterans still struggle. It is a comfort when I struggle and also a good reminder that I can never let myself get too lax.

12-15-2010, 12:10 PM
Hi Beckfolks - well... yesterday was mostly on plan until evening. I let emotions get the better of me. I'll keep trying to move past them.

I spoke with the foot/ankle surgeon's scheduling person yesterday afternoon and she said that there are no open slots for surgery until into 2011. I asked the doctor, via his nurse, about doing Disney world after a January surgery -going in early February. He advised against it.

SO... DH and I talked a long time about the pro's and con's of doing it sooner or after Disney World. We made the arrangements for this trip last summer and bought the plane tickets last fall (non refundable via Southwest). This trip includes: DH, myself, GS, DS, DIL, her parents, her sister, DH's sister and our niece. DH said that I need to have some joyous times - after such a stressful last few 5/6 months. He's right about me needing something happy happening. As much as I'd like to get this surgery over - I would also like to be part of this trip. I will wait until late Feb/early March to do this. So that's the plan for now. I couldn't sleep last night - and ate extra during the night.

I've gained three pounds in the past three weeks. (I changed my ticker)Thanksgiving week was overeating thinking about surgery week. Surgery/stomach flu week was not such solid food (but, three boxes of hard candy). And, the past week has been mostly on plan.

So that's where I am at. I am making my goal to be into losing in five pound increments - getting me to a healthier place for surgery.

I am weary of all this. DH is right, I think. He's generally very supportive of just about everything and anything I might need, do, or want. He has been shlepping me around with this foot stuff a long time it seems. This is all he is asking me to do...go to Disney World and do my surgery afterward. So be it.

Time to get healthier and do some performing - with a bit with help with my mobility, if necessary.

Have a GREAT day.

12-15-2010, 01:00 PM
Ugh, I am SO discouraged that my weight won't budge!! And very fatigued today. Treadmill: will I, won't I?


Update: I did walk on the treadmill, though only 1.7 miles. But CREDIT!

12-15-2010, 01:27 PM
Still dealing with back pain and a business thingy. Still here, though, so credit for that. No exercise but I'm using lots of distractions to keep from overeating. So credit for that, too.

12-15-2010, 01:35 PM
Last day of work before Xmas break. We have three weeks. DS and I are going to start the celebration by skiing in Tahoe. OP yesterday. It felt very good. I feel like celebrating my break with, you guessed it, all the treats floating around here. Practicing resistance technique. I promise to celebrate with a nice hot bath tonite.
R4chng: The Pink Book was far more helpful to me as well.
THotty: I had a similar experience with my experiment. So many feelings I finally understood ran my eating.
BBE: I feel you walking in the dark and the poem - Stopping by the Woods . Do you have miles to go before you sleep?
Shepardess: Do you know how to make divinity, too? I love divinity but can't make it. Congrats on one perfect piece.
Beverley/Madrikh: hang in there with scale frustration. There is nothing worse.

Nature Girl
12-15-2010, 01:55 PM
I keep thinking of metaphors for my progress/plan these days...I thought I was on a roller coaster or yo-yo-ing, but now I think it's a shotgun blast--I feel like I'm all over the place; maybe some things are hitting the target but other actions are scattering to any number of different directions. I get up in the morning and have a healthy on plan breakfast and make a good plan for the day and from there on it is anybody's guess when I will veer off plan, but not completely; I usually veer back on in any number of ways so by the end of the day its hard to know if the goods have outweighed the bads. Maybe its like those coloring pages with the numbers my kids used to do--you connect the dots to make the shape, but sometimes your lines go way out of the way and have to come back.
I did a good NO CHOICE yesterday on the way home from the gym; I saw Subway and thought I should stop for some cookies (a common 'before' behavior) but caught myself and literally said NO CHOICE until I had physically driven by. I mean cookies, on the way home from the gym, for goodness sake??????!!!! So that's two credits: gym & no cookies.
But later the candy bars I won at a recent party came back to haunt me, and I have to say my coach/friend TOLD me not to take them home from the party!
That's how my days have been, and why I haven't many ups and downs and confusing things to quantify. I think part of it is that my normal routine is up in the air because we aren't back to school until after the New Year.
SO; for today: healthy OP breakfast as usual; getting ready to go to the gym; what other plans do I need to make to stay away from 'temptations' and stick to OP eating? That's what I will concentrate on soon as I quit here.
Thotty-- We went up to Leavenworth to x-c ski last Saturday; its only 65 miles away. I have skiied at the summit before; it just depends on the weather because wet snow is hard to slog through! I usually get a SnoPark Pass and go to a couple of groomed Sno Parks nearby.
Maryann--Yes I am a teacher; a teacher of teachers, actually, because I teach in the education department our university. So the papers come in big piiles! And yes, somehow we do always have to read them, don't we?
Garderjoy--I'm also going to have to google sobaheg, and I know exactly what you mean about DOMS--it's never right after, ist it?

T Hotty
12-15-2010, 11:47 PM
Hey Coaches,
I had a pretty good Beck day again today. I turned down some pretty amazing food at least 3 times today. Food that I usually would have jumped at the chance to eat, but since it wasn't on my plan, I let it pass. Credit! I also didn't eat again between breakfast and lunch, per the experiment #1. Tomorrow, I'm going to try out experiment #2 which is not eating between breakfast and dinner. Yikes! Sounds scary!

Other sources of credit: reading the cards, weighing myself, eating ALL my food slowly while sitting down, doing some spontaneous exercise, and following my food plan chart. :)

This weekend I'm going to be out in the woods doing search and rescue training, so not sure how much Beck stuff I'll be able to do. Well, I'll keep doing my best the next couple days and keep my thinking cap on about what I can expect of myself Beck-wise this weekend.

12-15-2010, 11:49 PM
Hi Coaches

My sister called early this morning adn that means I pop awake and run for the phone so it doesn't wake DH before he needs to get up. It also means I forget to weigh myself and thats what happened this morning. I am curious to see what it says in the morning.

I cooked a pork shoulder roast in the crockpot yesterday and I guess it's not a redlight food but it's better than a yellowlight but not a greenlight, is it a limelight food then? Yellow-y green? I could live with that, except I still have not said NO CHOICE to fatty bits which I love but I did have one serving I did stay OP and I did cook from scratch and all it all it's okay. Except I underate yesterday and today. I need to be careful about that behaviour as it sets me up for a binge, not right away, but later the :devil: voice will tell me I was "extra" good or some such thing.

Tomorrow I am making TWO key lime pies. One for the pot luck I am going to tomorrow night, and one for us. I guess I am planning on eating them. I must be since I am making them and I could make, oh, anything in the world but I am making them. Hmmmm. Suspicious behaviour for sure. Partly it's cause I wish I was in Key West for xmas. Partly it's cause I make a great key lime pie and it's fast and showy. Partly cause it's a rare treat and it's xmas afterall and DH loves it when I cook stuff for him/us.

So this is a challenge to my plan.

And then, on Friday, we are traveling to Toronto by car so I have to plan car food or I'll get road food and that's not a good idea. I am planning on cut up apples for snacks for us, plus sandwiches for him and me and beverages and some nuts. It's about a 4hr trip. I'm going to overpack though cause of the weather event that happened earlier this week. I am a little leary of being caught out on the highway in a snowstorm right now so I'll pack blankets and kitty litter, maybe the snow shovel, get extra wiper fuid and have extra food on hand. I'm not going to tell DH this is why I am bringing that stuff- I'll tell him the blankets and the pillows (think I'll bring those too) are so we're comfy at his mom's house. He won't care.

I am all ready for the xmas party now. I got a new haircut and my new glasses showed up today! I have them right here; they are like "sexy librarian" frames. I usually have wire frames, or like half frame half rimless and these are REAL glasses - no fooling around you can tell I wear glasses-plastic, burgundy with brighter red areas and three tiny sparkly stones. DH said they looked serious, nerdy and artsy. I can deal with all that. I bought some new sparkly jewelry for my outfit and got new shoes. the shoes are super comfy but in no way are they sexy. Blah! I can't wear heels right now-too heavy and the arch in my foot can't take it. It will be one of the pleasures of being thinner. Possibly the thinner I get the higher the heel! Today's height: 1.5-2 inches.

So, basically, I have done about all I can do to make myself over for that party. I feel good about the mini changes and ready to face everyone. I feel hopeful and happy and I know that if I face a few foodplan bumps I'll self-correct. DH's mom will really push food on me. It may be tough to say no no no and not have any. But I'll try my best.

And I am going to bring my scale. We're only gone two nights, but I am bringing the scale with me as a visual reminder that I AM ON A FOODPLAN and it doesn't stop cause I am away from home or it's a certain time of the year. It's just really important to me right now.

T Hotty The redlight/yellowlight/greenlight stuff is my foodplan of choice. I am following a low glycemic index diet but this way of categorizing food is from the plan by Rick Gallup ( I found his books at the library but will probably buy them. I like the Express Diet one the best. The plan has been a good choice for me so far. My current goal is 60% greenlight food for this month and avoidance of all redlight food if possible. I have been pretty on track with that so it's all good. Thanks for asking and keep up the good Beck work! Isn't it incredible how much we don't know about our own selves when it comes to eating and food? And isn't it something when Dr. Judith Beck asks us to do a "small" thing like "eat without distractions" all this other stuff comes up and it becomes super hard to do? Yep. it happened and still happens to me. Beck really helps us see the obvious sometimes! many credits to you for doing the stuff inspite of the discomfort. excellent.

:wave: to everyone. I have to get to bed now.

12-16-2010, 12:12 AM
Hi Beck friends!

Today was a challenge because, as I think I've said before, fatigue feels a lot like hunger to me. I have a lot of fatigue and this was one of those days. I think it helped just to acknowledge that that's what was going on. I also allowed myself to eat my afternoon snack earlier than planned, and to take an easier than normal walk on the treadmill.

-ate OP
-WI 163.8
-read my cards
-stayed pretty positive even though I feel like giving up

Thanks everyone.


12-16-2010, 06:30 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Stumbled upon the ice cream party in the lobby of the building set up as a Thank You from the landlord. Huge vats of ice cream and two long tables of toppings to scoop over your serving. I declined; CREDIT moi. Before my journey, this would have been heaven. My bowl would have been heaped to the max.

Did gym; CREDIT moi. But had an unnecessary cookie at an evening event. Ouch - mostly because I lately seem to be exercising my giving-in-muscle in the evenings.

onebyone - You sound well prepared for your party on Friday - LOL at "sexy librarian" frames. Glad I'm not near those key lime pies.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Ouch that your DOMS is dawdling; hope it clears up quickly so you can get back to seasonal brouhaha. Not that I'd even think of notifying the RCMP, but don't you need to be a certified librarian to wear "sexy librarian" frames?

Shepherdess - Working sheep sounds like the kind of exercise where you're not distracted by looking at the clock wishing you were done. Thanks for the Sweetgrass recommendation.

Beverlyjoy - Ouch for the reality of another hard choice, with Kudos for your equanimity with your decision. My count is that you'll have a dozen folks at Disney World.

Nature Girl - Super use of NO CHOICE to avoid Stopping by a Subway on a Snowy Winter Evening; Kudos. Like the image of a shotgun creating holes in the target which you then have to connect to make a drawing for your day.

Marci (madrikh) - Walking on the treadmill and staying positive when you don't feel like it is just good stuff; Kudos.

maryann - Isn't it amazing how quickly our mind conjures up that we should celebrate with . . . ta dah . . . food. Kudos for spotting that and then resisting. [Thanks for reminding me that I can use "Miles to go before I sleep" to egg myself on when out walking.]

T Hotty - Yay for search and rescue training; in our local White Mountains, folks are growing weary that hikers seem to believe that a cell phone is the only preparation they need to go into risky situations. Three Kudos for passing up "pretty amazing food" three times; good resistance muscle training there.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining

But I Want to be Thinner!

You might instantly accept your Lowest Maintainable Weight without struggle. Or you might have to do the tasks above to increase your acceptance over time. Work at it. Discuss it with your friends and diet coach. What a shame if you can't fully enjoy your new body and you continue to go through life feeling dissatisfied. How wonderful it will be when you stop struggling and feel really god about where you are.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 276.

12-16-2010, 07:42 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

A quick check in; we've enjoyed our mini trip to Taos, NM, and it was fun to have a healthy dinner out and meet CyndiM. Our room has a kiva fireplace so I'm up early enjoying the ambiance. I recognized last night that although I might have wished to plan my food better, that it was actually pretty ok that I didn't. It was a good opportunity to test my Beck skills knowing I'd be home in 36 hours. I've made good restaurant choices and watched my portions. *credit* I did have an encounter with fresh salsa and chips, but put them away after a modest serving. *credit* No real exercise but lots of walking/shopping.

BTW, I finally got a copy of Rick Gallops GI Diet from the library. I like the ease in which foods are catagorized, but couldn't figure out why quinoa was a red light food. This morning I went to the website for an answer and found it is now a green light food. My copy from the library is from might be a good reason for me to buy a more current version.

Have a thoughtful day, everyone.

12-16-2010, 10:07 AM
I got most of the candy packed up yesterday. Iíve still managed to stay OP with it, but did find myself wandering into the kitchen in the evening wondering about it. Itís time for it all to go!

Stayed OP yesterday. We had dinner plans with friends, but everyone cancelled since it was snowing all day and they all had long drives on ranch roads. It was just fine. It gave me time to get in a workout and I didnít have extra restaurant temptation.

Beverlyjoy, sorry about the emotional ups and downs causing you to eat last night, but I hope finally having a plan for surgery will help to ease some of the worry. Having a trip to look forward to should help as well and I think you have the right idea to work on your health in the mean time.

Madrikh, ouch for fatigue and frustration over the scale not moving. Kudos for getting on the treadmill anyways! Great job recognizing that fatigue isnít hunger and staying OP.

Gardenerjoy, great job on another day using distractions to keep from eating over the pain. Hope you are feeling better soon!

Maryann, yay for a break and skiing in Tahoe! It is hard to break the idea of eating treats as celebration, but great job recognizing it and working on it. Iíve only tried making divinity once and it didnít turn out. Itís another very touchy candy.

Nature girl, I know the roller coaster, yo-yo, shotgun, or whatever it is can be so frustrating. Maybe it would help to focus on fewer things and then begin to add more things as you feel stronger. In the green book, Beck suggests just starting with breakfast and you can add meals one at a time until youíve got them all. The good news is, if you stick to it, it will get easier!

T Hottie, kudos for turning down amazing food 3 times in one day! Itís the season for it, I suppose. Experiment #2 sounds scary, but the amazing thing is how not scary it really is. Itís one of those experiments I should re-do because I so often forget it. Search and Rescue training sounds so cool. You should get plenty of exercise.

Onebyone, LOL at limelight food! Great job recognizing the dangers of under eating. Is there a way you can work a little bit of key lime pie into your plan? Just enough to feel like you get a treat but not so much that it will de-rail you?

BillBE, great job skipping the ice cream ďThank You.Ē I can relate to a former self who would have been so happy to see such a spread. Sheís still there, dimly in the background. Yay for gym and ouch for unplanned cookie. Pitfalls are everywhere this time of year.

Lexxis, yay for putting Beck skills to the test and passing with flying colors. Itís great that you were able to make good choices at the restaurant. I love Taos; itís a wonderful place to shop!

12-16-2010, 11:11 AM
Our business thing unexpectedly went just the way it should have last night. So, I have new business wisdom to impart -- stand up to bullies! We were the David against a Goliath and we stood our ground armed only with good information and good networking (aka librarian skills). At the very last possible moment, they conformed exactly to the terms of the framework we were working under in spite of all the threats and condescension that's been going on for several months.

Still dealing with back pain. I'm not weighing myself right now mostly because I don't want to bend over and move the scale to the right spot! Also, because I'm not sleeping, so I get up hungry and want nothing except breakfast and pain pills when I first get up.

Librarians like it when others adopt our fashions. Making our profession look cool is surprisingly important both as a recruitment tool and as a way to get more people to use libraries and library services.

12-16-2010, 12:37 PM
Hi Coaches

I'm halfway through the making of my potluck contribution. I forget how much I like to cook things outside of the everyday fare. Even though I have *confession time*no clear surface to work on but the bit in front of the coffee maker and the bit beside the sink (my kitchen table is COVERED with stuff and not usuable and I didn't make a plan to clear it off either). So given this, I am still glad I decided to make something. I'm just waiting for it all to cool before I get to the last and final stage.

I have an art school alumni show I am supposed to drop something off to today or tomorrow. I sure don't feel like going. I need to go today because we leave tomorrow. It's completely across town, but in reality, just a 20 minute drive so I should just go. It's more that I don't have anything new to drop off. I just haven't made any Art in the last year and that's weird. I don't forsee making anything now until after I have moved and settled down. It could be months.:?: Oh well.

Foodwise I am licking the bowl, dipping spoons into the batter and eating a spoonful here and there, plus I put off eating breakfast too long so ate 2x the amount of bread I would have. I am slipping this morning. It's why I decided to post here before the rest of my day slipped away. I started off badly by weighing in higher than I wanted: 277.2 (credit for weighing). I wanted to see 275 again. I wanted to see 275 so I can see 275 tomorrow after the potluck event and before the restaurnat xmas dinner party and the weekend at C's mom's house where there will be lots of goodies pushed at me.

I'm not feeling very strong to say no. Do it anyway I guess... or I need to think how great I'll feel if I DO resist.

I have my planned lunch heating up - by then I should be done my potluck dish and I can eat, get my alumni thing together and deliver it, come back and do my hair, and get ready for the party tonight.
But if I am busy then I am not eating or thinking of eating... distraction techniques rock.

Have a good day Becksters.

Nature Girl
12-17-2010, 01:48 AM
I guess I'm feeling a little more focused than last time I posted; I wrote a plan this morning that was very simple. Three meals planned simply, a time and plan for work out, two snack options, and read some Beck. I followed this with only appropriate modifications having to do with working out at lunch time and having some hypoglycemia issues. I don't know where I'm at with Beck skills like sitting down to eat, etc. but I guess if I'm eating right & exercising, that's most of the battle, eh?
+stuck to the Nordic Trak for 30 minutes; it's boredom not overexertion that gets to me.
+avoided all the treats while we were shopping, and NO CHOICE to free chocolate pudding desert
+simple plan=success=confidence to keep trying

12-17-2010, 06:13 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Lunch at a restaurant with friends was on-plan with my favorite Portobello stack. Big deal was avoiding the bread basket for a long wait to be served; CREDIT moi. A package arrived with homemade Christmas cookies. I tried to picture them as sugar and lard and had none; CREDIT moi. Some two dozen cookies at 100 calories each is 2400 calories - about two thirds of a pound to be added onto my frame without any particular joy. What an evil tradition.

A big challenge happens today at an early evening company Christmas party. There will be large dishes of so-so Chinese foods, including General Gao's Chicken and fried rice - both old favorites sporting high calories. My plan is to find something that includes some veggies, to have one serving, to eat sitting down, and to avoid the tables of desserts and liquid calories.

onebyone - What a great reminder, "distraction techniques rock." Have a safe drive to Toronto and a grand party this evening. And may you survive DH's food pushing mom.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Viva Librarians!!! for using information to stand down bullying. What a sweet victory to savor. Hoping for you that this pain business just gets done.

Shepherdess - Neat that you made candy and still stayed OP. LOL at the image of you wandering and wondering in your kitchen.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for a healthy dinner with a fellow 3FC beacher in New Mexico. Ouch for salsa and chips; I've never learned to avoid those - restriction is the best I've done. Wonder what quinoa did to covert itself from red to green.

Nature Girl - Such power in simple plans; Kudos. Hope you find a solution to the Nordic Trak boredom issue and let me know.

Readers - chapter 11
When to Stop Losing and Start Maintaining
The richer your life, the less
you'll focus on your weight.
The Beck Diet Solution, pg 276.

12-17-2010, 11:39 AM
I slept last night and my back has noticeably improved a little. I'm going to try to move a tick closer to normal today. Although, I wouldn't have weighed myself if I'd known it was going to be that high. Oh well. I suspect it reflects too much sodium more than too many calories the last few days.

I intend to build a rainbow in the Wii Walk It Out game as my first foray back into exercise.

WI: +1.65kg, Exercise: +0 415/1500 minutes for December, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: love this "distraction techniques rock."

NatureGirl: love this, too "simple plan=success=confidence to keep trying"

BillBlueEyes: good job facing down the seasonal challenges! Plus, thanks for being the rock of our little world here. I'm so grateful that I can phone it in for a few days and know this place will still be here when I'm ready to leap back in.

12-17-2010, 03:27 PM
I am celebrating my first day of vacation by watching "An Affair to Remember" and doing laundry. It feels great to putter. I have a high energy/ frontline of humanity kind of job and it is important for me to spend some alone time or I begin to feel desperate. I am grateful for today. The unstructured time, though, gave rise to me eating my lunch at 10:30. Oops! I plan to read my cards, write down the rest of the food for today and chant "hunger is not an emergency." I think some of the early lunch was the result of the discussion I had with my husband about our extended families. Everyone seems in disarray this season for various reasons - his family has lost the mom and dad, my sisters and brothers are in financial straits. I worry about them and maybe the worry made me a little hungrier. Oh Well. Our little nuclear family is really all we can control - that and keep best thoughts for everyone.
A cheer out to all. Personal tom.

12-18-2010, 05:56 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Had a simple lunch of sardines on the Romaine Lettuce in my Man Salad, CREDIT moi, in preparation for facing the Chinese spread at the Christmas party, at which I arrived with a plan. And it worked, as Beck suggests, planning works. I sat and talked with my friends as they had their first plates, then when they got their seconds, as planned I had one plate of the only three dishes that were mostly veggies plus a small serving of that lean red pork called Chinese spareribs. No General Gao's Chicken. No fried rice. No noodles of various types. No white rice. No liquid calories. No dessert tables. CREDIT moi, CREDIT moi, CREDIT moi. If I were a stickler for calories consumed instead of controlling portions and choices, I'd have noted that the thin sauces on all the veggies were probably mostly oil. It is interesting that there was no salad offered - don't recall ever seeing salad at a Chinese restaurant.

Was worried about my evening since I had eaten so early, but we went out to buy our Christmas tree - from the same guy we've bought from for 20 years now so it's a jolly occasion as we catch up on each other's year. Afterward I had my California Navel Orange on schedule for evening snack and was happy. CREDIT moi again for facing a challenge by the Beck strategy of . . . you know what's coming . . . planning.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Cheers for improvement in your back, even if slight. Do move forward slowly on your wii - I suspect that little thing can be addictive.

maryann - Such a neat phrase, "high energy/ frontline of humanity kind of job." Kudos for recognizing that you need your alone time. If I don't get my requisite alone time, I just go bonkers. Good luck maintaining your serenity when people you love are hurting since that stuff does tend to spill over.

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

The first thing I want you to do when you reach your Lowest Maintainable Weight is give yourself lots of credit. It's wonderful you got to this point! Did you think when you first picked up this book you'd really get here? Well, you have! It's a major accomplishment - you should be very proud of yourself.

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:

Continue to weight yourself between once a day and once a week. All the maintainers I've worked with found that they needed to be vigilant about their weight. The only surefire method is to habitually use the scale. Those who stopped weighting themselves usually did fine for a period of time (months to years), but eventually they started to gain.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 279.

12-18-2010, 11:50 AM
Plugging along. The back hurts mostly only at night now, which doesn't help with sleep, but does help with getting through the day. I think it's a bit harder keeping my food under control, now that I feel better. Which is a bit the opposite of my previous behavior. Always a new challenge. I got the "eating does not fix pain" part but now I need a new one: "eating does not fix slow recovery" or something.

WI: +0.5kg, Exercise: +30 445/1500 minutes for December, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

maryann: good job noticing how much you were enjoying your first day of vacation and the puttering

BillBlueEyes: Way to go with planning the whole Christmas Party evening!

12-18-2010, 12:41 PM
Well, I started to check in last night, but was interrupted. Oh well.
I had written at that time that my weight was down (finally!) a bit, from 163.8 to 163. But this morning I WI at 164.8. Sheesh. But, now that I am keeping a graph for my weight loss, I do see that these fluctuations happen and they do NOT mean an upward trend.
I am reading a book about Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (a diagnosis that fits me) and interestingly, weight gain and extreme difficulty losing, are common symptoms of CFS. I don't plan on using this as an excuse but I do plan on reminding myself that this means i can give myself some grace.

-2 yoga classes yesterday
-OP except for a taste of bean soup a friend brought to me (along with a copy of the recipe)
-WI daily
-checking in here
On my way to yoga class today.

Thanks for being here, all of you. I so appreciate it!


Nature Girl
12-18-2010, 01:19 PM
Woke up out of sorts yesterday and the whole day was off. Partly a reaction to a strong allergy trigger--partly????
Didn't go for a work out, ate off plan, didn't get much done on my Christmas list.
This was the exceptional day this week; I've been happy with the mix of quiet time (I agree, Maryann!) and accomplishment and healthy eating and exercise. So that's what I'm going to treat it as, a blip in the radar, and get right back on plan this morning with my delicious oatmeal made with soymilk and a fresh pear sliced in. Will I ski today or go to the rec center? Gotta negotiate that with DH.
BillBe: Good job on the plan, and also on sticking with it! Success!
Gardenerjoy: Hang in there! Everytime we learn something and stick to it )eating does not fix pain), we are challenged to learn something else--dang.
Madrikh: I'm impressed with your weighing daily and keeping a weight graph--I'm not that brave yet

12-18-2010, 06:07 PM
Hi beckies.... checking in. Yesterday DH and I made his mom's recipe for her Christmas raisin nut bread. I baked and he did all the cleaning up. It's a great division of tasks. This bread is tasty , but, not my favorite goodie. (thank goodness)

I got my book marks made for everyone. Tomorrow is the Cousin's party. DH and all his cousins from his mom's family get together every xmas since he was a little boy. I am bringing a big tossed salad to go with the lasagna. I think I can get through this party.

I gathered up all the 'stuff' for my gifts to the young cousins (my son's age - 30ish) I got a recipe from Dr. Oz on making your own veggie/fruit wash. It's amazing how the gunk comes off using his wash. So I made up a xmas bag with a spray bottle, bottle of white vinegar, baking soda, fresh lemon and the recipe. I don't know if they will like it. I am tired of giving the Christmas chachka's every year. Here's the recipe:
1 cup water
1 cup white vinegar
1 Tblsp baking soda
juice of 1/2 lemon.

Mix these ingredients together Add the baking soda slowly or in a large container as it bubbles up alot. Pour the solution into the spray bottle and spray your produce. Let solutionn sit on your fruits and veggies for five minutes before rinsing off. Vinegar is anti-bacterial and lemon is a natural atringent. I can't afford to always get organic, so this helps get the stuff off.

Of course - I got presents for the little ones.

Hope you all are doing well.

I am slacking on writing things down...better get to it.

Gardenjoy - I hope your back is all better soon. Gotta run.

12-19-2010, 05:47 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I had a stellar day yesterday, then finished it off with some unplanned eating. Emotionally related, of course. I should have gone to bed as I was tired. I woke up with an achy back and think I'll try to take it easy today, I've been pushing way too hard. We arrived home from Taos on Thurs. eve and traveled Friday to our home near Denver. Yesterday was spent with mom doing chores.

BillBlueEyes, what a successful party! Your description of the sauce on the chinese food was very accurate. I used to work at a Chinese rest. and saw how much oil was dumped in the woks. I thought of you yesterday at Whole Foods. I did taste the Cara Cara oranges and they were fantastic! I had a chuckle-they have a grand piano set up by the deli now and had a 3 pc ensemble playing holiday songs. The mood was definitely spend lots of money because holidays are so much fun and all about eating. Samples galore but I only tried the orange.

Beverlyjoy, thanks for the recipe. I'm going to make some today.

I'll get back into the swing of things and I've been reading everyones posts.
Saturday credits

~bought a new scale
~didn't eat holiday goodies while baking
~OP except after dinner, but I stopped and went to bed.

Take care everyone!

12-19-2010, 06:00 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - It's getting ready for Christmas time around here. I've let the clutter build on the dinning room table and it all has to be gone. I managed to make a few items disappear, but have miles to go before I sleep. Oh Well.

Eating was OP and did gym; CREDIT's moi. At a hardware store I had to decline freshly popped popcorn; CREDIT moi. But the weird thing was at Radio Shack where the clerk helping me excused himself, then reappeared sucking a tiny blue lollipop. Huh? "From the basket at the dry cleaners next door," he explained, "it's blueberry and fantastic! You gotta go grab one." So, I left with my new headphones to grab a fantastic blueberry lollipop. Walking thirty feet was just enough for me to recall that I had an eating plan and a blueberry lollipop wasn't on it, that eating sugar stuff kinda triggers me into eating other stuff, and, finally, that I'm now a grownup and don't usually do lollipops. So, I said Oh Well and walked home; CREDIT moi.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for "eating does not fix slow recovery" - it does seem that we can find a large list of situations for which we think eating is the solution.

Beverlyjoy - Neat to bring a "big tossed salad" so you're guaranteed to have something attractive from the spread. Your gift bag with the components for a veggie wash is pretty neat; thanks for Dr. Oz's recipe.

Nature Girl - Yay for a fresh pear with breakfast. Methinks that a planning a breakfast that attractive is a sure fire way to make breakfast happen. Just love it that your choices are skiing or the rec center - couch potatoing isn't on the list!

Marci (madrikh) - Ouch for having to deal with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, with Kudos for accepting your reality and planning to deal with it. Lots of good yoga going down - Yay for the joy of flexibility. Graphing my weight was a way for me, also, to see that it was just wiggling, not on the slippery slope.

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:
. . .
Recommit yourself if you gain 3 pounds: Three pounds seems to be the magic number according to maintainers I've counseled because if they went 3 pounds above their Lowest Maintainable Weight, they were likely to continue gaining. If you gain 3 pounds,you don't have to do every task in the program, but I do advise you to reread the program days in this book to see which skills you should reinstate. Sometimes, it's just a matter of putting a plan in writing, measuring your food, and monitoring what you're eating for a couple of weeks.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 279.

12-19-2010, 09:57 AM
Iíve had a couple of days where nothing goes according to plan, including food. I wind up cold, hungry, tired and not sure when Iíll be able to get something healthy to eat. So I eat whatever is close at hand, which is never a good option.

On Friday, we had a 9 mile trail, our longest anymore. We usually do it in January, but one of the ranch hands thought January was too cold. It was 7 below when they started, even after delaying an hour and starting at 9 AM. It did get into the positive numbers by the end, but not very high. Luckily, I was driving the hay truck and not out in it.

Yesterday we were getting our rams in with the big herd. Another cold day and had a truck that kept breaking down. Thatís the truck that has been in the shop twice already and they continue to assure us that itís fixed.

So two days of no exercise and lousy food has left me feeling gross. Weíre heading out this morning to see my family in CA and it looks like terrible storms across Nevada and the Sierras that we need to cross. Weíre taking the long way to avoid the worst, but not looking forward to a long drive. But I did get up early and workout. My muscles needed it desperately. And Iíve got fruit, chopped veggies and hummus packed for the trip. The only thing I need at any convenience store is water, so I feel good about that.

Waving to everyone and will try to check in when I can.

12-19-2010, 11:09 AM
We're hosting Christmas today for my brother, his new girlfriend and her 10-year old daughter. I'm serving vegan chili (w/ cheese available for those who will eat it) over potatoes, a salad bar, and fruit for dessert. Kind of nice to serve people who I know will appreciate healthy food and would actually not like the more traditional tempting holiday treats.

WI: NAkg, Exercise: +30 515/1500 minutes for December, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

madrikh: I'm glad the graphing is helping you see the insignificance of individual daily weigh-ins. That's what worked for me, too. Credit for this: "i can give myself some grace"

NatureGirl: yay for recognizing a blip in the radar and moving on to healthier behaviors!

Beverlyjoy: I love your veggie wash gift! I hope your recipients are as pleased as I would be to get it.

Lexxiss: What a great job sampling just the orange in the Christmas party atmosphere of Whole Foods!

BillBlueEyes: LOL at the LOLlipop story

Shepherdess: I'm impressed that after two bad days you managed both exercise and food packed for your trip. Hope you have a good trip and wishing you safe travels in the wintery weather.

12-19-2010, 01:09 PM
Once again, I am enjoying the posts here. I have great appreciation for those of you who are working this program consistently. It truly is a lifestyle change rather than a diet.

For me: bleh, 164.8 again!! It's not for lack of trying or sticking to my plan. I am eating less food per day than I have in over 20 years (going back to the constant dieting days of my teens) and the weight just wants to stay.

The other bad news is, I really want to quit. But what would I do instead? I have found such freedom in planning my food and eating OP. The fatigue is talking to me today and I'm just being honest, but a 5 pound (give or take) weight loss in 5 months, is NOT what I was expecting. And these last 2 pounds I am really having to fight for.
The good part is, my IBS tummy feels so much better with small portions (and no dairy, I'm guessing). Plus, I feel fit, knowing that I am getting lots of exercise.

But... I'm discouraged. I was so hoping to be 162 or less by the end of the year.

I will start on some specialized supplements for Chronic Fatigue, in a week or so. Perhaps they will give me some of my life back and I will be able to carry on with this. I think my current goal needs to be something like: maintain until I feel better. I have been battling fatigue since 1998, so to even hope for some relief is a stretch for me, but I'm trying to hope!

I'm sorry this is the raw, honest me in the place I now find myself. Probably not much fun to read...

Carry on friends:hug:


Blue Daisy
12-19-2010, 09:27 PM
Hi all,

I am still here. I've been having problems navigating the site. It's really slow and then I'll get kicked out and a error message. I'm hoping it's just the site and not my computer. And I really hope this post gets posted.

Since I started the program 22 days ago, I've lost 8.8 lbs...down to 153.0 as of this morning.

I'm planning meals daily, eating everything sitting down and eating slowly. I read my response cards and advantage cards daily. When I begin noticing I'm not really thinking about what I'm reading, I rewrite the cards and state it a different way to keep it fresh. Or when I start slipping with my plans, allowing too much wiggle room, I'll create a response card to address the behavior.
I'm finding that I do seem to be changing the way I think about eating. This system seems to really work. I can see applying it to other areas as well.

I realized this morning when I was doing my daily routine that I'm feeling a little impatient...well actually... real impatient. I'm wanting to get to the next 5lbs lost so that I can get my next reward...a small pink bracelet to wear with my white bracelet.:) It seems to be taking so long. But really it's not been that long. I've only been using this system for 22 days and 8.8 lbs lost...that's almost 3lbs per week. That's really better than I thought I would do.

Patience...I must be patient. I don't want to do anything foolish and throw myself off. I will keep reminding's not about weight loss anyway. It's about being sane and self-controlled with food for the rest of my life. The weight loss is an added perk.

The weight wasn't my biggest concern, it was my behavior with food. That is what made me feel bad. I felt like I was out of control and being controlled by something else. I felt a loss of self-respect and trust in myself to take care of myself. So the weight loss is just data that tells me that my behavior with food is improving.

Hope this post finds all well.

12-20-2010, 12:30 AM
Just checking in to say that I just picked up Beck Diet for Life at my local library today and I'm excited after reading the first few chapters. I saw some articles, YouTube stuff and her website this weekend, and I really think this is what I need. I need to be told the hard truth that if I keep doing what I have been doing, I will stay the same fat, unfit person that I am today.

So I am so excited to see all of you here! YaY! I really need a diet buddy, I really need to be kept accountable. Thanks for being here, and thanks to BillBlueEyes for starting this and keeping this wonderful thread going for YEARS. This is real dedication. THANK YOU!

I'm just starting on my tasks now. I will pull together a 3-ring binder for my diet notebook and graph paper. Need to go to the office supply store for the index cards and business cards and the boxes.

Oh, my background: I have been overweight, gulp, for most of my adult life. It's hard to admit that, but it is true. I have successfully lost significant weight two or three times. Usually have done low carb. Last time I lost about 100 pounds (233 to 133) on low carb/low fat/low calories, but when I started sneaking back in some starchy carbs that I had been restricting myself from for a year, well, you know what happened. I soon went overboard, and that devilish voice inside me kept saying that "I will eat whatever I want, when I want and how much I want - mwaaa." I gained back all that I had lost in about six months - it took a year to lose that weight. I'm having a hard time believing that I can lose weight on any other type of plan, but I don't want to repeat that last mistake. I must learn to eat a balanced and portion controlled diet, without restricting a major food group.

So I will read this book and check in with all of you on this beautiful supportive thread. Any suggestions, tips, words of wisdom will surely be appreciated. Hope to hear from you! :wave:

12-20-2010, 06:49 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Too many Christmas breads appeared in my path; I sampled - good enough - then sampled again. Ouch. There is a difference between sampling and using sampling as a label for stuffing it in. Recovered for the rest of the day.

Loved walking in the daylight, not exactly warm, but indeed daylight; CREDIT moi.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for knowing that your guests are going to appreciate healthy food. [LOL right back at "LOLlipop story".]

Shepherdess - Shuddering at the thought of starting out at (-7) degrees Fahrenheit to avoid starting out when it gets cold. Ouch for facing "cold, hungry, tired" - real challenges those. Kudos for surviving to fight another day. Good luck on your drive to California.

Marci (madrikh) - Yep, "bleh" leads to "want to quit" and "discouraged." Kudos for just facing that so you can look for which of your strategies can help you stay the course which will help the old neurons decide to generate more positive feelings. Sounds like fatigue is a tough thing to fight. We're hanging in there with you.

Blue Daisy - Methinks you nailed it with, "It's about being sane and self-controlled with food for the rest of my life." Kudos for being committed enough to notice that you aren't responding to your Cards and that a rewrite can make them fresh. For slow browser, sometimes dumping my cookies and cache has done wonders for me. Also, the site is said to run faster when you're logged in.

Cinemom - Just love being reminded of "if I keep doing what I have been doing, I will stay the same." Kudos for jumping right in with your 3 ring binder and a trip to get the index cards and boxes.

I recognize that devilish voice notion - the thought that this little stuff couldn't really apply to me. Kudos for outing that so you can wrestle it down. And thanks for the kind words; Yep, I've been on here forever, but we've got two active posters who were from the original group six months before I'd heard of Beck.

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:
. . .
Create a Maintenance Advantages Response Card. Create a new card that reflects all the reasons that you don't want to regain weight. Use the Advantages Response Card you created before you started to lose weight for help in creating your card for maintenance. What benefits of weight loss have come true for you? Have you experienced additional unexpected advantages that you hadn't written on your card? List all of these on your new card, after the following sentence: "I want to maintain my weight loss because I want to continue to ... ." Pull it out when you need it, whenever you're tempted to eat more or exercise less.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 280.

12-20-2010, 06:49 AM
:welcome: Cinemom :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post, :wel3fc:

How did you hear about Dr. Judith Beck's books in the first place?

And how did you find this thread on 3 Fat Chicks?

12-20-2010, 09:11 AM
Good Morning Coaches

first off, credit for weighing in this morning, and a big :mad: hrmph at the number: 281.4 (+4lb) for my weekend which ended yesterday night.

Wow. I lived a Food-Centered-Universe from DH's staff xmas party riday night to our foray to the grocery store when we were too tired & bought breaded frozen chicken wings which seemed to taste like the BST FOOD EVER as I chowed down with abandon right before bed!
Can you choice a worse thing to do?
I think not.

If I went by BBE's definition of "rare and unusual" foods DH' staff party was surely that from start to finish. I had ZERO resistance. No one did. We were all in awe. Truly. it was dinner theatre where food was the star and the servings were all acts in a play. Plus it was open bar and the wait staff were always at hand, 2 per table of 8 at least, always there to refill your wine glass and your water glass. You never waited for that. After every course all the dishes were removed, the table cleare3d and re-set for the next course. The couple across from us commented that it was "better than their wedding where they had the buffet"! That was the only comparison I could draw on too. It reminded me of Hungarian weddings I had attended as kid where the whole community of Hungarian ladies would cook the food and there were at least 6 courses, served efficiently, one after the other, until you rolled yourself away from the table. So there were pre-hors d'ouvres, then hors d'ouvres, then appetizer platters (2) then a spoon with a smaller-than-a-melonball-ball of homemade lime sorbet to cleanse the palate served on a fancy spoon with a handle turned back and under that was in turn sitting on a small square plate, then the main course, then the dessert platters (2) plus coffee or tea served to you with your own individual tea or coffee press or a cup of cappuciino which I got which came with its own fancy cutlery which turned out to be not cutlery but a chocolate spoon atop the foamy milk, and then there were speeches and then an announcement of "late night ribs available at the bar". None of us could believe our ears at that. We sta down to eat at 6 and were officially done at 10:30! I did choose the fish most of the time. I did try everything though and I did eat to way over-stuffed and I did have unlimited wine. All of us at our table found one thing that was "the best thing I have ever tasted in my entire life". For me it ws the ahi tuna, lightly seared, and with the edges coated in black sesame seeds and panko crumbs. OMG.

Food at MIL the next evening was equally big-roast beef dinner, xmas chocolate dessert, sugary drinks, snacky things. Then big breakfast next morning, flea market stopover on the way home (where I purchased a GENUINE Mexican black velvet Elvis painting for $10!!!! Merry Christmas to moi!!!)

Then home and late grocery run = chicken wings.

O well. lots of salt in me right now.

I was aware of what I was doing and did it anyway, knowing it is a special weekend and knowing it would be like that I guess. I could have done way way better. Now I need to reign it in this week as I get ready for the next, and last, food event: xmas at my brother's house. A one day only thing so once that's behind me it's smooth sailing ahead.

the problem with allowing myself to indulge to this extent is it makes eating *that much* seem normal again. The smaller portions, the lighter fare, seems so unappealing after I have indulged my desires. For me I think this is the true cost; my willingness to eat better and lighter gets eroded away and the light goes on for the MORE!:devil: and BETTER! :devil: and TRY THIS ONE TOO DON'T MISS OUT :devil: whispers to start up again.

And for this reason, today will be an OP day foodwise and exercise wise.

Oh yeah credit for Saturday's zoo visit with 2 hours of walking to see the animals.

Bye for now.

12-20-2010, 11:14 AM
Our little party was fun. Everyone complimented our food and I actually got cheers when I said "Dessert is apples or oranges."

WI: -0.3kg, Exercise: +0 515/1500 minutes for December, Food: 75%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

madrikh: Love that you "have found such freedom in planning my food and eating OP." That's a big deal for me. This is not just an effective way to lose weight; it's a better way to live.

BlueDaisy: hope your experience of the site improves. You might try a different browser. Great job rewriting the cards to keep them fresh!

Welcome, Cinemom! I think you may like the diet in the green book. It's fairly low carb, but not as low as a lot of popular plans.

BillBlueEyes: good catch and recovery from the Christmas bread ouch.

onebyone: thanks for the description of all the parts and roles of your dinner theater of a party! Definitely sounds like a fun and decadent evening that I wouldn't want to experience more than once a year or so.
I definitely agree that the hard part of indulgence is getting back on plan. So much, that most of the time I skip the indulgence or keep it tightly controlled so that I don't have to experience the pain of re-entry. But this took lots of practice, and blowing it, and re-evaluating what strategies would work better next time, and more practice.

12-20-2010, 12:58 PM
Happy Birthday to me. I turned 47 years old this week. There are so many firsts and I am so grateful for the success I have had. This is the first birthday EVER in which I have weighed less then what my driver's license says. This is the first Bday EVER I have not had a BMI classified as overweight. This is the first family bday party (this past weekend) when my mom made me macaroni and cheese and I didn't go home sick to my stomach from eating half of it. In fact, I ate none of it. I couldn't face my "number one trigger food" and risk that sick feeling again. I packed a small sandwich, ate some of the salad and had a fabulous time. Guess what? Noone even noticed. I know my ticker says I have lost about 15 pounds but that is the most recent goal. When I was 18 I topped out at 205, as when I had DS who is now 8. So all these things are great gifts for the little girl who grew up in Malibu, covered herself with a towel to hide from the surfers who would call out their windows "no fat chicks."
I don't know which part of my program has made me successful after years of failure. Is it Beck, this forum, the zone diet, the multi vitamin and the Fish Oil? I have always loved exercised and it was never enough. Maybe it is because they work together. In any case, I am not changing a thing. For today, I am willing to walk in faith and action. I always knew this life was possible, I just never thought it was possible for me.
P.S. Yesterday we celebrated with family at a huge trampoline warehouse - wall to wall trampolines and in the dead center a huge trampoline dodgeball court. Of the hundreds of people there jumping, I was the ONLY woman older than 20 in the fray - dodging, weaving, and diving - actually winning a dodge ball round! I was triumphant. I lost the opportunity for such fun when I was young because of my being trapped in obesity. This life does give us second chances.
Madrikh and Blue Daisy: I do hear your frustrations - weightloss that is too slow and the constraints of daily mindfulness. I rebel, too. I had hoped for 150 by my bday. Then I remember last year's bday. I had tried to lose weight for six months and I found myself five pounds heavier with no more solutions. This will work if you work it.
Cinemom: Welcome
BBE: I tell you what, we'll switch parties. I could take or leave XMAs bread - so I'll go to your event if you will come the house of 5 pounds of See's candy. Then we can take a walk together, smiling in triumph.
onebyone: It is true, that after I indulge, the scariest part is trying to get back to restraint. I'm never sure I'll make it back.
gardenerjoy: I like the bold move of fruit for dessert. What could be better?

12-20-2010, 03:59 PM
Thanks all, I feel very welcome here. I'm taking baby steps, so excuse me if I have lots of questions in the beginning, cuz I am just starting to read Judith Beck's green book. I'm just going to jump right in where we are and hit the ground running and try not to feel too behind! (Just like Flylady says)

It's funny how I found Beck. I was on this weekend and searching for diet advice. I wanted to find a reasonable eating plan that I could actually stick with FOR LIFE, rather than a "diet." I know real well how to diet, but I'm not so good on the maintenance part. And I have recognized for a long time that the brain-body connection is going to be critical for my success in the long-run, so I have been looking out for this kind of advice, too.

So on I saw Martha Beck and her 4-Day Win book. Very funny and very interesting. It addressed the things I was looking for, including "Thinner Peace" which really resonated. So I did some more searching on Google and found Judith Beck. And it just so happened that I finally got an email from my library that "Women Food and God" came in - I had been on the waiting list for months. So I went to the library to pick it up, and found both Martha and Judith's books, too, and brought them home yesterday. Of course, I haven't read them all, but in reviewing, it seems that Judith's book really lays out her plan step-by-step. I think I'll find some wisdom in Martha's book, but Judith's will be the blueprint that I will follow. It turns out that they are not related, but they seem to have very similar approaches dealing with cognitive therapy.

I found you all on 3 Fat Chicks when searching for "Diet Buddy." When I lost the 100 pounds a few years ago, I was on a doctor's program where I saw the doc and dietician every two weeks. That was built-in accountability that really worked for me. I am a "good soldier" type and wanted to please. But when I reached goal, and the program ended, I really felt at a loss when that hand-holding was gone. Even when I KNEW how to eat right, and loved my lightness, I started having strong cravings when I introduced carbs back into my diet. And my brain just went WILD CHILD (martha beck reference) on me.

Sorry for the long-winded response. I'm just glad to be here and starting over with a new perspective. Thank you.

12-20-2010, 11:36 PM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

:welcome2: Cinemom! It's certainly interesting how we each find our way here.

maryann, Happy Birthday!

I'm very tired, but thought I'd check in since tomorrow just seems to be getting busier. I read everyone's posts then thought, "Is it still Monday?" It's been a sane day with food but I'll keep it brief because I am headed downhill fast.
*credit* for sticking with my plan today. Exercise was non existent, but I did park the car at the very end of the lot at the mall.

Take care everyone!

12-21-2010, 05:42 AM
Hi folks - checking in. Food everywhere I turn... it's all the goodies that come with the season. I wish I was not a sugar/food junkie - wishing doesn't go too far in this area. It's the 'doing' that makes it happen. It's doing: a plan, writing it down, reading my cards, and all the tasks that help make sanity with food happen. The past couple of days I have been frantic around food.

Today I have a plan - a friend is coming over and salads are planned. Time to tatoo the going out of town response card to my brain.

The past is over - planning for the days ahead is key.

Soon, we will be leaving for DH's sister, ... then on to DS's home.

Cinemom - WELCOME!!!!


12-21-2010, 07:28 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Woke up at 2 am EDT to watch the lunar eclipse. Not surprisingly, with snow continuing to fall, it wasn't visible. D*rn!!! Driving home from work was treacherous because people weren't expecting slick ice conditions for the first time of the year.

Eating was OP (CREDIT moi) with no seasonal temptations appearing - perhaps a lull within the hurricane. Walking to the gym (CREDIT moi) was slippery, slippery, slippery.

onebyone - WOW indeed at your tale of the "Food-Centered-Universe." Kudos for recognizing that as a one time event instead of the beginning of the slippery slope and for planing to get right back on plan. I am insanely jealous of your "GENUINE Mexican black velvet Elvis painting for $10!!!!" - although it might cost me a divorce if I bought it home, LOL.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - I got goosebumps reading that you got cheers for "Dessert is apples or oranges." Loved the contrast between your dinner party and onebyone's.

Beverlyjoy - Busy time with the whirlwind of seasonal goodies. Glad that your travels will take you to see your DGS laugh therapist.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yep, some days a long walk in the parking lot is what we can do. Kudos for a sane Monday with food.

maryann - Happy Birthday. May you have 47 more and 47 more after that. Monster Kudos for handling the macaroni and cheese - it's a lesson for us all that no one noticed, that you weren't humiliated in front of the others, and that your mom wasn't devastated. [Yep, I'm ready to switch parties. Will be easy for me since I have no idea what See's candy is.]

By-the-by, at Whole Foods, I sampled a roasted walnut coated with chocolate powder. To. Die. For. I hope you grow yours that way, especially at the price Whole Foods charges for those. Which reminds me, I wanted to ask: Does the farmer have to remove the thick husks from the walnuts? Those are tough.

Cinemom - Neat to start out with baby steps and Kudos for ignoring whether you feel ahead or behind. Just learn the strategies and keep on going. LOL at the convoluted path that brought you here. I just recently discovered that Martha Beck also exists, so I'm going to read one of her books so that I'll know the difference. People frequently confuse the two.

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:
. . .
Anticipate the amount of effort required for maintenance. Have you heard that it's harder to maintain your weight loss than it is to lose it initially? I've not found this to be true among the dieters I've worked with. The course of maintenance frequently follows the same course as dieting. It's easier in the beginning, at some point it gets more difficult, and then it gets easier again. It stays easier most of the time, with intermittent periods when it's more difficult. It's important for you to have this expectation, or you'll be disappointed when maintenance occasionally requires more effort. If you don't realize that this is normal, you might get discouraged, put in less effort, and then regain weight. Make yourself a Response Card to remind yourself that maintenance is supposed to be hard at times, but that it will get easier again.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 280.

12-21-2010, 08:03 AM
Had to share this. DIL told me that my GS is beside himself with excitement over his Advent Calendar. He can hardly contain himself to wait for the next day to open a new window. So, DIL spotted him taking a peek ahead of time. Busted.

(Good problem solving skills ;) )

12-21-2010, 11:41 AM
Howdy, Becksters! Thanks for your kind words.

I'm sitting in my Mom's kitchen in snowy / icy Louisville, KY, waiting for butter to soften so that I can begin the baking chores I've been assigned. LOL. I've mentioned in the past that I have a weakness for cookie dough, so I've put onto my plan "1 T of cookie dough, sitting down and eating slowly." Here's hoping.

I've decided to use this 2-week visit with Mom to take care of myself (as well as her). I did NOT complete a very rough draft of the next diss chapter. Feeling pretty down about this, pretty cranky. But there is something about the holidays that makes it hard to sit down and do the "daily grind." So much is special about this time of year.

SO, in packing for this trip I ran across a notebook I had purchased ages ago (I'm addicted to office supplies), a "project planning notebook." It's more fancy that the other notebook I was using to track my success skills and my food plans. And it's more compact, which I think will help me to be succinct in practicing my Beck skills. I packed this notebook, and the plan is to get back on track with my skills and my planned eating. I'm going to decorate the book, and make it all pretty for the new year. The new me!

CREDIT MOI: starting on the NB last night, though I was exhausted from a day of traveling. Taking the stairs and the normal walking paths (not the moving sidewalks) in airports. Sticking to a protein shake (no sugar) in the airport. Resisting Mom's famous sand-tarts. Making a plan for handling my emotions around my dissertation, money problems, and family stress. And checking in with y'all!

Hope all is well in your parts of the world. XO. :grouphug:

12-21-2010, 11:47 AM
Just lifted a 5 lb. bag of flour (for the baking extravaganza) -- and I must say I'm impressed with myself. Thanks -- shepherdess for qtng maryblu -- for giving me this very tangible CREDIT MOI.

12-21-2010, 12:20 PM
Just a quick note. I've lost my thread on exercise, esepcially. The food stuff is more automated these days, so plugging along okay with that for now. I'm going to need to step it up a little (planning both food and exercise and then sticking to the plan), though, to reach my goal weight.

Happy birthday, maryann!

Cinemom: I also read both Becks (unrelated). Martha Beck was somewhat helpful, but as you noticed, Judith Beck provided the blue print that really worked for me. I'll be interested in what you feel about Women, Food, and God. That didn't help me at all, but I was already well along this journey when I picked up that book. I thought that it might have been more useful if I had read it at the beginning.

Nature Girl
12-21-2010, 12:35 PM
Yesterday two of my DDs and I baked all day. Tasting, etc kept happening. Look how I put that in the passive tense: I need to change it to: I tasted and licked beaters and ate standing up all day. My only consolation is I kept other eating limited. And today is a new day; the party we are having tonight is focused on a bonfire and hot drinks, not on Christmas cookies so I'll make sure to have sugar free hot chocolate mix on hand. And now that I've had breakfast, my next task is heading for the rec center so that the workout doesn't get lost in the holiday craziness like it did yesterday.
I think one of the big beck rules I need to concentrate on is one of the first you learn: No eating standing up! That covers so much territory and so much behavior--how often do you sit down to lick a beater?

12-21-2010, 12:45 PM
OP day yesterday. I had two meals out (always a challenge) and this time I was very successful. I had planned 300 extra calories. Up .6 of a pound today but I am sure that is salt from the delicious sushiwe ate last night.
I am looking forward to staying home and tidying the house, wrapping gifts and misc. errands. I have made today "National Give Myself a Break Day." I felt a little anxiety at about 3 a.m. creeping in and have decided to not fight it - slow down, tell myself nice things and remember that I am enough not matter what. Exercise Pilates tonite at 5:30.
BBE: I forgot, you don't have See's in the East. Thank your stars - although I am sure you (having a much longer industrialized history than we Californians) have far more tempting treats. The coop we send our nuts to does all the shelling for us. They kick me back a twenty pound box of walnut halves -I love them. My friend especially loves the cocoa nuts.
Lexxiss: Hope you feel better soon.
Cinemom: there are no easy shortcuts unfortunately. it is my experience I can't lose weight without looking at what makes me tick.
MaryContrary: good luck with the baking. Huge quicksand pool for me that dough is.
Beverelyjoy: Cute picture.

12-21-2010, 05:22 PM
Hi Coaches

DH and I bought our first car today. Yikes for sticker shock and actually signing the papers that commit you to car payments.

Holy moly that makes one's heart pound.

We will now be driving a red 2010 Mazda 3.
DH can now drive happily back and forth from here to Toronto for the next 1-3 months before we actually move there.

We decided to give ourselves an extra month for our finances to level off before we look for a place to rent in Toronto, so, like all of last year, things are taking their own sweet time. Patience and persistence and one foot in front of the other will get us from here to there in life and in our foodplans and weightloss.

I have not had a good food day today. I've been off track almost a week now; 5 days for sure. My body is starting to complain about it. The same old patterns just re-assert themselves: little to no breakfast and when eaten, eaten late, like closer to lunchtime + sugary things in quantity + very little water + zero planned exercise. This is my deadly quartet.

Well, dinner will be OP and I can do 5 min of wii fit and this will start to turn this runaway train around. Honestly, I am counting the days until Christmas is over.

Bye for now.

ps. my new black velvet elvis is shown in my avatar...

Nature Girl
12-21-2010, 05:58 PM
I know, I know, my second post today, but I had an interesting trip to the gym and wanted to talk about it. I got on an "unofficial" scale and it indicated weight loss, but I will wait until tomorrow am when I can get on my "official" scale and document that before I celebrate. The interesting thing was I weighed before and after the workout and I was down 1.2 pounds from start to finish! Wow, that is a lot of sweat! I don't expect that to show up tomorrow morning but I was really surprised by how much change there was.
I tried a new thing today and did some cardio before I started my strength workout, then went back to cardio after again. That seemed to help with the boredom factor on the elipticals, etc; I am an outdoor girl and prefer to do my sweating on a trail or at least a sidewalk, so I have a hard time sustaining cardio on some boring machine where I notice my sweating and tiredness. When I'm out in the woods or on a long walk or my bike, the time goes by much faster and I don't realize how hard I'm working until I stop and think about collapsing. But the fog and ice and cold temperatures limit my outside play, and it's a trip to ski-able terrrain, so it is hard to fit that in with all the holiday events.
Maryann, I do know what See's candy is and I'm not sure who's party would be tougher, with that knowledge! And it's interesting how we have our coping strategies--I love your Ntl Give Myself a Break Day--we should each have a coupon to turn in for that day when we REALLY need it. Your response to anxiety with "decided not to fight it" is healthy. Right now I am on a daily "need to know" or "today's crisis is" basis. In more healthy terms, I have worked on compartmentalizing things;Sun & Mon were all about my visiting DD & SIL, all I'm worried about today is the party tonight; I won't worry about having no gift for my DH or DS(eek!) until tomorrow, once the party is through. Compartmentalize, compartmentalize.
MaryContrary, I like the idea of taking these two weeks in KY to focus on getting back on track; you can head back to dissertation land "tannned, rested, & ready" to focus on the writing, since you will have your Beck skills in place!
BeverlyJoy, I LOVE the photo!!! And as a literacy professor, I also love the huge shelf of children's books next to his dresser...getting him started right!!!

12-21-2010, 10:20 PM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

Beverlyjoy, I LOVE the photo, too! I have to say it really made my day and I appreciate that you took the time to share it with us.

Last night, I was just too tired to be chatty. My quiet, laid back week took a turn yesterday. My bro and spouse decided to make a last minute trip here for the holidays...arriving Thursday. I had previously decided that this would be the week in my life to go through all our lifetime of photos and enter the digital age. I have photos everywhere, mom, with her hoarding tendencies, needs a quick home makeover, my DH has taken ill (perhaps an avoidance strategy) and tomorrow I have a piano tuner coming to the house. Today was absolutely miserable. I was trying really hard to get some things accomplished and the general atmosphere was, well....not too supportive.

Thanks to you all, and my persistence with Beck strategies, I managed a pretty decent day with food. Tonight, as I sat by myself at 5pm I vascillated between the worst pizza I could find, making just a healthy juice, not having anything or a fourth possibility. Recognizing that not eating isn't really helpful, I went to the store and bought the healthiest pizza available. Upon coming home I portioned it and added a nice salad with FF dressing (to offset pizza calories). I ate my salad first, enjoyed my pizza and will have a Cara Cara orange for a snack (thx BBE). I actually feel calmer for eating healthy.

Thanks, everyone, for all that we collectively put into our group. It really helps and every little bit that sinks in IS progress! upward and onward!

12-22-2010, 06:25 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The snow is mostly gone - just a brief reminder that winter packs a punch. Took the day off as a vacation day - just because I had stuff to do. I got a good chunk of clutter under control from the dining room table, CREDIT moi, but there's more to go.

Food was OP, CREDIT moi. It felt decadent to have a peanut butter sandwich for lunch mid-week. Exercise was minimal; Ouch.

onebyone - What a neat car for your first; I'm a Mazda fan - driving my DD's old Mazda Protege to work to keep it's battery charged for her. New and red is exciting. Yay for a body that complains when you're not dumping in the right stuff to stay on track. And Kudos for your determination to turn the train around. Thanks for posting your GENUINE black velvet Elvis. I'm still green.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yep, this exercise stuff can't be left to pasture. I'll join you in trying to get this back on track.

Beverlyjoy - What a great picture of your DGS!!! Do hope that bureau is bolted to the floor.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Hope you DH recovers in time to help with and enjoy the holiday. Ouch for an unexpected visitor upon a busy life. Big Kudos for your pizza solution - pulling a good solution out of so many bad options.

Nature Girl - There is no recorded incident on planet earth of a beater being licked sitting down. Should you succeed, join MaryContrary to publish a paper on unusual foods consumed seated. Hope your party went well.

MaryContrary - Now that's a stellar plan - a measured quantity of cookies dough sitting down. Might be a world's first for cookie dough, LOL. Kudos for thoughtfully planning your time at your mom's including resisting such comfort foods as sand-tarts.

maryann - Yep, "I am enough no matter what." Kudos for being successful with two meals out in one day. [I mentioned 20 pounds of walnut halves to my DW and her comment was "she must give them away," while my thought was, "so tasty." You'd never guess which one of us struggles with weight, LOL.]

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:
. . .
Give yourself credit multiple times a day for using all of your behavioral and mindset skills.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 280.

12-22-2010, 10:55 AM
Ended up wrapping gifts last night when I had scheduled exercise. I guess it is that time of year for too many things to be done in too short of a time. I'm going to plan for a lower key exercise today and see if that helps (just put on some music and dance rather than a more serious workout with a DVD).

12-22-2010, 11:58 AM
Hi Coaches

Already it's 10:39am. The morning is flying by. Today I am cleaning the kitchen. It's quite exciting truth be told. I am eagerly anticipating the return of good usable cooking and work space.

I figured out that if I took an empty rubbermaid bin, one of those big ones, and bungeed it to my handtruck/dolly, I'd have the "little red wagon" I've been wishing I had to haul stuff out of the kitchen/house nnd down the long parking lot to the garbage bins outside. You wouldn't believe, and I wouldn't want to show you either, how much the stuff piles up around here before garbage/recycling pick-up day. I just put it off and put it off cause there is so much it would take three or four trips to carry all the awkward shapes and sizes so I thought "red wagon!" but now with the modified dolly I can do it probably in two trips. Yay!

I don't know why I am such a lousy housekeeper. I was actively discouraged as a kid, with whatever I did to clean the house being shown to me as wrong and watching my grandmother (who I lived with) do it over again in front of my eyes. I never did it right and I just simply stopped doing it. On top of that, very clean houses make me nervous and anxious. And on top of that, I seem to want to SEE everything I own or may possibly make things with ALL AT ONCE. It's all getting out of control, and with us moving to a new place well I don't want to move this terrible house cleaning habit too. It's almost exactly the same issues as my challenges with losing weight: I give up too easily and get discouraged too quickly - I don't persist when it gets tough and I feel overwhelmed so I never actually get to experience the benefits of my efforts in a real way. I just feel the pain and not the pleasure. I am uncomfortable with the changes but don't stay with them long enough to make the changes my "new normal".

persistence persistence persistence persistence persistence persistence

Make a plan, persist (don't resist), and don't look back, move forward. Then be still with the changes made.

I think this should be my 2011 goal in a nutshell.

12-22-2010, 02:52 PM
Op Yesterday - really OP - like back to the first month kind of OP when I was weighing and measuring. It always amazes when I get back to exact portions and they appear so little yet how I am still not hungry. It opened my eyes to how I had been getting a little sloppy this holiday season. Actually went to bed with my stomach feeling empty which made me happy not panicked ( like I would have been in the old days.)
I have done a little organizing myself. Went clothing shopping for my bday. I am donating the last of my large/extra larges. I bought only smalls and mediums. Credit. Weighin. Another pound down. I love changing my signature.

Naturegirl: I like to do 10 or 15 min blocks when I feel my attention span or motivation is low. 10 min on bike, weights, 10 min on elliptical, stretch, etc... It all counts.
Lexxiss: congrats onsalad first. It cracks me up that I never believe in what Beck says on research until it works for me. Ex. research says eat a salad first and you will feel better. Who knew?
BBE: Enjoy your day off. I refrigerate the nuts and they keep all year. YUM.
gardenerjoy: every type of exercise works on the mood elevation. credit for being flexible.

12-22-2010, 03:26 PM
Hi Beck folks - we are getting ready to leave tomorrow for a week. We will first be with Dh's sister and our niece (for Christmas) and then to see DS, DIL, and GS for a few days. My food is shaky and sloppy. I hate going into this trip feeling bloated. It's all about the 'willingness'... I know that I am still 'depressed' about all the health stuff and changes and stalls. But, I need to get over it. Eating will not change anything!! Imagine that????? So - I start another day taking it one meal at a time.

I will write it all down and this should at least have me thinking about and owning up to what I am eating.

I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas and other Holidays.

I will try to use someone's computer along the way to check in.

New2me2 - Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays back to you.

Gardener/joy - credit for the willingness to weigh and measure. You should feel proud for being able to give away larger clothes.

Onebyone - the think the word persistence sounds like the perfect montra.

Billbe - credit for being OP and getting things ready for the week. You said: Do hope that bureau is bolted to the floor. Actually, DIL thought of running intp my grandson’s bedroom to ‘save’ him…but, grabbed the camera first, snapped the picture and then scooped him up.

Lexxiss/Debbie - sorry you seem to have things ‘piling up’ - extra people, stuff out of place, DH sick. Hang in there. So glad to hear that the Beck techniques as an anchor to dealing with food in the midst of this.

nature girl - I am glad you could find things to do at the gym that kept it from being too boring. I didn’t know you are a literacy professor. Yes, indeed, my grandson is fortunate to have many books! His great-grandma is a retired librarian, my daughter in law’s mom has worked in a bookstore for 20 years and I have been a professional storyteller for 20 years. One of my projects is a grant funded program combining storytelling (spoken word/oral tradition), language arts activities and free books for at risk children.

Cinemom - I haven’t heard of Martha Beck’s books. I will check them out. So glad you posted. You will find Dr. Beck’s techniques so helpful in finding a way to live with food in a more sane manner.

Mary contrary - it’s wonderful that you’ve brought your notebook to help your organize your Beck things. I like my notebook used in this manner too. Good idea to take the time with your mom to also take care of yourself.

12-22-2010, 07:36 PM
Stopping in to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas and Happy Holiday Season!

Nature Girl
12-23-2010, 12:54 AM
Milestone: I threw away cookie dough! Perfectly delicious, unbaked, not needed cookie dough. I discovered it leftover from baking the other day and once I knew it was there, it kept calling my name. So I had a bite and tossed the rest in the garbage. I'm so proud of myself!
I didn't have an exercise plan except geting outside, but the 5 inches of snow that fell all day made it tough. So around 4 I found myself in my gym clothes and headed to the rec center. 50 minutes of cardio and a tough leg day later, I hauled my sweaty body home feeling satisfied for not letting myself slack off one more day. I hope all this work shows up on the scale tomorrow morning when I hit the official scale in the morning!
These two good things are especially fortunate since the party last night (which was a great time, by the way) wasn't as OP as I had planned. Perrhaps it was a bit naive of me to think I would stick to sugar free cocoa when there were several things to mix in, if you get my drift, and the smores turned into a buffet of options--way too tempting too ignore. So hope THAT doesn't show up tomorrow am on the official scale!

12-23-2010, 01:11 AM
Hi Coaches,
I'm happily baby-stepping, reading and gathering supplies. Although I haven't decided on an eating plan yet, one thing I read has stayed with me since yesterday. That is, that when eating a meal, and there is that point where we naturally pause, put the fork down, and then usually continue on and finish that last half to third of the meal. Instead, it is recommended to just stop. And not finish the meal. Wow. What a concept! (lol) I don't remember not finishing everything for a very long time. But yesterday and today, I tried to recognize the pause. . .and then. . .stop. It felt good. Not overstuffed, hard to breathe like I often feel right after a full meal or restaurant meal. Just satisfied, and energetic. I have been looking for that lighter energetic feeling. So, kudos to self for recognizing my 'pause' and acting upon it. . .immediately. No last few bites. Now if I could just remember if it was Judith or Martha? (I'm so confused - lol!)

Happy Holidays to all of you and your families! I'll check in again before Christmas arrives.

12-23-2010, 05:58 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating was easy, CREDIT moi, again with no visible Christmas excess. That starts tonight when we join a fun group of friends for singing along with LOTS of especially yummy potluck dinner and excessive desserts. I plan one plate for dinner and one small plate for desserts. The plan is to control portions. I have to get my head around the notion that there will be a lot of food that isn't unusual, albeit good, that will be available on future occasions. We're bringing two veggie dishes - both favorites - and I'm already drooling about them. Thinking here I'm aware that ham is a trigger for me. It's in that group of foods for which one serving is never enough, particularly when there's a dark spicy mustard.

Did gym, CREDIT moi. And made progress against the clutter - not as much as I had hoped, but good progress. So CREDIT moi for that.

onebyone - Yay for persistence - I think of you while I'm de-cluttering around here. I just ordered the book Stuff by Boston University professor Gail Steketee for Santa to give me for Christmas - my standard approach to doing anything is to first sit and read a dozen books about it. I do like you little red wagon.

Beverlyjoy - LOL at your combination of wisdom and humor, "Eating will not change anything!! Imagine that?????" Bon Voyage on your week of travel and visiting.

Donna (new2me2) - Waving back; Merry Christmas and a joyous holiday period to you also. Hope all is going well.

Nature Girl - Yay for a great party, even if not as OP as desired. Methinks it's easier to recover from a good time with overeating than it is to recover from blah overeating; after jollies, back to basics. Kudos for getting out in the snow to get to your rec center for a good workout.

maryann - Congrats for buying all smaller clothes and donating the larger ones because you'll never need them again. Neat that you weren't panicked by an empty stomach at bed time.

Cinemom - Wonderful, just wonderful to be recognizing the satisfied feeling that occurs before the full feeling - and then to leave food on your plate. I'm still working on that. Yep, Kudos indeed for "No last few bites."

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:
. . .
Respond to any sabotaging thoughts. Expect to have sabotaging thoughts periodically for a very long time. You'll get better and better at responding to them, but you'll need to pull out your Response Cards whenever you're having difficulty. I'd also like you to read them periodically, even if you don't think it's necessary. Most of the maintainers I work with read their cards weekly when they first reach maintenance, then once every two weeks, then once a month, and then once every season. Remember to use the Seven Question Technique (pages 199-203) and create a new Response Card whenever you identify new sabotaging thoughts.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 280-281.

12-23-2010, 08:53 AM
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays. The greatest gifts around the tree are the family and friends gathered there.

12-23-2010, 10:47 AM
I realized yesterday that it's not the food of past holiday seasons that I've been missing; it's the sense of abundant, unconstrained, merriment. But, surely, I can experience that in other venues besides food. Singing in the car and dancing as exercise seem likely candidates.

WI: NAkg, Exercise: +30 545/1500 minutes for December, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: Have you read Refuse to Choose by Barbara Sher? She had some things about organizing for creative people that I found helpful.

maryann: yay for weighing and measuring and for smalls and mediums!

Beverlyjoy: happy travels! I think logging is a great habit to keep up even if nothing else seems to be working. That's a habit that you can build on!

new2me2: Merry Christmas to you, too! And yay for continued maintenance!

NatureGirl: congrats on the accomplishment of throwing away cookie dough!

Cinemom: that's cool about the pause -- I'll have to watch for that! I've never been able to follow the 80% full advice because I just don't feel it, but I could maybe train myself to recognize a pause.

BillBlueEyes: good job thinking through tonight's party options. I wholeheartedly approve of starting any project by reading a stack of books!

12-23-2010, 11:35 PM
Hello Everybody!!

I am still here and wanted to pop in and wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Thanks for all the support this year. You gals and one special guy are awesome!!!


12-24-2010, 06:24 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Did good enough to match my plan at the party, CREDIT moi: one plate, sitting down, no ham, small amount of turkey, large salad, many veggies, one plate of desserts. I forgot to plan for the appetizers, but kept them limited by talking to people a lot. When I was feeling tempted by the food, I surrendered my plate and napkin.

Walked several times to do errands; CREDIT moi. I'm off this morning to a Whole Foods special where the first shoppers to check out after 6 am get a bag of free groceries. My brood love squabbling over who gets what when I put the bag under the tree - "To All, From Santa."

CeeJay - Waving back. And a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you also. Hope you are doing well.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Seems that I've also bought into the notion that food will bring me "it's the sense of abundant, unconstrained, merriment."

Beverlyjoy - Yay for family and friends - wherever you are on your travels.

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:
. . .
Eat the same amount of food and the same number of calories that you've been eating as you stabilized your weight. If you find that you want to eat more, make a conscious decision to set a new Lowest Maintainable Weight.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 281.

12-24-2010, 12:42 PM
I am not giving up in utter abandon to Christmas food excesses. I am also not doing as well as I know I can with planning and making good choices. In years past, I would be aiming for one or the other. Yesterday I realized that is all or nothing thinking. There is a huge expanse of middle ground there, so I'm going for a point on the spectrum that's on the healthy side of the midpoint and consider that good enough for the next couple of days. I know that I can count on a higher level motivation as we get to the New Year.

We're getting a white Christmas, a relatively rare occurence in St. Louis. It's been snowing for about 3 hours and shows no sign of stopping. Some stress about how difficult it will be to get where we need to go tomorrow, but we're trying to think of it as an adventure.

WI: NAkg, Exercise: +0 545/1500 minutes for December, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Merry Christmas to you, too, CeeJay!

BillBlueEyes: Good job with your party. I especially like the part about surrendering your plate -- good skill!

Happy Christmas to seadwaters in Australia, where it's already here, and Merry Christmas to everyone else who will be observing it in the next 24 hours or so!

12-24-2010, 01:03 PM
DH and I are with his sister and niece. Traditional good smells are coming from the kitchen. My plan is one plate and no seconds. I will not eat anything I can eat ordinarily. (ie - rolls).

Soon we will watch National Lampoon Christmas Vacation. Always cracks me up. No little ones arouond... so, it's OK. It's fun to see the Christmas favorite movies.

After dinner we always play Scatagories.

Enjoy your day.

12-24-2010, 01:42 PM
Hello Coaches

I have been struggling with my food still but the end is in sight. I'm looking forward to the post-holiday days. DH leaves again next week for Toronto, from Tuesday to Friday then he's back until January 3rd and then off again to officially start his new job. Really, he is no longer living here after that. He'll be at his mom's Mon-Fri for the next two months and possibly three. It all depends if we find a place for March 1st or April 1st. We won't begin to look until February 1st when we give our notice here.

My job over the coming months will be to sort, toss and pack and to stay on plan with my food. Wth no DH around most of the time I can eat exactly what I want and when. I am looking at this as a good time to lay down/reinforce 12 weeks of solid eating habits. I think I will re-start the pink Beck book from the beginning.

credit I weighed in at 282.4 this morning. I didn't expect much from the scale and in fact was happy it wasn't higher. I'm not discouraged as I saw with a bit of effort my weight will drop and with some consistent effort it will drop consistently.

Today I am going to do one healthful thing = using the wii for a workout.

Have a Happy Christmas Eve Becksters and Merry Christmas to Seadwaters!

12-24-2010, 07:07 PM
Hi All
I just checked in to wish you all the best and season's greetings. I am at my sister's and it is a mild and pleasant day with a clear blue sky. I have been up and prepared all the veggies and organised things while my sister and nephew sleep in.

GardenerJoy hits it on the head - christmas food and eating is an attempt to recapture that "sense of abundant, unconstrained, merriment" - I don't think I have evolved enough to move beyond that yet. But I am not going to beat myself up about it until next year :D.

Thank you all for being here and I hope the weather is kind to your Christmas plans - the whole white Christmas thing is a big fantasy in these parts

12-24-2010, 07:48 PM
Merry Xmas Eve: Reading everybody's posts have really helped me. I was travelling yesterday and today and was OP perfectly then sitting in the ranch's kitchen this afternoon, I dived into all the piles of treats - sampling for about an hour. gardenerjoy and seadwater hit it on the head for me. I doubt that I can feel that joyous release without all the sugar hyping me up. It is the same feeling as when I quit the booze and then cigarettes. I would think, "What else is worth living for?" Seriously demented thinking but nonetheless it is what I was feeling and I think it is why I ate for 2 hours. So - OP since 3:00. If I stay OP till after church I will have 3 hours OP. I am a baby at this. I have to relearn how to "do" life - again. I have a beautiful boy here waiting for Santa. Is there a better reason for staying plugged in?
Beverleyjoy: Your food plan sounds good and thanks for the well wishes.
BBE: Credit for the choosing people over appetizers. That is a choice not easily made.
onebyone: I often do better by myself for a few days. Good Luck.

Nature Girl
12-24-2010, 10:43 PM
Best Christmas wishes for tonight and tomorrow filled with joy and family. We'll do our best with the extra temptations, and on Sunday we can choose to get back on track. Hope you can all take a nice long walk (hopefully in the snow,like we will!) for fresh air and to remember our exercise vows!

12-24-2010, 11:57 PM
I'm grateful to have a few moments to sit and :wave: hello and wish you all a happy holiday. I've been remaining very thoughtful about my relationship with food since my last post. I've been reading posts but honestly haven't had a moment to spare.
My family arrived late last night and I had a healthy meal waiting for them. No frills or massive quantities. No one missed dessert or asked for seconds. I was ecstatic upon seeing my bro who has lost a total of 70+ pounds following GI diet principles and behavior modification. Unfortunately, we haven't really gotten to sit and visit about it yet. What was on my mind this morning was being sensible with choices as much as possible so that I might enjoy a treat when presented.

BillBlueEyes, sometimes something gets mentioned which I feel is such an important strategy. Turning in your plate at a party is one of them. Thx! When I finished my dinner tonight I placed the napkin over my plate. A clear signal to everyone that I was done.

I don't have time to respond to everyone individually tonight, but as I read back through posts something really stood out to me. This IS the season where we have every opportunity imaginable to make progress, even when we are having a "moment" where we have to say, oh well. Similar to maryann, I went in the Sr Center for bread the other day and ended up shoveling 3 big stale cookies in my mouth. It was over very quickly yet I learned something. One thing for sure, if I'm going to do that they might as well be healthful and fresh. The progress, too, was that I didn't take them all home.

Thanks to NatureGirl for the walk reminder...I will walk tomorrow.

Merry Christmas!

12-25-2010, 07:55 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Lots of opportunity to overeat - and I didn't; CREDIT moi. Made it to Whole Foods in time to win the free bag of "365 Brand" products, which helps to erase the memory of overpaying for a year. DW had sheepishly asked me if it would be OK for our big Christmas Eve dinner of turkey to NOT have stuffing, or potatoes, or any other 'filler.' It worked well without. Superb turkey, three veggies, and a big salad with diced fruit for dessert. For decadence, I bought a finite sized box of "Truffled Roasted Walnuts" to go with the fruit. Had one plate, limited turkey, lots and lots of veggies, and went back for a second of salad using the dressing that was left in my bowl. CREDIT moi for winning my biggest challenge of the season. Continues to boggle my mind what I learn from young adults talking to each other across a happy table.

Made it to the gym, CREDIT moi, despite a crowded day with shopping, wrapping, and de-cluttering to complete. Got it all done. Even though I'm up late by my standards, it will still be hours before the adult kids get up and Christmas begins. We were up late playing Bananagrams - a Scrabble like game where each player makes their own crossword.

onebyone - That's an inspired way to see your next 12 weeks - as a good time to lay down good eating habits. It might be easier to de-clutter with no one about who has to step over the interim stacks.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for good enough! I didn't gain my weight by occasionally eating a bit too much, but by continuously, seriously overeating. "Good enough" is a victory for me compared to the old days.

Beverlyjoy - Good plan to avoid the stuff you can have ordinarily like rolls. Had to google "Scatagories" - it sounds fun.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Preparing veggies is a nice way to being Christmas. Is your nephew still a young kid with awe, or a teen just reaping the harvest?

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Kudos for preparing a meal with "No frills or massive quantities." Yay for guests who accepted that and enjoyed it enough not to do seconds. My congrats to your brother for his 70+ pounds lost.

Nature Girl - Like the thought of a nice long walk; we have snow, but I'll be walking on the cleared paths.

maryann - Smiling at the memories of a "beautiful boy here waiting for Santa." Enjoy. Ouch for a two hour diversion, with Kudos for stopping and getting back on your horse. It's a profound thought that we are learning how to "do" life - again.

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:
. . .
Continue to plan and monitor what you eat. As you learned on day 41 (pages 261-265), at some point you can experiment with planning and monitoring mentally. Even if you're not writing down a specific food plan, though, you'll need to have a general plan of what you're going to eat each day. After a while, you might be able to get to the point where you don't necessarily need to decide the night before what you're going to have for each snack or meal. You know you'll most likely choose from among your regular menus.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 281.

12-25-2010, 10:40 AM
Merry Christmas to those who celebrate! The family potluck will be little different from other family potlucks. I'll limit myself to small tastes of the wine and cheese that our nephew will bring from Chicago, load up on veggies, and otherwise eat lightly because really the rest of the food won't be that special. I'm most looking forward to my brother joining us at my in-laws (and grateful to my in-laws for including my tiny family in their celebration) and to seeing the nephew who just returned from a semester in Scotland.

WI: kg, Exercise: +60 605/1500 minutes for December, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Beverlyjoy: your Christmas Eve plans sounded lovely -- I hope they were!

onebyone: Yay that you finally have a real plan that you can work toward!

seadwaters: Good job preparing veggies for your day! Our white Christmas is quite beautiful this morning, the tree branches are all topped with snow.

maryann: Good for you for recognizing that you're "a baby at this." That's been so helpful for me to realize from Beck is that I'm not good at this because it requires real skills that I haven't been taught before now. Hope you have a wonderful time with your boy and Santa's visit!

NatureGirl: Enjoy your walk in the snow! I think I'll get my exercise shoveling the stuff this morning so we can get out of our driveway.

Lexxiss: thanks so much for the idea that this is the season for learning from our mistakes! It's all good.

BillBlueEyes: Love this "CREDIT moi for winning my biggest challenge of the season"

12-25-2010, 10:47 AM
Hi Beck Friends - a quick hello and Merry Merry to you all. Some of the tradiitonal foods are coming out for later. I am actually excited about having lamb. I am aiming for no eating standing and no seconds.

My SIL gave me a massage at the hair salon/spa where she goes. I got it yesterday after noon and felt like noodle. What thoughtful gift - she said she thought I needed it after happennings of the past six months. I think she was right.

We played Scattergories last night and I laughed so hard my side was aching. It was so funny to see what folks come up with.

DS told me that my GS was giddy all daya thinking about Christmas. I hope they take lots of pictures. We will be heading to their home tomorrow - for a few days visit there.

I hope you all have a wonderful day. I'll try to get back for some personals later if I can.

12-25-2010, 02:09 PM
Great to hear from all. I'm alone for a moment and I'm enjoying the time to absorb the beauty of the morning. DS hopped into bed with us telling DH to go check if Santa had come. That is the rule. DH has to check. He gave the all clear and we all toppled into the living room. At first DS was disappointed because he didn't see a box the size of the Lego Death Star he wanted. What I learned from that while I comforted him was that it is ok to be and show disappointment. We all just kind of hung out while he worked through it.Then I could visually see him think "oh well." and start to enjoy what he did get. What he didn't know was that the smallest box was a key to the quad parked outside which he had been dreaming of. Life lesson - work through the pain and disappointment, decide to be happy and you never know what is around the corner. They are off to the ranch to start driving the quad. I'm a half hour behind - writing here because I know the effort will allow me to enjoy the rest of the day.
PS I actually think I have found that thrill Gardenerjoy was writing about yesterday. It just comes more quietly, sneaks up on you and spreads out all over. This could be what people call peace.
Beverleyjoy: Love it "laugh so hard my sides hurt" what a great xmas gift. Like the plan of no eating standing up.
BBE: I love your wife's willingness to change tradition to find something that really works. Insanity, as they say, is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. You two sound very sane.
Lexxiss: what a force of change you are in your family. Healthy eating and noone was disappointed. Enjoy the time with you family.
Nature girl: I am packing my shoes for that walk.

12-26-2010, 01:30 AM
Hi Coaches

DH and I drove to pick up my mom and we spent xmas over at my brother's place. About an hour after we arrived the rest of the guests arrived, my oldest sister and one of my nieces, plus DB's step daughter and her DH and their 2 chihuahua's who are always a big hit. They are very well behaved for small dogs, as in, they aren't yappy or skittish. Very Real Dog-like. My mom especally loves the tiny chihuahua and even with her fading memory she can recall little Prada and the other dog named Gucci.

Anyway, credit for a xmas dinner which didn't make me over full and where I didn't have seconds nor did I bring extra food home with me. Also, upon arriving I sampled some cookies but stopped and decided I'd better have some real lunch and so had a sit down meal and that worked. I stopped nibbling. credit

What I didn't do so well on was when we got home I ate some leftover "bad" food in the fridge. *sigh* I ended up overstuffed after all but I did eat everything sitting down today credit. And, as far as xmas gatherings go, my food intake was quite mild. My plate was 1/2 green veggies! But it was easier to choose these foods because I was very self conscious and geez, seeing my siblings, well we are all birds of a feather weight-wise. And we all have this horrible double chin now. I sure want to change that jaw-line. I really don't like it tat we are so much the same weight-wise. I sued to be the only really fat one. Now the three of us are pretty close to the same size. It's just not healthy for any of us.

I told DH the coming months will see me focusing on fish and salads as my primary food sources. I'd like to make that my reality. It seems like a goal I could reach.

Emotionally today I found myself feeling a consistent low level sadness. This was the emotion that steered me to the fridge tonight. Overeating numbs the feelings for awhile, and then they are replaced with self-loathing/repulsion/anger and etc. and then, eventually, the original feeling returns. I have it now. It's brought back this old saying: if I have a problem and I eat over it, then I have two problems.
eh voila.
It's true.
I'm sad about my mom and her memory loss and her deterioration mentally because of Alzheimer's. She had no recollection of shopping with either me or my brother. Everytime she thought this and said this out loud to me, as in, "Oh dear! I didn't get anybody any presents," she was upset. But the fact was that she went twice. She told my brother she didn't have any presents for anyone for Christmas, and this was the day after we had gone out for most of the day shopping. he and my brother shopped that day. And then at the event, and while we were driving over to my brother's place, that's what she kept talking about, that she didn't get anyone any presents and I gently remnded her as often as she said it that she did get presents and they were i nt he car. I just never sank in. And after spending the whole day at my brother's, as I walked her to her apartment door she commented that "she never sees A..." (my brother) and that he never calls. I couldn't help it and pointed out we were just at his place all day for xmas present exchange and opening and for xmas dinner. She totally didn't remember. I think tomorrow she will tell me that the girls who clean her room left all these cookies and candies there and this will be proof that they eat their lunch in her place when she's gone. (She insists this is true. It's not.)

Anyway, I found myself wishing she was okay, that she was the way she'd been most of her life but also knowing that this is as good as it gets and by this time next year she may be in even worse shape. I should be happy she is still holding her own in conversations most of the time and she still is capable of going places. I was also sad because my other sister wasn't there, and in fact is estranged from my brother and the sister that was with us. I don't know what's up with that really but it seems to be the way my family operates. I sure am grateful that it's not me on the outs. For that I am really really thankful. I spent quite a few painful xmases being on the outs. It made me feel sad for the sister who is on the outs now.

I am completely powerless over these situations and eating over the feelings didn't change a thing. My mom isn't magicaly better nor is my family communicating with each other. Instead I get to be cranky about being overful. This is not a very good strategy is it? Nope. But it is good to see the dynamics fairly clearly tonight.

Sometimes I think I write way too much personal stuff here at 3fatchicks. I have to thank you guys for being patient with me and my posts. I could just write all this to myself but I have always had a need for feedback. I really need to know that someone hears me. So thanks for that.

Happy Holidays to all who read this :)

12-26-2010, 07:04 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Christmas morning opening presents was, as always, a joyful time. My kids are good at being grateful for simple gifts - like the dried sugar snaps from Trader Joe's in their stockings. One bag was immediately opened and everyone got a taste. DS immediately started reading the South Park book I got him - Thank you Canada for having such outrageously off-the-wall humor. Eating was OK, CREDIT moi, particularly for avoiding the baked-in-my-face snicker-doodles, and more particularly for avoiding the "burnt" ones that are put aside every year for me since I'm super fond of the dark edged cookies. So far, knock on wood, I've had zero. Which is a good number, since I eat those little guys by the fist full.

I got Marino Wool socks - will just presume them from sheep raised by Shepherdess - and five books including one by Martha Beck so that I can, finally, know what she wrote to be aware when folks confuse her with Dr. Judith Beck. And, as mentioned previously, V by Thomas Pynchon.

Christmas afternoon I took my standard four mile walk, CREDIT moi. It's so odd to see all businesses closed, except for Chinese and Indian restaurants.

onebyone - Yep, Diet Coaches are where you say it so you can hear yourself think; type away. Sending supportive thoughts for you to continue to learn to accept your mother's Alzheimer's. I know the difficulty of being with a person who seems to not be there. The most recent thing I read emphasized that they can, and do, store the feelings of the moment even when they don't store the details, so your mom has the joy and pride of time with your brother even if not the recall-able memory.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Love the awareness in advance that most of the food at your family potluck "won't be that special" - makes it easier to plan rational eating. I still wrestle with this at potlucks when the food is pretty standard.

Beverlyjoy - LOL at "felt like noodle" - what a thoughtful gift to your bits and pieces that need codling.

maryann - I am touched by life lessons from your 8 yo DS; cherish that that kid is already learning from you to be so mentally healthy. The boy in me so wants a quad and a large off road place to drive it. Hope your DS was able to get to sleep last night, LOL.

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:
. . .
Create menus. Research shows that successful maintainers tend to eat many of the same foods from day to day. Most of the maintainers I've worked with have about three different breakfast and lunch menus and about eight different dinner and snack menus. They don't limit themselves to these menus, but they eat these meals most of the time. Having limited options makes life easier. You know which kinds of food can keep you at your Lowest Maintainable Weight. And you know which foods you'll need to shop for every week and how long it will take to prepare each meal.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 281.

12-26-2010, 11:05 AM
SIL set out dinner plates and salad plates. I put my salad on the dinner plate and the rest of dinner on the salad plate! It worked great.

We had a good day, but I'm really looking forward to a quiet week of setting goals and making plans and crafting strategies to meet my new year's resolutions, including getting to my goal weight.

WI: -0.9kg, Exercise: +0 605/1500 minutes for December, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Beverlyjoy: I'm so glad you got a massage -- what a wonderful gift!

maryann: love the lessons you got from your son's experience of Christmas! And wonderful that you found some Christmas peace.

onebyone: I'm glad that we have this place to share both our up and down thoughts. It seems to me that these semi-anonymous places on the web are one of the great gifts of the internet. We can build communities of practice that work better than families for those things that families don't handle so well. And we can be open and honest with no worries that someone we know in real life will come across the material and be hurt or otherwise misinterpret things.

BillBlueEyes: five books is a great Christmas haul!

12-26-2010, 12:53 PM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I am noting that this was my sanest holiday season in recent memory. *credit* Yesterday was amazing. I made a plan for a brunch that wasn't "on my plan" and stuck with it. When I got home I made a small lunch of salad and leftover spaghetti sauce w/ground turkey. I knew it was a long time until dinner and that I would start snacking otherwise. My prepared dinner was OP with no seconds. My bro served dessert. I ate what he served and no more. After everyone left I did make a little appetizer plate with a few olives, crackers and hummus. The "hostess" enjoyed a moderate late night snack while opening her gifts from DH which had waited patiently all day.

I am ecstatic about my progress and am planning my strategy which starts tomorrow. Thank you all for the constant and consistent feedback that you take the time to share. It helps us all!

BillBlueEyes, I was so glad to hear that you had enjoyed your walk and decided to hop on my bike to celebrate. I hauled it all the way to the street to find it had a flat tire. Spontaneous exercise was hauling it back up the stairs. Fortunately my bro stopped by to pick up DH and so I got a different ride to Starbucks. BTW-great job on the snicker-doodles! There are some things that one is just not enough. (I also find ham is a trigger for overeating)

gardenerjoy, what a great technique switching your plates! I, too, am looking forward to a quiet week filled with setting goals and making plans! I'll join you!

onebyone, I never think you write too much personal stuff, but sometimes think I do. Reality is, that it helps me to understand your struggle with food sanity and vice-versa. Your holiday had many individual dramas and I really see your progress and your shining light. Your observations are very powerful learning tools for both you and I. I struggle with the family stuff, too. BTW-My weightloss has helped inspire other family members, but most of all ME.

maryann, very powerful, I agree, to resist the urge to "fix" everything and a wonderful lesson to teach your son. You said, "They are off to the ranch to Ö..I'm a half hour behind-writing here because I know the effort will allow me to enjoy the rest of the day." I have noticed it helps, too, which is why I'm sitting here right now even though I know I have to meet my family very soon.

Beverlyjoy, "no eating standing and no seconds" is a great strategy, especially during special events. Enjoy your time with your GS.

:wave: :wave: :wave: NatureGirl, Shepherdess, Cheryl(seadwaters), CeeJay, Cinemom, MaryContrary, BlueDaisy, Marci(madrikh), maryblu, WoodlandÖ..and anyone I may have inadvertently missedÖ.Let's continue to hang in there. As I read back through all the holiday posts the signs of food sanity are abundant even when we may feel we have moments or days when we feel we fall short.

As I finalize my post, I recognize that I am eager to formulate my new version of my ongoing plan. I will make that my goal for this coming week. I am excited to go into the New Year already following my new plan headed towards my next goal! :bike2: In fact, even though I should be getting ready I'll get at least a 1/2 mile walk in. *credit* to the country club for brunch with the family. I have a plan (thx to BDS)

12-26-2010, 01:38 PM
Hello everyone and Merry Christmas!

My day was wonderful. I baked a healthy coffee cake for breakfast and most everyone liked it (my 10yo wasn't so pleased...) and then I worked on limiting my amounts at dinner. I did eat some unplanned movie popcorn and then a late night snack, a healthy snack, but still off-plan. Well, today is a new day, and I have a plan!

I love Christmas but I also love the week following. I am a big fan of resolutions for the New Year. I'm just not sure how to lose this weight. So I will keep doing what I'm already doing and add in Chronic Fatigue treatment and see what happens.
Today I am going with my husband to the gym to try an elliptical. I am struggling with boredon on the treadmill. Ususally my iPod is what saves me (good walking music + audio books), but my dear friend (iPod) appears to be dying. It IS 5.5 years old, after all, but we have been through so much together.

-checking in here
-making a plan for food and exercise
-eating a healthy Christmas breakfast

Things to focus on
-Sit down to eat EVERYTHING
-focus and enjoy each bite

Thanks everyone!

12-26-2010, 11:15 PM
Coaches/Buddies, hello to everyone and Iím sorry Iíve not been on the boards to support all of you! Iím so impressed with the progress everyone is making! (It kind of makes a little bonus inspiration for me on my return!) Iíve had a chaotic semester and ended up changing research advisors in an ordeal that contained way more drama than my life needed. Nonetheless, Iím on break now and it feels amazing. Iím excited about the new work I will be doing and have a few weeks to get myself organized and back on track with Beck and Superfoods Rx. Iíve not really been paying attention to my eating/food selections at all. But, I did manage to stick with a regular exercise program and I am really proud of myself for that. I need to figure out what I will do in January because the Universityís fitness center is undergoing a major renovation and has just closed until August 2012. Iíve thought about signing up for several dance classes through our community center, but Iím not sure if that would specialized enough for my health needs or intense enough to help with weight loss. More thinking to do on that is needed! Happy holidays to you all!

Todayís Essentials:
Weigh-in: 243 lbs.
Read Advantage Cards two times: no
Read Response Cards at least two times: no
Ate slowly, sitting down, noticing every bite: no
Gave myself credit when I engaged in helpful eating behaviors: yes
Did spontaneous exercise: yes
Did planned exercise: yes
Wrote out food plan for tomorrow: not yet
Tracked todayís food: no
Left food on my plate: yes
Ate only to normal fullness: yes
Identified and responded to a self-deluding thought: no

BillBlueEyes, lovely to hear about a beautiful Christmas morning with your family. Great job avoiding the Snickerdoodles!

GardenerJoy, Iím blown away by your progress! Ten more to go!!!! WOW!!!! Great idea about swapping the plates for dinner! I love that.

Lexxiss, so glad to hear your day was amazing yesterday! You are so close to goal too! Iím so excited for you! Great job for sticking to your off/on plan.

madrikh, nice to meet you! What kind of CFS treatments are you using? This last year I worked with a trainer that specialized in working with people with CFS or Fibromyalgia (what I have). For the first time in my life since my freshman year of high school I was able to work out regularly and consistently. It made a huge difference in my energy levels, endurance of life, and sleep quality. Any chance you could work with someone in your area that could help you do that? It is wonderful to read a post in the Beck group from someone with little ones. I donít remember that being a regular thing when I was last active on the boards.

Onebyone, that has to be really tough with your mom. Great job of keeping positive and eating well with your family. That can be a rough time for a lot of people.

12-27-2010, 06:36 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The day after Christmas was a low key day with, unfortunately, afternoon activities curtailed due to the storm. I sat, curled up on the couch, and simultaneously started all five books of my Christmas haul. The Thomas Pynchon novel, V, ultimately won and I'm getting sucked into it. Eating drifted when I picked up a piece of Russel Stover candy in the morning - not stuff I'm particularly drawn to - and then a second and then a third. Triple Ouch. A bit annoyed that it wasn't a really good piece of dark chocolate or maybe even that mystical See's candy from the West Coast so I'd have experienced that.

Dinner was on-plan, CREDIT moi, my fourth straight meal of turkey. No complaint about that since it was accompanied by roasted butternut squash and sauteed Brussels Sprouts; DW called it "the perfect meal" and I had to agree.

Today's plan is to dig out should it ever stop snowing and blowing.

FutureFitChick - Loved seeing your elephant on the treadmill avatar this morning. Kudos for getting through a turbulent semester that included changing research advisers. A closed fitness center for almost two years seems irresponsible; there might be permanent University Weight Gain, LOL. Hope your alternatives work out. Monster Kudos for working with a specialized trainer with all the benefits you listed.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - I join the others in admiring that plate swap story. Like being reminded that simple ideas can be put to practice for great benefit. Good luck with setting your strategies to finish up your last ten pounds.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Kudos for snaking your way through convoluted circumstances of your Christmas. Ouch for your bike's flat tire; hope you can get that fixed before you get snowed in.

Marci (madrikh) - Confronting your treadmill boredom by trying other stuff seems wise; Kudos for that. My DW solves her elliptical boredom by reading a few pages of some monster novel - most recently completed War and Peace after many, many months. Hope your beloved iPod recovers or that you find a worthy successor.

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:
. . .
Eat consistently day to day. Research also shows that you're more likely to maintain your weight if you don't vary your caloric intake significantly from one day to the next. That means that you might eat more on special occasions but not a lot more. And you won't vary much whether it's a weekend or a weekday.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 281.

12-27-2010, 09:31 AM
Hi Beckfolks! We've travelled to see our DS, DIL, and GS. I am so, so glad we are not near the East Coast. My sister flew from LA to Cape Cod for a couple of weeks. Yikes! She has family in Wellesley, also. I am hoping folks can get through this well. Billbe - I am glad you and your family are safe. All this snow, once again, reminds me of my wedding. LOL

GS just woke up.... I'll be back.

12-27-2010, 10:16 AM
It really hit me as I was working on goals and resolutions yesterday -- for the first time in 20 years, I could reach my goal weight in the next year. Even at the slow pace that I've been losing the last few months, I might make it by my birthday in May. Awesome!

WI: -0.25kg, Exercise: +50 655/1500 minutes for December, Food: 95%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Lexxiss: yay for "sanest holiday season in recent memory"

madrikh: so glad that you had a wonderful day and that you are looking forward to this week!

FutureFitChick: great to see you!

BillBlueEyes: I'm so glad that you're enjoying V!

Beverlyjoy: Hope you're enjoying your grandson today!

12-27-2010, 12:58 PM
FutureFitChick: glad to meet you too; love the elephant! I am new to the tx of CFS, read a book called From Fatigued to Fantastic and I will be following his protocol. I would love to hear more on how you deal with your FS, as the 2 are so similar. I do have access (as a cancer survivor) to a workout/ PT center, with personal trainers available. Perhaps I need to make a call and ask about CFS help. Overall, I do my best with exercise, but get exhausted easily. Oh, I do have one little one, but my other 2 kiddos are 18 and 21:dizzy:
BBE: I can relate to your OUCH, as I just ate an early morning, off-plan, brownie! Moving on. I can read on the TM as long as I'm not walking very fast, otherwise it gets too tricky to hold the book (well, there is a place to put a book, but I have to keep one hand on it). I can't imagine reading on an elliptical!! I'm in awe of your DW. I tried an elliptical yesterday for the first time and had to really work at staying on it. Coordination is NOT my thing!
Beverlyjoy: I hope you enjoy your family visit. How old is your GS?
gardenerjoy: my birthday is in May too, and I would love to be at my goal weight by then. Let's do it!

-plan for today
-elliptical and treadmill and some light weight training yesterday
-ate my off-plan brownie sitting down
-better at eating mindfully


12-27-2010, 02:24 PM
Hi Coaches

I just bought The G.I. Diet Clinic (and dropped off the ones I had out from the library) with the $ I got from returning two xmas gift books that weren't wanted. This version of the gi diet has a 13 week plan in it to follow. The book is based on an online experiment with folks who were over 33 bmi = obese and who had been overweight for over 20 years. The hardcore bunch. That'd be me. The back of the book claims an average weightloss of 25lb over the 13 weeks and an average loss of 10"from the hips and waist region.

DH will soon be gone to Toronto to start the New Job so the vast majority of time I will be here alone. This means I don't have to worry about feeding him so I can really take control of my food. This opportunity probably won't come again. So, dear coaches, I am going to follow the 13 week plan AND I am going to re-start the Beck Pink book. In addition I am packing/decluttering/tossing my whole house.

It's going to be a very productive, very focused Winter for me.
It could be a whole new start on many many levels.

I woke up this morning knowing that I am actually going to "clean out my pantry" and get rid of all the off-plan foods. Since I have to clear out my kitchen and pack and all that I may as well do this. I have NEVER rid my home of the off plan foods. Beck suggests it. I didn't do it. several foodplans suggest it. I have never done it. This time I am doing it. The challenge will be when DH returns but at most he is here 2 days/nights every two weeks. I can cope with this challenge to my foodplan.

OMG so excited! I feel like I have a chance to get a good solid grounding with my food.

12-27-2010, 08:15 PM
Just a quick check in- back from the holiday and it was awesome.

onebyone--your post was 100% inspiring. Love your enthusiasm.

My goals for this week:

1. Clean out all junk food and trigger food from the house.

2. Have heart to heart talk with DH about keeping the junk away from me at all times. He used to be pretty good but he has slid into purchasing sugar snacks and leaving them on the counter. Also eating them in front of me. This developed as I got further and further away from regular healthy eating.

3. Put aside some time with myself to rewrite my advantage cards and add new ones.

4. Rework my food plan.

5. Spend some time thinking about what I am going to do for fun this year and set some goals around fun time and vacations. Book some time off when I get back to work on Wednesday.

6. Spend some time at work this week thinking about what is going to give so that I can bring some sanity to the number of hours I am putting in.

7. Reestablish my no choice rule about a minimum of 30 minutes of exercise a day and doing weights every second day.

8. Eat no sugar starting this very minute. I was doing pretty well on this before Christmas. I need to stop with the cookies, cake, pie, and chocolates right now.

9. Water, water, water

I am so grateful I can come back here for what seems to me to be the millionth time and start fresh.

Here's to 2011!!!!


12-27-2010, 09:15 PM
Today was a good Beck day. I stuck to my plan with the exception of switching dinner. DH doesn't feel well so I made chicken soup. *credit* for resisting picking at the chicken as I made the soup. I read from the green book by opening it to a random page. P 186, Stage 5, The Motivation for Life Plan. In many aspects right where I'm at. Regarding the Daily Motivation Plan, Dr Beck addressed maintaining at a higher weight than your "dream" weight. I gook much of the lesson to heart, especially the part about making sure to keep giving myself credit. She reminded me that I have come quite far-to my credit. Exercise time got taken by family this morning but I saved the day by taking a 12 minute walk-in front of the evening news. I felt good about saying NO CHOICE to afternoon unplanned eating. Tomorrow is planned.

BillBlueEyes, I hope you've survived the storm. I missed the update on the news tonight. I am continued to be perplexed at why I would eat crappy candy instead of something I would truly enjoy. Ouch for Rstover-yuck in my book, too.

onebyone, I'm glad to hear you're going to have the opportunity to get a good solid ground with your food. I have decluttered VS eating many times. Perhaps you can use it as a distraction technique. You said, "This opportunity probably won't come again." I agree, that it is much easier without my DH and his major quantities of junk food.

Marci(madrikh), I might have eaten an off plan brownie, too, but I was saved after I read posts here first. *credit* for sitting down-I really believe it makes a difference.

gardenerjoy, *credit* for your persistence in weight loss which has put you in the spot of actually making a WL goal resolution which is attainable.

Beverlyjoy, glad to hear you are enjoying yourself in a snow free zone.

FutureFitChick, good to hear from you! Great job hopping right back in here as soon as you had the opportunity. Sticking with a regular exrcise program is something not everyone can claim credit for.

CeeJay, your list is very comprehensive and to the point. *credit* and thanks for sharing.


12-28-2010, 07:29 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - My plan for the day was to dig out - as in, I had no other choice. So I did, CREDIT moi for the exercise, in chunks of time of an hour or two. The Boston area's 18 inches were a lot easier than the 29 inches of northern New Jersey. I did miss the routine of going to the gym, but my body was quite satisfied with the exercise it got.

Eating was back to normal; CREDIT moi. The truffled walnuts and snicker-doodles remain in the kitchen, but I've still had ZERO snicker-doodles and only the truffled walnuts at Christmas Eve dinner. CREDIT moi for ignoring those. It continues to annoy me that DW happily consumes one cookie each day and is very happy; it just isn't right.

onebyone - Yay for such determination and clear vision, even with the Ouch for the bunches of weekdays without your DH (and your shinning new red Mazda, LOL.)

CeeJay - Neat to read your clear goal for 2011. Yep, the Beck thread "is where, when you have to go there, they have to take you in."

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for seeing your goal in sight. Only ten pounds to go does seem doable.

Beverlyjoy - I laughed at the reminder of your wedding all the time I shoveled, reminded that it could be a worse - a lot worse.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yep, chicken soup cures anything. Kudos for not picking at the chicken - a monster victory well deserving of credits.

Marci (madrikh) - Ouch for the brownie; Kudos for "moving on." [DW uses a jerry rigged clamp to hold her book while elliptical-ing. I, too, am impressed that she does it.]

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:
. . .
Use good eating habits. Make sure you continually eat slowly, while sitting down, noticing every bite, and stopping when you're just mildly full.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 281.

12-28-2010, 08:07 AM
Hi Beck folks - hoping all of you are doing well. Last night we had a very healthy supper: I've got a new recipe: - in crockpot put three chicken breasts, can of corn, can or black beans drained, can of Rotel tomatoes, spice up chicken with cumin, garlic, chili. Cook and shred before serving with taco shells or on lettuce with some cheese. I am certainly preparing this at home.

I am enjoying my time here with family - but, am looking forward to being back home in my ‘food comfort zone’. (however, not looking forward to being away from family) We will head back home sometime tomorrow. Been gone away for about a week.

I’ve been mindful of one plate of food, no seconds, eat sitting only. I am grateful for the willingness for that much.

Billbe - I am sending major kudo’s for being mostly healthy this Christmas season. You should be proud for your willingness and incorporating Beck techniques so consistently in your daily life. Shovelling DOES count as exercise. Yes, glad you are all safe.

Lexxiss - credit for using so many Beck techniques. Plus - remembering to give yourself credit is a credit it itself. I am so happy to hear you had much food sanity this holiday.

Onebyone - those are awesome goals!!

Marcy - my GS us three - four in Feb. Credit for getting on that elliptical and more!!!!

gardenerjoy - wonderful realization on how far youve come this year and how close you are to many goals. Credit!!!

Grandson just walked into the livingroom. I'll try to get back later.

12-28-2010, 11:26 AM
Even though I'm not going to make my exercise goal for December, I'm trying to finish strong so that I'm in a good position to meet my goals for January. I think one of the reasons that I injured myself this month is that I had been doing one repetitive form of exercise almost exclusively for several months (walking on the treadmill while watching episodes of Doctor Who and Torchwood through Netflix on my iPad). My brain loved that form of exercise, but I need to let my body have some say in this, too! And my body wants more variety.

So, in January, I'm still going to set a goal of minutes per month since that's been working for me for over a year now, but I'm also setting a goal to not repeat the same workout two days in a row. I'm going to indicate that on my log with a * that means I did something different than the day before.

WI: -0.25kg, Exercise: +45* 700/1500 minutes for December, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

madrikh: You're on! Goal weight by May birthdays!

onebyone: Love the excitement and enthusiasm in your post!

CeeJay: What a great list of goals!

Lexxiss: thanks for reminding us about giving credit for weight lost even before reaching any kind of goal weight -- that's been the difference for me between stopping after a month or six weeks and actually continuing this for the long haul.

BillBlueEyes: yay for shoveling snow as exercise!

Beverlyjoy: that recipe sounds yummy! I think you're doing well being mindful during your travels.

12-28-2010, 01:34 PM
Hello Beck friends!

Well, today was WI day and I knew it would be up: 164. Sigh. My weight loss graph for December doesn't look too good. Basically I've gone up and down 2 pounds, repeatedly throughout the month.
I've been reminded again of how rebellious I am about all of this. The one thing that gets me more than anything else is "I want to eat it". Or another version, "I don't want what I've planned, I'll have _______ instead." For me, this is a huge issue.
I need healthy food in healthy amounts. I need very limited sweets. I need to sit down. I need to slow down. I need the Plan. But the rebellious Gremlin sneaks in and I find myself eating a brownie. At least I'm aware: CREDIT.

Today will be a quiet at home day. I am planning a walk outside this afternoon, since insomnia struck last night and I didn't make it out of bed for the treadmill. It will begin getting much colder here tomorrow, so I will get out in the fresh air while I can.

-started on Chronic Fatigue supplements
-have a plan for food and exercise
-read my cards
-checked in here
-awareness of the rebel Gremlin

Best to all!


12-28-2010, 07:50 PM
Hi Coaches

DH left about a half hour ago to head off to The Big Smoke (aka Toronto). The car was packed full with DH's paperback's-for-reselling collection along with some "classic" 70's boardgames. DH's mom mentioned to us that she has a garage sale every spring and to bring what we want to sell at it down to her place. I thought this was crazytalk - I need to get rid of stuff here, not there, and not later - but about two careers ago DH bought and sold stuff on ebay and then when he moved to another job he stopped the garage-sale stuff and what he had then is what went with him in the car. At least DH feels he's started to move things out.

Me? Well I have a sore bicep/shoulder on the right hand side. I pulled it in July and it still hasn't healed. I am actually worried I am going to really injure myself with all my packing so I have to take it slow and be careful with myself. And I am in such bad shape physically! Wow. Huffing and puffing easily. Not much stamina. Lethargic for parts of the day. Easily discouraged. I've really got to get healthy and I guess if I am dealing with the reminders of what it's like to be out of shape every day it should help me stick to my foodplan.

Today I got a blank book for my foodplan/journal and also for my lists/tasks/goals to do with moving.
I need detailed plans for both.
I also got 30 boxes this morning to use for packing plus large black markers and some labels, along with another cheap blank book to keep track of what's in my boxes.
I got a box of 40 garbage bags plus more laundry soap as I want to do a load of laundry a day until I have personally dealt with every washable thing in this place. Once clean I can choose to keep it or to give it away. I also got some basic cleaning supplies to clean up spaces once they are cleared. I am planning on hiring some kind of maid service/house cleaner to really clean the whole place when it's empty so my intention is just to do a basic "okay you're done" kind of cleaning. Management has a lot of work to do in here and they will be ripping out the cabinets, the counter tops, and the floors, plus painting everything to get the unit ready for the next tenants after us. They've done this with two units to the left of us and the one right beside us. They upgrade after the current tenant is gone.

Anyway, enough of this chatter. Foodwise was poor for me today. We went to the movies (saw True Grit-daring to remake a John Wayne movie I tell you-it was good) and had popcorn and I ate an entire bag of gummy things and sure felt sick. A last food "hurrah" one more time. Oh well. It's over.

In addition to all this work ahead of me, I've decided to finally let myself go swimming over at the neighbourhood pool. It's free for residents and about a 5 min walk. The "problem" is that the adult swims are from 8-9pm and I am usually flaked out by then. Since I am on nobody's schedule but my own it doesn't matter if I sleep in to accomodate a swim. There is a hot tub there too and I already know my poor muscles will need the extra attention during this process.

I'm still in the planning on paper phase coaches, not the actual doing it in real life phase but perhaps I can start tomorrow by de-cluttering the food stuffs and getting rid of the off-plan food throughout the place. Whatever is non-perishable can be donated to the foodbank, the rest will be tossed. I am also going to try not to buy any food but to start using up the contents of the freezer. I can tell you, there's a lot of fish in there as when I get the urge to "eat better" I buy fish and then I go off plan and I have fish in the freezer. Time to find some fish recipes.

No personals again coaches, but I am reading all your words. Thanks for checking in :wave:

12-28-2010, 08:59 PM
Hello everyone!

Lexxiss- thanks for the reference to p. 186 Green Book. I am going back to read that again. You have come along way- your ticker says it all. 84 pounds- I mean think about it!!! You should be so proud.

BillBlueEyes- wow what a lot of snow. Credit for ignoring the stuff lurking in the kitchen.

Beverlyjoy- am going to try your crock pot recipe. Sounds like you have been practising some very important Beck principles during your vacation.

gardenerjoy- good for you for changing your exercise plan. Your monthly commitment to exercise is inspiring.

madrikh-darn that Gremlin. He is with me too. (*Slaps him back)

onebyone-nice to start a new book for foodplan/journal. I am doing the same. I laughed at your story about the fish in the freezer that accumulated during motivated times. Time to dig in. :)

For me- I was on plan today. Grateful about that. I ate egg whites for breakfast, plain yogurt and berries for morning snack, salad and barley soup for lunch, and sweet potatoes, a bit of ham, and broccoli for dinner. I am planning on a healthy snack at bedtime. After all the crazy eating lately it feels very good not to feel overstuffed and to have eaten things that are actually healthy.

Credit today for:

:D eating on plan and healthy.
:D doing arm weights.
:D weighing in- that was a complete shock. I am going to reset my stats on January 1- that will give me a few days for my body to start to deal with the water/salt factor.
:D packing up lunch for tomorrow and planning food for tomorrow.
:D reading advantage and response cards.

As far as the goals I set to be done before Saturday:

1. Clean out all junk food and trigger food from the house. DONE
2. Have heart to heart talk with DH about keeping the junk away from me at all times.
3. Put aside some time with myself to rewrite my advantage cards and add new ones.
4. Rework my food plan.
5. Spend some time thinking about what I am going to do for fun this year and set some goals around fun time and vacations. Book some time off when I get back to work on Wednesday.
6. Spend some time at work this week thinking about what is going to give so that I can bring some sanity to the number of hours I am putting in.
7. Reestablish my no choice rule about a minimum of 30 minutes of exercise a day and doing weights every second day.Weights done today
8. Eat no sugar starting this very minute. No sugar today
9. Water, water, water Drank lots of water today

Have a good day tomorrow!!

12-29-2010, 04:58 AM
Today was a good Beck day. I had to do some menu switching which worked just fine. We ate lunch before Whole Foods and I resisted eating anything there although I could have technically had a piece of fruit. Had my snack, instead when we got home. *credit* for an OP day. Exercise didn't happen. I know it doesn't happen if I don't do it first thing. I got behind and didn't fit it in.

BillBlueEyes, I always like the report, "eating was back to normal." I had to chuckle at how DW continues to annoy you by consuming one cookie a day. It annoys me that DH can eat a tray of brownies, a mince pie, cookies ...then have a pizza at Whole Foods before dinnerÖ..I don't know which is worse! BTW Whole Foods was quiet and no samples today. I'll bet that will change by Friday.

onebyone, what a long day for you! Whew! You are getting your plan on paper which is the place to start. You have a long task ahead, but I know you have lots of cheerleaders here! My word of encouragement for you would be that as you get on/stay on your food plan that some of the lethargy you described should really leave you sooner than later. That is sure late for the pool. It's sure worth a try!

Marci(madrikh), credit to you for recognizing the gremlin and knowing what you need to do. I hope the CFS supplements help you. *credit* for posting!

gardenerjoy, great idea switching your exercise. I, too, like keeping track of minutes.

Beverlyjoy, great recipe! Thx! Great job being mindful of food while you have been on your trip.

CeeJay, thanks for the compliment. Beck has the blueprint for keeping it off. In retrospect, I think it was quite easy once I got in the groove and found the right plan. I was very depressed about things in May of 2009 and made a 6 month OP commit. I stuck to it and the weight literally dropped right off. 40+ pounds. The 6 months was a small sacrifice for such great progress. Sticking to your no sugar rule is really helpful. I've observed that sugar is like alcoholic beverages. You have one, then another....then pretty soon you don't care what you eat...add white flour and some fat and the food cocktail is custom made to encourage overeating. *credit* for an OP day. You have checked many items off your list already.

I wanted to post last night, but I'm really having connection troubles at night. I'm not sure why?? I guess I'll have to plan that better, too.:lol:

12-29-2010, 06:35 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Major accomplishment for the day was to replace our wireless router. The difficulty was that I wasn't able to distinguish with certainty when the router was flaky and when our Internet Provider was flaky. Finally convinced myself; bought a new one and am back in business. CREDIT moi even though maintaining internet connectivity isn't a Beck strategy.

Eating was OP; CREDIT moi. The snicker-doodles and truffled walnuts remain in their barracks. Tabouleh was one of the veggies for dinner. I like it so much but have to overcome my feeling that parsley is a garnish not a food, LOL. Walked to my gym, CREDIT moi, bringing with me my enlarged arms from all the snow shoveling.

maryblu - Waving. Congratulations to the Vikings for looking like their old selves.

onebyone - Yay for stuff leaving your place - even if being re-stored at your MIL's. Super Kudos for getting all the bags, boxes, and markers for serious de-cluttering. Hope the swimming works out, especially since that hot tub would be a great reward for the tension of tossing loved items.

CeeJay - Neat to have goals with a specific date, "before Saturday." Especially admirable, "8. Eat no sugar starting this very minute." - no dallying about there.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Kudos for a whole year of setting monthly exercise goals - almost always met, if memory serves me. Ouch for injuries by Doctor Who - whoda' guessed?

Beverlyjoy - Your chicken with cumin and garlic sounds yummy. I know that feeling of loving where I am, but looking forward to the comfort zone of home.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Whole Foods without samples is a dream. Of course, all the samples help me to justify the high prices, LOL. Good luck with your connection troubles; BTDT.

Marci (madrikh) - Yep, "I want to eat it" is our two year old at work, LOL. Your Gremlin thought reminds me of the statues in India that have a thousand hands; I see those and think of how much food I could scarf if I had that many hands, LOL.

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:
. . .
Keep up with exercise. This means both spontaneous and planned, at least to the same degree as when you reached you Lowest Maintainable Weight. If your circumstances change and you need to exercise less, you might have to adjust your Lowest Maintainable Weight. Exercise is often one of the first things to drop off people's to-do list when they get busy. But research shows that it's an essential part of maintenance. Don't let yourself go more than a week (two at most) without doing planned exercise. Do spontaneous exercise every day, no matter what.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 281.

12-29-2010, 01:29 PM
Hi all,
last night was another insomnia night. Made a call to the doctor this morning; CREDIT.

-OP yesterday + 5 prunes
-no exercise yesterday, but because of insomnia, I took a nap instead
-I have started my 2011 food and exercise journal/ calendar
-WI: 163
-checking in
-made acupuncture appointment for tomorrow

I have a real issue with giving my body the care it needs. It all seems to cost so much money when one has chronic illness issues, and I often feel guilty. But I remember acupuncture seemed to help with pain and with sleep, thus tomorrow's appointment.

Hugs to all.

12-29-2010, 01:35 PM
Unexpected new low -- but I'll take it! I suspect it's mostly due to an unexpected TOM -- unexpected because my body apparently thinks a month is two weeks. Perimenopause teaches flexibility.

WI: -1.15kg (new low), Exercise: +45* 745/1500 minutes for December, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

madrikh: I've found my inner rebel will work with me if I can direct her focus. I keep her busy by reading books about the food industry and its engineered foods and ubiquitous marketing, like Appetite for Profit by Michele Simon and The End of Overeating by David Kessler. In turn, my inner rebel gives me fuel to stay away from the products of that industry -- she likes being subversive.

onebyone: good plans. Swimming and the hot tub seems a great addition and allowing yourself to sleep late in order to accomodate it is reasonable. I don't swim much because of shoulder issues, but using a kickboard or doing a back stroke with just legs works. Also, walking in the pool is one of my favorite exercises.

CeeJay: yay for all the credits and for the new red bits on your goals list!

Lexxiss: yay for a good Beck day!

BillBlueEyes: Internet connectivity is central to my Beck strategy since it's required for posting here! Fortunately, DH handles that for me. Including rebooting things first thing this morning. Apparently, the power went out at some point overnight and that brought down our network.

12-29-2010, 06:19 PM
Coaches/Buddies, Iíve been spending my free time the last two days inventorying every bit of food in the house and making a plan for it all. Iíve got most of the serious cooking planned for my winter break (through 1/10/11). After that it will be fast prep meals and eating what Iíve stored up in the freezers. Yippee for a plan and hereís hoping we stick to it relatively well.

Todayís Essentials:
Weigh-in: (did not weigh)
Read Advantage Cards two times: no
Read Response Cards at least two times: no
Ate slowly, sitting down, noticing every bite: ate without distraction, but still ate a little fast
Gave myself credit when I engaged in helpful eating behaviors: yes
Did spontaneous exercise: yes, walking on our giant campus
Did planned exercise: none scheduled
Wrote out food plan for tomorrow: yes
Tracked todayís food: not yet
Left food on my plate: yes Ė only needed Ĺ of my cheese at luch
Ate only to normal fullness: no, ate too much dessert (it was planned I was just fuller at the end that I should have been Ė AKA should have stopped sooner)
Identified and responded to a self-deluding thought: yes, that my tea should be as creamy as a latte! Ha!
Resisted hubbyís very kind attempt to take me out to dinner tonight/tomorrow so we could continue being on the meal plan I made. (He was 90% understanding, so credit to him too.)

BeverlyJoy, your progress is so impressive! Keep up the great work! We had a blizzard the morning of our wedding too. All of the out of town people made it but the in town people wouldnít brave the streets! Your recipe sounds delicious!

BillBlueEyes, hope you are managing with the snow. Ours started melting today and I am most sad about it! Fantastic job at ignoring the ĎDoodles! We had tabouleh at dinner last night too. My husband wanted to make filafel, so I had two small ones of that as well as some hummus. Yumm!

CeeJay, good luck with all of your ambitious changes at once! I really appreciate your no choice exercise statement. Great job on all of the success statements from yesterday!!

GardenerJoy, you are definitely going to make it to your goal weight this next year!!! Great job planning your exercise routine shake-up. I did a happy dance for you at your new low. I am overjoyed for you! (No pun intended!)

Lexxiss, I was inspired by your Beck thoughts from two days ago. I really appreciate you sharing!

madrikh, Iíve got a friend with CFS and she highly recommended (she is also a registered dietician) exploring food sensitivities. Iíve got a book on the topic that Iíll dig out in the next couple of days so I can give you the title/author. It takes you through a series of planned eating days to determine if you are sensitive/allergic to common food items that have been linked in studies to CFS/fibromyalgia symptoms (among others). For me, I have to exercise in the morning, first thing. If I donít it is too easy for me to let my pain convince me otherwise. Massage and chiropractic have also been helpful for me as well.

I also struggle with sticking to my planned food. It is so ridiculous. When I get busy I think, I just need to be on a plan like JC or nutrisystem where my food is planned for me and all I have to do is follow the plan. But, when I have a plan right in front of me, I donít want to execute my plan. Augh!!! It frustrates the daylights out of me.

Onebyone, good luck with cleaning and chucking the pantry. That is a tough one, especially when you have someone else that doesnít understand why it is not good for you to be around those foods. Keep it up! You can do it!!

12-29-2010, 07:33 PM
Hi Coaches

I had a lousy sleep last night then fell asleep around 7am and slept until 9 and woke up all achey and cranky and de-motivated. This is how it goes with me most of the time: get motivated then get de-motivated. A real lack of consistency in my moods. I am going to have to implement a No Choice rule with regards to my emotions as in the plan (food plan/decluttering plan/ exercise plan) happens WHETHER I FEEL LIKE IT OR NOT aka NO CHOICE SISTER. I just give up and give in way too easily. No, really, I do.
Even if I am tired, even if I am achey, even if I am befuddled, I can still do something for heaven's sake.

Oh. I am getting sick and tired of myself. This is always good. I'll soon get mad :mad: and that will be the fuel to make me go. Here's to being fed up with the status quo:hat: hiphip hooray! hiphip hooray!

weighed in this morning: 281.2
made food from scratch
have tomorrow's food planned and also a plan for a few days after that
no sugar today
did *light* planned exercise

Working on:
decluttering my pantry of bad foods/old foods/foods bought but I will never eat/off-plan food
stayng focused and positive and motivated one day at a time

12-29-2010, 08:07 PM
I am back in town and was planning to jump in on today's posts but then realized my house guests (DNs - 3 and 7) with my son constitute a posse that must be corraled. So personals later. OP today although I combined pm snack with lunch on spur of the moment and now at 4:00 I declare hunger is note an emergency. I can wait until dinner. I know I can. Ended the xmas season with no weight gain so that is a triumph. Like gardenerjoy, I am making plans for the New Year to focus on reaching goal in next two months. THis might include another calorie cut and/or more exercise. The most important requirement, though, is willingness.

12-29-2010, 09:52 PM
Today was a good Beck day. I have my books on my nightstand and opened to a random page. A good message for the day-I'm in the green book...Success Skill #6 "Overcome Hunger, Cravings and Emotional Eating." Emotional most difficult hurdle of all.
My food was OP, except for the small bits of homemade goodies which just arrived from Hawaii. I had my tiny allotted bites and gave the rest to DH to add to his stash. *credit* My mind really went through all the possibilities for the cookies. I got my 30 min walk in early. *credit* because I had to stop what I was doing and say no choice. It was a good choice because the day just got busier. I am happy with my choices and am glad to be getting some reading in even though it's just a few pages every day.

I may return after dinner if I can hold onto my internet connection.

12-29-2010, 09:54 PM
Hi everyone

BillBlueEyes- lots of credits for you. Nothing like shovelling to pump up the arms.

madrikh-yay for starting your food and exercise journal a few days early.

gardenerjoy-I like your ideas about taming the inner rebel by getting her to fight the industry. When I quit smoking I read a book about the tobacco companies and the brainwashing they have done with smokers. It really helped to feel like I was fighting back and taking one stat off the tobacco companies sucker list, especially since it was the inner rebel that started me smoking in the first place.

FutureFitChick- very nice to be saying hello to you again. Your cooking plan sounds smart. I need to do the same- good to have things stored up for days you can't cook.

onebyone-sorry for your lousy day. Amen to NO CHOICE SISTER.

maryann- congratulations on no weight gain for Christmas. Nice present to yourself. I am excited for you and gardenerjoy on your nearness to goal.

Lexxiss-yay for a good Beck day. Thanks for the motivation re 40 pounds in 6 months. I'm on it. :hug:

Second day on plan for me. It feels good. I ate egg whites for breakfast, plain yogurt and berries for morning snack, salad and tuna sandwich for lunch, an orange for afternoon snack and brown rice, brussel sprouts and pork tenderloin for dinner. I am planning on a healthy snack at bedtime.

Credit today for:

:cool: eating on plan and healthy
:cool: weighing in
:cool: packing up lunch for tomorrow and planning food for tomorrow.
:cool: reading advantage and response cards

As far as the goals I set to be done before Saturday:

1. Clean out all junk food and trigger food from the house. DONE
2. Have heart to heart talk with DH about keeping the junk away from me at all times.
3. Put aside some time with myself to rewrite my advantage cards and add new ones. DONE
4. Rework my food plan.
5. Spend some time thinking about what I am going to do for fun this year and set some goals around fun time and vacations. Book some time off when I get back to work on Wednesday.
6. Spend some time at work this week thinking about what is going to give so that I can bring some sanity to the number of hours I am putting in.
7. Reestablish my no choice rule about a minimum of 30 minutes of exercise a day and doing weights every second day.Weights done yesterday
8. Eat no sugar starting this very minute. No sugar for 2 days
9. Water, water, water Drank lots of water today


12-29-2010, 11:29 PM
BillBlueEyes, I'm wondering how those enlarged arms are feeling after both shoveling and a workout. I'm wondering when the snicker-doodles and truffled walnuts will finally disappear. *credit* for vigilance .

Marci(madrikh), *credit* for self care. I hope you have a better night tonight.

gardenerjoy, thanks for the book suggestions. I've read Kessler's but not Simon's.

FutureFitChick, Yay! for extreme organization.

onebyone, great job staying focused even when you are feeling overwhelmed. My thought when reading your post was to remind you that the further you get from the sugar the better you will feel. My DH is always telling others how he is energized and doesn't have the mood swings. He was a real serious consumer.

maryann, yay! when hunger is not an emergency!

CeeJay, yay! for crossing accomplishing more of your list.

Take care everyone! I really have sabotaging food thoughts at the moment. Will say NO CHOICE and enjoy an orange instead.

Nature Girl
12-30-2010, 01:48 AM
Coaches I read every one of your posts and then get ready to write and don't know where to start. I'm on plan, I'm off plan, I'm at home and tempted, I'm at parties or events and either tempted or able to focus. It's back to that shotgun thing again! I'm actually looking forward to the routine of being back to work next week because that structure really seems to help. In between, we have a 4 day, 450 mile one way trip to see our DD#2; we take off tomorrow am. I can plan and pack for traveling (already have) and will be able to exercise each day, but will have to really stay on my toes Friday and Saturday with a birthday party for DD #3 and ???what else planned. I'm bringing breakfast food and my 1oz dark chocolate evening treat for each day; also fruit for snacks so I'm 1/2 way there I hope.
I got to the rec center Monday and today for good workouts after a 4 day gap over the holiday That walk I planned for Christmas day? Totalled by grandparent issues :( But the workout felt good, especially Mon when I took DD#1 with me--she spent plenty of time at the rec center before she graduated from the university. I kicked her but on leg work, but she truly has abs of steel!
OK, so credit moi for finally checking in with my scattershot target and plans,
and more credit for the workouts and especially for the healthy food I've packed for tomorrow. I've got a new strategy for dinner so I'll test that and get back to you.
Will see if I can post from Oregon....

12-30-2010, 07:14 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating OP; CREDIT moi. Snickerdoodles and truffled walnuts remain untouched; CREDIT's moi specifically for those. But the biggest success was the moment I decided that I needed a hit of mixed nuts for a second afternoon snack; "hunger" was most likely that I didn't want to do the next thing I was about to do. I was walking to the pantry to get the jar before I realized that I was on an eating plan and they weren't. So, I whipped out NO CHOICE and had a glass of water. CREDIT moi again.

Exercised by bringing some dozen bags and boxes of clothes and stuff to Good Will! CREDIT moi, even though most of it was sorted out by my DD to her great and everlasting credit. I so admire that kid's ability to see that some cherished item of her past is ... past, and just chuck it out without looking back.

onebyone - A "no sugar today" day is a good day indeed; Kudos. Yay for channeling mad into action.

FutureFitChick - That's a big job - to inventory all the food in your house; Kudos for thorough. And more Kudos for leaving half your cheese at lunch; those little victories accumulate in the neurons to change the way we think. [Tabouleh, hummus, and falafel - it doesn't get better than that.]

CeeJay - Such a constructive list of credit; Yep, Kudos indeed. Stellar food plan for the day.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - D*rn Amazon's one click; Appetite for Profit by Michele Simon is now on its way. Thanks for the mention. Yay for a new low scale reading.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Each small step to curb "Emotional eating" is a victory; Kudos. I'm impressed that you were satisfied with "tiny allotted bites" of goodies shipped from Hawaii. Yay for "NO CHOICE and enjoy an orange instead."

Nature Girl - 450 miles is a long drive; we East Coast types tend to forget how far folks in the South and West are willing to travel. Kudos for thoughtfully planning your travel foods and your dark chocolate snack.

Marci (madrikh) - Ouch for insomnia, with Kudos for recognizing your obligation to take care of yourself, despite the pain of the expense.

maryann - LOL at your posse; cousins are particularly adept at egging each other on - rarely to the good. Neat to be able to see the possibility of meeting your goal.

Readers - chapter 12
How to Stay at Your New Weight

Okay, now you need to learn how to stay there:
. . .
Continue to get support. Even at the maintenance phase, it's important to check in periodically with your diet coach and report the status of your weight, if for no other reason than to keep yourself honest. In addition, your coach can help you solve problems and offer emotional support during stressful times. Both will prevent you from reverting to eating as a coping strategy. Even when you're not feeling particularly stressed, you might need occasional help in continuing to create enough time and energy to maintain your weight.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 281-282.

12-30-2010, 07:38 AM
Hi folks... we had to come to Cleveland, as my stepmom (I refer to as other mother) had a bad fall. Her face is all black and blue as well as a huge swollen 'shiner'. We are taking her to the eye doctor this morning. The ER did some MRI's etc. We don't exactly know what happened. We will probably get home sometime in the next day or two. I am grateful that my cousin was with her and took her quickly to the ER when it happened.

I have done some stress eating. Am anxious to get home when we can.

Have a good day.

12-30-2010, 02:00 PM
We're going to the Symphony tonight to see Charlie Chaplin's City Lights with the orchestra playing the music. It's a silent film, but Charlie Chaplin composed the music to be played along with it. We're really looking forward to it. And, having been to a movie at the symphony once before, I know to save a starch serving so I can have a bag of popcorn with the movie.

WI: +0.9kg, Exercise: +50* 795/1500 minutes for December, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

12-30-2010, 02:11 PM
Good to read that everyone is making plans and checking in, even as the last of the holidays loom. How great it is we already have a solution and won't have to search around madly for the next big diet like all the other resolutioners do? How many years did I swallow the next magic bullet after eating like a pig on the 31st because it was my "Last Supper." My plan might not be perfect but it is a solution.
Weighed in, OP breakfast if late because of little guys running around. I did laundry which felt great. My new wardrobe is freshly washed and waiting for work to begin again. I , like naturegirl, do enjoy the structure of work plus I'll get to show off my new duds.
BBE: Throw the snickerdoodles away! Off them to the homeless. Just a suggestion - I never met a cookie who couldn't triumph over me eventually.
Beverleyjoy: I am so sorry to hear about your step mom. That is stressful just in the fact of your own powerlessness.
CeeJay: Congrats on 2 days OP. this is a big deal!
Lexxiss: Enjoy the orange.

12-30-2010, 04:06 PM
I finally got my hands on a copy of the Beck Diet for Life. We have only one copy in the library system (boo!), but now it's my turn. I'm only in the first 2 chapters, but I wanted to put a shout out to everyone who has experience with this method.

I'm still working on making a reward list, but I'm struggling to find less expensive reward options that will still make me feel like I'm celebrating. I'm excited to try CBT with sensible eating. It has always been my psyche that has hindered my weight loss. I will check in here regularly for accountablility and updates.

12-30-2010, 07:30 PM
Coaches/Buddies, Iím having an unusually painful day today. ☹ And Iím having one of those days where I keep distracting myself from what Iím trying to do. Frustrating all over.

Todayís Essentials:
Weigh-in: +1
Read Advantage Cards two times: no
Read Response Cards at least two times: no
Ate slowly, sitting down, noticing every bite: yes
Gave myself credit when I engaged in helpful eating behaviors: yes
Did spontaneous exercise: no
Did planned exercise: none planned
Wrote out food plan for tomorrow: yes
Tracked todayís food: yes
Left food on my plate: no
Ate only to normal fullness: yes
Identified and responded to a self-deluding thought: no

BeverlyJoy, good luck with your MIL. How lucky your cousin was there!

BillBlueEyes, fantastic job crushing that nut craving! Nice job on getting rid of junk. I was I could convince some of my family that stuff just becomes junk if it is no longer needed anymore.

CeeJay, great job with all of your credits yesterday!

GardenerJoy, what a terrific evening! That sounds wonderful.

Lexxiss, yesterday sounds like a terrific day for you. Congratulations.

maryann, nice to meet you! Sounds like an awesome posse at your house! Reaching your goal sounds very wonderful! Congratulations on seeing that in your future.

M0vinon, nice to meet you. There are some many nuggets in Beck. I think youíll really enjoy them!

Naturegirl, nice to meet you! Your plan sounds terrific and major congratulations for having fitness fun be a family activity. What a tremendous lesson you are sharing with her!

Onebyone, great job on committing to NO CHOICE. How is the decluttering going?

12-30-2010, 09:00 PM
Just a quick check in tonight- I am beat.

Third day on plan!!!! I ate egg whites for breakfast, plain yogurt and berries for morning snack, salad and tuna sandwich for lunch, an apple for afternoon snack and Beverlyjoy's chicken in the slow cooker recipe she posted a few days ago with whole wheat tortillas for dinner. I am planning on a healthy snack at bedtime.

Credit today for:

eating on plan and healthy
weighing in
packing up lunch for tomorrow and planning food for tomorrow.
reading advantage and response cards
doing arm weights

As far as the goals I set to be done before Saturday:

1. Clean out all junk food and trigger food from the house. DONE
2. Have heart to heart talk with DH about keeping the junk away from me at all times.
3. Put aside some time with myself to rewrite my advantage cards and add new ones. DONE
4. Rework my food plan.
5. Spend some time thinking about what I am going to do for fun this year and set some goals around fun time and vacations. Book some time off when I get back to work on Wednesday. DONE
6. Spend some time at work this week thinking about what is going to give so that I can bring some sanity to the number of hours I am putting in. DONE
7. Reestablish my no choice rule about a minimum of 30 minutes of exercise a day and doing weights every second day.Weights done twice this week
8. Eat no sugar starting this very minute. No sugar for 3 days
9. Water, water, water Drank lots of water today

Have a great Friday everyone!!!:grouphug:

12-30-2010, 10:53 PM

It's almost time for bed and I thought I'd do a quick check-in. I am procrastinating, as is my nature, but still deserve credits for getting 4 bags of garbage out (3 were gathered by DH before he left but I did get them out of the house so I do get a credit), cleaning out the fridge of yukky food, cooking from scratch and staying on plan, drinking more water, just resting and taking time which is what my psyche seems to need right now. I'm just trying to listen to myself and not be harsh. I know that the work I need to get done will get done. I've also made tentative forays into my future home; an acquaintance has been in touch about a possible studio in the Big City itself; I've emailed two places about their ads for houses for rent (one outside of the The City on a lake no less (my personal dream). It may be a trek to the city and my studio but DH could drop me at the transit connection so I could make it work. I'm trying to move myself forward but I need extra time to mentally adjust. The whole packing thing is really daunting.

Have a great night coaches.

12-31-2010, 01:12 AM
Hi Coaches
I have been keeping up with your posts and am enjoying the air of enthusiasm and new resolve - it is catching. I have been getting refocused for an assault on my weight in the new year (less than 12 hours away!). I have redone all my Advantage and Response cards and have found a new iPhone app to do it with - ďNotemasterĒ. I can synchronise my Notes with Google Docs and also cut and paste ideas and suggestions from the board to G/Docs and synch with phone. It works well. I need to spend time getting food organised but after today I will be rid of most off-plan food. I am also redoing my daily goals which are below - it will take me a couple of days to get a good list of credits going but as of tomorrow I will be back on my eating plan. The main hurdle in the near future is my 60th birthday on 15th January - I am going away for three nights with my sister to the city and we have a fairly lavish dinner planned (a degustation) - I plan to be ďoff-planĒ that night - which means it is on plan! And for the other days to add the suggested extra calories - so I am thinking ahead to prepare myself. I havenít done so well over Christmas / new year so need to plan better. Hopefully by next holiday season these behaviours will be ingrained

BillBlueEyes - Ouch for all the snow to be shovelled. And your resistance muscle is getting a great workout with the seasonal treats on the counter. You do like a challenge. I want to be you next Christmas
BeverlyJoy - Hope your other mother recovers quickly and hope you can get to the comfort of you home soon
CeeJay - Your goals for the week are inspiring and it is great to see that you are gradually achieving them. Hope you get on top of the work demon. Credit for 3 days on-plan
FutureFitChick - Really good to see you here - hope your new year is less painful and frustrating
GardenerJoy - Your Charlie Chaplin movie and music night sounds great - enjoy
Lexxiss - Credit for planning and stopping after starting to eat cookies! You have come so far on Beck and 3FC - credit to you.
Maryann - You are so right - it is great to have a plan to follow with NY resolve. I think I still have the last supper mentality - but it is reigned in somewhat to usual. The number of times I have put on 10 pounds waiting to go on a diet. Yay for a goal of goal in 2 months
MovingOn - WELCOME - I look forward to seeing you post here. Rewards are interesting - you will see different examples here. I know what you mean by not expensive but meaningful. I try to put money towards a new wardrobe which hopefully I will need
NatureGirl - Credit for all the exercise and credit for planning for your trip. Enjoy your visit
Onebyone - Credit for de-cluttering and de-junking (food). Moving is high on the list of stress inducing life events so you are doing well

:no: - Stayed within my food plan
:no: - Measured all my food
:no: - Logged food
:yes: - Developed food plan for tomorrow
:no: - Sat down to eat
:no: - Ate mindfully and enjoyed every bite
:no: - Recognised hunger / desire / craving
:yes: - I stopped eating when satisfied
:yes: - Drank water
:yes: - Checked in
:yes: - Weighed myself
:yes: - Read advantage cards
:yes: - Read response cards
:no: - Read Beck
:no: - Did planned exercise
:no: - Incidental exercise

Have a good day

12-31-2010, 06:53 AM
:welcome: Cindy (M0vingon) :welcome:

And, in case you didn't get one of these some four and a half months ago when you joined, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find the Beck forum on 3FC?