100 lb. Club - NSV, but how sad!

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10-27-2010, 07:26 AM
I was at the grocery store yesterday when my shoe came untied. I looked down at it, and thought, huh, I wonder if I can just bend over and tie it these days? I bent over and tied my shoe!

Just 5 months ago, I could not have done that. Honestly, it makes me so embarrassed and sad to even say that. :( And actually, when I think of how I used to have to be sitting (in a certain chair, even!) to get the job done, it already seems like a ghost of a memory. I'm really trying to fully appreciate and acknowledge these things as they happen, because I don't ever want to forget what 350 lbs feels like as I make my way down.

It is amazing how the pounds can just sneak up on you, and before you know it you are so large you cannot tie your shoes and that becomes your new normal. I can't wait to find out what else I will be able to do as my normal changes! :D

10-27-2010, 07:28 AM
Great NSV!!!!!

10-27-2010, 08:59 AM
yeah Shannon! Look how far you've come already!

10-27-2010, 09:23 AM
I'm really trying to fully appreciate and acknowledge these things as they happen

It's the small things that add up, and I too try to appreciate them as they come along. It's so easy to forget them after a while, and lose sight of how far we've come! You're doing great, and are are a real inspiration.

10-27-2010, 09:38 AM
That is really wonderful!
Being able to do common everyday things is something that I hope I never take for granted. To tie my shoes, I used to have to sit either on the bed or couch, turn sideways and prop my leg on the the bed or cough so that I could get my shoe close enough to tie. I think about that every single time I bend down and tie my shoes now. We don't have to get to goal to reap the rewards of our new lifestyles!

10-27-2010, 09:44 AM
That's an awesome NSV! You're well on your way to a whole slew of new NSVs. Looking forward to reading about them!

10-27-2010, 10:05 AM
Awesome! I remember the day I could clip my toenails and still be able to breathe while doing so!! Keep on keeping on!

10-27-2010, 10:11 AM
Congrats! When I first realized I could stop, bend to one knee, tie my shoe and then stand back up without holding on to anything, I went around and modeled the move to other people.

I shudder when I realize how resigned I was to my life. How I'd made my peace with being fat and just accepted my measure of misery. As you say, I need to never, ever forget that. The capacity of the human mind to accept, as you say, a new normal, is both our greatest strength and our greatest weakness. It allows us to adapt when things change rapidly, but it means we can come to accept some pretty bizarre things--like physically and emotionally abusive relationships, terrible jobs, and health problems.

10-27-2010, 10:31 AM
that's an awesome NSV!

my back is 'out' right now, and this morning i opted for slip on shoes as the distance between my hands and my feet seemed unsurmountable! lol I need you to come tie them for me :)

10-27-2010, 10:37 AM
Those are the best ones, when you realize you're doing something you couldnt before, congrats!!

I know the sadness feeling though, a few weeks ago some one asked me how much I had lost (a close friend) and then how much more i wanted to lose . . . she did the math and was surprised that I 'needed' to lose 100+ lbs. I was embaressed that I had let myself get to the point i needed to do that rather than proud of what i've already done.
Funny how that works.

10-27-2010, 10:43 AM
Great NSV! Shoes that tie, heck I need to get me some of those again. I've been wearing slip-on Crocs for years. Lol

10-27-2010, 10:46 AM
I think it's good to acknowledge the bittersweet nature of some of these accomplishments. Celebrate them, but keep the bitter taste too to help remind you why you don't want to go back there.

It's like the ritual at Passover, eating the sweet tasty charoset with the bitter maror, the sweetness of freedom mingled with the bitterness of slavery.

Not long ago I proudly told a very close friend, "I've lost 50 pounds. I've never lost that much before." And she said, "does that mean you're thinner than you've ever been as an adult?" Nope. It only means I was fatter than I'd ever been and had that much further to go.

10-27-2010, 10:54 AM
YAY! That is a good one. Never thought of it before.

10-27-2010, 11:28 AM
That is a GREAT NSV! You will have more and more of them and they add up to a better quality of life. Congrats :)

10-27-2010, 12:00 PM
That's a great NSV and I have to say I'm glad you're making note of the milestones. I wish I'd written mine down as they came along... :)

10-27-2010, 12:10 PM
Girls, I want to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your encouragement!! :hug: This is such a fun place to share these victories! :carrot: :D

10-27-2010, 12:28 PM
That's a wonderful NSV.... you know, it's the small things in life... :)

10-27-2010, 12:31 PM
Yay!! Keep up the great progress. It's those everyday NSV's that make the process so worthwhile!

10-27-2010, 01:53 PM
This is so awsome to hear. You will have many new normals, I'm sure.

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10-27-2010, 03:09 PM
Wonderful ! And such an important NSV - people who have never been to 300lbs + might find this hard to understand, but I so get this !

10-27-2010, 03:15 PM
That's great!! This journey really is full of awesome surprises!

10-27-2010, 04:42 PM
This is one that is often reported as a NSV and with good reason! It is this right here, that feeling of jubilation over a new task you can now do, that keeps me going every single day. You will just keep collecting little things that other people, people who have never been obese, take for granted every single day. I swear it makes us better people for it. ;) There's so little I take for granted.

10-27-2010, 04:58 PM
This is one that is often reported as a NSV and with good reason! It is this right here, that feeling of jubilation over a new task you can now do, that keeps me going every single day. You will just keep collecting little things that other people, people who have never been obese, take for granted every single day. I swear it makes us better people for it. ;) There's so little I take for granted.

I agree! I think people who have always been small just don't know about the everyday joys of living in small(er) bodies...even now I feel that way when I still have a long way to go. I've said the same about infertility...having TTC'd for years for my son I know I don't love him anymore than anyone else loves their kids, but I believe I think of my kids as miracles a little more than someone who maybe tried for a few months. Anyways struggles always give us good perspective on things!

10-27-2010, 09:29 PM
Great NSV! I'm getting close to not being able to do that myself so I can appreciate what your saying. Enjoy every minute of it! Don't discount any NSV!

10-27-2010, 09:35 PM
Congratulations!! That's an awesome NSV!!! Just imagine how many more you're going to have along the way! :cheer2::cheer3::cheer2:

10-27-2010, 09:55 PM
Congrats to you! That is awesome!

10-27-2010, 09:57 PM
Congratulations Shannon; what a wonderful NSV! You're going to enjoy discovering so many more things like this along the way.

10-27-2010, 10:10 PM
Congratulations! That is a great NSV! And don't feel embarrassed about getting to where you were... celebrate where you are going!

10-27-2010, 10:41 PM
I look back (luckily not all that often), and it's mind boggling to think how, not to mention why, I settled for such an inferior quality of life. Anyway....

Shannon, I am so happy for you. There are so many more incredible *little* (not so little!) rewards and benefits headed your way. Such joy and such fun! Keep us posted on each and every one of them, won't you? I can't get enough of this stuff. :)

10-27-2010, 10:50 PM

love this post! awesome!

10-28-2010, 07:44 AM
Thanks again, so much, to everyone who has posted their congrats. I thought I'd get on here and post a few other of my NSVs. Maybe someone starting off where I was will see how you don't have to even be anywhere close to goal before it really starts paying off!

1) When I started, my lower legs looked like someone else's. They were so swollen! That is essentially gone, when I look down now, I see my own feet and legs. My toes are, dare I say, looking cute! It's still a chore to polish them, but I can do it -- and I bother now!

2) My knees are not killing me anymore! Oh, they hurt from time to time, but no more constant misery.

3) I walk in to my work from the parking garage with ease, and before I would be thinking to myself the whole way in, I can't even comfortably walk in there, how am I going to do a 12 hour shift??

4) Getting off the family room couch used to be a real effort. It's kinda low. I noticed the other day that I got up from the couch without any real effort. It scares me to think that getting off the couch used to be something I had to mentally prepare myself for. No wonder I would stay put once I got there!

5) I have discovered that eating and cooking healthful, satisfying meals, is very gratifying and enjoyable to me. I have found out that "dieting" does not have to mean being hungry and deprived all the time. I did not have to give up my love of food -- I love food now as much if not more than before! I love buying it, cooking it, serving it to my family, and eating it - with no remorse.

6) I found out I can walk a mile in the mornings with one of my dogs, and another 1/2 mile with the other one in the afternoons -- and really enjoy it! Like enjoy it to the point if I miss it, I'm disappointed. Exercise does not have to = torture. It can feel like "going out to play", as I saw another poster call it. :)

7) My work pants (scrubs) are really getting too embarrassingly loose, I must buy the next size down soon. Tops that long ago went to the back of the closet for being too tight are fitting now!

8) I actually WANT to be 'intimate' with my husband now. ;)

Putting some of these down in black and white really solidifies for me why I am doing this, and how WORTH IT it is!!

10-28-2010, 10:18 AM
YAY on the NSV's. Amazing isn't it. How things change.....makes me want to keep going to see what new exciting things I have been missing!

10-28-2010, 10:53 AM
Great NSV, it's always the little things that come with losing weight that keep us going, you're doing GREAT ! Good Luck!

10-28-2010, 12:18 PM
Shannon, that is so awesome that you are going through so many positive changes. I'm so happy for you!! :)

I'm also noticing little things lately, like noticing slimmer legs, and not coughing as much as I used to. It is hard to believe that even small weight loss makes a big difference.

10-28-2010, 05:29 PM
This is the LEAST sad thing Ive read all day :)

That is in fact totally and amazingly awesome!

Petite Powerhouse
10-28-2010, 05:36 PM
This is the most awesome news I have heard all day—probably all week. Congrats! The fact that you took the time to fully appreciate that moment, and all your other accomplishments, makes me realize I need to do more appreciating of my own.