100 lb. Club - I need to come back :(

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11-04-2010, 05:56 PM
I need to get back here but struggling forcing myself to try once again to get healthy. I know I'm even bigger than when I first came here. I feel like there is just plane no time. I know I want to be thinner but I just can't seem to get back on track. I"m a major control freak, except with this stupid eating thing. I'm going to go buy a scale tonight and a measuring tape and take my measurements and weight and try to sit down and come up with a plan. A realistic plan. Any suggestions?

11-04-2010, 06:02 PM
I really enjoy calorie counting, I make it easy by not eating complicated things. Measuring out fruits, veg, lean proteins, whole grains . . . all very simple. I've come to the habit that if it's getting to hard to count the calories . . . chances are it's not the best thing in the world to be eating and there are other choices. I've been told I have some 'control' issues too - so I used it to my advantage :D

Congrats for taking the step!! Good luck to you :) :) :)

11-04-2010, 07:43 PM
I count calories and I firmly believe in making my calories count because I like to eat. That means I've had to learn how to be a terrific cook, since most of the stuff you get out (or prepackaged) is loaded with either calories or sodium or both. Learn to read and understand food labels. Learn to love your veggies because if cooked right you can eat tons and tons. Right RockinRobin? ;)

Start exercising. Doesn't matter what, just start and be consistent. If you are new or starting back to exercising then learn to do it right. I'm in physical therapy right now for a pulled groin because I didn't learn how to do it right.

Everyone has a different view on how often to weigh. I weigh daily (in the morning, naked, after using the potty) and record it in an Excel spreadsheet. I have found that daily tracking is very useful because I have a comment section where if I have a gain I can see itís because Iím on my period or ovulating or I ate out the night before. I can see how long it takes to start losing again. It keeps me honest.

I also have a weekly TOPS meeting I attend that keeps me honest and accountable, along with giving me a tremendous amount of emotional support.

Then there is 3FC, which is a fantastic board with more knowledge than anywhere else you will find. Iím always inspired by those who have walked the walk and can talk the talk.

The most important thing is to just start a plan and move forward. You can tweak as you go. I sure wish I hadnít stopped so many times, but at least like you Iím not throwing in the towel. Good luck! :hug:

11-04-2010, 07:47 PM
Good luck. :hug:

11-04-2010, 07:52 PM
I use Weight Watchers and I love it. It's basically glorified calorie counting, but I'm one that really thrives with the meetings and group accountability.

11-04-2010, 08:21 PM
Welcome back :)

Calorie counting, or low carb (South Beach or something like that) seem to work pretty well!

11-04-2010, 08:47 PM
I like calorie counting too, because you can ease the changes in... I think it's what worked best for me. Fast changes in how I eat always left me anxious, so this time around, I did it slowly. I don't have any food related anxieties anymore.

As for exercise, I had to find something that I wouldn't quit. I tried hitting the gym and having a huge weight and cardio workout and it only got me depressed and in terrible pain. Then I started to work out inside the swimming pool (weight, bike and trampoline) and found my niche! I get a pretty exciting workout and have loads of fun!

That's what's been working for me! Having fun with the process!

11-04-2010, 08:48 PM
I calorie count. I use www.sparkpeople.com it's great, I have definitely been in the habit though of tracking, doing great, losing 40 lbs or so, then thinking, "I can do this on my own!"

When I gain more than half the weight back, I realize I can not do it on my own and will most likely NEVER be able to do it on my own.

So, I track. :)

I weight once a week, daily fluctuations can make me too emotional/bingey feeling.

I'm an emotional eater. I never admitted that before this last time and it's really making this easier, because for me, it is NOT just 'eat less, move more.' there is a lot of mental work involved. That more than anything I think will be the decidnig factor in if I can keep it off this time!

I exercise 6 days a week. I can't do much, I have chronic pain, but I do SOMETHING almost every day.

I need to stop leaving here. When I leave here, I know that I'll gain. So looks like they are stuck with me forever! :D

Good luck, welcome back, and you haven't failed until you've quit! :)

11-04-2010, 08:48 PM
Me 2 i am bigger than when i first joined last year.

I have been doing ww for 4 weeks and never shiftea a 1lb:(

but im getting back on the wagon 2mora as i dont wana get even bigger.

I wana be the one posting goal stories

So good luck with your journey :carrot:

11-04-2010, 09:25 PM
I LOVE calorie counting its great and easy. I also still have things I want I just find a healthier way of doing it like instead of ice cream I have low fat frozen yogurt, instead of popcycles I have sugar free popcycles, etc. I think that helps me alot stick to it as I have a big sweet tooth lol. Ive already lost 21 pounds and I actually weighed today even thou it isnt my weigh day and im down 25 and meet my first goal. I also tell ya the support here helps ALOT

11-04-2010, 09:26 PM
Another calorie counter here :)

Good luck with your goals :hug:

11-04-2010, 10:10 PM
Yet another calorie counter here. I combine that with a diet that is moderate in carbs and so far it seems to be working pretty well for me.

You can do this one choice at a time!! :hug:

11-04-2010, 10:10 PM
I use an low carb exchange program ..which is basically calorie counting. Works well for me.
Good luck to you :)

Nola Celeste
11-04-2010, 10:37 PM
It takes a lot of courage to come back and I'm glad you did. :)

I haven't been at the calorie-counting business long, but it's worked out well for me so far (seven pounds since October 19) and truly feels like something I can do indefinitely. The reason that this time is unlike other attempts is that I am now using all those "failures" not as failures, but as a road map to understand what works for me.

One thing that really helped me make a realistic plan was reading here. I'd spent too long buying into the idea that the only successful diet was one that dropped a lot of weight off me quickly and felt sufficiently punishing. Yeah, I actually wanted to be punished by my diet because it's what disgusting, fat me deserved.

It doesn't have to be that way. Losing weight requires a lot of effort, but it should not require shame and punishment. If you're looking for the best plan for you, look at all the stuff you've tried before and ask yourself why you stopped using those plans; what weren't they doing for you? When you've tried plans that you enjoyed in the past, why did you enjoy them? It's so much easier to stay with a plan that works for your lifestyle and tastes.

I wouldn't walk in a pair of shoes five sizes too small for me and blame my feet for the pain, telling myself with every agonizing step that I deserve this and that if I stop, I must be a lily-livered creature with no willpower. I'd go out and find a pair of shoes that fit me well so I could wear them as long as I wished. Find your proper pair of shoes and you won't feel like taking them off. :)

11-05-2010, 05:43 PM
Well I bought a scale last night and it said 271 and I thought I'd fall over. I weighed again this morning and it was down to 264 in my tshirt. I plan to weigh on Monday mornings, so I'll log official weight as of then. I'm already feeling the anxity attacks coming. I need to get a plan together, i think this time I'm not going to jump into any plan, and just start but NOT eating out of the snack machines at work anymore. I would spend at least $20 a week i them. I also eat out almost every day at work, I'm going ot try to bring my lunch. Ham sandwhich has to be better than 3 hot dogs and cheese fries and soda. I also will change to a diet soda. As soon as I started thinking of limiting my eating i started to lose it. So I have to try to start slow and pray a little comes off. My doctor said to just stop drinking regular soda and that will make me drop 15lbs a year. As I get more comfortable with the eating changes I will start to calorie count. Weight Watchers worked well for me last time, but i gave up.

11-08-2010, 01:54 PM
I am pretty new here, and I am still working out the "plan" for getting healthy. But I can say, It takes guts for you to get online and make a start, even if you are not exactly sure how to get there.

I understand you want to be "thinner" and that is great. Have you thought about why?
What I have learned, even since last week, is that the numbers on the scale serve a purpose, but they are not the controlling purpose. I finally came to 3FC and joined, not for the number, but because I needed ideas to be healthy, to get physically fit, and to find a place that would support, and hold myself accountable to something.

So it is GREAT that you are here. Keep signing in, and take it one step at a time.

DixC Chix
11-08-2010, 02:52 PM
It is so different for each one of us. But this forum is like a smorgas board. You can take a little from each of us and what we learned and see if it works for you. Never give up! Every day is a new opportunity.

The absolute hardest part for me was finding the time to give to myself for a healthy life. I moved me up the list of what was important a few notches. So I gave up watching some TV shows to plan out my food and walk with a purpose and take water aerobics. During other 'can't miss' TV shows (DWTS) I get in a little exercise during the commercials - like core strengthening and now I do squats and lunges. Heck you can even get in a set of bicep curls in the kitchen with a can of beans!

I would say exercise is the most important change you can make because it is an addition to your life not a subtraction (food you crave). I found the little ways to add it in. Purposely park further away, take the stairs occasionally and then more frequently. As you feel better (I huffed and puffed on the stairs for a month before I felt a change), you can plan more movement. Its a great habit to have.

I do WW points but I also use a calorie counter to double check my regular daily selections. I have the same thing for breakfast and lunch and snacks pretty much everyday. If I give myself too many options it is too much temptation and I get all loosy-goosy. Dinner however is an adventure every day!

Make small changes every week until you find your groove. If you are used to eating out everyday try bringing your lunch on Tues/Thurs. Socializing is so important in life that you can probably eat it at a restaurant with your friends with no problem. If that works out then try Mon/Wed/Fri.

You can plan what small changes you will make on the calendar, day by day; week by week. I wore a rubberband on my wrist to fidget with when I was having a crisis of craving. I put on a tooth whitening strip to delay a binge and give me time to calm down and think things through.

As realistic plan is as individual as your fingerprints but you can try all kinds of things then go back for seconds when it works for you.

Never give up! Keep coming back! I for one want to cheer your successes. YOu get this one :cp: just for coming back!!

11-09-2010, 12:28 PM
Well how weird. Apprently I'm the same weight I was when I was here 1 1/2 years ago. When I first weight myself it said 271, but since then I weight myself in morning in my night shirt which is how I always did before and I'm 264. So far not been super diligent, at work today doing my best to fight the snack machine urge. I did get an organge juice and Pepsi 0 out of the machines this morning. But I'm not feeline well and needed the OJ and fiz from soda for my throat. Fixin to start reading everyones posts on my breaks and hope for some inspriation and hope to offer some encouragement.

11-09-2010, 04:41 PM
Calorie counting has saved my life; it's nothing rash and if you can fit it into your diet, you can eat it (although I've learned that that doesn't mean cram your diet with twinkies and cookies because you have calories left over), I also agree about exercise exercise exercise; it makes me feel good and although it's stalling my weight loss a little (gaining muscle, muscle bloat, etc) I am excited to see (and feel) myself getting harder, better, faster, stronger! Good Luck!

DixC Chix
11-09-2010, 05:11 PM
Fixin to start reading everyones posts on my breaks and hope for some inspriation and hope to offer some encouragement.
Do you have a connection to Texas??

11-09-2010, 05:12 PM
calorie counter here too. Basically just making healthier choices, limiting highly processed items. As a result I can't stand to eat anything too sweet, or too rich.

11-09-2010, 05:51 PM
Do you have a connection to Texas??

No actually TN, I'm originally from Chicago, but been in TN 7 years now. Sorta picked up on the slang lol

11-10-2010, 11:38 AM
Another vote for tracking your intake on Sparkpeople. If you want a real life support group see if there is a TOPS group in your area at tops.org