Weight Loss Support - My first "I'm getting frustrated!" Post

11-12-2010, 10:07 AM
I've been on my new plan for a month now. I've lost almost 11 pounds in that time. I'm happy with 11 pounds, BUT I don't understand why it's not more. The last two weeks combined I've only lost 3 pounds. That's just not good enough at this stage when I still have so far to go. I track everything, so I know mathmatically that I deserve to have lost more.

I've put my data in multiple calculators and they all say to maintain my weight I'd need about 2400 to 2600 calories a day. I'm calorie cycling and my average daily intake comes out to 1400. That's at the lowest a 7000 deficit a week or two pounds AND that's before considering exercise. I exercise everyday usually for at least 30 minutes.

I've stayed on plan. Haven't gone over my calorie balance once in 26 days, I get 100+ oz of water everyday plus 6 servings of fruit and veggies. I don't eat any junk. I get over 100 grams of protein and my fat intake is ususally in the 30's or 40's. I watch my sodium. It just isn't adding up! It doesn't make sense and it's frustrating.

I know everyone is different, we all lose at different rates. I would be happy with 3 pounds in two weeks if I were much closer to goal, BUT I still have so far to go. At this stage I should be losing more. :(

11-12-2010, 10:16 AM
It took me 6 months to lose 16lbs. I was really upset I didn't lose 10+ in the first month, and I just couldn't understand WHY. But after a lot of trial and error I just figure this is how my body does things. 3-4lb a month, if I'm lucky, and I've accepted it.

I don't know what to tell you to kickstart things aside from maybe checking your carb in take and upping your calories (I only say this because I've heard that people tend to underestimate their calorie consumption), and give that a try, and if THAT doesn't work, try lowering them or even cycling them.

Either way, try not to get frustrated with your losing pace right now. You gotta remember, we didn't put on all this weight in one week, it took years, and losing it slower is healthier, plus it will help to save your skin in the long run (at least I hope lol), PLUS, I think it will help teach us patience and help us really see how and why we became what we started out as.

You're already 32lbs down, that's fantastic, just try to stay patient. :hug:

11-12-2010, 11:15 AM
Gosh, you lost 11 pounds in one month and you're complaining?? :dunno: ;)

Maybe adjust your expectations? You're losing at a good rate. And, you're also learning what most of us find out, namely that cutting calories MORE doesn't necessarily mean faster loss. The fact that you're frustrated after only a month may mean you're restricting too much.

The numbers in most calculators are estimates and averages. They are also based on the idea that everyone's metabolism (rate of calorie burn) is the same. That may not be true for people who are overweight/obese. You have to find out what works for you.

If it's too hard for you to stay with a 1400 calorie per day average intake, it sounds like you have room to increase your intake and still lose weight. How do you do that? Eat the same way you're eating now, but increase your servings a little. Instead of 3 ounces of chicken, eat 4. Instead of 1/2 cup of rice, eat 3/4 cup. Little things like that. You may feel better and less hungry, and you may still keep on losing!


11-12-2010, 11:29 AM
I agree with Jay.

11-12-2010, 11:32 AM
I'm really just frustrated with the last two weeks. The first two weeks I lost almost 8 lbs. The second two only 3. I know I need to be patient and try adjusting things.

I'm actually not having any problem with my calorie allowance right now. I'm thinking about dropping it 100 calories each day and seeing how I feel at that and if it makes any difference in my loss.

11-12-2010, 11:34 AM
I agree with Jay too. 11 pounds in a month is fantastic. You are not going to have every month like that. Try breaking down your goal weight into smaller more manageable goals. I know if I look at my "big picture" too often as the end result, I get frustrated too. But, once I broke it apart into smaller sections, much easier to handle. Also try measuring. Some weeks I do not lose pounds as much as I lose inches.

11-12-2010, 11:46 AM
That first week or two is mostly water weight loss, too, and that drops off quickly and you really can't expect it to continue. You're doing great! Even if it plods along at a much slower rate than you're expecting, stick with it. Cutting calories so much might not be the best answer, as Jay noted. Maybe nudge them up a bit and then you'll have wiggle room to drop them when you need to further into the process. Good luck.

11-12-2010, 12:08 PM
This is going to take time. It just is. You're going to have some big loss months and some really small loss months. Sometimes you'll know exactly why and sometimes you'll throw your hands up and say "What gives?" :dunno: But if you ARE losing then you ARE doing something right. Heck, sometimes when you aren't losing you may be doing something right. :D

It's quite common to see a quick loss and then a sudden slow down.

Bottom line, you're doing just fine. ;) I know, sometimes we just need to vent.

11-12-2010, 12:09 PM
11 lbs in a month? I'd be jumping for joy!
I've lost 5 lbs last month and while I do have moments where I wish the weight would just disappear from one day to the next, I know that's a ridiculous expectation. I agree with lazylioness. Instead of looking at your final number, try to set goals that are easier to achieve.
I have set my final goal at a 100 lbs loss, but to get there I just try to focus on things like "getting out of the 260s" or getting my BMI to the next smaller number.Some weeks I lose a lbs, others I am down 3, some I gain despite being on plan. I have come to terms that it's a long journey that will require patience and will test my determination.
I haven't been doing this for too long, but it seems to me that having a strict "lbs per month or week" goal will inevitably lead to frustrations. Your body isn't a machine, there are things going on that we don't understand and all the calculations in the world will not allow you to make proper "predictions" of how much you should be losing. And like others have said, dropping your calories isn't necessarily the solution.

Don't give into your frustrations, you CAN do this :hug:. There are so many people on here who have been through all of it - listen to them when they say you're doing great. Besides, I keep hearing that losing more than 2 lbs per week isn't even that good for you, so... you're right on track ;)

11-12-2010, 03:46 PM
Thanks everyone. I realize I sound kind of silly. I think what I'm really worried about is my weightloss slowing down in the future. I'm completely happy with 11 pounds in a month. But with how hard I'm working and the effort I'm putting in I will be upset if it stays down and I only lose 6 or so pounds a month. I just have way too far to go for that. Of course I can't predict the future so it is kind of pointless to worry about it now.

As the day has gone on and I've been eating my meals and getting my exercise in I've felt better. I realize this is a journey and there will be bumps in the road, but if I stay on course I will get where I want to be eventually.

Just needed to vent and get some reinforcement and encouragement.. thanks for that. =)

11-12-2010, 03:50 PM

11-12-2010, 04:55 PM
You don't have realistic expectations at all. Exercising 30 minutes a day will not cause any addition to your weight loss - you need at least 60 for that. Safe weight loss is .5 - 2 pounds a week so you really need to lower your expectations. How much did you expect to gain each week when your weight was going up?

11-12-2010, 05:13 PM
My expectations might be a little high, but it's not like I expect to lose 20 or 15 pounds a month. 8 to 10 would be great. It's not like that's impossible and it's not like plenty of other people haven't done it before.

And exercising 30 minutes a day will not effect my weightloss at all? So you're saying that the first 30 minutes of exercise my body just refuses to burn any calories, but that second 30 minutes it decides it's ok? You have me scratching my head over that one.

11-12-2010, 05:14 PM
I've heard that 30 is how many minutes you need to MAINTAIN, and that 40-60 is for actual weight loss.

Don't know the truth behind that though.

11-12-2010, 05:29 PM
Sorry, you'll need to adjust your expectation.

As you reach goal, you may go weeks and even months without losing, you'll need to be prepared for that. Weight loss is not linear and now you are fighting the psychological hurdle that many stumble and fall - question is, will you jump it or will you trip and stay down?

Do not be surprised if it takes a year to get there...

One of the biggest reasons people give up and fail is impatience.

11-12-2010, 05:40 PM
Don't look at how many pounds you lose in one week, just look at the overall loss for the month. 11lbs in four weeks averages out to 2.75lbs/week, so that's really good! Don't get too caught up with how much you think you deserve to lose, either, weight loss really isn't quite so simple as a math equation, any numbers are really just estimates. As long as you're still losing, don't worry about it. Try and not get frustrated, because you're just setting yourself up to get even more frustrated if you hit a plateau, and that's never fun. Try and relax. :)

11-12-2010, 05:45 PM
I'm completely good with it taking a year. But 6lbs a month will not get me there in a year. I'm going to learn to accept the fact that it might not happen exactly the way I want it too, BUT it will happen.

I'm good now, I promise. No stumbling. =)

11-12-2010, 06:42 PM
I'm completely good with it taking a year. But 6lbs a month will not get me there in a year. I'm going to learn to accept the fact that it might not happen exactly the way I want it too, BUT it will happen.

I'm good now, I promise. No stumbling. =)

That's a great way to look at it :D

11-12-2010, 06:42 PM
Hey Kim - It really does stink when we work so hard and don't lose as much as we would like. I was up a pound this morning! Very discouraging. I found that when I increased the intensity and duration of exercise I lost a little more. Today, I could only do 30 min. and only burned 200 calories. But that is more than I used to do when I started out. I heard a doctor say that if you burn 200 calories a day you would lose half a pound a week if you didn't increase caloric intake. And that's if you exercise 7 days a week. It's tough sometimes. Good luck!

11-12-2010, 06:45 PM

I've definitely been there and it's frustrating when our bodies just do what they're going to do regardless of how hard we try. But. What I keep telling myself as I go through this journey is that, even if the number on the scale isn't moving as fast as I'd like it too, my body has to be a lot healthier and stronger on the inside. Sometimes it just takes a while for the outside to catch up.

In the meantime you just want to bang your head against the wall sometimes!

11-12-2010, 06:46 PM
I think you are doing great- but my only suggestion is an average of 1400 calories seems kind of low if you are exercising as well. At 243 you can probably go up to an average of 1700-1800 calories a day and still lose- heck probably lose faster- your body might be holding on tighter cuz of a lower calorie deficit.

It's just a suggestion anyways :)

11-12-2010, 06:48 PM
There's nothing wrong with 30 min of exercise, you just got to make sure to use the most of it.

For example, I worked out for exactly 35 min today at the gym. I did 20 pullups, 20 chinups, DB rows with 25lb dumbbells, heavy DB curls, 15 v ups, 15 roman chairs, PLUS 5 min warmup on the elliptical. That's a **** of a lot in 30 minute!!!

Just use it to the max!!!

11-12-2010, 07:04 PM
It sounds like you have a pretty rock-solid plan in place, and if it sincerely and truly is leaving you satisfied and not "white-knuckling" it, then I encourage you to just keep it up, relax, and let the scale do what it may. In the past when I have lost weight, I swear I'd be the same for 2 or 3 weeks, then all of a sudden be down 6-7 pounds. This time I wouldn't know, because I have been weighing myself only every month or two. Good numbers every time. It sounds to me like your weight loss is right on track where it should be based on what you are doing. (Which I think sounds like an excellent, sustainable way to live).

I know it can be frustrating, but I can't stress enough how important I think it is to just focus on getting yourself into really strong, consistent behavior patterns. Let the pounds fall where they may, because they have no choice but to vanish if you keep it up! As you start feeling better, you can even kick up the exercise a notch or 2, but don't pressure yourself right out of your whole plan!

I read you are good, but still wanted to add my encouragement. You got this!

11-12-2010, 07:26 PM
Thanks everyone. =)

11-12-2010, 07:39 PM
11 pounds in a month is great, congrats! I average around there every month. Is it possible that the slower weeks could have to do with your TOM? I find I lose a bit slowly the week of TOM and then more quickly other weeks. This journey can be frustrating but what is the alternative? Go back to old patterns and perhaps gain or even maintain? Not a good option. This is a change in your behaviour that will have to last forever, so try not to be in too much of a hurry, otherwise it can lead to frustration. You're doing great so keep it up!

11-13-2010, 12:38 PM
I get frustrated too dear. To the point of wanting to throw the scales into the street and see just how many little pieces it will break into :lol:
Don't worry :)
As long as you're staying on plan, exercising, and drinking lots of water, the scales will move in the right direction. One thing to consider on the exercise bit, as you start toning and strengthening your muscles, muscle weighs more than fat, so while you are in fact "loosing fat", you are building muscle. Which is a good thing :) Also, another thing that saved my scales from being smashed to smithereens was that I started measuring myself :) And trust me, the tape gives a MUCH more accurate picture of your hard work than the scales does.
Hang in there :)


11-13-2010, 12:47 PM
And exercising 30 minutes a day will not effect my weightloss at all? So you're saying that the first 30 minutes of exercise my body just refuses to burn any calories, but that second 30 minutes it decides it's ok? You have me scratching my head over that one.

It's hard to burn enough calories in 30 minutes to really make a difference. If you really get your heart rate up and cranking, you might be burning 300 calories (assuming some time to warm up and cool down), but it's probably less than that. Walking for 30 minutes might burn 100-150 calories, which is 700-1050 calories per week -- maybe a third of a pound. This is way diet is generally considered to be more important than exercise. You're doing great with your exercise, and as you get in better shape it can become a bigger contributor to your weight loss. The exercise you're doing still has great overall fitness and health benefits, and you're clearly ROCKING your eating plan to lose 11 pounds in a month!

Nola Celeste
11-13-2010, 03:18 PM
Another thing to remember about exercise is that the benefits continue well after the exercise session itself is over. There's a thread elsewhere on this board, in the general chat forum, I think, called "You have to see this!" It's a link to YouTube videos of an hour-long show that examines ten diet "rules" and the science behind them.

The researchers put a guy on a treadmill for ninety minutes. He burned 19 grams of fat--puny, right? But they had the same guy come in the next day and lie down under a hood that measured his resting metabolic rate and weight; within 24 hours, he had burned not 19 grams of fat, but 49 grams of fat from that 90-minute exercise session!

If I ever questioned the worth of exercise because it just seemed like so much effort for the calories burned or wanted to quit early because "it's just a few more calories burned," I no longer do.

11-13-2010, 03:36 PM
I'm mostly focused on my diet, and I've been trying to up my exercise slowly. I wasn't saying I should have lost a lot just because of exercise, just that exercising on top of my eating plan should help with weightloss. I usually do at least 30 minutes of cardio. Not walking. I do something that gets my heart rate up and gets me sweating. It may not burn a ton of calories, but it definitely counts for something. I'm super excited because we found a great deal on a Total Gym so now I'm going to start doing more strength training on top of my cardio.

Today is a new day and I'm great! I was just having a mini pity party yesterday and I really appreciate all the support everyone. =)