Pregnant - Nursing - Help! Wanting a baby but don't know if I should?




maitlsa
11-01-2010, 11:10 AM
Hi,

I am 28 years old and I weigh about 220 lbs. I have tried every kind of diet that I can think of and nothing has seemed to help me lose weight. I try walking every other day on the treadmill and I am pretty active in my job (always moving and what not) but I cant lose it. My boyfriend and I want to have a baby sooner rather than later but I am afraid that I weigh too much. Anyone have any suggestions? Please HELP! All I want is a family. :)


guamvixen
11-01-2010, 11:13 AM
I would consult your doctor first. They would be able to give you some pointers and good advice on what you should do. For me, at my highest weight, I wasn't able to have a baby, plus it wasn't a good idea for me either. I suffered from serious anxiety and high blood pressure putting me in danger of a high risk pregnancy. I'm 8 mos pregnant now, and so far, everything has been going smoothly! Best of luck!

sacha
11-01-2010, 11:48 AM
Weight loss comes from eating less calories than you burn. Walking every other day is good for heart health but is not enough. Have you considered a nutritionist that specializes in women who are trying to conceive?


theCandEs
11-01-2010, 11:51 AM
I never could lose weight just by exercising. I have to change my diet to lose. Have you tried low carb? I have lost a LOT of weight in a short period of time just by cutting back on the carbs. Exercising doesn't hurt, but for me it didn't really get me to lose.

maitlsa
11-01-2010, 12:26 PM
I have checked with my doctor and she does not seem concerned at all. I do have high blood pressure and am medicated for it.
I do a low calorie diet of about 100 calories a day with no change.

Gale02
11-01-2010, 01:25 PM
I sincerely hope you meant 1000 calories, not 100. That said, you need to eat more than that. Super low calorie diets (which that is at your weight) do nothing but make us hungry and binge. How long have you been trying to lose weight? Are you tracking your calories (writing them down) or estimating in your head?

If your Dr isn't concerned and you're positive that this is the right time in your life then I'd say go for it. I was overweight when I had both of my kids and everything is fine. You are at increased risk for several things (GD, Preeclampsia, PIH, etc.) but it's not an astronomical increase from normal weight women.

It sounds like you want to lose weight before you get pregnant, and that's something you can absolutely do! Find a plan that works for you and stick to it 100%, you'll succeed! Weight Watchers works awesome for me, some people do South Beach or calorie counting (writing it all down)... something will work for you. :) Good luck!

mom4life
11-01-2010, 02:51 PM
I agree with Gale02, you need to eat more then 1000 (I hope that's what you meant). You would probably fit around the 1500 calorie range but it depends on how rapidly you want to lose it. I'd suggest you go to a weight loss site like, Fitday or fitnesspal to get a better idea on your calorie range for the day.
But yes, your daily eating habits need to change. I could lose just by eating right with zero exercise.

maitlsa
11-01-2010, 06:38 PM
Thanks everyone, and yes I did mean 1000 calories. I'm going to try weight watchers again and see if I can drop some.

cherrypie
11-01-2010, 07:26 PM
it's always better to be a healthy weight but life doesn't always work out that neatly. I weighed about 195 with both my kids. It does put you at greater risk for diabetes and you end up on a diet anyway. But on the other hand, I didn't gain much during my pregnancies.

rca21
11-02-2010, 11:53 AM
I absolutely love weight watchers. I have been on it for about a month now and have lost 16 pounds. I am trying to get pregnant. I have been off of birth control for over a year and still no baby. When I went to the gynecologist about it she said my weight could be a huge factor in my fertility. She said 50 pounds could do the trick. I am on my way there and hoping to get pregnant! Good luck!

maitlsa
11-02-2010, 03:01 PM
Well, I am hoping that I can drop some. So far I am down 3 pounds in the 1st week of my diet, but it seems as if I always gain it back right away.

fattymcfatty
11-02-2010, 06:08 PM
I always was afraid, being 260 something and 5'9" that if I got pregnant, I would balloon to over 300lbs and I was scared to death to put that much weight on and never be able to lose it...
When I did get pregnant, I actually LOST weight. I had morning sickness so bad, I was puking like a bulimic. It took until the 5th month for me to even like food again. Right before I had my daughter, I was finally back up to what I weighed at the very beginning of pregnancy (260). So after she was born, postpartum, I weighed around 245. So I didn't have the pregnancy weight gain that some women have. But I digress...
My point is that you simply don't know what the future holds. If you want to lose a little, great, do that before, but don't let your weight stop you. If I did, I wouldn't have a wonderful little 19 month old napping in the other room right now...

fattymcfatty
11-02-2010, 06:11 PM
BTW
My little girl has actually been my best motivator for losing the weight permanently. I want to be an active role model for her, and be able to out-run her in the park, etc. I also want her to develop good eating habits. I don't want her to struggle like I have. Before, I treated my body like a trash can because I didn't have anyone holding me accountable, or anyone I felt I needed to be accountable for. But all that has changed now.

maitlsa
11-03-2010, 10:51 AM
Thanks for the encouragement. I just get so down because I keep gaining without much explanation. I did go to the doctors to have my thyroid checked so we will see what happens there.

Quail
11-07-2010, 01:58 AM
Just wanted to chime in with some encouragement/advice. I know how it feels to REALLY want to have a baby and yet see your weight as being an obstacle. It stinks.

I was 275 when I got pregnant and my pregnancy ended 8 weeks early with rapid onset preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome. My care team agrees that obesity was a factor.

You already have blood pressure issues and it sounds like you are thinking that there may be a thyroid issue as well. Those things, coupled with obesity, make you at risk for preeclampsia.

That being said, we are not living in the dark ages and you won't be on your own to deal with any potential complications. Your OB will know your risk factors and monitor you accordingly. If things start looking weird during your pregnancy, there are supportive care options to keep you going as long as possible.

My advice would be to see about your thyroid and then give yourself a few months to get your weight down. Even if you only lose a small amount of weight, your body will thank you for it during your pregnancy. I'd also caution you not to set goals like, "I'll allow myself to get pregnant when I reach 140 pounds." It's just not realistic. Get to a point where you feel positive, then get busy! :D

maitlsa
11-08-2010, 11:14 AM
Thanks for the encouragment. The good news is my thyroid is normal. Although I did switch from a Beta Blocker for my high BP to a different medication and I have already dropped 4 lbs.

I think that my metabolism was slowed down, but I will keep you all posted.
Thanks :)

boots
11-08-2010, 07:21 PM
I'd highly suggest to keep a few things in mind:

-Remember that you're working on creating a the SAFEST environment possible for your future baby! Keep that in your mind! As you're trying to lose weight and get your blood pressure under control keep reminding yourself that you're creating the SAFEST environment possible for your baby, and your baby is worth it!

-I highly recommend talking to a nutritionist. Ask your OB for a referral if you need one. I'm SO grateful I talked to a nutritionist.

-start taking vitamins now and change your eating habits to healthy ones. A HUGE problem with obesity, is that the women are UNDER nourished! (under-nourished is linked to pre-eclampsia as well as obesity+high blood pressure) Its a proven fact! We eat a bunch of garbage that makes us fat, but not enough HEALTHY food to nourish us! And remember, your baby will be growing from what you supply it! It will NOT be immune from your lack of bad nutrition if you don't ADD good foods to your diet!


I highly recommend making some lifechanges TODAY!

1. Start vitamins now, something prenatal with folic acid in it

2. Start ADDING something healthy to your diet every day. Don't worry about taking stuff away, but start to ADD stuff! Healthy stuff. Instead of thinking "I'm going to give up the X, X, and Y this week" think "I'm going to add a green leafy vegetable and eat it every day this week!" (I learned this from a personal trainer, I'm bad with fresh vegetables though, so instead I've added things like a can of V8 to my diet every day)

3. Definitely up your calorie intake. Have you looked at fitday.com? Its free, I love that site, you can put in your weight goals and dates and it'll calculate your allowed calories for you and keep you on something healthier. If you zap your calories too fast, your body will go into "STARVE MODE" and you don't want that.


Good luck! and keep us posted!

Remember to prioritize your baby's needs before your own! And think about that baby and keep your end goal in mind! Whenever I start to think about my kids instead of my desire for the....fifth....piece of pizza, it helps me motivate some self-control!

LoveRyGuy
11-08-2010, 08:07 PM
beta blockers slow EVERYTHING down... i was on Inderal when i was 18 as an experiment to control my migraines and i had to quit my job, heartrate slows down and so then, metabolism. blech.

maitlsa
11-09-2010, 10:41 AM
Yea, I have an appointment with a nutrionist and I am eating healthier. I am already starting to drop so that makes me excited. I have started on a pre-natal and I am so suprised how much energy I have from that. I'll keep everyone posted.

Quail
11-09-2010, 11:42 PM
I'd highly suggest to keep a few things in mind:

-Remember that you're working on creating a the SAFEST environment possible for your future baby! Keep that in your mind! As you're trying to lose weight and get your blood pressure under control keep reminding yourself that you're creating the SAFEST environment possible for your baby, and your baby is worth it!

-I highly recommend talking to a nutritionist. Ask your OB for a referral if you need one. I'm SO grateful I talked to a nutritionist.

-start taking vitamins now and change your eating habits to healthy ones. A HUGE problem with obesity, is that the women are UNDER nourished! (under-nourished is linked to pre-eclampsia as well as obesity+high blood pressure) Its a proven fact! We eat a bunch of garbage that makes us fat, but not enough HEALTHY food to nourish us! And remember, your baby will be growing from what you supply it! It will NOT be immune from your lack of bad nutrition if you don't ADD good foods to your diet!


I highly recommend making some lifechanges TODAY!

1. Start vitamins now, something prenatal with folic acid in it

2. Start ADDING something healthy to your diet every day. Don't worry about taking stuff away, but start to ADD stuff! Healthy stuff. Instead of thinking "I'm going to give up the X, X, and Y this week" think "I'm going to add a green leafy vegetable and eat it every day this week!" (I learned this from a personal trainer, I'm bad with fresh vegetables though, so instead I've added things like a can of V8 to my diet every day)

3. Definitely up your calorie intake. Have you looked at fitday.com? Its free, I love that site, you can put in your weight goals and dates and it'll calculate your allowed calories for you and keep you on something healthier. If you zap your calories too fast, your body will go into "STARVE MODE" and you don't want that.


Good luck! and keep us posted!

Remember to prioritize your baby's needs before your own! And think about that baby and keep your end goal in mind! Whenever I start to think about my kids instead of my desire for the....fifth....piece of pizza, it helps me motivate some self-control!

I completely agree with everything you say, ESPECIALLY your comment on creating a safe environment for the baby. Nicely put!

I had to beg my OB to let me see a nutritionist and he looked at me like I was an alien. It was a really good thing to do, though!

I did want to point out one teeny tiny fact that's really just one of my personal hang-ups. Pre-eclampsia can't necessarily be prevented through appropriate nourishment. It's a disease of the placenta that actually begins when the placenta implants. I always think we're over-simplifying the issue when we lump pre-e into all of the great things you can potentially avoid by eating healthy. Pre-e can be caused by a variety of things including clotting factors, genetics, predisposition to high blood pressure, etc. For some people, some of those issues can't be avoided. I wish it was as easy as 'eating better = no pre-e', but that's just not the case. If pre-e were are directly related to nourishment as some would suggest, then there would be A LOT more pre-eclamptic women running around.

HOWEVER (and this comes from experience) when I developed pre-e, I think it would have been a whole heck of a lot easier to get over AND maybe it wouldn't have been so bad if my weight was in control. I ate extremely well during my pregnancy and before- it all came down to a clotting factor problem for me and I think the overall symptoms were exacerbated by obesity. My personal goal is to dump weight so that if I DO get pre-e next time, it might not be as severe.

maitlsa
12-13-2010, 02:46 PM
Update: I am down to 210lbs. The new medication is helping and I am starting to notice. YAY!!

Gale02
12-13-2010, 05:55 PM
Good job maitlsa! Keep up the great work!

cherrypie
12-13-2010, 08:04 PM
good work

Quail
12-14-2010, 03:15 PM
Update: I am down to 210lbs. The new medication is helping and I am starting to notice. YAY!!

WOW! Congratulations!! :carrot: