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10-30-2002, 11:28 AM
Good Morning everyone,
I'm still anxiously awaiting my test results but healing nicely from surgery. Thank you to everyone for your prayers, kind thoughts & gentle hugs.

All of you who are having a tough time as well are in my prayers and i hope everything turns out ok for you.

10-31-2002, 09:33 PM
MrsM, any news yet? Thinking about you, hon! hugs...

Listen girls... maybe some good news. Little Dougie... his parents saw the surgeons, and they're 99% sure that it's not a tumor but just a growth of bone! They'll have to operate, and there's still some danger in that, but wouldn't it just be wonderful if it weren't cancer? :)

Den darling, how is your mom? Come and let us know how you're doing when you can. hugs...

Terri, how's your mom doing? Keeping her in my prayers, hon.

Virginia, how is Pam? Still on the mend, I hope.

Thinking about all of you...
lots of love...
xoxo ellis

10-31-2002, 09:46 PM
:cb: yea * happy dance* That is wonderful news Ellis. I will still continue to keep that little boy in my thoughts.

Any good news from the rest of you girls? I am still thinking about all of you (and your moms & friends.)

Chris - are you still hiding out? I hope you are doing ok hun.


10-31-2002, 10:29 PM
Hi Ellis,
Pam is not doing too badly, however, she thinks she is passing a kidnet stone, and is hoping to do so very quickly as it is quite painful. Her color is much better, and she only has one day left on antibiotic. SHe is going back to work on Monday. I think she will find it very hard, but she loves to work. Her _itch of a boss had the nerve to tell on of her co-workers that she does not think she should have had the whole week off. I would like to take that chick my the throat and ..... Never mind! Not work getting worked up over, but it makes me so made. Of all people I know, other than my hubby, she works the hardest and is more deicated to her work than anyone I know.
Oh well, some people have to belittle others to make themselves feel better. Sad but so true!
Sorry for ranting!


11-01-2002, 04:45 PM
Hi everyone!

I have split the thread and the old one is achived for anyone who needs to catch up.

Hope all of you are doing well:)

Mrs.M how are you, any news about your tests?

Ellis-that is great news about Dougie

Wantto losealot-hope your mom is feeling better soon.

Den and Teri-I hope both your mom's are doing better, keep us up to date when you can.

Prayers and :grouphug:for all who are in need of them these days.

11-02-2002, 10:48 PM
Hi everyone,
My DH's cousin finally lost to a very long battle with cancer, just over an hour ago tonight. He has been sick for around 7 years now, so it is really a blessing but also very sad. He was such a fun loving man and everyone compares my hubby to him. Such a zest for life. Although , he can no longer be comforted by prayers and warm vibes, his family can be comforted in knowing he was loved by many. So I would really appreciate it if you would say a little prayer or send loving vibes to the family of Gordie. He will be missed deeply!
Thank you

11-03-2002, 07:45 PM
Virginia, dear... sending prayers and love to Gordie's family. How wonderful that he's left such love and such good memories for them. hugs....

11-03-2002, 08:26 PM
Virginia-sending a prayer for Gordie, his family and you.

11-04-2002, 05:07 PM
Hey Everyone:wave:
Sorry it has taken me this long to get back to you. I finally got my test results last thursday. What i have is not Cancer, It is called Fibromitosis or something like that & it is not life threatening. It is very rare to be found in the breast, most of the time it occures in the abdominal cavity. My surgon wants me to go see a specialist in Chicago that deals in nothing but breast health. DH is not real thrilled with the idea of me seeing a Dr. 4 hrs from home so i have agreed to do some research on the internet to see what we can find out about it and if we can find a Dr. a little closer to home that specialises in it. I'm only about 2 1/2 hrs from St. Loise and 2 hrs. from Indianapolis so hopefully there will be someone a little closer to me.

Part of the reason my Dr. is so addimit that I see a specialist is because he has never delt with anyone with this in the breast and because of the size of the are he had to remove in order to get it all. It was something like 8 x 5 X 4 cm.

I'll keep you all posted on how the research goes. Sending good Thoughts to all and thank you all so much for your prayers.

ps - incision is healing nicely but i'm still pretty soar.

11-04-2002, 06:10 PM
MrsM, what wonderful news! :cb:
What a relief... phew!
hugs, hon... let us know if you're able to find a closer doctor. Otherwise, I'd DEFINITELY go to that specialist, no matter how far away she/he is.

11-04-2002, 06:18 PM
MrsM - so glad to hear the is a sigh of relief, I am sure. I've had a couple scares, and it wears on you. Please let us know how it all works out.

Virginia - sending a blessing and warm hugs to you and your family. This may sound corny, but I'm reminded of a line from a Beatles song by what you wrote: the love you take is equal to the love you make

Thinking of you all with Love, Terri

11-04-2002, 06:22 PM
Virginia - I need to clarify - I am sending a prayer that his life blessed those around him.

I get tongue tied online sometimes. I am one of those people who mostly talks with her hands - so I apologize if I come across the wrong way in writing. But my intentions are there
Love, Ter

11-04-2002, 06:57 PM
I am starting to worry about Chris again.

Have there been any Chris sightings on any of the threads? Anyone heard from her?

When I first joined, she made me feel so welcome. I hope she's doing ok.


11-04-2002, 06:59 PM
No problem Terri, You came across just fine. I just wanted to say thank you to you all who hae sent prayers and blessings this way. His funeral is tomorrow at 11 am. Such a sweet guy, and a year younger than my hubby. Only 37, leaving behind 7 and 9 year old sons. Almost my kids ages! They are 8 and 10, and my hubby 38, so it does hit home very much. ANyway, thanks again and love to all!

11-04-2002, 09:16 PM
I am so happy for you MrsM!!! But see a specailist no matter where he or she may be. If they are closer to home, wonderful, but if not cart your butt the 4 hours.

:grouphug: Virginia, hugs to you and your family. It is hard when the circumstances are so close to your own. But at least Gordie is better off and no longer in pain/sick.

11-04-2002, 11:03 PM
That is great news Mrs. M! Big :grouphug:

Teri-we have not heard from Chris on this thread for a while. I think someone tried to pm her a week or two ago and got no response...anyone else heard anything? I hope she is doing okay.

11-04-2002, 11:26 PM

Thanks for all the good wishes, prayers, thoughts and vibes. My Mom came through the procedure VERY well and I had her home within 3 hours after the procedure!! We don't have the results yet, but the doctor feels it IS a reoccurrence of her bladder cancer. Disappointing news, but this guy is REALLY good, and has always stayed on top of this. He has gotten ALL the tumors before they even grew into the wall of the bladder. So best of the worst so to speak. A slow growing cancer (at least it was last time), which was taken out very quickly. He called it a "Rinky dink little tumor" that was the size of the ball on a ball point pen! Don't know yet if he will do Chemo or wait for 3 months to see if another one develops (it has been over 10 years since the last one.) My Mom is more upset about going back to 3 month checkups than the idea that the cancer is back!!!

Mrs.M- I am SO relieved to hear your results!!!! I was really worrying about you. PLEASE don't turn down the doctor in Chicago too fast. Having a REALLY good doctor is worth the extra hassle.

Virginia-Sorry to hear about Gordie. That is really a shame. I'm sending good vibes out to his family AND to you and yours. It is difficult losing anyone, but especially someone so young.

Ellis-Good News about that Dougie!!!

11-05-2002, 08:00 PM
Well, today we had that "dye test" aka HSG to test whether my fallopian tubes are open. In July we were told that my husband has a low sperm count. Two weeks ago we were told that my lab tests indicated PCOS. Today they told us that my left tube is totally blocked and my right tube is mostly blocked. The test, which is supposed to be only uncomfortable with some cramping... was incredibly painful. This happens when the tubes are blocked, as the dye isn't able to flow freely through the tubes and ends up swelling everything. So I was lying there with these horrible clamps and tubes and pain under this huge xray machine with two doctors and two nurses and my poor husband watching with tears rolling down my face. It really hurt... like horrible, doubling-over cramping. And then we are watching the screen and we can tell by the look and tone of the doctors that something is not right. It was horrible. I am devastated. With all three infertility problems it is extremely unlikely we will ever be able to have children. And then to top it all off, the blocked tubes put us at high risk for a tubal pregnancy and the PCOS puts us at a higher risk for miscarriage... if by some miracle the egg and sperm manage to ever meet on their own.

I had to be wheeled out in a wheel chair and have spent most of the day on the couch crying and trying to shake off this shock and recovering from the pain. Please pray for us as we have some major decisions to make... our only options are invitro fertilization or adoption or not ever having children.

11-05-2002, 09:12 PM
Sojo sweetie, my DH and I are saying lots of prayers for you and your hubby. I'm so sorry you've had to go through such a miserable experience. And you're in pain. :cry: Hugs, hon.
Don't give up hope, okay? I have a couple of friends who've successfully given birth thanks to invitro. But if you make the decision to adopt, you'll be the best mom. You've got so much to offer, and adoption can be the most blessed gift. Hang in there, hon. We love you. :df:

Little Den, we miss you when you're not here. Your mom is in good hands. Imagine finding something so small. What a great doctor she's got to keep on top things. I'll keep her on my prayer list. :yes:

Virginia, how was Gordie's funeral? His dear family... so young. That's my biggest fear. I'm not afraid of dying (although I DO have a few things I'd like to do first.), but the thought of leaving my children when they're still young...
Hugs and prayers...

Love and hugs to all of my wonderful fat friends. (no offense :D )

11-06-2002, 10:12 AM sorry to hear about your painful ordeal....

I adopted my daughter when she was 7 years old and I cannot imagine loving her anymore if I had given birth to her myself. I know we all want to have our own biological children, and I know that you know this.......but if it helps, you can still be a mom and as Ellis mentioned - you will be a great mom.

Hugs and love, Terri

11-06-2002, 11:23 AM
Sojo-big hugs for you!!!!! ~flower

11-06-2002, 02:53 PM
Sojo, My heart goes out to you hun! You have been through so much and are such a special person to be able to deal with it all, so when the time comes for you and your hubby to be parents, whatever way possible, I just know that child will be loved so much. Bug hugs to you both!

Ellis the funeral was very very large, my hubby says. I unfortunately could not attend as my it was at a time when I just could not get away from work. Everyone understood! My heart was there. He had many people come to pay their respects. One of their friends wrote a lovely poem in memory of him. My hubbies mom is home from ThunderBay, Ont. and they went together. We are taking her out for dinner tomorrow evening, as she returns on Saturday. It will be nice to spend some time with her, just wish the circumstances were different.