100 lb. Club - Yeah, I know you're doing it for yourself but...

Goddess Jessica
11-04-2002, 12:58 PM
Ok, I know we're all losing weight for ourselves. I mean it's the standard line. But c'mon, there's always a couple of other reasons you're doing it. Yes, they're not the ones that last but sometimes, they are the ones that get me to aerobics class or reviberate in my head when I really want 12 oreos.

Mine are:

-I'm an avid social dancer (ballroom, contra, a little swing) and whenever I get to an new dance, NO ONE wants to dance with me. I'm the fat girl, I wouldn't be able to keep up, I probably get breathless when I dance. Who wants to dance with someone who no fun to dance with (nevermind I'm a great dancer and I have more stamina than you can shake a stick at). So, I'd like to go to a dance and have my pick of the men. And say no to all those men who didn't pick me when I was fat. HA!

-My boyfriend's ex-girlfriend. We see her a couple times a year. She's a tiny little thing (and a great dancer). She's cordial enough but gets jealous whenever people pay attention to me instead of her. I'd like to encourage that jealousy (I know! Who knew I was so petty!!).

So there are MY evil plans, what about yours?

11-04-2002, 03:32 PM
Hee-Hee...I love evil plans!

Okay...here's a few of my evil thoughts:

Most of my evil thoughts and plans have ppl in them..ppl that I must see..ppl that I will go out of my way to see...to show em.

1. Ex husband
2.Ex husband family
3. Ex husbands ex girlfriend who used to annoy the **** out of me when we were together
4. Ex husbands current girlfriend, the one I introduced her to him a long time ago!
5. My skinny petite cousin who has always just been so darn cute
6. My ex boyfriend from high school who told me my thighs were too big when I broke up with him.
7. A few stuck girls from high school.

Ah...the list goes on.

11-04-2002, 06:35 PM
OK- the list:

1. Hate getting on the scale at the doctors office and see their shock/pity at my weight.
2. Sick of not being able to shop at most of the stores in the mall.
3. Used to hate seeing myself in pictures. It's getting better the smaller I get.
4. Want to be able to date and have my choice of guys not worrying if anyone would want to go out with me.
5. To make my soon to be exhusband jealous as ****.
6. And to make his girlfriend jealous too! She is heavy but just a little smaller than me. (Not for long!) ;)
7. Not having to worry about booths, small chairs, movie theater seats, rides at amusement parks.
8. last but not least....to live longer and see my son grow up and have his own family, etc...

I can go on forever!

11-04-2002, 11:41 PM

I would love to see a certain ex-boyfriend and have him falling all over himself as I walk away with my husband

I would also like to WOW my husband's softball team! :s:

11-05-2002, 05:22 PM
I want see me in the pics...NOT my double chin.

I want to float in my male friends coats..when they give them to me to wear cause am cold.

I want to wear a mans pair of boxers and feel sexy.

Ahhhhh...love these threads.

11-05-2002, 06:55 PM
hmmm...lately, these types of threads have been doing nothing but depressing me. I think it's because I've been feeling like I can't do this, that I'll never be thin, that I'll never have the body I want.

I just want to go into a store and buy whatever I want without regard to "does it make my *** look big?" or "does my stomach stick out too much?" or "can you see my tremendous saddlebags?"

11-05-2002, 09:04 PM
ditto Jennelle - DITTO!

I was doing so well - and I know what I'm doing now is stupid.. so why? I wouldn't speed in front of a cop, I wouldn't stick my hand in a open flame, I wouldn't let my 2 year play in the street - so what do I put chocolate in my mouth when I know it will not help me reach my goal? I know it will not make my healthy! and I know it will not make me happy 5 minutes later - why do I do this?


11-06-2002, 08:55 AM
Wow, Dana, for some reason you really struck a note with me. I guess we stick that chocolate in our mouths because of habit, or stress, or boredom ... I find it often has to do with just having that taste in my mouth. If that's the case, then just one tiny bite should do (we've been through this before -- see the thread on spitting it out!).

Okay, back to the subject. I used to have fantasies much like the ones mentioned -- running into old friends. I don't seem to have those much anymore. I guess there's no one I care about impressing all that much! BUT ... We're getting ready to have three different guests in the next two months - tomorrow, my daughter's godfather is coming to visit ... he lives in the Northeast and we haven't seen him for almost 6 years. I take some satisfaction in knowing that I'm 50+ pounds lighter than then, but still, I'm uncomfortable with the thought that I'm still quite fat. And the same goes for the other two guests: an old friend of mine I haven't seen for 7 or 8 years, and my husband's old friend we haven't seen for 6 or 7 years. I'm probably 20 pounds or so heavier than then, but still ... It makes me embarrassed.

So, ultimately, I'd like not to have to think about these things!


11-06-2002, 12:35 PM
I too, love these threads!

1. I want to be able to go to my 10 year high school reunion and be the same size as I was back then. My favorite movie, Gross Pointe Blank, Joan Cusack says something like, everyone from high school is exactly the same, they just swelled. I want to be the one who didn't swell.
2. I don't want to be the token fat chick in my best friends wedding later this month. (I don't think I will anymore, I think that I am looking pretty darned good)
3. I want my husbands friends to describe me the way they do some of the other wifes without using the phrase, she'd be cute if she lost a few pounds.
4. I want to shop where ever I want

11-06-2002, 12:53 PM
I want to *jump* out of the car...not struggle.

Goddess Jessica
11-06-2002, 03:37 PM
Denise!! ME TOO! I have a 10 year in 2004 and I really really want to be the one that didn't swell. I was chunky in high school but still thin by my current weight. I e-mailed a high school friend a picture and she said, "Wow, you've changed a lot. If you wanted down the street I wouldn't recognize you." I translated it to, "Wow, you got fat."
I want to wear a great retro rockabilly dress to the reunion and people have to ask who I am. hee hee!

11-07-2002, 05:36 PM
Jennelle and Dana - I feel your pain. I'm in a slump too. I hate this. But I keep trying...well...I keep acting like I'm trying...I keep thinking that I am am going to start trying...and then I just eat some more.

Somebody stop me!! Do people still get their mouths wired shut?

Goddess Jessica
11-07-2002, 07:44 PM
When I was a teenager, I worked for a dentist as their babysitter. He wired his wife's mouth shut so she would lose weight. It was incredibly creepy. She had to keep a pair of wire cutters in her pocket because so many people die of vomit asphyxiation with a wired mouth. Eeek!

However, have you tried prescription drug Meridia (http://www.4meridia.com/)? I was on it for about three months (and took off 40 pounds, and only regain only 7 over the past two years off it). The great thing about it was it works my sending your brain signals that you're full way earlier than normal. It gave me a super sense of being satiated. That's a feeling I wasn't familiar with before and it totally helped me regain control. It's not like other drugs where it pumps you up with stimulants or tries to speed up your metabolism. I really liked it. It's very expensive though. (when I took it, it was $98 for a month's supply).

11-08-2002, 12:58 PM
Well I did try it, right after I had Jacob, and you are right, it took away all my cravings, it was awesome. But I didn't stay on it very long because around 5:00 every night, my mood would suddenly cahnge and I would become a royal b***h. Didn't like that at all.

I have thought about trying it again, but I think they took it off the market.

I am doing ok today. I know I need to just get off my butt and do this thing. period.

Goddess Jessica
11-08-2002, 03:13 PM
It is definately NOT off the market.

But that is a totally bizarre (and not to mention, unpleasant) side effect. I'm sorry babe.

11-08-2002, 03:55 PM
Here goes my two cents. First for those having a hard time. Please don't give up. That is the trick, something will evntually click and you will able to do it. This is coming from an 80 pound looser who thought I could not do it again. At one point I could only diet 1/2 of day and I would give up. But finally one day a year and half ago I decided to stop the insanity and I did it on pure wil-power and want to. I beg of you girls never to give up there is a light at the end of the tunnel as long as you don't give up.

Well here is my wish list:

I wish I could see the guy that screamed out of his jeep as I was crossing the street "harpoon the whale" I'll never forget those words and show him what a mermaid I am turning out to be and of course slap him around a little, ha! ha! ha! :lol:

I wish I could see the lady at the mall which thought I did not understand spanish ( and was talking about me with someone )and telling them why did she let herself go like that, what a shame she is so young) and show her who looks better now.

And last but not least I would like to show all of those that said "what a pretty face but what a shame" that there is no shame left just in there face for saying things like that.

Well sending all a great bit
group hug :grouphug: and keep going..........

11-08-2002, 03:55 PM
Originally posted by JacobsMommy
Jennelle and Dana - I feel your pain. I'm in a slump too. I hate this. But I keep trying...well...I keep acting like I'm trying...I keep thinking that I am am going to start trying...and then I just eat some more.

I know this feeling so well!!!

I miss phentermine. I wish I could have it back.

11-08-2002, 11:53 PM
sandi... if you want to try the meridia again, talk to your doc about taking it at night rather than in the morning. it affects your serotonin levels, which as we all know TOO WELL affects our mood. and add into that an obvious time-of-day effect for you [and since serotonin levels cycle during the day], trying the meridia at a different time MIGHT help..

just a thought.

11-09-2002, 12:36 AM
OMG! I have NEW-FOUND motivation! Next year at this time, (if all goes well) I'll be getting my temporary driver's license... and I KNOW we're all going to pass them around.... EEEEEEEEK. I don't want people's eyes to bug out of their heads when they see mine! :P Peace. -Apryl

11-09-2002, 10:32 AM
apryl??? DRIVING???? should the rest of us in other parts of the country be WORRIED about this/??????? should we clear off the roads for awhile??

11-09-2002, 12:14 PM
Apryl - It's a woman's perogative to lie about her weight on her driver's license! :lol: :lol: When I worked at K-Mart a few years ago, I would have to check people's ID when they wrote checks or used credit cards. In our state, all the personal info is right up near the top where the license number is, so I would see it by default. Do you know that most very, very overweight women listed their weight as 125? I would like to do a survey on driver's license weights. In fact, I think I'll post a poll now!

Be careful out there on the streets! :D

11-10-2002, 12:26 AM
Ha-Ha Jiffypop... very funny!! Considering I've never even really sat on the driver's side, let alone driven yet, you might have to clear the roads... especially Slimdown since we're in the same state! Muahahaha! Jennelle, that is too funny, yet, so believable! LOL. Could you imagine being the person that took the information for the licenses? It would be hard not to just "change" it for them *devlish grin* Well, goodnight everyone. Peace! -Apryl

11-10-2002, 12:32 AM
1. I love spending time outdoors, and if I were in better shape and much lighter, backpacking would be much easier on the bod. It's one thing for someone who weighs a normal weight to throw 45-60 extra pounds on their back, but for me, that's huge.

2. My 10 year high school reunion is just two years away, and I am scared to death to go already. I would love to walk in and watch them all pick their mouths back up off the floor.

3. All the cute clothes at the mall that don't cost an arm and a leg.

4. for more confidence, I know who I am and that there are great things about me that someone someday will fall in love with, but right now, I'm having a hard time getting out there for fear of what others will think.

11-10-2002, 02:03 PM
Daners, you just reminded me of another one ... but it's sort of tied up with all kinds of things! I want to get thin so I can be serious about a singing career (specifically, jazz). The "other things" are: well, first, I really can't do a whole lot about that right now because I'm a stay at home mom and don't have the flexibility for that kind of life-style; and second, as many of us know, carrying around this extra fat gives us an excuse for failure! Hey, it's not because I can't sing, it's because I'm fat! (oh, yeah? any of you who have gone to see jazz on a regular basis, I KNOW you've seen large women singing!)


11-10-2002, 09:30 PM
oh pen!!!! it's so cool that you said that!!! i'm looking for a voice teacher right now!! it's been a lifelong ambition to sing scat and torch songs, and after what i've been through the past couple of years, it's time to do it!!

i'll keep you posted. i already have a feather boa. does that count? oh,. and i'll ALWAYS have the cleavage.. now, all i need is a voice and accompanist!

11-10-2002, 11:10 PM
Hi Jiffypop! I play keyboard. . .I'd be delighted to be your accompanist!!! We can take it on the road!

*smiles* irishwings

11-11-2002, 01:55 AM
Jiffy, I imagine you may have a hard time finding a voice teacher who can teach you those things! (not impossible, but hard) A voice teacher can help you with your support, range and such ... but if you want to learn to scat: listen to lots of music! Vocalists, certainly, but also listen to the instrumentalists.

I need a piano player too, Irish! I guess a guitarist would do -- or there's a commercial on right now with a woman (a LARGE woman, BTW) singing with just a bass player!

Scooby-dwap-a-dwee-ah -- do woo!


11-11-2002, 10:10 AM
we can hope, pen.. but i DO have an advantage... one of the world's best college jazz programs is about 10 minutes from here.. and they've had sherill bentine [sp?] there as a guest instructor...

12-04-2002, 05:34 PM
- I want to make love WITH the lights on (or at least a night light lol)
- It is the ultimate humiliation when I run into someone I have no seen in a while, and they get tongue-tied trying to avoid commenting on my weight
- I am having a breast reduction in the spring, as reconstructive surgery, and want to be as near to a normal weight as possible so that I heal well, and end up with the right proportions
- All those b***** that sneer at me (and the a******* as well) - I want to see them be the ones that are embarassed and uncomfortable!:s:

So, some of my reasons are as petty as anyone else's....but those are the ones that give me a kick in the butt!

12-04-2002, 05:49 PM
1. shop with people. i tend to only shop on my own cuz i don't want them to have to go to the "fat" stores and help me choose something that only looks "less bad" than the others.

2. weigh less than my boyfriend.

3. not have to worry about taking up too much room in bus seats or on benches.

4. sit on people's laps without crushing them.

5. like goddess jessica, i love dancing. swing dancing. and i want guys to ask ME to dance.

6. i want guys to flirt with me so i can shoot them down. heh. i have a wonderful guy who loves me for ME, not my body... but...

7. i want to look good for him. =)