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11-20-2010, 02:37 AM
I came into this with some plans in the back of my mind about doing Zumba, the P90X Ab Ripper workout, maybe giving running a go... but I haven't.

As someone who has abused exercise in the past, who has put off losing the weight once and for all for five years because she thought weight loss had to be a miserable and soul destroying experience, I am really wanting to sort of show myself that weight loss can be easy and stress free... and done my way.

So I'm not planning to introduce a fitness baseline until maintenance. The result is that I'm actually looking forward to it and I don't feel overwhelmed by making a huge number of changes to my habits at once.

Anyone else? What are your reasons? Too busy, tired, hate it, unable?

11-20-2010, 02:43 AM
I havn't been yet. But I see this as a long process and I'm losing weight without it right now. I figure I'll put it off a bit, get the food right and add the exercise after a bit

11-20-2010, 02:46 AM
i am losing without it as well, i will eventually as well, but on my terms :)

11-20-2010, 02:56 AM
Thanks for writing back guys.

I was nervous after I posted this thread, worried I might get told to harden up/don't cop out etc., although I shouldn't have been - 3FC is too friendly for that!

So I'm glad I'm not alone!
Baby steps, right? And I think it's okay to admit it, I really dislike exercise.

I'm going to find something I can get into a few days a week in maintenance though, the maintenance subforum TFL threads convinced me.

11-20-2010, 03:01 AM
I'm walking, and almost daily I walk more and more ~ I went out 3 times on Thursday! ~ but no gyms or workouts: I start a gym with great enthusiasm and a tied-in monthly contract for a year but peter out after a couple of months. Decided to save my cash for a bit longer.

11-20-2010, 03:02 AM
I try to exercise, but I don't regularly.

11-20-2010, 03:06 AM
I have been weird about it lately. I go through very long periods (well, months anyway) of being super faithful, then about a month of being completely lethargic. IDK why that is, but it's all too common for me. I am trying to get back in action right now, though. The holidays and their sweet offerings are never my friend.

11-20-2010, 03:07 AM
i've been seriously slacking, making excuses- my exercise pants don't fit, my ipod isn't charged, i don't have a cute water bottle.. etc,- and only been once this month. It's kind of embarrassing that a couple of people in my gym have noticed that I haven't been going, but tomorrow i'm going to go get new pants, and have already planned to go.

I'm lucky I have people in my life to keep me accountable with exercise, but i'm not a huge fan, unfortunately

11-20-2010, 03:16 AM
Feeling a looot better now about lying on the couch talking about exercise on 3FC. :cool:

LOL therex, not having a cute water bottle! That's my kind of excuse. :)

11-20-2010, 03:29 AM
I haven't push myself to exercise when I don't want to, and I've found that when I eliminate chocolate (my only real weakness, but to a ridiculous degree), reduce carbs such as pasta, rice and bread, and focus on nutrient-dense foods, my energy goes through the roof and I want to exercise in all kinds of ways just to expend the energy, never mind that I know it's good for me.

So for me, it's worked best to sort out my food and then introduce exercise later because I almost feel as if I have to.

Arctic Mama
11-20-2010, 03:57 AM
I don't exercise for weightloss benefits, I do it because it makes me feel good - energetic, happy. Its about the only alone time I really get during the day, to just zone out and listen to music.

Exercise minimally impacts my caloric deficit - the main purpose of it, for me, has to do with just out everything BUT weightloss. Different exercises appeal to me for physical benefits - mainly the impressive muscle tone and strength I get from weight/resistance training. But even that isn't for weightloss, because to build good muscle I need to eat more calories than my current diet allows for. So for now, my only exercise is cardio as I want it, and for the sole purpose of making me feel good. If it doesn't do that, I won't do it :)

11-20-2010, 04:05 AM
I go between being in periods where I'm super into exercise, do it almost everyday, have a set plan and stick to it whether I feel like it or not, and then periods where I won't exercise whenever it rains or is too cold (hint: it's rained and/or been cold almost everyday for the past few weeks ;) ). I love to walk, and I have technically been doing a lot of that, but more because I have to get some places by walking than it being actual set exercise haha.

11-20-2010, 06:25 AM
When I first started this up back in May, I did not exercise at all. I, like you, was really trying to get the eating down pat first -- because lets face it, that is the biggest problem for most people who weigh what I did. I left it on the table, saying to myself that I don't just desire to be skinny, but fit and active as well. No pressure, though! I started walking my dogs very short distances in late August, gradually increased, and now that the cold weather is here, have actually WANTED to keep exercising very moderately -- so I pulled out my dusty Wii Fit I got last Christmas. It's been fun, and I find I "feel like" doing it more than I expected I would. But still no pressure! I'm losing well without it, but now a little bit of exercise fits in well with my healthier lifestyle. :D

11-20-2010, 06:42 AM
I took a complete break from the gym recently for about 3 months. It didn't have much impact on my weight, but it has done on how I feel.

I'm not one of the "Now that I'm losing I have to do a marathon" types of people. Going for a walk is always a good thing, even if I have to go to an indoor mall to do it. I joined the gym so I could use machines and weights. I don't lift really heavy because my joints can't take it. I don't do spin classes or boot camps or any of that kind of thing.

So don't feel like you "have" to exercise like that. The biggest part of the weight loss formula is the food. That said, if someone has insulin resistance, they really do need to stay fit to reverse that. I'm pretty sure I have it, and I think that's why I haven't felt as well since stopping the gym.

I just joined a new gym! You can find some that don't have contracts and have cheap monthly rates, if you think it would help. I thought I would exercise at home with DVDs etc. when I stopped my old gym, but in reality I don't do that. I need to get out of the house and to a place where the only thing to do is exercise.


11-20-2010, 06:47 AM
Exercise does not have to be some horrific sweaty horrible thing.

You just want to burn some extra calories. Making this process SO much easier.

Exercise for me, anyway consists of walking, walking, walking. When I was in the losing portion of my journey, I also danced - just popped on the radio or Itunes and danced my fool head off for 30 minutes. I also did Leslie Sansone's WATP dvd's. VERY simple, and doable - and effective.

It's also very important to keep in mind, that you want to lose FAT, not muscle. This is crucial. And that involves strength training. Again, I never lifted weights or anything like that. But instead I turned to a resistance band. It's very simple, easy, doable - and effective.

I urge you, urge you, urge you to incorporate this into your life. I firmly believe that once you get into it, you will wonder why you were so reluctant to and wonder why you didn't do it early.

Scolding (with good intentions) over. :)

11-20-2010, 07:25 AM
Bodies are made to move. But you don't need to do zumba or p90X or Blast Away Your Buns or anything like that.

You can just start with a morning walk and an evening walk. Maybe 15 minutes. Maybe a half hour.

Everything gets better when you move your body. And stop calling it exercise. Just call it "I'm going for my morning walk." or "I'm going for my after dinner constitutional."

Turn off the computer and walk.

11-20-2010, 08:41 AM
Scolding (with good intentions) over. :)

Haha :) Thank you for your post. Constructive critique noted! I actually have a WATP vid.

This is how I feel.

I came into this wanting the very last time I dieted to be as easy as possible. I have lost weight twice before and each time have slipped into obsession and compulsion. Now I aim for 70% of what I am capable of and a lot of mental martial arts in an attempt to starve out crazed-WL-bizarro-Sunday.

I just have this thing about taking it as slowly and as easily as I can now. Some would say the lazy way out. But these are the dregs of years of disordered thinking and this is how I am trying to deal.

Food first!

I know the value of exercise and fully intend to introduce a baseline for maintenance. I'll probably have to have an upper limit on that though, because I want to make sure I never become neurotic about it, and it becomes as natural and unremarkable as can be.

I am trying to be moderate. :)

11-20-2010, 08:44 AM
One of the reasons that I developed such unhealthy eating habits is that I turned to food unthinkingly to help myself focus & to bring down my stress levels.

Exercise has worked out to be a better way of dealing with my feelings of agitation, and helps me burn off a sort of restless, unfocused anxiety. When I'm done, my head feels like a room that's been cleared of clutter.

Also, it seems to have helped with regulating my sleep habits, which were unsettled & unsatisfying, to say the least.

And the exercise goals have helped, now that the scale goals aren't there.

(But I'm not one of the people whom you really want a response from, since I'd be out there running marathons, if my feet & knee joints weren't in such bad shape from carrying around more than 100 pounds of excess weight for a couple decades.)

11-20-2010, 09:02 AM
I did not exercise for the first month or two, and when I started exercise, I started very, very slowly. I looked at that exercise as an investment for the future, because I think regular exercise is much more important for maintaining your weight than for losing it (I mean, an extra 1000 calories a week makes all the difference in the world just in terms of being able to function in society).

So my exercise early on wasn't to burn calories. It was to develop a lifestyle and to learn how to exercise. For me, this was as much mental as physical: I found it so BORING, soul draining--I resented it. I could only go about 5 minutes without getting angry. So I did 5 minutes as a time twice a day, then 7 minutes, and so on, creeping up until I was up to an hour twice a day. I've sense backed that down a little.

Now, I know how to amuse myself when I exercise. I don't feel like it's a burden. It's just something I do. I'm glad I started that transition early, because that let me take it slow. I think waiting all the way to maintenance would have been a mistake for me: I want maintenance to be about expanding my options, not further restricting them. I want to celebrate it, not resent it.

11-20-2010, 09:16 AM
I'd be out there running marathons, if my feet & knee joints weren't in such bad shape from carrying around more than 100 pounds of excess weight for a couple decades.

Ahhh, me too! I hear of all these people who become runners and I envy them. That will never, ever be me thanks to hauling around so much extra weight for so long. :(

Sunday, I hear you loud and clear.

But gosh, I'd love for you to start out now, even if it's at a snails pace. You spoke of making this journey as easy as possible. Exercise would make it that much easier. So, umm, yeah, you know where I'm going with this, so I won't go. ;)

I will say this though. Your *method* is much better, IMO, than the ones we hear of who work out like crazy, don't change *much* (if anything) of their eating habits and wonder why they're not losing. Or they focus on their water intake. :dizzy: First and foremost, it's the food, it's the food, it's the food.

Don't rule anything out. Just be open to changing and tweaking as you go along, okay?

11-20-2010, 09:19 AM
You can certainly lose weight without exercise but you are losing muscle along with fat. It takes more calories to maintain muscle, so when you reach maintenance you won't be able to eat as much as the one who exercised.

I'm 69 years old and do water aerobics 3 days a week, weights, 3 days and Silversneakers 3 days. I've never felt better or slept better or had less cravings.

There are all sorts of things that you can do to exercise. As long as it gets you moving and raises your heart rate, it counts. The rule of thumb is 30 minutes a day for health and 60 for weight loss.

11-20-2010, 09:59 AM
I did not start to exercise until 6 weeks into this whole thing. It was tough a first, and lets face it, some mornings it is STILL tough. (like this morning when I should be working out and making hubs to be breakfast and lunch for work) but, I ALWAYS always always regret not doing it, and always am glad that I did.
Sure, there are parts that "hurt" or are uncomfortable. But, I figure that comfort got me here, and that did not work so well. Besides which, exercise feels GOOD. Like REALLY good for hours. and hours.
I get not doing everything at once, that sets me up for failure. But do not wait until maintenance.
Just my suggestion

11-20-2010, 12:24 PM
I started exercising the very first day when I originally started. I loved it at first. It made me feel happier and less anxious. I got off plan for a while, and now I have been back on plan since October 24th. I have not been exercising as much as I could. The weight is coming off steadily, but it came off a lot faster when I was exercising.

I guess my point is that I understand how you feel. I do not always want to exercise. I make excuses, I run out of time in a day, etc. Some days I just do not feel like it.

This thread has motivated me, though. I think I am going to hit the gym early Monday morning. Because exercise can be fun, and it can make you feel good.

I hope you start to incorporate small amounts into your day as well.

11-20-2010, 12:49 PM
I don't exercise at all. I keep saying that I'm going to start, but I never do it. Last December, I did the 30DS for about a week. I'm just so lazy! I've lost 94 lbs and have about 10 more to lose. My plan is to really make myself start once I hit goal.

11-20-2010, 12:54 PM
Why not just go for a walk today?

11-20-2010, 04:13 PM
I have not exercised for the last week, and I feel really crappy about it :(

Exercise makes me feel accomplished when it is all over, and I like feeling like I am doing something good for myself.

Violin Jenn
11-21-2010, 08:58 PM
Hi Ladies!

I've been off the exercise wagon. I was nursing a ton of injuries over the summer and in October I got the go ahead from my doc to resume exercising. But I just am not ready for JM dvd's. So tomorrow I'm planning on starting back with WATP. It may not be as intense as JM, but it's a starting place to build from.

Exercise is I think more important than for weight loss. Stress reduction, strenthing up bones, heart and lungs. It is vital for our overall health.

Starting slowly again is key for me.

11-21-2010, 09:10 PM
I haven't been lately, even though I should. I might be joining an athletic club soon and if it works out that I can, I'm going to commit to exercising more. When I had membership at a gym before I did very well and went 6 days a week for about 3 months. I hardly lost any weight but I toned incredibly. I'm looking to tone AND lose more weight this time.

11-22-2010, 09:02 AM
Thank you for the advice, support and comments everyone. I have to say you have me reconsidering waiting until maintenance.

I guess it doesn't make a lot of sense to wait... I mean nothing bad will happen physically and I have always planned to make peace with it at some point.

I just fear becoming obsessive about it. Maybe that's hard to understand if you haven't abused exercise before. But the first time I dieted, I genuinely enjoyed exercise for a month or two until one day I just burst into tears while doing a tape. I felt under so much pressure to keep up my routine and I wasn't enjoying it at all anymore. The disordered thinking set in and made me feel like if I wasn't strict I'd get fat overnight.
I did get fat again, because I was so overwhelmed I threw in the towel. Started eating and didn't stop for nearly four years.

I did my mum's old WATP video last night btw, robin. Not sure where to go from here though.

11-22-2010, 09:26 AM
I did my mum's old WATP video last night btw, robin. Not sure where to go from here though.

Where to go? Where ever that is, just go s-l-o-w-l-y.

Since you've got a *past* with exercise, why not set tiny goals for yourself? 30 minutes 3X a week perhaps? Or even 20 minutes? In two weeks or so, you can increase by 5 minutes. Nothing major. Just get used to the feel of it.

Things don't have to be the same as last time. In fact, make certain that they are different. Hopefully you're a little older and wiser and you can take the good from the past, leave the bad behind and create something new and better for your now and for your future.

I'm glad to see you're giving this a try. Because it's necessary and important. You spoke of making weight loss easier and in another thread you spoke of plateauing and of sloooowww losses. Really, exercise is a no brainer. But again, it doesn't have to be like exercise of the past.

Keep us updated. We wanna know how fabulous (no pressure ;)) you're doing!

(and if you're struggling, we're here for that too)

11-22-2010, 10:42 AM
When I started the weight loss thing, I did not exercise at all. Walking for grocery shopping or around campus (never more than 5-minute walks to each building a couple times a day) was IT. Otherwise, I was sedentary. I lost steadily. Around February, I plateaued at 150lbs and decided I needed to add exercise. I'm an all or nothing person, so I went into it hardcore. I joined the gym and went from nothing to 90minutes per day of cardio and strength training. I was up at 4am every morning to do my work outs. Elliptical, treadmill, stair machine, strength routine. Everyday. And I hated and resented every minute of it.

After a few months of that, I gave up. I just hated it too badly. It was the end of the semester, my routine got jumbled up with a new class schedule, and I could never get myself back into a new gym routine. I have tried running, I've tried fitness DVD's, I've tried exercising with friends, I've tried setting fitness goals. I just can't do it. The moment I start doing an activity for the sole purpose of exercise, I feel resentful until I finish the activity. I just hate the act of "working out." That being said, I do like being active, and throughout the day/week, I look for ways to keep myself moving. I'll invite friends to go on hikes, I go window shopping and walk around for a couple hours, I'll park at the back of the parking lot, I get off at the bus stop past the one that is closest to my apartment so I have to walk. I just generally move a lot more than I used to.

For the past several months, since reaching maintenance. I have not "worked out." 99% of days, I make sure that I walk for 60 minutes minimum. It has become habit to walk 15min right when I wake up, and I usually go on a 20 min walk around lunch time. I'll either go on a few more walks, go to the grocery store (which I count as walking time, haha), or something of the sort. But I make sure my body is up and moving for one hour. Walks are a non-threatening form of exercise for me. I'm happy to go on a walk, it doesn't feel like a work out. I often walk far more than my minimum of 60 min.

The only thing that I feel like I should do for my health is strength training. I feel like I could devote 15min or so while I'm watching TV to do something of a strength routine.

11-22-2010, 11:02 AM
I definitely want to work out more..but i also just make excuses such as i'm too tired, i have something else to do (which can usually wait), i'm hungry, sick, cold, not in the mood, its too dark outside..a million and one things and then i feel horrible for it. I really need the exercise too because my blood pressure is a tad bit high but its very difficult for me. Like today I have a doctor's appt at 3pm after work. I know I will have plenty of time afterward to go to the gym..but chances are, i'm just gonna home. And even knowing this, i still slack off..i need a drill sergeant to yell at me and make me go lol.

11-22-2010, 11:24 AM
I lost 120 pounds in the past without exercising. I felt that I needed to concentrate 100% on one goal...dieting. When I had lost most of the weight, I felt so good that exercising felt good and I naturally adopted being more active without making it a "must". I bought a bike and biked to work. I walked more, I danced on the weekends.

This time around I am not exercising, but that is because I live in a truck and can't. I am older and I can really feel the need to move more, but losing weight is still happening even sitting still 14 hours a day and laying down the rest of the time. I have lost enough weight to feel good again and do swim when we are home and walk when I can. I don't make it a must, but I find I crave it more and more as the weight goes. I like that it is a natural desire and not some crazy master plan I cannot keep up with.

11-22-2010, 11:59 AM
I don't work out on exercize machines or the gym.
I do so much gardening and work around my 2 houses, I wouldn't have enough energy to do more than that.
I planted over 500 plants this year, planted 5 fruit trees. Next year I am planting over 200 oak trees. Plus putting in a Zoysia lawn on 3 acres.
And I cut over an acre of grass every week with a push mower.

Then I picked and processed over 8 bushels of fruit. Shaking fruit trees is a lot of exercize.
And I pick over 200# of grapes every fall and turn them into juice...a lot of standing all day for weeks.
In the spring I will have more than a bushel of strawberries to pick and turn into juice.
I don't drink sodas. I grow and pick my own fruit and drink the juice.
I don't turn the fruit into jams or desserts or cookies. Just juice.

Plus I grow blackberries, elderberries, raspberries, green peppers, tomatoes. A bushel of each last me a whole year.
And I grow and make my own mullein tea. Pounds of tea. It is an antiviral. So I never catch colds or the flu.

That is a lot of exercize. A lot of picking, standing, & pulling weeds. There are days I can't move off the sofa, I am so tired from heavy work.

Then I moved over 100 35# concrete tree rings and garden blocks last summer, assembled 5 little sheds.
Moved 50 40# bags of topsoil and manure.
So I am too pooped from my regular work and hobbies.
It is difficult for me to find enough time to rest. :(

Now that winter is setting in, I have to turn to all the easier housework that I neglected all summer. But first I have to move the 5 bushels of compost that I grow my potatoes in. Those are really heavy, but its raining today, so I have a break to do laundry. I do housework on rainy days.

I wanted to spread 1 ton of white marble landscape stones and 500 lbs pea gravel last summer, but it was just too hot to do every little project of mine. :cool:
Next summer I will set the stones. And paint my house.
Under all my excess fat is a lot of muscle.
I don't need exercize, I need rest. :beach:

I just lost 20 pounds since June. Now I am working on the next 20.


11-22-2010, 12:01 PM
I can't move just now, I'm ordered off by my doctor and sitting around (mostly lying around, actually) with my spine in a metal brace, then I'm having a bunch of operations but looking forward to maybe returning to a little light swimming within a few months. I'm not so much worried that my current loss will be slower but that it will affect me down the line when closer to my goal weight, I won't be as fit as if I'd been able to move all the way through and I might well have a very slow metabolism. Already I worry when I am really cold and I try to warm up by fidgeting instead of putting on the heater. I can wiggle a bit, I'd rather do 30 seconds of exercise than nothing!

11-22-2010, 12:06 PM
I started out exercising 4-5 times a week at a gym, but over the first two months, I lost interest. I also struggled with the fact that it seemed to slow my weight loss (I know the physiology - I just have a very hard time when the scale stalls for any reason). Right now, maybe once a week, I go hike for about an hour on the regional park trails in my area. I'm going to be increasing that and combining it with some strength training at the gym, but I haven't made it happen yet. Ultimately - I want to run :D

Also, I've seen the following words of wisdom on many posts on these boards, and it seems apt here:

Dieting makes you look better in clothes. Exercise makes you look better nekkid :devil:

11-22-2010, 12:16 PM
I love Robin's idea of small goals, and I'd add something to it: have a fall back position: "I am going to increase to X, but if I hate it after a week, I'll go back to Y for two weeks and then reassess." If that's part of your plan from the beginning, it will keep you from pushing too hard and then giving up completely.

11-22-2010, 12:20 PM
gosh do I know what "abusing exercise" means. LOL Before I would tell myself "I'm going to really do it this time" and oh heck did I do it. I did it so bad that I was hurting the next day swearing I wouldn't do it again. Years would go by where I hated my weight and self. Losing weight= hard exercise and a strict diet. After hearing about these calories counting sites, I enrolled into one and started tracking my food intake. Then I ran into a couple weight loss shows and it inspired me so much to commit to doing the "Step aerobics" on the Wii Fit as I watched the shows (30 minutes a day). I told myself to not get ridiculous about it but just to take it slow, nothing mattered as long as I was moving. Things progressed after a while to where I started walking for 30 minutes a day.
My biggest goal was a phrase that I heard "If you do something for 6 weeks, it becomes a habit." After 2 weeks I was seriously counting down the days. I was so ready to quit but after a while I can say it became a part of my life. I don't see it as some horrible thing. I don't "LOVE" it but I can say I enjoy it.
My dh lost all his weight without lifting a muscle. His cholesterol levels dropped so much that his doctor encouraged him to do some type of exercise cause his good cholesterol dropped as well. So he's doing a little here and there now.

11-22-2010, 12:26 PM
I love Robin's idea of small goals, and I'd add something to it: have a fall back position: "I am going to increase to X, but if I hate it after a week, I'll go back to Y for two weeks and then reassess." If that's part of your plan from the beginning, it will keep you from pushing too hard and then giving up completely.

That's the thing. Don't give up on it - switch it. Don't give up on it - tweak it. Don't give up on it - change it.

You must talk yourself into the fact, that *this time* there will be no giving up.

Ha. We can say that about our eating plan as well.

Heck, we can say it about lots of things, can't we?

11-22-2010, 02:28 PM
That's the thing. Don't give up on it - switch it. Don't give up on it - tweak it. Don't give up on it - change it.

You must talk yourself into the fact, that *this time* there will be no giving up.

Ha. We can say that about our eating plan as well.

Heck, we can say it about lots of things, can't we?

haha love it and yes very true. Can't tell you how many times I've dropped crocheting but so glad I stuck with it. Its my personal favorite down time activity.

11-22-2010, 03:12 PM
This has been a GREAT thread. I know for long term maintenance moving my body is a must. I can say this, I am coming off about a six month span of pretty harsh depression which I have NEVER dealt with before. Talk about NOT wanting to MOVE...ugh ugh ugh SO opposite of my personality.

To be able to focus each day on what I am eating and to be able to control my foods etc.....this is a big step. I do exercise 3-4 xms per week but it's just for my mental stability.

Once a week I go to my personal trainer to do weight lifting to help build muscle so I'm not loosing muscle. The other days I simply walk but 2-3 miles. I also live in "valleys" so they are significant walks as far as hills etc :)