General chatter - Do you/Have you told your friends about 3FC? Why or Why not?




Ciao
11-22-2010, 08:07 PM
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The title is pretty much self-explanatory. :lol:

I'm not shy at all about my weight loss. I tell
my friends about it all the time and it's surprising
how much my other friends are going through
the same thing. We've all developed this support
system that is so amazing! They're really thankful,
and I'm thankful as well, to have someone to
talk to when times get rough.

They're always asking me "what's your secret?"
And I give them various websites (which I have
also posted in my blog) that have helped! But
one thing I have failed to mention is the amazing
support here on 3FC. It's something I will not
tell them about. On here I find it much easier
to express other personal things that I do not
want my friends knowing about.

What about everyone else? :)
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zoritsa
11-22-2010, 08:23 PM
I've told my friends and family that I want to see succeed in weightloss.I don't think they've checked out the site though :chin: Oh well,their loss.

Sunday
11-22-2010, 08:26 PM
Yes, being online is such a big part of my day. I'm always talking about what I do on the net, lol.

My boyfriend knows about 3FC. I tell him "so I was on my weight loss site and blablabla". :)


spixiet
11-22-2010, 08:45 PM
Nope... I'm not comfortable talking a lot about weight loss with friends and/or family, but having this online support has been instrumental in my success this time around. Having a place where I can anonymously (unless any other random people in my life are on here and recognize my picture) ask questions, vent, whine, etc. is kind of like having my own personal therapist :) If someone asked who really needed assistance, I'd probably tell - but otherwise, not something I'm feeling at all inclined to advertise.

matt_H
11-22-2010, 08:52 PM
Yes.

One of my friends posts here all the time and is doing amazingly well! (Jess, if you are reading this, I'm talking about you!). :)

JessLess
11-22-2010, 09:16 PM
Yes.

One of my friends posts here all the time and is doing amazingly well! (Jess, if you are reading this, I'm talking about you!). :)

I was just going to say, my friend Matt told me and it's helped me a lot so I would tell others if I thought they would appreciate it.
:goodvibes:

Sunshine73
11-22-2010, 09:25 PM
When it comes to losing weight I tend to be very private so other than one very good friend who also struggles with her weight and my hubs I haven't told anyone about this site.

saef
11-22-2010, 10:16 PM
This site is completely public, but sometimes I treat it like a diary or a journal, and I tell things that I haven't told a soul in real life, or have only told to one or two very old & close friends who have also struggled all their lives with their weight. So it would feel strange for me to know that someone who knows me personally is reading me here.

I recognize the paradoxes inherent in this situation, but hey, I never said I was a completely rational being.

Sheridan
11-23-2010, 12:45 AM
Hi,
What does balayage mean?
Thanks Sheridan

Windchime
11-23-2010, 02:21 AM
I have only told one person that I know about this site, and that's because I trust this person not to judge me. But other than that, no, I haven't told anyone. Because I don't want to lose my anonymity. Selfish? Yes. But it's called Google, people--that's how I found this place, so anyone who is seriously interested in an online weight loss support forum will find 3FC if they have even basic Googling skills. So I don't feel too guilty about my silence. :)

RoseRodent
11-23-2010, 04:46 AM
No, because most of my friends know me online rather than IRL. They'd immediately recognise my username and I don't want too many people I already know being mixed up in a place where I can get some private support. If I were more anonymous with a different username or something then maybe I'd let people know about it, but I don't know that many people who are overweight, many of my friends are underweight because they can't eat properly (physically) and the two that are slimming are both WW so they have support.

EZMONEY
11-23-2010, 08:43 AM
My family knew from the moment I got on here....they even had to set my profile up for me as I had no clue how to :D

but that was almost 9 years ago! I can do it for myself now :carrot:

I came across 3FC on a recipe search and noticed Christian Encouragers...that interested me....my wife/kids showed me how to get on and the rest is history....

Angie only comes on if I show her something...I do share stuff from here with her and she pretends to pay attention ;)

My adult children will bring it up every now and then with "how are your fat chicks?".....they remember some of the funny threads of the past with their marriages, etc.

Even the guys at work will say from time to time...."so what's new with your fat chicks?" We have had some good conversations on topics here....

we don't close them down :mad: ;)....although sometimes the topic does get heated!

anyway....moving on....

To be honest, I don't think any one that I would share this with would try to "check" up on me....

they just know it's "me being me" :D

GradPhase
11-23-2010, 04:02 PM
I've told the bf, his fam, classmates - but that's about it. Nobody on a personal level that would join it, I guess

caryesings
11-23-2010, 04:28 PM
I talk about it regularly but not a single person has asked for the actual website name. I even specifically showed one person the site, but don't think she even bookmarked it.

krampus
11-23-2010, 08:07 PM
I introduced kawaii_candie to the site and elleohelle introduced me. We know each other from a Japan-related forum and so we were e-friends before joining 3FC.

It's a pretty darn personal thing for me and I don't think anyone knows I post on here.

Eliana
11-23-2010, 08:46 PM
This site is completely public, but sometimes I treat it like a diary or a journal, and I tell things that I haven't told a soul in real life, or have only told to one or two very old & close friends who have also struggled all their lives with their weight. So it would feel strange for me to know that someone who knows me personally is reading me here.

I recognize the paradoxes inherent in this situation, but hey, I never said I was a completely rational being.
Yes, this is how I feel too. My DH knows about it and annoyingly reads over my shoulder at times, but he doesn't visit here at all. Thank goodness! LOL! I'm well aware that I say more than I should here.

I was thinking about this today, actually. I'd love to write Dr. Oz and share the "secrets of my success". :D But one of my "secrets" is this place, and goodness, I wouldn't want everyone I know looking me up here. And with pictures posted, it wouldn't be all that difficult to figure me out.

jules1216
11-24-2010, 08:52 AM
Hubby definitely knows and specifically about the little group of friends I have made on the Back in Kindergarten thread--cards have been sent, baby shower gifts because we live so far apart and I get emails and they are friends on my facebook. They have been there encouraging and supporting me through my parents battle with cancer and deaths these last two years..

I haven't been doing well with losing but I never want to lose their encouragement!!

When I was doing well with the weight loss and people asked I sent emails with the link to several of them. I don't think any of them started posting, one friend was a lurker for awhile..as someone else said...their loss.

MiZTaCCen
11-24-2010, 11:10 PM
I tell people who are trying to lose weight and when they ask me what's my motivation, I tell them I come on this site just to interacted with other people in the same boat, plus it's fun at times. Most of them just shrug it off, maybe have even checked out the site but I doubt they would sign up to it. Plus most people I know have an excuse as to why they can't lose weight or blah blah blah this and that. I personally don't have an excuse nor do I make them.

Aunty Jam
11-25-2010, 04:55 PM
I feel the same as saef and Eliana, heck this isn't even my regular on-line name. My husband knows I'm on a "diet" site, and since he's a tech it would be hard to hide from him. But I'm trusting him enough that he won't snoope (he better not!).

I really wanted somewhere that I could be 100% completely open and honest about my weight and depression issues. Besides my husband none of my friends know I'm bi-polar, I haven't even told my family (I have a sister who is worse then me so compared to her growing up I was relatively normal). And I really needed a place to talk about hubby too to be completely honest.

FreeBird3
11-29-2010, 12:12 AM
No, I haven't told anyone that I'm on this message board and I plan to keep it that way. I've posted the biggest skeleton in my closest (being sexually molested at the age of 6 by a relative) and, as a coping mechanism, turning to food for comfort (hence the physical and psychological weight issues).

SheriWantsToRun
11-29-2010, 08:06 AM
My fiance' knows, but I doubt he'd be check it out because 1) he's ridiculously fit and doesn't need the support and 2) I believes he respects me enough not to.

Wild Vulpix
11-29-2010, 12:00 PM
I told a dear friend of mine who is looking to lose 100+ lbs, although I kept my username completely secret. There's so many members on this forum, that I doubt she'd ever recognize me.