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10-24-2010, 11:08 AM
I started this journey ... again ... last Monday. I have walked everyday with the exception of Friday. I took Friday off because I just couldn't fit the time in.

Anyway... when I went to walk Saturday... I thought I was going to DIE.

My legs and feet are so sore... I literally had to cry.

My husband (who is also obese) went with me, and I swear if he hadn't been there pushing me.. making me do it... it wouldn't have happened.

We walked a mile and a half, and half way through... I basically had a fit. I said just kill me, I can't do this... it hurts to bad. I screamed and I cussed and I cried and I felt sorry for myself.... BUT....

I kept going.

I made it back to my car. I haven't been that happy in a long time... just to have actually done it and not stopped and made my husband go get the car and drive around to get me ... that was a huge thing for me.

I weighed this morning. I have lost 6.6 pounds since last Monday. It IS worth it... because it IS working!

That myth and lie that I tell myself.. you are destined to be fat... you can't lose weight... you don't eat that much... you inherited this from your family.... it's just the way you are... accept it...... those lies are going to be shut down. I'm not giving up.

Something has to click for this to happen. It clicked. It's happening :)

10-24-2010, 11:14 AM
Fantastic! In another month, think of how much easier this will be! Keep at it you're doing a good job. I was the same way. My sister took me on walks to a convenience store down the way; there and back was exactly 1 mile. I hated it. I cursed and groaned and took frequent breaks; my fingers would swell. By the time I got to the store I was so tempted to call one of my parents and ask for a ride back. Once I even took a ride back by a friend who just happened to be driving down my road.

I haven't done that walk in a long while and won't again until spring, but when it comes around I'm excited to see how I've progressed.

Just DON'T give up, it's totally worth it and you can do it! Just don't OVER do it and burn out.

10-24-2010, 11:22 AM
Great job!!!! :carrot:

I hate exercise too. I can promise that it will get easier with time. I'll never be a gym rat, but I keep telling myself that walking longer distances will get easier the more I do it and the more weight I lose.

10-24-2010, 11:54 AM
Great job! Come back to this post in a month and tell us how far you are walking! ;) You will be utterly amazed at how quickly our bodies adapt to exercise. It's a wonderful, wonderful thing. Even when I can't reach weight goals as quickly as I'd like, I always reach fitness goals and it brings such a feeling of pride.

10-24-2010, 11:55 AM
I'd back off. Walk half as far as you are right now, and stick with that every day. Then start increasing slowly. If you hate it this much, you'll start craving emergencies that make it so you can not go. Eventually you'll quit.

How much exercise you do today doesn't matter nearly as much as how much exercise you are doing in January. I started doing only 5 minutes at a time because , like you, I hated it so, so, so much--not only was it physically difficult, it was mentally impossible. I didn't know how to get my brain in an exercise place. I would be bored out my my mind, uncomfortable, and panicking all at once. Five minutes was all I could do without dreading it, so I did it twice a day every day. Then I started inching it up a minute or two a week. Eventually I was exercising over two hours a day, and those two hours a day bothered me less, were less painful and annoying, than those initial 5 minutes were. I'm down to once a day now (maintaining), but I do an hour every single day without fail.

Don't push yourself too hard at the start. It's ok to build up, and as long as you keep building, you'll amaze yourself.

10-24-2010, 11:59 AM
I disagree with Shmead (which is rare ;) ), but I'm thinking it probably depends on your personality. I got a big rush from pushing through something that was that hard for me. It encouraged me rather than discouraged. I get the biggest endorphin rush off pushing it hard.

I suppose if you're the type of person who thrives off hard work, keep it up! If you're the type of person to decide it's too hard and then quit, back off first.

So many of us have all or nothing mentalities. It's better to back off than to quit altogether.

10-24-2010, 12:03 PM
Congratulations!!! It does get easier trust me. I would get exhausted walking my son to school 4 blocks. That was my wake up call when I would tell my son to stop for a minute. I would lean against a fence and catch my breathe that was at 300lbs!! Now we skip to school sounds silly I know but my kids love it..:carrot:

I live in a high rise with 20 floors. I live on the fifth floor. I have been wanting to add a little more strength exercises to my routine and decided to go up to the 20th floor. Well my Dh joined me and he is 5' 10" and 180lbs he ran up those stairs like nothing. I was struggling once I got to the 13th floor. We began on our floor. Dh was like "C'mon baby you can do this" the whole entire last 7 flights. I was dieing, couldn't breathe, my thighs were aching but I kept going. Now 3 days later I am still aching from that but I went for my walk. It works...keep at it!!!

ETA: I agree with Eliana. I, too, like to challenge myself. It definitely encourages me to go harder. Exercise does not have to feel like a chore. I use it to help with stress(huge for me) and as me time. You know us moms need me time! And btw, it is ok to give yourself a break.

10-24-2010, 12:05 PM
So many of us have all or nothing mentalities. It's better to back off than to quit altogether.

This is really my point. She says she was literally crying, tears running down her face, as she completed the walk. That's pushing yourself too hard, IMO, if you are going to do it every day. (It's different to push yourself to that point once a week or so.) It's very likely that someone who breaks down in tears from pain will either quit or injure themselves. They aren't going to return to that point every single day. And, as you said, it's amazing how quickly one improves. If in 3 weeks she is back up to a mile and a half, it's all the same.

10-24-2010, 12:11 PM
soon, it won't be so hard. It's amazing how quickly one can become more fit. Even still being 50 lbs overweight, I am in the best shape I've been on for at least 15 years! It's WILL get easier. Take time off when you need it, but only when you need it, and get right back to it.

10-24-2010, 12:24 PM
Good for you for finishing what you set out to do! Kudos for showing the disruptive thoughts who was in charge. Maybe having a workout buddie would be a good addition to your plan. Sometimes when I'm sore from working out and I do it again while sore, the act of warming the muscles may stretch out some of the sore bits and ease some of the discomfort you had afterwards. If you continue to exercise you'll see improvements. In a few months your distance will probably double and perhaps your speed too. Some foods fuel me better for exercise than others. Maybe you will start to notice a pattern and can increase or eliminate certain things to support your exercise.

Edited to add: experiment with different things to find something that us at least somewhat fun so you will continue to do it. Dance classes for you and DH might make things seem mire fun than torture or tennis lessons, or kickboxing, or Zumba, yoga, or maybe you are more of a weightlifting gal. Explore and find out. To me walking or running to go nowhere for no purpose other than walking or jogging is boring. I will walk or jog to a store to run an errand though.

Goddess Jessica
10-24-2010, 12:30 PM
It will get easier. I promise.

10-24-2010, 01:05 PM
Well done on starting walking!

And yes, it does get easier. When I first moved here, the walk into town to do the shopping killed me. (By the time I walk to the nearest bus stop, I'm almost there. I couldn't justify the cost of a taxi. The nearest place to park is my own front yard.) A 'hard' 15 minutes downhill, an agonizing 15 minutes back. Honestly, by the time I got home I thought my hips would explode; but it was either that or not eat, shower, wash my clothes. (Of course, to avoid being hungry and/or smelly, I often got the car out and drove to an out of town supermarket).

Now I walk a 60 minute round trip most days. If I run out of something, I 'pop' to the shops - those same shops that seemed a Trek away - and think nothing of it.

Walking is such a liberating activity! Glad you're getting into it. :hug:

10-24-2010, 01:12 PM
Keep doing it, I know you don't believe it now but it will get easier and you will feel so much better!

10-24-2010, 01:30 PM
I have one word for you: SHOES.

Are your shoes old, worn out, without enough support? It will hurt your feet, your knees, your hips, and your lower back if your shoes aren't right.

If you are crying after 3/4 mile, then I would look at getting better shoes. Athletic quality, supportive shoes. Go to a store where they can evaluate your feet and your walk, and try a good pair for awhile. See whether it makes a difference.

I have noticed that a lot of overweight people just don't think about foot support. They are either wearing teeny sandals with high heels (well, not the guys so much) or flip flops for everything.

So, GOOD LUCK! Hope you find out a way to be in less pain.


10-24-2010, 01:50 PM
Thank you guys.... I appreciate the support!

Shoes... I did a no no that day and wore my croc flip flops, because my tennis shoes hurt my feet the last time, so I was trying something new.

Won't do that again.

I do have the new reebok runtones... and they for the most part feel great, but after a while of walking, any shoe hurts my feet. I just have to push through it.

I am a all or nothing girl. If I don't push myself...to do more than I think I can, I think I'm failing... and give up. So push on I will.

I am going to the gym today, to meet with my personal trainer/best friend and his girlfriend. I am going to work out with her first, and then she is going to show me how to do water aerobics... I'm so excited!

See ya'll after the workout... enjoy the day!!!

10-24-2010, 01:53 PM
First of all, well done for getting through the walk! I exercise almost everyday too but must admit that I'm not one of life's natural exercisers; it has not become something I actively LOVE (although I admit that very occasionally I do feel like exercising). My true personality hates sweat, panting (being out of breath), discomfort, and the most of all being outdoors. But even more than these things, I discovered I hate being fat and unfit. So to me, it's worth it, to put aside things that are naturally abhorrent to me, and move even if just for my body's sake, my long term health's sake, just put in my 30minutes to 1hr (or more sometimes) a day, as something I just should do- maybe like a moral obligation to myself. And in doing this, I discovered something amazing. The same exact thing you discovered, the feeling of joy and personal achievement you feel when you accomplish something physical you thought you couldn't or finish an exercise you wanted to quit because you didn't feel like you could do it, or when you look back on your day and feel like ok I did something good for my body today. It's amazing, no???

I agree with both Shmead and Eliana, there's nothing wrong with pushing yourself if you're the kind of personality that enjoys being pushed, and it's soooo great your husband is there to work out with you and push and cajole you. But for those days or evenings where the struggle of yesterday's workout puts you off working out today, what you can do is set a palatable goal: e.g. here's what I do: even now that I can run for a prolonged period, many days I don't feel up to it, or I remember how hard I had to push to complete my last workout and so feel super unmotivated or like I can't, so I say to myself, you only have to jog consistently for 20 minutes or 25 minutes or 30 minutes (however many feel achievable that day) but then I find most days I'm tempted to do an extra 5 minutes or 10 minutes once I get to that target (but even if I'm not, it's fine because I HAVE met the target I set for that day). So you can say on days you're absolutely not feeling it, I only HAVE TO walk 1 mile, the remaining half-mile is optional, and I tell you, most times by the time you've done the 1 mile, you're thinking: "well I might as well just challenge myself and get the additional half-mile over with too." Also, I really recommend any of Leslie Sansone's Walk Away the Pounds Walk-At-Home DVDs, they're what got me prepped for getting into regular exercise, getting moving, building some stamina etc, plus she's really fun and encouraging without being annoying.

But yes I agree with you, as you're seeing, if you put in the work, it usually DOES actually pay off eventually. I'm so inspired by Eliana here, who said, she'd only commit to this weight loss journey for like 1 year and has done so well, and so I'm trying to do something similar, and it's only been like 3 months since I committed to 1 year of honest work on this journey and it's already soooo much easier and sooo worth it, even on not so great weight-loss weeks (although obviously good weight loss weeks DO make the world go round). So keep letting it "click," on good days and bad, and with huge losses and small losses, and don't give up. You can totally do this!!!!

10-24-2010, 03:44 PM
You know... the Runtones may not be the best shoe for you because they make your legs work harder... So don't be afraid to try a different shoe, or even to see a foot specialist to see whether you need orthotics.

Now that you've answered the shoe question, I'd like to chime in with Shmead and others who have said that you may be pushing too hard. I know you said that you tend to give up, but what is wrong with walking a half mile instead of a mile? You are putting a lot of stress on those joints, and you don't want to risk injury because of thinking you "have" to keep going.

Hang in there!

10-24-2010, 04:02 PM
I am a all or nothing girl. If I don't push myself...to do more than I think I can, I think I'm failing... and give up. So push on I will.

I wish you all the luck in the world, but I want to say that I used to be that way too--if I wasn't doing 110% of what everyone else was doing, then I was a useless loser who might as well quit. I am tough as nails, and I'd prove it by being tough as nails until I just collapsed,, and at that point I would collapse epically. Being tough as nails got me to 300 lbs.

Keep pushing yourself to tears if you feel like it's the best way--and for many people it is. But if in six weeks, you realized you haven't exercised for four, please, please, please consider a more moderate pace. It made all the difference in the world for me, after 20 years of people admiring my grit and it getting me no where.

10-24-2010, 04:05 PM
My true personality hates sweat, panting (being out of breath), discomfort,

Hmmmmm. I just have to say, honestly? Being fat pretty much comes along with sweat, panting, and discomfort anyhow! So the exercise shouldn't be too too much of a stretch.... ;) j/k :carrot:

10-24-2010, 08:11 PM
Thank you girls so much... I am really taking all of this in!

I walked 1.6 miles on a treadmill today... took me 35 minutes, but that wasn't too bad... just a little boring as I do like walking outside better.

Then I swam (not laps, but just moved around from one end to the other) for about 30 minutes.

The water felt so good. Always feels good to be weightless.

I was pretty tired after all of that, but none the less... happy and content that I had done what I set out to do.

I am thinking of starting a water aerobics class soon... I think that would be fun... .and I can do that 3 days a week and take a little break from walking. Walk on the days I don't go to the pool.

Again... thanks for all your support and encouragement ... it means a lot.

10-24-2010, 10:48 PM
Exercise is grueling at times but kudos to you for taking the initiative and getting out there and doing it! Perhaps you'll fall in love with water aerobics.

I think it's important to find an exercise activity you love or at least like a little bit. If you hate walking or running (just to give examples), it's easy to get so frustrated with it that you quit altogether.

10-24-2010, 11:36 PM
Hmmmmm. I just have to say, honestly? Being fat pretty much comes along with sweat, panting, and discomfort anyhow! So the exercise shouldn't be too too much of a stretch.... ;) j/k :carrot:

Possibly true in general, but I think I actually didn't exert myself enough or hang out long enough in enough non-climate controlled places to really experience the sweating, panting and discomfort that comes with being fat. Fortunately, I decided to make a lifestyle change before those physical inconveniences kicked it. Even now, my magic wand exercise would be to curl up with a book and blankets and then miraculously re-emerge from the story all "exercised" 1 hr later. But alas, one must actually put in the breath and sweat! :( ;) :)

10-25-2010, 12:03 AM
That is so awesome that you are jumping into exercising. I used to hate exercise but now, it's not that bad and it's because I've found something (or two somethings) I like: bootcamp and running. I too like to exert myself to the point of exhaustion and in the last 3 weeks, I have only missed about 4 scheduled workouts. If you like that feeling, then keep at it and it will pay off. Let us know how it's going in a month or so.

10-25-2010, 12:10 AM
For you who are over 200 lbs... and you are running... wow! That just amazes me ... I think I'm a long way from jogging or running... walking is hard enough on me right now... but who knows... maybe some day :)

10-25-2010, 05:28 AM
I DESPISE, HATE, LOATHE, CAN'T STAND EXERCISE! Mainly, this is the case because I'm living large. It's not so bad when I'm smaller. Just wanted you to know I can relate. Keep hanging in there - there's hope around the corner!

10-25-2010, 06:04 AM
I used to hate exercise, but I always enjoyed walking - maybe because I didn't see walking as exercise, more a means of transportation. I lived just under a mile from the nearest small town and would think nothing of walking there, walking round town for an hour and walking home. I was always tired when I got back, but I enjoyed it.

So, stick with the walking, I second others' recommednations of finding some comfortable shoes and don't push yourself too soon. If a mile is too far, try half a mile, then walk that half mile every day for week, then try three quarters of a mile. There are websites where you can plan your route and see how far it is - use them. Try different routes, scenic routes.

At school I was always the fat girl who loathed exercise - I was always rubbish at it, always came last, always walked the cross country runs, never got picked for teams.

I started my weight loss journey almost five years ago, and tgwo years ago I started running - something I thought I would NEVER do. Now I am training for a marathon.

I joined this site in 2006 and saw all these incredible success stories of people who had lost loads of weight. I was jealous but thought it was impossible for me and I would never achieve it. But I did.

I never in a lifetime thought I would be able to run - but I can. And I enjoy it.

And the idea of running a marathon was as ridiculous to me as the idea of walking on the moon - but here I am, training for it!

You CAN do it - and it will get easier. I promise.

10-25-2010, 06:51 AM
I have always had a mental block about "exercise". I have just always told myself that it's something I hate. In fact, when I started all this back in May, I told myself to start with focusing on the food, and then when I feel like it, add in some exercise.

When my daughter's school started in late August, I decided we were going to walk to the bus stop instead of me driving her. It's 2 BLOCKS!! :o So I just started walking one of my dogs to the stop in the mornings, then took the other dog in the afternoons. Soon I began to really enjoy being out in the morning, like, hey, I'm out in the world, not just watching it go by from my car window. Then I decided to keep walking a bit after the bus drove off. I started with .44 miles in the morning, then the same in the afternoon before the bus came. Then imagine my surprise when I thought to myself, I really enjoy these walks, I think I can go longer. I'm still only up to a little over a mile in the mornings and about 1/2 a mile in the afternoons, but I am enjoying it more all the time and even have started mapping out new walks (on mapmywalk.com -- check it out!) of further distances to try as I get more and more into it. Of course the weather is going to get crappy soon, and my plan is to just bundle up and keep going. But if I get sidelined by the weather, I am also in the process of coming up with inside ideas.

My point is, I guess, that I'm one of the all or nothing people who has always thought I need to run a marathon or what's the point? And I'm also someone who has always despised and dreaded exercise. But starting (very) small and really enjoying what I'm doing has motivated me to continue to set goals and improve.

Keep that attitude going! Whatever works to get (and keep) you moving!

10-25-2010, 12:43 PM
Thanks everybody... you're great!

10-25-2010, 12:54 PM
Forgot to add my favorite exercise of all, dancing! I started taking Zumba at the Y along with the other stuff I'm doing, and I swear to you, that made all the difference, my stomach flattened out so quickly. You are just dancing and it doesn't seem like a workout at all. If you like to dance, even at home, the time will go fast quickly and you'll just think you're having fun.

10-25-2010, 01:52 PM
For you who are over 200 lbs... and you are running... wow! That just amazes me ... I think I'm a long way from jogging or running... walking is hard enough on me right now... but who knows... maybe some day :)

I started exercising in December of 2001. I could BARELY do 10 mins SLOWLY on the elliptical. I thought I would die. My heart rate would shoot up over 200. But I kept going and doing my 10 mins until I could do 15... and then 20. After about a year or so, I switched to the treadmill. I have exerced on and off over the years, but have been very consistant the last year. I can now jog a half hour without stopping at a slow pace. I can run a mile in ten mins if I push myself. If someone had told me then what I would be able to do now, I am certain I would have laughed in their face!!

I sometimes like to tell myself: Today is the very hardest it will ever be because tomorrow will be a hair easier. And the next day will be even easier still. If I can do it today, then I can do it again tomorrow. And each and every single ounce lost will also help exercise be easier.

10-25-2010, 03:01 PM
oh... I really like that Scraver... TODAY IS THE VERY HARDEST IT WILL EVER BE... never heard it put like that...

10-25-2010, 03:39 PM
This is really my point. She says she was literally crying, tears running down her face, as she completed the walk. That's pushing yourself too hard, IMO, if you are going to do it every day. (It's different to push yourself to that point once a week or so.) It's very likely that someone who breaks down in tears from pain will either quit or injure themselves. They aren't going to return to that point every single day. And, as you said, it's amazing how quickly one improves. If in 3 weeks she is back up to a mile and a half, it's all the same.

I agree with Shmead!! If it's THAT horrific there's no way you're going to stick with it long enough for it to become easier. Remember, your starting weight is pretty high so you can't KILL yourself right off the bat!!

i was 323 and a BLOCK was horrifying enough LOL I did that stupid fK*(&*&&*^& block every day for 2 weeks and it still wasn't 'easy' but i was breathing a bit easier, then went to 2 blocks and 3 and worked my way up. I like a challenge too, but if it's THAT insane, how can you look forward to it and do it every single day??

I'm a survivor of the "all or nothing" mentality, kicking that little b**tch to the curb saved my life ;) What's with my potty mouth today??? geeez

When all is said and done, exercising is like going to the dentist for me - i hate it, but i know it's good for me. I DO NOT LOVE IT

10-25-2010, 09:08 PM
I think I just had a minor meltdown that day... and wearing flip flops didn't help.

Today I walked a mile... and it wasn't too bad. Still isn't easy... or fun... but I didn't cry ;)

I think I just have pity parties for myself sometimes...

10-25-2010, 09:14 PM
Well my dear, it's OK to feel that way sometimes. The main thing is, you don't let it make you quit completely. And it's also OK to change your plan so it's not totally hard every time.

Whichever way you decide to go, Good luck!!! :cheer2: :cheer2: :cheer2: You are a brave person, and I admire your willingness. Be sure to check in here! Lots of supportive folks. :)


10-26-2010, 06:25 AM
If walking isn't fun - try finding some nicer places to walk - enjoy the scenery and just stroll along. Whre are you walking atm?

10-26-2010, 06:42 AM
I am not thinking any more about how far or how long I walk. I have got a fix "round", but it is still expandable as I see fit.
When walking I have got so many things going through my mind that I realize hardly how fast I have done my daily walk :)
So, it is actually now more an enjoyable 50 minutes per day, where I can be on my own, where I can enjoy the moment I have got for myself. This is really what I am looking forward every day.