100 lb. Club - Always jealous, never quite satisfied!

11-07-2010, 07:19 PM
LOL! I just noticed as I looked at someone else's ticker that I was jealous that she weighed 153. That is only THREE pounds less than me!! Somehow I feel like my 156 is high and her 153 is low. :dizzy: How ridiculous!! Worse, this particular woman is shorter than me! I have no reason to be jealous what-so-ever. Not to mention I'm quite happy where I am!

Surely I'm not alone. Do tickers bring out the jealous monster for you?

11-07-2010, 07:27 PM
Eliana, I feel like I'm following you around today!

To answer your question, YOUR ticker makes me insanely jealous! I can't remember weighing less than 159, which is THREE pounds heavier than you, and yet your 156 seems unattainable! So, no, you're not alone!

11-07-2010, 07:27 PM
I'll probably start feeling jealous if I notice other people's tickers going down faster then mine. =)

Pint Sized Terror
11-07-2010, 07:31 PM
:o :o :o

Don't feel bad. I get jealous when I see someone has lost 30+lbs. I'm super jealous of the maintainers. :o

(this was on the front page... LOL)

11-07-2010, 07:36 PM
:o :o :o

Don't feel bad. I get jealous when I see someone has lost 30+lbs. I'm super jealous of the maintainers. :o

(this was on the front page... LOL)

LOL! If that's YOU in your avatar, I'm jealous of your legs too! :D

Pint Sized Terror
11-07-2010, 07:38 PM

That was before my accident when I weighed 145. So yeah, I'm jealous of that pic too! LOL (because of the accident i can't even wear those heels anymore. :( )

Lori Bell
11-07-2010, 07:52 PM
Oh shucks, I've changed my goal weight 10 times because of other people's stats. Though one thing I have learned over the last couple years is that MANY people don't have their current weights listed. They gain back weight but refuse to change their tickers. So you can't believe everything you read.

Though I have to admit, the reason I have lowered my goal weight this time is because I found out I was actually an inch shorter than I always thought I was, so I would like to accommodate for that... ;)

Pint Sized Terror
11-07-2010, 07:54 PM
MANY people don't have their current weights listed. They gain back weight but refuse to change their tickers. So you can't believe everything you read.

*raises hand* I've gained to 155.8 and haven't changed it. I'm giving it til my next weigh-in, and if I'm not back to 153 I'm changing it. I don't know if it's TOM gain or not. :/

11-07-2010, 07:58 PM
:D I'm jealous that I'm not in the 160s yet - 169 is not only 100 lbs lost and healthy weight, it is sort of my bugaboo - I am petrified for some reason that I won't be able to make it below 170 and into my healthy weight zone. This is a painful decade.

11-07-2010, 07:59 PM
I'm insanely jealous of those at or near one-derland, which seems unattainable right now. It's my own fault though, so I try not to wallow in it.

11-07-2010, 08:02 PM
YES!!! :lol:

But it's weird. When I see someone's in
the 120's, I'm fine. But if I see someone's
in the 130's, I get jealous! :o

This is probably because I've been working
so hard for so long to get to the 130's.

11-07-2010, 08:27 PM
I'm not so sure I get jealous.. but I look at those who have lost the same amount or more than I need to and wish I could see inside their brain and follow exactly what they did because it worked for them it has to work for me. Or I get pissed at myself when I look at those who I know from last year who have had these amazing losses since then and here I sit bigger than I started last year. <sigh>

DixC Chix
11-07-2010, 08:30 PM
Jealous - you bet!! I'm as green as grass when I see someone in the 210's let alone in onederland. I find myself thinking - Oooooooooooo, I would give anything to be at that weight.

Nice thread!! Good to know I'm not the only one.

11-07-2010, 08:50 PM
Wistful, rather than jealous.

Nose pressed against the glass, outside, looking in. How can they maintain a weight that is 20 pounds lower? I know all the things I don't eat anymore, at all, & how much exercise I do, and what kind. And the difficult social situations that I have to deal, while still having a social life & not annoying the heck out of everyone I know -- and I am not particularly gregarious, either. Those other maintainers have to be that much better at it.

Or they don't have my specific psychological baggage & consequently, an exaggerated wariness of eating disorderish behavior.

I don't know. But I'm me & they're them. Maybe if they had charge of my body they'd run it better. Or maybe not.

11-07-2010, 08:57 PM
I get jealous of maintainers or those close to goal weight!

11-07-2010, 08:57 PM
I don't get jealous, really. Other people's tickers and stats motivate me. I want to be as successful as them. I want to look and feel as great as them. I stopped my diet for four months and gained back weight. I am just now starting to lose again. So, it is encouraging to see the tickers, and see that others have successfully lost. Especially you Eliana - your loss is very motivating because I remember before I became inactive that you were having a hard time getting the scale to move. However, you did not give up! So, seeing your ticker at 156, is very, very encouraging and inspirational.

11-07-2010, 09:05 PM
I definitely get jealous...but only really when my own weight loss has decided to pause for awhile - at which point I remind myself that I don't have any idea of how long their weight loss really took or if they're also stuck on a plateau at the moment and just as frustrated ~

11-07-2010, 09:10 PM
I think your "75lbs lost" thing makes me super jealous! You clearly are very motivated, and keepin on track. Can you rub elbows with me? Maybe some of that will rub off. :P

11-07-2010, 09:14 PM
Jealousy keeps us on our toes sometimes which isn't always a bad thing, but unproductive jealousy is the pits.

I'm very jealous of people who weigh the same as I do at my height and wear a smaller size/look smaller. And obviously everyone who is proportionally thinner.

11-07-2010, 09:17 PM
I'm inspired by the maintainers and the people who seem to have it all figured out. I honestly sometimes feel like a fraud since I still struggle big time making the right choices and as recently as just a month ago I've had a pretty severe weekend blowout. It isn't easy for me and I've been at this for a long time.

I wish I had the wisdom of Robin, the dedication of Lori, and the enthusiam of you Eliana. I wish I could say that I've mastered this thing, but I sort of just plot of along still learning and even changing things that don't seem to work.

I'm not a genius at this. I'm more the C student who just gets by because he keeps trying even though it doesn't come naturally.

11-07-2010, 09:48 PM
I don't get jealous really. I am happy for folks that are doing so well.

I do get sad, however, when I see folks who I went to Onederland with at the same time - right before my health crisis. I am so happy that these six months has brought them closer to their goals and farther away from 199. I wish it could be me too.

So many folks greatly inspire me - because losing a huge amount of weight is not easy task. It's really rare to have so many successful losers and many maintainers. People here are generous sharing their experiences.

But, it WILL be me eventually!

11-07-2010, 09:49 PM
*seethes in jealousy* :P

Im jealous of all the people who get to shop in "normal stores", and also jealous of the people who can take their jealousy and turn it into something productive, instead of misery-wallowing!

11-08-2010, 12:18 AM
Oh yeah. I'm definitely guilty of this. Participating in those "getting out of the..." threads really threw me for a loop. Until then, I hadn't really noticed how much slower I was losing than everybody else.

Arctic Mama
11-08-2010, 01:45 AM
I agree with saef, I get far more wistful or hopeful than jealous. I don't NOT want that for them, rather I want to work and get there, too, and wonder how they do it (probably the same way I do, one pound at a time :lol:).

I so, so want to be at my goal. It's helped me stick to my plan today, I know I just need to keep rinsing and repeating and I'll get there in time.

11-08-2010, 03:09 AM
I don't get jealous of tickers or hefty pounds lost avatars but I admit to an inner snarl when someone of my weight or higher can fit into smaller clothes than I can.

And I literally have to close my heart when I read people say "I weigh X00 lbs. My boyfriend/husband/partner and I ....." For so many years I 'knew' that the only reason I've never achieved a relationship of significant emotional depth was because I was fat. If fat women have romantic partners, then it's not just because I'm fat; so what is it? I am not ready to dig farther into this yet but reading about it always stabs me slightly, because I know I've still got so much work to do.

Arctic Mama
11-08-2010, 05:37 AM
Big hugs Rosinante, that's a tough area to look into :hug:

11-08-2010, 08:47 AM
Oh yeah. I'm definitely guilty of this. Participating in those "getting out of the..." threads really threw me for a loop. Until then, I hadn't really noticed how much slower I was losing than everybody else.

I stear clear of those threads! They frighten me simply for that reason.

Rosinante: :hug: I wish I knew the right words to say here, and maybe if I was ready to share one of my biggest inner deamons they would come to me, but just know that the right person is out there for you, your paths just haven't crossed at the right time/place yet.

11-08-2010, 10:29 AM
oh yes, I get jealous of the people who seem to wake up, decide they want to lose weight, and do it! Why can't I get to that point?

11-08-2010, 11:21 AM
I get jealous sometimes of people close to my age who can lose 1 to 2 pounds a week on 1400 or 1500 calories per day. Then I just have to remind myself that we are all different and that I am successful. I am just successful slower. :)

DixC Chix
11-08-2010, 01:02 PM

I so get it. Its like you are in my head, saying the things I think but don't acknowledge with my heart. Kudos to you for putting the words out there. Hugs all the way around. :hug:

11-08-2010, 01:04 PM
I get jealous on decade threads too, but hadn't really thought about it before. They do show me how dreadfully long I hang out in a decade. And it's definitely hard to see someone who started AFTER you surpass you and hit goal.

It's nice to be able to say these things, isn't it? Yeah, we're jealous little beings, but we're also incredibly supportive little beings. ;)

Arctic Mama
11-08-2010, 01:50 PM
I haven't posted in one of those decade threads for just that reason! Maybe that will change down the road, but in general I have to pick my group support and challenges carefully or I start getting competitive, jealous, and oftentimes disillusioned that I couldn't lose the weight as well or fast as someone else. For me, I really need to avoid time-based goals, if at all possible!